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 Author Thread: Should men and women live together?
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Should men and women live together?
Posted: 11/22/2009 6:38:11 PM

I can't for the life of me understand why certain men on this site constantly throw barbs at women who are secure enough within themselves to not feel the need to be "attached" to a man


you misread/misinterpreted and hence it pricked you
the comment had nothing to do with " need for attachment to a man" , personal choice or degree of security
many people not just women can and do adjust to circumstances for whatever cause placed them where they are and they move on accepting the status quo finding their own degree of comfort/happiness and maybe keeping options or hope that what they may desire more may happen. Suppose that means placing faith into coincidence.

Indeed such persons may also choose not wishing to share their "space" or much else with another, which may or may not be accepted.

Viewing this from the general interpretation of traditional values of friendship/relationship such persons eliminate themselves from a traditional deeper bond of relationship. That is not to say they cannot find a meaningful interaction with another like minded person and a degree of satisfaction.
I doubt though that without any form of compromise on either or both parts any meaningful interaction is possible over a longer term as ultimately one person becomes a greater "taker" than the other. Usually that would be some form of abusive relationship when tolerated.
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Is Faith a dirty word? Not Religion..
Posted: 11/22/2009 4:21:49 PM

gentle enuff?


you never disappoint!!!!!

tho with this much POFlitical correctness expressed one may wonder if there is a politician or preacher in you somewhere

without *hope*, we are doomed!

how so true
and yet the stronger the *hope* the easier it seems to fall victim (not just the pond)
a vicious circle of protectiveness and doubts, indecisiveness about all the "gray" in life
wouldn't it be nice to deal in a clear choice of only two colors...
but then who would we blame if the choice made was still wrong
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
You know you are not in the big city anymore when....
Posted: 11/22/2009 4:10:55 PM
...when your neighbors know more about you and your life than you
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 12 (view)
 
Should men and women live together?
Posted: 11/22/2009 4:08:19 PM
OP, sorry I didn't get it at first
you are actually challenging men who still believe in traditional relationship to come forward, good move

but instead all the girls who replied have become content???naaa couldn't be frustrated with growing old alone liking their own company and hence changed their outlook from "long term" to friends/dating...and end up learning golf
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Is Faith a dirty word? Not Religion..
Posted: 11/22/2009 12:39:59 PM

For me, the expression of *faith* enfolds the context of being positive, about some*thing* moving forward, as opposed to stagnating in the quagmire of negativity.

agreed

I wonder tho at what point stagnating in faith, for example the many 'lil fishies here being positive about whatever they seek, brings insight to reality rather than faith or negativity?

Be gentle now, I have faith in you
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Should men and women live together?
Posted: 11/22/2009 12:29:20 PM
I think you over think with positive

wasn't there a TV show the Odd Couple? not that I watch much, but I'm sure there must have been many with same gender couples cohabitating....

all issues of being human will eventually lead some form of antagonism when there is long term exposure between people, usually the accumulation of petty stuff

IMO relationship boils down to the basic values kept by both including acceptance of whatever differences there are and yes, there too must be some mutual interest/benefit for both wanting to work it. Find love, attraction, chemistry can be a very powerful instrument for bonding when used constructively....k, so I too am a bit of an optimist
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
ScorpioSweetiePie
Posted: 11/22/2009 1:09:46 AM
"E" my most sincere best wishes for a complete recovery
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Penises
Posted: 11/22/2009 1:03:36 AM
Interesting comment from a poster who participated fully in the silliness of the Bewbs thread...no less than SIX times, might I add...
It appears that what is good for the goose insults the gander's sensitivities..



