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Joined: 10/20/2006

Msg: 64 (view)

is he hiding something? Posted: 3/18/2009 2:36:33 AM
Just reading your message and the responses gives me anxiety. I mean NO disrespect when I say that... you have a valid question and the responses I read were very wise... but I would be terrified if someone moved that fast. You know when we are young it seems natural to move quickly. And we do it w/ out looking where we are going... I don't know how old you are, but I know for me at 39 , I'll be damned if I'm going to move so fast I can't see the warning signs... If you are even slightly concerned about this it's already something that's not sitting well w/ you.... follow your gut. If it's real.... it will wait.

Joined: 10/20/2006

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Wise Advice Needed! Posted: 3/18/2009 2:31:11 AM
I personally think that she is unable to accept and respond to such a selfless love. It's difficult for someone to be made to feel worthy when they can't feel that for themselves. You mentioned that you never cursed at her or degraded her... but that's in essence the only thing she feels comfortable with because she is not proud of the things she has done and been a part of. Being a part of that "dark" world forces you to have secrets that eat away at your ability to appreciate someone without those secrets.. there's no commonality of pain and torture. As far as the child goes, I would still sit quietly in the background because she may need you at some point. Finally (sorry for the ramble).... don't ever let anyone put a *****ng dollar sign on your worth...... the two should never be intertwined and if someone can't see that.. they are blind.

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Ladies who only date younger men Posted: 10/13/2007 9:01:25 AM
Aren't young men in their prime from 18-28 and women 28-38? I'm not sure how true it is, but I have heard that and that in itself might explain a little. I have also found that when I'm out, it's a younger man that initiates conversation w/ me. I have spotted guys my own age and waited to no avail. LOL I have to admit, the sex is great, but if your looking for long term love... you need to weigh the odds.

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Just gimme some tips Posted: 9/18/2007 10:47:13 AM
No Doubt... Nomadd77

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Just gimme some tips Posted: 9/18/2007 10:44:59 AM
Just because a woman is bi-sexual doesn't mean she's not still a woman. You should treat her just like you would any other woman you were interested in dating. You can expect a more open minded perspective on things, being that she can be intimate with either sex. I would however be concerned if she was confused about her sexuality... that could lead to disaster. There are many ways for someone confused to go back and forth questioning which sex she likes more, or may feel confined in a relationship because she can no longer pursue other avenues, because this would constitute "cheating". I suggest spending alot of time really throwing your thoughts out on the table and listening to her responses... carefully.

Joined: 10/20/2006

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Just got dumped (not a pity thread) - One for the guys Posted: 9/18/2007 10:37:00 AM
She sounds like she was a little to concerned what other people think... especially a job. Interracial relationships have been around forever, just more open in the last 100 years. I think she is either weak and follows the thoughts of others, or she is full of it and wanted to break if off for a different reason and was to afraid to tell you that. No, you shouldn't be down or sad.... If you feel you had a good time with her, then just take what was learned and go find your next "fishy" and treat her just as good. At some point someone very special is going to appreciate your spirit.

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Msg: 33 (view)

wut is wrongs if kids come first no matter wut...... Posted: 9/18/2007 10:31:42 AM
My brother is a single Dad and he feels the same way. It's hard for anyone without kids to understand that "love" we have for our kids. Let's face it, before we had them we didn't understand it either. My girls have always come first. I don't have regrets if someone did slip thru the cracks because of it. The fact is that they will always come first, and if he has children his should come first to him as well. I don't think I could be with a guy who didn't feel like that towards his kids. I would say, take some time and just enjoy being a parent. So many people on here had such great advice, especially about looking into older more mature women. Good luck and happy

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A friend's issue Posted: 8/28/2007 11:31:45 AM
Whoa! This one is tough. It sounds like they have really done alot of growing together. 12 years is a long time. She may have cheated simply because it sounds like she forgot who the hell she was after the deaths of her parents. It could also be that she was just looking to see if there was something better elsewhere. Please, know that when I say that, I am not justifying her actions... Cheating sucks! If the relationship prior to this incident was a really happy and strong one, I would say that they could probably heal and move on from it. If what you are saying about it is true then it doesn't sound like it was very balanced anyway and I think she will continue looking for more financial means through another man, and in turn will crush your friend again. This time however, also scarring his ability to ever trust a woman again. Keep his spirits up and reinforce how cool the single life can be... after 12 years, he deserves a sabbatical.

