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sobeit19

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Heart broken still Need advise PLEASE!! Posted: 8/17/2008 4:50:15 AM
You might need to check into a physc ward. Honestly if you are thinking about suicide, if you feel you have nothing going for you, or nothing to live for you are seriously depressed. It's a chemical imbalance, if you check in, you can get the right medication to balance you out and you can talk to someone who gives a rats ass instead of posting on this site. If you don't have insurance "Baker Act" yourself. Call the police, tell them you are seriously thinking of offing yourself and they will come and get you, take you straight to the hospital.. As for your ex.. that's over, never going to get that back.. So get help and move on

sobeit19

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Is he a possible pedophile? Posted: 8/17/2008 4:32:36 AM
I can't guess his motive, whatever they were it was all inappropriate.

sobeit19

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I need advice `Did I handle this ok, or just lost it.' Posted: 8/17/2008 4:27:12 AM
Maybe you shouldn't have had sex with him until you knew all his dirt? That's why you feel less than clean right now, that's why you feel used. You should have been to his home, known his friends and family before you dropped your panties. So now you've blown a gasket and texted him everything you feel, did it help? Probably not.... Next time, and there will be a next time, take it slooooooooowwww

sobeit19

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What To Do If You Run Into An Estranged Relative? Posted: 6/20/2008 4:02:34 AM
Show the class you have and be polite, but do not invite long conversation. If he approaches you just be polite and then make an excuse to leave his company. Such as bathroom break, getting something from your car.. anything. Then go and engage someone else in conversation. You can then leave the room early, everyone will look at him as if he's crazy and you will look like the person in the right. If he does try to corner you, do not allow him to push your buttons. Tell him that this it not the time or place to rake up old business. Keep repeating that to him and move away from him. I imagine he will get tired of following you all over the room. Doing so will make him look like an ass. You have every right to celebrate the new arrival with all the joy a new birth brings.

sobeit19

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The Abortion Ultimatum - dealbreaker? Posted: 6/19/2008 8:44:29 AM
second hand info .. I would ask him up front instead of listening to others. See what he has to say for himself. Be honest about the gossips who came to you.

sobeit19

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Wife has a friend - help :-( Posted: 6/18/2008 6:00:51 AM
Wow! She must think you fell off a turnip truck.... No man unless he's gay, has pure friendship intentions toward a woman they call "friend" This is not my conclusion, but that of every man I have ever asked that question of. So, she makes a choice if you want her to, between you or him. Or you take your happy azz on down to an attorneys office. You can bet if she is having a relationship with this man that it wont last. Divorced people who jump into a relationship too soon never stay with one person. There might be exceptions but it's unlikely. I"m sorry you're in pain but don't be a fool, you know in your head exactly what's going on, it's screaming at you loud and clear. I'll bet if you look in her underwear drawer you will find all kinds of nice new sexy things you paid for but havent seen.

sobeit19

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Single for the first time in three years Posted: 5/20/2008 11:33:38 AM
mc... not high expectations from women my age but that of men my age. Most do not want a woman their own age. They look for younger women. If you don't believe me ask some of your friends if they had a choice of a fifty year old woman or a thirty five year old woman whom would they choose. I have made many friends on this site with women in my age group. Every single one of them has been dumped for someone younger or passed over for someone younger. We also have a high death rate of men our age, so the pond isn't that deep, factor in how many women there are to every man in my age group and you gotta believe many are going to be alone. As far as I'm concerned, maybe my expectations are too high. I want someone to treat me the same way my husband did, and I want someone to be at least as attractive as he was. So I have this great dog who loves me like cake. If the right man for me isn't out there it's ok. I have a full life, and I have a dog who loves me whatever I do.

sobeit19

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Been married for 20 years, feel empty. Posted: 5/19/2008 10:33:33 PM
If you don't want to give up what you've gained then you better get your husband and get to a counsellor. Marriage is hard work, it sounds like you've given up. Sleeping in seperate beds is the beginning to the end. If you don't love the man then get out, expect to be butt poor but maybe happier? Money should not be the reason you stay with someone. It shows a lack of character to hang on for financial reasons alone.