Ahhh sweet~anicca~
so good indeed you can count and even have the time to do so
tho you disappoint this time and I'm not even guessing if it may have to do with timing,
but your usual wit didn't seem to clue in, how sad

there is/was neither goose insults nor gander's sensitivities here or there

so if you like to pick and split the proverbial hair,
know it there are some down there, just cuz I don't like it quite all bare,
should you then find one ripe for picking I'm receptive to a "licking", if you remain fair;
and just for you to note
I leave you to ponder an old bewb thread quote


While so much info given for the world to see or someone’s afflictions with seize of bewbs or wiener goes far beyond the comprehension of a simple me; but then I only know it’s not the seize of tools one has, but that they are in good working order and that one really knows how to use them when it counts; the rest is just mere flattery.
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Penises
Posted: 11/21/2009 12:36:51 AM
"I really would like to see a thread that objectifies males' bodies because it seems unfair to me that women are forever trying to please men by looking a certain way, but fewer men do the same."


even if "what seems unfair" really is
that does not justify the other gender following the same silliness
just because it seems we like to believe there gender equality, there really isn't

case in point: women try to impress men to mate with them by assuming to appear the way men may like it
and men try to impress women with whatever bullshiat they believe

both covering up their shortcomings.


Obviously as many forum comments of women confirm waving the magic wand at them does not impress too many

to answer your question OP, : "how do you like your penises"
I only have one and like it just the way it is, and
having just one is great, doesn't get men too confused.

Couldn't care less for other penises, cuz most of the rest of their appendage can get very annoying when alcohol and/or females are present getting a bit puffed up at first and ending up just hanging around
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 174 (view)
 
Chocolate Lovers - Whats the best???????
Posted: 11/20/2009 12:48:18 PM
^^^ tell us more
when and where are you hosting that chocolate fondue party, who or what gets dipped
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
The Art of Discourse
Posted: 11/19/2009 1:38:49 PM

The best part of the argument is the end. What happens after.
I'm a Latin woman, what can I say?


Are you saying that you turn your back????
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 151 (view)
 
Is a guy that cooks *so* rare?
Posted: 11/19/2009 1:26:17 PM
^^^ question

what the heck has "Is a guy that cooks *so* rare?" to do with farts?

Is it that guys bragging about their cooking abilities are so full of hot air
or
is it that some guys think their "honey" is utterly impressed when he spends the night fluffing the covers
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 18 (view)
 
Choosing the Perfect Gift!
Posted: 11/18/2009 11:08:27 PM

*ML1… new leather chaps and a little red whip ;)


add pink fluffy handcuffs and classc's yummy massage oils

and I betcha BE will think we're cooking
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 145 (view)
 
Is a guy that cooks *so* rare?
Posted: 11/18/2009 4:54:49 PM

there are some amazing gal cooks too. Just not too many in the celeb chef status...i wonder why?


simple, they're smarter than guys who cook
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 125 (view)
 
Graduate degrees
Posted: 11/17/2009 5:37:45 PM

This thread isn't about them, though. It's about graduate degrees and the people who claim to have them.


and that brings us almost full circle, good thing we already defined what is meant by a degree

We may find something interesting about any person, depending on our own level of acceptance and wanting to learn or understand to whatever avail.
IMO listing a degree as a 'specialty' could mean anything. Since we do not know the person we may assume it was posted just matter a fact or to differentiate social, intellectual or income status with or without intent to make a better appearance or attract a like person.
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
What constitutes a Work of Art?
Posted: 11/16/2009 6:40:53 PM
pretty much anything that is created without any practical functional purpose...

k, collecting dust doesn't count
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Commonly Held Beliefs?
Posted: 11/16/2009 6:37:32 PM
1+1=2

Messages this short may not be posted
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Choosing the Perfect Gift!
Posted: 11/16/2009 6:34:29 PM
Don't really do the gift for special occasions thingy anymore, not for lack of need for this or that...kids grown up and usually do their own thing....
we buy each other some things throughout the year when we see there is a need or something desired....even help out with some input to bigger stuff....everything helps kinda idea..
th0 for good old German gingerbread, marzipan, chocolate 'n cookies, etc ....always gets a good fight who gets the most
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Gone to the Dogs
Posted: 11/9/2009 2:12:59 PM
Dogs can be wonderful companions...when all the rest of our lives are sort of in order

I'd be somewhat concerned when a dog or other pet becomes focal point of our life because we lack interactions with other humans, and sadly there are many people on that path. Isn't that more isolation?

