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Sexy Toys+Alabama = Jail Time Posted: 10/7/2008 6:05:01 AM
It seems like there are a lot of the elected people are working for an up rising in the people (that is if the people will wake up out of their coma)... Who the HELL elected the fool you have that is proposing this law? What are the people going to do about it, or are they to sedated on some pharmaceutical, that they really don't care any more. Hemmmm ya.. I think they are called "anti-depressents"....

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we need to set up a meeting for pof members of mobile-baldwin area Posted: 3/29/2008 10:53:38 AM
Shame this didn't go anywhere, I saw several profiles from around our area....

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Does Love Really Find You When You're Not Looking? Posted: 12/26/2007 9:37:10 AM
hemmmm... I agree with you Op...Least expect it, not looking for it? pffft!! And those that claim it has happened for them are visiting an on line dating thingy... Nah, no matter how "full" your life is, or feel you are "living it up" there is always that certain void...and ya always aware of it, but I do think it is more of a "ready" personally... Then it could be anyone...that simple...All the rest that were not handsome/pretty..enough...or what ever!!!! To skinny/fat...The next one to come along may even be "better"....These are all just excuses... When you are truly ready for "love" that is when it finds you...

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What do old folks do? Posted: 12/26/2007 9:02:50 AM
I agree with her...It just not the weather to be out on a boat unless both are hardcore peeps!! To me going to a mall is lame...An occasional flea market trip is okay, but again, more suited for pleasant weather..So what do us old foogys do on a date in winter? Movies are for those that are not trying to get to know one another, really. hahaha I like to "watch" the movie!!! Not talk or miss the plot, are a scene that explains something ya need to know to follow the plot...The drive sounded nice, especially if it was "scenic" .. but at the end.. what was left to do? First of all, Plan crap..Duh... Pick a nice scenic drive that "ends" with something to do...Like an out of the way place to grab just a small bite to eat, a bathroom, and maybe some country store you could purchase some kind of small INEXPENSIVE token of the day...So then ya both all fed, but not "stuffed" gone to the bathroom, etc..and ready for the drive back... Here or her place...well like I said, movies are okay, but what about an old fashion board game, like scrabble...again, Plan ahead...Be ready to offer her a favorite beverage, have some sort of snack plate ready to offer... a bucket of chicken, or order a pizza! Another indoor way to share companionship, and be able to talk and get comfortable together..Do a jigsaw puzzle together...the non pull ya hair out by the roots kind...Maybe go pick it out together... What about Pets? Since the kids are usually all grown etc..Pets seem to be the shining stars...and usually very willing to put on a show for some kind of treat or new toy... By all means, step up to the plate guys...If she takes the time to spiffy up her house, spend hours primping, then cooking some very nice meal...it is nice that you take your quick shower and shave and show up...But try and return the favor by doing the same for her, or heck, be a hero and do something "manly" she has needed to get done... Most of all, think of what she has on her plate all week, if she living alone, like you, she has worked, and done all the demands required to meet the week, got some time off, but still gotta get things prepared for the next week...so plan things on her energy level...not yours!!!

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From the horses mouth? Posted: 4/16/2007 8:35:52 AM
Okay, LOl I just had to write about this!!! Last week it came to my attention someone's brother that I am only acquainted with said he had a profile here at POF.. She said that he was having a really good time... and that there are sooo many desperate women "our" age out here...He was happily amazed... Has it come to the point that the banquet is so abundant that men are having a hard time making choices? May even feel less inclined to 'settle' for Pot Roast because dessert MAY NOT yet have been served? Strangely, after this discussion, I didn't even inquire just who her brother might be!!! This could be true, as well, I know... that maybe some of the ladies have also discovered a candy store, and now not so sure if it was lemon drops they went in to get, after seeing all the other sweets being displayed... So are we really helping ourselves here, or just making it more complicated?

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Advantages of NOT posting a picture Posted: 4/1/2007 1:35:28 PM
After several threads of this topic, if you dare mention that Looks have anything to do with your decision to take the next step to get to know someone or... not... Then the general opinion has currently been called 'shallow'... *shrug... all I can say is there has to be some sort of attraction, if that is shallow...then I guess I am.,,

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Long hair on older women Posted: 4/1/2007 12:25:32 PM
Ooh I love this question because everytime I see a woman with long hair I immediately check out the face to see how old it is! Long hair really drags down the face and ifs it already looking "aged" long hair does nothing for that look Bite meh!!! *bows down with humble apologies.... NOT I have had long hair the majority of my life..Just because AGING has defiled me...and robbed me of what you consider only tolerable, youth...will not induce me to have to cut it... Regain my youth? Nothing can do that... and that is a sad reality...I certainly do not think my hair is going to...What a pompous ass!!

