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steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Hair pulling during Sex! Passion or Control? Posted: 7/3/2005 1:13:02 PM
I have never met a women who didn't like having her hair pull during sex. Strictly in the interest of research I will keep looking.... there must be a women somewhere who doesn't like it. I will find her so we get a chance to hear why. I'm guess it will be because she's loosing her hair.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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one date and he moved in how do i tell him to get out Posted: 2/16/2005 9:11:43 PM
I don't understand how this is even a discussion. There is only one right thing to do. Be honest and truthful with him. Tell him exactly how you feel about him and the situation. Be fair with the guy. Remember you are as responsible as he is for getting into this. And to those who have chosen to bash on this guy, lighten up. What is the deal with being so judgemental......... he's a kid. Are you all so perfect. None of you have made mistakes. Next time you find yourself in a similarly stupid position think about some of the things you've said here.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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How do you stop loving someone? Posted: 2/4/2005 1:37:00 PM
Major Mike, I first want to thank you for going at great personal risk and taking care of business on mine and the rest of the country's behalf. I have been divorced 1 year and 8 days. I know what you're going through. I hear myself when I read your words. I was exactly like you a commitment to marriage is for life. My ex and I used to joke that we had an 80 year contract and that time we would be free agents. Mine asked for a divorce the day before our 10th anniv. I hear the self doubt in you. The best advice I can offer is keep busy, change routines, avoid things you did together even change grocery stores brand of foods drinks, video store. When you must see her be friendly, business like, and keep things polite and brief. Always be the one to end a visit and phone call first. Do notlet her know how much you hurt. I was doing most of what "buffalowardance" suggests in my case it was a mistake. MAYBE if I had waited till now it would work. She is hurting also. But I find when a women gets to this point they are VERY strong and determined, trying to win them back at this point makes them run faster, that is my experience. The big question, you will never stop loving her, nor her you. I can't tell you when it stops hurting because I hurt today as much or more than I did a year ago. Also if you are planning to be friends, you MUST distance yourself first for at least 6 months. This was a big mistake I made

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Best way to propose Posted: 2/1/2005 7:05:07 PM
The best way is... not to

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Where would you like spend your 1st date? Posted: 1/23/2005 12:34:38 PM
On Top On The Bottom Next To Spooning Anywhere I can maintain contact.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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To forgive or not to forgive Posted: 1/6/2005 3:09:10 PM
limoshark, well stated and true.... you give great advice.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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To forgive or not to forgive Posted: 1/6/2005 3:06:07 PM
I am going to keep this short and simple. Once trust is broken, you can forgive but you won't forget. My friend went through this with his wife. He tried to get past it, 13 years later they divorced. He forgave her but never got over it. My wife divorced me 1 year ago. I will never go back with her even though I still love her. She broke my trust in her by ending our marriage. The fact that your wife not only cheated, but remained friends all this time is not a good situation. I could never trust her. I hate to see a marriage end but the foundation has been destroyed. Whatever you do is going to be painful for quite sometime, but you'll get through it without doing anything stupid if you talk about it with a trusted friend who understands their job is to just listen. Be strong, let yourself be angry or sad you'll be both off and on, just go with it.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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How soon should sex enter into a relationship.. Posted: 1/4/2005 11:37:39 PM
I choose to not make it a chore. I think a lot of men maybe under a misconception or it could be that I am. It seems to me that women are not attracted to jerks/ a##holes/ or arrogant men, but confidence. That doesn't mean men who "act" confident. I think it is the man who doesn't need to be wanted, and is just being himself with the women he meets. Beautiful women are hit on all day long everywhere they go. From subtle to crude, from smiles to cat calls. I would think the man who will stand out, is the one who isn't trying to be. Women are much more complex than many men seem to think. But I love them. Just my thoughts and opinion. I'm sure I'll be educated on where I maybe wrong here. Ladies I welcome your criticism... I am always will to learn

