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Joined: 10/10/2006

Msg: 12 (view)

So, what's wrong with YOU? (i.e., why are you with ME?) Posted: 11/15/2006 12:32:38 AM
This happens to me a lot. I meet a girl and she asks me how come I'm single? I say it's because I haven't met the right girl. The girl is suprised that I'm single or thinks I'm a player. I have even been asked if I am a player? Now that question I find funny. I say no. But some girls still think I'm lying.This hasn't happen yet on this site but I'm sure some girl will ask me this question in person or on this site. I just take it as a compliment. -Fernandes

Joined: 10/10/2006

Msg: 169 (view)

Are people these days 'too picky'... Posted: 11/8/2006 12:54:17 AM
My whole point about people being picky is that some people shouldn't be picky. I mean, in order to be picky you must have a decent job, dress good, look good and keep your body in shape. I see and hear a lot of men and women making comments about others, when in reality they should look at themselves in the mirror. It's like they are holding out for a model to date. And its not all about looks. If you are broke all the time, have drug problem and can't hold a job you shouldn't be allowed to be as picky. -Fernandes

Joined: 10/10/2006

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Some of you Men are from Mars ! Posted: 11/7/2006 12:35:16 AM
Your right some guys have no patience for a normal conversation. But you got to see the other side of it. I try and read a girl's profile and write more than a cheesey line. I do put some effort in what I write. Then these girls read what I write and don't reply. I wait a few days because everyone gets busy and still nothing. I mean, most girls say in their profile how they want a nice guy, and the same old crap how they can't meet a great guy. Give me a break. To meet a guy you have to reply and give him a chance! There are a lot of nice guys out here on this site. A lot of women don't even give me a chance. And its not like I'm a bad looking guy. That part really gets me because if I was overweight, I couldn't even imagine how tough it would be. All I'm trying to say is that it happens both ways. And yes, I have learned to deal with it. -Fernandes

Joined: 10/10/2006

Msg: 532 (view)

who pays for dinner? Posted: 11/3/2006 12:55:30 AM
First date the guy should always pay for dinner. If you really like a girl, then paying for dinner is really not asking for much. I thought this was a given. Just deal with it guys. That's the way it is. Yes, even if the girl asked you out, or you weren't attracted to the girl. At the end of the day it's just money. Big deal. My reputation is worth far more than cheaping out on a date. -Fernandes

Joined: 10/10/2006

Msg: 170 (view)

Returning gifts when the relationship ends Posted: 10/29/2006 1:28:21 PM
Alright girl, lets think about this. You said you guys broke up and it was mutal. If you're not attracted to your ex, so why would you want to go to these four concerts with him? I like your honesty JessGreen, but you have to realize that holding on to these tickets will cause you bad carma. Just let go of these tickets girl. I know it may seem unfair to you, but you have to move on with your life. Trust me, $700 worth of concert tickets is not worth your reputation as a person. I don't want to bash you and call you names like the others have done, but you'll feel like a much better person for returning your ex's tickets! JessGreen, you could meet lots of guys that will buy stuff. But that stuff will not make you happy in the long run. I don't know what you look like, but one day your looks will deteriate. It's called getting old. Then your personality will have to come into play! -Fernandes

Joined: 10/10/2006

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Any import / domestic car enthusiasts here? Posted: 10/27/2006 5:55:52 PM
Ever since the Fast and the Furious came out everyone seems to want to drive a souped up ride. I drive a Civic that is lowered, and done up a bit. To be honest, I would never buy a Civic that is stock, simply for the fact that everyone seems to own one. I get a lot of compliments on my ride. People uaually say I like your Civic, because it doesn't look like a Civic if that makes sense. I like exotics and classic American muscle cars because they are cool and original. At the end of the day it doesn't matter what you drive, as long as you respect somebody's ride. I hate when a person insults my ride and meanwhile they drive a rust bucket. I give props to the guys who drives nice cars but don't brag about it! -Fernandes

Joined: 10/10/2006

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80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles Posted: 10/25/2006 11:51:11 PM
That the problem with internet dating. People can lie at first, but then they will eventually get caught. If I meet a great girl one day on this site, I would feel like such an idiot if I went on a date and she busted me on a lie. Knowing my luck she would be hot with a great personality! -Fernandes

Joined: 10/10/2006

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Do all men in their mid-late twenties who ask 18/19 yos have issues/bad intentions? Posted: 10/25/2006 11:16:36 PM
First of all, I find younger women generally go for older guys. And vice versa. I am 28 years old and the last time I went out I had a 44 year old women hit on me. The point I'm trying to make is, girl get use to it. If you don't like older guys thats fine. Date guys your age or youger, whatever you like. -Fernandes

Joined: 10/10/2006

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Why Can't He Talk To Me Posted: 10/25/2006 6:05:12 PM
C'mon, the guy needed an out. His truck had no problems and sounds like he didn't have the courage to say this in public to that women. I know it happens, but some guys can't handle having a serious argument or fight. It's much easier to aviod someones phone calls than face that person. I know your hurt, but you have to learn to move on! -Fernandes

Joined: 10/10/2006

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Still single? I can help! Posted: 10/23/2006 8:35:28 PM
Hey 99regina stunner, dude your harsh but your honest. I like that. It's true about those guys and girls that moan and grown how nobody likes them, or they are too thin or too fat. Give me a break. Get your lazy butt out of bed, and go to the gym. Work out 5 times a week. Lose that gut or gain some weight and lift some weights. Oh and 1 more thing, eat healty so you will look good and feel good. 99regina stunner, your also right about one's looks. I mean, I do well at the clubs, but I also meet some women that hate me. It might be my looks, personality or who know's what, but my point is that not every girl finds me attractive. That fine, I have learned to deal with that. Your on a roll stunner because 10-12 emails a week is pretty good considering your complaining about being single. I will be the first one to admit, I am single by choice. And yes ladies, I am picky but I feel I can be. -Fernandes