sobeit19

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Single for the first time in three years Posted: 5/19/2008 10:08:35 PM
My dear! It could be worse, you could find yourself suddenly single at my age due to a husbands death. You have a deep pond to fish from.. Over 45 and that pond is soooooooo shallow. So take the time you need to get over your lost love and then head out fishin. I promise it will all come back to you.

sobeit19

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Advice on my situation Posted: 5/19/2008 10:04:11 PM
So, are you going to put yourself on hold waiting for her to find herself? How do you think that would go over with her if you said the same thing to her? While she's finding herself go out and meet new women, choose those who have their act together. Take care of yourself! I think you should count your blessings if she does find someone else to get stoned with. That way it will be someone else she goes down the toilet with

sobeit19

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Is he cheating? Posted: 5/19/2008 12:37:44 PM
That first feeling you have is the one to trust. If he didn't do anything have him tell you who he was talking to and start a discussion with her. Find out from her if he met her, if he planned to meet her etc. I think women define cheating differently than men, but being on this site, getting caught talking to someone, all done behind your back is cheating. Definately don't be a fool, eyes wide open!

sobeit19

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Do we have to have s*x??? Posted: 5/19/2008 10:56:16 AM
Good sex = good chemistry. I think you've never been turned on. You need to find out why you aren't into sex. Some women who've been sexually abused as children have trouble with sex. Could this have happened to you? Maybe you just haven't met the man who makes you crazy.. That's so sad If you feel better about a relationship not having sex that's great. I think you will find it difficult to find and maintain a relationship without it.

sobeit19

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Got a fake diamond ring from fiance, he lied and said it was a 3 carat, 30,000 dollar ring! Posted: 5/19/2008 10:46:27 AM
It's not the ring, nor is it the worth of the ring.. It's the lie. If he's already been caught in lies he's not worth the future pain she will endure living with a liar. Big lie, little lie doesn't matter. What else has he lied about? What has he lied about and not been caught at? She needs to dump his ass. Not because the ring was fake but because he's a low down dirty liar Ps. I doubt your friend asked for an expensive ring, it was all his idea. He sounds like he's so insecure that he thinks that a normal priced ring would not have sealed the deal. Once again can we say LOSER???

sobeit19

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A girl, a plane ticket, and a coward. Posted: 5/18/2008 6:35:54 PM
Your ticket is probably not refundable or transferable either. If that's the case just suck up the money you're out and move on. Now if you have other friends there why not go and visit them? Long distance does not work if one party gets lonely enough to start going out. I think that was the case with him, he may have been hitting the clubs all along, dating all along. But didn't meet someone until now. It's his loss

sobeit19

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My Ego's Been Bruised; How Do I Cope? Posted: 5/18/2008 8:21:19 AM
Honey there aint nothin wrong in how you look.. Our problem when we get older is the pond gets shallow. After a certain age men become such a hot commodity that they can, and do treat women their own age like shite. You are either used as a one night stand until that thirty five year old woman their after agrees to go out with them, or you get ditched while on a date. There is a pay back though, older men get used for their money and discarded by younger women.. I have found the only men who are serious about dating me are younger men that think widow means money, or way older men who are a few years away from wearing depends. I used to cry about being alone, but I wasn't willing to be a filler, a sugar mama, or a caretaker. So I have this great dog who loves me like cake, am I happy about it? Nope not one bit, but I am not bitter, I am well adjusted, and I like my life.

sobeit19

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Man dies as result of Medical Marijuana Use Posted: 5/4/2008 6:07:02 AM
My nieces husband died waiting for a liver transplant because of smoking pot. The pot kept his nausea down. He stopped smoking for a year but it still showed up in his tests. THC can form crystals in the tissue causing you to test positive even though you have not smoked in six months to a year.

