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jenny~dee

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Smokers: Would you quit smoking for your dreamboat? Posted: 1/4/2007 1:19:45 PM
YES I WOULD AND I HAVE. I USED TO BE A REGULAR SMOKER. AT LEAST A PACK EVERY TWO DAYS. i have quit for my new years resolution and it has been three days since i have smoked a cigarette. honestly i feel so much better already and with the help of my non- smoker bf this is easy as pie- WELL KINDA, lol. it was not easy and im still tryin not to slip but yes i did quit for myself my health, and for my womderful bf.

jenny~dee

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running from the L word Posted: 12/24/2006 4:18:50 AM
today is dec 24, and i want to thank all of you for the advice you have all given, i hope all of you have a very joyful christmas with your loved ones:) and a happy new year

jenny~dee

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running from the L word Posted: 12/21/2006 2:18:59 PM
thanks and i actually met him on here. POF!!:) so who says you cant find that special person, hehe

jenny~dee

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running from the L word Posted: 12/20/2006 10:41:53 AM
LMAO any other words of wisdom you would like to splurdge?

jenny~dee

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running from the L word Posted: 12/20/2006 10:31:52 AM
cute response thnx

jenny~dee

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running from the L word Posted: 12/20/2006 9:26:44 AM
i think you have me all wrong with the "love should be free" phrase. I am happily living very comfortably , i have this great guy, this great relationship. and as much as ppl do not take in three months was alot spent getting to know one another. We saw eachother everyday, there was not a day apart. yes i understand that this could conflict a problem, but if it was to make matters worse then I would have not moved in with the guy. So your statisticts are correct - but that does not mean that I am going to be one of those statistics. I think it all varies on what stae of mind your in. I am very mature for my age, not bragging, but I have had my up's and down's for many years now and I understand more than my age requires me to. My relationships have never been short term, my shortest one lasted just a year. I take alot in heart when i go through the stages of love. most time I would rush in and try to gain that lovey dovey experience. Not this time. I actually took the time. And for me with the way that I have dated in the past- this one was very special to me. I probably could not handle marrige right now- yes I am young, but that doesn't mean I cannot experience that stage of growing up in love. I do love him very much and I do want him to know. This whole thread I have made was just a confusion of when to tell him. Im sure I do not even need to say it- Im sure he already knows. Moving in was a big enough step , and I am still trying to keep it simple and sweet. No conflicts.. I apreciate your advice very much so, you have had alot to say and I do take in to consideration- thats challenging to swallow some of the advice given. I have learned that life is really short in my years. Two years ago I almost died in a car accident. I broke my neck and was in a halo. I also lost a good friend the night it happened. It really makes you think. things like this make you think, and make you belive that love is now deeper than you thought it to be before- and for never ever taking time to know them, I have changed in various ways. Now i see the world diffrently and continue to cherise what I already have. So thats why i didn't want to just say it right away. It is meant to be special. Just as life...

jenny~dee

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physical attraction with ur gf Posted: 12/20/2006 3:40:04 AM
honey dont worry you are beautiful . if he has a problem holding you then maybe he is sexually confused with himself.lol. talk to him about it.

jenny~dee

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running from the L word Posted: 12/20/2006 3:37:35 AM
i never said anything about marrige before 25, and Im not sure so you have your statistics correct. yes there is many unsuccsessful marrigies but for many reasons, not just because the man cant handle it. life is way to short to undertake any mayjor rules . I think love should be free and if you want to get married so do it. I dont believe that post would inflict anything on me. I am sorry you feel this way but shunning the world out of certian emotions because of a faulty relationship is horrible. get back on your feet and relize that not every woman is gonna hurt you the way she did. we are all different even though we seem so much alike. just look deeper.

jenny~dee

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running from the L word Posted: 12/19/2006 5:36:05 PM
ho7dog thnx:)i appreciate that. and thnx for the advice all. I dont think im gonna run away though, as said in a few posts up. im not scared to say it, i just want it to be right thats all. i may be young but this is when you begin to build for life- so im not moving out and runnin.

jenny~dee

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running from the L word Posted: 12/19/2006 4:28:23 PM
i agree. sayin it in bed would be somwhat cheesy?! at least i think so. for me to say it then i'd feel like a hollywood actress playin a role. not my style. I'd rather blurt it out. freely ya know

jenny~dee

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running from the L word Posted: 12/19/2006 4:19:29 PM
I dont want him to say "i love you " back to me if he does not mean it. then the whole thing is meaninless dont you think. Why say it if you dont mean it??. I know i mean it, but finding again that right moment and comfort zone is difficult. Do i just splurge at the chance to quick phrase it in a grocery store, or do I make it passionate in bed. Im so confused. im a woman what you expect- i want it to be real and ready.

