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Joined: 10/18/2006

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Disabilities and dating.... Posted: 9/17/2008 6:26:17 AM
just4you, so sorry to hear about your situation! wow. I too was in a relationship with an epileptic, several years ago, who had it since childhood. He told me up front about it. I didn't know much about the condition, but found out as much as I could, because I really liked the guy. He did have grand mal seizures in my presence at least twice, one of which was in the middle of a busy Las Vegas casino. He said he felt tired and dizzy, sat down on a backless chair, then the seizure hit hard and fast. I didn't freak out and knew what to do. I found out he hadn't taken his medication in 3 days, and that this was common, which really upset me; he said he did not like the way it made him feel so he only took it every few days....!!! The doctor gave him some right away. I called his parents and mine from the hospital; they were so comforting and calm, and glad I was there. We left after a few hours and went on to enjoy the rest of our vacation. I did have a great fear of him driving and this happening though. Also dated a great fellow who is in a wheelchair, who got the injury a few years ago while on an ATV. Still very active in work and play, with a great personality and humor. He even started his own business for the disabled. I had to resist trying to "help" him with his chair or getting in and out of his truck, even though he was very adept at doing everything by himself.

Joined: 10/18/2006

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What to send to Service Personnel in Iraq Posted: 7/5/2008 12:30:08 PM
From the USO website: "Through Operation USO Care Package, you can sponsor a care package for just $25 and a personal message of support and thanks to a service member. Care packages can contain prepaid international phone cards, snacks, sunscreen, toiletries, compact discs and other items requested by service men and women." Seems to me it would actually come out cheaper to send a care package this way, and besides, it is tax-deductible. However, about a year ago, my coworkers and I volunteered through our employer to put together care packages at the office one weekend; we sent socks, gum, jerky, candy, dried fruit, sunscreen, lotion, feminine products, pens, notepads, crossword puzzle books, playing cards, drink mixes. We were so glad to hear they got the packages when they sent us appreciation notes, which we shared at the next company assembly. There wasn't a dry eye in the house.

Joined: 10/18/2006

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Guys who can't or won't fix things around the house Posted: 5/23/2008 5:12:05 PM
Guess I was one of the lucky ones whose dad taught her how to do a lot of stuff for herself, "because there won't always be a man around" when I moved away from home. I must admit though, there is something sooooooooo very sexy about a man who knows his way around a toolbox! And if he knows his way around the kitchen too, then I think I'm in love. Funny thing is, I get asked a lot if I can cook (and yes, I am an excellent cook, by the way) because these guys keep running into women who don't (or won't) cook. I am from the school of "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach" so have no problem making a good man a great meal. And yes, I can do some of my own vehicle maintenance, light plumbing jobs and yard upkeep, and then can whip up one helluva meatloaf! lol.

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Straight Men looking at TS Porn Posted: 5/9/2008 7:39:25 AM
I too have straight male friends who indulge in looking at tranny pics and porn, and they all swear they are 100% straight. Truthfully, I've looked at some myself. I have also watched midget porn, gay/lesbian porn, interracial porn, "grandma/grandpa" porn, "cougar" porn, fetishes porn and a few others, all out of a sense of healthy sexual and sensual curiosity. Besides, I have looked at some of those trannies and said "WOW!!! That's a MAN??????????????????" Pretty amazing.

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New Orleans Food Posted: 1/5/2008 9:31:31 AM
Ahhhh, New Orleans! Since Katrina, I have not yet returned but plan to this year for sure! My last visit was in May of that year, and I was heartbroken to see several places that we had visited and enjoyed completely either destroyed, heavily damaged or completely underwater. We attended the Jazz and Heritage Festival, and the food there was amazing too. I must have eaten at least one of everything, especially the stuff I couldn't even pronounce but smelled fabulous. The shrimp po' boy was outstanding every time. One big happy place with food, music, crafts and people from everywhere. That visit was one of the best vacations I have ever had. The 10 days we spent there made me place Las Vegas in the #2 spot of favorite places to visit and enjoy. I got to enjoy DUCK!!! As delicious as it was, I did feel a bit guilty... lol. I couldn't believe the low price; I had duck at least 4 times while there. And turtle soup, again with the guilt, but it was soooooooo good! The people were so nice, the drinks so strong, the food so delicious and the music so awesome! We were still partying at 4 a.m. and having Hurricanes and Hand Grenades, then grabbed some more po' boys before heading back to our hotel on Canal Street. Then back for more the next day until it was time to head back home.... I almost cried. New Orleans rocks!

