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bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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answer it or let it ring? Posted: 12/22/2005 7:37:13 AM
It depends, if im at home during the day and the phone rings I wont answer it, anyone who knows me will call on my mobile and i got fed up with answering calls from telesales. If I know im going to do something I wont want to be interrupted then ill put answer phone on or phone on silent because I cannot stand the sound of a phone just ringing and ringing!!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Haven't shopped at all yet Posted: 12/22/2005 3:50:29 AM
I bought one present out of the thirty odd i buy - going to try and get it done tonight that way i can wrap during the day on christmas eve and then relax!!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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A father's right to choose Posted: 12/21/2005 8:40:34 AM
For a start nowhere in my post did I say that the choice is soley anybody's what i was saying is that the equality you want is impossible until you do actually give 50% of what makes a child. You give 50% of the DNA you dont give 50% of the blood, oxygen, nutrition etc that keeps it alive for 9 months. As I also said I think its great youd take care of the child, suffer the mood swings etc, but that doesnt change the fact that its not your body experiencing morning sickness, taking the risks that are still involved, and no amount of help can change that. I will repeat my point just in case, yes i think its unfair, yes i think men should have a say but until you do actually give exactly 50% of the total process from ejaculation to birth then you wont be completely equal.

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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A father's right to choose Posted: 12/21/2005 8:39:45 AM
For a start nowhere in my post did I say that the choice is soley anybody's what i was saying is that the equality you want is impossible until you do actually give 50% of what makes a child. You give 50% of the DNA you dont give 50% of the blood, oxygen, nutrition etc that keeps it alive for 9 months. As I also said I think its great youd take care of the child, suffer the mood swings etc, but that doesnt change the fact that its not your body experiencing morning sickness, taking the risks that are still involved, and no amount of help can change that. I will repeat my point just in case, yes i think its unfair, yes i think men should have a say but until you do actually give exactly 50% of the total process from ejaculation to birth then you wont be completely equal.

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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A father's right to choose Posted: 12/21/2005 8:33:22 AM
Be a pleasure to join you two, i've liked your debate - Im not saying at all that I think a man has no say or that I think that the situation at the moment works to benefit everyone involved. What I am saying is that men will never be completely equal in this until they can become pregnant. It doesnt matter how empathetic and sensitive you are as human being as a man it is impossible (at the moment) for you to become pregnant. I dont think that a man being forced to support a child he didnt want is right, I dont think a man not getting the chance to be a parent is right, but I dont think that forcing a woman to have an abortion is right, or that forcing a woman to have a child is right. However as babylonia has mentioned pregnancy and abortion involve a physical and mental toil that cannot be ignored, that physical and mental toil is not the same on the men, that is a fact of nature that you cant change. So therefore until the moment of birth a man and a woman will not have an equal say.

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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A father's right to choose Posted: 12/21/2005 7:28:07 AM
When a man is capable and willing to carry a child in their body for 9 months then it will be completely equal until then it wont - whether its right or wrong there is no way of getting round that fact. You cant claim equality in something youre unable to do. Simple fact is that your role can end with ejaculation and not start again until birth, a womans can't. I believe that a man should have a say, I'd hope that any two people who have sex have the respect for each other to be able to discuss it. Splixman - It's great that youd raise the kid on your own, but your forgetting the months she has to go through to bring the child into this world. I think were also forgetting the fact that abortion isnt necessarily the easy option for a woman, and that for many they are doing the nest thing, maybe not the right thing in everyone elses eyes but the best thing in the situation. Whether we all like it or not until men are able to go through pregnancy, birth, or abortion then you wont be equal with women when it comes to these decisions.

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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X factor final Posted: 12/16/2005 7:56:16 AM
I havent really warmed to Shayne that much. I like Andy I think he'll win! I like Journey South as well. Id be surprised if any of them actually came out of it with successful careers, when you look at it, noone other than Will Young has.