jenny~dee

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running from the L word Posted: 12/19/2006 12:50:44 PM
thank you for the advice to you all

jenny~dee

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running from the "L" word Posted: 12/19/2006 10:17:56 AM
I have been kinda beating around the bush with the first one to say " i love you". I know this sounds silly , but we are despretly trying to take our time, because we want this to last. We were seeing eachother for three months before even being bf and gf. just last week we finally moved in together. and this alone is a big step, I want to say these three little words to him so bad, becasue what I feel is so real. Tell my guys.. how do i know when he is ready to hear those words. Where is that comfort zone in men that they can take hearing that stage of love without running away?

jenny~dee

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Women who don'ttouch themselves? Reason for not doing it? Posted: 12/14/2006 8:00:07 AM
ALL WOMEN MASTURBATE. if they say they never have they are LYING

jenny~dee

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moves for men Posted: 12/14/2006 7:53:14 AM
WHAT DO ALL MEN FANTASIZE ABOUT, i am aware it varies, but gimmie some ideas guys

jenny~dee

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How many times a day can you handle havin sex??!!! Posted: 12/14/2006 6:34:41 AM
UNTILL I GO NUMB, lol. merry x mas

jenny~dee

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How would you feel if your partner required pre-marital counseling? Posted: 12/14/2006 6:19:50 AM
I would think that this is a very wise and smart thing to do. If you are worried about things possibly going wrong in the furture then this pre- marrige counsiling WILL help you to understand more knowledge on the basics, and get to know what your partner is thinking. I think this is a great idea, and it never hurt anyone to get some friendly advice and a helping hand before you say "I DO" again. Good for you on taking action. If this was my partner wanting this I would think that they care enough to make sure that we are both comfortable with eachother before a next big step. ALL THE LUCK TO YOU, and a veryu Merry christmas:)

jenny~dee

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Why do you stay with men who disrespect you? Posted: 11/18/2006 7:25:06 PM
why you ask, because it is called emotion ebuse. it is a nasty cycle, that i learned long ago. when a man breaks you down to nothing, you feel only he can give you the affection you crave so much- because that is how he makes you feel. Abusive relationships are so common now a days, and women putting up with the sh*t needs to stop!, women stick up for yourselves- he wont change for anyone if he wont change for himselve- look at the bigger picture, pro's and con's. weigh em, know em, master them. women stay with them because sometimes that is all they have ever known, is disrespect and untraditional unhealty ways in a realtionship.

jenny~dee

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Why do you stay with men who disrespect you? Posted: 11/18/2006 7:24:46 PM
why you ask, because it is called emotion ebuse. it is a nasty cycle, that i learned long ago. when a man breaks you down to nothing, you feel only he can give you the affection you crave so much- because that is how he makes you feel. Abusive relationships are so common now a days, and women putting up with the sh*t needs to stop!, women stick up for yourselves- he wont change for anyone if he wont change for himselve- look at the bigger picture, pro's and con's. weigh em, know em, master them. women stay with them because sometimes that is all they have ever known, is disrespect and untraditional unhealty ways in a realtionship.

jenny~dee

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Does ignoring a guy really get his attention? Posted: 11/17/2006 9:22:31 AM
can't say it really works. To get his attantion just be yourself, dont push on him too hard, and if he really likes you - you should have no problem getting noticed, do something fun together:)

jenny~dee

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Did you ever love someone enough to give your life for her/him? Posted: 11/17/2006 9:20:43 AM
yes i have loved enough to take the bullet. But that type of love was long ago, and missed from time to time. Love that has that impact is totally in bliss, loving that deep means a hard break-up as well, ouch that one hurt, lol

jenny~dee

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Should women show cleavage on first date Posted: 11/16/2006 12:16:08 PM
do what you feel comfotable doing. if you feel comfotable showing cleavege then do it. dress the way you will feel fit. Dont be something you are not to impress, because later on, everyones true colors come out, good luck

jenny~dee

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Is honesty the best policy... Posted: 11/16/2006 12:14:36 PM
yes honesty is the key. always be open and honest, if not then hell will brake loose in the realationship at some point. there is no such thing as a healty non- honest realtionship, and if there is then who are they kidding. Honesty and truth counts in more ways then one, - so yes be honest , tell her what you need to say

jenny~dee

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Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles? Posted: 11/16/2006 12:12:26 PM
if they are actually searching and using this site for the right reasons they will read the profile, if they went on just pics, then they could meet up with a crazy broad

jenny~dee

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can non-pot smokers handle pot smokers? Posted: 11/16/2006 12:10:26 PM
yes we can handle the pot heads. actually depends on their views upon it. i used to smoke pot i have quit for over two years now, and i dont mind ppl around me that smoke it, it's pro choice.