Joined: 10/18/2006

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Why do women initiate more Breakups ? Posted: 11/16/2007 3:20:25 PM
Because men are chicken... I know three guys who claim they are in crappy relationships who stay because they don't want to deal with the drama of a breakup (and they even openly admit it is a helluva lot harder for a guy to find a steady sex partner than it is for a woman! That's true, but.... still). My female friends are more likely to end a dead-end relationship and have done so, for several different reasons. They said they told the guy in their life what was wrong, he ignored it, and that was the end of that. My male friends swear it is because women don't need sex as much as men do.......???? And as for the post above, the quote is "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned". Wasn't that from a Shakespeare play?

Joined: 10/18/2006

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whats the diffrence between online dating and going out to meet people Posted: 10/20/2007 3:03:23 PM
Well for me, it's a "weeding out" kind of thing. Sure I might run into a hot guy in real life, but then I would have to try to find out things about him that I could more quickly find on a hot guy's profile online. There still may be lies coming from both, however. lol. Somehow, married guys just seem to be attracted to me in droves......online and in real life. Go figure. Still I have hope for what I seek.

Joined: 10/18/2006

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whats the diffrence between online dating and going out to meet people Posted: 10/20/2007 2:52:50 PM
OP. I agree with the smiling thing... maybe you're exuding more friendliness and confidence in person than your pics show. However, I myself do find at least 3 things about you physically that are very attractive to me (your height, your eyes and your chest hair..... ) Same thing happens to me a lot as well. Plenty of lookers, talkers, pic collectors, etc. but not much in the meet in person category. However, if I'm at the gas station, the grocery store, the post office, or wherever, I get flirted with all the time (and I guess it helps that I like to flirt back). Patience... she'll be there when you least expect it. For all you know, you may have already met her and just haven't completely seen her yet.

Joined: 10/18/2006

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Chicken and Dumplings Posted: 10/20/2007 9:27:36 AM
The recipes are pretty much the same with just a few personal tweaks here and there, but to get the absolute best flavor, you should ROAST your chicken. Boiled chicken is okaaayyyyyy, but the roasting will definitely seal in more flavor. Doesn't matter if you're using a whole chicken or chicken pieces..... ROAST, ROAST, ROAST. Tyler Florence had the most awesome recipe I have ever tried (Tyler's Ultimate on Food Network). Both the noodles style and biscuit mix dumplings are great, and I love them both! Talk about wonderful comfort food.... yum!

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Why She WILL Message You Back Posted: 10/19/2007 7:14:25 AM
A sexual innuendo gets a "thanks but no thanks"? Why the hell would you say thanks at all to that? My response to that would be DELETE and/or BLOCK or a great big "Go straight to Hell" and even a "thumbs down" emoticon. Some even have the audacity to write and tell me what they want to do to me.... UGH... hell no. Amazes me that they think I would actually respond positively to that garbage. Gentlemen are always welcome.

Joined: 10/18/2006

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Why She WILL Message You Back Posted: 10/19/2007 4:51:12 AM
Always be a gentleman when contacting a woman .... some fellas just can't seem to grasp the concept. Hence, DELETE.

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ladies, how much older would you date? Posted: 7/11/2007 1:26:39 PM
I have always definitely preferred the charm, maturity and worldliness of gentlemen older than myself. Me: Early 30s; them: early 40s to mid 50s or so. Men my own age pretty much bore me. Give me a grown man any day.

Joined: 10/18/2006

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IS DATING REALLY FUN? Posted: 5/22/2007 6:48:54 AM
Yes, of course, dating is fun! No expectations and you get no disappointments. Guess it would be a bit more exasperating if I was looking for something long-term, lock-down, permanent, forever and ever, but I'm not. However, if that were the case, I certainly would not be looking on a free dating site.

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if you had no kids would you date a grandma/grandpa Posted: 5/19/2007 8:45:11 PM
Not a problem for me.... I am early 30s and prefer more mature men (40s to 50s) to date anyway, and several of them are grandfathers. The grandkids have ranged from newborn to early teens, and yes, sometimes they do the babysitting thing when their kids can't get a sitter. I do make it known, however, that they should not expect to me participate. Also, I normally do not date men with small children unless they have their custody issues under control. Yup, call me selfish.

