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SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

Msg: 69 (view)

Bypassing the phone, is it okay or not? Posted: 11/25/2009 9:10:31 PM
The main reason I prefer a preliminary phone conversation is to find out if the guy is a conversation manipulator, you know the kind....the one sided conversationalist. Those are awful. I've actually set the phone down, walked down to my mailbox and back and he was still ramblin' on about his .....heck, I can't even remember. I think it was the exwife, the divorce, his sex skills, his tongue...whatever ! He was boring the beejeebees outta me. I knew we would not be a match. In fact I don't think he ever knew when I hung up. That's someone who should be afraid of the phone....he talked to himself mostly.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/25/2009 8:54:11 PM
as do the southern belles, darlin'.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Going alione Posted: 11/24/2009 7:06:31 PM
I've always been a loner, even though I have alot of friends I always love to meet new ones. When I was 9 years old, my dad dropped me off at a camp where I didn't know a soul. He was bewildered by this and asked me "honey, do you really wanna stay? you don't have any friends here?" I said...."Nope, but I will ! Bye Daddy" he came to pick me up at the end of the week and sho nuff....had made oodles of friends and some I'm still in contact with. That's not normal for a nine year old girl, but for some reason I've never feared being alone in a social setting. I'm fine with it.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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LTRs and boredom versus boring Posted: 11/24/2009 6:55:13 PM
I can honestly say, I've never been bored in my life....don't know what that feels like at all. I don't think it's a man that could ever bore me, they all fascinate me.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Listening to our children at our age Posted: 11/24/2009 6:18:39 PM
My daughter is 23 and is raising a one year old and a two year old. She's busy ! She often comments on how wonderful my life is and calls me her "idol". I couldn't ask for more than that. She has met only a few of the men I've dated, hugged 'em and told them "you better make my momma happy or I'm sendin' the kids to visit"

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/24/2009 6:04:25 PM
Strings6, I am a woman who understands exactly what you're saying and appreciate your refreshing honesty to tell it like it is. I know women my age who are real biyatches, they need to be hit by a clue by four. Seriously, they have a major issue with illusions of grandeur. They wonder why a men aren't attracted to them. I don't know what to say to them, but you just did. Adjustments in elder attitude must be made. They don't know how to be pleasant and don't have any idea what charm is all about. But not ALL women are like that at all. They are worth the time it takes to look past the age and figure, the wrinkles without wrath.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/24/2009 3:13:12 PM
yeuh, that's it ! Of course they do ! It all makes perfect sense now ! Thanks clockwork !

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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asking an older women out Posted: 11/24/2009 9:44:47 AM
just don't YELL in our ear....."WOULD YOU LIKE TO GO OUT FOR DINNER SOMETIME?" cuz we're really NOT hard of hearin' or nothin'. But don't stand on our corns or buy us a laxative martini ! But do keep in mind we go to bed early and love jello, by cracky !

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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How to tell a woman to start paying for part of the date Posted: 11/24/2009 9:34:52 AM
Listen....the real deal is...she's not offering to pay, because she doesn't want to. She never will. You do have a choice to make. If it's important for you two to share the costs of a date, then move on and date someone who will. There are alot of women who prefer to pay their share. I for one, don't like to feel beholden to anyone. I prefer to pay my way in this world. At least you know what to expect, if you're the one treating yourself.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Love turn off like a light switch? Posted: 11/24/2009 9:28:24 AM
Can you guys NOT TELL the difference between a good woman and a bad one a little sooner....or does it even matter ?

SunnyTexas

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Secrets Posted: 11/23/2009 6:49:02 PM
I have quirks. Weird quirks, but it's what makes Sunny, sunny.