jenny~dee

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Should I tell the whole truth? Posted: 11/16/2006 12:08:07 PM
tell the truth. dont ever lie, lying get nobody anywhere and in the end there are way to many questions unanswered which leaves ppl feeling somewhat cheated out of honesty, always tell the truth even if you are scared of the reaction, you will feel much better about having put the truth out there good luck

jenny~dee

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Why are women attracted to musicians? Posted: 11/16/2006 12:05:45 PM
because when a man sings to us we are in flawless awww. a man singing to you is a sweet embrace thats why. weather er not he sings about you is another thread waiting, lol.

jenny~dee

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Would you date someone with a lazy eye? Posted: 11/16/2006 12:04:42 PM
why not, because they have a lzy means you cant grow to love them??, sure it would be weird but you will get passed that if you really enjoy her company who is counting faults here?

jenny~dee

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Why do more women say in their profiles Posted: 11/16/2006 12:03:29 PM
why do we wright more, because most women out there have been bruised, trashed, and beated from insdie and out, we want to make sure we find exaclty what we are looking for with anything. Dont be so lost with this, many women just know what they want based on factual evidence from past relationships.

jenny~dee

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I caught my date peeing in the shower!! Posted: 11/16/2006 12:02:11 PM
honey it all goes down the drain, pee is pee, if it doesn't kill ya it makes you stronger, dont let that become a factor in leaving here thats silly

jenny~dee

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Does history always have to repeat itself? Posted: 11/16/2006 12:01:13 PM
history doesn't have to repeat, maybe it is you looking for the same ppl because that is all you have ever known,get to know yourself a little better and get out there. maybe you will find someone special while getting to know yourself more

jenny~dee

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Action speaks louder than words. Posted: 11/16/2006 11:15:04 AM
talk to them. thats the best advive i can give, once again honesty can be an issue, make sure that they are tottaly honest and truthful, you dont want to get mixed emotions abou twhat they want or feel this can cause sh*t. talk to her, good luck

jenny~dee

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I still love you but I am not in love with you..... Posted: 11/16/2006 11:13:11 AM
this is a comforting thought, remain friends with him, it cant hurt. it is very possible to still love someone, and move on. cherish that the two of you stil carry that special bond and use it to the advantage. useful advive can come from him for you and likewise, keep in touch , as long as you are comfortable with it, and it is heatly chatting then no problem:) good luck

jenny~dee

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confused on closure Posted: 11/16/2006 11:11:16 AM
Take the time to regenerate and find out where you stand right now, this is the best time for you to getback in touch with yourself, take it easy and dont worry so much, if it is meant to be he will call you. if not move on girl, life is short and you cant watse it on heart ache, get out ther and go have fun:) good luck

jenny~dee

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Why do people find it so disgusting... Posted: 11/16/2006 11:08:02 AM
ah yes the age difference. my advice which is not stone, is that attraction is one thing, maybe you are still very much young in heart and cant help that attraction, just be careful that you are getting a fer sure response from these younger women or something could happen. there is also not a big factor in love between different aged couples, as long as you are safe and love them for them then yeah go for it. There is always boundries though - just make sure you know em. i once dated a 25 yr old when i was 17 and we lasted for two and a hlaf yrs, so it all depends good luck

jenny~dee

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Looking in the eyes Posted: 11/16/2006 11:05:11 AM
it means she wants to look at you, women are not always so secretive about emotions if she wants to say something she will, maybe you just have nice eyes and she cant look away?, i dunno bout this one, ask her if she needs to tell you something, she could just be dreaming of you

jenny~dee

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what if a guy wants to move in right off the bat after meeting you Posted: 11/16/2006 11:03:26 AM
no no no, this is not healty hun, 5 hours, thats actually scary take a step back , you need far much more tim eto get to know him, this is silly to say he wants to move in, he is acting upon lust, and baby lust is not love. take it easy and explain to him that love cannot be rushed but fullfilled with memories and actually spending time getting to know him:) good luck