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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How soon should sex enter into a relationship.. Posted: 1/4/2005 10:02:35 AM
Sex enters a relationship on it's own schedule........ I never think about what is supposed to happen when. I don't have expectations, simply let things happen naturally. There have been times when women I've dated became impatient. I just think if they're ready and I haven't done anything they can initiate things. After all we beginning an equal relationship.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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What made you join a dating site? Posted: 12/31/2004 4:26:46 AM
rheanna, My story is very similar to your's. I started shortly after my wife of 10 years said she was divorcing me. It has been VERY different than I expected. At first I was only online as a distraction. I never though I would actually meet anyone.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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More than ONE Internet Posted: 12/31/2004 4:09:47 AM
Lady Sherlock, Did this man know that you travel a lot, and would be able to go and visit? Did you ever talk about a future with each other. Has he met any of the other women in person? This is an interesting situation. I've been wondering about myself. At what point does a person have an obligation to someone they have been communicating with but not yet met. I tend to think dating more than one person at a time is ok as long as you are not getting physical with anyone. That is when I would want to be exclusive. It seems though that some people feel that once you have started to talk on the phone regularly you are in a relationship. I don't really understand this. How involved are you before actually meeting. I'm sure many people have had the same experience as I have where you meet someone and they are not who they have claimed to be. I don't like the idea of doubting what people tell me, but I am not going to be a sucker either. I have had it happen more often than not that women have lied about their age, height and weight. One women even lied about having children even though I was VERY CLEAR that I do not want to get involved with a mother. If I had felt a commitment to any of these women and not continued dating others I would not have met the women I've been seeing. How fair would that be. I would be doing what some think is the honorable thing only to learn I had been scamed.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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After the age of 21, how many of you EXPECT sex on the first date? Posted: 12/30/2004 8:02:07 PM
I never go out with expectations, but I'm always open to possibilites.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Desperate measures.. What guys will do? Posted: 12/30/2004 3:50:36 PM
This guys intentions are what he says, he's still hurting over his ex. If he were a regular customer at the bar you work at it wouldn't be as bad. $500.00 would be more acceptable. Him being from another site and you not knowing him at all, not a good idea. As far as morals etc. An escort (which I know rheanna you are not) by definition is someone accompanying a member of the opposite sex socially, NOTHING SEXUAL. Is it any different for a women to escort a man to a party for whatever reason, than to hire men or women to be party fillers. The only difference is that the party fillers are not with one specific person. When I first came to Los Angeles I was a party filler. I would be hired to pretend to be a distant relative of the host and mingle with the guests. I was give a background on the family. I was instructed to dance with any female that asked. Was that a bad thing? Or is there a double standard here also?

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Would you accept or turn down? Posted: 12/30/2004 3:30:13 PM
rheanna, I have a strong feeling life around you is never boring. No, I can't see you as shy. But I believe you. Working as you do I'm sure going out isn't your first priority.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Please don't laugh... Posted: 12/30/2004 3:25:16 AM
abyssdc, There is nothing that could make me EVER hit a women. You can defend yourself without hitting.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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I swear men are a puzzle... Posted: 12/29/2004 8:12:00 PM
Note to self. NEVER get limoshark, or rheanna angry!!!!!!