I believe to understand your point and experiences OP.
Having met and talked to a great may people mostly at the events I host I am beginning to wonder if anyone who apparently seeks companionship/relationship is actually willing to make the effort.... I mean, well I'm over 50, lol, and so are most I speak with....let's face it this is the beginning of those "golden years" as they used to be called.
So what's up with all the conditions, demands etc?

Isn't relationship about those few fundamental values; honest, decency, respect and integrity when we meet someone we like? Why so uncompromising, looking for faults at another persons life when the other options are being alone , even loneliness?

Maybe I too need dog...lol, its just that I don't think I feel that insecure that I can no longer trust another person.

y'all and don't go to the dogs
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Shiftwork
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:29:41 PM
OP, it isn't the shift work that makes you cranky and tired all of the time

it is called aging

get used to it
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 62 (view)
 
Why Do Guys Quit Dancing after 40?
Posted: 11/8/2009 7:26:37 PM

So are you referring to women as....

^^^^ Music
dahhhlinnnn, not in the least, you mustn't listen to low self-esteem to make that comparison, you know me I never include puns in comment

I'm glad tho you pointed that out; to gently withdraw my paw out of the mouth you are right I should have used "herd" instead of cattle....musta been a slip thinking the cowboy stuff
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 58 (view)
 
Why Do Guys Quit Dancing after 40?
Posted: 11/8/2009 4:15:23 PM
Lots of men were invited by different folks in the group and only one man had the courage to venture out with us.


just thinking.... maybe you invited the wrong guys
maybe the wrong girls invited the right kinda guys....
lol
seems like POF
everyone dancing around ahmmmm ??? "deal breakers"


but more seriously
whenever I do go out and in a dancing mood (not POF events) I often find little groups of ladies busy chit-chatting away, yup having fun....and dancing too (with each other), but when asked to dance they often shrug guys off like intruders....lol

I'm usually not really shy or get discouraged, but I can certainly understand men who don't even bother asking.

Perhaps the ladies complaining not having a guy to dance with may consider to get up and ask one
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 51 (view)
 
Why Do Guys Quit Dancing after 40?
Posted: 11/8/2009 10:57:23 AM
And where were most of the men? Standing there on the sidelines watching.


when cattle stampedes it is best to stand back, even those guys with a few still have that much sense, and
they are watching cuz all the gals who dance like no one is watching want them to be watching

interestingly a lot of the ladies stampeding to the dance floors for such songs seem also the ones who turned down a few fellows asking for a dance just before
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 34 (view)
 
Doctor or Clinic
Posted: 11/8/2009 12:03:42 AM
Used to have a fabulous GP, almost like a friendship relationship....she supervised me in the hospital helping the delivery of my sons....was always available on call....she retired in 90 but recommended a GP she knew well....he retired and sold his practice and the new fellow...well...
found another nice doc....he ended up not making enough money here and signed with the marines in the Middle East....
so I ended up in a clinic...sorted through a few until I found one doc that is sort of OK, well I hope anyway....seems to me though they all seem to have to be told what to look for and what the patient wants re tests etc....

seems there is something really wrong in that part of our medical system here
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
Your Definition of Intimacy
Posted: 11/7/2009 1:18:58 PM
^^^ though I do agree with Walts but wouldn't go as far and say it is gender specific...

lost keys, locked doors, buried things....

there is some merit in letting or leaving the past where it belongs when something has been learned from it

we only live in the presence and hope for the future

find intimacy between two or more persons is very much an individual matter and greatly varies between genders and across genders

when we feel intimate bond it is always special, friends or lover or both
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
What did you dream of being as a child?
Posted: 11/7/2009 12:30:43 AM
still living it, though not quite as well as the dreamed but pretty close
moving to CDN, being responsible for myself/family, build a log cabin, wander the wilderness, horses, wild animals.....have a couple of nice kids...
all the unwanted stuff that happened in between just made the desire to succeed stronger...
it was a great guide and I'm content
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 36 (view)
 
