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Thread: Dees Dances
Posted: 10/16/2010 6:11:28 PM
Where is the dance at tonight?
Where do we meet the person for the first time?
Posted: 9/8/2007 12:04:50 AM
I have learned my lesson the hard way.. I do not do dinner on the first meeting.
It was awful.. I had to shovel in my food as quickly as possible, and I am not that type of person. I was totally caught off guard, He was not anything like he had described. It was so uncomfortable for me, He was supposed to be fit and athletic, he was out of breath walking from the car to the restaurant door... He assumed I wanted to know all about his financial history, ( not ,, not ,, not at all) He also assumed I would be going to be going camping with him,, He and I could sleep in the trailer and our kids outside in a tent... I DON'T THINK SO!!!!!!!
SO having lived thru that on,, I meet at a Bookstore that has the coffee cafe inside, WE get something to drink, we go and find those comfy chairs and chat. I buy my own...... I don't need to be obligated even for a cup of JOE.. LOL....
There are plenty of people around , so I don't have to worry about inappropriate conversations, or actions, and if it is going well,, then I suggest a second date for something more fun and a little more time together.
If after that drink is gone and the conversation is gone to,, well I just say Thanks , it was nice to meet you ,, but I am not interested, or he could say the same to me..
Done deal.. no harm, no foul..... It is a good safe place and you can drive to meet, so each has his own vehicle, and you can go home with a good feeling and usually no ones feelings get hurt, in the process.
take care and good luck
My New Girlfriends Nuts!
Posted: 5/16/2007 9:42:42 PM
Honey,, you look like a nice looking man, who could have just about any woman he would want. Dump that crazy, insecure B**ch and find a nice normal relationship. That is absulutely going way over and beyond the line and why in the world would you give in to that kind of treatment.. Obviously there are deep trust issues that she seems like that she will never over come.. I would be getting out of there as quickly as I could. Especially if you have never given her any reason at all not to trust you, which it seems like you haven't... All I can say is RUN ....RUN.... RUN......
Expain the phrase My children are my top priority?
Posted: 5/3/2007 7:14:19 PM
Well, obviously you DO NOT have children of your own or you would easily understand that statement.. WE are parents first and foremost.. Those kids do come first,, they are the ones we are now most involved with,, You go thru a divorce with a child and see how it affects that child. YOU would totally understand that statement. WE are their protectors, their sheilds, their world... I would never expect a man to place me in top notch above his children.. nor would I do that to my child. OUR FIRST responsibility is that child and to make sure he/she gets raised in the best possible environment till he/she is able to make it in the world on their own.. And if we did our jobs well they become productive, responsible members of society.. The relationship comes second.. YOU are Definately reading it wrong..
i got a good question here
Posted: 4/7/2007 4:15:38 PM
Well,, I posted photos of myself, after I had been on a 4 hour horse back ride, up in the mountains... I also say, I do clean up a lot better.... SO I don't think we all do that,,, I am a person who believes in Honesty. So ,, what you see is what you get, No make up ,, I did take a second to run a brush thru my hair and get some of the tangles out before we took the photos. I do like to look nice , but I don't think that a guy who goes for the glamour is the type of guy I am looking for. I want a guy who is attracted to the normal me, for my personality and all the other good things I can bring to a relationship. Not a Glamour Shot,,,,, That type of guy is going to go running backwards when he sees the real person that we all are... So why can't we all just be ourselves and not try to impress someone for something that isn't there anyways....
date shows up wearing sweats...
Posted: 2/16/2007 6:58:40 PM
I would have been TOTALLY embarassed, and probably would have asked him to go home and change. It shows a lack of respect for you. I always dress to impress my date, and would never think of wearing sweats out on a date. To me that is disrespectful to you. When you told him your feelings , What did he say? That his laundry machine is busted? Or he doesn't know how to work it? You did the right thing, No doubt about it. Maybe he thought you were so taken with him it would not matter what he wore.
Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all?
Posted: 1/28/2007 11:46:42 AM
I have a few times, Same as with you , I saw the profile, read it and thought this guy is charming, but what does he look like? Well I haven't been disappointed yet. Meeting for coffee is the best,, that way if he is no prince charming in real life, it doesn't have to last long. I have met some really nice guys, some just don't know how to post a photo or do not have a camera to do so, I give them a chance, I even had one guy mail me photos of him. I was so nervous opening the envelope ,, but I was very relieved once I did, What A CUTIE!!!! Well I will not discourage anyone from contacting and meeting even if there is no photo posted, what have you got to lose. ????
New to ALL this...
Posted: 10/10/2006 5:03:56 PM
Thanks for your nice words. Yes I feel lucky to have what I have. I know that they all can't smile but even a little attempt would be nice. Maybe I am being too critical. LOL L.
New to ALL this...
Posted: 10/10/2006 12:41:52 PM
Hey, I am new this, I have enjoyed the site so far. I would appreciate any suggestions or words of wisdom about the internet dating scene, and about my profile, that you guys have for me. I have been out of circulation for the past 16 years and feel a little nervous about getting back in. I would like to feel that honesty is the rule used around here and was wondering if that is the case on this site.
I also wonder why in so many of the photos of the gentlemen that they are not smiling or even looking remotely happy. It is hard to write to someone who in their photo looks like they swallowed a lemon. Well take care and see ya. L.
French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/10/2006 11:38:23 AM
Well if she hasn't returned your call or text at all by now, she is probaly is not interested, It doesn't take us that long to make up our minds. She probably gave you the numbers because she didn't have enough guts herself to tell you straight out that she wasn't interested. Thus not returning your calls is the hint. It's a crappy way to let you know but not eveyone has enought guts to just come out and let you know how they feel.. In this day and age it would be a whole lot easier and we would have better relationships if everyone just told the truth. Feel sorry for you, but moving on and not dwelling on it is the best. The most you chase her the more power you give her. You are like a little puppet on the end of her string and she may string you along till she gets tired of playing with you and then discards you. Take care and good luck finding someone who will actually appreciate you for who you are inside and out. Lesley
French Girl - Advice please
Posted: 10/10/2006 11:27:55 AM
Well , I have a question first. Did SHE bake that cake, or was is someone's else's birthday in your workplace and she brought you a piece of store bought or a bakery cake???? I only bake for someone I am tring to impress. I am a very good cook and if I want to impress a guy, I send him some food. It always works. Usually because I can cook better than most women that they have dated or seen casually. If it was just a nice gesture, and she didn't want you to feel left out of the party then that's all it was. The main thing is that you will never know until you just come out and ask HER. I always like the direct approach. That way I can let him know if he is way off base and I was trying to be nice or if there was more to my actions. I can let him know if I was just trying to be friendly or if there might be something more there. When you do approach, do it with confidence, I don't like a weak or stumbling man, most women don't. But arrogance is also a turnoff so don't go over board and act like you are GODs gift to women. Being straightforward is impressive to most women, we have seen all the games and in this day and age, its stupid for you to ever try game playing. JUST BE HONEST, tell her how you feel, and if she is a half way decent woman she will tell you the truth and let you know how she feels too. GOOD LUCK!!!!!! Lesley
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