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 Author Thread: People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 74 (view)
 
People over 30 that are not taken - something wrong with them?
Posted: 11/23/2009 8:30:29 PM
Pftttt I never heard people thinking that there's something wrong with a man in this sort of situation. It's usually the woman being classified under the "something's wrong with her" category. Especially the European mentalities, and I can say that because I'm European. I guess it's just the way ignorant people think. It's totally old school.
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 41 (view)
 
Would like your opinion
Posted: 11/23/2009 8:03:18 PM
I disagree, it's easy to have too much in common, not everyone is looking for their clone, lots of people like the differences. It all depends on the people involved. Now the guy you are talking about may have been an actor and just making things up as he went along, but that doesn't mean that all people want what you want or they are lying.


Dynadaze, yes I do agree that people also like their differences as much as they like their commonalities, but the point I'm trying to make is that I call BS on him for saying that their commonalities is the sole reason for the breakup. There's more to it I'm sure. What kind of excuse is that and to break up over the phone with her to boot!. That's how a typical BS'er hides behind their lies and screams coward don't ya think? What kind of respect is that giving the OP? If he was truly scared, there's nothing wrong with that at all, but at least communicate your fears to the other person so they can walk away completely understanding things. Clearly the OP is left confused and still wondering why. There's no closure for her and that to me is totally unfair.
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 33 (view)
 
WTH was he thinking?
Posted: 11/23/2009 5:57:05 PM
LOLOLOL what a tool is right! I can't believe that he actually thinks you'd be that stupid. You're an army gal (much respect btw), does he actually think you're that niave? Loser! Makes me really shake my head at how stupid some people can be!
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 38 (view)
 
Would like your opinion
Posted: 11/23/2009 5:33:41 PM
Ambie, I was once in the exact predicament that you find yourself in. I met my "actor" on here too a while back and believe me when I tell you that there are some great actors on here. Do not let him or anyone else fool you into thinking differently. How can you have too much in common? It's commonalities that bring people together, not tear them apart. That's a sorry a$$ excuse if I ever heard one! He may have fancied another fishie just like mine did or simply have gotten cold feet about entering into a serious and substantial relationship. Let it go, try to move on and take it as a learning experience. You deserve better.
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 44 (view)
 
you just know
Posted: 11/5/2009 10:54:32 AM
IMO I used to think that "you just know" is a load of BS. I heard it from friends in the past and I couldn't help but think to myself "j'ya right, as if"! But you know what, I was proven wrong.

Looking back, I just knew (in my heart) who was NOT the one for me until I met the one that made me realize that "you just know" does in fact happen. You also need to be true to yourself to figure out who the certain one's aren't for you and weed them out of your life as soon as possible.

So yes you will know when The (right) One comes into your life it just takes a little time and patience.
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 150 (view)
 
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 10/19/2009 6:50:07 PM
OMG I cannot believe what I have been reading. Where the heck did this guy surface from??? The days of Pompei??? I can clearly see that his thoughts and beliefs are still from the primitive days and the sad thing is he's only 41!!!

Sorry I'm really not the type to slam people's opinions because everyone is entitled to one but this one just blew my mind!
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 136 (view)
 
At what age do you Just Give Up?
Posted: 10/18/2009 5:24:37 PM
OP NEVER GIVE UP! Take it from experience. I was dating for quite a few years and found nothing but scum of the earth walking in and back out of my life. Friends wondered how I remained so positive and continued to hold my chin up high after every heart break. That was because I knew that eventually he would find me ... and he did. I was 35 when I met my soul mate (on this very site too). I think in today's world you need to be "picky" (I called it being selective). The older one gets the more they get set in their ways and a lot of people don't like having their ways disrupted while other welcome "disruption" from a potential soul mate. OP had I given up, I'd still be sitting here ALONE instead I'm sitting here completely happy, healthy and in love. Take a look around, there are tons of people having kids well into their 40's ... my mom had me at 42. YOU need to decide what matters most to YOU & YOUR SO, having children later on in life and (to quote you)
be in your 60s take care of a teenage child
or simply never having children at all. Good luck!
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 41 (view)
 