Battle of the Bulge.
Posted: 11/5/2009 5:59:51 PM
^^^ careful with the sashimi
farm fish/ shellfish has incredibly high amounts of heavy metal

may not give you a bulge, but your scale may pop
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 21 (view)
 
The M Word - Marriage
Posted: 11/4/2009 6:35:00 PM
One of their downfalls thou (and their partners) was THAT word Marriage.


dunno Walts if that is all there is to it, mind you each is different in their own private ways

I never wanted kids or marriage, but immigrating and sponsoring my then fiancee CDN immigration insisted on marriage....well, not a big deal the heart was in it for both of us then and no kids was the deal.
About ten years later the I want to have kids issue came up cuz all the girlfriends were pregnant, marriage was at its very best and all other stuff too. Took me six month to think and we made a private covenant, if there are to be children then we will stick it out come hell or high water until they are grown up....with that additional "peace of mind" we had two sons.... and five years later I was a single dad.... she took the loot...lol
Those tough early years created an incredible bond between my boys and me and it still holds unchanged....so the real"treasure" I think I got...

Like I mentioned in previous post marriage or not, if the heart isn't in it and only one looses interest or integrity the relationship is doomed.

Unlike our friend Tigger I won't say I'm the best guy there is, I have my vices and expect another to have theirs, but I do know this, when I commit to do something I will do it, with or without a contract and to change that commitment would take some pretty serious stuff that cannot be worked out.

But I also think it is different when one is at the beginning of life or when one is in the last half of it when I think good companionship is more important, cuz one has dealt with all the silly issues life throws

whatever works y'all
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 75 (view)
 
5 to 1 ratio of women to men in Vancouver
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:48:48 PM
^^^^and I suppose the glass is always pushed to the outside, no?



maybe I wouldn't mind feeding a lovable and friendly deadbeat... as long as they came when called and wagged their tail in just the right way!


found me a sugar mama
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 108 (view)
 
Flu shots...
Posted: 11/3/2009 11:42:00 PM

Haven't had a Flu Shots, haven't had any Flus.


and here I thought having more than one flue shot as in the plural form, is called having flusy's

oh, but you didn't have any of those, right
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
The M Word - Marriage
Posted: 11/3/2009 6:19:00 PM
If heart and mind of two lovers aren't strong enough to work the RELATIONSHIP

all the blessings or certificates in the world won't help either

in which case it ends up (often) a pretty expensive party for others

and should things not work out one extra step to take care of...

nice and romantic idea though
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 117 (view)
 
Are all men potential rapists?
Posted: 11/1/2009 4:13:16 PM

Edit: To women who live in fear:

I read some of the statistics annica mentioned and I can't quite figure them out, because stats do not always show what one wants to see but the intentions of those who created them...perhaps I'm somewhat naive in my thinking here....

fear isn't really a positive thing to live with and I agree fearful or even paranoid persons do show their weakness to the predators tuned into this behavior, perhaps equally so to that of an innocence of sorts as well.

IMO awareness, alertness and cautious behavior are more productive.
Both genders have inherent differences in sexual behavior.

Men who become sexually aroused to a "point of no return" tend to turn towards one sided thinking/acting to complete the"mission" and may include their physical superiority (not excusing, it just is)...end up in a potential rape scenario

Women interested in male companionship may display their femininity and act in an arousing way, teasing, with or without intentions to engage in sex....end up in a potential rape (victim) scenario.

I understand we all know this, not much new, but we do not necessarily govern our conduct in accordance, add alcohol as additional input then what may for either one have been a controllable situation ends up in disaster.

