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~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

Taking a Trip Down Memory Lane Posted: 11/16/2009 5:53:23 PM
This is a very timely thread for me, as I am cleaning out my mother's house as she passed away at age 91 just a few short weeks ago. She lived in this house for 57 years, and I grew up here. I am going back to New Zealand, so I had stored a lot of my things in her house. So, in effect, I am cleaning out the contents of two houses. My sister has been here and taken what she wanted. I have sorted through my belongings. I am going to have to pay thousands of dollars to ship my things to New Zealand, so that has helped with the sorting, to say the least! My former mother-in-law said once that she thought everyone should move every five years, and it would definately cut down on the collecting. I think she has a point. You really would think about whether you wanted to pack and move some of that stuff over and over.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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How do you older women feel about a younger guy in a relationship Posted: 11/16/2009 5:41:19 PM
I don't think I would be concerned about introducing my younger partner to family and friends. I've done it. He is 46 and I am 53 and the difference in are ages really doesn't mean anything. It's actually quite nice. He is still young enough to keep up with me!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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How to write that first message Posted: 11/14/2009 6:23:58 PM
"Try to engage the recipients interests as well showing that you have read their profile" I'd settle for getting a message that shows a person just read the headline at the top of my profile!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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What does it mean to fall in love? Posted: 11/12/2009 10:19:48 PM
I have been truly blessed. I never thought I would be in a relationship with someone like this. I wasn't looking for it, didn't actually think it really existed except in fairy tales. Perfect - well, no, nothing is ever perfect and we've had our ups and downs. But it's pretty darned awesome.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Any Coffee Addicts? Posted: 11/12/2009 8:36:11 PM
I am a coffee addict, but can usually hold it to one cup in the morning. Unfortunately, I also like real cream in my coffee, which is probably worse than being a caffeine addict. (And I mean the real stuff and not that crap they sell here in the US they dare to call cream. )

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Suicides increase as foreclosures rise Posted: 11/12/2009 8:30:49 PM
Gee, you guys sound like you have been lucky. There are lots more reasons for losing a house other than just poor planning and taking on more debt than one can handle. A major illness of a husband or wife can absolutely devastate even the most careful plans in the current state of things. People are suffering lots of losses, not necessarily related to dollars, that may put them over the edge. I have a friend, an RN who lost her job three months ago and is having a hard time getting another job. She also has Rheumatoid Arthritis which makes it impossible for her to do some jobs. She is running out of money, and is having a hard time even paying for her medications. I went through a couple of years of financial hell after my divorce, and other losses came along at the time that didn't help matters any (a close friend attempted suicide, my kids moved out on their own -my nest emptied out, LOL, but still a loss, a car went belly up unexpectedly, and a few other things happened as well. ) I was able to recognize I was going into a downward spiral and sought help. It wasn't easy to get through and I look back and wonder how I made it. I really can empathize with people and understand it. Be thankful if you are in good financial shape - at the moment.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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What does it mean to fall in love? Posted: 11/12/2009 3:53:21 PM
"You really should...it will provide some added luster to what you are feeling and know to be true." Rather spend the time with my partner. He's not big on reading, and I doubt it's going to show up in the Kawakawa library any time soon, anyway! (The library DVD collection is up to 3 DVDs, now.) Why read about something I already know? I just get a little perturbed with self-styled people who espouse their thoughts as something I should believe. Hmmmm.......maybe I should write a book.......