sobeit19

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Chili vs. Goulash Posted: 5/4/2008 5:56:51 AM
To Country Canuuck 85 Chili is made with shredded pork and or beef.. Never hamburger. That is another substitute for those on a budget. We always used beef stew meat, simmered for hours in garlic, onion and comino, and chili peppers. Then we shredded the meat and added some tomato sauce. Beans if we wanted beans, never canned beans. Everything has to be fresh, but if you don't have the time you can butcher your chili and call it that lol

sobeit19

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Chili vs. Goulash Posted: 5/4/2008 5:52:53 AM
People who put pasta in chili are doing so to make it go farther. My mother knew how to make a meal stretch. But generally speaking, no pasta. In Texas I think you would be strung up for that lol

sobeit19

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I took his hand and he flipped out...wtf... Posted: 5/3/2008 8:46:13 PM
Maybe his definition of affection was different than your's.. Maybe affection to him was sex.. I would have walked away after that over reaction.

sobeit19

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How does one become a better cook? Posted: 5/3/2008 6:42:27 AM
A friend of mine found a book called "Cooking for Dummies" It helped her out a lot. My mother never wanted anyone in the kitchen unless she wanted her mess cleaned up. I had home ec classes in school but our district was too poor to supply us with anything to cook more than once every three months. I bought my first Betty Crocker cook book and tried the most simple things I could find. Built my confidence and went from there. Once you get experience you can do some ad lib with the recipes. FOLLOW THE DIRECTIONS! It's the best advice I can give. Look in your neighborhood thrift stores for cook books. Why pay twenty five dollars for a new book, when you can get one at the resale shops for two to three dollars or less. Ps. I have a set of cast iron that has been in my family for as long as I can remember, they are well seasoned and do not stick when I cook with them. I have non stick for light sauces. I bought them when I had some problems with my wrists. The cast iron are a tad heavy. You have gotten some good advice, try easy things first, soon you will be cooking up a storm

sobeit19

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Kids packed her bags!! Posted: 4/19/2008 6:22:54 PM
I wish you hadn't involved your children. What they saw or rather didn't see will influence them and how they deal with women for the rest of their lives. I'm not sure how you found out where she was, or what led up to you thinking she was cheating. Removing her from your life was the right thing to do, but involving your sons was wrong. You and your wife have damaged them ps. I rarely ever read what other posters have to say before I post. My view might not be popular, or it might be what most of everyone is thinking.

sobeit19

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Men Who've Passed Their Expiration Date Posted: 4/18/2008 7:03:25 AM
Realistic or not they expect it. So where does that leave the 40's and 50's single gals? Used for sex and dumped? Our choices as we get older are limited. So gals in our age range must seek older, foot in the grave guys.. where's my depends kind.. Or have a youngin with his hand out.. When a man who is older looks in the mirror he does NOT see the bald head, the hair growing out his nose, the fat stomach, the sagging skin.. He has a special mirror that tells him he is a hot commodity, and that he's the king.My advice to a younger woman marrying an older man is to get a big ass insurance policy and pay it faithfully. She and the children will be left holding the bag if not. So my dear.. I have to say this is one of the most intelligent posts from a young one I have ever seen..

sobeit19

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How many other people feel guilty about leaving your pet behind? Posted: 4/18/2008 6:54:58 AM
I do I do! I have an American Boxer, my son has a Red Nose Pit. They are the sweetest dogs I have had the pleasure to have in my life. I am working on my house in Ga. So I leave for weeks at a time, going back and forth to fla and ga. When I get home I am just sick because I know they missed me they look so sad, and I missed them and thought of them the whole time I was away. The dogs love us like a fat kid loves cake. They know the true meaning of unconditional love. No matter what they forgive us and love us, are happy to see us, don't hold grudges. AND.. they don't break our hearts, move out in the middle of the night, or move out and take our stuff lol

sobeit19

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LDR / Russian brides Posted: 3/30/2008 9:10:07 AM
This is my take on the Russian bride stuff.. All they want is a passport and money. Look at it this way.. Can you honestly look in the mirror and say you are as attractive as she is????? If you can't then you know she is not madly in love with you and never will be. If this woman was an American would she give you the time of day? I do have a friend who went to a site called Fillipinohearts.com. He met this wonderful woman and they are now married. But here is the deal, he did not look for some hot young chick. He married age appropriate, they have a great relationship.

