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kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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OMG She knows where I live! Posted: 8/16/2007 10:33:10 PM
Seriously thank you for the laugh... wasn't that a fun ride???

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Does Love Really Exist? Posted: 7/25/2007 7:15:39 AM
Not sure why we have to look harder, lots of ppl in this posting who knows what true love should be! Check out these real people! Lots of true love in here! Eeks! yay!

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Does Love Really Exist? Posted: 7/25/2007 7:06:53 AM
Just when i was completely sold that the "real love" "painless love" didn't exist, IT FOUND ME & came to me! My first real love, I thought, lasted 20 yrs. My first love 16-36. Wanna hear something scary, I fell in love after the first time he nearly knocked me out! I believe he must love me so much, he can't control himself. Needless to say that we did eventually incorporate an non-violence approach to our relationship. Then the mental abuse took place. We slowly put each other spirits out! Real love does exist, the kind that lasts a lifetime. I found it when i gave up on it! This wonderful man, was scared as well, we were able to connect, Intellectually, Physically, Emotionally, as well as Spiritually. This connection is too precious to ignore. I now repulse acts of violence and prejudice. I never want to accept pain in my life, but if it comes my way again, I will truly embrace it, because it has prepared me for this moment all my life! wow, might sound cheezy, BUT! I LIKE CHEEZY! Thank you for this posting... I needed to hear the truth, people's truth about their experience with love!

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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The New Girl Posted: 6/18/2007 10:02:09 PM
Sorry sister, my reply to the OP was basically a word of support being a single mom. Whatever the father decides... i'm not judging anyone. That's for my higher power to do. Just a note: As i tried all that i could to maintain my daughter's relationship with her father. BTW, a very loving one during our 20 yr relationship. My daughter's father is hinting to relinquish his rights as father, thru the courts so... i must be in your 10% then by your standards i guess Anyways, OP i send my warm sincere concern for your feelings, and as i said: Be strong and take the reigns, because while you may be trying to heal your broken heart, you may miss time with your children you will never be able to retrieve later. We both know,we all continue to strive for a better life for ourselves and our offsprings (by asking advice here, and getting such dark remarks, kinda makes me wary if these forums are really a safe sounding board) hmmm. Good LUCK sister, and may your higher power bless your family, even if your family is you and your children. since when has this ever solved anything... thinking bout our boys abroad!

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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The New Girl Posted: 6/3/2007 2:47:58 PM
Hey sister, sometimes you have to make an adult (parneting)decisions, the worst kind for me, but if i don't take the reigns, someone else will. I have a reason to go on. I still feel in love with my ex, but i had to separate due to his drinking. It's going on a hear and a half. It hurts to have to accept that your family is not comprised of you, son , father.... Your family could be you and your son. Speaking as a single mom, making a new life. Enjoy your child. They will see you thru no matter what you do... that is love.....and there is no wrong way to love your child! Be a strong mother, I'm positive you too are on Big Mother Bear! Good Luck fellow MOM and Be STrong!

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Expain the phrase My children are my top priority? Posted: 5/12/2007 7:54:10 PM
you mean future ex-girlfriend, how does a person integrate into a family? I believe a strong foundation between couples, helps the children to understand how to treat their wives or husbands in the future. Last but not least, when our children seek our undivided attention now as a single parent... it's a package deal.....all or nothing... And God Bless Those Tonight! Kels

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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telling someone you feel more than friends Posted: 4/13/2007 2:50:48 PM
[[If you are friends and he doesn't feel the same way, he should accept it as a compliment and as long as you don't act weird, I would assume that you will continue to enjoy each other's company online. Many of us have met through the forums because we took a minute to tell someone that we liked what they had to say. E-mails ensue and it is usually not until later that it becomes obvious that the affection is beyond friendship. I don't think he will find it weird that you have developed some feelings for him. The worst thing he can do is not reciprocate the feelings which would not be a huge tragedy? ]] It may be ackward at for a while, but remember he still liked you as a friend! Sounds like he's a good person, enjoy his friendship! Best of Luck!!