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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What does it mean to fall in love? Posted: 11/11/2009 6:16:47 PM
I admit first off that I haven't read the book and probably won't.But I can offer my opinions: "What does it mean to you to "fall in love?" Have you ever fallen in love only to fall out of love later in the relationship when you started noticing your partner's imperfections? What did you learn in the process? " Falling in love - to me, it's the idea that I am loving someone. When the same happens to the object of my love, then the two of us are falling in love with each other. I have fallen in love with someone who didn't feel the same about me, but I still considered myself very fortunate to be able to give love, show love to another, even if they didn't love me in return. If you "fall out of love" because you start to notice your partner's imperfections, then, to me, you were never in love - that's infatuation. When I met my current partner - and we've been together for that 2 years now, when apparently the "in love" feelings are supposed to fade - I knew the first time we hugged each other that something was different - it just felt "right". I don't think he loved me from the beginning, but he told me he felt the same thing. After awhile, and thinking about him, getting to know him, I decided I would just open my heart and love him, whether he loved me back or not. Darned if he didn't love me! So now, we are still together, and I can honestly say that I think I love him a little more each day. We have been through some rough times, but neither of us walked away. Neither of us ever had that "can't sleep, can't eat, can't stop thinking about the other and how wonderful and perfect they are" feeling. That's infatuation, and it doesn't last. Nah, not going to read that book.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Movie Recommendations - seen anything good lately? Posted: 11/4/2009 5:31:44 PM
Watched the DVD "Whale Rider" last night and got homesick. Beautiful movie about a 12 year old girl, but not a kid's movie, lots of lessons to be learned from it.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Why do so many people want sex so fast? Posted: 11/4/2009 5:26:09 PM
Gee, gdrns, you sure seem to know a lot about these places.....Hmmmm...........

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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End of pof \ dating experiences Posted: 10/15/2009 12:41:00 AM
I guess my story would qualify as a success, but I'm still here. I tend to update my profile every month. I have a lot of friends on here and even though we don't email back and forth, word is they do like to know what is going on in my life. (Or so I hear from other friends I do email with more frequently.) My partner still has his profile on here and it really doesn't bother me. He knows mine is still here, as well. Neither of us really thinks "pulling the profile" is a real indication of a solid relationship. Actually, it's kind of out there on the edge of life, not something we really worry about or stress over. I don't think I ever had any sort of goal relating to that golden moment when I could shout "He found me!" to the world and then be gone from POF.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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WOULD YOU DATE AN ALIEN? Posted: 10/12/2009 5:34:55 PM
I hooked up with an alien through POF, and wound up in New Zealand. (Read my profile for the gory details, LOL!)

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Gorgefest- Camping - Red River Gorge Ky- Oct-2-3-4 Posted: 10/1/2009 1:49:36 PM
I wish Malcolm and I could be there! Maybe next year, who knows.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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New Feature: I viewed Posted: 9/27/2009 3:14:09 AM
I really don't see the point of looking at who "I viewed" since I've already viewed them. Granted, my memory isn't all that great anymore, but I don't think I need the reminders.......

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

Msg: 31 (view)

Does your paranoia outweigh your want/need for a relationship? Posted: 9/27/2009 3:03:30 AM
I suppose things we have encountered in life shape our "comfort zones". Having been robbed with a knife to my throat and threatened with death a few years ago (in broad daylight) I decided I could go either way - never leave the house again, or decide to live in the world and know that I can survive. Anyhow, I took a chance on a man I met here on POF. I wasn't looking for "the one". Gave up on that! He contacted me one Friday night, and I met him the next day at a McDonalds next to a truck stop (obviously, he was driving a truck). We had coffee and talked for two hours. That was two years ago, and now here I am in New Zealand still with him and in loving relationship that neither of us ever thought could happen. Talk about your long distance relationships - at times he had to be here in New Zealand while I was in the states, or in Australia while I stayed in NZ to work,(due to his father's illness and eventual death) but I think it made our relationship even stronger. In a couple of weeks, I'll be moving to the northern part of the north island and we will be settling down in a little farm cottage - at least for awhile! We've spent too many times "counting the days" until we are together again, so I hope this will be it. Things haven't been totally easy and we've had some pretty good disagreements but we always work things out. Feel free to read my profile, but my point is, don't be afraid to take a chance. To me, 400 miles is nothing!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Bed Time Posted: 9/27/2009 2:42:22 AM
I work at a hospital here in New Zealand, and we nurses are rostered for all three shifts, so my bedtime is 8:00AM. 9:00PM or 1:00AM depending on what shift I'm working.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Gorgefest- Camping - Red River Gorge Ky- Oct-2-3-4 Posted: 9/21/2009 1:33:27 AM
Long johns - and an electric blanket! I hate it when you can see your breath - in the house! (Most houses in the north don't have any central heating.) I will be thinking of everyone at the Gorge. What a beautiful spot it is!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Gorgefest- Camping - Red River Gorge Ky- Oct-2-3-4 Posted: 9/19/2009 7:43:45 PM
Awww...blush, blush.... organized - or just have a lot of junk to haul around to campouts? I'm not really missing the band mom days, anymore! But I do miss camping with the fishies. I might have to build a campfire in the middle of the living room next winter, though. The farm cottage we are moving to has no heat - not even a fireplace! How many times have I heard, "It's not that cold here in the winter." Yeah, right!

