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kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/6/2008 8:38:36 AM
OMG thank you!!! THATS WHAT I HAVE BEEN SAYING THIS WHOLE TIME!!!...its never happened to me i cant imagine that it would after so little...but...all that is behind me now...im ready to venture onto my life and thank you again

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/6/2008 1:02:18 AM
yes we moved way too fast...we put about 10 years of relationship into one that only lasted 6 months...it was too much strain for both of us...he needs anger management help...i knew this...you see nobody knows what goes on behind the scenes unless someone tells you...and well...i knew that my child being hurt...WASNT going to happen again...discipline is vital..but this little girl is an angel...he got angry because he asked her 3 times to taker her muddy boots off in the foyer...but she forgot and came upstairs and sat on the couch adn put her feet up there..not thinking...kids do that...and he pulled her off the couch and yelled at her...see this kind of stuff is not my thing...so bam ...hes outta here

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/5/2008 11:57:57 PM
well....i ended it tonight... not that anybody really cares ...but i made that choice... he grabbed my daughters arm and after all the re-evaluating i did and all the changes i made that is one thing i refuse to put up with...police were called...and he is now sitting in a jail cell...the feelings i had for him just "poof" disappeared...i dont know how or why..but my children mean the world to me....the side of her arm is black and blue...i feel total relief now...its strange how something can happen to you and you deal with it and maybe even accept it ..but when it happens to your child...there is NO excuse and NO forgiving...ever...it was not in playing or in fun...it was because he got angry...what happened between him and i was between him and i...and although it wasnt right...it has helped me learn a lot of things...the child is only 6 years old...good riddance to him...id rather be alone and lonley...than to have to put my child thru that EVER... so no more posts please unless its positive... a lot of you may think that good he got rid of me..but no...its good for my girls that i got rid of HIM...thats all that matters :)...but i tell you what...my next relationship..will be calm..and loving...and meaningful...no more crap

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/5/2008 12:00:55 PM
there was a brother sister couple that i was playing pool with there that i had just met..the sister kept trying to get me to come home with them..and i kinda blew it off at first and yes i was stupid and left my drink unattended...they were very adamant..and my bf kept telling me that he didnt want me playing pool with them and i said its fine tim they are nice! well..the guy got pissed when i introduced him to tim as my bf..and i didnt know that they had a history of trying to take girls home with them...so who knows what happened....

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/5/2008 10:33:27 AM
lol i give up none of you people actually have READ the post and understood where i am coming from or what i am asking...

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/4/2008 3:21:50 PM
it was NOT the alcohol that got me...WHY is nobody gettting that..i had FOUR freaking beers! im a country girl i grew up on beer..been drinking over the last 20 years and NEVER has this EVER happened....it was NOT the alcohol geez

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/4/2008 3:37:58 AM
actually we are very happy...no need to bash...abuse? lol ummmm...it was a ONE TIME THING my god...get over it already he has i have..

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/3/2008 3:21:44 PM
well he is fine and so am i so no need to bash anymore thank you

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/3/2008 2:10:39 PM
actually i had a talk with him last night adn hes back :)..we get along great..there was ONE incident...and all of a sudden im this anger enraged alcoholic drug addict who puts her children in danger.. all i was looking for was some friendly advice...didnt come on here to get bashed adn bruised up...im glad you are all perfect..i didnt comeon here to have people tell me he was coming back..i came on here to ask that if the words he was using were just his way of stringing me along..but i dont have to worry about that anymore...

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/2/2008 10:12:42 PM
yea im really using him..i pay all the bills and the rent...i dont think so mister...and as far as the drug test thing goes..i work in a testing laboratory i KNOW how long something stays in your system...however i woke up almost 16 hours later...now...although i didnt go to the doctor to find out what happened...im almost positive thatsomething did...im NOT an alcoholic..i CAN hold my liquer and i DO NOT use people...im NOT a violent person nor am i a psychotic mental patient...i DO NOT have a problem with drugs and i have NO problem admitting that i have issues..most people do..i dont appreciate being attacked on here...i simply came on here for some friendly insight and all ive gotten is people that want to belittle me and make me feel as though i did something wrong when in fact i didnt...im not angry im just really disappointed

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/2/2008 2:31:41 PM
thank you to everybody that was nice to me :) i appreciate it..and heres the thing...the blackout thing happened one time...my friend thinks something happened to my drink..im sorry im naive..and yes i shouldnt have left it unattended...i know that i have issues everybody does...im nto saying that my issues didnt cause the first break up that was totally apparent and we have gotten past those...but for someone who doesnt drink to get drunk..suddenly finding herself on teh floor not knowing what happened is a scary thing...im more careful now and him and i know better than to let it go that way again....as for him being here and me being on here...he was watching tv...he knows that i talk to people online..and as far as trust..thats not an issue with us...he knows id never cheat on him ever...im a people person and i get bored sometimes thats why im here...couples therapy..well not sure that he would agree hes a very laid back country boy who doesnt think he does any wrong..which in this instant he hasnt...i know a few more things than i did last night..and everything will work out how its supposed to