IMO these types of rape are possibly more common than the ones caused by the weird/sick/mentally ill against which there are few preventative means other than acting assertive being alert.
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 106 (view)
 
Are all men potential rapists?
Posted: 10/31/2009 1:20:15 PM

It appears to me that generalizing is a human condition...and neither gender is free from making them..


agreed on all points.... didn't try to argue any particulars, simply trying to avoid one sided view and look at crimes of violence and society in a general way

doing so I assume readers understand that a general viewpoint always has exceptions and is only a trend indicator.
Moving into any particular exception any person brings to the discussion and responding individually to it we lose sight of the actual topic and dealing with each of the countless points will usually lead to reactive behavior rather than a proactive one.

Rules/laws of a society are made on particular trends to set a general direction and guidance of acceptable behavior.
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 104 (view)
 
Are all men potential rapists?
Posted: 10/31/2009 11:57:08 AM
^^^ point well made tigress
as has been mentioned before one aspect that causes the defensive/offensiveness is the reference to all

another aspect is when rape is mentioned that most generally think a man committed the offense against a woman, which is another generalization , though best I know possibly factual and a logical reasoning

Man the offender, woman the victim leads to gender prejudicial thinking on both sides. Like racism each side reasons to support their cause

in this case the arguments are amplified by the generally known differences of reasoning between men and women, the latter usually more emotional

In this case though men do also react sensitive as the allegation of rape touches the personal integrity of a man
to make that point understanding the feeling/insult of integrity I intentionally used the word slut before, which is offensive to women and causes a defensive mostly emotional resentment.

However difficult it may be when debating a topic pike this we all must at least try to overcome personal experiences and biases and acknowledge things as they are. That is that humans, male and female in general have the capacity to commit crimes of violence and for that reason our social structure includes rules (laws) to protect prevent and punish.
We also need to put into perspective the percentage of violent crimes and compare to sex related, not to belittle one versas the other but to get an understanding. The other aspect is to look at society and how it (the law) deals with crimes of violence and how certain trends of thinking change and influence judgments.
If we are favoring non-violence then all offenses causing bodily harm should be treated equal and the most relevant factor of sentencing should be pre-meditated and the degree of injury caused.
Surely most who have been a victim to theft or B&E do know that it feels like a personal violation, of course far less than an assault or rape.
Without doubt, rape is a horrid crime with long term impact and emotional trauma for the victim, but anyone who suffered a physical assault is effected as well. Each individual victim deals with the after effects different, some may overcome while others do not.

The real issue is how a society and its laws deal with prevention and punishment of crime.

IMO, we are very much softened in allowing too many excuses for the offenders in particular when it is evident the offender is aware of the conduct and consequences.

 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 72 (view)
 
5 to 1 ratio of women to men in Vancouver
Posted: 10/30/2009 11:39:41 PM

Sex, by the way is a commodity that can be bought, especially in Vancouver.
Love on the other hand needs to be intentionally nurtured and few have the patience to go through the whole dance

ummm...wouldn't know about the commercial part of sex here or elsewhere other than it's an old trade...

Wouldn't know much about either this or the other hand, but seems you've mastered the lust part with patient nurturing
That taking off the edge ought to put you in good position for an equally experienced lady....

You are right though, the integrity of a real friendship or a real love may not come with a price tag....but in the end no one really is happy feeding a lovable and friendly deadbeat forever
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
H1N1 vaccine. Are you getting a shot?
Posted: 10/30/2009 9:27:29 PM
^^^^ thought ghosts are immune

glad you are better now.

Too late for the shot for me, feeling quite cold and dead already.....
maybe just need a bed warmer
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 69 (view)
 
5 to 1 ratio of women to men in Vancouver
Posted: 10/29/2009 7:56:51 PM
^^^
Mountain Lion is so much sexier

kinda like Tigress, no?
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 118 (view)
 
Are women with breast augmentation cheating with false advertising?
Posted: 10/28/2009 11:57:16 AM
[quote[I feel like your pulling my leg for fun

well don'tya know it, I love pulling a little on legs for fun

point I tried to make, we are all more or less conditioned, naturally and by our society to pay attention to the exterior...and nothing wrong with a neat and clean (also hygienic) presentation of one's self, it is pleasing. Yet we also follow proverbs like "its the inside that counts".