jenny~dee

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Cut ties with ex girlfriend or lose current girlfriend.. Posted: 11/16/2006 11:01:33 AM
yes there should be a comprimisze. i had to even learn this, there is nothing wrong with talking to the ex while having the current gal. as long as you know that you want to be with the newbie and arnt getting mixed emotions you should be fine, there is nothing wrong with this. remaining friends withn the ex can have advantages and disadvantages, just weigh your pro's and con's look outside the box

jenny~dee

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Always talking about the ex Posted: 11/16/2006 10:59:28 AM
not wrong, but if he talked about it enough to bother you then you had to go, did you confront him about this at all?, talk to him about it, tell him that it bothers you. He could just use her to reffer to such events

jenny~dee

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Should it really be about change! Posted: 11/16/2006 9:44:03 AM
dont change for anyone, someone out there likes you for you

jenny~dee

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I am everything he wants : But he just doesnt want me. Posted: 11/16/2006 9:42:08 AM
give him space hun, and let him think about what he wants, if he really feels for you it wont take longer than a wek for him to want you back in his arms:)

jenny~dee

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can you stay friends with an ex? Posted: 11/16/2006 9:40:55 AM
yes you can stay friedns, this is healty if you can pull it off. its is hard to let emotions from a past bad or good relationship bring you to friendship but it is a wicked feeling when you can. Advive from a non- villan ex can be useful and it can help you understand what went wrong in a good way so there is no rude misunderstandings.

jenny~dee

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To love, honor, and... OBEY?!? Posted: 11/16/2006 9:39:09 AM
OBEY TO NO ONE!, you are a human being and no one has that right to control your life, that message is far fetched. If your being obediant like a dog then i think you need to rethink your relationship

jenny~dee

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what it takes for a guy to fall in love? Posted: 11/16/2006 9:37:11 AM
a man needs to know his securieties in his herat with you are true before he will fall in love with you. As long as he feels safe, and knows you are not going to hurt him later then he will open up. BUT remeber than you must give him space too, do not interigate him to pressing his emotions, men are not like women and emotions do not come easily explained in male tounge. So take your time with him, all men are uneasy about most releasing thier love for you. rockj on and keep smiling:)

jenny~dee

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Honesty...good or bad? Posted: 11/16/2006 9:34:24 AM
honesty is good, relationships cannot survive without it. Being honest means being true. just as long as were not all blunt and hurtful about what we say, we can word honesty in easier way so the other person does not get hurt. Honesty and trust both are key factors. Good for you for being honest . there is alot of dishonest ppl out there.

jenny~dee

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can you stay friends with an ex? Posted: 11/15/2006 12:13:52 PM
i beleieve it is very healthy to stay friends with an ex. why burn bridges??. they are always there for you in a way afterwards, and you two can learn alot from eachother.

jenny~dee

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Is it possible to move from one relationship to another in a healthy way? Posted: 11/15/2006 12:12:49 PM
you know what i have not ever been single longer than a month in my life. and I dont feel it is the worst possible thing at all. Life is way to short to dweel on those whom have hurt you- pull up your socks and move on. If you meet another person shortly after and you feel ready than what is stopping you. As long as you know yourself fully and you understand what went wrong then your good to go. dont dwell on the heartache your worth so much more than this:)

jenny~dee

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What triggers you to run... Posted: 11/15/2006 12:07:15 PM
learning to accept new ppl in your life is always hard if you have come from an abusive or discructive past. Just know that not everyone is the same, there are so many good keepers out there- just let them find you. Only you know the detailed warnings signs of a future bust so keep your eyes peeled, but dont shun him away, he could be a great person.

jenny~dee

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The pain of your ex seeing someone else Posted: 11/15/2006 12:05:22 PM
dont fret hun-it is hard to accept that the ex may be with another. My very first love left me for no reason to come to mind, we were together for two and a half years, i gave myself to him completeley. He was cheating on my with another girl i eventually found out and this broke me to tears for over 6 months. At this point hun- just remember who you are and try to figure what YOU want in life, dont let him get the best of you and remember to keep smiling:)

jenny~dee

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How many chances do you give someone you love? Posted: 11/15/2006 12:00:51 PM
how many chances hun, guess. If he has torn you and broken you down to tears and heart ache, THEN NO MORE CHANCES. there are much better guys out there to love who you are, remember there are plenty of fish in the sea. You will find the right guy. And oh yeah a man wont change for anyone if he cant change for himself, good luck hun

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