~1happywoman~

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Gorgefest- Camping - Red River Gorge Ky- Oct-2-3-4 Posted: 9/18/2009 1:42:51 PM
c2hase, there will most definately be single women there! You will find some of the friendliest, open people at the Gorge. If you can make it, by all means, go. Everyone will welcome you and Hobie will always be around to help anyone find a good place to set up a tent and get situated. And be prepared to do a LOT of laughing when you camp at the Gorge with the fishies!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Does what you eat affect your love life? Posted: 9/18/2009 1:25:40 PM
Females are also genetically programmed to retain fat to feed babies should famine occur. And we are very good at creating "artificial" famine in the way of restrictive diets. (Which is part of yo-yo dieting.) The more times we are in this "starving" state, the more the body learns to hold on to the fat. As I said before, I dieted my way to morbid obesity! Get a copy of "Am I Hungry?" by Dr. Michelle May for a common sense approach to eating like a normal, slim person. (She is a family medicine physician who came up with this approach while watching her family stay slim while she was working and caring for her family - and putting on weight). It's not a diet!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Does what you eat affect your love life? Posted: 9/17/2009 4:55:09 PM
Hmmmm....I dieted my way to morbid obesity, so when I had gastric bypass surgery a few years ago, plus a particular book I read, ("Am I Hungry?" - can't remember the author, but met her once and was very impressed with her common sense approach to eating.) I definately changed my ways. I learned that a sure way to fail at eating well is to deny one's self foods that are enjoyed, and there is no way carrot sticks will ever replace hot, crispy French fries. And when I lost weight and started exercising, well, I suppose you could say my love life was affected. I finally had a love life! Yeah, I eat chocolate every day. Why not? And since I'm likely to share it, I guess my partner will stick around, so that affects my love life. In fact, the last time he had to be away, we went to a grocery store and the only thing he bought was a huge Whitman's chocolate peanut slab - which he left on my bedside table. If being on any particular diet is good for you, how come it has the word "die" in it?

