I am amazed that men in their seventies and eighties actually want to date

I am a nurse and have 2 frunds with herpes. Miserable outbreaks, dont do it

It is disrespectful to me for someone to disregard the terms I have set in my profile regarding what age I will accept.

Shame this husband's wife doesn't have a life-threatening illness so it would make your cousin's sleeping with him ok.

As my thoughts if you look younger? I think you look very fit...and nice. I dont think I am surprised you are 46. But you a young looking 46?

Is that a polite way of telling her that she looks her age! Regardless, I'm impressed, you said that very politely.

My diet (for the past 20+ years) consists of carbs, proteins and no pre-packaged/frozen foods. Fish, fruits, vegetables, red meat once in a while, but no sugars (aside from those in the fruits I eat) with the exception of a soda once in a great great while. No coffee, tea once in a while, usually 16-24 ounces of water per day.

I'd also love to know exactly what the petite/slim ladies in this thread eat exactly & their exercise routine. I also want to make it clear I do not think you look unattractive at your weight, I just think for it to be posted by anyone that 99, 109. . . lbs is perfect on women, even ones who are 5ft 1 etc is incorrect

First thing in the morning right after brushing my teeth and moisturizing my face with coconut oil .Breakfast one 8 ounce glass of glacial spring water (slightly higher in PH that regular spring) with a squeeze of lemon. Brunch is a combination juice and smoothie, that contains very fruits and veggies and a tablespoon of dried coconut to add a little fat to it. Afternoon snack: A piece of fresh fruit or a nut yogurt parfait with fresh fruit Dinner: Two huge bowls of salad (combination of romaine lettuce, red shredded cabbage, shredded carrots, green onions, daikon radish, 2 tablespoons of flax meal sprinkled on top and some of my Asian dressing. Bowl of either cooked or raw soup depending on the weather outside.. often made using lentils, or beans with veggies. Night Time Snack: handful of nuts or some of my raw ice cream that is made with nuts and fruit, or some raw or cooked healthy dessert I made.

Don't make me have to come up to those finger lakes and settle this!

So many holier than thou attitudes. Carrying an STD is not automatic grounds for promiscuity or drug use. A woman or man could easily catch something like that from a cheating spouse and now they get treated like a leper. Nice.

I'm not sure what the over 45 part has to do with it. If anything a 25 year old would have more at risk (time) than someone who is 45.

There are other sexually transmiitted diseases i would worry about more, . . . maybe even ms

Heh,you're making sense today....a few people here live in reality....

What concerns me is your reaction--that you have to get validation from others that he must have had a problem (immaturity, or whatever).

I want to find a man that looks like Tom Selleck, go to Vegas, have "Tom" wine and dine me, win at the slots, rub the one million cash I won all over my naked body, get married in the Little White Chapel and live happily ever after...

There daughter was diagnosed with serious breathing problems/animal allergies. Parents worked through her issues with her, never getting rid of pets. Today their daughter is a leading dog behaviourist.

My best friend has serious allergies to cats. She runs a no kill cat adoption facility on her property. Shelter usually averages 70 cats on regular basis. She just loves it when people surrender their cats especially if they are seniors cats because of their allergies.

I wouldn't respect a person who could discard an animal like it was a lamp. And that's the attitude I see reflected in the question

but if u do stay the way u r, try to date, & then whine- I say u deserve what u get for not making any effort to change...change yourself, u will change your circumstances!

Also read the threads about using a coupon or 2 for 1 dinners and how so many think it's tacky

and the way I see it "stable" can change at the turn of a dime.

Funny how most posters are sympathetic with this OP (as am I) and assume that another with long blond hair is out to take advantage of men for extravagant dinners, etc.

Now another question, do you mention your slim wallet in the first message back to a guy who's interested, or do you tell him at the first meeting over coffee? I am thinking the answer is the first message back?

. Thats the direction we seem to be going in anyway. Never before in the history of this country as there ever been so many unmarried people between the ages of 20 and 40.

I am blessed to have had and continue to have some very special men in my life, many have taught me a lot. One in particular is teaching me as I write this. I continue to grow

LOL!!! I have only ONE QUESTION???? Why the hell are you NOT running for President, CindyO?? LOL! You are undoubtedly a WHOLE LOT SMARTER than any of these clown we got running!

My opinion is not based on religion or even what society deems is moral behavior. I don't give a damn about that. My opinion is based on experience.

The world . . . is a very unhappy, depressed world filled with sociopaths, narcissists, psychopaths and generally unhappy and unfulfilled people.

By middle age, after people have matured, I would hope that people would realize what is important in life. Many people don't apparently, and I am simply suggesting in the long run, these people are unhappy or at least far less happy than they could be. . .

I think it is very difficult to have repeated sexual encounters without a woman starting to get emotionally involved.

But yea, we guys are fortunate because we often can have sex, at least initially, without any emotional baggage.

But why do middle aged women have sex? I think they are easy marks at middle age because they are lonely and because they have deflated egos for the most part. Any quality guy who pays them attention, helps build up their ego, and then makes love to them? That is a recipe for their falling in love . .maybe even a stronger recipe at middle age then when they were young.

I think when I was in college, sex was on my mind almost all of the time, but in the end, I can't honestly say that I ever felt all that great about being with a woman just for the sake of our having sex. It was not so much guilt as a feeling that it was pointless. But that was just me.

One way to approach her might be to say something like this. "I have discovered that many women 55 and older are no longer interested in sex or, finding sex painful, are no longer sexually viable. I am not asking for sex at this time but before we even contemplate dating I would like to determine if you still enjoy sex with the right man in the right circumstances."

Again, I'd rather have a few years of wonderful with someone I love than a lifetime of boring

Anytime I see an attractive woman on here who states that no one her age that she finds attractive is giving her the time of day I have to wonder just how high she is setting the bar in terms of the men she is looking for.

@Dino
Ready used to be a lifeguard so I think she wants somebody on about your level of fitness.

If the lady is attractive and fit,you can pretty much bet the majority will date younger men.Younger men generally look fresher,might be a good bet to be more physically attractive....and may be more capable than your average middle aged man.Take a look at that other site with the funny name,you can see right away if the person will date your age range.The better looking,the younger they can attract.A woman 45 might date from 25 to 55.

Of course there are women like me . . . no, wait: there is ONE woman like me.