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Colin Hay Band: I just don't think i'll ever get over you Posted: 3/5/2006 11:10:13 PM
Lol you win the Trivia Prize! I didn't even know he had solo Albums untill I heard that song on the "Garden State" Movie Soundtrack. I've read some so so reviews of his solo work, but that song is a masterpiece to me.

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Colin Hay Band: I just don't think i'll ever get over you Posted: 3/4/2006 11:05:39 PM
Artist: Colin Hay Band Song: I just don't think i'll ever get over you Appears on: Garden State Movie Soundtrack I drink good coffee every morning Comes from a place thats far away And when i'm done I feel like talking Without you here there is less to say Don't want you thinking I'm unhappy What is closer to the truth That if I lived til I was a hundred and two I just don't think I'll ever get over you No longer moved to drink strong whiskey I shook the hand of time and I knew That if I lived 'till I could no longer climb my stairs I just don't think I'll ever get over you A face that dances and it haunts me With laughter still ringin in my ears I still find peices of your presence here even, even after all these years I don't want you thinkin that I don't get asked to dinner Cuz I'm here to say that I sometimes do And even though I may seem to feel a touch of love I just don't think I'll ever get over you If I lived til I was a hundred and two I just don't think I'll ever get over you

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How long has it taken you for your broken heart to heal? Posted: 3/4/2006 8:32:26 PM
My opinion - if you are still nursing a "broken heart", you have no business embarking on another relationship. In all fairness to yourself and the other person - heal, then try again. If you don't you will always measure your new partner with your old partner. True'r words have never been spoken cee4. I know as I've been on both sides of that coin and it just breeds more heartache in the end. But this time its passed on to someone new like some sort of social/emotional STD. I think some loves you just never really get over. You could see that person 50 years from now, all old and wrinkled, surrounded by his/her middle aged children, grandchildren, his/her Wrinkled old Husband/Wife and you still would feel your heart drop as if you just pressed lobby from the obervation deck of a highspeed elevator. The best you can do is just try to tuck it away in a special room in your heart and try not to dwell on the fact you are no longer with him/her and just remember the good things if you can. If you can't (and I know that the ole, "just be happy" line is BS when your hurting) seek help. If your religious see your Priest/Rabbi/Cleric what have you. Or look into counceling for depression. You might be suprised what your local hospital provides. Group Therapy is way more common and availible than one on one sessions. And anything that makes you depressed, relationships included is welcome there I am sure. All I know from experience is don't just do nothing but brood over it. It will kill you (emotionally) in the end.

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Poem: Love Marches on... Posted: 3/4/2006 7:58:14 PM
In the absence grows the heartache, the passing of time seals lost loves fate. With the distance grows the divide, love marches on till its to late. - Vancanman

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what is so wrong with me? Posted: 2/5/2006 5:09:15 AM
I know this is not who you wanted to hear from, but, I have to correct you on one thing at least. Your a beautifull Woman, average you are not. And the simple fact that you made a post like you did shows you have a genuine and a would be a real sweetheart of a Woman. Just thinking those thoughts puts you ahead of 80% of the Women in the world, let alone online. For me personally I love kids and don't have any problem meeting a Woman who has them, but, knowing my guy friends I think most are intimidated by it. Either that they just want to have fun and no responsibilities, and they somehow see your child will be interfering with that and a relationship with you (shallow I know) and or they might be worried how they Child would recieve them? I'm a child of Divorce and I know it wasn't nice of me, but I was none to happy about my Father starting to date again, and I know I could have been allot nicer to some of the ladies he dated early on. Anyways I just wanted to send an email of encouragement. Your very attractive and sould like your very grounded and not a flakey party girl. What more could a Man want and yes, I love One Million and One miles away It's probably something to do with far off, distant places that has men contacting you. For some reason I have Dutch girls msging me, go fig?

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Friend has a ? Posted: 1/29/2006 2:28:40 AM
That's why... Now they have everything ! Nothing to look forward to....dont give so much. no more challenge....nature of the beast OUCH! do you two really think that? Thats like a Guy saying "Why to Women always turn into **es?" I was going to say "Do Women really think that?" but then I would be generalizing too. I'm purdy dern sure the Guy has in the past, is presently and probably will continue to be an *hole. Was he a Saint untill just recently? had 24 months of good boyfriendedness then went all mean? What I'm getting at is there must have been signs you saw, warning flags that you choose to ignore or supress.