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Gorgefest- Camping - Red River Gorge Ky- Oct-2-3-4 Posted: 9/8/2009 1:22:39 PM
I heard that! LOL! At least there is a shower where he is at the moment. Speaking of full moons, saw a beautiful one last week, shining on the bay, calm as millpond, with the sailboats moored and in the moonlight .....just stunning! We even had a little penguin swimming around the boat last week when I was up there. What an amazing place. I wish everyone could come here! Miss you all and really was hoping I might make it back for Gorgefest this year. Maybe will be back in the spring....and if at all possible, I'll try to be back for a trip to the BBL!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Favourites & Last 5 Forum Posts being removed from profiles Posted: 8/23/2009 5:46:55 PM
I miss the last five posts. Like other said, it gave me an idea if we might have something in common. As far as the number of favorites, sometimes that also clued me in to why I was added when there was no email to say hello, or why I was added. When another woman looked at my profile and added me as a favorite, then I looked at her profile, and saw she was on something like 213 other favorites lists, it was a clue she is pretty much a serial fav adder, sort of like on MySpace - no reason other than to up her numbers, so I ignored that one. On the other hand, a man with few on his favs list added me, and I contacted him. We had a reasonably nice give and take on email. I find it a rather interesting social interaction. A lot more interesting than the "chemistry". There's a real waste, to me.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Gorgefest- Camping - Red River Gorge Ky- Oct-2-3-4 Posted: 8/19/2009 11:41:40 PM
cnacowboy - better watch out for cougars at the gorge. Oh, wait, that was a BEAR that got Hobie.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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CAMPING/BOATING//DANCING/ AUGUST,14-15-16 ,BIG BONE KENTUCKY Posted: 8/14/2009 2:33:15 PM
Deb, my name is on one of those ears of corn! They grow sweet corn here but have no idea how to cook it properly, if you can believe that. I mean, cooking corn on the cob is pretty simple.... They even eat it uncooked! Have fun everyone!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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CAMPING/BOATING//DANCING/ AUGUST,14-15-16 ,BIG BONE KENTUCKY Posted: 8/13/2009 1:11:08 PM
Hmmm......my tent is still stored, batteries in the air mattress are probably dead, tables and chairs and the "flying" dining fly are still packed away, I haven't made a single Jello shot.........I'll still be here in New Zealand but my heart will be at the BBL with all the fishies I know and the ones I haven't met yet! I hope the weather is great and the (real) fish are biting! I know everyone will have a great time. If I can make it back next summer, you can bet I'll plan it around a BBL camping trip! I have some of the best memories of my life from times spent there.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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when the heart isnt enough........ Posted: 7/27/2009 7:04:57 PM
"But, it really is when you give your heart away without wanting something/someone back, that you truly find out what love is." Absolutely, 100% true! If you love someone, and they don't love you in return, you are the one who gains from having loved another. Love only multiplies, it does not divide.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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managing freedom-- so many choices? Posted: 7/27/2009 6:57:24 PM
Working out great for me, but not without it's challenges! I met a man a couple of years ago (yes, on POF!) and now I've moved to the other side of the planet. I guess you could say I dived into the open world, once I opened my heart. I learn something new everyday, have gone back to the roots of my profession (nursing) and despite working shifts, weekends and holidays, I am finding a lot of satisfaction in hospital nursing that I didn't realize I have been missing for about 20 years. My partner is teaching me how to sail a 39 ft yacht; how's that for someone from Ohio? I've retrained my brain so I can drive on the left side of the road in a right hand drive car, as well. Sometimes I really surprise myself!

~1happywoman~

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Gorgefest- Camping - Red River Gorge Ky- Oct-2-3-4 Posted: 7/9/2009 10:04:32 PM
I seem to remember there not being much of a "nip in the air" last time I was at Gorgefest - it was in the 90's! I was an awesome event! Wish I could be there again this year!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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camping pics big bone lick ky Posted: 6/13/2009 3:40:08 PM
Jimbo, get in your car and go!!! Those are some of the friendliest people you will ever meet, and looks like they are having a good time! Throw in a sleeping bag and someone will find you a place for the night. I was glad to see Harry hanging around! He made it, and looks like his stuffing is still intact. Michael, that is a class A-1 keyhole campfire. Just beautiful! Corn looks yummy. They don't know how to cook it that way, here. And I've seen people here eating it raw, like you would eat carrots or other veggies, but that's just wrong! (Like eating spaghetti on toast or having baked beans with scrambled eggs for breakfast. yeesh.) I wish I was there! (Would have brought a cooler full of Jello shots!)

~1happywoman~

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Camping,Fishing,Boating,Live Music,June 12-13-14 Posted: 6/12/2009 2:04:13 PM
Jimbo, there will be a LOT of wonderful, friendly people at the BBL, not to mention delicious food, and some great music. So even if you can't stay the night, head down there for the evening. It isn't far, doesn't take a lot of time to drive down and back, so you can feed all your critters. If I was there, I'd be wearing my gumboots and rain slicker, but you can bet - I would be there.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Camping,Fishing,Boating,Live Music,June 12-13-14 Posted: 6/11/2009 9:22:11 PM
George, sending thoughts and prayers from halfway around the world to you and your family. Wish I was going to be at the BBL with all my tables - and I still have the dining fly from last year that literally tried to fly away! Bet I still have glow sticks, as well! LOL!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Camping,Fishing,Boating,Live Music,June 12-13-14 Posted: 6/10/2009 11:02:57 PM
Wish I was going to be there! I know everyone will have a great time, rain or shine, because I am living in the future and I know these things, LOL! (Malcolm will be back from Oz in 2 weeks, and neither of us can wait! We'll be going up to spend some time on the boat unless the weather is awful. ) Would love to be there with everyone, , , , and most of all,

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Camping,Fishing,Boating,Live Music,June 12-13-14 Posted: 5/31/2009 11:08:04 PM
Soooooo wish I could be there! But I start working as a REAL NEW ZEALAND NURSE on June 8th, so I guess I can't take any annual leave to come back and camp with everyone at the BBL just yet! (By the way - Happy Queen's Birthday (June 1) - a paid holiday, LOL!)

