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 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Issue with searches
Posted: 1/12/2010 3:08:07 PM
I'm having the same problem - hoping a moderator will check this thread again - I've been using the same search settings and it's been working fine and now I sit down this evening and all I get are "online today" and no "online now" - and I can go into people who viewed me and see people showing as "online now" but they don't come up in my search.

After reading this thread, I then went into the basic search and used really open settings - males 20 to 50 within 25 miles of the city - and still no "online now"

Help!
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 143 (view)
 
Pit Bulls
Posted: 10/16/2007 8:32:21 PM

I don't see how it's worth having dangerously powerful dogs if there are children involved at all. How is it worth the risk just to have a pet. ... Although it's true any dog has the possibility of turning, I don't really forsee getting killed by a pom or terrier.

Flaw in your arguement: YOU might not get killed by a Pom or a terrier, but you were talking about having the dogs around children - you know, those little humans that aren't as strong as you. Poms, Dachshunds and other small dogs DO kill children. For one example, see:

http://archives.cnn.com/2000/US/10/09/pomeranian.kills.ap/

NO dog should be trusted alone with a child, no matter WHAT the breed. Kids do things that dogs don't like, such as pull on their ears, tail, or hair, or jump on them, etc. As a result, dogs bite kids. Then the parent that LET the kid abuse the dog blames the DOG. Gimme a break.

sorry, had to rant briefly there. Seen it all too often.

Back to my point: yes, the pit bull has an unreal bite strength - almost twice as strong as the next closest breed (which I *think* is the Rottie). But you know something? It really doesn't take much jaw strength to kill you. And it takes a lot less power to kill a kid. If a dog is going to clamp down on your throat, it doesn't matter if it's Satan the Pitt Bull or Lassie the collie - you're dead.

As for whether or not it's an attractive breed: beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Pitties do nothing for me, but... okay, I listed a bunch of REALLY unattractive breeds here, but wisely deleted them - because the only reason those breeds EXIST is because people find them attractive, and I've decided not to poke a stick in THAT hornets' nest. Point is, to each their own.
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 23 (view)
 
Non Dating Profile
Posted: 10/15/2007 9:34:30 PM
Hmmm... somehow, an innocent question about whether "attached" people are a welcome part of the community got twisted into some sort of petty attack on a third party. I'm shocked. Intent getting misrepresented on a forum? Used as an excuse to insult people? Shocked, I tell you, absolutely shocked.

Hey, shouldn't there be a 'sarcastic' smiley?

Hate to burst your bubble dude, but being here you ARE part of the community!


Yeah, I found that rather ironic.

I think you have every right to be here, but then again I could be accused of being biased in that fashion! I've only had one person send me a snarky message about being on this site. (compared to several that have snarked about how narrow-minded my grammar rant is - apparently some people not only have bad grammar, they have issues around it and NO sense of humour) I've had a number of people question why we stayed on the site. Hey, I like to debate, er, discuss stuff. And there are a number of people on here for that reason. If the site was STRICTLY for dating, you wouldn't have options like looking for 'friends'!

It is sometimes hard to convince people that you AREN'T looking, but I have noticed that no guy has actually asked me out since I added the Doberman line...
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 137 (view)
 
Pit Bulls
Posted: 10/15/2007 9:11:54 PM

but I don't know if people WANT to hear about Pit Bulls. I think people want to know about all attacks but they just aren't being informed.

You're right - bad wording. More along the lines of, the media figures it will grab attention and THEY want to cover it for that reason.

One was a pit bull and definately it was the most viscious.

I only recall having to deal with one vicious pit bull when I was in animal control. Even with its owner trying to calm him down, I couldn't get near him. I had to take him out on a choker-pole (also known as a rabies pole in politically-correctville). It was heartbreaking - he had been beaten into viciousness. He wasn't trying to attack me because he was inherently aggressive, he was trying to attack me because he was SCARED - so scared he pee'd and crapped himself. And there was nothing I could do to calm him.

When you have a dog like a pit bull, rotty, dobe, etc., that has a fear issue, that dog learns very quickly that aggression keeps people away. There will always be morons out there that want aggressive dogs and use that method to "train" them. (Funny, the dogs that are PROPERLY trained to do protection work generally DON'T cause problems: there are a lot of people that do schutzhund work with their dogs in the Edmonton area and I never heard of an attack by any of THOSE dogs.)

Which goes back to the idea that it is the owner that is the problem. But THEY hardly ever get what they deserve. In my above example, NOTHING could be done about the owner of the dog even though he had clearly abused the dog, because we didn't have any witnesses, and no evidence that would stand up in court.

