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to date or not to date...a virgin? Posted: 9/9/2009 7:45:40 PM
How old is he? If he is over about 20 and still hasn't had sex I'd have to say there is likely something wrong with him. He does it for mommy and daddy? Do they still wipe his butt for him too?

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What are disadvantages in dating that you experience as a guy? Posted: 5/8/2009 10:32:20 AM
I don't have any issues with dating. I have about four planned planned dates. I take every woman on one of these dates. They are cheap and fun and they all end back at my house. Usually she spends the night after the first date. If she doesn't I don't call her again. After all four dates we just hang out and rent movies. I agree with Chip. I'm a much better dater than I am a boyfriend.

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why are guys hot & cold? Posted: 5/8/2009 10:26:15 AM
He's discovered that you will have sex with him when he tells you these things.

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What is it about females and wanting a nice guy fix????? Posted: 5/8/2009 10:23:06 AM
Are you kidding? Women don't want nice guys. They want jerks! Don't believe me? Ask any woman what word she uses to refer to her last boyfriend. Women LOVE jerks!

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Style Posted: 5/8/2009 10:16:03 AM
Fashion? ROFL! I have to update most of my dates! Most women have no clue what to wear.

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Why are looks important? Posted: 4/25/2009 7:53:13 AM
Good looks = good health. When a man chooses a woman health is a huge concern. He wants to be sure she'll have healthy children. But, all this is programed by evolution and not really a matter of choice on the part of the man. He may not even want children. None of us decide what we find attractive anymore than we dicide what our eye color is going to be. We see something and we like looking at it or we don't.

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question Posted: 4/25/2009 7:48:41 AM
Because he's found someone hotter than you, but hasn't been able to get a date with her yet. This way he can say he's single, but still have you sort of on the hook. He's not too sharp is he?

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What do you feel about IE Posted: 4/20/2009 7:48:44 AM
If a woman has sex with me I will call her again and again and again. I like sex and I like women that like sex. If a woman doesn't have sex with me at the end of our first date I do not call her again. But, I've had sex on all but two first dates sense my divorce many years ago. So, it's seldom an issue. I do not tell a woman that if she doesn't have sex with me I won't be calling back. They just seem to want to.

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Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's? Posted: 4/17/2009 7:45:16 AM
That statement cracks me up Mr. Scoundrel! I have to wonder just what part of the lady in question's anatomy are you lookin at? I am looking at her from head to toe. I have found that young, thin, attractive women are MUCH friendlier and easy to talk to than women close to my age. Maybe the 40 something women simply don't like the way I say hello. It could be something I am doing.

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how long should you wait? Posted: 4/16/2009 7:55:30 AM
I never ask for this. Women are the one's that talk about kind of thing. Either we are having sex or we aren't. That's as serious as I want to get.

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Men in their 40's, attracted to women in their 40's? Posted: 4/16/2009 7:52:49 AM
I'm sure there are a lot of over 40 women out there. But everytime I try to chat one up she snarls at me. So, I go and talk to the 20 somethings. They are much nicer and usually better looking as well. The funny thing is those same women that pushed me away will then complain about me "only dating 20 year olds." LOL

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Always in the friend zone Posted: 4/16/2009 7:47:37 AM
I think you should have sex with them one the first date. That will keep you out of the friend zone.

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Issues communicating? Posted: 4/13/2009 7:46:50 AM
LOL Do you mean nagging? I always ignore nagging. Maybe the issue means more to you than it does to someone else. Ask your self "who will care about this 100 years from now?" If the answer in no one, let it go.

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Do nerds actually have girlfriends? Posted: 4/13/2009 7:44:34 AM
The reason nerds are nerds is because they have poor social skills. They just don't seem to understand the whole human interaction thing. They often push too hard or not hard enough. They can't find the middle ground that works well for them. They may have a life partner willing to put up with it though.

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To be yourself or be who you want to be? Posted: 4/13/2009 7:41:16 AM
I am always striving to improve myself. I read philosphy, Plato, Kant etc. I do not pretend to be something I'm not.

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Issues communicating? Posted: 4/13/2009 7:37:14 AM
I have often refused to discuss something with someone else. I do it because I feel I'm right, they don't agree and likely never will. Life is too short to waste it arguing about something that doesn't really matter anyway. Moreover, I've found that I can often say more by saying nothing.

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who takes the first step? Posted: 4/13/2009 7:33:53 AM
Most of the time I take the first step in an interaction with a strange woman. I do it because she may not. I'm assertive that way.

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how long is the divorce process? Posted: 4/13/2009 7:31:57 AM
Mine took about 3 months. But, she had basically abandoned my son and me and was living in a motel and doing a LOT of drugs. She didn't even show up in court. She was not a happy person.

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Why lie? Posted: 4/13/2009 7:29:05 AM
People lie because that don't have the guts to tell the truth. Or because they're afraid of losing something.