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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How Long do you Message each other before the 1st Date? Posted: 5/29/2009 11:17:21 PM
But a lady won't leave you holding that door forever. If she isn't going to go through the door, she should say so. I don't think it's fair to make someone wait weeks for a meeting. I don't see why people want to wait so long to meet face to face. You can't really get to know someone by email or even by phone. When I met my partner, he contacted me on Friday evening, I gave him my phone number, he called, and we set a date and met the next day, so it was less than 24 hours. If I had put him off, I would have missed out on something very, very special.....

~1happywoman~

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Camping,Fishing,Boating,Live Music,June 12-13-14 Posted: 5/24/2009 3:36:10 PM
Yep, Hobie, I still get all the mass emails. So I know about everything I'm missing!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Camping,Fishing,Boating,Live Music,June 12-13-14 Posted: 5/23/2009 3:23:56 PM
I wish I was going to be at the BBL! I have some of the best memories of my life from there. (Working in the local hospital, they have these little plastic pill cups called "pottles" and they have lids. Everytime I look at them, I can't help but to think of how great they would be for Jello shots! ) It's freakin' cold here! (Think November, no snow but some frost) Can't wait to go north where it's warmer. But that being said, the mandarin oranges on the tree in the back will be ripe in June, in the middle of winter. This place is just nuts. I wish I was going to be camping with all my old friends, and all the new friends I haven't met, yet!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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B-DAY PARTY-CINCINNATI- MAY 2ND 8PM- Posted: 5/3/2009 12:26:59 AM
Did someone mention jello shots???????

~1happywoman~

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KOI ~ SATURDAY APRIL 25TH JOIN US AT SHIMMER'S FOR A SPRING FLING Posted: 4/25/2009 9:18:23 PM
I promise I won't bring any jello shots! I'll be working while you all are partying, since I live in the future. (I'm 16 hours ahead here in NZ) I KNOW everyone will have a great time!

~1happywoman~

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KOI ~ SATURDAY APRIL 25TH JOIN US AT SHIMMER'S FOR A SPRING FLING Posted: 4/19/2009 9:56:30 PM
Deb, the food at Shimmers is pretty darned good, as I remember!

~1happywoman~

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KOI ~ SATURDAY APRIL 25TH JOIN US AT Shimmers FOR A SPRING FLING Posted: 3/27/2009 1:06:22 PM
I put a picture of the Serenade on my profile, not sure if it will stay there. I do wish I could be at Shimmers! Always one of my favorites.

~1happywoman~

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KOI ~ SATURDAY APRIL 25TH JOIN US AT Shimmers FOR A SPRING FLING Posted: 3/27/2009 1:02:07 PM
The kiwi is in Oz at the moment. His dad is in Australia, and is dying, so he went over there about a month ago. He bought a yacht, spent about 3 days on it then went to Australia. His dad went into inpatient hospice a couple of days ago. He is working over there and may stay and earn some decent money before he returns to work for the dairy company. He still talks about how much fun he had in the St. Patricks Day parade last year with all his POF friends!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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KOI ~ SATURDAY APRIL 25TH JOIN US AT Shimmers FOR A SPRING FLING Posted: 3/26/2009 2:54:04 PM
Hey, that tour had historical and educational implications Where else can you get good food, drink, dance, and meet a lot of nice people AND see where a famous event took place? I think it would be cool if they put up a plaque or something.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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KOI ~ SATURDAY APRIL 25TH JOIN US AT SHIMMER'S FOR A SPRING FLING Posted: 3/24/2009 4:25:14 PM
Too many happy memories of fun times at Shimmers!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

