Oh funny fact, my roommate (girl) has written to people in the past and had gotten awesome responses from messages going along the lines of "nice shoes, wanna f*ck?". I'm in for finding someone serious, not a one night loto ticket.

Some people would say that I should be well over the passing of my spouse...and I would say that I am...but, situational grief is what I believe I experienced today.

Is it ok to feel as I feel

Yet MANY people come in here to talk about their post-date experiences complaining about doing just that. I'm calling B.S. on that crap. You may be trying to be nice about NOT bashing your date directly in your rants - OK, that's understandable - but saying you 'lowered your standards' is just a backhanded way of saying, "I don't need to change because I'm better than that."

As you are passing by a moderately attractive woman, you hear her say to you, "Wow, you are sexy, I want to get to know you."

How do you think you would respond?

Why does he feel the need to tell me about all these things he's doing for her?

Assuming all things equal (his level of attraction to me, his current mood, etc) would a man naturally have more desire for me if he messaged me first?

Is there any advice for getting men to reply to my messages?

Facts: Women have more dangers and concerns than a guy has. Women in general are in more danger to be physically hurt. Online is truly a 'stranger'. There are no connections with family, friends, co-works or anyone. So it is especially dangerous. Everyone warns women to never give out much information, but get a lot from the guy.
I do not know of ONE man killed, raped or harmed by online meetings. But hundreds of women have been. Two last year murdered in this town alone. So, yes, women must be careful. There are many that people simply lie about who they are online. They must be able to be checked out. I you can't see that and understand it I am afraid you will continue to be disappointed.

I have chatted online a few times with someone they seem nice then out of the blue they are horrible., scary, nasty, hateful, vulgar and so forth so, takes time. Takes patience and takes caution.

Has nothing to do with being chased or hard to get.

No. You may have failed to notice that men and women are not the same, but the OP is clear on the matter.

Nothing, except he's already made it clear he's not interested in her.

What I love more than anything else, is just enjoying my life, having fun, traveling (when time and money allows!) and being happy!! I like to think I'm a good laugh, with a good sense of humour (I'm not exactly Lee Evans or Jimmy Carr, but I can still give and take a good joke and will laugh at literally anything, including myself, plus I pay my taxes, so definitely not like somebody I just mentioned ;) )

Football is a big passion of mine, I follow my team (Norwich City) all over the country, which mostly ends in disappointment and me saying to myself ''why do I bother doing this to myself?!'' but I still do! I like to play football with a few mates aswell, but I don't think any scouts will be picking me any time soon to join their club!

Although I enjoy my job, in a garden center despite knowing nothing about plants other than they have green stems and need water, I'm hoping to work in accounts/admin in the future, putting my A levels to use, if not, 3 years at college was a complete waste of time!

I love days out, at theme parks, the zoo, shopping (my bank account disagrees with that though!) etc. Going for a nice walk or a long drive is always a good way to spend your time, plus obviously there has to be the odd night in the pub/clubs! But if you are the sort of person who likes to stay indoors occasionally, maybe watching a movie, or even playing a board game and having a chat, then that's cool, aslong as I can be the dog in monopoly!

My music taste is extremely varied. If you looked at my Ipod, then you'll see I have just about any genre on there. I love older music, such as the Beatles, The Stones and you can't beat music from the 80's, especially Ska bands (madness, Specials) and Mod music, such as the Jam, Police, Clash etc. Modern music that I listen too is mainly rock, including Linkin Park, Killers, Muse, but I will listen to the music in the charts, and a bit of dance/club music isn't bad. I've only ever been to 2 gigs (want to go to more though) where I have seen the Enemy and Stereophonics, which I loved!

I love to travel, and if I had to pick 3 places that I have been too, to go to again, it'd have to be Thailand, America and Egypt, all for different reasons, but all incredible experiences.

How do you respond when someone e-mails you that you are not attracted to? Do you ignore or do you make conversation?

I personally try to make conversation, because I hate being ignored, and I don't want to make someone else feel that way.

