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colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

Going alione Posted: 11/23/2009 3:21:03 PM
I like to see plays and opera. Most of my friends do not so i go alone by myself. to me it does not look strange till yesterday when someone told me that it looks wierd for a woman to be by herself at theatre and opera thought??/ lol, I almost got into a brawl at a bar over this. I was at a bar to watch the cotto/paquiao fight on pay per view, and the people put men in a booth all to myself. well the place got crowded and people were standing up because there were no more seats, anyway a guy and his group came to me and asked who was sitting in the booth with me, i said it's just me, and one guy screamed out loud "in a public place" and I said can I watch the fight with out being spoke to by nobody but my waitress, then we went word for word and almost got into it. bottom line this is america, I'm assuming you are here, and we are allowed to go alone anywhere we want to, you don''t need a f^%&ing entourage just to enjoy life.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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What are men affraid of? Posted: 11/23/2009 3:06:19 PM
well, back when i was younger wasn't scare, but I figured an attractive woman would not be attracted to me, now it's kind of like I see an attractive lady and it's like "and"? well a lady I'm attracted to hopefully be receptive "if" she likes me back is the best answer for that question nothing can scare me off. now what would turn me off it depends on her. lol, you really are bored you asking questions there's really no answers for.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Goodbye to the past, hello with the new! Posted: 11/23/2009 2:59:39 PM
So I met this new guy, whos an absolute sweetheart, and wants to date me, respects me, texts me all the time, puts a smile on my face, and is just so wonderful. Compliments me, and cares about how i feel. So I'm going out with him on this weekend and we really like one another. He doesnt really care about sex, and thinks im cute, sweet and adorable. He just makes me feel so wonderful! So should I go out on this date on Saturday and if it goes well let it and be with him, or wait for the loser, and set myself up for failure? I just need some assurance I don't need this jerk anymore why do you need assurance, you can make up your own mind, good luck with everything.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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so confused! Posted: 11/23/2009 2:54:11 PM
So, last night on Facebook chat of all places, he tells me that he doesn't want to "do this" right now and he needs more space. So now I'm very much thinking WTF??! I felt like we had given each other lots of space and we enjoyed spending time together when we did. So. Guys, or girls, any insight to this at all???! He told you he couldn't do it, there is no other insight than what he "told" you. You thought wrong. we all make mistakes.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Are Our Standards Too High & Options to Great ? Posted: 11/23/2009 2:44:16 PM
the reason people find the "same" person over and over because "they" don't want to change. no we don't attract bottomfeeders "we" pick them. is there a sincere decent people, no way to truly know peoples intentions. I'm not going to say we lack intelliegence or common sense, but our flaws do bring self imposed failure. You hit it right on the head with if we can't stand ourselves whoelse will stand us. To me standards can never be too high, the more your mate meets your "standards" you probably may be happier. then again some won't be happy no matter what. your last question no way to answer that one, everybody has "different" realities as mystical as that may sound.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Can anyone advise on this? Posted: 11/23/2009 2:34:57 PM
Next day I had a text saying he would call me later and I heard nothing from him. He has ignored all my calls and texts and deleted my unread message i sent him on here. I dont understand why has he vanished on me???? well, I think he didn't like you, don't worry about it, because even if you figured out why would it make things better to why he doesn't want you? you'll find another guy i promise.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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What went wrong Posted: 11/23/2009 2:29:48 PM
No problem I understood, but I always saw that he was on line and not talking to me so I wrote him and asked him what happened. Was the time he had with me so bad that he couldn't even write to tell me that he didn't want to have anything to do with me. He said no I've just been busy with my son and I really didn't have any feelings for yu. What gives? What changed? Are guys just all ***holes lol, yeah all guys are a%$holes, the man told you he didn't have feelings for you, end of story that's all you need to know babe.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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told myself I would never do it Posted: 11/23/2009 2:21:36 PM
colt [[[[I just find it funny that you are actually justifying, why you slept with your boys wife, this is why I keep my women estranged from friends period.]]]] WHOA...this response caught my attention, more than what the OP said. Do you keep her locked in the closet? basically my friends never know who I'm dating, I'm not into the social "circle" thing it leads to problems, such as being nosey or gossip, like you probably do in your "circle".