steele101

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Please don't laugh... Posted: 12/29/2004 8:05:39 PM
Always listen to dragonn... she tells it like it is. Besides she's really cute.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Would you accept or turn down? Posted: 12/29/2004 5:48:19 AM
rheanna, I've read enough of your posts to know you are an intelligent women. You already know what you should do. I'm a strong believer in following my insticts. Your self esteem is what is important. If you are honest about what this man can and cannot expect from you and you are ok with whatever is expected from you then it's between the two of you and no one else. Just be sure you aren't doing emotional damage to yourself. Make sure you know exactly what you will get. I've know several women who have been in the same situation and either had to fight to get what was promised or never got it at all. You are the only one who knows what you are capable of dealing with. Think carefully. Whatever you decide to do I hope you find yourself a very happy person in the end.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Please don't laugh... Posted: 12/29/2004 5:25:19 AM
To answer if you are the problem or not isn't possible without knowing more details. I can tell you the girls had no business hitting you regardless. Getting into a physical fight is wrong unless in self defense or in defense of another. The fact that you did not hit either girl says a lot about you. You are not a loser. Think about the circumstances leading up to the attacks. Did you start off passive and suddenly fight back aggressively (verbal). Both the girls reacted violently. Did you get very rude? You should replay what happened being as objective as possible and see if you can concluded what sparked these girls. I suspect that you are typically passive and take a lot of crap until you can't handle anymore then when you do fight back it startles or even scares the girls. If that is the case, you need to learn how to talk about problems or disagreements as they come up. Communication is the foundation of a relationship. Learn to talk things out calmly and rationally. If things get intense you need to learn how to defuse things early. If you find yourself in a situation like that again the best advice was given in an earlier post.... RUN AWAY AS FAST AS YOU CAN. Don't even try to hold a girl in defense if running is an option. Good luck.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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I swear men are a puzzle... Posted: 12/26/2004 3:22:08 AM
rheanna, You're a bright women you already know that if this man isn't making you happy nor making you feel wanted you need to move on. In my opinion any man who wouldn't want to spend time with you has a serious problem and it sound's like his is called Gin. Happy Holidays

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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This really bothers me now..... Posted: 12/24/2004 1:06:09 PM
sexxysue, You've gotten a lot of great responses and a ton of support. You know inside you're not a racist don't ever let anyone goat you into their bull...t. No one mentioned the alcohol facture. Many people show their trueselves when they drink, this man is angry and looking for somewhere or someone to unload. Not your problem to deal with. You said it was closing time.... just tell men you're "not a last call girl." Never let them get you down.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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CAN MEN BE SENTUAL? Posted: 12/23/2004 11:01:34 AM
JenniferDay, may have been a little harsh (just my opinion) But she is completely right. Sensuality IS genderless. People who question if it makes men less masculine should loo it up in the dictionary.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Does Age Really Matter Posted: 12/21/2004 4:43:48 PM
debbiedd, as an older man I just want to say THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Re: what is the most perverted thing that you have ever done? Posted: 12/20/2004 5:23:34 PM
Note to self NEVER get Hott Wett angry!!!!!!!!!

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Waiting for guys to grow some BALLS! Posted: 12/20/2004 5:18:53 PM
rheanna I agree with you there is no reason you should even reply. I say this not because of not being able to have an idea of what the person looks like. (That is a horrible sentence.) I think some people who are not willing to post a picture are not ready to accept that being on a site like this is NOT a sign of being a loser. Until they accept that this is nothing more than an alternative to the "normal" methods of meeting people, I for one have no interest in them. Then there is the other possibity that they are involved already and are afraid to get caught.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Difference between a slut and a stud?? Posted: 12/18/2004 7:49:22 PM
Well now I'm just confused... maybe I'm a Slutty Stud

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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what do you guys think about younger wemon dating older men ? Posted: 12/18/2004 7:44:03 PM
^^^^^^ By that definition I won't be old till I'm 90. See why I think TommyGirl is amazing

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Difference between a slut and a stud?? Posted: 12/18/2004 12:49:59 PM
Then I think I'm a Studly Slut

steele101

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what do you guys think about younger wemon dating older men ? Posted: 12/17/2004 11:44:44 PM
Where is the punch line?

steele101

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why is it like this Posted: 12/17/2004 11:38:56 PM
Thanks for the words of encouragement Shianna

steele101

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What Attracts the Opposite Sex... Posted: 12/17/2004 6:45:34 PM
I really like it when the woman I'm with wears one of my shirts. I don't care where or with what. I just like that she whats me wrapped around her. If she drives my car remember to push the seat back. Do you know what it's like to be 6'4" and get in after someone 5'8". If I can remember the toilet seat.............

