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Joined: 10/22/2006

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I'm getting NO luck Posted: 10/31/2009 1:17:05 PM
Threads like this also discourage me more and more on this site. You're obviously a good looking guy in great shape with a stable career and people still aren't interested? Heh. I don't think the problem is you.....enough said.....Says volumes for the quality of women out there though.....always want Brad Pitt.

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Having trouble with any response, so need honest profile feedback Posted: 10/31/2009 9:40:25 AM
Good feedback so far, looking for more before I change some things. Thank you all!

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Having trouble with any response, so need honest profile feedback Posted: 10/31/2009 1:40:15 AM
So, Not sure what it is. Maybe my goofy humor. Maybe the fact I'm a Business Manager for a living. Maybe it's just the fact I'm not attractive? Heh...I think I'm ok, but hey, need that brutal honesty right now. Anyways, rarely reach out for help but something isn't working here...I'm only contacting those who seem to have things in common with myself, my messages are always speaking to their hobbies and/or passions and asking questions....I never send a one sentence message or comment on their pics in a first contact. Regardless of how much we seem to have in common, I never get responses. Ever. So, here I am looking for some help....

Joined: 10/22/2006

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Oh snap...Let's try this again....Put me in your spotlight and shine on down.... Posted: 6/29/2009 8:25:59 PM
Ok, updated a little...need more thoughts...anyone?

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how come ladies don't like men who play videogames?? Posted: 6/23/2009 9:26:22 PM
Problem is, Video games is such a broad term. You could mean World of Warcraft and I wouldn't date a woman that played that either, it's life consuming. Or... You could mean solitaire on your pc. Depends on what you mean.

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Oh snap...Let's try this again....Put me in your spotlight and shine on down.... Posted: 6/23/2009 8:57:43 PM
Been a long time since I came here often, but I've been single and ready to mingle for several months, now. I haven't had much luck here recently, although did in the past...(Been here since 2006.) Maybe it's because I'm uglier, haha. Ok, not really. I look about the same since I was 18...for better or worse. Straight up, I used to average a couple of first contact emails from women a month, and still do...(Two or three in the past month, which seems better then some posts I see on here.). However, ANY time I make a first contact, no matter WHO it is, it's read deleted. I rarely or ever get a response. I don't think I'm the ugliest person on the planet (maybe I'm wrong) and I know I have a lot to talk about and a lot of interests. This is why I rarely even bother to make first contacts. I have tried five in the past month and had one response, all the rest were read and deleted. So, obviously, I'm doing something wrong. I try to ensure I select people who have similar hobbies and interests and ask direct, pointed questions. I have lots of passions and love to share them with people but have been told in the past I'm overwhelming to some people because I'm so outgoing. Anyways, if something is scaring people away (and if it;s the pics, let me know that too!) then I need to know. Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh, and BAM!

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How many messages a day do u get on average? Posted: 1/1/2009 6:52:55 PM
When I'm active on the site and not gone for six months, I average about 3-5 a day....as a guy. Not sure why, though. Maybe it's because I love to talk. haha.

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Review me please, thx. Posted: 6/28/2007 12:19:45 AM
Don't abbreviate words like Sorry. Stay away from pics where you are so far in the distance they can't tell who you are. Not bad overall.

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Ghost Hunting Posted: 6/27/2007 9:49:15 PM
I've done a lot of ghost hunting personally, and I'm on the east coast. However, I've found it turns off a lot of women as it's weird or unusual. Not that I care.

Joined: 10/22/2006

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Eh, why not...Thoughts. Posted: 6/27/2007 7:19:08 PM
So, I had a lot of luck with this place when I started in october and it died off quite a bit a few months ago-partially because I removed most of my profile as I met someone off of here. Long story short, it didn't work out and I'm back. This time around, I rarely get views, I rarely get contacts and I rarely get responses. I know one of the things I've heard is that "Holy crap your profile is long!" I'm aware of that, but I figure it's better to be upfront and reveal that I'm a very talkative person who literally has dozens of hobbies. That being said, I'm not quite sure why I've hit this roadblock recently. So any assistance would be appreciated. Hey, maybe I'm just ugly and should deal with it, haha. Thanks! ::smiles::

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Ever feel like your going to be alone forever? Posted: 6/22/2007 10:48:48 PM
Hellraiser, Props for the Orton Pose.

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Has anyone been brave enough to meet someone with no pic at all? Posted: 6/22/2007 10:46:30 PM
Quite a few times, especially back in the day in AOL chat rooms when pics were never around. It generally worked out well for me.

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Ex threatening suicide Posted: 6/22/2007 10:38:27 PM
Most people tend to say this just for attention. It's usually just a sign of immaturity. Hehe.