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Would you cheat on SO for alot of money? Posted: 11/23/2009 2:16:51 PM
I ask this because my SO has a profession of dealing with large rich clientile and asked me last night, jokingly, if I would be okay if she had sex with one of her clients for $1 million dollars. Then she said, "what about if it meant losing my largest client and I'd loose my career and I'd have to move away?" To all questions I said no, it would not be okay to cheat. interesting. if it aint the girl of my dreams, I'll save my career.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Finding relief in reading the forums. Posted: 11/23/2009 1:48:54 PM
So does reading threads help you find comfort in only having relationships with family and friends , if anything just to avoid ever running into some of the ignorant asshat people ? lol, I see what your getting at but i believe some of these forum "personalities" are acts. I know myself, forums is big entertainment for me to spout off crap and pretend i know something, but yeah i see what your saying.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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marriage on the way out?? if not why are there so many divorces? Posted: 11/23/2009 1:43:31 PM
marriages dont seem to last very long these days, thats if your married at all and not just living together, which used to be known in my younger day as living in sin. does this mean that marriage ( by this i mean forever) is on the way out. No it's not on the way, some people will always need to have a ring and wedding to justify their love. also the only reason there is more divorce now is because people mainly women get paid better now, back when women didn't have good jobs to support themselves so they stuck with the men do to security, basically people are not putting up with crap now. oh well personally I am one of the one who feel marriage is the silliest thing you can do now.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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told myself I would never do it Posted: 11/23/2009 1:39:34 PM
I am very attracted to this girl,I have known for 3 yrs..Last weekend we hooked up and did the naughty.....I always said I would never do this...... because it was my friends wife.....We have both been attracted to each other for yrs and the L word was definatly mentioned....Do I break up the marriage, or let it be?....(they both hate each other) I just find it funny that you are actually justifying, why you slept with your boys wife, this is why I keep my women estranged from friends period.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Are there some men who really DON'T like women but need their sexual needs met? Posted: 11/23/2009 1:37:44 PM
Do you think there are guys out here that (deep down) detest women, but they date only because they have primal sexual needs, and that need makes them even more angry that they have to depend on a woman's body to fufill these natural urges? ...especially divorcees Sure there are all types of men, I won't go into specifics why because I don't know, but yes there are.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Here's my situation Posted: 11/23/2009 1:35:22 PM
I've asked him what kind of assurances do I have that at the first opportunity he won't do it again. He can't give me any. My head is saying don't do it, but my heart is saying to give him another chance. So, should I or am I an idiot to even consider it? Any advice is appreciated I won't judge you and call you an idiot for whatever decision you make, I just say if you go back with your husband, and what you fear happens, you made your bed because you have control of the situation.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Selfish or natural? Posted: 11/22/2009 1:50:35 PM
I'm struggling though with my envious feelings and also the feeling that we won't be going out partying as much as we were if this guy turns out to be something special. I already found myself missing her last night, as it would usually be our party night. I know we will still go out together, but it won't be the same as us against the couples, if that makes any sense. I probably sound really selfish and bitter, but I'm not. I want us both to meet someone special, but it never seems to be me no it's natural, from your other post I was feeling for you now, i have second thoughts, your jealousy, will be your downfall, be happy for your friend and focus on you, and forget the "why me" thing too. there's no way you both can meet someone at the same time, life doesn't work out that way, your envious ways will bring you down, things happen in time, your time will come sweetheart clear your heart and quit worrying about your friend's life and worrying about yours.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Single Bashing Posted: 11/22/2009 1:40:11 PM
well I haven't had bashing, but people "question" I choose to be single and i say because I am chasing goals. everything else in my eyes are "distractions" women included because i don't know one woman in the world that has the patience to be 2nd place to my goals. From the few married people who "settled" i sense jealousy that they are mad because I'm chasing what i really want and they envy because they are obligated and didn't have the nerve to chase what they truly wanted, but that's some people, others simply chose to be in a "happy" marraige with the picket fences. now your story, to me this is why i doin't hang in "social" circles because social circles want you to be like "them", they are married so they want you to be married, they are divorced and miserable, so they want you to be divorced and miserable. Bashers of anything are jealous people, because things aren't going "their" way. enjoy your singledom and don't let your thunder be taken, 32 your still a pup, someone will come along, don't let the 'bashers" win, they want you to settle and conform with them.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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I ask a guy out.. I'm nervous! Posted: 11/22/2009 1:29:26 PM
Do you remember how I'd sent you that e-mail trying to express that I liked you?!? Well, I REALLY do like you!! And I wish that you would be MINE!! Do ya wanna? Should I not have done that? I am soooo nervous as to what he's going to say there really is no right or wrong here, what ever you feel was the right decision is the right decision, you told him how you feel, now stand by your decision. don't waver.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Hard Question Posted: 11/22/2009 1:26:24 PM
I have been dating a man since Jan. The other night I asked him if he could see us going away together? He growled "why do you ask such hard questions.? In your eyes why is this a hard question? My guting feeling tells me that he does not see me in in his future and just passing time with me. When I first meet him I saw him as friend material and told him...so he slowly changed his ways became more loving, and spending more time with me. etc. etc But now he is clearly reverting to his ways. the thing is even if it's an easy question to you and me, it still could be hard for him, you have to understand to look at things in a different way, not everybody are going to see things your way, when you realize this, stuff won't be as complicating as it seems. basically you will achieve an "indifference" which allows you to keep it moving when things are not "comfortable" for you.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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How to tell when he wants more than just sex Posted: 11/22/2009 1:20:19 PM
how to tell if a man wants more than sex? There is no way of telling of another mans intentions regardless. Just because one guy wants just sex that doesn't mean the next man will. was too soon for kissing? I mean only you can answer that question from your story everything seemed cool. but if it felt right to you then it was cool, nobody has control of your situation but you, you say your man asked permission, so you are in control of everything, even if he only wants sex, you have the power to just say "no thanks".