On the other side of the issue, I got called in one night by the police - they had raided a drug house that had a bunch of pitbulls chained in various locations throughout the house - obviously as 'guard dogs'. The cops wanted me there to deal with the dogs as they searched each area. Some of the dogs barked a couple of times, but that was it. Not even an aggressive bark. Perfectly friendly bunch of dogs. LOOKED very big and menacing, but really quite nice. LMAO: guard dogs, yeah right!

Of course, there are 'lines' of dogs in many breeds that have bad temperaments, because in addition to moronic owners, there are the breeders that breed dogs with temperament problems... but that's a rant for another day.
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 127 (view)
 
Pit Bulls
Posted: 10/10/2007 1:30:59 PM
A few days ago, a guest on the Nancy Grace show made a comment to the effect of "Yorkies and Westies don't kill people". WRONG. There have been fatal dog attacks by such breeds as the Yorkshire Terrier, the Dachshund, and even the cute, fuzzy little Pomeranian. ANY breed can and will bite.

Recently, a non-fatal pit-bull attack showed up in 300+ media outlets. The same weekend, there was a FATAL attack by a Labrador Retriever - that report showed up in ONE local newspaper. The impression that there is a serious issue with Pit Bull attacks is just that - an impression. It's created by selective media coverage. People want to hear about Pit Bull attacks. They don't want to hear about other dogs attacking.

I was an animal control officer for the City of Edmonton before I came out here. I was in charge of the dog bite prevention program, and I oversaw every file relating to dog attacks. I've seen the selectivity of the media in action: two labs rip a woman's legs to shreds, it doesn't even get coverage; a Rottweiler draws blood, everybody covers it.

Politicians LOVE this stuff. They can build on the media hype and pass laws banning a specific breed and tell the public that they are taking action on the issue. It doesn't matter that the action taken won't prevent dog attacks, let alone fatal ones; thanks to all the people that buy into the media hype, the public THINKS the politicians are doing a good job. We put forth tons of research showing that breed-specific legislation is NOT effective AND is highly problematic, and the politicians went ahead with it anyway - because it made them LOOK like they were doing something useful.

You think the pit-and-bull terrier breeds are bad because they were developed to latch on and not let go? Guess what - ALL terriers are bred to do the same thing. Most were developed to kill nasty little rodents. That requires a certain amount of inherent aggression. And what about all the hound breeds? THOSE were developed to hunt down animals and KILL them. Let's not forget all the working/guarding breeds that were developed for protection. If you want to get rid of aggressive dogs, you'll have to ban ALL those breeds. Oh, but wait - you'll still have breeds like the Dalmatian, the Labrador Retriever, and the Pomeranian (just off the top of my head) that have been responsible for fatal attacks.

And just in case anybody is wondering, no I don't own any pittie-type breed. I have no interest in them - I just don't find them attractive. I really couldn't care less if there was never another pit bull puppy born - no loss to me. What bothers me is that by erroneously focussing on a breed, instead of taking action that will address dog attacks by ALL breeds.
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 57 (view)
 
DO POLICE HAVE TRAFFIC LAWS????????????
Posted: 6/12/2007 3:34:05 PM

Hmmmmm, was that a Bash???



As with so many things, Bashing is in the eye of the beholder. LOL Then there are those people who see my name and start LOOKING for the bash in my posts!

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 33 (view)
 
What have those pesky Tories done now?
Posted: 6/12/2007 3:25:29 PM

They've taken money from women's programs, from literacy programs and from student programs. ... Oh, sorry. Right. We needed to find all that money for Quebec somewhere... This conservative, backwater government needs to be stopped. This country is changing under their rule, and not for the better.

Oh gawd, I'm about to side with somebody who quotes Trudeau. Hell must be freezing over. If the Conservatives were cutting funding as part of a fiscally CONSERVATIVE budget it would be one thing, but they aren't - they're just throwing the money away somewhere else. The Liberals had more conservative budgets, for crying out loud! The Harper regime is going to leave behind one heck of a mess.

If it turns out that Harper replies with typical Mike Harris style glib then we know for sure what kind of leader he is (or rather is not)

I'd say Harper's given us plenty to take his measure, I sure don't need to see more - I don't want to see more!

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 55 (view)
 
DO POLICE HAVE TRAFFIC LAWS????????????
Posted: 6/12/2007 2:45:13 PM
^^^^And if I was going to be accused of bashing anyone, it would be cw (I think 'paranoid' is worse than 'foolish'). Though I don't expect him to take that personally, any more than I took personally his implication that I'm brainwashed, naive, and possibly dumb. LOL (which I only noticed now that I went back and re-read the thread). Just because I don't agree with somebody on one point doesn't mean that there is anything personal about it.

thought she was right about everything.

um, I'm confused: who DOESN'T think they're right when they post something? why would you post it if you don't think it's right?!