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I scare people away because I have too many interests and hobbies?! Posted: 3/27/2007 12:12:42 AM
Well, So in conversating with multiple people and meeting many people off this site, many people seem almost-imposed-by me, for lack of a better word. For one, I'm an extremely energetic person, who is involved in many, many things, from PC gaming leagues, to a rock climbing group, to paintballing, to skydiving, to river rafting, boating, caving, founder of a paranormal group, onwards and onwards. I've always been someone who likes to see new places, experience new things, and usually joked about that I can't stand not being the life of the party. Although, considering I enjoy going out on the town every weekend, I guess thats true too. This being said, I've run into many women who simply say that they are overwhelmed and would run out of energy with someone who has this much going on. That, and many of my interests are not what it seems many females are interested in, especially in this conservative area. What's odd is, after reading my profile, most women contact me first-and then say this. Some people have gone as far as saying that I need to settle down, tone down my interests, and grow up, find a woman, and start a family. I want to do the latter two there, but I enjoy life far too much to sacrifice the former. Anyone else ever had these issues or any insight behind it? I guess it doesn't need to be said, but I'm a talker too, so that adds to it

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masturbating techniques Posted: 3/22/2007 5:47:07 PM
Could always try the empty pringles container method....look it up. Haha.

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Bad Bed Partner! Posted: 3/22/2007 5:39:14 PM
Eh, Ever try someone that in the middle of sex turns into a fire breathing dragon and tries to eat you? Then, you're stark naked in a strange living room, and you have a freaking DRAGON attacking you. Not cool.

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So, what is your batting average? Posted: 3/22/2007 5:37:15 PM
I've had a lot of luck in clubs, but nothing that resolves in a lasting relationship.

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sex with a guy, who doesnt bust ever Posted: 3/22/2007 5:29:36 PM
The most common reason for this is a man using the "prone" masturbation technique, in which he rubs up against a pillow, a blanket, etc to get off instead of "jerking" off. This results in only being able to ejaculate this one way. There's several websites devoted to this subject and how it desensitizes the penis.

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Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to? Posted: 3/22/2007 5:18:00 PM
Certainly. Generally, they aren't the ugly people. They are the people with severe personality disorders and/or mentally ill. If you look around, you'll see plenty of married/dating ugly people. So, I'm still single, so I wonder if that means I have some disorder I don't know about? Hm. =P

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Sex on a first date? Is it a bad move? Posted: 3/22/2007 2:59:00 AM
I've had sex on a first date multiple times. I also haven't. I've never had someone stop calling, or stop talking to me after the former. I have after the latter. I don't think it makes someone a slut, and I don't think it makes someone easy. I think it means two people are comfortable with each other, and want to have a good time. I've never been real conservative, so I suppose it's not a surprise. That being said, the point isn't to get someone into bed, at least in my case, it's that two people enjoyed each other's company, and decide to end it on a positive note. For me, sex isn't the be all end all connection that others have summed it up to be. Perhaps it's my past talking, but it really isn't. Most of the time I had sex on the first date with someone, we ended up either having a relationship or being friends for a very long time. It created a bond, and we shared something special. I HAVE had a one night stand as well, when a girl took me home from a club. I took it for what it was, and didn't regret it.

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long nails....turn on? Posted: 3/22/2007 12:19:45 AM
Hm. You should see the scratch marks I had from my ex last year due to her long nails. She was a scratcher, and really long, sharp nails didn't go well with her. It didn't mesh real well with my back either. Heh.

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TO TOUCH OR NOT TO TOUCH Posted: 3/22/2007 12:16:07 AM
Probably off topic, but this message made me want to listen to that I touch myself song. Played as loud as possible. Actually, I have a vision of walking down the street with a boombox blasting this song as loud as possible in downtown DC.

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Ever get that feeling that being single is all you are allowed to be Posted: 3/22/2007 12:14:45 AM
Eh, Used to be this way. Getting over it. I'm 26. Still single. Have a great job. Independent. The rest will come, as they say. Besides, I can spend my time doing things like setting brush fires and running naked through downtown on a Monday Morning. What's NOT to like about that? After all, it's just another manic Monday. I wish it were a Sunday. That's my fun day... ::Sings and walks away::

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Does no pic = no interest Posted: 3/22/2007 12:10:54 AM
It's generally a sign of a lack of confidence in many cases, which can become a problem.

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Do men really mind dating women with children?? Posted: 3/21/2007 11:57:36 PM
Heh. About half the women I've dated have children, don't have a problem with it. Reason being, I'm still a big kid myself, so it's easier to start a game of tag or hide and go seek then it is with people my age. After all, have you ever tried to get everyone in the office to play hide and go seek at three in the afternoon? Seriously, everyone gives me weird looks. Sigh. Hey! Stop giving me that look!