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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sticking to your own 'kind' Posted: 11/22/2009 12:49:39 PM
How has online dating affected interacial relationships? Has it liberated and enabled people to date outside their culture by connecting people all over the world? Or have culture-specific dating websites reinforced sticking to your own 'kind'? I see you are stuck on the interacial and culture thing, from your threads, i don't know why this is a reacurring theme with you, but I guess you are curious about the subject. I personally would think internet dating would open things up a bit because people can surf things, but then again if their is a culture specific site made for strictly that culture what are you gonna do? Sticking to your own kind is a preference, some people like it some people don't and you have others like me who don't give a damn, you like what you like.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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PLEASE HELP!!!! Posted: 11/22/2009 12:42:12 PM
well, what should you do? I say go back and read this monologue and read it carefully because the story has more revelations than anyone can bring to the light. now, i'm not trying to rain in on your parade, because this man "obviously" loves you dearly and if you decide to cross this threshold with him goodluck, i hope it works out.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Do you like to like be the Pursuer or the Pursued? Posted: 11/21/2009 5:25:44 PM
Does it change your level of interest if the woman initiates first and asks you out? Specifically, do you prefer to be the initiator, or does it matter? I ask because the dynamics seem better between us when the man initiates... Thanks guys I've been the pursuer when i was younger and every date from 20 til now I was approached, not that I'm a prize or anything, I guess i was born funny because no matter how I'm attracted to someone I've never been compelled to chase someone, oh well honestly it doesn't matter if "im" one of the other, then again the way i am hell probably would freeze over if you catch me actually chasing after a woman.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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New Civil War Posted: 11/21/2009 11:57:34 AM
There's been some talk about another Civil War that will inevitably occur in the U.S. which will help lead to the ultimate destruction of this country at the hands of Russia and China. Some believe it's going to be a race war while others think it's going to be a secessionist movement in order to fight against the governments growing power over our rights and liberties in this country. What's the liklihood of another Civil War occuring in the states and if it were to occur what would be the level of devastation due to our advancement of military and homemade weaponary? well, we just are going to have to wait see I guess.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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A Very Ugly Situation - What Would YOU Do? Posted: 11/21/2009 11:23:53 AM
The other day I overheard a conversation between two of my male employees. A woman who is our technical writer is a very attractive single African American. One of the male employees said that he was trying to get her to date him "just so I know what it's like to f*ck a black chick." From what I could tell, he has no interest in her beyond that, and he even made some pretty ugly racial comments in general. I wanted to go right in there and fire him on the spot. The problem is, he's very important to us technically, and it would be difficult to quickly replace him. (I'm going to look into that anyway, and that's not my question. I'm not interested nor expecting in any advice on that.) My question is, other than immediate termination, how would you handle this situation? well it's a tough decision for me as well as it would be you, the screw a black chick line isn't bad except it was inappropriate for the "workplace", I mean if she heard that it's a law suit, I don't know the other racial stuff he said but if this stuff was to reach back to her and she found out me the "manager" did nothing it's like losing 2 employees, I'd atleast have a talk with the guy, Personally don't care if someone is racist or not it affects them more than me, but if it disrupts the workplace that's when it's a problem.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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The Big Deal About Being Single. Posted: 11/21/2009 11:05:24 AM
In my entire life I've only dated a handful of times and only had 1 girlfriend. I've also never been on a single date in two years. I'm perfectly fine with this. However, what I'm not fine with is, people telling me how pathetic is it and what not. Hell, sometimes I even have my parents asking me "when are you gonna get a girlfriend?" Seems like everyone around me has a bigger problem for being single than I do. Actually, I don't have a problem with it. S0 my question is, what in the **** is everybody's problem? screw em all. some people think you have to have someone to be complete or else if you are single you are miserable, let em keep thinking like that, don't let it get to you.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Internet daters: are we damaging our social skills? Posted: 11/21/2009 10:56:06 AM