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Advantages of NOT posting a picture Posted: 4/1/2007 11:53:44 AM
okay, okay, to be shallow or not to be... that is the question? Bah, to me I see very little advantage to the one taking the chance to 'get to know' someone with no pic posted...I for one am weary of life's disappointments..I have played an on line game for 2 years now.. You meet lots of great folks and you slay dragons and hunt for stuff to kill...You get to be this small game character... and you only know them as their toon..I have come to adore many just from the years and months of nothing but chat to communicate...because personality wise... I could love many!!!I have lots of "friends" in game...but here on a dating site... now matter how much I came to adore them in chat, or emails...I think it would just break my heart if I finally saw a pic, or saw them for the very first time and boom, there just was no attraction what so ever... The disappointment would be crushing...I would LIKE to believe looks would not matter...perhaps they wouldn't had this gone on for such a long time...but what if? And there just was no way I could find them attractive? I just would rather feel there is a chance that that would not happen...Not all pics are good, or current...what ever, but it gives you a starting point...I see couples all the time ya wonder how that attractive man or woman ended up with a less attractive partner...so even a pic is not the only answer..and some personalities shine through a person making them much more attractive "live" ...Post a pic, play fair...

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Long hair on older women Posted: 3/31/2007 12:03:56 PM
Yeahhhh I win!!!

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active vs homebody...can it work? Posted: 3/31/2007 10:32:41 AM
I state I am a "home body" , which I have no problem admitting...But if the guy is the type that can not sit still for more than an hour, what kind of interest and time could we honestly share? I think men should have their interest, but heck, doesn't he have any male friends? He is not romantically interested in them? He will just spend the majority of his time with them? LAO...pass

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Have we forgotten what dating is? Posted: 3/31/2007 10:21:47 AM
A man I exchanged chats/e-mails with asked me out recently. We'd talked before about whether or not either of us were seeing, and we neither of us were. I guess what is not really clear here is the context of those "chats/e-mails" that very well may have some clue to this person's reactions to the overly open and honest information that someone else had been set up for a meeting before them... rather the op 'did anything wrong or not' is basically up to them to decide...and BTW here is the shoe... how does it fit? I must say if I had an ongoing communication with someone and was just about to finally meet them for the first time, thinking it was a possible connection, and hey....sorry, but I gotta meet this other woman first...Nah, think I would rather not know I was taking a back seat even before I had a chance to begin...first meetings are very hard enough without sitting through it wondering if I was measuring up to an already prospect...who needs the extra pressure... and feeling they were already 'standing in line.' Bah Yeah I have popped back by!!!!

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get this Alabama board going Posted: 3/31/2007 9:38:03 AM
wow!!! there is 4 peeps in alabama!!!

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get this Alabama board going Posted: 3/29/2007 11:24:47 AM
Hi Peeps!!! Haven't been by here in over 6 months...Hope all in ALA are doing okies... If anything going on in the Foley are or near it sometime in May please post it!!!!

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Have you ever gotten scammed? Posted: 11/10/2006 9:20:53 AM
OMG... How much fun it would be to turn the tables... I sent you 4 300$ money orders hun... What you didn't get them???

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Middle Aged Cheap Skates.... Posted: 10/30/2006 1:08:39 PM
40 years ago women decided they would like to be liberated... but they still want the man to pay for everything??? 40 years ago I was only 11 years old...Do not remember asking for this... So how is the woman contributing financially? Why is it always expected that the guy foots the bill?.I thought it was the times of"equality".

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Could I fall in love again at 56? Do I want to? Posted: 10/28/2006 10:45:12 AM
I also think you can "Fall in love" at any age..I do not actually, try as I may, remember having a choice.. It just seemed to happen..Last time now is nearly 10 years ago..But would I want to? Yeah...I do..Just hope I can find someone more suitable for me..That maturity has enlightened me to not just go head on willy nilly in an involvement that my mind is sending up flags about, but the attraction is strong..so that I do not listen... Attraction does not live up to the test of time...obviuosly...or infactuation.. What I really hope for is to find someone that honestly loves me..I am cetain so far I have not. The grass for them has been greener elsewhere.. Yet nothing can compare to the emotion of falling in Love..