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Is (The movie) KING KONG racist? Posted: 12/16/2005 7:26:42 AM
I think you can find racism in most things, just as you can find sexual innuendo in most things, doesnt mean its intended in that way, its all about personal perspective!

bells

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ALL religions are cults...prove me wrong if you can! Posted: 12/16/2005 7:14:52 AM
I think the main difference for me is that religion was and is intended to help people and communities, i am not saying that this works everywhere or isnt distorted and that religion hasnt caused more deaths than anyhting else etc. However religion has also been responsible for a lot of good, you rarely find a 'cult' raising money for the community or sending aid to third world countries

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Are lookers (guys or chicks who are checking out others, while in a relationship), more or less li Posted: 12/16/2005 6:37:14 AM
I'll have a look if a nice guy walks past, and point out a nice girl. It is human nature, and as i like to say just because I'm on a diet doesnt mean I cant look at the menu!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Did I read too much into it? Posted: 12/16/2005 6:27:47 AM
The he acted towards you wasnt right, but you made it easy for him to treat you they way he did as well. I'm sorry that things have worked out for you, but if he couldnt committ to even meeting you at any point then the likelihood was he would continue to be too busy in a relationship, and lets face it what was his incentive to make time and do all the things you do deserve if you were still hanging on when he wasnt doing them!? It's great to have faith you're obviously a giving person but set yourself some limits on how much youll give if youre recieving nothing back.

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Ever laughed during sex ? Posted: 11/24/2005 8:26:46 AM
i think its great when youre with someone you do feel comfortable enough to laugh with in bed! not at them but with them though!!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Shortest Blind Date Ever Posted: 10/19/2005 8:25:16 AM
Ouch! her loss!!!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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everyones success rate on this site? Posted: 10/19/2005 7:47:32 AM
I only came on here for the forums and to chat to different people on occasion, ive meet some good and really interesting people so i suppose ive been successful in what i wanted!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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confusion (questions) Posted: 10/19/2005 7:39:35 AM
Maybe hes insecure, and worried youll think he isnt interested, or interesting and is over comepensating for it!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Shortest Blind Date Ever Posted: 10/19/2005 7:03:47 AM
Never done the blind date thing, dont think I could, especially not now!!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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How soon is it acceptable to sleep with a new partner. Posted: 10/19/2005 6:19:06 AM
Lol yeah i know the kind you mean, I'm surprised you lasted the four months. Does bring up a good point though, some people just arent compatible in bed, so whilst waiting is great idea etc how longs the maximum you wait so you dont run the risk of putting in so much time and effort and then discover that its just not going to work!?

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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How soon is it acceptable to sleep with a new partner. Posted: 10/19/2005 6:09:51 AM
true sometimes you cant but if the relationship is good in every other way then surely its worth a try!!!?

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Unreliable Friends....What Do You Do ? Posted: 10/19/2005 6:08:31 AM
First i'd actually say what youve said on the thread to him though make sure its not in an agressive of accusatory way or hell get defensive. and then just move one, you dont necessarily need to cut him out of your life, just say hes welcome to join you if he does great if he doesnt then nevermind, but definitely dont pander to his needs if he cant show common courtesy

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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How soon is it acceptable to sleep with a new partner. Posted: 10/19/2005 5:51:52 AM
Lol at tescos being ramraided. Though I think after four months of getting to know someone, if everything was good id probably have stuck with them and tried to improve sex life rather than not seeing them!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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How soon is it acceptable to sleep with a new partner. Posted: 10/19/2005 5:39:24 AM
lol I think its quite easy for some to confuse the two and there are men and women who are very adept at reinforcing that view!! personally i think its safer to err on the side of caution than risk a rude awakening!!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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How soon is it acceptable to sleep with a new partner. Posted: 10/19/2005 4:35:13 AM
I agree, but for some sex is still equals love!!

bells

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How soon is it acceptable to sleep with a new partner. Posted: 10/19/2005 4:10:23 AM
Thanks Almost402002. Just reading what a few others have written, and I do think it does tend to be harder for a female to judge when is the right time and several of my female friends have been left wondering what happened after going to quickly!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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whats your favourite song at the moment? Posted: 10/19/2005 3:30:15 AM
Thanks clutched i'll check it out!!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Has any women here....? Posted: 10/18/2005 8:42:55 AM
have sent a couple, mainly if theyve said something interesting in forums, but tend to receive a lot more than i've ever sent.