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Re: Why am I single?? Posted: 12/17/2004 12:54:12 PM
samantha69, I think I'm a little old for you so I can't make the offer. But I do have a suggestion. If you want to date say so on your profile it says photo exchange. If I were looking and saw that I wouldn't contact you to date. Also write more. You hardly said anything. Put some humor, anything to show personality. Last, put a picture where you're smiling or at least look happy. Put some effort in.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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How to last a long time Posted: 12/16/2004 5:31:03 PM
michellecathleen, You sound like you just don't really enjoy sex

steele101

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Why am I single?? Posted: 12/16/2004 5:04:43 PM
REHANNA, you're welcome. All I did was tell the truth. WS6TA, Improvement again. Recognize even the the tiniest move forward and focus on the positve. Your last post was more positive. notice little things, but don't over think their meaning: rheanna, may not have had more advice to add but she is still reading at has an interest to see if you have improved. Over thinking that would be expecting her to write to you. Accept the positive for what it is. Anything else will turn it into a negative. ie: you writing rehanna would possibly result in your pushhing her away by wanting more than she has to give. Accept the little things and go on. (Disclaimer: these are only my opinions I do not speak for anyone other than myself.) Women being creeped out. Take a look at that. "They have overactive imaginations" If it is a repeated pattern with different women you need to rethink that. It doesn't had twice if there isn't a reason, which means it is in you. That's a good thing, you can evaluate and adjust, or you can blamed others and never move forward. Yes, being seen in the company of a beautful women can do wonders for you. You have cash... every city has escorts hire the classiest most beautiful escort you can find. Guess what, if you tell her what your problem is she can probably give you some great advice. You don't have to have sex with her and you don't have to feel embarassed, you're hiring an expert consultant. That is the truth. There are intelligent, educated women in every field. Don't look for excuses or to blame others take control. Relax, take your time.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Why am I single?? Posted: 12/15/2004 9:39:59 PM
WS6TA, You're already being more successful with women, you not only got a response, but you were told you're good looking and if not for the fact you're too young, you may have been of interest to a VERY BEAUTIFUL women. You managed to get rheanna to take the time to write to you and women don't get much hotter than her. The women who told you they don't understand.... it really makes no difference if they aren't good looking.... they're women good looking, average looking, or not very attractive they are still women and understand other women. Big mistake to not value their opinions. When I said to walk toward the women, I ment subtly going in their direction. If you're creeping women out it just proves how badly you need to practice. You're never going to get anywhere if you stay so negative. You started this thread for advice, if you respond with why nothing is going to help, I'm not at all surprised you're not getting anywhere. Try again, make adjustments till you don't creep women out.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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To the men: What do men want in a woman? Posted: 12/15/2004 9:02:08 PM
Sense of humor/Wit Loyalty/Faithful CompassionateKindhearted Animal Lover/Sensitivity Passionate/Loving

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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male shirtless photos Posted: 12/15/2004 3:42:23 PM
OOPS that's m-o-v-e back to Canada

steele101

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male shirtless photos Posted: 12/15/2004 3:40:55 PM
You two make me want to more back to Canada