Msg: 56 (view)

Decisions about clothes for mature daters Posted: 3/15/2009 3:25:26 PM
Hmmm...the color red, aye? Guess I'm sticking with my red tee shirt, shorts and jandals here in New Zealand! Maybe switch to jeans and gumboots for winter. Lots more casual here!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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this serious member stuff Posted: 3/15/2009 3:14:15 PM
Cleve rides again, I've met some of my very best friends on here, male and female. I'm in a committed relationship, as is my partner, and both of us have profiles on here - and we are here purely to socialize. One of the people on my favorites list has a picture from her wedding as her profile picture! (They met through POF). Just because they are no longer single, why shouldn't she maintain contact with friends here? Yes she could gather up all our email addresses, and has, but sometimes there are just friends on here you don't email all the time, but may come across something and think to send them a quick hello. I am in New Zealand, as well, and like to know what is going on as far as events, and I love to see pictures of my friends having a good time. I've gotten emails from people who can't get out because of a physical disability or even because of age or distance, but that doesn't mean they shouldn't be here. What is so wrong about coming onto POF to socialize? It's a great way to mingle with people from all over the world, and get different opinions, as you are finding now.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Making the grade? Posted: 3/15/2009 3:00:36 PM
Where are the other quality free sites for dating? I guess it's all in how you define "quality", LOL! How many times has it been said that "POF is a free site, and you get what you pay for". I don't think paying for anything is going to raise the "quality" of the site. Even if POF has the largest market share, that says there are others out there, and who knows maybe their shares will grow as POFs shrinks if people have to start paying. I've seen some of those yellow dots, and what came to my mind was "sucker!" I had no desire to see if there was anything different. I agree with the poster who said quality is what you make of it in your own profile. Taking the time to make it articulate and include meaningful pictures and honesty - that's quality, not some silly dot.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Old Enough...to Become New! Posted: 3/11/2009 5:40:16 PM
(Jumping up and down, waving arm and saying "me, me, me!") After being a wife and mom all those years, now to be free, and in a totally new place with so much awesome beauty around me, I'd say I feel the same as kpooks! I used to be painfully shy, filled with anxiety if I was going to meet new people I never knew what to say. Now, I love meeting people and can get them talking, and such stories people have to tell! My self image has changed completely in the last five years ago. I won't even go into what it feels like to have someone consider me to be sexy, LOL! I don't think I could ever get tired of listening to the ocean, or the site of billions and billions of stars in the southern sky. No snow, no humidity, the Pacific ocean, gorgeous waterfalls, golden sunrises and fushia sunsets - what's not to love? New Zealand.......not Ohio. I want it all!

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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Making the grade? Posted: 3/11/2009 5:28:32 PM
I would not upgrade. Can't blame the guy for marketing, though. What I wonder is how they came up with the statistics on how many more first contacts you can expect. Maybe if people upgrade and expect more hits, they would be seen as "more desparate" and therefore, be passed by in searches. I'd be a little suspect of someone who spends the money to "upgrade" in an effort to get more contacts. Besides, I've paid on a couple of other sites in the past and would never do it again. Lessening what is available now to force people into paying to get what they used to get for free, I think, might drive people to other free sites.

~1happywoman~

Joined: 9/20/2006

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It’s All About The Dynamics! Posted: 3/4/2009 10:55:53 PM
I agree wholeheartedly and I'm probably the poster child. I am with a man whom I met through POF. He contacted me, and I thought we would have nothing "in common" but he might be interesting to talk to. He said he came halfway around the world to find me, and now, I have come half way around the world to have a life with him. So, talk about your exploring new worlds and aliens, leaving comfort zones - I'm from Ohio and wound up in New Zealand! (By the way, we spent several months together in the states, and he had to come back here due to a family situation, so it wasn't a case of me picking up and moving here to be with a complete stranger!) I'm probably going to wind up living on a boat in a few months. Never, ever thought that would happen in a million years, anymore than I thought I might be in a van with 13 sheep! I can't wait to see what's around the next bend!

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