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 10:12:44 PM
:) just so you know NONE of the kids were there...my best friend and my boyfriend were there and he thought she was staying to take care of me...thats why he left...eh had a dui and is on probation and didnt wnat to chance getting into trouble..and she said she would take care of me..HELL IF I KNOW!!! i wasnt coherent nor was i "there" so to speak lol...thsi is all i know and what iwas told...i promise..no drinking problem..no drug problem...not on my own accord anyway...everyone was shocked that this happened...i know that when you put your personal life online like this u are apt to get answers you dont want..and thats fine...i know who i am and what is wrong with me..and pretty much being a dork is the extent of my mental incapabilities

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 7:54:45 PM
har har lol yea well...him and i joke about the situation it makes it better for the most part..

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 7:35:11 PM
bad relation ship as in i was verbally attacked at every turn ...and ignored for most of the time..which is why things happened the way they did...no sir..hes not a saint..hes a great guy....and i do NOT have a problem...see...the first time we split i did get help..and it was wonderful and i worked thru so much...i cant tell you what happened that night because i have no recollection of it...if there was something in my drink..which is totally possible considering the place we were at...then it would explain what happened...and hes not all innocent you know..but i will not go into his faults because it only makes me look as though i point fingers..and i know what ive done was wrong the first time..the 2nd time....i HAD NO CLUE!!! nothing like that has ever happened to me before...hes indicated he wants to be here and that he loves me and that has NOTHING to do with why hes not living here now...hes just being careful is all..it'll all work out i have faith...but thank you :)

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 7:21:29 PM
haha yea ...him and i are great...its just that im tired of the games hes playing or seems to be playing..and hes not checkin out the scene i assure you..actually hes sittin here right now watchin tv...i think that hes just punishing me for that night

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 7:16:01 PM
yea i havent updated anything about my profile except the living together thing...i just got tired of the crap..i shall do that :)

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 7:15:03 PM
ha no i dont have a drinking problem nor a drug problem..i never do drugs...i drink MAYBE once a month if that...he is on probation right now for a dui..and the reason he didnt stick around was because he was afraid he was going to put himself in further trouble...on top of that my gf was there and he thought she was staying...i would never lead him on i love him and am trying to build a life with him..yes hes being careful..i dont blame him i want him to be..but the comments he makes are making me think hes coming home adn its really tiring when i dont know

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 7:12:00 PM
well i was on here before i met my bf...and i am still on it bc i find these forums very fun to read so to speak...

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 6:47:50 PM
situation is good....im good..i know what i want...i know whats best for my kids lol...dead post!!! lol nobody is understanding what im trying to ask..bu ti appreciate the ones that were nice to me....and to the ones that were rude...maybe you should ask questions instead of being so****sh about it :) im a nice person...and im not psychotic im not mental...the bf and i love each other very much..it was all a question of whether or not just by his comments i was being led on that was it

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 6:37:29 PM
lol ok ok fine..i just meant by what he was saying...wow maybe i should have just been quiet

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 6:21:49 PM
well we've been living together..and his kids adore me as mine do him....and hes still bringing them around...and yea i know...i have to give him time to figure out what he wants but its completely frustrating going from living togheter and i love you's to dating and living apart...its all assbackwards!

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 6:04:24 PM
well we've been living together since end of july beginning of august..ive known him for two years by this time..and no lol that whole incident was NOT mellow...thats not waht im saying..im saying it was a one time incident thats NEVER happened before ever...

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 5:57:33 PM
and no im not on any meds at all...im a very calm happy drinker actually...im pretty mellow...

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 5:55:01 PM
him and i have worked out our differences...i have gotten past the horrible relationship i had in teh past...and that whole incident with the drink was a one time thing...we think someone slipped someting into my drink bc i dont remember anything at all....i know he loves me thats not it...its not about me getting help..he knows that ...its about whether or not hes going to come home or is he stringing me along

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 5:50:44 PM
ok this post was NOT about the incidents that happened..its about the fact that he is stringing me along or is he being true...thats it....him and i ahve worked thru all of our issues THATS NOT THE POINT!!!