sobeit19

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Mother is Bipolar...What do I do? Posted: 3/30/2008 8:56:50 AM
You have to have her Baker Acted. You call the police and tell them she's been threating suicide, that you think she is off her meds. As far as the boyfriend goes, this is the deal kiddo. You cannot choose your family, they are who they are. Your mother gave birth to you and your sister. She did not choose to be ill, blood is blood. Family comes first over boyfriends. I think you are just overwhelmed and burned out. Hospitalize her as soon as you can, and you also need some counselling.

sobeit19

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Stupid....stupid...stupid.... Posted: 3/30/2008 8:49:30 AM
Sounds gay to me.... Sleeps in the same bed and isn't even tempted? You did not clarify if you "had sex" you just said sleeping together. Maybe I'm so old fashioned that when someone says sleeping together I think pajamas and dreams LOL

sobeit19

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used and abused Posted: 3/30/2008 8:44:08 AM
Dude! You just got used as a taxi...... Block her calls, or learn how to say NO As to why she broke up with you, I wouldn't assume he had more money. If he did he would have paid her way and you wouldn't have been used as a doormat. So money is NOT the reason she left you.

sobeit19

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Will I ever stop? Posted: 3/30/2008 8:40:53 AM
Don't give up! But really listen when they tell you things. If they don't add up, there's a problem. Women are not really that stupid, we choose to hear, and believe what we want to believe. We have an intuition that if we listen to, steers us clear.You just have to beleive in what your instincts are telling you. Don't listen to that, and you will surely pay for it.

sobeit19

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I dont get it Posted: 3/30/2008 8:37:32 AM
Ps... When I was your age muddin, and all that outdoors stuff was fun. I looked at your profile and saw the photos. You are a nice looking young man and what you do for fun looks like it's fun! So hang in there.

sobeit19

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I dont get it Posted: 3/30/2008 8:34:18 AM
I don't think you're ready to date yet. So why not take a break from the dating scene and just try to make some new friends on here. In your outside life find something to do that takes your mind off your ex. Hang out with friends ANYTHING is better than feeling so bad that all you do is cry in your beer. Been there, some days I'm still there but it does get better.

sobeit19

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I'm Dyin Here... Posted: 3/25/2008 7:13:22 AM
Bunny My husband went out with friends, went to shoot pool, out to drink whatever. I never worried about what he was doing because I knew what he was doing. I trusted him enough to let him have some out and about time. I had my own too, no one strayed. I think you need to move on sorry to say. NO one should rub your nose in this, shite happens.

sobeit19

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Laundry Detergent Posted: 3/24/2008 4:54:01 AM
Ok sounds like it might save money but being in American I have no clue what cleaning soda is. I love that people waste money on oxi clean when it's mostly borax lol

sobeit19

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Advice! Is this guy into me or does he just want to ****? Posted: 3/24/2008 4:36:22 AM
He sounds creepy to me.. Come on, get your head out of the clouds. He acts jealous about your life before him, talks about porn. He says your last date was a weirdo, then when you give him a peck on the cheek he asks 'DO I SMELL BETTER THAN HIM?' I wouldn't see this person a second time, you don't know him at all, what he asked you just seems too creepy to me. But of course you will, he will mistreat you, and guess what? You'll be in the broken heart section crying about what he did to you. TMBRMP is spot on

sobeit19

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the wake of bad vibes. Posted: 3/22/2008 2:06:51 PM
I married someone five years younger. We stayed together twenty three years until his death in 03. I think you are falling for girls who really don't know what they want. Try someone a couple of years younger, not eight years. Or maybe once they get settled into your lifestyle they realize it wasn't what they wanted. Their single friends go out and have fun, they sit at home in front of the tv? I would suggest that if you do meet someone younger you take them out enough so that they don't get bored.