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can you trully love someone you need? Posted: 1/29/2006 2:10:32 AM
Can you trully love someone you need?,because the answer that i arrived at in my own human understanding is i trully can't. Define what "You" mean by need? I am assuming (correct me ) that you mean your attracted to the "wrong" type of Men. Bad Boys, or Men who don't respect/treat you the way you want to be treated. And the Men that would you find your not attracted too or push them away?

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computer or my bf Posted: 1/29/2006 1:53:12 AM
If you say the computer is more important than your boyfriend, husband, partner... well, it only means you should either change the man or get counseling... If I had my Love by my side, I could just as well throw the damn thing outside the window :) there are so many more interesting things to do just the two of you than sitting and chatting (or cheating - its so often one and the same ;)... I know you didn't say this Just Cats, but it made me think when I read your post. Why is it, if a Couple sits on the couch together and watch 6 hours of movies on a Friday night hardly talking the whole evening then they have Spent the night together and have paid attention to each other. But If a Couple sits on the couch together and one watched 6 hours of movies on a Friday night and the other sits on the same couch with his/her Laptop and surfs. That the one on the laptop is ignoring the one watching the TV. You can also replace the TV with Books, knitting, sculpting, plumbing, whatever hobby that other person feels is Valid, but you have to keep the other one on the PC or this wont work. I think the real problem is not the one on the PC its the one thats not on it doesn't feel anything you do on PC's is worthwhile and they are wastes of time. Obviously there right though, you can't deny the worthyness of watching 4 hours of Friends reruns every weeknight. Thats quality brainfood right there.

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computer or my bf Posted: 1/29/2006 1:46:25 AM
"HAVE YOU LOST YOUR MIND?????????.... "computer OR my boyfriend"??.... an computer is JUST a machine.... it can NOT fill YOUR need's sexual/love/emotional wise. That's like asking "drugs or my baby"?... ANYBODY in the RIGHT state of mind would choose their baby/child over drug's. What even made you ask which one should you choose "bf" or "pc"? because nobody, would ever choose drugs over their baby/child." Holy schlamoly she's not shooting raw crystalmeth into gums between her teath as her Malnourished Baby pull a Trainspotting spidercrawl on the roof. Shes surfing n chatting on the PC? huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuge differnce. One will kill you, the other might eventually lead to carpletunnle at the worst. I say this As long as you don't think your spending to much time on the PC then flub him for telling you what he thinks you should and should not do. Go find a guy who loves his PC or Game Consol as much as you do (I guarentee there are tons). Have him bring it over, set it up next to you and geek out. What could be better than doing what you love, with someone you love. Don't let anyone tell you what you can and can't do, as long as you arn't hurting yourself or anyone else screw them. P.S just incase you are "addicted" to your PC though just ask a few friends if they think you spend to much time on the PC. And don't ask just 2, ask like 10, both Men and Women. If you get all sorts of different answers then your fine Web your brains out. But if they all think its to much, then maybe you should think about why they think its too much and if it makes sence maybe cut back? Either that or find that handsome PC geek to Surf with. Its simple to me at least (And I spent many a year with Women whom I stopped doing all sorts of things I loved just to "pay more attention" to them) your not doing anything illegal or harmfull, whats the big deal?

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computer or my bf Posted: 1/29/2006 1:37:23 AM
Wait a second, are you sure your not a Guy talking about your Girlfriend. I can't count the times I've either read on these msgbrds, or had one of my pals tell me how fed up there GF/Wife is with them for spending more time with there PC than them.

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Stay in one relatiionship while seeking another? Posted: 1/29/2006 1:34:20 AM
I don't think this is exclusive to women. I see men do that all the time... Tiss true, neither sex holds a monopoly on infidelity. I allways am irked and amazed by people who think only Men cheat. I mean who the hell are all these cheating Men cheating with? Sure some of them may be cheating with other Men, who might even be cheaters themselves cheating on there Man at home. But even with that taken into account that still leaves a hell of allot of Men mysteriously cheating with who?... Should Shepards start locking up there Sheep at night? or are all these Guys really just cheating with one really promisquious tramp. Man she must really get around then. - P.S. to answer your question, its very very uncool. Why the hell do people cheat, and it is cheating if one person in the relationship doesn't know the other is doing it. Just break up, I would like to think I never could do that to a Woman. Its just plain old Narcisisim that drives that I think. Me Me Me behavior.