Is online dating 'less sociable' than more conventional ways of dating? I think a lot of people envisage internet daters cooped up in their room on the computer all day. But actually, there is such a huge online dating community that it is really quite sociable. You could probably meet way more people online than you would trapsing bars and clubs, couldnt you? But, is the fact that we can date from the comfort of our own homes, destroying our social skills? Everything has an "cause and effect", as vague as it sounds.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Baseball Caps, Pecs and Six-Packs, Sexual monikers Posted: 11/21/2009 10:49:24 AM
Why do men put these things on their profiles and in their photos, if not to broadcast their basic lack of class? I've seen old, hairy chests, torso shots of older men who are more than half naked, read screen names that are so overtly sexual they leave no doubt as to the goal the men have in mind. For most women these are a total turn-off, and don't even get me started on the redneck, hick image a baseball cap conjures up! Because they want to, don't worry about it if you don't like em to talk to em, too much stress adds 10 yrs.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Is love enough? Posted: 11/21/2009 10:36:50 AM
Is love enough to make a relationship last for the long run. I love this guy, he's very sweet. but I wonder if it will last for the long haul. We share a few things in common, but I'm not interested in his favorite hobby and he's not interested in mine. Should this be a concern? True love is whatever that is, not the love that people throw around after 4 months of dating but that unconditional, which so few ever reach. Your situation depends on how big are these differences and are they disrupting the relationship, i don't know what they are so i can't really weigh in, then again I don't know what is major and minor in both you guys heads, i say use your judgement it's best option for you.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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strange signs?! Posted: 11/21/2009 10:26:10 AM
the only thing strange is your dependancy on the astrological thing, i mean they are fun and everything to read just like fortune cookies but it seems to me you are taking things literally. anyway i'm not knocking you, that's just one of your quirks. of course sometimes or all the times depending on the person, keeps feelings for one girl in particular or all the girls they get involved with, some wounds never close just a scar to remind you. Long story short i think the girl is not interested, but yeah you are in your head with the "mystical" stuff.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Would a person who suffered a brain injury be a turn off for you? Posted: 11/21/2009 10:18:25 AM
It depends on how messed up the person is, as shallow as that seems, what i mean by that is if the person clearly can't care for themselves, probably not, but if the person has minor dependancy maybe, the only exceptionto this would be I was already in the relationship them and then I may have to think about the situation.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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How and when do you know when you're with the one you wanna settle down with? Posted: 11/21/2009 10:05:09 AM
You either do or don't, as vague as it sounds, I in my "opinion" people in love don't waver on whether to "hold" on or let go, the people I saw who were in love at the "time" were one and ready to take it to the next step. All in all if he's not sure your the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with, well you do the math. Wait a minute, you guys been together only 8 months? what's the rush? anyway do what you will.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Does class matter in online dating? Posted: 11/20/2009 7:36:11 PM
Does class matter within online dating? Does internet dating liberate class barriers by enabling anonymity so nobody can immediately judge you prior to getting to know you? Or does internet dating reinforce class barriers through sites such as sugardaddie.com, which glorify and encourage young girls to look for rich middle-class men? I say it matters if it's in your set preferences I guess.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Meant to be alone Posted: 11/20/2009 7:32:12 PM
I've always heard that "there is someone for everyone"..but then I think about MY love life..if that's what you can call it..I swear I'm seriously about to go to my local pet store to start my 50 cat collection..lol Lol, I thought that line was a crock too, but if you are open enough there is someone for you it may not be what you "want", but if you open yourself up there is.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Men and self esteem Posted: 11/20/2009 7:25:20 PM
so you want to know what about the guys? lol, I used to joke a say the world doesn't care about men, I think the only thing to explain why it seems that men don't get love is alot of us aren't really talking about depressions, or paranoia, or low self-esteem, because we are "prideful" so most of us refuse to go to doctors about something like feeling a little "blue". I have tons of friends who are men who are in and out of depression, well atr least i see symtoms, most notably "self destructive" behavior, but they let it go untreated and end up in the slammer or something. I think it's just under reported, some men feel they will be less manly if they sit on a couch "talking" about problems instead of fixing them themselves.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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On professionals and commitment (interesting one) Posted: 11/20/2009 6:48:23 PM