I love her more than anything and am trying to do a complete 180 to try to keep the family together and win her back, but nothing seems to work. we have one daughter who is 7 and a stepson who is 13. What do I do. Any advice would be helpful.

Is there something I can do?

I get the feeling that most of the guys who message me never actually read anything written on my profile but for those who do, what do you think?

I am thinking maybe I should buy a puppy and walk it around, some nice looking girl in my neighborhood, just wondering if girls like to meet guys this way... I know the dogs like to play when they walk by each other, seems like a good idea, yes no?

1 I'm not spam I'm a real person.

The question is, why do women do this? They say they want to see you again and then blow you off completely in under 24 hours.

Has someone IRL ever turned down a date with you, but then later asked for another chance? How did that go? Thanks for sharing!

It's been awhile since I've dated. But I meet someone off here and have went out and we have a good time and says he wants to know more about me. He was gonna come over today and he txt me and played the friend card and says he likes me and ment everything he said but can't put his heart into it right now. So what's this mean.

I was wondering what are the best ways for a man to make sure a date happens and a date goes well after he gets a woman's phone number?

You can get a sense of whether or not a woman will more than likely flake..

1) If she's "needs to get back to you to let you know for sure" when you ask her out
2) She's asking for a reminder about where the place is
3) She tells you how busy she'll for the next two weeks...

Should I just let this whole thing go ad miss out on a chance of love and what might be or move on and see if there is someone who is out there better for me??

she says she's been single for most of her life, so i figure i've got nothing to lose. any input?

my question is this- guys are you more focused on having that instant spark-attraction factor that intangible something verses overall compatibility freindship trust?

I guess my question is, what would you consider as the genuine guy?

I don't understand what it is with dating sites. Girls my age say they are looking for a romantic, sweet, loving man, but when it really comes down to it, they seem to want big muscles, a six-pack and an attitude that just seems awful. I don't know what to do anymore really, I'm too busy to go to the gym every day and scream in a mirror until my pecks are bulging.. I have school and work to take care of, but it really doesn't seem like girls my age are interested in that. You could be the most intelligent and sweet man in the world

Say a conversation starts over POF chat (often initiated by the woman!) and progresses seemingly normally for the next 1-3 days. Then, it all of the sudden "ends" without explanation. It's certainly not a fluke, since user activity/log-ons continue normally for both parties, so it's not like one person has suddenly become preemptively indisposed. I know I'm sure for a lot of us (both sexes), our feelings have already been hurt much worse than they could ever be on here. So what's the big deal? If we say or do something wrong, no matter how minute, why not identify it?

There are fewer men in the world than women, so why not foster improvement rather than increase the potential for lives ending with little or no chance of perpetuation?

I use the forums, and we're thinking about inviting another girl into the bedroom. Of course, that's entirely your business.

I guess the point of this whole thing is to find out if there are any guys out there who wouldn’t mind being with a bigger woman?
is having curves a turn off, or something you might actually enjoy?

in the past on dating sites, or even Facebook I would post pictures trying to hide my body in fear that people wouldn't accept me the way I am.

So frustrating - I guess because I never meet a stranger - I talk to people in the elevator, in line at the grocery store, and always smile and say hello to people I meet in passing. What ever happened to common courtesy?

I know guys' voices can have a range of tones, but this guys' voice [AND vocal mannerisms] were so "off", it left me wondering if he used to be a woman, or the very least, is gay. His build and height in his pictures (not particularly tall or buff) also make it so that this is possible. I feel like there is no way to ask whether someone is transgendered without offending them, so are there any subtle ways of finding out?

the only girls I know who have done this are some of my friends who are in acting/theatrical arts and did it as part of the role they played.

She either interested or not well if she isn't then why doesn't she say rather that wasting both or are times guessing.

My feelings get hurt when I see Unread/Deleted, or Read with no response because I implicitly say that I don't mind if they aren't interested but "I appreciate getting a no more than getting nothing at all. I reply to every message, regardless.