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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whats your favourite song at the moment? Posted: 10/18/2005 6:55:01 AM
thats quite tough, im just glad you said at the moment help me narrow it down. this week i'll mostly be listening to...... System of a down - BYOB and Lost in Hollywood are big favourites at moment and ive been going through some of my old CD's and keep listening to Me and mrs jones and there aint no sunshine when shes gone

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Woman Booted Off Flight For Anti-Bush Shirt Posted: 10/18/2005 6:22:36 AM
Was it for offensive language though? Has the airline actually stated why the shirt was offensive? Would be interested to see if someone wearing a t-shirt with just profanity on it had the same treatment?

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Iraq- should we or Shouldn't we? Posted: 10/18/2005 6:20:24 AM
No i dont think that the way Iraq occured was right. But I dont think we should pull out now. I dont think Iraq is better off at the moment, but I think it will be in the future. That said, I havent been out there, and my opinion is based purely from having the luxury of thinking about sitting on my sofa at home!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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why the British have a Paranoia with Sex? Posted: 10/18/2005 6:15:09 AM
I think the british are a lot more accepting than the americans of sex and sexuality in general!!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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How soon is it acceptable to sleep with a new partner. Posted: 10/18/2005 6:14:06 AM
Youve got to go for whatever feels right at the time. I mean sleeping with someone youve just meet after a week together is different to sleeping with someone youve known for years after a week together!! There is no acceptable time limit, just personal preference at the time!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Woman Booted Off Flight For Anti-Bush Shirt Posted: 10/18/2005 6:05:45 AM
According to the article I read on it, it is airline policy that they will "deny boarding to any customer whose conduct is offensive, abusive, disorderly or violent or for clothing that is "lewd, obscene, or patently offensive." In which case she should of not been allowed on the plane. The airline is perfectly within its right to refuse a passenger to board, but I do think it was taking it to the extreme to ask the passenger to leave mid flight. Question that interests me is, was it offensive because of the political content or the language?

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Are there any girls from the south of uk here? Posted: 10/17/2005 9:00:14 AM
Another one from the South

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Why do you smoke???? Posted: 10/17/2005 8:02:22 AM
I smoke because I can, well for the time being until more people who drive everywhere and pump pollution into the air, decide im risking everyones health far too much. I smoke because I still like it and still have a little will control when it comes to it. I dont feel guilty about because out of all the vices I could have in the world smoking really isnt the worse!!!!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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United Kingdom Posted: 10/12/2005 6:25:04 AM
not all Welsh, Scottish, or Northern irish people are looking for freedom. and you could say the same about the United States, there are some factions within the Southern states that want freedom....

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Best places to live in UK Posted: 10/12/2005 4:35:59 AM
So many places I love in the UK, but London and Greater London, has such a huge diversity of places and people, I think its the best place to live!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Tattos!! Posted: 10/12/2005 4:33:05 AM
two so far, soon to be three. daisy on hip, chinese symbols meaning protect and defend your younger brothers on bottom of spine, and getting hindu symbol on centre of back this weekend!

bells

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United Kingdom Posted: 10/12/2005 4:22:59 AM
Actual name is - The United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland.

bells

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Does an illegal immigrant deserve the same respect as a legal immigrant/citizen? Posted: 10/12/2005 4:15:49 AM
Whether a human being deserves respect should not be based on his/her status as a citizen or an illegal immigrant. It should be based on the person that they are.

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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How to say LOVE in every language of the world. Posted: 8/4/2005 3:43:44 AM
Turkish - Ben seni seviyorum

bells

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Man shot dead by UK police not connected to bombs Posted: 7/26/2005 6:27:34 AM
As I said i watched all the witnesses being interviewed minutes after it happened, none of them could say with any conviction whether he was pushed or tripped. and none could say if he was held down. My point is simply that none of us know what actually happened.