steele101

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Why am I single?? Posted: 12/15/2004 3:34:37 PM
WS6TA I think I may have an answer for you. The women who's advice you asked. they don't understand it either. You didn't say who they are and why you don't date them. I'll assume they are already involved or friends you've had and that not the relationship. The point is they don't understand it probably because you are more yourself and relaxed around them. This is allowing them to see you for who you are. In other words when you meet someone new think of them in the same manner as your friends. Don't try to impress them or be charming just treat them like people. This will let the real you out. Be relaxed and they will see you as confident not cocky. All this stuff about women wanting jerks in just stupid. They just don't want guys kissing their asses (at least not in this context). Do what is what you want to do not what you think will win her. As for women who delete unread messages. That's rude. If that's the type of person she is just think of all the stress she just saved you. Would you want to be with someone like that. You wrote her because her profile made you think she was a good person (at least I hope that's what you thought) well she lied she's a b*tch. Case closed move on. As far as being shot down when you walk up. Walk with confidence, looking carefree and happy. In fact try walking towards women like that but with no intention of talking to them. Go toward them as though you're coming to talk but keep going. If you have their attention just nod, smile, and say hello but don't even slow down and don't look back. Do that for a while you'll know when it's time to stop. Ladies, sorry. I don't mean to be messing with your heads but it will help.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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A touchy subject Posted: 12/14/2004 10:29:32 PM
I'd have to agree with jimi77. However, if when you last spoke to her you didn't fully express support for her and that's what is bothering you, I would believe a letter would be the way to go. Make it short, and express to her she has no obligation to respond, you simply wanted her to know where you stand. I have to add that I'm not 100% sure. I don't really know enough about the situation. But if you choose to attempt contacting her again, my opinion is a letter would be best. Not email. No way a phone call.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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what do you guys think about younger wemon dating older men ? Posted: 12/14/2004 11:48:16 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Ladies next time you want to know why some men act the way they do towards women. It might be because they once dated jizzabelle.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Advice... Help.... Anything pt. 2 Posted: 12/13/2004 3:51:37 PM
not_a_cubiczirconia No, no, no. My plans are always of the good type. Often, even pleasurable.

steele101

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Advice... Help.... Anything pt. 2 Posted: 12/13/2004 1:03:58 PM
not_a_cubiczirconia No way. I'm true blue. I think your advice is awesome also....Just have other plans for you.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Advice... Help.... Anything pt. 2 Posted: 12/13/2004 12:55:18 PM
dragonn & Tommygirl The two of you give the best advice. Maybe you guys need to team up and get your own T.V. show. You'd probably blow Dr. Phil and everyone else off the air. Or write a book. You're both beautiful inside and out.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Tell me why...... Posted: 12/13/2004 10:23:08 AM
^^^^^^^^^^^^ ccav That pretty much says it all for me too

steele101

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Tell me why...... Posted: 12/12/2004 8:26:09 PM
Bring her on... I'm not scared.... and make sure she brings A LOT of bacon.... and is supermodel hot....... no independent, financial secure women is going to scare me!!!!

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Why do women ???????? Posted: 12/12/2004 8:14:44 PM
And once again I have to agree with not_ a_cubiczirconia. I don't know if it is even possible for me to not be influenced by a women's looks. It's not a conscious decision I make. It's a natural reflex. But just because I'm influenced doesn't mean I've "judged" a person.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Making your sex life better for your partner.... Posted: 12/12/2004 7:55:35 PM
I have got to agree with justaguy13. He has given an exellent description of what sex is really all about. As far as going to sex 101. I intend to continue my education in sex for the rest of my life. Best subject I've ever taken. I'll go to sex 909 and beyond. Where do I sign up for the Phd program.

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Is my soulmate? Posted: 12/12/2004 5:20:29 PM
I just tell it like it is. If the truth flatters you, you must be a good person. I guess this means telling the truth will get me......well......almost anywhere!!!

steele101

Joined: 11/13/2004

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Why are men affraid of commitment????/ Posted: 12/12/2004 3:15:08 AM
I think we all have our own experiences that make this a difficult subject to fully agree on. For myself I had always thought marriage was just paper. I have lived with several women and never thought about getting married. THEN, I met a women who I wanted to marry more than anything else. I loved the women who I had lived with before, but this was different. We've been divorced for a year. We were married for 10 years. I loved being married. I can't say whether or not I'll ever feel like that again. But if another women stirs my emotions like that, I'd get married again. Did my divorce hurt... still does. Am I afraid of being hurt like that again.....HELL YES. Do I think it's worth it....again, HELL YES. Did I wear a wedding band...... Never took it off for more than a few hours while working on something. I wore it proundly ever after we separated.

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