How do I get myself, to give myself, permission to let this go...?
Posted: 9/23/2009 8:52:10 PM
Go home to your friggen parents and stop acting like a gagoots


LMAO!!!!! Mahogany-Rush you obviously have Italian friends. This was priceless!!!!
Back to the post. Good for you ForumFishy, stay strong!!!!!
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 44 (view)
 
Guys are still idiots
Posted: 7/8/2009 8:13:29 PM
^^^^^
Greg, I forgot to mention also the bruised ego. Thanks :) I agree that a lot of women use their looks or bodies to manipulate men but I have to laugh at the men that fall into their clenches. IMO I have absolutely no respect for either parties involved in this sort of scenario. Shame on them all!!!

vvvvvvv
Greg, I couldn't agree with you more. It's sad to see how corrupt this world has become!
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Guys are still idiots
Posted: 7/8/2009 7:49:46 PM
I guess some guys (especially guys around her age) will do just about anything if they think it would land them a piece of a$$ at the end of the night. Now I'm not insinuating that she is that type of girl, but guys may believe that if they get women drunk enough it would = a woppin' good time after last call, if you catch my drift. Only to find out that they were wrong and sent home with a big dent in heir wallet.
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Does anyone have anything good to say about their EX?
Posted: 7/5/2009 6:52:40 AM
I actually still keep in touch with one of my ex's. My current BF knows this so this is no secret to him. He was an ex from years ago and although I did care about him more than a friend a long time ago, I still care about his well being as I would a friend today. We were and still are better off friends than we were lovers. He is a very sincere, honest and kindhearted man. He too is happily involved and his GF who also knows we keep in touch now and then. There are absolutely no hidden feelings between us whatsoever and it is totally a mutual friendship that we share. He's a wonderful man and I have nothing but great things to say about him. It's not often that these sort of things happen, but it's certainly not a situation that's unheard of.
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Mistakes Made
Posted: 7/4/2009 9:30:26 PM
Op you're completely talking in riddles here. We ALL would like to know what exactly DIDN'T happen before we can even begin to offer you some sound advise.
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 538 (view)
 
Do Women really avoid Scorpio's???
Posted: 6/28/2009 4:43:35 PM
I dated 2 Scorpions and got stung by both so I decided to date an Aries :) Although my BFF is a Scorpion and I couldn't imagine life without her. I guess dating one and being best friends with one are obviously 2 totally different things huh? I'm just saying. BTW please don't tell me you live your life and base your dating choices on astrology because that's just crazy!
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Whats up with that? REALLY?
Posted: 6/28/2009 4:19:48 PM
OP when you have to sit there and try to make sense of someone's behavior all the time, it spells RED FLAG! and we all know that where there are red flags there is trouble. I suggest you stay away and go find yourself someone who is less work on your brain. Good luck.
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Question for woman about dating after a break up
Posted: 6/28/2009 10:16:37 AM
I think you're ex lady friend needs to grow up a little and start thinking like a mature adult rather than a child. Another thing is that breaking up and getting back together upteen times should tell you that something is seriously wrong in the relationship and maybe it's best that it ends for good. Remember that dating should be the easiest part of a relationship.












