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Howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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Whats up with girls that have been on here for years? Posted: 9/5/2009 3:13:45 AM
I have been on here since my last relationship now since February! I date the men but I do not sleep with them!! The people I date are just not matches plain and simple. There are lots of nice friends I have made on here.

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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Commitaphobic Men Posted: 8/15/2009 9:27:55 AM
All men are commitphobic--that is just a FACT!!!

howaboutithoney

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Commitaphobic Men Posted: 8/12/2009 9:25:22 AM
Men are all basically more commitmentphobic than women if you look at the research. Surprise Surprise!!

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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Internet dating: sucks for guys, good for women. Posted: 8/12/2009 9:18:54 AM
I do feel sorry for men sometimes and try to make up for it by paying by 1/2 of a date for beers or offering a date where it does not cost where we are both interested--e.g. hike in the park if we both like that kinda thing. That is if I can see he is as "poor" as me. A lot of times men look forward to going out as much as we do too. They like to go to the bar and have a beer now and then too. Sometimes they want to go the extra route and have food and even show up with flowers. Those are the men who know what women like!! I think you have to narrow your dates down into the ones you feel are good matches for YOU first then ask the right ones out for you. I have a great deal of people disappear on me and decide they are just gonna dump me or are not really dates at all just "chat" buddies on there for me to entertain them for a night which is always a disappointment to those of us who are seriously looking.

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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MSN/IM phobia prevalence causing people to go POOF! Posted: 8/12/2009 9:11:19 AM
I do not do "chat" because I do not trust the software. The software is spooky and follows you all over the internet. I do not cut off contact but rather give a person my email address on yahoo where we can have conversation on email and give em the option of having my phone no. if they want. But them I am a grown up too. . . ..

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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thought things were going well... Posted: 8/12/2009 9:03:12 AM
He met somebody he thought was a better catch. Better lookin, younger, better house, more money, better retirement. Something he was after. People are after what they are after. Ya got to know what they want and communicate and really be on the same level. The internet is a sad place to be. Move on and don't take it personal. You were just not a match.

howaboutithoney

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Is red hot romance possible after 50? Posted: 1/24/2009 5:03:40 PM
It is possible if you take good care of yourself and make things happen. You have to know what you want to find and make things happen right for yourself to begin with. Do not have issues so you can find what you want and need. Then go find it and take proper care of yourself with diet and exercise and balanced natural hormones. You can make it happen honey!!!

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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What is it with 50+ women and wanting to stay single??? Posted: 11/21/2008 2:12:50 AM
Mixing romance and finance just don't do it. You can have a great LTR in the same home and live happily ever after w/o bothering one another's finances at all. I have been there, done that and have the tee shirt. I have never left a man worse off than I have found him either. You can be honest, good partners and walk away honest, good friends when the trainwreck happens.

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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Stand Up If You've Been Stood Up! Posted: 10/2/2008 4:14:57 PM
I have been stood up a few times. I have never stood anyone up. A guy called and cancelled at the very last minute yesterday as I was ready to leave for a date! I think that is almost as blantantly disrespectful as being stood up. The men on POF often lack personal courtesy or potential to be friends. I treat them the way I would like to be treated. Perhaps prioritizing schedules is the way it should be. For instance, your son should come first then after he gets your time, then you spend time with these clowns on POF while he is busy elsewhere. You are very nice looking and seem very nice, you hang in there and keep looking Sweetpea.

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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I must love myself before I can love you Posted: 9/6/2008 5:48:35 PM
You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself before you can make things better for your own self Someone wise said that---tee hee----not me!

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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Just found out my boyfriend is married! Posted: 8/25/2008 6:57:41 AM
My lyin cheatin schemin exhusband had 5 girlfriends he confessed to. My phone did not ring even once!