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What do women look for in a man after 40? Posted: 10/26/2006 10:19:14 AM
Good morning I think the OP,asked what you look for. NOT what your not looking for.Never a good thing , to start out on a negative tone, puts out a bad vibe and makes for hostility. Because that is how it is persived. Hemmm... I wasn't being negative...Over 40 I hope to find a man that may have overcome some of these exact hangups guys much younger take so much pride in.. I'm a smart ass sometimes, a straight talker mostly, and am looking for the same in a woman. Nice profile comment, stephenmech... ~~~~ mizbex~~~~I most certainly will, hun.... newandreadyforu - will you look past whatever minor physical flaws he has and appreciate him for what he is instead of passing him by like you have done so many others. Good comment, hun...Been there, tried that too...I was a pretty girl...and perhaps all the way into my late 30s let physical attraction rule..Then thought, hemmm maybe I need to look for more than just physical attractiveness.. and had let others pass by..but low and behold, less attractive men do not always compensate by being a "better catch." Minor physical flaws~~ we all have those hun...looks fade...but I think I have seen it in enough profiles and on this forum to many times to pretend we are not all holding out for that special spark of some attraction with someone... If this really wasn't the blantant truth, you would see profiles drop by the day here!!! Some call it "chemistry." One thing for damn sure, it may not come through with just a profile pic..it can give just a general idea, and probably doesn't do some peep "justice." But I think this place does have the disadvantage of selling us all a little short, because of that very fact..Most times peeps personalitys can really shine through, and be captivating, making their whole persona very much more attractive..or eyes that peirce the soul, and speak volumns of what awaits inside that person...I have seen smiles that can take your breath away, and no matter what, make you smile back...Doesn't have to be on a perfectly shaped or modeled person to be appreciated...or attractive.. Would I give back all that I have asked in a person? Yes...and I have..I just hope to find someone to appreciate it..

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Mid life recovery..... Posted: 10/26/2006 9:01:12 AM
My sincere advice to you is do what ever it takes to put your feelings for the X behind you... Kids need all that energy wasted, directed on them..No matter how you are feeling, how you can judge, and rationalize the facts and circumstances.. he misses his mom..Thank God (who or whatever you are in to/not) kids have a great ability to adapt to things...But a lost parent is one thing they never just "forget." Having a child involved, and having full time custody of that child means this is not just about "you." IMO when either spouse works in a "bar scene" it isn't surprising something like this can happen..happens enough on regular jobs...add some booze to that and wow you have a company party everyday... Great to see you are trying to move forward and making new friends here at pof...

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What do women look for in a man after 40? Posted: 10/25/2006 9:30:44 AM
Someone that can get their head out of their own ass for some part of the day..That realizes life isn't all about "them." One that has some kind of inkling about women, even if in general... One that has some experience being a real friend with a female... One that has had their fill of chasing little girls, and know they want someone their own age. One that can explain just what the Fook "open minded" really means One that knows what a "good woman" is..And can explain how they discovered that is what they realized they wanted... One that is not judgemental, and has loved unconditionally, anything at least once in their lives... One with real values..integrity, but isn't a pompass ass, and arrogant. One that realizes I come from the era before bras were burned, and not a dike, wasn't raised to be conditioned I was suppose to take on 50% of the living expenses...and hold that against me. (even if I worked all my life) One that realizes "baggage" plays a part of who we develope into, over time...tho hopefully it is baggage we have moved on from, but it is not something that can be totally disregarded.. One that doesn't have a lazy attitude about getting things done when they are needed to be done..or gets all pissed at the world and me because it wasn't what they wanted to have to do that day.. One that can except me just as I am...allow me to make my own decisions, and be smart enough to realize I know by now where I need to make improvements!! One that has a genuine sense of humor. One that is really ready to share themselves, even if it means making sacrafices and compromises..rather than looking for something to just fit comfortably in their own life.. One that knows out of all the 'fishes' out there to be had, no one is going to be perfect..That there may be tradeoffs, know just which ones are important to them, and will not change 6 months down the road.. One that has matured and in spite of any past lessons, can trust again..At least willing to allow me to earn it on my own. And it will be granted where warranted.. One that will discuss crap that comes up..Without putting up walls and barriers or instantly go in the defensive... One that no matter how old we get will occasionally let the little boy in him come out and play with the little girl in me...