 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
NEED ADVICE FROM EVERYONE
Posted: 6/15/2009 7:25:51 PM
OP I think you did all that you could to have shown your interest in this girl. She seems to have brushed you off in all your attempts to have a moment of conversation with her. Trust me when I tell you, if someone is interested they will make the time and effort to get to know you be it in person or on the phone. I would say back off and lay low for a bit and let her come to you. She knows you've been trying to contact her so if she wants to get to know you she will make every effort to at least call you back. The last thing you want to do is come across desperate or obsessive. Good luck.
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Six pack picture. Show of hands
Posted: 5/30/2009 3:38:34 PM

Sorry but nothing urks me more than a guy parading his six pack on his profile. It's something that turned me right off when I was dating. To me it just seemed like a very egotistical thing to do and something that made me move onto the next profile. That's just my 2 cents.
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
Am i overreacting?
Posted: 5/30/2009 6:54:49 AM
OP I'd be WTF too, hands down. Like I said before, the idea of an orgy wouldn't be the first thing that would pop into my mind but the thought of her possibly hooking up with one of the other guys would. Either way, I would be upset too but I would have still tried to maintain my composure. OP bottom line, if there is no trust in the relationship it's best that you move on.
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
Am i overreacting?
Posted: 5/29/2009 8:27:58 PM
OMG OP, you most definitely over reacted. What in your mind made you think up of such a scenario? Get drunk and participate in an orgy? Is that the credit you give this girl that you claim to be in to? Sorry but your comment was so out there that I can't help but shake my head at it.
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Finding love on POF
Posted: 5/29/2009 7:59:28 PM
For starters where did this stat come from because IMO it's waaaay off.

<div class="quote">Finding Love on POF is less than 1% chance. in ever 100 men, none did not find anyone here. I would guesstimate that about 1/10,000 would find someone

OP, there are tons of people that have met online, not only on POF but other popular dating sites, and have had success (me included). Yes it may take a lot of time and patience, something that it seems you're not willing to wait for, but it can happen. God only knows that I met my fair share of players and people tend to be naive about the whole online dating scene. They ignore red flags and then shift blame on the other person when reality is, it's their own fault for ignoring obvious questionable signs that the person they choose to date is only there for a good time and not a long time. Then they come on here seeking advice and sympathy, crying the blues that they are the victim, when they are the one that created their own mess. Now I'm not trying to say that everyone that gets played are a fault but a good majority of them are to blame. Take a look at the forms and there you will find the mess people get themselves into.

Anyway OP, for what it's worth, there was my 2 cents. You can stick it out and give it half a chance or you don't. But you never know until you put a good effort into it and give it a fair shot. It took me 5 years but eventually (with lots of patience) he found me here and so far gave me the most wonderful 3 years of my life.

Best of luck to you.
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 81 (view)
 
Is he not that into me?
Posted: 5/24/2009 8:30:18 AM
OP please read below and it will open up your eyes a little more to this man's odd behavior and remember these words that everybody dating should live by. Do not make someone a priority in your life when YOU are only an option.

IF A MAN WANTS YOU
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.
Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO TAKE A
>>>>>HINT.............
OP good luck with whatever choice you decide to make with this man (or any man for that matter).
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 45 (view)
 
should I leave her
Posted: 5/10/2009 4:19:43 PM
OP for starters snooping is definitely not cool and what you did was wrong. Now having said that, do you really feel the need for us to give you advice on what to do in your situation? It's obvious. But if you can go on and continue your relationship with this woman knowing what you know, then that's your call. If you do (for whatever crazy reason) decide to stay with her, you better consider taking precautions against whatever STD's she may be bringing home to you.
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
was i being played for a fool?
Posted: 4/2/2009 6:11:24 PM
Oh Lord he is so taken by another woman and he is so taking you for a fool. Give him a swift kick to the curb and chalk it up to a lesson learned. Good luck!
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Am I reading too much into her texts?
Posted: 1/24/2009 12:49:47 PM
Lawdie, lawdie, lawdie OP why the hell do people insist on using text messaging as a form of communication especially in a relationship???? Talk about adding yet another contributor to communication breakdown in a relationship! Texting allows people to easily lose tone and context in an innocent comment or sentence as I'm sure you can agree. This is exactly what I think happened between you and your girlfriend. If you can take one word of advice, ditch the texting and try communicating openly using verbal communication ... this can save many relationships way better that texting ever will. Good luck!
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
 
