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MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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Great sex without orgasm - sounds weird, but anyone experienc this? Posted: 5/19/2013 4:49:00 AM
Yes, I have had some very memorable sex sessions where I did not orgasm....or at least I didn't have one of those intense, 15 seconds of "OMG" moments.......but rather a deep, satisfying continuing sense of pleasure that is actually better than an orgasm!!

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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A man with ED? Questions please give info. Posted: 5/16/2013 9:17:52 PM
So the question is most men over 40 do they have ED? according to research.....appx 40% of men over the age of 40 report some sort of sexual dysfunction. Does the Viagra usually work with most people? as stated above.....it depends on the type of ED a man has Does men go through a sexual fixation when they get ED where their mind is stuck on the issue? Every man I know (I work with Veterans) that has ED......obsessivly talks about sex. Is it common for a man to complain that know one wants him because of the ED? It is here in the forums!!

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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5 dates and zero signs of progress Posted: 5/16/2013 3:24:10 PM
Do you have any other date ideas that promote being close and holding hands? Horse drawn carriage ride Carnival/Amusement park where you can ride in same car/seat

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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New to rough sex. Posted: 5/16/2013 11:38:31 AM
The only real whore in this story is the attention whore that started it!

MsMicki

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5 dates and zero signs of progress Posted: 5/16/2013 7:20:01 AM
Somewhere......in another forum........is a post from a young girl asking why the man she has been on 5 dates with hasn't even tried to hold her hand or kiss her goodnight! Sounds like she has no more exerience at this than you do.......so man up and show her the way! And for gawd's sake.......call her and ask her out instead of texting! Maybe if she heard the interest/excitement in your voice instead of trying to read "intent" in words she'd get that you are serious about her!! It's okay to text all day......but nothing beats picking up your phone and hearing a voice now and then!

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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New to rough sex. Posted: 5/15/2013 7:12:27 AM
The more I read......the more I am believing this is nothing but the fantasy of an over imagination!! Overweight, smoker, no picture and married....and somehow is working on his 3rd meetup for sex ?!? I have a feeling there is a wife wishing his penis was as active as his imagination!!

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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Gender equality and tradition Posted: 5/12/2013 9:34:25 PM
As for equality-I'd like to see a man shell out the kind of money we do on makeup, hair/skin products, and a good selection of outfits for dating. Men prefer our nails done, hair up to date, and for us to look cute. That's your issue........not the mans! I have never shelled out lots of money on makeup or hair care products....and I'm quite the bargain shopper. Do my own nails too! Never had a problem getting a date! AND......I guarantee you... my man spends far more on hair/skin products and clothing than I ever have!!

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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Boyfriend has and is insecure about it Posted: 5/12/2013 9:29:04 PM
You accept him for who he is....and let him deal with it in his way. Don't draw attention to it.......don't tell him it doesn't bother you.......because it does bother him.

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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Food Pictures Posted: 5/11/2013 9:53:28 PM
Everyone of them turned out great.....but I tend to tweak recipes to suit my tastes!!

MsMicki

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What to do with mustard Posted: 5/10/2013 5:38:44 PM
One of my favorite marinades: 1/4 cup mustard 1/4 cup honey 3 - 4 T Soy Sauce 1 T Cajun Seasoning works great on pork and chicken

MsMicki

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FWB Posted: 5/10/2013 4:19:58 PM
But have you thought that maybe he was rude to her because he suddenly had to share you with somebody else? Wasn't he rude out of jealousy and insecurity? . Exactly........and the longer Daddy doesn't bring a female around.....the more intense that jealousy will become when Daddy does meet a great lady.

MsMicki

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Food Pictures Posted: 5/9/2013 8:00:40 PM
I'm with you Tizzy! Wish we could post pics......would love to see some of the creations folks do here! and I'm loving all the Pinterest pics/recipes on FB these days! I've tried numerous new recipes in the last couple months just because of the pics!