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The Fire of Desire Posted: 10/25/2006 7:49:02 AM
I do not think we are given much of a choice here..Nature and by design, menopause, drop in male hormones, health issues, nada nada nada... Have come along and ruthlessly robbed us!! Guess it depends how much ya had to start with, as to how much ya left with!! Being single thro most of the changes, I am not certain how my Fires are burning..Not as preoccupied with it, but maybe because I don't have a handy poker??

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I need some help here....and please be serious.... Posted: 10/25/2006 7:27:50 AM
i am happy to leave her be, but she wont let that happen Think what I am reading here is you feel you are running out of the ability to share her empathy.. After the 2 years of steady support..And just wanted some advice as to how to continue on, or begin the process of moving forward again with your friend...I suggest avoiding any new habits the two of you started on the onset of his passing...Those that have a hard time letting go, actually begin to find it safe and comfortable in their "grieving space." It becomes familiar and anything and everything can seem as a threat to it...Think back on some of the simple things the two of you did when he was alive, where she also felt the warmth and joy of the friendship you two shared..that will feel familiar to her as well...living next door to one another, has to be some actions are activities you changed to accommodate her grief..Stop doing them..perhaps maybe some of her personal enjoyments, planting flowers, etc... you can do to inspire her interest again...Setting out fall bird feeders, squirrel feeders. Perhaps where she can view it as well...Women, by nature are nurturers. And nothing can compare to the pull to care for something..At this time, if she is to withdrawn, wildlife needs no special commitment, or extensive care, as a pet would..But you will be amazed how much of a reminder of "life goes on" when we see the antics of it through nature..These are baby steps.. But without screaming doctors, or being judgemental of either of you, which is not fair ceratainly not knowing enough about either of you to form one...Was just my suggestion to offer..wish you both the best...

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R-E-S-P-E-C-T (Aretha style!) Posted: 10/21/2006 10:14:48 AM
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia Respect is an attitude of acknowledging the feelings and interests of another party in a relationship, and of treating as consequential for the self the helping or harming of the other. Though most commonly referring to interpersonal relationships, it can be used between animals, groups and institutions including countries. Respect does not necessarily imply deference, but a respectful attitude rules out unconsidered selfish behaviour. The concept of respect predates, and does not rely on, the existence of the concept of rights. Respect is sometimes loosely used as a synonym for politeness or manners, though these are behaviours, whereas respect is an attitude. Intercurtural differences in behaviours, self-perception and outward appearance may result in the unintentional appearance of disrespect. Respect is the esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person, a personal quality or ability, or something considered as a manifestation of a personal quality or ability: I have great respect for her judgement. Nice to know although we may have moments where we may feel some things are out of our "control," one thing may always be there if we choose it to be...

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What led to the downfall...? Posted: 10/21/2006 9:48:32 AM
Hemmmm... still a lot of saints out here I failed him by being blind to what he was, content being, to what I thought he could be..I think a part of him thought so too..But... yeah there is the "but." The was to much, and had been a part of his life for so long he just didn't want to let it go... I think he gave it a good try tho..Takes a while to see where you may have gone wrong, so focused on feeling hurt and betrayed, and blah, blah, blah..but none are ever without any contribution...sometimes ya may have to go all the way back to your first few dates to see it...

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Interview from GMA re Internet Dating - Thoughts? Posted: 10/21/2006 8:58:08 AM
*gasp! What? GMA ran out of murder, mayham and disaster!!! Bummer... Good ole technology!! Please do not tell me it took this extreme to realize some guys are born "daters" out looking to notch up the ole bed post rather than look for marraital bliss!!! It is just to shocking to think maybe women are finding out they do not have to approach each encounter with a man as a prenuptial invitation!!! But may find they too are just out for a moment of no strings fun... What is this world coming too??? Bah... nothing has changed... move on GMA... We on the internet are "real" people... eventually.. It's all McDonalds fault ya know...We like things fast!! And if meeting peeps online speeds things up a bit, then it is up to us to learn to keep up..And try to be smarter about how we approach things out here..Some may have a place in their lives where meeting peeps can be easy... Jobs... (but, boy that gets awkward if it doesn't work out) Churches..(but, boy that gets awkward if it doesn't work out) Best friend's friend or relative...(but, boy that gets awkward if it doesn't work out) guess ya see where I am going with this..after a while if ya start putting rules and taboos on how and where ya gonna try and hook up...ya might just end up with nowhere else to go. And yes, there is a smorgasboard of peeps out here on the internet compared to what you might find on your local street, or town...just try and spot the pigs asap if ya want a pic nic for 2...