This ruined my day,,,,,,,
Posted: 1/7/2009 6:06:03 PM
This guys is obviously a freaking D!CK!!!!!! You look fine and I would certainly consider you to be of average size just like the rest of the posters in this thread. Do not take this guys ignorant comment to heart. He's just a low life SOB. Send him the link to this post so he can see what we all think of him. I also think (if you still have the email), to send it and report him to the moderators of this site. Unfortunately it won't stop from just reopening another account. Keep your chin up, he's not worth it.
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 29 (view)
 
What's my play here? Do I bother talking to her?
Posted: 1/4/2009 3:43:01 PM

Well...and this is only my opinion......I would leave her alone permanently. I would block her phone number from my cell. By what you described......it seems that she is more into the chase/capture than a realtionship. It seems that once she gets you where ever it is she wants you to be...she moves on. For some people it is always all about the pursuit. She keeps you emotionally dangling by a string and believes that she can have you whenever she wants. She has cheated on someone to be with you....she has cheated on you....she has pursued you and once she gets you she dumps you. What is it that you believe this woman can give you that she has refused to give you in the past? You've spent enough time waiting for her to catch up and she hasn't. It's been almost three years. You could have been married with at least one kid by now. You have no play here. Find someone who can give you what you need...both emotionally as well as physically. Anyone can be good at the physical stuff....it takes a real woman to be able to give you everything else. This woman is a player....you avoided being set up with players. So avoid her too.

^^^^^^^^
Kudos Bodasfa!!!!
I couldn't have said it better myself.
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
What's my play here? Do I bother talking to her?
Posted: 1/4/2009 2:19:01 PM
OP have you ever heard of "Once a cheater, always a cheater"? She cheated on her husband with you and in reality you are no better than her for screwing around with a married woman. Then she turns around and cheats on you with your friend of all people! She is a class act for doing that to her husband and then again to you and not to mention your so-called friend broke the cardinal rule of friendship. What a tangled web you people have weaved. At that point I would have written both of their a$$es off. Can you imagine spending a lifetime with a woman who will be with you today yet screwing someone else tomorrow? The situation is quite clear OP now it's up to you what type of woman and relationship you're really looking for.

 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 271 (view)
 
Why do women have sex and then complain about it?
Posted: 12/27/2008 7:21:31 AM
OP stated:


And what would be so wrong about waiting until you have a ring on your finger before letting him have all 'the goods'?


In this day and age does this even happen anymore? Some of us would die in heat just waiting! I'd definitely have to get a gold membership at the "Stag Shop" just to keep me occupied.


NB: I must say that in many cases do agree with what the OP is trying to get at. Some people give up "the goods" way too soon and then aren't emotionally prepared when the man they chose to sleep with ends up being a total player.
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 27 (view)
 
I asked too much from her??
Posted: 12/26/2008 8:54:37 PM
^^^^^^^
So tell us how you really feel.
Wow and I thought I was pi$$ed. I held back a lot in my post in case I ended up getting reported but thanks for expressing my thoughts for me - only mine would have included a bit harsher & demeaning name calling. :)







 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
I asked too much from her??
Posted: 12/26/2008 5:50:19 PM
someonehateme ...... after posting your "so-called" broken heart thread you started, I think the rest of the posters would agree with me when I say that you should change your profile name to "everybodyhateme". Is this your sick idea of how a man should treat his wife??? You've screwed everyone including her freaking cousin and YOU'RE the one who's broken hearted?????? I think you need to see a psychiatrist! This thread must be a joke because I refuse to believe that such peabrains actually exist!
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Over after 3 months: Why?
Posted: 12/26/2008 3:38:00 PM
OP it seems like getting over the 3 month hurdle may be somewhat challenging for many individuals. I met a guy on here a few years ago, dated for a brief period (3 months to be exact), things "seemed" wonderful when out of the blue he began drifting away for no rhyme or reason and provided zero explanation for it either. He went on to date some other woman that I coincidentally knew approximately 4 months later and find out that he dated her for a mere 3 months and up and left just like that without any rhyme or reason either! Funny thing is that she monitors him on here (just for kicks) and found that he has closed his account many times, leaves for about 3 months at a time only to reappear back on POF again. Talk about a looney toon of a man with huge dating issues just like this ex of yours OP.