SunnyTexas

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help Posted: 11/23/2009 6:46:16 PM
good grief you're 21 years old. All 21 year old girls love Drama. They'll grow out of it. You're just more mature than they are it seems.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/23/2009 6:40:11 PM
All in all, I feel this is a very personal issue of the man and women should...for the most part, just be patient. Men already feel bad about it, don't make it worse. It's his issue and he'll take care of it.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/23/2009 6:06:09 PM
Well, I guess I'm just going to have to take the word of the ladies who have engaged in enough sexual activity to have compiled such accurate statistics. do ya think we DON'T compile our own stats ? Don't kid yourself, of course we do. So do you. Maybe we should create virility cards with stats, like boys do baseball cards. Who can "batter up" and who can't. Pass 'em and trade 'em. Start a collection, maybe?

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Is it common to be bothered by this Posted: 11/23/2009 6:02:48 PM
you're overthinkin' it, sweety.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Love turn off like a light switch? Posted: 11/23/2009 5:57:32 PM
Men do that all the time. No biggy. Back up and see what happens. Don't push the river. In the meantime...live your life and make yourself happy. Get distracted !

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Trust issues Posted: 11/23/2009 5:35:49 PM
Oh honey.....have you NOT answered you're own question over and over? What would you tell a friend in the same sitch ?

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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two different body temps and sleeping Posted: 11/23/2009 5:31:12 PM
I flounce the covers all night, thanks to my "personal summers" ! I'm burnin' up then freezin'...but a man beside me, soothing my brow, gently blowing between my shoulder blades soothes more than my body temperature...it soothes my soul and I'm off to la la land....a good man knows how good that feels.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/23/2009 4:46:05 PM
Some of the problem may be the ever increasing use of anti-depressants which can cause ED. Happy but not "happy" would make anyone depressed.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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ED over 45 Posted: 11/23/2009 3:41:01 PM
Yep...pretty accurate...yes about half the men over 45 have this issue. Ya just never know...who's capable of sportin' wood and who isn't. Even some men in their 30's ! Then there's the other half.....WOW ! Beautiful, able and extremely capable.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/23/2009 3:19:03 PM
oh this thread is hilarious. I'm pretty sure I have the emotional maturity and personality that a man my age is looking for...but I ain't a "hot babe" by no stretch of the imagination, but I don't feel bad about myself at all. I had my day. It's not hard to let go of at all. If you have a healthy self esteem, you're not gonna fret about it. Things adjust and we just have to adjust with them. There comes a day, when class is much more attractive on a woman, than exposing flesh bits, belly buttons or saggy stuff. There are women and we know who they are...who just won't give it up. Those are the ones who didn't appreciate it when they had it....I did appreciate it. It's called youth and yes....it passes. It doesn't mean you have to wear a housecoat and slippers around, or quit covering the gray....but there's a limit. I do know women older than me, who fight it tooth and nail. They refuse to admit it's time for a one piece bathing suit, they still think the more makeup the better, they still think tats are sexy, they still wanna dress like their 25. That's when "the attitude" bulges and the snarkey remarks about how "they still got it" take over and I'm sure men see it as a major turn off. Same goes for men....class it up, it's very sexy and attractive to dress like a mature man. Melts this gal's butter !

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Fanning the Flames.... Posted: 11/22/2009 7:12:37 PM
Well what would you do when you got to "Z" ? hmmm....seems to me this may be a game for you.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Piercing question Posted: 11/22/2009 7:10:55 PM
I guess I would just wonder....why ? I would also wonder...when would it stop ? What else would he pierce and would he leak like a sieve.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Falling for a friend.. Posted: 11/20/2009 2:06:11 PM
^^^By golly...I think she's got it !

SunnyTexas

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Are ya ever just really relieved.....? Posted: 11/20/2009 1:59:29 PM
^^^^^SEE ! That's exactly what I mean...sometimes, it just ain't workin'...but we find a way and quite effortlessly to make ourself happy. It's great to be at such a place in your life, when you can literally...take it or leave it. I don't think it makes us bad people....we just have faith, that when it happens...it'll knock our socks off and we won't need sock drawers anymore.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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your opinion on our situation Posted: 11/19/2009 6:42:37 PM
I'm lost...where did the "separated" thing come in. The OP says he's single... Did I miss somethin' ?