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u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex Posted: 1/29/2006 1:27:57 AM
So what do u think can we have plutonic friendships with ppl of the opposite sex? I will go with no, or very very difficult at best. Granted this is of cource my personal experience and what I have observed through my roomates relationships over the years. Be they Female or Male roomates. I think the problem is there is almost always a power imbalance in the friendship. Either the Man is attracted (Be it sexually or romantically) with the Woman, or the Woman is to the Man. In the beginning the one who is not attracted to the other (be it the Man or the Woman, in my exp it does not matter which Sex) loves the closeness and the companionship of the friendship. And the one who harbors secret or not so secret fellings towards the other is able to supress those desires just because they themselves are so happy just to be around the object of there affection. Of course they also enjoy the closeness and companionship, which further heightens the euporia they feel i'm sure. But As time passes by in the relationship things generally change. Almost never for the one who is not romantically interested in the other. They would carry on at the current level of the relationship forever as they have exactly what they seek in the friendship. A Companion and Confidant. But the one who does harbor feelings for the other begins to strain under the weight or supressed feelings towards the other. Now this battle that the attractee? feels towards the attractour? can wage for months, even years or maybe just a few weeks before it comes to a boil. I had a x-roomate whom was so secretly in love with one of the other x-roomates. She pined for years and years for him and it all blew up for her one night at a reunion BBQ party. Granted there was booze a'plenty but I think booze only scrapes off our top layer of inhabition to let loose whats always just below the surface. Anyways she laid it all out to him, all the signs, and hints she left for him (she is a shy lass thats for sure) All the nights they comforted each other over failed relationships and lifes trials. He said he was completley suprised (I got to be a Drunk Dr.Phil for both of them after there blowup) by it all, and she was understandably broken hearted. There frienship ended that night and they never really spoke ever again. She felt cast aside and used for all those years of friendship and support she gave him, and he felt he was being blindsided out of the blue, and then being punished for being honest with her that he didn't feel the same about her (romantic vs. friendship love) I went through basically the same thing years earlier with a Gal I was completely in love with. I knew in my heart that she would never really respect me or feel for me the way I did for her, but I craved that contact and interaction with her so desperatly I would do anything for her. (She wasn't cruel or anything, infact great to hang with) We acctually dated for a few months early in our friendship but she wanted someone more grown up and worldly I guess. She was from Holland and 4 years older (4 years I guess seemed like a big dif to her in the early 90's). Anyhoo she broke things off with me, but wanted to remain friends. I laughed and said thats impossible but she kept calling and inviting me out to group events. And of course I wanted to be with her so I did my best to supress the urge to date her and focus on being her pal. But I would always either be the shoulder for her to cry on when Stud A or Stallion B did not work out for her, or, her on/off longterm Boyfriend was off. I would drop everything and zoom over with just a phonecall from her. It was always the same thing (we only visited once ever month or two months by then) either I was a confidant for her relationship troubles, or she was in a dry spell but knew she could count on me to make her feel wanted and beautifull. Many a shoulder and footrub ensued on those nights after she would take a bath while I waited in the frontroom for her to come out hair sopping wet in her bathrobe. (gawd I think back and wonder how the hell did I last so long against temptation ) ans she made sure to always show just enough of a calf or a shoulder to keep me comming back. O'well it wasn't like I was suffering, I loved ever moment of it at the time. But over the 2 years I was her Confidant and Lost Puppy I guess I grew to resent it, and began to turn down the offers to come over. I basically woke up out of the hase of infatuation and saw that she was taking advantage of me. Getting all the attention, affection and comforting from me and with no reward except a new carrot on the same old stick each month. So after about 3 months of no contact she showed up at my place to visit in her Fiancaise Truck to take me for a spin cause she had a big suprise to share with me. She told me she was engaged and they were planning marridge, a condo purchace and a child (3 thinks her bohemian heart swore she'd never do, 3 things I represented to her) she was doing. I guess that irony, even though I knew she would never be attracted to me for years by then, that irony was the straw that broke the ole Camelback. I confessed everything to her. Exactly how I felt about her then and through all this time right up to this very moment. Called her on all the times she used me to make herself feel better. Laughed at myself for being a fool for not respecting myself more and letting her disrespect my friendship with her. I knew she knew exactly how I felt about her, she proffessed complete innocense ( I wish people would just fess up at times like that, honestly really is the best policy ) and had no idea what to say. I said don't worry about it, there is nothing to say, I wish you the best in your comming Marridge, hope you have a fantastic life together and a beautifull home and child. I wanted to tell her that all then and there cause I let her know I won't be friends with her anymore. And I got out and left, and proceeded to get thoroughly hammerd night with my 2 very supported roomies. I don't know where she is now or what shes doing. I guess this sounds mean but I don't wish her an ounce of good will. I don't wish her ill will at all, but I'll save my good ones for those who deserve it. The Silver Lining on the who story for me was her two roomates later professed to me one night when we bumped into each other at an all night coffee shop, that they tore up one side of her, and right down the other when she told them about our talk, and that she had no Idea I felt that way. The called her on it two and called her out for 3 other guys she had in her "support system black book". The also thought I was the most romantic and loyal feller they had ever seen. So that felt great to here that. I ain't no prince at all and I know I've pissed many Woman off in my life. But it was nice that someone noticed Eh, so after that massive ramble which basically had nothing to do with your question. I feel that as long as there is a "Power Imbalance" in the relationship, then no, 2 friends or the Opposite Sex can't last. Because one of them always wants more than the other does.