Do not sweat over this. This woman obviously has no clue what she wants and decided to take the cowardly approach like many do. Just be grateful that you didn't invest too much time in a relationship that was obviously heading nowhere fast.

Best of luck.
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Is she now really over me and how did she do it?????
Posted: 12/25/2008 2:36:09 PM
OP your ex wife seems to be quite the peach of a lady! Real classy at that. She slept with over 7 guys in the past 8 months?????? Is her goal to sleep with a different guy for every month of the year and at the end of the year put together a nice little picture calendar of all these guys to hang in her kitchen right beside her "To Do" list?

OMFG OP count your blessings she is someone else's boy toy. I hope to God you don't have children with this woman because it seems to me that she knows nada about morals and self respect. IMO she seems to be quite the DIRTY. I know you are hurting but you need to get yourself together sit down and really analyze this situation. Your ex cheated while you were married, you continued to sleep with her for six months after you called the marriage quits. You find out that throughout your 6 months of just sleeping together, she was also sleeping with other men (notice it's plural context?), she continued to treat you like crap, she has a drinking problem, she puts down your "manhood" by telling you that she's having the best sex ever with some random guy and at the end of it all she asks you if you still love her???!!! You you being the door mat that you clearly are feed her ego even more by admitting that you will always love her ... my dear Lord. Where is your backbone OP?????

You should gladly hand her over to this other guy because she seems to be nothing short of a mess and you're better off with her being someone else's problem rather than yours. The best way to learn to accept this entire situation is to make a list of the pro's and con's regarding this woman, add to it daily and read it over and over again (daily). Seeing how all the con's will soon add up in front of you, you will quickly begin to realize that you are in a much better place without her.
 Gentle Aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
How to say sorry
Posted: 12/19/2008 4:34:06 PM
OP I hope you learned your lesson that some things are better left unsaid. Most women would have taken the same approach to this as she did and if you want to try and fix this there's no better way than to be vocal about it. Call her and apologize .... PROFUSELY. If she then decides to still go out with you , bring her a flower (not a bouquet) such as a rose. I don't think that would be going overboard, I would find it to be a sweet gesture and a sweet form of apology. Good luck.
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Why Did He Still Want To Be Friends??
Posted: 12/14/2008 7:08:50 AM
OMFG!!!!!! What a complete A$$HOLE this SOB was! OP, I cannot believe you actually sat through this entire 3 hour event with this jerk! I personally would have up and left. I would have called a friend, family ..... anybody to pick me up and get the hell out of there. I also cannot believe YOU apologized to HIM (like he was the victim) for HIM ignoring YOU on YOUR date with HIM .... like WTF is that???!!! That my sweet is low-self esteem at it's best. I wouldn't have even wasted a thought on him after that crap he subjected you to. And you were actually willing to still remain "friends" (and I use that term very loosely) with this guy? Sheesh, who the hell needs enemies if you willingly want to keep friends like that! Count your blessings OP that he is out of your life because this guy is no good for your emotional state and self-confidence. Ewwwww would I ever love to have my piece with this jerk!
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Text Communication
Posted: 12/11/2008 9:03:00 PM
I absolutely HATE texting! It's so impersonal especially if it's with someone you're dating. I would rather hear my man's voice than reading his words. A simple text here or there is fine, but to actually use texting as a regular form of communication ..... pfffffffttttttt give me a break! No thank you! MAJOR MAJOR pet peeve of mine!
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
is she leading me on?
Posted: 12/7/2008 6:40:54 PM
Anthony, you can go in 1 of 2 ways.
1) Tell her how you feel about her and if nothing more will become of your relationship than just friends, you'd rather not be friends at all because your heart is too involved with something that may never be. But be prepared for any answer she may give you good or bad.
OR
2) Cut her off completely with giving her no rhyme or reason for it.