MsMicki

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FWB Posted: 5/9/2013 11:16:26 AM
If you aren't wanting to date.......then don't date. The issue is completely dismissing the idea of dating in the future. None of us knows what our future holds.....and should always be open to the possibility of meeting someone to share our life with. When a child is involved......you just take extra precautions that whoever you bring into their lives is the right kind of person. Many of us were raised by excellent step-parents, myself included. Expecting classmates, movies and television shows to be an example of how relationships work is very immature of you, and completely unfair to your son. If you want to be "in control" of his environment as much as you say you do.......why in the world would you want him to think that what he sees on TV is healthy??!!

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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New to rough sex. Posted: 5/9/2013 10:42:04 AM
Believe it or not.......I completely agree with you that one partner should not deny their partner sex/intimacy. What I don't beleive in......is cheating behing your partners back. If you can't be honest about your desires.....you don't have a good enough marriage to save in the first place.

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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New to rough sex. Posted: 5/9/2013 7:42:19 AM
I don’t recall saying she is a prostitute. I give her $100 and we spend 4 hours together. That’s certainly not prostitute wages. So the meth head that charges $10 for a BJ isn't a prostitute just because of the cheap price? A whore.....is a whore....is a whore - price doesn't negate the act of sex for money!! I am having sex with one woman only. It's amazing how you think you can twist the phrase "one woman man" into suiting your situation. The rationalizations you come up with are classic examples taught in the most basic of psychology classes!!

MsMicki

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The Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone (aka the AFE Zone or A-Spot) Posted: 5/8/2013 9:01:47 PM
Ah heck...a man card isn't that big of a deal...I got my man card in here awhile back when I was told I f*ed like a man!! sex spots.....age spots....white spots in my grey spots... I grow anymore spots I'm gonna turn into a dalmation! Touch and tease until you find a spot that makes her moan.....than name it what ever you want! I prefer to call mine "Ahhh spots"!

MsMicki

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Training needed? Seriously? Posted: 5/6/2013 9:34:19 AM
I find it hard to believe that anyone that chooses to be so obtuse and argumentative over the fact that children need to be taught the intricacies of life......can possibly be a good lover!! If you won't listen to reason here....how do you expect us to believe you will listen to reason in the bedroom?!

MsMicki

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Text? Posted: 5/6/2013 8:50:06 AM
Why oh why would you want to be with someone that has blown you off for 2 weeks??? If someone has ignored you for 2 straight weeks.......they aren't in to you. Period.

MsMicki

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Something that started so casually.... Posted: 5/6/2013 5:27:23 AM
Dang........is jealousy rearing it's ugly head here or what? OP is happy........isn't that all that matters?! A "relationship" is what ever the 2 people involved want it to be. and wth on those thinking it should be more than twice a week at this point? Some people don't feel the need to crawl up someone's butt just because they are a couple!! and just who said this was nothing but sex? Ya'll sure do assume alot!! Keeping it casual does not necessarily mean it's only sex....it can mean anything these days. Maybe it just means exactly what the OP stated.......no expectations, no pressure and no drama!! Living life day to day and being happy in the moment. Ya'll might want to try it!

MsMicki

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You meet, you date, it goes well...and then... Posted: 5/6/2013 4:46:22 AM
Was always a worry of mine as well. I could never imagine leaving my home that I have busted my ass to have.....and have the way I wanted!! Luckily, I fell in love with a man that had just moved back to our home state and he was just renting...... so I have made room for him and his things and it is now "our" home. But it will always only be in my name and he has no issues with that. At this stage in our lives, this is definately something that should be discussed fairly early in a relationship. Especially in this time where people are dating more long distance than before.