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Things not to do on a first date Posted: 4/2/2007 2:03:23 PM
I met this guy online, so purfect, until we decided to meet. And i, intuitively, backed out early of our meeting. I told him i was nervous and i needed more time. He freaked out and said: "Thanks alot, you disapoint me, i was so looking foward to meeting you, anyways, whatever, Thanks, BYE" I told my Law Enforcement friend and he told me that was a typical type of behaviors from abusers, and suggest i not meet him, so i chatted with the online guy while i had my friend on the phone. And his reaction was anger and hung up on me. Called me back 1/2 hr later to apologize Too Creepy! freaked Kels

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Would debt matter 2 u in starting a relationship? Posted: 4/2/2007 1:47:12 PM
{{[If you could keep it separate. By that I mean - it is you and the other person. Not the other person's "bucks". I would not let limited costly activities be a judge. People don’t need to “Jet down to St. Thomas” for brunch. I would a thousand times rather look into the eyes of a true two way match in a local park - than take a kite ride in the Caribbean with less than a match. }}] Soooooooooooooo true. and who says it's not okay to spoil your mate. Simple flowers, sincere smile, and a genuine concern for your partners person. Kels

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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the perfect get over someone Posted: 3/24/2007 6:54:55 AM
[[ I can't even bring myself to trash him, though, I love him so much. I know It will get easier, as time goes by, but right now, it hurts like hell. I'm crying as I'm typing this. ]] Hey sister, been there, done that! First of all, now i'm a single mom after 20 yrs, 10 yr daughter. You have to be strong, so if you listen to music, find the ones that are leaving their relationship, instead of mourning it! Call your friends, they care! Don't go thru this alone. I tried that n ended up in bed for 3 mths. (not a good choice) So get yourself dolled up and get out even for a walk. I trust in god, and know he has a plan for us. So, i pray he sends me an angel, cuz i deserve it! And so do you! it's been 1 yr and 3 mths. Kels

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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How do you move on when you still love someone? Posted: 3/21/2007 2:11:15 PM
It's Spring, and i'm not just going to be looking at the other couples getting together, i'm jumping in. Gonna get dolled up! Take Spring as a new beginning. Enjoy the warmer weather.... it's been single 1 yr and 3 mths after 20 yrs, 16-36 first love and it still hurts like it happened yesterday. (when i let it get the best of me) MARK OFF TODAY "New Beginnings" Good luck and have a fun discovering your new life! YOUR WAY! Love to all who needs it! Kels

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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BEST ADVICE TO GETTING OVER YOUR EX Posted: 3/7/2007 7:56:42 AM
[I was actually the one who broke it off and I'm still not over the relationship. I have met other men and they actually make me mourn my past relationship even more. So in some situations its not a good idea just to go meet someone else. Especially if your not mentally ready it wouldnt be fair to the new person. The best advice is to focus on yourself and do some serious soul searching first.] This happened to me too. I broke it off and i regretted it, maybe i didn't know how good i had it? 20 yr relationship/high school sweethearts, and now it's been over a year n 3 mths, and i only hurt myself when i attempt to let a new man play the role as a romantic partner.It truly does get better everyday, but ppl heal at different paces, I'll know in my heart when it's time to allow myself to open my heart up again.

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Mind Blowing Sex Posted: 2/27/2007 8:18:26 PM
[/When your both a mass of hair, flesh and bodily fluids fused together as one and you cant find your underwear after and the furniture in the bedroom is all rearranged] Yup! that about sums it up!

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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The things you miss miss most about being in a relationship... Posted: 2/23/2007 8:48:44 AM
[[I miss the cuddling, the hand holding, the looks that only you share, being accepted just as you are. I miss snuggling up to someone to sleep, knowing that things are just right. Waking up to them saying "come here baby"..... ]] Yesh, it's been over for over a year, n you brought it all back True how the little things mean so much, just look at us adults, loving the same way! I still miss him

kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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WHEN?does it stop hurting? Posted: 2/17/2007 10:01:04 AM
[after being married 8 years, she ditched, found a guy in mexico...no-one in the family knows exactly when she fell and smacked her head.] HELLO...HELLO...HELLO.... is it just me or does this phrase freak you out too? huh..

kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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What have you learned from having your heart broken? Posted: 2/14/2007 6:14:05 PM
I DEFINETLY RELATE TO GIVING ALL OF YOUR HEART TO A PERSON, WE MUST SAVE SUM LOVE FOR OURSELVES AS WELL,

kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Why men wont date independant women Posted: 2/6/2007 2:15:41 PM
PAY ATTENTION: WORDS OF WISDOM TO FOLLOW :> [ There's a big difference between need & want.I don't need a man to complete my life but rather I want to find one to compliment & add to my life as I want to be able to do the same for him.Can you understand where I'm coming from or what I'm trying to get at? I don't think co-dependency in anything is too healthy.] I just wish I thought of that myself! kels

kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Mind Blowing Sex Posted: 2/5/2007 5:49:59 PM
with a dry mouth and a drenched body Sounds bout right! and drenched bodies!

kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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zoooooooooooooooooooooooooooom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Posted: 1/31/2007 4:25:44 PM
Gotta keep up with the times! We women have to go into the cave and drag out my Caveman..............

kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Guys over 30...do they even exist? Posted: 1/29/2007 6:08:50 AM
Sure there aren't any!!!.. they're all happily married... (let her believe that... less competion.... ) Thats why we're mostly on POF! They just appear, n sometimes, when u ck your mail, ur highschool sweetheart may also be now single! Keep

kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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did he really love me Posted: 1/29/2007 5:45:38 AM
hey girl, chin up, do like i did... i cried... n cried... n cried sum more and now it's been over a yr and still in love with him.... but i will never let him back into my life! After being my first love and staying together from 16-36, hon it will get easier. If i was to go back a few mths, i would have tried xtra hard to occupy my time and would have stopped feeling sorry about what i thought we had... once i gave up on the family dream! It came true. Me n my child are very happy now, still do spend a bit of time mourning his absence. But let time heal, it's the truth time does heal or at least makes it more n more bearable each day! Give yourself a break, your a mom, and mom's have to be strong, even in your darkest hour! those itty bitty eyes lookin up to you! Teach your boys to learn what a healthy relationship is! And i guarantee there someone for everyone... Ps im still single, not ready to start a new relationship, but i know somehow, the next guy will be a heck of a lot loving! Better than living with someone who will never love you the way a person should be loved! Wish the ex the best! and seriously consider yourself lucky... after pain, comes the gain! PS call him what he is... a cheat n a liar and incredibely lucky you have US! Forums to help you out! PS get your nails done, or your hair... or back to the gym... it will help if you feel good about yourself! Your POF support, freinds online! kels Hey theres lots more in the pond

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Holiday testimony Posted: 12/24/2006 12:06:50 PM
HAPPY HOLIDAY'S TO EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU FISHES IN OUR FAMILY POND! This site has helped so much, free advice and friendship! Thanks so much, n i'll bring sum Ginger Bread Men

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers? Posted: 12/24/2006 11:57:32 AM
Doctors, Lawyers and Public Servants! Mum's n Dad's, n' students n teachers and etc... etc ... etc.... :-o How many ppl don't know any pot smokers? And this IS illegal stuff? what about the police... hmmm i know a couple haha! PSS. I DON'T SMOKE POT, BUT I'VE SEEN THE EFFECTS OF POT VS ALCOHOL (BOTH IN MODERATION) I'LL TAKE THE POTHEAD! HAHA

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Why do guys always do this to me? Does anyone else have this problem?... Posted: 12/16/2006 10:38:45 AM
I think we spend too much time complicating love? If he's for you, he will be with you, if your for him then you will be with him, vice-versa. No person deserves to live in yesterday (rememering the heart break) thinking about tomorrow (worrying about the future of your relationship) on which we have NO CONTROL and neglecting 'the present' today! We only have this minute right now! And look it's just a memory! Chin up! Pamper yourself, make yourself feel beautiful, start on the outside..going in~! Another possibility, REBOUND LOVE, (a hurt sole, trying to pretend to be in love, to make the hurt go away" but when they stop, they realize love is not pretended! And they run back to their mate or move on to the next... no so rebounded! Hope this helps hon.