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Man shot dead by UK police not connected to bombs Posted: 7/26/2005 6:17:47 AM
There is no proof he was being held down or pushed, the witnesses when first interviewed by news crews, literally minutes after it happened, said they were all unsure as to whether he was pushed or tripped they were not in a position to see. They also said he was shot seconds after he tripped/was pushed. An innocent man was shot which is terrible but lets try not to exaggerrate or state things as fact when the facts arent all known

bells

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Attack on London! Posted: 7/7/2005 9:39:14 AM
Just wanted to add another thank you to everyone for all their best wishes. Im in the UK and only 20 miles away from the bombing sites today with a lot of family and friends travelling those journeys everyday and was myself meant to be going to liverpool street this morning, only reason i didnt was that my boyfriend was due back from vegas today! My thoughts are with anyone who has lost someone in any terrorist attack, or war throughout the world. London and British people will recover, its not the first time our city has been subject to a terrorist attack and I doubt it will be the last. Perhaps this will also give those who still support the IRA/NORAID pause for thought, as this is the same as what youve been helping happen for half a decade all over the UK and Northern Ireland.

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Has anyone here dated a metrosexual? Posted: 6/9/2005 2:51:28 AM
I went out with one, who used to spend longer doing his almost completely shaved hair than I spent on my long hair. Wore so much aftershave you could tell when he walked into a room. Clothes had to be just so, it was actually obsessive. Almost got involved with someone who wouldnt spend less than a hundred pounds on a pair of shoes, had a very nicely decorated house, but pitied those who didnt choose to or couldnt buy the expensive versions of furniture the way he did, and couldnt understand why I was happy in a job that paid less but gave a better quality of life! We're good friends now and I enjoy deflating his ego every now and then when it gets to much. You do get good ones who have a balance and they're great. Personally, I like a man who likes to look good, but i also want him to not have to look good all the time! it puts to much pressure on the relationship because you can find yourself constantly trying to attain the same levels and there are some days when the most effort ill make is brushing my hair and teeth.

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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How do I go about this (long read) Posted: 6/9/2005 2:35:08 AM
I wouldnt go all out and declare how i felt, not if i was starting a band with the person, things could be awkward if shes not expecting it, unless you're pretty sure she feels the same. Why not just ask her out, for a drink, meal, see how she reacts to the idea of a date with you rather than just hanging out with friends and then take it from there....

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Another maniac gets through customs Posted: 6/9/2005 2:21:13 AM
You say that customs isnt tight yet friend of my family was stopped after a flight from London to New York and was detained by customs and questioned by the police for two hours, because he has a common Irish name, irony of it is that he works for the Ministry of Defence over here and has higher security clearance than most.....

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Urban Myths Posted: 6/6/2005 9:03:30 AM
Seagulls really do explode!!

bells

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One night I had two girls or young women yell SMILE at me in a bar? Posted: 6/6/2005 7:49:15 AM
I'd go for the simple answer of, you looked miserable that night!

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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Sterilization (Perm./Temp) of Welfare Moms Posted: 6/6/2005 6:30:18 AM
In direct response to the first post..... We have the same problem to some degree here in the UK, girls i went to school with deliberately got themselves pregnant because they knew they would be provided with accomodation and benefits, but it is definitely a minority of people who do this. The idea itself would appear to have merit until you consider the effect it would have on basic human rights, how you would enforce it, and what you would to those who refused to comply? Stop benefits, put the mother in prison? Or not have a penalty in which case there is no incentive? Why does the father not look after the children rather than the grandparents? Perhaps money and time would be better spent with children form a younger age, male and female, being taught their responsibilities to the society that they live in and the responsibility they have to whatever offspring they produce. However many women there are taking advantage of the system there are just as many who have been abandoned by the fathers and have no other option, and just as many whose mothers and fathers are willing but unable to support their children int he way that they would wish.

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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How old is your profile pic? Posted: 6/2/2005 10:12:08 AM
main one is a couple of years old

bells

Joined: 11/17/2004

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> On the outs < Posted: 6/2/2005 5:54:11 AM
I cant believe The Noodler has actually gone, I can honestly say that POF will not be the same without him he was one of a kind! I will be keeping in contact with him as I expect a few others will, but anyone who didnt catch him before he went and wants to pass on email address' etc message me and i'll make sure he gets it!

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