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Msg: 345 (view)

Why Do women dump men who are nice to them. Posted: 7/30/2007 10:27:49 AM
Wow did you hit a spot in everyone. Oddly enough I think everyone is "right" in one way or another. The generalization that nice guy's finish last is as stupid as "all men suck". You have been mislead to believe that just being nice is going to make a woman want you. There are ingredients needed to complete the recipe of a healthy relationship and sex is a big ingredient. If there isn't a sexual attraction then you will be a friend, and nothing more... and that's not a bad thing. Move on to the next woman, eventually you will find someone equally attracted to you... then you will find the appreciation for your kindness.

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Msg: 344 (view)

Why Do women dump men who are nice to them. Posted: 7/30/2007 10:23:39 AM
Do I sense a little anger???

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So I'm dating this girl.... Posted: 7/30/2007 10:16:03 AM
Move on! You can still like her... at this point you are really only friends anyway. The last thing you want to do is wait to be married to find out she's lame in bed anyway... and I don't know that she is but I can tell you that as a woman, who has waited for the right moment, I have really had to be disciplined about it. When a woman wants a man in that way, even if she resists... she is definitely taking everything she can get with the exception of giving it all up especially being on the receiving end of "oral". Sounds like a clam to me.

Joined: 10/20/2006

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Is this inappropriate or am I being a prude Posted: 7/30/2007 9:58:42 AM
The reason we are all here on this site is to find people we are compatable with. If this mans actions made you uncomfortable than you have every right to let him know that, or just block him. That's the beauty of online correspondance; we have the safety of getting to know people at our own pace. I say thank God for you that you found out he was creepy behind your own monitor rather than in his living room. Plenty of bait... Keep on fishing.

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please review my profile.... Posted: 7/30/2007 9:54:33 AM
I think you did a fine job on your profile. Lets face it, it's difficult to offer your character thru the text of a computer. Facial expressions and body language are my guides to feeling as though I am attracted to someone. I hope you find every happiness.

Joined: 10/20/2006

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April Fool's Day Pranks Posted: 3/30/2007 7:43:53 AM
God, I would love to share a few but mine are always really bad. I have a sick mind. I am thoroughly enjoying all of these however.

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Msg: 192 (view)

Where is the Most Unusual Place You've Had Sex? Posted: 3/13/2007 8:35:07 AM
Nomammasboys, Sure it is great to post opinions. That's why Mrs. Smiley read it and responded. The point I think you are missing is this: you have an opportunity ahead of posting your opinion to decide if you really like the topic or not. The topic was the strangest place you have ever had sex.. not do you agree w/ sharing it. Not everyone is looking for an honest, non abusive special relationship. Some of us have never had anything but that. The story I shared earlier about my strangest place was about that special someone, who I still love very much although we are not together. You don't have to be trashy to share fun and wild times you experienced.... regardless of who it was with. To each their own.

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Msg: 191 (view)

Where is the Most Unusual Place You've Had Sex? Posted: 3/13/2007 8:24:58 AM
whoah... "microchip". One flew over the cuckoo's nest ring a bell, don't tell me it was nurse Ratchett. scary.

Joined: 10/20/2006

Msg: 190 (view)

Where is the Most Unusual Place You've Had Sex? Posted: 3/13/2007 8:19:08 AM
that is hilarious. Talk about extreme turn on's..

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Msg: 88 (view)

Threesomes...why the bias? Posted: 2/14/2007 2:17:53 PM
I'm with you. YUCK

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Msg: 87 (view)

Threesomes...why the bias? Posted: 2/14/2007 2:16:33 PM
I agree. I do think that it should be open for discussion, but 50 styles has it right when he describes the difference physically. Women are soft and smell nice, and we really aren't shy when it comes to touching eachother... we play w/ eachother's hair and dress together and what not. Guys really don't touch eachother or cuddle etc. It really does make them feel gay(ish) to be next to another naked guy. just my opinion. Rhiannon70

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Where is the Most Unusual Place You've Had Sex? Posted: 2/11/2007 5:43:32 PM
My boyfriend and i had rented a raft and were cruising down the Delaware River on a beautiful summer day. Things got a little crazy and lets just say his ass got really tan. LOL

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Msg: 78 (view)

do many women think about swinging?? Posted: 2/4/2007 5:53:28 PM
ummmm. yea, missing out is one way of sayingit!!

Joined: 10/20/2006

Msg: 77 (view)

do many women think about swinging?? Posted: 2/4/2007 5:50:05 PM
No, it's not all talk. Most women are very curious and whether or not they ever satisfy the curiosity is situational... but believe me many act out on it. I am not gay, but I have been bartending what seems forever. I have seen plenty of "talk".. R.

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