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Are You Just As Foolish As Ever? Posted: 4/9/2009 7:40:13 AM
OMG! I used to let women wrap me around thier little fingers. If she was upset I would do back flips trying to please her. Now when a woman is upset with me I laugh at her. If she gets mad about that I go out and meet another woman. Say no to nagging!

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Spending Time in Nature with Someone Special: Any ideas? Posted: 4/6/2009 8:23:39 AM
Walk in the park, go to the zoo, play frizbe, golfing, swimming, this is too easy.

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Concerning makin love.. Posted: 4/6/2009 8:21:35 AM
I still have sex in more or less the same way as when I was in my 20s. Although I'm a lot better at it! I slept with seven differant women last year and that is far fewer than when I was younger. But, I have a job now and it cuts into my social agenda somewhat.

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Is it true that a guy has to feel successful, he wont feel good enough for a woman? Posted: 4/6/2009 8:14:11 AM
This is true of SOME guys. Others understand that women are interested in things besides money.

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Way do guys say they want more when all they really want is sex? Posted: 4/6/2009 8:10:26 AM
Because they think you won't have sex with them unless they lie to you. Are they right? Maybe you are attracted to liers?

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Do successful men want higher maintenance women? Posted: 4/3/2009 8:38:49 AM
Aren't all women high maintenance? I've never known one that didn't need some kind of fuss made over her from time to time. In responce to the question; no. No one wants more stress in their life and that's what a high maintenance woman is. More so a man that works hard long hours making money. He's already stressed from his job. He wants a woman that will have everything ready for him when he gets home.

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Is life and dating simpler now the kids have grown up? Posted: 4/3/2009 8:31:49 AM
It's simplier until my dates find out they are younger than my son. That kind of freaks them out sometimes.

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?? Posted: 4/3/2009 8:29:06 AM
You could have sex with him. That would keep me interested.

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What am I doing wrong Posted: 3/23/2009 8:38:15 AM
The thing you are doing wrong is you are putting all your eggs in one basket. You are a man. You don't get to choose your woman. All we can do is present ourselves and allow her to choose us or refuse us. You can never make someone else want you. Move on to another woman and see how it goes.

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make your date dinner? Posted: 3/21/2009 8:00:23 AM
Maybe you should have had sex with him? I always call a woman back that has sex with me.

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Chatting it up with your Opposite Posted: 3/16/2009 7:18:03 AM
I think I talk to many more differant kinds of people in real life than I do here. I seem to communicate better face to face.

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Would you feel comfortable using the bathroom in front of someone you are attracted to? Posted: 3/16/2009 7:12:09 AM
No. I do not feel comfortable going to the bathroom when someone I'm attracted to is watching. Not even when she's asked to to pee on her in the shower. Yes, I once dated a nurse that asked me to do that.

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Is your city the reason you're single? Posted: 3/14/2009 7:28:34 AM
I'm sure where I live is why I'm single. I live between two of the biggets cities in the US and there are so many smart, funny, attractive women I can't see any reason to limet myself to just one.

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I want him to take me to a strip club Posted: 3/12/2009 7:38:48 AM
ROFL!!! I like to take dates to strip clubs. I think it's funny. Sometimes I even buy her a lap dance. But, I buy it from the fattest, oldest, uglyest stripper in the place. It's great fun.

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Decisions about clothes for mature daters Posted: 3/12/2009 7:35:35 AM
Unlike most men, I'm interested in fashion. But, I can't offer you any advice without at least seeing a photo of you. I'm not in these forums often, so if you'd like me to try and help you feel free to fishmail me.

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significant other or what? Posted: 3/9/2009 8:07:25 AM
I perfer to be introduced as her "monster stud muffin." Okay, for real. I like being called her "special friend." I feel it says everything without making a big deal about it.

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Guys, girls and porn Posted: 3/9/2009 8:05:46 AM
Addiction is defined by the way it effects the other parts of your life. Is she buying porn instead of paying the rent? If she is then no.

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General question and a stereotype Posted: 3/5/2009 7:59:20 AM
What kind of pictures? I have often sent women pictures of myself out doing fun things. Hinting at the fun she could be having with me. If she's sitting home alone, doing nothing she'll call and ask me about it.

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manspeak: when he says he doesn't know what he wants, this means...? Posted: 3/2/2009 7:14:08 AM
"I don't know what I want" means "I don't know what I want, but I know I don't want you."

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How do you tell a someon you don't find them attractive? Posted: 2/28/2009 8:06:26 AM
How do you tell a someon you don't find them attractive? I like to pick up someone new while I'm out with the one I'm not attracted to.

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modern rules Posted: 2/27/2009 7:29:01 AM
The rules are the same today as they've been for the last 10,000 years. The laws of attraction are beyond conscience thought and therefore not under our control. They let you know when you are in range of a high value person by giving you THAT feeling. But, as a woman, you want him to invest in the you. You want to know that he is going to stick around. So, you make him wait until you feel comfortable. This takes about 10 hours that may be spread over a few dates or all in a row. At that point you (the woman) are ready for sex. But, if he doesn't sense your readiness and make a move you may assume that he's either too stupid, not interested or gay. At which time you think of him as a friend and he'll never change your mind again. Any other rules you may have heard or read about are not about attraction and relationships, they are about power. They are head games. Head games are for the insecure.