I would say professionals committing to marriage probably has something to do with now that they have their feet planted on the ground and stabilty they may want marriage, but who knows really. Some professionals may marry their sweethearts from highschool, some people may feel once they get a good job now they need or want a "regular" life by society standards whatever that means. Honestlythough it's no way to know we only can really "speculate" why they are married if we care.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Regretfully didn't give him my number!!!! Now what?? Posted: 11/19/2009 12:54:42 PM
A little advice would be welcome here..... We really hit it off. I should have given him my number ( a chance meeting, not a POF contact), but I snoozed and didn't. I know where he lives, and have been there before. Should I stop by? What do I say? Or is the moment gone? If you know where he lives there's nothing to regret the ball is still in your court, I'm not saying stalk, but you know what to do if you want this guy.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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why do people feel like they need someone in their life . Posted: 11/19/2009 12:50:33 PM
personally I never felt the "need" like i would die if I didn't have someone in my life, well some people have that "insatiable" need to be with someone it's nothing wrong with it, it just comes down to what makes you comfortable i guess, don't worry about it just continue to have your life and look in the back of your mind. someone will mosey on in your life one day.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Should I hang in there Posted: 11/19/2009 12:43:25 PM
I won't tell you yes or no to leave him because ultimately "you" have to make that decision. Normally if i was in that was my position I would scram, but that's me not you, "I normally don't see calls for help" alot of other people do including yourself. I say if you feel strongly about something regardless of what it is "commit" to it, good luck.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Confused by my hormones - having sex with boyfriend for first time Posted: 11/19/2009 12:35:13 PM
This morning he leaves to go to work, and I feel sad that we didn't have sex. I feel like I missed a good opportunity, and probably the last chance to be alone in my house for a while. Can anyone relate to this? Or can help me figure out why I keep flip flopping on my thoughts about it? I am very attracted to him, and he drives me wild when we make out. I know I want to sleep with him, I want to do everything with him, but I can't seem to make up my mind on when. Jesus kid, lol, now i know what certain girls were thinking when i was in highschool, lol stop thinking so much but be careful and responsible, I would tell you to hold off on the sex thing and focus on school because sometimes condoms don't do their job and unwanted pregnancy from what i hear is a B%$#@, but the heart wants what the hearts want, be careful.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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Why can't I just move on? Posted: 11/19/2009 12:31:32 PM
What truly hurts me is that for some reason I can not shake him. I am so angry with myself. I can tell that he has feelings, but recently he started acting distant. Honestly, I can not get mad at him. We were never 'offically' in a relationship. I am angry at myself. How do I move on? Is it because I have not been dating. I feel STUPID! Wish I had picked someone like me. I can't psychoanalyze why you can't move on, I can identify to a certain degree with you, because you wrote you know the feelings don't go both ways, but then later you wrote I can tell he has feelings so does he or does he not have feelings for you, besides that, I say look up the word "self-sabotage" when it comes to happiness. Good Luck.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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school first or relationship first? Posted: 11/18/2009 3:50:28 PM
So do you think I should go for school that's the best I can get into? or trying to get into Phd three hours away? seriously I don't even know how we could be three hours away for almost five years. I do plan to get married and have baby in the next five years. Me personally I'm all for chasing your dreams, your dreams is phd so go after that, if what you have with this man is real 5 yrs isn't that long and he will support your decision for school. my only question is why do you have a 5 yr timetable for getting married and having children? won't you just be getting out of school and everything? you want a phd which you said it could take almost 5 yrs, but your planning to be married and have kids in 5 yrs? call me simple but I'm confused here.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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for the guys Posted: 11/18/2009 3:31:05 PM
If you are the one left, how long do you think is enough time to try again with someone else without leaving room for them to believe that they are a rebound of any sort, and yes I have two kids and take them into consideration with every choice that I make in life. And I would not bring him around them at first at least. Is this an insult to that person?? So I guess, what length of time would be okay six months or more? Any insight? there is no rule book to something like this, either you feel comfortable doing it in 30 mins or 30 years. Everybody's comfort levels are different sweetheart.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