MsMicki

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Gender equality and tradition Posted: 5/5/2013 8:14:23 PM
As with all things.....you can't paint either gender with a broad brush. You can have a young woman raised in today's ever changing society that has a traditional mindset on dating.... or you can have a 50 year old woman raised with the traditional ideas who prefers to not sit idly by waiting for a man to make a move. It boils down to individuals....and their own personal choices. Some men will not let a woman pay..... Some men expect a woman to pay.... Some women expect the man to pay.... Some prefer to pay their share. You cannot analyze which will want what by their age, economic stature, political beliefs, religious beliefs, etc. Me.....I'm smack in the middle! Stuck between being on my own for 17 years and doing for myself..... and now having a man in my life that is used to being the bread winner and person that doesn the "manly"stuff around the house. We are adjusting as we go..... He is learning that it's okay for a woman to till the garden.... and I'm learning how to ask for help more often!! We live together...so there is none of that "my" or "his" money.....it is "our" money. When we were dating.....He paid for dinners out....I paid for dinners in and we have basically kept that arrangment now that we live together. Every relationship works differently.....it's up to the 2 people involved to decide how theirs will work.

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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New to rough sex. Posted: 5/5/2013 7:13:47 PM
I'm a one woman (at a time) man. I need that connection. I guess I'm just old fashioned. Huh.......wait........what?

MsMicki

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tips on becoming a better sex partner Posted: 5/3/2013 7:12:09 PM
Thing I have learned from porn: * Ice cubes can be fun * Putting the glass dildo in the fridge can be fun * Guys like to hear women make noises and seriously slobber while giving head * Some chicks can squirt half way across the room! * Babysitters get paid with dik instead of money these days * Aholes take a minute or two to go back to normal!! Everyone is correct........communication is key! Also.....paying attention to your partners responses is key.

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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Training needed? Seriously? Posted: 5/3/2013 6:58:02 PM
If people need in depth lessons into this stuff, that's kind of sad I think. . It's quite obvious you aren't a parent....or been around a young child much!!! Just because you don't remember it......doesn't mean it didn't happen!! I guarantee you.......your mother taught you how to wash your butt..... and someone had to teach you how to aim in the toilet!! Ever hear of someone putting Cheerios in the toilet so their sone would learn some aim??!! These are things that are "taught"....and through practice you got the hang of it. Very much like sex.....cuz I know you weren't some sexpert your first time....or 2nd time....or even your 3rd time!

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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Training needed? Seriously? Posted: 5/3/2013 2:55:33 PM
I'm with ^^ on this one! You were taught how to bath....how to eat....how to brush your teeth....how to comb your hair. It isn't like we are dogs or cats and it's instinctual!! I also agree.......that the more inspiring my lover.....the more inspired I become! Fill me up with Cinnamon Whiskey and I'm a creative genius! LOL Now where's my sammich?

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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Training needed? Seriously? Posted: 5/2/2013 8:24:58 PM
I agree that the word "training" in itself denotes issues of control and just sounds demeaning all around. Communication is all it takes........whether that communication is before, during or after the lovemaking. I tend to find out more about what my partner likes out of the bedroom......during those fun moments when we are whispering what we want to do...or want done to us later that night. Sexy talk leads to great sex!! and btw.....you gotta try some horseradish cheese on that sammich!! Can you please put on those assless chaps and colander and fix me one?!!

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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Fisting!!! Posted: 5/2/2013 8:03:35 PM
Cinnamon Whiskey works! Who's got the ludes? Nails all trimmed and filed and ready to go!! Can't say this was on my bucket list.....but adding it now! LOL

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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Fisting!!! Posted: 5/2/2013 6:02:48 AM
Sorry......but not every woman is capable of this!! Unless it involves some whiskey and a few qualudes......it's not happening! No room at the inn!

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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Dating Younger Women: Maybe It's Not A Great Idea Posted: 4/30/2013 6:41:35 AM
when I hit 27 I started thinking older women would be more mature mentally.. ....says the 33 year old man with the hairdo of a 16 year old....

MsMicki

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New to rough sex. Posted: 4/28/2013 8:30:39 PM
You left out the part where the gal that does do you gets paid to do you!! Maybe you should offer your wife the same deal!! You are here for one reason only......to brag about your conquest. Just a pathetic old fool needing to have his ego stroked. Thing is.....you don't need our comments to fill your narcissistic needs...... you are paying for that once a week!!