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u can't have a plutonic friendship with opposite sex Posted: 1/29/2006 12:44:07 AM
"why does spooning or cuddling have to be sexual." Maybe I'm a little Bass'Ackward but I think spooning is more intamate than Sex. I could have sex with anyone I found sexually attractive, but spooning, I'd really have to want them to be close to me, to feel that closeness.

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Can someone you have listed as a Fav undo your Fav'ing Posted: 10/3/2005 4:02:05 PM
Doh I never thought about the "Monitoring" thing. Makes sense and its tobad it works that way, that is you can see when someone on your Favorites list has logged on. I just use the Favorites as a way to bookmark interesting people. I'll make sure I don't add her back to my favorites again.

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Can someone you have listed as a "Fav" undo your Fav'ing Posted: 10/3/2005 2:21:24 AM
If Faving is even a word that is. So here on the Plenty of Fish site, if I add someone to my Favorites list, and said person looks at the list of people they are listed as a Favorite on. Can said person remove themselves from your Favorite list? I seem to have had 2 differenty Lassies disapear from my Favorites list 2 times now and I just realized, maybe it's them who is unlisting themselves from my Favorites list. I can appreciate it if there ate 132 people who have her on their favorites list but sorta an "Ouch" still.

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Hi is mentally... Posted: 9/22/2005 10:54:36 PM
Personal Growth? As soon as my Companies health plan kicked in at my new job I had my Personal Growth removed. That freezing gun thingy is amazing.

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long distance relationships Posted: 9/22/2005 10:45:45 PM
I dated a Dutch girl I met online for 2 years. We met only two times for 1 month at a time each visit. It was very hard. You have all the responsibilities of a relationship with almost none of the companionship.

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Am I the only one who feels lonely? Posted: 9/7/2005 12:59:59 AM
I think the majority of people feel lonely from time to time. Heck even people in a Maridge with kids and relative in the City can feal lonely. Experiencing Depression is perfectly normal, granted it sucks and I know all to well that it sucks. But as long as it doesn't last more than a few months it perfectly normal. I think the way to mend a broken heart is to move on, which sounds like trite advice. But I mean get help with moving on. Be it a Good Friend who will really listen to you open up and analize what happened. A Priest if your Religious can do the same thing, or a Councelor or Mental Health Profesional. I know allot of folks think seeing a Psychologist makes you crazy. But does seeing a Sports Doctor cause your knee keeps getting sore everytime you come back from hiking make you crazy? Of course not. If you have a long term sadness of this old BF wouldn't it be better to resolve it rather than hang on to the only piece of that relationship that you have left. That is the sadness over the loss of it. I know it may sound weird, but I think (i'm not 100% sure) that you feel this lonely and its been going on for so long because either a part of you still loves him, or loves the ideal of the relationship you wanted to have, but never did have with him. Or by feeling sad and crying and mourning the loss of the relationship, in some small way keeps it alive for you, long after its past away.