Joined: 10/10/2006

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PreNuptial, next time? Posted: 10/23/2006 5:21:45 PM
As a 28 year old male, I feel that executing a prenuptial agreement before marriage is wise. Now a days, let's face it divorse happens. If I was smart enough to start an RRSP when I was 18, and contribute to it on a regular basis. Work my butt off to get promoted with a company, then why should I lose half my assets at age forty for example? That doesn' t make sense. And for some cases, still have to pay an ex wife for another 10 years or even longer. That's maddness. I find their is a lot of men and women now a days looking for a free ride, instead of working hard and investing your money. Those people want to drive nice cars, live in a big house and travel everywhere without working hard to attain nice things.And yes their is a name for them:GOLDDIGGERS! The prenup has to state specific provisions including a fidelity clause. This is where communication comes in to play with your beloved partner. If you think you that sucks, well the owner of fox wrote a prenup on a napkin just before he got married. It didn't hold up in court, and yes he lost a few billions. And yes it's a true story. In closing, everyone is intitled to their own decisions, but just remember that guy lost billions, not millons.-Fernandes

Joined: 10/10/2006

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Still single I can help? Posted: 10/20/2006 11:29:19 PM
I hear you TattoosAreAddictive. I'am still pretty new to this site and I get 1 out 5 or 6 replys back from women. I am polite and I feel I have a lot to offer in a relationship. But I have learned to accept this crap on a site like this. Some women think the world revolves them because they have tons of guys hitting on them. Big deal if they have 300 favorities. It's not like these girls are famous models, but they act like they are. They can't return or don't have time to msg me back. Whatever. In the real world, would a girl listen to what I have to say, then walk away. Maybe for some guys, but I have never had that happen. TattoosAreAddictive, don't waste your time with guys that have no time for you. It's frustrating I know, but that's how dating works.Peace -Fernandes

Joined: 10/10/2006

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Your thoughts on terrorist attacks Oct 22 NFL Stadiums Posted: 10/20/2006 10:47:50 PM
I was watching CNN and it was revealed it was a hoax. I don't think anyone should live there lives in fear. President Bush is always in search of oil and that is a fact. It all boils down for greed to make money. There are people dieing in the UnitedStates and the government doesn't care. Instead of spending millions and millions of dollars in killing people, why not spend that money saving people. Just a thought. The 911 tradgety could have been avoided. The government knew about this and why was this not stopped. It's sad to think that this happens, but its reality. I will never forget September 11th 2001. I don't think anyone will, and terrorism will only stop when the Bush government cares for the American people. In response to the question, yes I would go to the game. I would live my life, and try not to let terrorism affect my daily life. Sorry for getting political on you guys but that's how I feel. Nobody should live their lives in fear. -Fernades

Joined: 10/10/2006

Msg: 856 (view)

Do You Men Read Our Whole Profiles? Posted: 10/15/2006 6:59:13 PM
It's hard to write to women on this site.I can honestly say I do read the whole profiles.I can see that there are most guys out there just trying to get laid.After all, their is a lot of creeps out there.The women with great pics I think get msg a lot. I mean, most of the time their profile sucks.I currently have one pic posted, but I have a feeling that when I post more I will get msg back more often.Both men and women look at pics at first. Attraction is key.What I don't get is the women that read my msg but don't reply back.Their profile claims they want a nice guy that is honest, caring and etc.They go on how they can't meet a great guy.Meanwhile their dating 4 or 5 guys at the same time.When they get played by a guy then the nice guys suffer. I have learned to stand up for myself.Both men and women let's be honest play games.I love the chase but hate the games.I like honesty but lets face it ladies, it doesn't always work. Remember that, feelings play an important part in the relationship! Maybe my profile needs work.But I'am willing to bet that women are just as shallow as men.I often wonder how many times my profile gets read.In closing, this cyber thing is madness, but I love it in a strangs way! -Fernandes

Joined: 10/10/2006

Msg: 854 (view)

Stop the guy bashing! Posted: 10/15/2006 6:28:45 PM
Ladies, you have to agree that women are just as shallow as men.I would love to do an experiment and see how many emails I get back with the types of pics I have posted. I don't want to take a cheesy pic with my shirt off, but I bet if I took a few pics with my guy friends or more pics of myself I would get a lot of responses! What I don't get, is the women that have these profiles that are looking for a caring, honest, fun loving guy. I msg them and they always read what I have written, but rarely do I get msg back. I'm not looking for a one night stand or anything like that. I just like to chat and maybe hang out as friends.If we click then I might date the girl. If I wanted to get laid I would just go to the club and pick up.Why on earth would I waste my time on a site like this. I can honestly say that I read profiles.I like the forums. Please keep in mind ladies that their is a lot of great guys outthere still looking for friendship.Cheers and all the best! -Fernandes

Joined: 10/10/2006

Msg: 73 (view)

How To Approach Women Without Seeming Creepy --- C'Mon HELP US LADIES!! Posted: 10/14/2006 1:04:15 AM
I agree about the color comment.I have learned that cheesy lines don't work.Just be your self.Women can see past this foolish act.Be your self ,and try to find out some info about the girl if possible ie(if she has a boyfriend or what she does for a living?)Ask some of the other guys if they know this asian girl.Chances are they will if she's hot like you said.Compliments works wonders.If this doesn't work dont't get upset, just move on to the next girl.You have to learn to do that.And finally if that doesn't work,just start a rock band and then the women will follow you much like Gene Simmons!HA HA HA

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