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Looking for Opinions Posted: 11/19/2009 6:18:05 PM
I think if you are self conscious about it....then you do have some shame about it. If you're ashamed, then do something about it. There's nothing wrong with living at home at 22, but you need to help out...not just cave up in your room with video games and spankin' what ever...um...misbehaves. But if you have a hard time, telling prospective girlfriends that you live with your parents, then you're not going to have the confidence to be happy in a relationship. I'm just sayin'. Make yourself proud.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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your opinion on our situation Posted: 11/19/2009 6:12:55 PM
It matters more to me about how a man manages his money, does he live within' his means? is he a mature investor? by that...I mean...does he look at long term, or just today. Does he honor his obligations first? And most of all does he take good care of his hard earned possessions. Does he take pride in earning what he's always wanted, rather it be a prize heifer or a harley? If he doesn't then....we don't have the same material goals.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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My parents having sex.... Posted: 11/15/2009 1:27:42 PM
Because me and my friend were top and tailing okay...sorry...but I gotta ask....what is "top and tailing" ?

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Falling for a friend.. Posted: 11/12/2009 7:58:46 PM
OP, you just don't know what you'd be missing if you continue to push for a relationship with this man. Wait, be patient, don't push the river. I'm just sayin'.... Concentrate on yourself and learn to appreciate having a friend of the opposite sex, that you can count on, it could grow into a relationship you'll treasure the rest of your life. If you push it, you'll never have either.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Falling for a friend.. Posted: 11/10/2009 6:50:19 PM
I've been in your shoes, darlin' and believe me...when I say....it's better you don't get involved. My friend and I are perfect for each other, but neither wants to spoil what we have and that's deep respect for each other and a friendship that will last the test of time. If it's meant to be it will happen. Just stay close, not just keep in touch....maintain the friendship and put effort into it. It's worth it to have a friend of the opposite sex. Yes, the attraction sometimes can make things very uncomfortable, but that's really your friendship deepening.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 11/9/2009 7:51:36 PM
Why oh why do we HAVE TO GO THERE !

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Terms of endearment too early. Should I run? Posted: 11/1/2009 7:09:42 PM
Ya mean I can't call ya darlin' ? wow...that's just not natural in the south, we always say that, darlin'....bet ya don't like curtsies either. Dayum yankees. always bein' a donky's behind.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Non-Smoker, But No Must Not Smoke Posted: 11/1/2009 7:06:18 PM
In my experience as a smoker, they want you (the smoker) to contact them (the non-smoker) just so they can blast ya about the disgusting smoking habit. I will rarely contact a non smoker, for that reason. If they were interested in you, they'd contact ya. I wish there was the option to select "must smoke"

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts. Posted: 10/27/2009 7:40:27 PM
well believe me...we can tell by the way you dance, if we want to sleep with you or not.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts. Posted: 10/27/2009 4:22:47 PM
Some women need to know body frame and resistance. A man can lead them so much easier. It's not a pull and tug, or a shove and push kinda thing. Women need to know the proper way to follow as well. I will tell the show off "twirl-a-girl:", sling ya around dancin' idiot ONE TIME ! not to do that for I am not a rag doll, nor the latest drill bit for pay dirt. After that I have no problem, walkin' off the floor. It's the men who believe they are too macho to take dance lessons, that attempt to do such and I won't stand for it. I've seen some men seriously hurt a woman's neck, and it's not dancing....it's abuse.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Silver haired dancing machines your thoughts. Posted: 10/26/2009 1:45:54 PM
hmmmmm.....I would never have thought dancing with someone would be disrespectful...but yes when they just want to twirl ya...and jerk your arms out of socket...yes that hurts and is disrespectful.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Switching the places of the reply and block links. Posted: 10/19/2009 12:27:43 PM
Maybe I thought it was possible to lose the testimonial because the author must be on your favorites list to write one. hmmm...confusing. So someone can write you a testimonial, then you can bump 'em by block and the testimonial remains ? I know when someone deletes their profile the testimonial goes away.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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block user/reply to a person, moved Posted: 10/19/2009 10:10:19 AM
Yes and if you block a favorite by mistake they fall off your faves list and you can also lose their testimonial for you in the process, because of one wrong click of the mouse. They vanish from your inbox too ! If it's the first email from them, and you intended to reply, but blocked instead, its nearly impossible to find them to explain. I don't understand why the switch was made in the first place? Are ya tryin' to keep us on our mental dextert0es ?