Joined: 10/18/2006

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 5/4/2007 6:50:17 PM
SBF with curves and a happy disposition seeking White Male in PAULDING/COBB/DOUGLAS County areas (Dallas, Marietta, Kennesaw, Hiram, Douglasville, etc.) I am a somewhat recent transplant from California. You: Tall, ruggedly handsome and funny local white guy, age 35 to 50, nonsmoker, who exudes sweet Southern charm. Be my special tour guide and show me some fun times in Georgia. Let's go enjoy sushi bars, jazz and blues clubs, comedy shows, great steakhouses, martini bars, parks, museums... or even where can I find camping, hiking, karaoke (I don't sing, I just enjoy watching others), museums, or maybe just come cook in my kitchen (yes, you can still look really hot in an apron) or I can watch you cook in yours... :-)

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Are there a lot of singles who havent married over 30 ? Posted: 4/15/2007 6:34:25 PM
Thirties, single, childless and very, very happy.

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Night Creatures Arise! Posted: 4/15/2007 6:29:30 PM
Another nightowl here... I work 10 p.m. to 6 a.m. and have done so for 6 years. It can impact the social life, but not to the point where I let it impact my paycheck. Breakfast and lunch dates are always nice. Besides, it's great having mornings/daytimes free... hardly anybody in your way at the bank, post office, grocery store, movies, etc. And it is soooooooooo quiet working at night. Nobody bugs ya in the wee hours. Also, I get to see the sunrise way before anyone else. Lovely.

Joined: 10/18/2006

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question about interracial dating ... Posted: 4/15/2007 7:38:15 AM
Some people think there IS a difference, others don't. I myself have dated whomever I was attracted to, however, those have mostly been men who were not black. Has nothing to do with me not liking black men (I do but the ones I tend to be attracted to are not attracted to ME). Also, I tend to attract black men with drama and I don't do drama. White or European or Latin men tend to ask me out more and we happen to enjoy the same fun things, foods and places. I grew up in multicural neighborhoods and have interracial marriages within my own family. I get "hater mail" on dating sites from black men A LOT who condemn my choice and I fire right back at them that I seriously doubt they are sending that same garbage to the black men who are seeking and dating white women. Date whom you like and enjoy yourselves. Nobody else's business.

Joined: 10/18/2006

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i love affection! Posted: 4/15/2007 6:53:47 AM
Three YEARS of that? No way in hell. I did it for 3 months with a past love at the age of 20, hoping things would be different later (typical idiocy). As much as I cared for him, when I thought of us together in the future if there were to be children, my heart broke when I imagined our child coming up to him for a hug and him pushing her away. As an adult, I could deal with me not getting what I want emotionally, but not a child. Getting a few friends responses about his non-affectionism only reinforced a feeling I had already had, which was that he was gay. Still don't know if that is true or not, but it would sure explain some things.

Joined: 10/18/2006

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Do people join dating sites to find love, a lasting relationship, or for other reasons? Posted: 4/13/2007 12:24:36 PM
Casual dater here. I myself am looking for local fun guys to actually show me the town. For some reason, though, I keep getting mail from men who are not local or not in my preferred age range, or are looking for a steady girlfriend or a wife or kids' mom (none of which interest me). Others I am just not attracted to at all. Still on the lookout, though. Hope springs eternal.

Joined: 10/18/2006

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After 7 years together she decides she does not want kids Posted: 4/6/2007 7:15:50 AM
Sorry to hear about your dilemma. However, it's obvious that you need to make a decision, and soon. If children are that important to you, then suck it up, end the relationship and move on. Resentment will grow otherwise and eat you alive. Dating for 7 years? What you two had was not DATING, it's COHABITATING with children. There's a huge difference. And now, as you can see, along with the age difference, there can be consequences. You are young enough to continue your search for what you truly want, and I believe you deserve to have that. I dated a great guy for 3 years, with a 12-year age difference when I was in my 20s. He wanted more children and marriage, I didn't (I still don't). Even told him so with our first correspondence. In time, he thought he could change my mind; waste of time, not happening. My preference for dating is men who have older or grown children or no children, so there is usually no problem with that. Dated another guy who had children out of state; when they visited, he wanted to incorporate me into their lives, which I resented and so did they. Again I reiterated to him that I DO NOT WANT CHILDREN, so having me play "fake mom" while his kids visited did not appeal to me. It was of great contention between us and I told him goodbye. I'm not the mommy, nurturing type, never have been, never will be and I am quite happy with that. Since you two were never married, I seriously doubt you ever legally adopted her children, so leaving her and seeking custody of them is a moot point. Good luck to you and may you find what you truly deserve.