sobeit19

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He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya???? Posted: 3/22/2008 1:57:09 PM
Nope! If there are conditions to gain and keep his love, that means you will be busting your ass just to make him happy.. And he never will be happy with you

sobeit19

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Women who smoke are far more promiscuous. Posted: 3/19/2008 6:47:34 PM
That is the view of a non smoker. I smoked for many years, I never cheated on a man in my life, and I didn't go from one to the next. My friends who smoke weren't whores, I think this study or whatever it is, is pure BS

sobeit19

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Please, some advice...... Posted: 3/19/2008 6:42:03 PM
I think he's playing the broken hearted fool in hopes you will shag him on the side. When he comes near you turn your back.. Good old fashioned shunning is what he needs. I wont condem you for the choice you made, you honestly thought he would get a divorce. Anytime you see him though I advise you to turn your back and walk off. Every woman I have ever known who dated a "getting divorced" "seperated" man, they almost always go back to their marriage. It's just not worth it. If I had been in your position I might have made the same choice if I wasn't old enough to know what happens. For most of us with age comes wisdom. You will get over him and move on, don't quit your job just because it hurts to see him, that which is painful will make you stronger. So unless you can get a job for more money and better security stay where you are and continue to ignore him. If you notice he is looking at you then stop looking back. A good way to avoid eye contact is to pick up the phone and call someone or even to pretend you are on the phone with someone. Don't allow yourself to be pulled back in.

sobeit19

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who can you trust Posted: 3/19/2008 6:29:30 PM
Zabbas search....... You type in the persons name and city and it will pull up addresses. You then look at the other names listed for that address. It tells you if there is a husband in the picture or not. I don't t hink your heart is broken, you are just disappointed. You thought you had found the right one for you, turns out she belongs to another. I am not discounting your pain, but imagine how much worse it would have been if you had gotten involved more than you already did. Be glad some angry husband is not knocking down your door to give you the beating of a life time. Not everyone on this site is a liar, there are many broken people here with baggage, and walls built, and expectations no one could meet. But for the most part I have found genuine people looking for the same thing you are.

sobeit19

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Looking for a recipe : help me find it? Posted: 3/19/2008 6:22:16 PM
People I know that use the coke simply place a picnic ham in a baking bag and pour one can of coke in the bag. They bake the ham at 350 for two hours. Simple as that, the salty picnic ham is easier to eat and tastes great. No extra ingredients. It's almost like the brown sugar glaze. Hope this is what you were looking for?

sobeit19

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Going through divorce but wanting to date Posted: 3/18/2008 2:21:23 PM
Most women/men, want to know that the ink is dried on that divorce decree.. Some have found themselves in a place where they started dating a man or woman going thru a divorce, only to find that they go back to the soon to be ex.. So maybe get that decree first.

sobeit19

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Young children at this age. Posted: 3/18/2008 2:05:59 PM
I value my peace. That said if your child behaves like a little monster, constantly cries and whines, is disrespectful to me and my home.. forget about it. I have a niece with grandchildren, she is two years older than I. She volunteers to take care of her grand children all the time.. Unfortunately her idea of "taking care" of them is to let them run wild, get hurt, tear up other peoples property, and then make excuses for their behavior.. Nope not willing to destroy my peace, risk my belongings i've worked so hard for, just for the pleasure of someones company.. It doesn't out weigh the problems. I would step up and raise my grand children when I have some if it was necessary. I would probably become one of those grandmas who spoil the crap out of their grandchildren. I don't see that happening but if it does I'm sure my tune will change very fast