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what is wrong with me Posted: 2/26/2009 7:21:49 AM
*For the benifit of those without a sense of humor, what follows if a joke.* I think you should spend every night sitting alone, at home by your phone waiting for him to call and you should be greatful when he does. He is a busy man, with places to ge and people to see. If he calls up at 11 PM wanting a BJ you should drop to your knees! If it's not you he'll just call another girl. Have you thought about paying him for his time? *End joke* Stop being there every time he calls. Get a life and enjoy it.

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Attracting people our own age..... Why is it so difficult?? Posted: 2/21/2009 11:56:58 AM
It's my feeling that it's always the woman that chooses the man. All a man can do is present himself to her. I catch a lot of flack from women my own age because I tend to date women in their 20s. But, every time I approach a woman close to my age she snubs me before I can even say hello. So, I go and talk to the 20 somethings. Why should I date a woman my own age when there are so many young women that will date and have sex with me?

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How to break up without hurting? Posted: 2/21/2009 11:48:29 AM
First start doing lots of cocain. Then stop bathing and shaving. Quit your job and use as much of his money as you can. He will leave you and the best part will be that he feels like sh!t because he left when you needed him most.

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WHY DO MEN HEAVILY PURUE, THEN ONCE THEY SEEM TO HAVE CONQUERED THE PREY, LOSE INTEREST? Posted: 2/21/2009 8:07:04 AM
I am a man that dates more women than other men I know. The number reason I move on is because women seem to need a relationship to be "going someplace." Whereas, I'm usually happy where it is. When she starts asking for more it's time for me to move on. I don't want to get involved past a certain point. I like my life as it is. I don't want to change anything about it. I like living alone and I like having a guest four or five times a week. But, I don't want anyone living with me full time.

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How to break up without hurting? Posted: 2/21/2009 8:00:24 AM
So, you want to break up with a guy, but don't want to hurt him? Is that right? My advice is find a woman that is perfect for him, tell her what a great guy he is and why you feel they'd be great together, introduce them and let nature takes it's course. If you find the right girl he'll likely break up with you and never shed a tear. Yeah I know, that would be a lot of work, but you asked.

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How do you know when your guy Friend is interested in you more then just friends?? Posted: 2/9/2009 7:55:03 AM
How do you know when your guy Friend is interested in you more then just friends?? You flirt with him and see how he responds!

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Do you feel the need to constantly talk when you're with a a bf/gf? Posted: 2/9/2009 7:52:35 AM
I don't "feel a need." However, I've found that if I can keep an interesting conversation going it will avoid most awarkward moments. Having said that, there are times when I will shut up to see if a woman will start talking about something. This is a test to see how interested she is in me. If she is interested she will want our interaction to go on. So, I guess I sort of make her chase me a little to gage her attraction to me.

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What are some signs to see if a guy likes you or not? Posted: 2/9/2009 7:46:19 AM
Bad news. Most guys give very few hints as to their inner feelings towards a woman. Your best bet is to flirt with him and see if he responds. But, you may have to go pretty far with it before he gets what you are up to.

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Would you date someone whos Best Friend was the opposite sex or there ex? Posted: 2/9/2009 7:32:04 AM
I'm never concerned with who my girlfriend's friends are. It has nothing to do with me. Unless they want to...

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How do you keep going on dates keeping a possitive attitude? Posted: 2/6/2009 8:52:41 AM
Scoundrel, you wrote, "I always take my dates to places where I know a lot of people. I want her to know I have a lot of friends and lead a fun, interesting life. You see, creepy people don't have friends." I would never take a date to a place where I know lots of people. 1. You'll never get a date there again--although, really, you shouldn't date out of a place you go often so never mind on that one. 2. I don't want witnesses to any drama or rejection that might take place on either side ESPECIALLY witnesses I will be seeing again often. 3. Dates hate it when a bunch of people of the opposite gender come and say hello to you. 4. Does the person also need that extra pressure of people watching? 5. They'll know where to find you if you want to avoid them in the future. 6. What if they like the place and keep coming there after you break up? Throwing a drink on another person doesn't always get them to leave, trust me. You use your friends to prove you lead a fun and interesting life? Now, THAT's creepy. Don't you stand on your own? My point is, I don't appreciate you calling other people creepy (who made you judge) and yes, we creepy people do have friends. Sometimes we have to kill and eat them, but, with overpopulation, there will always be more, and really, we should be more appreciated for doing our part to solve a world problem. Firstly Icestorm, I didn't say anything about you, so don't take it so personally. As for the rest of your post, the dates I go on work for me. I do make my date work a little for my attention and I do things to make her feel a little jealous. I want her to KNOW that I'm with her not because I have no other choice, but because I want to be WITH HER. If this is wrong or some kind of head game in your opinion fine. You do your thing and I'll do mine. We can all live happy.

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