I'm curious about a couple of things. Do you personally know her boyfriend? Is she happy in her current relationship? She may just like the attention coming from another man and enjoys being (excuse the terminology) a "c*ck tease". Not sure what else to say but to protect yourself and especially your heart as best as you can in this situation. Good luck.
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 69 (view)
 
it is okay to hookup with your ex for sex?
Posted: 12/7/2008 5:45:50 PM
Well as long as people know the difference between just physical sex and emotional sex then go for it. As long as both parties are aware of the outcome being nothing but a romp in the sack and nobody gets hurt or emotionally caught up, then if it toots your horn, go for it. Me personally, the ex is an ex for a reason and if I were the type that needs a cheap roll in the hay I'm sure there are loads to choose from in the "Looking For: Intimate Encounter" section.
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Brokenhearted Girl. Help.
Posted: 12/7/2008 11:12:52 AM
OP go to your mother, hug her and thank her. She's lived and learned far more than you have at this point in your life. Your relationship with this guy didn't grow enough to even contemplate the thought of marriage .... especially given your young age. People mistaken actual love with lust and are in love with the idea of falling in love. This young gent seems to be a little sketchy to me, and obviously to the other posters as well. There's so much left for you to experience in your life. Don't rush to grow up and especially don't rush into something that you're not ready for even though you might think you are. You don't ever want to look back at your life with regrets.
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 173 (view)
 
What do flowers on a first date mean?
Posted: 12/7/2008 7:47:44 AM
If am man brings you flowers on a first date, it means absolutely NOTHING! He can be trying to charm you but has every intention of loving you, then leaving you. Take it from someone who's been there. I never had a guy bring me flowers on a first date and found the act completely sweet and chivalrous. In the end he turned out to be a total player, loser, and one hell of an SOB. Live and learn!
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 50 (view)
 
Am I overreacting?
Posted: 12/6/2008 11:54:47 PM
No you're not overreacting at all. I find what he did totally sad and completely disrespectful. Is he so hooked on POF that he couldn't wait to chat it up with other women until he got off the phone with you? This screams RED FLAG I'd tell him thanks but no thanks. Find yourself someone who's at least interested in your conversation.
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
When is the right time to start again..?
Posted: 11/23/2008 7:10:43 AM
Sweetie I think you still have a lot of healing to do before your mind is clear enough to give your heart to someone else. Spend time and concentrate on yourself right now. Join a gym, pick up a hobby, spend time doing things with your child(ren), spend time with friends and yes, meet new people (men). By saying meet men I don't mean that your objective should be to go out to try and find "the one" because I honestly don't think you're ready for that yet. Put yourself out there but I think you need to have the "it's all about me" attitude for a while until things with the ex are behind you and is a closed book situation. Out of curiosity's sake, how long were you and your husband together?
Best wishes.
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 152 (view)
 
Ladies, If A Guy Called You The C Word, Would Continue Your Relationship With Him?
Posted: 11/22/2008 12:20:38 PM
Well I'd simply respond in the sweetest, kindest tone of voice possible, "Who are you calling a c*nt you f*kin' c*ck-sucker"! Seems to me like this couple will be living happily ever after!
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Have you ever been glad a relationship ended later
Posted: 11/17/2008 8:49:38 PM

Anyone else have this a similar experience where they are now glad a relationship ended?