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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Anyone Ever Dated A TRUE Narcissist? Posted: 6/4/2008 11:32:16 AM
I WORKED for a lady whom they said was NPD. She was just as you describe and manipulated every little thing. We had meetings and it was just HER talking among 10 of us!! She was an abusive boss and an abusive parent too to her little boy. He was taken to the ER for bumps and bruises and a shoulder that was messed up from her jerking on him and pulling him on the floor through a restaurant on hard floors. He was only 4 the poor child. Finally she moved on and WE got rid of her. The poor baby had to live w/her as a mother. Never did hear what happened. Bet he grows up to be a messed up person huh?

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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Waste of time.. Posted: 6/2/2008 9:07:20 AM
I have been on pay sites and this one for about equal time. I have met quality people on both sites. I agree it is what you make it. Now I like POF better than some of the pay sites because they match you up with people you would not have chosen or some sites make contacts or "winks" when you don't want that. I like choosing or "picking my own"! I like making my OWN mistakes--okay! The forums on here are the greatest. You learn a lot about what people REALLY think!

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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When is it OK to cheat? Posted: 5/31/2008 8:58:24 AM
I do not believe in cheating. My lyin, schemin, cheatin ex-husband did after he was cheated on by his FIRST wife. I think that people have life experiences that help them decide how life just "is" sometimes.

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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What a man over 45 looks for in a relationship. Posted: 5/31/2008 8:50:53 AM
The thing is that if someone wants a relationship with me they have to be good with my cats. My cats are like my children! They are babies and they trust whomever comes in the house. If I get a Sweetie off here, I want him to hang around the house w/me and my cats too yaknowwhatImean?

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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Too old to be in this pond? Posted: 5/31/2008 8:44:48 AM
The pond of men I have to choose from these daz is just a lil mud puddle compared to when I used to be young and lucious! I keep fishin

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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Too old to be in this pond? Posted: 5/31/2008 8:41:44 AM
I keep getting messages from guys in their late 30's and I guess they are serious. I always tell them thanks for flirtin with granny but that I have a SON their age! I'd rather be an old man's sweetie than a younger man's fool.

howaboutithoney

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Why men don´t want to get committed these days Posted: 5/23/2008 10:08:35 AM
Yeah---what she said!!!

howaboutithoney

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I figured out the girls on POF Posted: 4/27/2008 6:13:57 AM
Did you ever try reading a profile to see what they are looking for?? If that is you then you will probably receive a response. I respond to everyone who messages me. Probably only 1:20 have actually read or care to read my profile.

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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is this a catch and release program?? Posted: 4/26/2008 6:55:27 AM
One again---here I am the fountain of useless knowledge!! Dr. Phil says you should look for an 80% match to find true love.

howaboutithoney

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Trying to be a twisted Karma Posted: 4/15/2008 5:15:21 PM
I have actually met men who were so mad at their last wife or gurlfriend that I could not talk to them. I refer to them as "women haters". No one I want to date. Pleeeaaassseeee I have enough troubles!

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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cute women with no personality or conversational skills Posted: 4/15/2008 5:01:29 PM
You are describing me. Trouble is that the men on here all want to keep dating and dating cuz they are afraid they are gonna meet a supermodel or a rich woman who just can't keep her hands out of his pants! Men are ruined by the internet, even good men.

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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cute women with no personality or conversational skills Posted: 4/15/2008 4:48:29 PM
I go out w/men who are the SAME way!!! I think you have to find those people who like to communicate cuz the rest will leave you floundering. I am actually more fun than anyone else I know hehehehehe

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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New to POF - Need Advice Posted: 4/14/2008 2:35:47 AM
You should STAY on here!!! Just be cautious cuz it's the internet!! You need to do some searches like in your area and then you can search by hobby or for redheads or whatever you like!! Save some to favorites and see what happens then. Is that what you have been doing?? If you read profiles sometimes they give you stuff to talk about---dogs, cooking--send an email then! Just be careful who you swoop on and be sure the person is the person they claim to be and is relatively problem free (emotionally & financially too) before you get serious. You will learn to spot red flags. I have met some really wonderful people on this site. You need to use POF as a tool. Be cautious but have fun!