With all the hype and modern medicine to do physical corrections (for the sake of appearance only) it is little wonder that many who do not fit the stereotype of what is considered normal feel poorly about themselves and being judged.
They were already aware of the facts and if not of very strong or positive in mind to overcome have or develop some feelings of inferiority about themselves. The fashion and money driven hype amplifies the negative feelings. Obviously this leads to considering to have a procedure done, which in return feeds the money mill.

Often (and only based on my personal observations) the positive psychological effect does not last very long, particularly when the "inside " of a person is very susceptible (less resistant) to outside influences. True too, there are many who take the "ego boost" of better looks and become emotionally stronger/self-confident.
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 114 (view)
 
Are women with breast augmentation cheating with false advertising?
Posted: 10/28/2009 12:40:35 AM
getting a boob job doesnt make a woman a cheater, you shouldn't judge a person on the outside itself.


Perhaps it does not make anyone a cheater.

One shouldn't judge a person on the outside, - old proverb and IMO good point.

That should leave one wondering why so many who are 'pretty on the inside' seem to be so concerned with their exterior.

Ahh....the feeling good point,
hmm if all the insides are intact then according to the proverb the outside shouldn't of concern?

Paradox or am I missing something?
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
Are you a Gladiator or a Spectator?
Posted: 10/25/2009 6:00:02 PM
depends on the game and who is in it
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Narrow mindedness
Posted: 10/25/2009 5:57:49 PM

By who's definition are we determining a narrow mind.


the thought was each determine by their own definition
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Narrow mindedness
Posted: 10/25/2009 2:04:10 PM
We all have our own life experiences, draw conclusions and opinions from that to govern our conduct.

Many of us may be guilty of some degree of narrow mindedness, occasionally or pertaining to a specific matter.

We also encounter this trait in others.


How do you deal with your own narrow mindedness and how do you respond when you experience it from of others?
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 82 (view)
 
Are all men potential rapists?
Posted: 10/25/2009 1:45:54 PM

But those here who immediately have to gone to that old rotten place where a woman is dummied down by terms of endearment, where words such as slut are mentioned in a thread about rape, where a self professed gentleman indicates a woman is not entitled to gentlemanly behaviour on his part unless she acts and speaks in a manner acceptable to him, where obscure references are made to "cougars", are apparently NOT JOKING (!!)

It is always a sad day when someones commentary becomes venomous governed by blindfolds set so narrow that only a singularity becomes the focal point and thus demonstrating lack of or willingness or ability to comprehend as evidenced in the above comment, and it isn't a first.
While I may be sympathetic to whatever negative experiences you may have had in your life it does not justify your behaviour against other people especially those who have expressed their disgust for crime and violence in general in this and other forums.

Perhaps you take a minute and re-read the words I wrote in the context in which they were written.

Rocin wrote

Maybe I'm just getting to that cranky old lady stage.


in reference to self I (Mountain lion) wrote {See Wiki
The cougar (Puma concolor), also known as puma, mountain lion}

naaa luviii...trust me it's the cougar stage...trying to put that behind me
as you can see retracting the claws doesn't always work....then again a little scratch now and then is all good too, don't ya think?