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just to gather opinions,would you date a guy who said this? Posted: 11/18/2009 3:14:38 PM
so, met a guy, there seems to be chemistry, we really get along, and then, after i honestly revealed a few personal things of my own to him, he openly told me "i cannot garantee i will not have sex with other women. im just being honest, im not an angel, i have a high sex drive and im used to having many casual encounters". so quite simply, would you date him? lol, and your still considering dating him? I guess you should if you don't mind him cheating evry once and a while. WOW! LuvLuck! you've dated 98% of the men here! jeez you really get around.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

Hes my fallback guy but I want something new. Posted: 11/18/2009 2:54:34 PM
I have a major problem. About two years ago I met this guy at school and really started to fall for him. We ended up dating and he was a jerk but I couldnt get enough of him. We ended up staying together off and on all this time but hes changed and i have lost interest in him completely. But, hes so obsessed with me, nice, caring and so on. I guess ive keep him around as a fall back and because i dont want to break his heart. I dont know what to do, i mean i love him as a person but i cant see being with him forever, im looking for someone I can love. ughh its so complicated please Good luck.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

Msg: 4 (view)

Is it worthwhile to date here? Posted: 11/18/2009 2:44:32 PM
Is it worthwhile to date here? I was just exchanging letters here with someone who signed up. She wanted to date, but said she was reluctant to use online dating. I say online dating has it's pluses and minuses just like everything else. Your friend may not think it's hard to meet people here, so i say let her have her own experiences with online, just because you are having a tough time doesn't mean she will.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

Hitting On Someone Elses BF/GF Posted: 11/18/2009 2:39:47 PM
personally i have a code, i would never disrespect a man with his woman, this is a reason why sometimes some people get shot, some men can be extremely violent. I would never approach a woman when she's with her man, I respect the relationship at the point. Now say if she's alone and I'm getting signals ok maybe, but I lake to take the moral ground and not go after "taken" women. with all that being said though the game is a game so i don't care what others do.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

Is there any recourse??? Posted: 11/18/2009 2:33:16 PM
I have dated a couple of men from POF in the last six weeks who were not at all what they claim to be. I mean one was a pathological liar who I busted through some research and one is so creepy and scary that I believe he is a danger to women. Both presented themselves as educated professionals who were just normal, nice guys. I feel traumatized and shell shocked. These men are allowed to be here preying on women? Is there nothing we can do? the only thing you can do is hope you pick the right one, just like if you had dates in real-life.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

Would you message someone if you knew they weren't going to respond? Posted: 11/18/2009 2:31:15 PM
Do you message people even when you are pretty sure they aren't going to answer. Guys you know the kind of profiles I'm talking about. They are very well written with an attractive picture attached to it. The kind of person that has a profile probably 20 guys will message in a day. Also knowing that the response ratio is pretty low, does that stop you from trying? Now i don't go into anyone's profile, even folks who messaged me, but i still feel i can weigh due to the fact, in real life in the "past" I didn't approach anybody I thought had tons of dudes, so going off your question, no i would not message someone if i knew they were not going to respond. The Ego thing, I do believe their is a bunch of people on the internet who are using it for their "daily" pick me up, but i do think some people want something real as well, all in all there's all kinds of people with all kinds of motives.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

Msg: 13 (view)

Is it Wrong to call a woman handsome? Posted: 11/18/2009 2:19:09 PM
I sorta got in trouble for this the other day, but I defended myself. Some women can best be described as "handsome". It doesnt mean that they are a lesbian, it just means that they are not exactly feminine looking, but they are still attractive... Does anyone know what I mean here? Can I get an Amen? lol, I read in a fiction book a woman described this way, handsome means attractive, although it's rarely used to a woman, hell I think I'm going to try saying this and see what reactions I get, it sounds fun, lol.

colt8301

Joined: 10/25/2006

Msg: 62 (view)

Is being yourself really good advice? Posted: 11/18/2009 12:56:45 PM
've always thought it sort of what people liken communism to- looks good on paper but not much practicality. Just wondering what others have to say on the subject . An optimistic outlook in my opinion- faking a persona might get you more tail, but yourself builds a more lasting relationship? I think if you want a mate to like you and all of your quirks, I say it's the best damn advice that can be given. and yeah you may get more tail lying or faking it, but on the flip side what if you find one particular piece of tail you like and you have to lie and lie and lie, because we all know when you lie, you have to continue the lie, say you screw up the lie and the facade is blown? probably that "tail" will leave if they don't like your "true" quirks, just my opinion.

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