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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Bye Posted: 4/12/2008 2:29:01 PM
I ask em right up front if they are married or have gurlfriends. If so I tell them politely that I do not do that. Then I move on. You can find some nice friends on here if you keep weeding them out. It IS time consuming and awful brutal sometimes---I agree. What are ya gonna do?? Hang out at the hardware store or the bar or somethin?

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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How do you evaluate other people? Posted: 3/27/2008 6:55:15 PM
Stuff just seems to happen to me in life! I am careful at first for certain requirements like a job and a car & stuff like that. I say if he is best friend material then keep him.

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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Should I date a guy with a dog even though I don't like dogs? Posted: 3/22/2008 8:07:49 AM
You are gonna end up falling in LUV with the dog. Tee hee!!!

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya???? Posted: 3/22/2008 8:05:58 AM
What you see is what you get baby. He would get no points w/me!!

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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a bag of water Posted: 3/16/2008 9:46:13 AM
I have been called lots of things before--that's hilarious. Hellllpppppp I am mmmmeeeeellltttttiiinnnnggg!!!

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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What to cook!!!! Posted: 3/12/2008 12:15:51 PM
I wanna eat at your house. What time is dinner?

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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How does one become a better cook? Posted: 3/5/2008 4:57:49 AM
Get some Betty Crocker cookbooks and a George Foreman grill. Oh and a crock pot is great if you work. There are recipes on the internet all over the place for EZ stuff too. IF you have a friend who cooks really well ask for lessons--do not be shy about it or you will never learn to cook. I have had ALL my friends who are great cooks cook w/me in my kitchen at one time or another.

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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How do I get to know a busy woman? Posted: 3/3/2008 2:41:44 AM
Go slow and beee careful on here. This is the internet and you need to be friends first!! You don't want to be taken advantage of. We are proud of you guys who served in Iraq. hugs

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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What is old fashioned dating, anyways? Posted: 2/28/2008 2:42:42 AM
I resent the idea that women take no responsibility for dating. I plan fun stuff to do and will cook dinner and have drinks at my house for a date if I liked him. Dating should be 50/50 just like anything else!

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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My dog is dying Posted: 2/27/2008 6:36:23 PM
Have the vet give her a PAIN shot first then do the euthanization thing. Lots of hugs to you

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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WHY DID HE STOP CALLING? Posted: 1/24/2008 12:34:23 PM
It sounds to me like you did something that made him angry. You probably did not realize it! Maybe you were not a match hugs

howaboutithoney

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Had enough of jerks Posted: 11/16/2007 9:45:06 AM
I started to get that attitude and had to STOP it cause when you EXPECT them to be jerks it seems like that is how they treat you. It takes a lot of patience to stay on here. It is a kind of punishment you go through to meet the good people. There are some really nice men on here, I try to weed them out in WRITING for a few weeks. If someone is not a match, why waste their time or yours????? Keep feeshing Sweetie

howaboutithoney

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Dating Someone With A High IQ Posted: 11/16/2007 9:39:56 AM
Well being the Fountain of Useless Knowledge that I AM. I did read once that you should have IQ's within 10 points of one another to be true soulmates. I think it was Neil Clark Warren--sooooo we know where that goes----Eharmony Come now????? I would like to prove that this is untrue. In various tests for personality and left/right brain compatibility I have read no such garbage and have seen have no sort of evidence in my educational studies. Edu-ma-cation and intelligence are two different things.

howaboutithoney

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how do you overcome your ego? Posted: 11/10/2007 12:42:02 PM
We are not all always a match either. It takes time to meet someone new. It is better to wait on that one good person to have a good match in your relationship.