You did bash her a little bit on that one, you gotta admit! She didn't deserve that.

I don't see it as anything she 'deserved' or not since I wasn't attacking her - but I WILL admit that I could perhaps have phrased it better. Maybe, 'that's a foolish attitude, because here's how it's been known to backfire'. That would have depersonalized it appropriately - I wasn't referring to her, I was referring to her belief that she was immune to tickets.

But I'll go back to agreeing with cw: if you're going to wade into a controversial topic, you shouldn't be thin-skinned about it. That's just not healthy.

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
What have those pesky Tories done now?
Posted: 6/11/2007 8:28:18 PM

So now apparently that good old boy Rodney MacDonald is calling on all mp's to also vote against the budget? Huh?

Sure - how can he help but notice how much support Casey has? Ain't politics grand?

On a side note - the Liberal Government was far more corrupt then the Conservatives

Hmmm.... not sure on that one. I'm a conservative. I've always voted PC, Reform, Conservative (though, to my vast relief, I didn't vote in the last election). I HATED the Liberal government. In light of the way the Conservatives have been throwing money around, giving away Quebec, violating agreements, and demonstrating an astonishing level of hypocrisy, I'm starting to see the Liberals as the lesser of two evils - and I can't begin to tell you how much that kills me!

politicians - blech!

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 51 (view)
 
DO POLICE HAVE TRAFFIC LAWS????????????
Posted: 6/11/2007 8:07:09 PM
cw: That makes a lot more sense to me than the way you came across before (given that the topic was the inappropriate use of lights and sirens!), and I agree with what you say (mostly ).

sv - Why would you tell Ginny that her statement is "blatantly wrong"? She was describing something that happened to her.

[rolls eyes]No, she WASN'T. She stated that I had "officially ,quoted and bashed everyone who has posted". That's not about HER, it's about "everyone who has posted".

Look at my statement again. I break my posts up into segments. The segment in which I told her she was blatantly wrong clearly referred to my allegedly bashing "everyone who has posted". That statement IS blatantly wrong because I HAVE NOT "bashed everyone who has posted". Given that I AGREE with SOME of them, why on earth would I have bashed them all?! LOL

I've done things that are foolish before. I've been called foolish. Big deal. Don't agree with what I say? Prove me wrong and I'll be grateful that you've taught me something.


You have proven to be the most overly qualified poster on every subject

yeah, whatever.

Gee, when I post, I tend to be confident in my knowledge of the subject. Has it ever occurred to you that maybe it's because that's the only time I do post? ;-) There are a lot of threads where I have opinions on the topic but don't say anything because I don't know enough about it, so I just read the threads and try to learn something - or ask questions - and I refrain from making statements if I'm NOT sure about them. But isn't it nice of you to apparently not notice the times that people have brought forth things I didn't know about and I've had to bow to superior knowledge!

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 46 (view)
 
DO POLICE HAVE TRAFFIC LAWS????????????
Posted: 6/10/2007 7:43:40 AM
cw: Actually, I listen to other peoples' opinions, and if they present compelling evidence they can even get me to change my mind on stuff. Not that I expect you to be able to see something as nuanced as that, given your paranoia.

sweetgin: perhaps you better take another look because your statement is blatantly wrong. Besides which, I don't bash people who present reasoned points backed up by evidence. Disagree with them, sure, but not bash.

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 16 (view)
 
why do people avoid people with disabilities??
Posted: 6/10/2007 7:35:26 AM

When you forget that you are handicapped, you can teach other people to forget it as well.

A great attitude to have, and very true.

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 43 (view)
 
DO POLICE HAVE TRAFFIC LAWS????????????
Posted: 6/9/2007 1:12:30 PM

The fact that you take it so lightly shows how easily most of society is brainwashed into thinking exactly what they want you to.

My opinion comes from KNOWING exactly what sort of stuff goes on. Yours seems to come from some sort of conspiracy complex, or maybe just plain paranoia.

You honestly think that just because we are a small city that they don't look out for one another and avenge each other? That's seriously naive.

Do they look after one another? Hell, ya! That's part of the job - you watch your partner's back. But avenge each other?!

Okay, let me explain this to you: You see a cop speeding along the 102 without lights or sirens. You make a complaint. Say that he doesn't have a reason for going as fast as he was. He gets called into the sergeant's office, asked to explain himself, and told not to do that again. In all likelihood, he doesn't know who made the complaint and quite honestly he doesn't care. It's not worth his energy to care. He sure as heck isn't going to be out to 'get' that person. It's way too trivial. And if he's a really bad driver and gets lots of complaints about his driving, resulting in whatever minor disciplinary action, there are too many complainants for him to bother tracking down any one of them. Gimme a break. If you think that they are going to get worked up about something so minor, you have NO IDEA what cops put up with every day.