sobeit19

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Racism Posted: 3/18/2008 1:53:44 PM
People hate that which is different. Hate is based in fear. They want all the round pegs in the round holes. Racism is an equal opportunity for people of all races, creeds, and religions to feel superior to others. We do it with our homes, cars, clothing, schools we attend, and the list goes on.. Someone has to feel inferior so the racist or snob can feel superior

sobeit19

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life 4 sale Posted: 3/18/2008 1:47:02 PM
He may not find his life worth staying for, but you can bet someone else might. So good luck to him. I don't see anything wrong with walking away to something new. The selling the friends part is a bit much though lol.... Can you imagine knocking on your friends door and saying.. well so and so this is my substitute, he bought my life including you, good luck in the future so long

sobeit19

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Why Wasnt I good Enough for her? Posted: 3/18/2008 1:18:39 PM
I think part of the problem is "culture shock". My deceased husband was hispanic, family was EVERYTHING! We don't boot our kids out at eighteen, when moms needs some help we are Johnny on the job. I learned to value my family from him. It's apparent she lied about not caring if she made more than a man, maybe approval from her family outweighed the good in you. So get your act together. Move in with Moms, you will help each other, keep pushing for that position on the force. The loss of this one is not that great a loss when you look at it honestly. Love yourself first, then find someone who values you for who and what you are.... take it damned slow.

sobeit19

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Break up over fashion! :( Posted: 3/17/2008 6:47:18 PM
I agree it's not about your clothing. It's deeper than that, or just the fact he can't figure out why he doesn't want to be with you, There are some snobs out there when it comes to clothing but I honestly don't believe this is the reason for break up. If you had known he wanted you to dress differently, you could have come to a compromise. Since he didn't even give you a chance to do anything it tells me it's something all together different. Maybe he found someone who tripped his trigger better than you but didn't want to tell you

sobeit19

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What really excites your date after 45 Posted: 3/10/2008 3:33:27 PM
I was going to make a joke and say "Diamonds Darling" but I think the question has merit. If coffee gives you heartburn suggest something else! Early moring flea market, a walk on the beach, she with her caffe latte, you with whatever. Feed the gulls with old bread.... DODGE THE POOP If no beach is around find something from your city section that's happening in town. Dinners are hardly romantic on the first date. It should be somewhere with a lot of people around. Art gallery, street fairs etc. This way you can see what that person likes, how they react to you, and if it's not right you say thanks for a lovely day and be on your way.

sobeit19

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Mom had only one edible dish...yours? Posted: 3/8/2008 4:11:26 PM
Ma dukes was a great cook, until my dad died. Then it was slap crap together and here you go.. Never would allow me in the kitchen to learn to cook. I had to learn it on my own and I am a fab cook, as good or better than ma was. No time to post recipes because I need to get my butt in gear and prime the bedroom for painting.

sobeit19

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I'm an idiot Posted: 2/20/2008 3:45:06 PM
Wow! You should'nt be angry with yourself, all you did was be open to love, and you believed you had met someone special.. Well, every woman does that. You sound like you have a lot going for you. You sound like someone who would be a great role model and a good friend. Don't beat yourself up for being a good woman..

sobeit19

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Cohabitation Agreement - Advice Posted: 2/20/2008 3:33:58 PM
Just have an agreement spelled out at an attorneys office. That way if things do not work out he's protected and so are you. Inventory what you bring and have him inventory what he has. If you purchase anything together make a written agreement that those things are gifts or who ever keeps it has to pay the other person the other half of that item. Judge Judy is an eye opener when it comes to those who cohabitate without an agreement spelled out in black and white.

sobeit19

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Help on erasing Posted: 2/20/2008 3:30:03 PM
You can drink him away but you will drink everything else away too.. You could attempt to give yourself a serious head injury but there too you will lose everything else.. Pain, heartbreak, loss of loved ones is what makes us who we are. You never forget things that hurt, why would you want too? It shapes us, makes us strong and wise

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