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 5:40:26 PM
no i dont think u understand....there was something obviously wrong that night that we got into it...i dont react to alcohol that way...he knows this and you tell me im not worth it..you dont know me so dont even go there ***hole

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Stringing me along or just plain confused Posted: 1/1/2008 5:18:50 PM
I have been living with my boyfriend since august. We broke up around thanksgiving due to the fact that i handled myself really horribly as far as picking fights for no reason, being mean etc...i had a really rough relationship before him for 10 years and it was all bad habits...but when he left i realized what i had been doing..changed some things and he moved back home and we were so happy..well...one night we went out...and after like 4 beers...something happened...we went home..and i remember sitting down at teh table to eat..and all of a sudden i wake up and im on the bedroom floor...dont remember a thing...and hes gone...apparently i had started taking swings at him cursing at him throwing things..going completely psychotic...i had no idea...he left..which i cant blame him..we are working on getting things back on track...everybody that knows me thinks that i was slipped something..because i do not react to alcohol that way...ever...however...hes now giving me signs of coming back...i mean obvious ones. IE: my dog had puppies and i was going to keep one and he said no...that he was bringing his dog back here....he told his kids that they could leave their stuff at my house bc they were coming back, he said i need a new car and he started looking at suv's with a 3rd row seat ...for his kids too...im so confused..bc i asked him if he was coming back and he said..he didnt know...if anybody could give me some insight id greatly appreciate it...we are together almost every day after work...and its not like he is seeing someone else so i dont know waht is going on

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!! Posted: 12/10/2006 7:40:53 AM
hahaha well let me tell you something first..i had met him thru his gf at teh time who was a friend of mine...they split in a REALLY drama filled way..mostly of her doing..i know i was there i saw the whole thing :)...anyway..he finds me and apologizes for the scene that was caused..i said its ok and we started talking..he was VERY charming..and yes he was cute...but see thats the thing..websites like this..well..its all one on one..and chat rooms..there are TONS of girls in there...and let me tell you something..the ones he was with while he was dating me were all from there..and well..he had NO and i stress NO boundries..he didnt care what they looked like trust me on that one He and i were going to vegas to visit his sister..and he was in the vegas chatrooms the NIGHT BEFORE WE LEFT..hooking up with different girls..so yea..TOTAL player...and get this..a YEAR after i broke it off..he STILL wanted to get back with me..psshhh YEA not happening..he's a manwhore..and im pretty sure he hasnt changed whatsoever...he started having sex at 13...and so 13 years..280 some women.. hmm thats over two girls a month...which..i wouldnt doubt..hes 29 now..and i can only imagine the number hes racked up. All I know is is that i was smart...you should ALWAYS know and ALWAYS get tested before having sex. I'm 37 years old i dont have the want or the need to catch something.

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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I don't get it Posted: 12/9/2006 9:52:02 PM
thats very uncool...its almost as if she was keeping you around..waiting for something SHE thought was better...I know its hard..but you deserve MUCH better and should keep yourself busy to try and diminish the hurt..trust me..its happened to me MANY times..it sucks but..keep your head up :)

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 12/9/2006 7:25:47 PM
haha yea i did one time...for some reason we connected very well..and when i got there(coffeeshop)..he was there hiding in the crowd and i had no clue it was him...i thought he didnt show..but in fact the entire time he was watching me...and to tell you the truth..when he came up to me i was infact INCREDIBLY pleased..he was yummy..but..that was probably very lucky..i dated him for a few months...then he joined the army and we still talk..but..ive had men post fake pics..you take your chances no matter if they have a pic or not :)...

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Need advise - My Boyfriend been with 105 Girls!!!! Posted: 12/9/2006 6:44:04 PM
ha damn...ya know i was dating someone at one point a few years back that had been with well over 280 girls...thank god we didnt get to the point in our relationship to where we would have sex...because when i dumped him i found out that while he was dating me ..he had sex with about 10 other women..all of whom i knew...so its not unrealistic..this guy was 26..just a matter of if hes hot or not or the kind of women he picks up..but maybe he is a different person now..i mean YOU wouldnt want someone to judge you on your past when you've made a mistake am i wrong>?

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Women are pickier than Men on this site. Posted: 12/9/2006 5:27:28 PM
well..i know im picky...reason one..i have children..gotta weed out a lot of people that wouldnt be good for my kids...reason two..because i have been married and overlooked a LOT of things in this person I shouldnt have..I feel as though I deserve much better..adn so do my kids :) thats all

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Thinking of a deceased lover/boy/girlfriend Posted: 11/30/2006 12:29:02 PM
I lost someone who i had been seeing back in May. It was the most awful news I had ever gotten. He was an incredible light in my life...and to this day..I STILL think about him on a daily basis.I know he cared about me and I know that I always feel incredible when I think about him. Although his death was tragic..its very comforting to know that he's hanging around..I think that besides my children..thats the one thought that gets me thru my day