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do men do more than just look at profiles Posted: 3/21/2007 11:56:12 PM
Personally, Unless a person has a decent profile that reflects their personality, I won't usually talk to them, regardless of the picture. The reason why is because if they couldn't put a little time and effort into describing who they are and what they want, why should I put the effort into them? Also, they generally turn out to be boring, don't like to talk to soda cans, and that just can't happen. Come on now.

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What do u do when the 1st conversation by phone is kind one-sided Posted: 3/21/2007 11:46:25 PM
Heh. I tend to be a big talker, as evidenced by my profile. I always have been, probably always will be. For me, it's very rare for someone to be able to keep up with me on the phone, let alone on AIM. I can talk about pretty much any topic, at any time, and actually know a little about it. However, conversation as always come naturally to me, being one of those people who are not afraid of speaking in front of large groups of people. This being said, my biggest pet peeve on the phone is someone who gives the one word answers. It doesn't mean they aren't interested, but it does usually mean that stimulating conversation probably won't happen, and in my case, it's likely not a compatible match.

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NEW....Success Stories on POF Posted: 2/8/2007 3:41:53 PM
I think we should have failure stories. I have plenty of those.

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Do you respond to people from other countries when they Send you messages? Posted: 2/4/2007 7:07:55 PM
Hi folks, For some reason lately, I have been getting lots of messages from females in Spain, Europe, Japan, Thailand, etc. I live in Washington, D.C. area. Most speak very little English, and the one time I attempted to respond back, I had no reply. The profiles and conversations seem very vague, and always cause me to wonder if something else is going on here. Some have messaged me multiple times, sounding rather desperate for me to reply. At this point, unless they are from the states, I generally don't reply. Thoughts?

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guys growing up with a lot of females...more sensitive? Posted: 12/29/2006 12:19:47 AM
I grew up in a family of mostly males. I dislike sports, drinking, beer, bars, cars, hunting, fishing, boats, etc, etc, that many "manly" men seem to enjoy. I enjoy shopping, clothes, new hairstyles, techno, RPG's, fantasy novels, running and fine cuisine. And I'm straight, to top that off. Heh. That being said, would I say I'm more sensitive? Doubtful, but growing up with a majority of males who all had similar tastes, I learned to dislike them. So now I'm an outcast. Yay for me!

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Co dependency problems keeping me single...Suggestions... Posted: 12/28/2006 11:33:46 PM
So, I believe I've found the reason I'm single, so I'm reaching out to the community as a whole, male and female, for some advice. Ever since I overcame a difficult relationship a few months back, which involved me dating a woman who was living with her ex fiancee, then got pregnant by him, and the week before she was supposed to move out, reversed her decision and stayed with him, my confidence level has taken a big hit. Here's the problem- I automatically assume if someone doesn't get back to me right away or doesn't have that much to say that they hate me. This isn't another, I send out a lot of messages and get no responses thread either. On the contrary, I get about 5 messages from females a day. However, generally I either don't reply due to fear of rejection or I do reply, I get far too needy far too early (For instance, if I see they read an email but I don't have an immediate reply, I go into panic mode and think they hate me, then I send another mail out to figure out why, and make the situation worse.) What's almost laughable is of the ten people who took the time out to mail me first and who I responded to, got the phone numbers of, and started to talk to in the past month alone, I've scared everyone off, and each and everyone has been because of co dependency. Yeah, I'll admit, I don't want to be alone, I truly don't think anyone does. However, some have suggested due to the level my self confidence is at right now, it's not a good time for me to attempt to meet people, as I'll just scare them off as I'm not myself. Is there anyone else here who seems to scare people off due to being too co-dependent too early? I seem in such a rush right now to want to rush into any relationship-with anyone-that it's probably not good for me. Women see this and back off, because I'm wanting too much, too soon. That has NOTHING to do with sex by the way, I merely mean I overwhelm people with far too much to say in far too little time. What's most sad is I get tons of answers to my ads, and I'm scaring all of them away right now, potential mates and all. This by far is NOT a pity thread, I'm seeking advice of anyone, male or female, who has been in a similar situation. This isn't the first time in my life I've been this way either, and traditionally it causes me to lose many friends, and otherwise. Any assitance would be greatly appreciated.

Joined: 10/22/2006

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Do girls actually search guys profiles? Posted: 12/28/2006 11:24:04 PM
On the opposite side here, I'm a guy who NEVER sends out the first contact...I manage about 5 or so letters a day, on average. I know this seems to buck the trend, but it works for me.

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