MsMicki

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Why are there so many women my age who want a biker? Posted: 4/28/2013 7:01:14 PM
90% of the bikers I know...... are more caring and giving than those that don't ride! They spend alot of their time participating in benefits for various causes, raising alot of money while riding in poker runs, cutting off their pony tails to donate to Locks of Love, supporting our troops......I could go on and on. It has nothing to do with dating a "bad boy"......and everything to do with dating a compassionate man and getting to snuggle up to his back and feeling the wind in your hair. BTW....my biker man has 0 tattoes, doesn't own a do-rag, has a great job and looks damn good in his leather chaps!

MsMicki

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Training needed? Seriously? Posted: 4/28/2013 6:40:28 PM
And that opinion of myself, is based allot on what I've heard woman say about me. So....the women that can't be inspired to do more than just lay there tell you how great you are in bed??? Anyone else see the irony of that statement?

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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New to rough sex. Posted: 4/28/2013 10:08:02 AM
Pretty sure we've all figured out why the wife doesn't want to do him!!!

MsMicki

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New to rough sex. Posted: 4/26/2013 8:37:27 PM
.She offered a "workaround" as a deliberate act of love and affection towards you even though she did not have the desire. This is admirable and showed that she did care about your feelings/desires. She wasn't just going through the motions, believe it. She loved you and cared enough to want to do this for you. You interpret it as "pity sex" (belittling/demeaning)? Did you show any appreciation for her efforts? She does this for you and you go behind her back to someone else because of some misguided notion of "pity sex"? Thing is.....if he had any clue.......he would have turned that pity sex into the type of sex she'd come back for!! If I'm not in the mood...my man just puts forth a bit of extra effort to get my motor running.....that's why I'm rarely not in the mood!

MsMicki

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New to rough sex. Posted: 4/24/2013 6:28:55 AM
DD....there is a huge difference between you and the OP. It is one thing to fall victim to a weak moment,which you haven't eved done.....and quite another to publicly announce to the world that you are looking for sex outside your marriage ...then publicly announce every detail of that affair once it started. OP repeatedly states his wife doesn't want a divorce......but he has not given his wife a chance to make an informed decision. She thinks she is staying with a faithful man. He refuses to tell her the truth, because he knows she will leave. And he knows his little paid friend would never step into the wives shoes.

MsMicki

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New to rough sex. Posted: 4/22/2013 8:12:10 PM
If your wife is as well educated, etc as you state..... she knows she can fix her lack of desire. I'm sticking with her lack of desire is directly related to her sexual experiences with YOU! I bet the wife tried to communicate her sexual needs at some point.....and they were ignored. Why have sex with the same ole', same ole' if it's not going to be any different than it was last year....or the year before. I'd lay odds theres a vibrator or nice hand held shower head somewhere in the wifes' life!! btw.......please don't try to tell us how great the paid girlfriend thinks you are in bed.... anyone can buy words of praise!!

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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New to rough sex. Posted: 4/22/2013 4:33:06 AM
[quoteI should request a pityf*ck tonight and slap her azz while doing it doggy style classic example of a man that just doesn't get the difference between passion and lovemaking. This would fall under the "sexually incompatible" department......and it looks like you are the common denominator in both cases (the paid g/f and the wife) I will always consider her a friend who helped me when I needed it LMAO.....friends don't charge you to be a friend...or lover!!!

MsMicki

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New to rough sex. Posted: 4/21/2013 7:22:30 AM
well maybe we now know why you're wife quit having sex with ya!! LOL Honestly, if this isn't natural to you....it will show. that kind of intense, sexual passion isn't really something that can be taught...... you either have it.....or you don't

MsMicki

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Please tell me what you think... Posted: 4/20/2013 4:57:52 AM
Man.....your little story sucked me right in.....up until this comment..... Tell me I'm gorgeous and you want to come sweep me off my feet and take me away. ;) . How do you say in one breath you could spend your life with this man.... and then in the next put yourself out there as available? Maybe he senses that you really don't know what you want and is holding himself back because of it.