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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Insults or helpful suggestions? Posted: 11/4/2007 12:53:10 PM
Stop cooking for people who are not gracious. I have had plenty of bad dinners in my day and I am a GREAT cook! It is the opportunity to be together and happy that is most important. People just don't treat each other right, all women think that they are the best cooks too!!! With a new recipe I make it first time for just myself and maybe a good gurlfriend who knows it is an experiment!! SOME people like to cook like me. I use the internet a lot and get new recipes. They are great I just cannot cook too often or I spend too much then eat too much!! Food is good----people are bad. Feed your dawg he won't complain!!!

howaboutithoney

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Many Fish In The Ocean, But Not Much To Sea Posted: 11/4/2007 12:44:54 PM
I think you DO get out of the site what you put in but proceed w/caution tooo Chickadee. There are some people out to just find one nasty ole thang with their nasty ole thangs. You should keep fishing and treat other people the way you want to be treated. Makes me feel better to know I have not hurt someone ELSE's feelings. It all works both ways and men are men afterall we are not all a match. You would not want to be matched up with the wrong fishie and be miserable. I am like the others on here. Just waiting for that ole magic to happen and having fun where I can. Try not to be mean, judgmental or toooooo awful honest sometimes---spare everyone's feelings is always my motto. That way I like to think that they do the same for me (huh---they are men tho & they don't know HOW!!) Lotsa hugs Have FUN fishin --- just be yerself & HAVE FUN!!!

howaboutithoney

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Where are all the GOOD guys? Posted: 9/8/2007 11:07:08 AM
There is a book by Dr. Phil---called Love Smart. Get it from the library and remember to send ME some private email. I got more stories than you!!!! hang in there Sweetpea xoxo

howaboutithoney

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Appetizer Competition Party - looking for recipe suggestions Posted: 8/31/2007 2:27:06 AM
yum--guess you did win!!

howaboutithoney

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Help!!! What's wrong with my profile? Posted: 8/25/2007 8:29:42 AM
I do not think the problem is your profile Sweetie. It is just the animals that are reading it. You are painfully honest and on the Internet honesty is not the policy I have found most to lie about weight and age. hugs

howaboutithoney

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personality,,,looks,,, qualities,,and is it wrong to expect all of these in your realationships. Posted: 8/25/2007 8:01:03 AM
I am not overly impressed w/myself mind you. I DO have looks and intelligence and personality and a sense of humor and lostsa other junk. It does not keep all the men from treating me like dirt.

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep? Posted: 8/11/2007 9:06:14 PM
MEN have dogs in the bed too. It is not just a GURL thang!

howaboutithoney

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Reasons why you left your ex PRIVATE /or inevitable discussion? Posted: 8/11/2007 8:23:17 AM
I agree I am friends w/all of my exs but it is my unqualified opinion that you should NOT sleep w/them. We are just good friends and we can count on each other. I don't like to keep lying, cheating types around tho. You cannot trust people like that to BE good friends.

howaboutithoney

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Reasons why you left your ex PRIVATE /or inevitable discussion? Posted: 8/11/2007 8:16:25 AM
I personally think it is important to take SOME kinda responsibility for a failed relationship and examine it so you don't do it AGAIN!! Tee hee

howaboutithoney

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nawwww.. this isn't working for me Posted: 7/30/2007 2:11:18 PM
I tell em right up front honey. I have used the internet as a good tool to weed em out date em and weed em out again many times. Lotsa nice guys on here but you have to WORK at it Itellya! xoxo Val

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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Am I Asking Too Much??? Posted: 7/15/2007 9:58:49 PM
You have not been on here for too long yet Sweetie hang in there & do not stop looking. I think there IS such a thing as trying too hard sometimes. I saw this TV program where this one chick was on the internet for 10 years w/only a few second dates!! Now SHE had trouble. She was interrogating the men!! Tee hee--like a job interview & wayyyyy tooo demanding. SHE scared the men away before they even had a chance of being friends. Very good that you know what you want. That is 1/2 the battle---keep lookin. You sound like a great person. Maybe get out & do lotsa volunteer stuff or stuff in the community to meet people too??? I LIKE it myself. Happy Fishing Sweetie Pie

howaboutithoney

Joined: 9/29/2006

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What Women should never wear on a date Posted: 7/10/2007 11:20:58 AM
I agree with the other women--take a shower, iron your shirt and get rid of dog hair please!! Viagara---000hhhh nooooo

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