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Switching the places of the reply and block links. Posted: 10/19/2009 9:56:47 AM
Yes that's a real possibility and very easy to do. Also when you accidentally block someome, does it knock them from your favorites and visy versy ? What if it's someone who has a testimonial for you on your profile....that ain't cool at all. Even after you unblock them, it doesn't put them back on your favorites does it ? Nor will it bring back the kind words written by a friend......

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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How did my username get messed up? Posted: 10/19/2009 9:38:01 AM
Oh man......I'll have to start payin' attention. I hate that. I'm always on the cUTTIN' eDGE.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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How did my username get messed up? Posted: 10/18/2009 8:36:29 PM
okay I logged out and back in and my old posts still look mistoggled....but maybe it's fixed now... I had no idea your log on would change your user name as it was originally made. THANKS !

sUNNYtEXAS

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Advice About Profile Wanted Posted: 10/18/2009 8:15:24 PM
There's nothing wrong with bein' yourself and I hate it when men won't read profiles...there just lazy and ya don't want that kind of man, anyhow. But I do like your profile and I read a person who is good natured and has an excellent sense of humor !

sUNNYtEXAS

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How did my username get messed up? Posted: 10/18/2009 8:09:39 PM
I've always been SunnyTexas not sUNNYtEXAS? I never changed and wouldn't know how to do that anyway? What happened? It looks retarded ! It looks okay <<<<here but all my other posts have it all bassakwards ?

sUNNYtEXAS

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Curious... what is sexy?? Posted: 10/18/2009 7:22:48 PM
..a fat jellyroll heffa ! ! ! Oh that's charming....and sexy..

sUNNYtEXAS

Joined: 9/28/2006

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To continue or not?????? Posted: 10/18/2009 5:53:52 PM
do you think you could ever love a man enough to reverse the tubal ? Therein lies your answer. If you did love him enough you'd do all medically possible to fulfill his desire for children. Thats a deep, committed relationship.

sUNNYtEXAS

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Low Response Rate Posted: 10/18/2009 2:57:33 PM
for some reason I immediately read the word "fear" in the username. I guess I didn't recognise the worl "Earle" because we in the states spell it "earl"

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Manscaping request Posted: 10/17/2009 11:51:39 AM
It really makes no difference to me. Trimmed not shaven is nice, but a close shave can cause irritating problems, both men and women. Texas heat can be hell on a razor burn or ingrown hairs...ouch ! I don't blame men for not doing it.

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Opinion on the whole deal please. Posted: 10/17/2009 10:42:13 AM
oh wow ! If I had a son, I'd want him to be just like you ! You're a charmer ! I hope that's how you genuinely are. Is it ? You're a cutie pie (sunny pinches Ian's cheek) ! You are gonna do great !

SunnyTexas

Joined: 9/28/2006

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Advice About Profile Wanted Posted: 10/17/2009 10:33:52 AM
actually, if it weren't for the pictures and obvious profile information, I'd think it could be a man's profile. Can ya "girl it up" any ? Or...are ya just not a girly kinda girl? That's okay too...as long as you realize that you come off as an extreme tomboy and some men just aren't looking for that.

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