MsMicki

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Oral stimulation of breasts and nipples Posted: 4/16/2013 1:36:16 PM
well gang bang wasn't on my bucket list.......but I'm adding it just so I can cross it off!!

MsMicki

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Oral stimulation of breasts and nipples Posted: 4/16/2013 6:35:35 AM
Ladies, is it rather common for men to grope your breasts during sex? grope? pretty sure "groping" was back in high school.... Have you ever had sex with a man who didn't do this, or seemed real timid of it? Huh what? a man NOT touch/fondle/lick/suck boobs? Do they even exist?

MsMicki

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Pre-qualifiying quality men Posted: 4/12/2013 5:22:33 AM
I'm curious... how do you know they only want sex??? a lifetime of sex always begins with a "first time"...... in other words....a "first time" doesn't have to mean an "only time".

MsMicki

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How valued are men? Posted: 4/11/2013 7:38:56 AM
Honestly happy my views might surprise you! I don't think every woman that has a child deserves respect/recognition just because she gave birth. I base my respect/recognition on what kind of mother (or father) someone is. With eyes wide open......I've seen some awesome mothers......but I've also seen those awesome mothers use their children as a weapon in a divorce, or as an excuse for many things.....greatly diminishing their awesomeness! Yes, I agree parenting is a full time job......and that in any relationship both partners should appreciate what each other does to contribute to the raising of a family.

MsMicki

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Stuffed Jalapenos Posted: 4/11/2013 7:26:28 AM
I do mine a bit differently.... brown sausage making sure to crumble into small pieces add cream cheese and shredded cheese of your choice and stir all together stuff peppers ( you can also use banana peppers or other milder peppers if you're not into "hot") wrap with bacon that has been cooked about 1/2 way done (doesn't have to bake/grill as long) either bake in oven or grill

MsMicki

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A recent hookup left me bruised and sore all over...is that normal or just weird? Posted: 4/11/2013 7:18:27 AM
I don't understand the problem...... Not once do you say he was hurting you during sex..... You seem to be enjoying the intensity of the sex.......just not the after-effects of it. I agree that if you two are doing nothing different than you always have.....and now you are bruising.... it may be a medical issue.

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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How valued are men? Posted: 4/11/2013 7:10:38 AM
^^^ Just to name a few women that died in service on 9/11.... •Captain Kathy Mazza, Port Authority of New York and New Jersey Police Department •Moira Smith, Police Officer, New York City Police Department •Yamel Merino, EMT and a few that survived, but were heroes that day... •FDNY Lietenant Brenda Berkman (who has spoken out eloquently on the invisibility of the women of Ground Zero in media coverage) •EMT Bonnie Jean Giebfried •NYPD Lieutenant Terri Tobin •FDNY Firefighter Maureen McArdle Schulman

MsMicki

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super easy sunday breakfast Posted: 4/10/2013 5:49:45 AM
I've seen that recipe floating around Facebook Rax...... have you tried it? Is the oatmeal "gummy"? That was my concern about trying it.....

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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How valued are men? Posted: 4/8/2013 6:27:16 AM
if nothing else........this thread proves why some of ya are perpetually single!! Good lord!

MsMicki

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Getting to know someone and seeing if you're 'sexually compatible' or 'teasing'??? Posted: 4/5/2013 11:16:04 AM
I'm so confused! you say We did NOTHING but kiss... but keep referring to making out and teasing ??? How is kissing even considered making out...or teasing??? I definately don't understand the need to proclaim "we can do this....but not that" If on a date and things start to become passionate........I either go with the flow........or just say "Shewwie, you sure do make a girl want to forget about her own boundaries, but I need to walk away right now and think about all this" The rule stating beforehand......would be a mood breaker to say the least!

MsMicki

Joined: 10/2/2006

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Do all women over 50 cringe when they hear the word SEX !! Posted: 4/5/2013 5:44:09 AM
^^ how pathetic to have to find a financially desperate young lady just to get laid!! I cannot wait for your wife to find this out!

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