I'm glad that every one of my past relationships ended because all of them only brought me one step closer to the man in my life that made all the heartaches I experienced well worth the wait!
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 440 (view)
 
Why don't you age?
Posted: 11/16/2008 5:25:12 PM
Good health, protecting my self as much as possible from the sun, diet and exercise, a nice fitting wardrobe and a great spunky attitude is why I haven't aged ;) (No husband or kids may also be a contributing factor LOL). You're only as old as you feel! Although a cliche, it really is the truth!
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 310 (view)
 
30 and never married?
Posted: 11/16/2008 5:19:28 PM
Well because of my bitter bad streak of luck in the men department it brought me to find the love of my life at 35. Still at 37 I have never been married nor engaged. I guess I thank fate in a way because regardless of all the bad luck I had, it all brought me to the one who will grant me unconditional love and everlasting happiness. Ask me if I'd change anything about it I'd tell you HELL NO! I'd do it all over again if I had to. Society has a way of putting undue stress on people especially when you come from a European background! :)
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 66 (view)
 
ultimate revenge
Posted: 11/16/2008 3:27:38 PM
OP why waste your time and energy with trying to figure out the best revenge when simply living well without him IS the best revenge!
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Too much about the ex
Posted: 11/16/2008 7:50:54 AM
OP you were absolutely on the money. I also believe if someone constantly talks about their ex with someone that you are pursuing, this is NOT a good thing. It would also tell me that this person hasn't gotten over their ex yet and who would want to feel in competition with an ex of all people??? Did you ever discuss the fact that you don't appreciate him always bringing up the subject of the ex and how it makes you feel?

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 1/2 years and he has NEVER spoken freely about his ex and has NEVER asked about any of mine and what for anyway? Unless I ask, he has said nothing about her. And this is they way is should be. Why bother venting or discussing an ex with someone you're pursuing, people have friends than can listen to that crap not you! OP unfortunately I don't know how I would react if I were caught in this situation because thankfully I was never in this sort of predicament. But I know how I would feel and I know it certainly wouldn't bring any good to the relationship either.
Good luck!
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Does this sound like I think it does?
Posted: 11/9/2008 5:30:11 PM
WOW OP I cannot believe you're actually letting this man do this to you. You my dear are a classic case of a door mat. You claim that you "want to be loved by him still", do you actually think the way he's treating you is love or will ever be love? You are also teaching your children that it's ok to be treated like this! I think you need to give your head a shake and and grow a backbone tough enough to tell this guy to take a hike.
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 99 (view)
 
I'm 20 shes 16.
Posted: 11/9/2008 7:34:34 AM
^^^ My bad and my apologies for being ignorant on this topic. I just trusted the opinions from the majority of posters in this thread. I guess this stands true in some US laws. But thanks for the FYI:)

There you have it OP proof that the legal consentual age in Canada is 16.



Beginning May 1, 2008, the age of sexual consent in Canada is 16 years old.
The age of consent in Canada is the age at which the criminal law recognizes the legal capacity of a young person to consent to sexual activity. Under the Criminal Code of Canada anyone under the age of 16 cannot legally consent to any form of sexual activity, from kissing to intercourse. It means that adults are criminally liable if they have sex with someone under that age. The offence carries a maximum penalty of 10 years in prison.


And this:



On May 1, 2008 the age of consent in Canada went up from 14 to 16, the first time it has been changed in more than 100 years. The age of consent is the age at which criminal law recognizes the legal capacity of a young person to consent to sexual activity, from kissing to intercourse. It means that adults are criminally liable if they have sex with someone under that age. The offence carries a maximum penalty of 10 years in prison.


Found at Online Canada.
 gentle aura
Joined: 10/9/2006
Msg: 97 (view)
 
Im 20 shes 16.
Posted: 11/8/2008 2:57:12 PM
What's the problem here? She's a minor no matter which way you flip the coin. You want to play around with the law, then you need to be fully aware of the consequences you might have to face (God forbid for your sake).




if she was 18 I was 22 it would look great...


If this would make you feel better then wait it out .... it's only 2 years and she'd at least be legal.
 
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