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Desperation and being older... Posted: 10/21/2006 7:13:10 AM
Awesome... now to me this thread is staring to sound more honest..And no we can not force ourselves on peeps, or make them care for us.. What we can do is not waste time on them!!! Agreed, sometimes it takes what us woman do not genetically have (balls) to "go with the punches" of trying to find someone more suitable, and in the end feel used and hurt...and then keep putting ourselves back out there..Scars... well life is all about scars, hun.. and no way to prevent them. Unless ya put yourself in a glass bottle. And well, heck it sux. And each time it happens, seems we will protect ourselves longer and wait longer inbetween tossing the line back into the water..All I can do is suggest trying to NOT give so much, give it time and if the next guy is looking for a doormat, maybe you will see the "hints" or a certain pattern in behavior..and know when to cut your losses.. Or maybe, just this time, it will be someone that honestly cares about you.. ....I'd rather be "alone and lonesome sometimes"....than "in a relationship and lonely all the time"..... Yeah, we have all been there...And yes, it is "safe" to hide and make the best of things..Cause being in a not so great relationship can seem worse than being "alone." Once you go through all the crap to get out of that crappy situation, who wants to take the "risk" that the next relationship doesn't wind up being the same, or Fook!!! Worse!! Probably 50 percent of us in POF The other 50% may be in a decent relationship.. Who knows? If we do not try...On a positive note..Time lets us get to know ourselves, and if we grow and learn, maybe we also gain the will, need, desire, and if it's what it takes, inner strength to give it one more shot!!

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Desperation and being older... Posted: 10/20/2006 10:14:34 AM
Gee I am confused here.. Must be the blond highlights to make the grey not show up as much.. But so many claim they are not in "desperation ." How grand their singelness is, take a relationship.. or NOT...But wtf are all of us? A singles online dating sevice? Hello... Okay got that out of my system... But honestly..if ya so darn happy with ya grand "self" might you be more productive in say a "my life is wondeful" forum... I do not consider it really desperate that I am here.. or maybe some of the others.. I just felt resolved that, hey, life is okay living alone..But i just fooking do not want to.. So what are my options...and acted on it..

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The Wisdom of an Older Woman Posted: 10/20/2006 9:41:45 AM
wow wish I could be in denial!! I think I have grown some wisdom... that I did learn from some of my mistakes along the way..Not to damn bitter about them and how life is never fair...But I think aging sux. Another of life's unfairness handed out again..No matter how I might try to kid myself, it is not pleasant. As for men.. I think in all honesty they all have a problem with an attraction to women that have grown like them..older. Young men just try all they can before they have to "settle down." Either ya okay with that or ya not..But older women being more wiser? Bah... If someone come along tomorrow and swept ya off ya feet for a month or two then moved on.. I can be certain age isn't gonna cushion the little girl feelings that never grow up...or old.

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 10/18/2006 9:44:35 AM
Want me to bring you back a lumberjack? OMG yes!!! Glad ya'll still here

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 10/16/2006 12:17:52 PM
wow either ala has no singles.. or they so fer in the woods they got no internet South alabama here...

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when you guys send emails??? Posted: 10/16/2006 10:03:48 AM
Being new here I am finding the forums quite informative..I too have had just a few worded emails. Be honest, they were enough to bring to my attention the person had seen my new profile and made a contact. Replying to a short introduction was easier than if they had expected me to pull something smart, witty, deep, or whatever on a unexpected moments notice..in reply..gave me a chance to peek at their profile. I was raised to be polite, and considerate of other's feelings. So do my best to at least respond because they took their time to say "hi." If someone passes you on the street, in the mall, etc..and just dip their head in a nod, or flash a great smile, do you just glare at them because they didn't stop to have a long conversation with a total stranger?

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A horse, a chicken and a Harley Posted: 10/14/2006 10:58:37 AM
OMG! Yet it seems a huge majority of the guys here do own A Harley Are they really for trying to pick up chicks?

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