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Dreams of your Ex???? Posted: 11/27/2006 8:03:02 PM
I just had a dream of my exhusband the other nite..and let me tell you..it was so real..that it hurt...I dont know..its been 5 years..but if you really love someone you never really move on. I think its because we got into a heated argument that day...and so in turn i dreamt of him and i making up..lol his gf was there in the next bed but..ha hey..its just a dream right :P

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Does every guy want that one thing right now? Posted: 11/27/2006 5:39:27 PM
Well I am still convinced there are men out there that are what im looking for...I honestly..do NOT think the internet is the place to find it. I am finding that out more and more every single day. YOu can hide behind a picture of a name but the real person isnt revealed until you meet in person

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Does every guy want that one thing right now? Posted: 11/27/2006 4:26:28 PM
Ok heres the thing...can attractive men be the faithful loyal sweet guys that we want..ya know the "nice" guys with the good heart...or just the ones you are never attracted to...I always hear about how nice guys finish last..maybe its not you finishing last maybe its you finishing last with the wrong girls? I want someone attractive..I won't deny that at all. HOWEVER, if it comes with a price tag of sleeping with my friends, lying to me or using me for money..FORGET IT..i'd rather be alone

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Why don't people answer when contacted? Posted: 11/24/2006 8:52:12 PM
Well..I do talk and have conversations with people that I am not attracted to...I try very hard to respond to everybody...I think people do have a hard time with giving rejection. I am a very nice person and any form of rejection that comes from me is always very polite, however for me personally..I'd rather just not have that person respond...saves me from feeling rejected..guess you could say that I dont take rejection well

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Why don't people answer when contacted? Posted: 11/24/2006 1:12:25 PM
So you are going to tell me..that you would try and form an online relationship with someone you weren't attracted to? IF..and i stress IF..what you are looking for is more than friends? Yes i DO make a valiant effort to try and respond to everybody..regardless...however..I can see where some people might not..now if someone messaged me and said hi or whats up..i delete..they dont have enough time to put effort into trying to try and start a conversation.

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Why don't people answer when contacted? Posted: 11/24/2006 10:38:27 AM
Here's how I see it. I do try and respond. However, if I get on here and just dont have the time to respond. I might come back later and do it or i might just honestly forget about it. Sometimes I'm just not attracted or we have nothing in common...and there is no reason to waste their time and mine on trivial conversation thats not going to get anybody anywhere. It sounds cruel and maybe mean...buts I'd rather have seen someone has read my mail...deleted and not responded..than try and be "nice" and give me shallow conversation. I'm not on here to get to know hundreds of people...Shallow as it may be...people ALWAYS notice looks first..I dont care what they say..nobody looks at an ugly person..and says..they are SO hot..that personality is smokin :\| just doesnt happen ..It's human nature

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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what is your take on mini skirts? Posted: 11/16/2006 4:09:34 PM
lol over 35 shouldnt wear them? hmm..well..i tend to disagree with that statement...i happen to keep my legs in great shape..and love showing them off..I think there is nothing wrong with it....but yes it all depends on the occassion :)

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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This one is strange Posted: 11/15/2006 8:02:21 PM
well..basically what hes sayin is that he's married..and he wants something on the side..however..he could be one in a million thats telling the truth..maybe he is just shy..but i wouldnt respond until he tells you who he is. Just tell him that you arent comfortable with this whole "mystery admirer:" thing

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Does every guy want that one thing right now? Posted: 11/6/2006 9:23:45 PM
Ok let me correct myself..i DO want a "bad" boy..with a "good" heart...i find bad boys sexy and I won't deny that..but if "bad" means cheaters liars players..then NO i do NOT want one of those...

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Does every guy want that one thing right now? Posted: 11/5/2006 6:39:23 PM
No I dont think its that..I do believe immensley that you must be in your own way attracted to someone before you will want to have a relationship with them. I happen to like "nice" guys..but where are they...

kennedy291969

Joined: 9/26/2006

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Does every guy want that one thing right now? Posted: 11/4/2006 8:04:54 PM
Well most of the men i have talked to DO want just one thing..after a while that is even though they can sit there and say all they want that sex isnt what they want..but then again im 37 and I have this horrible habit of talking to younger men ie: under 26...maybe thats where I'm going wrong..so tell me this..HOW am i supposed to be attracted to someone my own age..when all I've ever done is hang out with...date...be friends with YOUNGER PEOPLE. A lot of it has to do with my looks..I look..act..and feel MUCH younger than I am. This puts me in a very difficult position. I'm way too naive sometimes and believe that the younger men want relationships...probably 87% of them dont...that is why I stay single

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