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I could never get a girl/guy like that Posted: 9/7/2005 12:52:43 AM
Isn't it interesting that you are basing your opinion on looks, while not wanting her to do the same? Or am I seeing something that isn't there. Don't be to hard on him Norolim, don't we all base our initial reaction to the opposite sex, or same sex if thats your bag on Looks. It's all we have for those few moments we spot someone we find attractive. I have no way to tell just by looking at that Buxom Bombshell of a Freckled Redhead sipping a Pint of Guiness at the bar not only Love's Dr.Who just like me. But she owns the entire collection on DvD and can't convince any of her Girl Friends to watch them with her? Its impossible to know what shes like or not like untill you talk to her, and there lies the Catch 22. If you think she's to prety for you, how the heck are you going to muster the courage to go say hello. My rule of thumb (I ain't saying I'm smart or nice to myself) is If I see a Woman here on POF that if I saw at a Club and I wouldn't even turn her head, I won't even bother messaging her here. May sound like a harsh theory, but it has years and years of anecdotal evededince at Bars, Clubs and Grocery Stores to back it up.

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What Makes Us Hang On To Hopeless Lost Love Posted: 9/6/2005 11:57:08 PM
Probably because of what we learned as children. What we saw in Family or Neighbors and how they acted in a relationship. Something deep down in us makes us want to try and try and try to make it work. The problem is its almost always to our detriment, because the other one often doesn't respect us or our feelings anymore, so were just setting ouselves up for more and more hurt. I sometimes think, for me at least it has to do with self esteem or thinking this is as good as it gets, its to hard to find better. Or better doesn't even exist. Not saying thats you Cin4u but i do belive thats why allot of people hand on so long.

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THIS GOES OUT TO ALL THE NICE GUYS!!! READ ME Posted: 9/6/2005 11:51:18 PM
Perhaps if the admission was made that his "friends" were really the subjects of unrequited love, then the nice guy would certainly be getting the short end of the stick, but if the seemingly unaware women are counting on him as their friend, they would certainly not call their actions into question. I think this is the root of the issue here, whose roots are buried in the Age old When Harry met Sally question. "Can Men and Women really be Friends?" or more correctly Can any 2 people have a healthy friendship if one is more attracted/drawntoo the other friend, than that friend is attracted to them. I think the Nice Guy scenario where he is hoping for a reward for his loyalty and feelings is being unrealistic. Lord knows i did that with a Gal I was madly in love with for almost 6 years and never had those feelings returned, even after i was straightup with her a year into the Friendship. In that case the Guy needs to cut his losses and come to the realization she just doesn't feel the same way about you. You can be friends, but don't invest yourself 100% in it cause your just setting youself up for a Fall. And Some people, Men or Women are very needy and will gobble up the affections and attention of anyone who will give them a spare minute or two. But also some of the owness lies in the Womans lap. She must know the Guy is more than just a loyal friend. And its not fair to take advantage of that friendship and use it as your own personal Emotional Krutch, or Cel Phone Analist when the Analist is falling for you. I've had Ladies who I could tell felt that way about me, and I not that way about them. I felt like the biggest ass for not liking them back, but I had to confront the issue and bring it up in conversation between us. Sometimes the friendship lasted, sometimes not. I guess my point is whenever there is a power imbalance in any relationship, One person will always be taking advantage of the other, and one is always setting themselves up for the fall. Both are to blame if the realize it buit bury there heads in the sand, or pretend its not really like that and wish it away like the Elephant in the Parlor.

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Do men get off on crazy women? Posted: 9/6/2005 11:14:30 PM
Your sound like a real catch to me. Your one of the few women who even think about the fact that so many Women try to control/mold there men into what they want. The simple fact that you even think about this, and notice this trait in other Women means your normal and way ahead of them in the sanity race. Maybe the real question is, why are you attracted to the kind of Men who seem to be attracted to manipulative ****es?

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Crushes... Posted: 9/6/2005 11:03:43 PM
I have a big ole crush on a Gal in the Vancouver Forums, but her profile says don't even bother msg'ing if your from out of town. Granted I am from Vancouver and may go back, but I'm hesitating to msg her. Sorta dorky I've become a "Forum Stalker" and am Voyouring on pics or the Vancouver POF Gatherings to see pics of her. What a goof I am. Also there is a Gal in Calgary that caught my eye to and we just wrote each other at the same time last night. Figues I don't meet anyone here in EDM, life is so tough...GAWD!

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young dad needs help.. babies mom cheated.... Posted: 8/31/2005 10:36:15 PM
Fallon Hughes said: Just a note..I would have completely broke up with you over the game...if you want her to be grown up and not go drinking everyweekend you should consider leaving your games alone for forever. They are extremely childish to get addicted to.. try playing chess or poker or something. GEEZ.. I don't understand why guys get addicted to video games! We play Video Games so we don't have to date Girls like you?

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