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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When will this finally go away... and is there something wrong with me!? Posted: 12/12/2006 5:02:01 PM
No, definetly nothing wrong with you, cuz i was wondering the same thing for me, It's been over a yr this dec, we were together for 20 yrs. 16-36. If he would have died, i could have grieved... no, he's still alive and i miss everything about him. I'm almost paralyzed, i'm still in our same home, gotta get away, maybe a new move. It's true that sometimes, we don't know how good we have it, until it's gone! For some, time heals all, for others, they die of a broken heart- it's been proven! Just keep going... we'll see where this lead us... I'm guilty cuz we have a 10 yr old daughter and she needs me... I try to have a tight lip and march one like a trooper... but i know she feels it too! Thanks and pls no put downs... not really the place, ya think?

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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are guys ever given the one night stand treatment? Posted: 12/9/2006 9:47:40 AM
I think the only way we can know if someone is in it just for sex is to take it slow.. despite hormones!!! they can be tricky little devils. I know sex is fun, but it can get in the way sometimes of being objective about what we are really looking for !!! You said it woman! That's the ticket to keeping a man! shh too many guys listening hehe

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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are guys ever given the one night stand treatment? Posted: 12/9/2006 9:40:35 AM
"playtime for grown ups" there's be way less wars. LOL i guess you don't associate romance and intimacy in your bedside manners lol Just my thoughts! More kissing, less fighting hehe!

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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are guys ever given the one night stand treatment? Posted: 12/9/2006 9:38:18 AM
Love the manipulation thr sex>> makes sense to me... In General, i believe that the general population of woman link intimacy with sex. But there are a few girls that will schread a man's heart to pieces as well. Sorry, just a bit, scorned! It's all good!

Kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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How Do I Move On From This? Posted: 12/4/2006 5:22:29 PM
Well my understanding, is that they are experts at manipulation. Plus my sister was told after being hopitalized that if she spoke to anyone. Her family would be killed one by one, then their children! The man has to be a monster! Maybe if she thinks he has control, he will follow thru... that's my sister's story. She had to leave the country and as a final result. Her ex had a thug beat up my mom on her doorstep and put her in the hospital. Never could prove it but he left threatening disguised messages and the police still never found out who this person was. My dad subsequently had a heart attack and never fully recovered because he blamed himself for being on the road working' Truck Driver. My mother is a mother of 5 and could not defend herself. This is Not to scare a woman from leaving but rather encourage because WE all know the women that escape with her lives are survivors! Never question a woman's reasons for being in an abusive relationship. I'm sure she or he did not grow up as a child dreaming of marrying an abusive partner! That's just my opinion. I could say the same thing about a raped woman blamed for the way they dress. Hmmm Hope this xmas will be everything you've dreamed of!

kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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What do you think of a peron committing suicide over a broken heart?? Posted: 11/30/2006 6:48:02 PM
I curled up in a fetal position and cried for 3 mths, then i started to feel better after crying for over 300 days! He was my first love 16-36 yrs, 20 yrs together! Now he's a thought. i do miss him at times but HOLD on tight... there will be an end to this suffering! and usually after a bad spell comes a good one . So believe me, it would be the most devastating shock and pain for the ppl you love. Even more pain than a broken heart! :

kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Having Him as a Friend or Not At All, which pain is worse?? Posted: 11/30/2006 6:19:00 AM
GOOD FOR YOU! I like your comeback, because, we woman are emotionally connecting to intercourse or what we like to call it "Making Love". LOL I'm glad u stopped because when u love the person and give yourself to him, it must be a killer! and a kick to your heart when the sex now became mechanical and when it's over, no cuddling & no strings attached! OUCH!A friend wouldn't put a friend thru that! Food for thought!

kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Having Him as a Friend or Not At All, which pain is worse?? Posted: 11/30/2006 6:16:38 AM
GOOD FOR YOU! I like your comeback, because, we woman are emotionally connecting to intercourse or what we like to call it "Making Love". LOL I'm glad u stopped because when u love the person and give yourself to him, it must be a killer! and a kick to your heart when the sex now became mechanical, no strings attached! OUCH!

kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Having Him as a Friend or Not At All, which pain is worse?? Posted: 11/30/2006 6:08:06 AM
Double, Triple.... Ditto! your plan is surely one from experience. The BAD THING ABOUT LOVE IS THAT THE MORE YOU NEED IT, THE LESS YOU GET! When you live your life for you, i'm certain the Universe will send you, your soul mate and my (pshyc guess) is that this love will be one where the person completes you and this is where you will find your soul mate! Having Him as a Friend or Not at All, which pain is worse. Both r pretty much equal severe pain. But by only thinking these are your only choices. You continue to prolong the pain because, you will still have to go thru the separation now or later! My past experience would make me want to start to morn now, go thru the pain(rain), and you'll come out at the finish line of your goals in life. Don't let this hold you back from being the unique person you are. Again My heart goes out to you! I promise you for sure, it will get better, it's only in stupid songs and movies where they say a broken heart can never mend! HA! I'M PROOF, and i am a very sensitive woman TOO at that:hugs:.

kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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Having Him as a Friend or Not At All, which pain is worse?? Posted: 11/30/2006 5:51:56 AM
Hey honey, i'm so sorry your heart is broken, but Hold on, force yourself to focus on you now. Pamper your every whim! Gel Nails, hair extentions, color chg, chg clothes, it could be anything, even getting your brows waxed or a massage, anything that's feels good for you... (shhh... those r things i did) every two weeks i treated myself and please walk whenever you can and take the stairs whenever you can with ur dr's permission, the more u get motivated for yourself, you'll soon learn that you will have the upper hand, because taking care of yourself, pampering yourself will keep you busy, so that u can think of other aspects of your life other than the Love(Emotional) part of your life! Make sure you tend to the other parts of you, the Physical you and the Mental you still need ur attention. Too much emotional can destabilize you. Just think how your ex will have to live with the fact that he once had you, but didn't return your love towards you.(i used to secretly,guilt him into staying, he loved me, so he stayed as long as did. HE LOVES ME NOW. but not romantically, so i think he stayed with me because i loved him to death! I lived 20 yrs with my ex and broke up last dec, 1 yr anniversay apart next week. He was my first love, and i never learned how it feels to break up, I swear my heart's muscle got pulled cuz i never felt that kind of pain on my physical heart! Honest that's how much i missed him, first three months on the couch crying I know i cried everyday for over 300 days, now he's mostly a second thought, but i haven't cried lately! what a relief! UNTIL, i forced myself to get up and go out to get a new haircut and color(any pampering you choose)for the first time, it'll motivate you to do more to love yourself. Hair dressers and Manicurists r great sounding boards, they love to listen to you while they pamper you and be part of thier trng is being confidential. My ex and i, stopped being romantic with each other and slept separately for two years prior. Our love was never in question but our lives w/o passion was not a compromise for us, we both decided we didn 't want to live w/o it.Loving each other one way only made us not love ourselves enough and stole our soul mate status, I never knew life as a single woman. our relationship was from 16-36. It's a killer, but time heals all, pass the time and the time will heal faster! Just my advice.... take sum, take none it's up to you! Wishing you all the best! I am really doing great... pls meeting alot of ppl in our situation definetly HELPS for sure!

kelseas

Joined: 9/17/2006

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How Do I Repair My Heart Posted: 10/14/2006 10:33:35 AM
I was w/ my b/f for 20 yrs, 16-36. He was my first love. We had a rough go of it Good and Bad times. We both worked hard and had careers. He wanted to drink all the time. We have separated since Dec 05. He met another girl in June 06, then moved in with her the 1st of September and got engaged the first of october. We have a ten yr old daughter together. Now she has 2 kids from 2 diff fathers. She's not a very nice person cuz she was a cranky gas attendant. He neglects my daughter and i had to take him to family court for trying to be a deadbeat dad since june. Since he met her, he stopped paying child support and began to verbally disrespect me when i called or he called for child arrangements. I know that getting back together would be a mistake. But how do i get over the feeling like he died and i am the only one who can't see him. I miss him so much. His ghost is everywhere in our home. Any suggestions to get thru those lonely nights and miss your only love you've ever known.

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