Joined: 10/18/2006

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Cooking Vidalia Onions Posted: 4/3/2007 11:43:08 PM
I had a wonderful gentleman in my kitchen to share his Vidalia onion pie recipe. It was like quiche, but EVEN BETTER. Nothing like a man who knows his way around the kitchen. Can hardly wait for the season to begin!

Joined: 10/18/2006

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Instant Turn~Ons! What turns your head? Posted: 4/3/2007 11:37:16 PM
A man's scent. I remember one gent in particular who walked past me in the mall wearing a fantastic cologne and I wanted to turn around, grab him and rip off his clothes... and mine. He was wearing Issey Miyake. Wow. Another fellow who works as a manager at the local grocery store had on something wonderful and I just had to ask what he was wearing. He turned red, smiled big and told me it was Canoe. He said at least 5 other women had asked him that today; said he was going to buy it by the gallon. I also love the smell of a man's skin right after he gets out of the shower. Some men even smell fantastic after they work out.... testosterone and phermones; oh, my goodness. Other instant turn-ons for me are broad shoulders, beautiful teeth, a hearty zest-for-life laugh, eyes that I can get lost in, a flash of a hairy chest, strong yet gentle hands, dark or salt/pepper hair, muscular calves in a pair of shorts, a spankable firm ass in jeans, moustache/goatee. Okay.... I need some ice now ................

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Good Places to eat, and good places to take a date Posted: 4/3/2007 11:13:51 PM
Another vote for U.S. Play and Marietta Diner. Both have become favorite places of mine. Also for good Italian food try Johnny Carino's or Macaroni Grill. And of course, you can never go wrong with a picnic basket in the park; bring a Frisbee!

Joined: 10/18/2006

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Isn't it proper for the man to let the woman order before him ? Posted: 3/29/2007 10:04:40 AM
Proper? Okay, loosen up. I usually order second (or last depending on how many) because I can take forever to decide what I want, especially with a fantastic menu, and I like certain things prepared a certain way so I ask questions. Then of course, whoever I am dining with will have a good laugh with me about my order. I have no problem with a gentleman ordering for me if he knows how I like what I want (extra points for him if he does). Plus, I just adore dining with a gent who does not mind sharing something on his plate with me and would allow me to feed him something off my plate. Makes it so much more fun. As long as he has good table manners, can keep a great conversation going, and takes care of the bill when it comes, who cares who orders first?

Joined: 10/18/2006

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Isn't it proper for the man to let the woman order before him ? Posted: 3/29/2007 10:04:03 AM
Proper? Okay, loosen up. I usually order second (or last depending on how many) because I can take forever to decide what I want, especially with a fantastic menu, and I like certain things prepared a certain way so I ask questions. Then of course, whoever I am dining with will have a good laugh with me about my order. I have no problem with a gentleman ordering for me if he knows how I like what I want (extra points for him if he does). Plus, I just adore dining with a gent who does not mind sharing something on his plate with me and would allow me to feed him something off my plate. Makes it so much more fun. As long as he has good table manners, can keep a great conversation going, and takes care of the bill when it comes, who cares who orders first?

Joined: 10/18/2006

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When he comes home from a trip Posted: 12/11/2006 12:46:13 PM
Some great ideas already presented to you, but I just wanted to share. I was in a relationship with a wonderful man at one time, and we had a stupid argument about who knows what before he was to leave for 2 weeks on a church trip to Israel. I decided I could not let him leave with both of us upset, so I drove 2 hours to the Los Angeles Airport from San Diego and surprised the hell out of him.... it was great! I had brought him a little bag of goodies that I knew he would enjoy on that loooooong plane ride. What was really amazing was that his flight was delayed for 8 hours and we got to spend some wonderfully fabulous quality time together alone at the Marriott provided by the airline, along with a spectacular buffet dinner in the hotel restaurant. When it finally was time for him to go, we shared the longest hug and kiss. Good luck to you both.

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My Girlfriend is driving me NUTS...What should I do... Posted: 12/11/2006 12:34:14 PM
Another vote for "CUT HER LOOSE", man.

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who pays for dinner? Posted: 10/26/2006 7:03:47 AM
wow...... I have NEVER been on a date with a gentleman and he would ask me to pay for anything! If he did, there certainly would not be a second.

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