These words may be sarcasm in a comforting reference to age they are absolutely not connected promoting disrespect of women, one or in general or condoning violence, including rape.
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 78 (view)
 
Are all men potential rapists?
Posted: 10/25/2009 10:04:44 AM
^^^^ now , now you two... puns intended...

each society is struggling to impose what they believe is most effective to keep the evil in all of mankind in check
cutting off limbs was an obvious, logical and very efficient and effective solution, saving the state a lot of $$$ in trials and incarceration.... and no one can deny that....
If practiced in our society we certainly would have a lot less cell phone users while driving and much less traffic...and I suppose handshakes or masturbation would be pretty much out too....
and no more labeling or generalizations no arms or hands = crook

so pleeeze
quit twisting and bending the rules posing as both victim and aggressor to get your way

this reminds me of dominance and submission part of the BDSM subculture....
why don't ya wait for Halloween, put on your favorite outfit and go for it

remember in the end the submissive usually is in control
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 76 (view)
 
Are all men potential rapists?
Posted: 10/24/2009 9:09:14 PM

Maybe I'm just getting to that cranky old lady stage.


naaa luviii...trust me it's the cougar stage...trying to put that behind me
as you can see retracting the claws doesn't always work....then again a little scratch now and then is all good too, don't ya think?

You are right (IMO) our societies are sticking their heads into the sand on most anything,
analyze, make assessments and when done every one forgot what it was all about until the cycle repeats itself.

In that sense the only thing that ever really gets done is when someone usually for some hidden agenda creates a public paranoia or really wants to have a statue of themselves built...
and on that note one cant really blame advocates for whatever cause to use the same means...
and I'm too in a bit of a dreamland believing democracy = majority rules, it hasn't been that way for decades and is getting worse...but we all can at least be optimists, no?
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Are all men potential rapists?
Posted: 10/24/2009 8:10:42 PM
^^^The trouble with generalizations of the kind you make is that they are but a fiction of your mind based on few peaces of reality.
To fill the holes would require writing ten thousand years of human history and social behavior...lol

To avoid gender bias-- there was a time when women would defend her own honour and reputation...

seems a very over romanticized view, reality was that at that time women were generally considered property and had little say in any matters, it was also a time when women were burned at the stake for many reasons including witchcraft....and brutalities against mankind were at its peak and no one was safe...Spanish Inquisition????
Of course the Holiness the Pope of Rome sanctioned it in the name of the lord....terrorism not much different what we have seen from the middle east...


A civilized society protects the weaker members. Seems to me that our society has become more dog-eat-dog and survival-of-the-fittest.

If you looked more closely you would note that our society in particular is tearing itself apart granting special rights, privileges and protection for every bit of minority or victim that screams injustice and therein lies much of our problem. Courts cannot convict according to the laws governing, and and....

Any act of violence is horrid regardless who the victim is, and right it is worse when it is children or the weak, but that is nothing new as human behavior goes.

Most of the points on this topic have already been made, sorry if I sound redundant now, but it is not ALL men who are potential rapists, nor is it[ALL who are potential sluts, or innocent victims...

One generalization that is difficult to disprove would be that all humans once they become fully functional have the potential to commit a crime.

Hence, if anything it should be ALL of us who should act civilized and do everything possible to get along without crime, including rape. Blame and generalizations, inciting hatred or living in dreamland are certainly not the way.
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 48 (view)
 
psychic experiences
Posted: 10/23/2009 8:04:01 PM
.... North American Indians, or East Indians? And why do their powers only "work" when money changes hands?


cuz you misspelled Indians, it is actually " in di hands"
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
In what environment do you get most creative?
Posted: 10/23/2009 7:56:57 PM
try to keep the creative excitement down in all environments

supposed to be healthier

 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 4 (view)
 
BC Place Retractable Roof
Posted: 10/23/2009 7:48:14 PM
maybe time to borrow whatever they need and pay beak from user fees

it seems to be the trend for bridges.

seems only fair, why should the public cough up the funds when most don't even use the darn place?
 mountain lion 1
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
What's up with the BBD (Bigger Better Deal)?
Posted: 10/22/2009 1:14:27 PM
I know, I know. I live in a fantasy world. Maybe that's why I don't play the dating game?


I know opinions may differ, but reading your post you project honesty.

That may be a fantasy world for many...

OP, remain true to yourself and your goals, while keeping an open mind and heart kinda thing
good luck
 
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