Even the good cops are forced into becoming part of the group. They look out for each other in ANY situation. I'm sure there are plenty of good cops. I've met some but I wouldn't be dumb enough to think that they aren't going to cover for one another if something bad happened, though.

I know what policing was like fifty years ago when my father started out. I know what policing was like twenty years ago when he retired. And I know what it's like now. Policing nowadays is a lot more 'professional', a lot less of the 'old boys' club' - your partner is far more likely to take a strip out of you than cover for you if you do something that will endanger your jobs.

I know the cops have some some private rules of their own. I dated a city police officer for a little while a few years back, He told me he had given my name to all " the guys" so if I was pulled over and they didn't recognize my name.....to just remind them. Although I didn't have the opportunity to use my new found status I felt a little safer crusing through town.

Then you were foolish. My mother was pulled over for speeding several times and let go because everybody respected my father and wouldn't dream of ticketing his wife - which drove him through the roof, but cops would rather deal with him being mad for not ticketing her than with the grief they would get from everyone else if they did give her a ticket. That having been said, I know a lot of cops that would be far more likely to ticket you if you tried to use your 'connections' to get out of a ticket. The line they would use is something to the effect of, "That's nice. So you really ought to know better then, huh?"

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 37 (view)
 
DO POLICE HAVE TRAFFIC LAWS????????????
Posted: 6/9/2007 8:24:48 AM
^^^^
[edit: directed at cw's post]

Where do you think you're living? You watch too much tv, too many movies. Not to say there is no corruption here, but puh-lease. You think the good ole' halifax constabulary is in the habit of offing those who complain about them?

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 34 (view)
 
DO POLICE HAVE TRAFFIC LAWS????????????
Posted: 6/9/2007 8:01:19 AM

So if you havent noticed it it just isnt so.Give me a break.

It's not just a matter of what I've noticed. I'm willing to bet that I've seen a lot more of what cops do than you have. I've seen cops turn their lights on to go through traffic then turn them back off because they want to approach quietly. I've seen cops turn on lights and sirens and drive like hell, then suddenly stop because the call was cancelled, or they were told they weren't needed. As has been pointed out, unless you are INSIDE that car, you have no idea why they are doing what they do.

I have heard several times that police have hit people while on duty.

Yep. They're human - they make mistakes, too. As I said, they can hit people whether they have their lights and sirens on or off.

I just find people that break the laws (minor or major) are the ones that shit all over the cops. If you think you can do a better job...join the force. Don't be a ****er... be a doer!!!

Well said!

LEAFS As for you saying that only criminals **** about the laws and police well ill have you know im no criminal.I just have an opinion just like you do,and dont feel the need to agree with the rest of society just cause it seems like the rite thing to do.

Why so defensive about Leafs' comment? He said 'people that break the laws'. As you have freely admitted in other threads, that includes you. And you're shitting all over the cops. So really, nothing you said refutes his observation.

But I find those those who make blanket statements and have total disregard usually never do anything.

Of course they never do anything - much easier to sit back and b!tch than confront the situation and find out that you are wrong, and there is in fact justification for what's going on. Some people just prefer to believe the worst.

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 8 (view)
 
why do people avoid people with disabilities??
Posted: 6/9/2007 7:42:37 AM

sv's day isn't made until she churns someone into the ground.

Hey! I didn't churn anyone into the ground! He doesn't sound 'disabled' to me; I was just pointing out that a lot of people are frustrated by others on this site. sheesh!

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Street Fighting?
Posted: 6/8/2007 10:07:39 PM

It's too easy to say it's OK, because they're fighting each other, but when that 'thrill' is gone for them they will come looking for some one else to beat to a pulp. Some day some one has to stand up to these punks, be it citizens against violence, the police, or some law makers, it has to stop.

Well, if you want to take that stand, you better stop boxing matches, martial arts, hockey games....

I wonder how many people here have been involved in street fights, I`m willing the majority that post here never have , so if you have never been then there , how could ever give an opinion on something you never faced? I been there, I have bled .

Well, good for you. You must be so proud. Just so you know, people can give an opinion on things they have never faced - people can even give educated opinions on things they've never been involved in. Just because they are smart enough to stay out of street fights doesn't mean they are incapable of forming an educated opinion on them.

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
DO POLICE HAVE TRAFFIC LAWS????????????
Posted: 6/8/2007 9:58:18 PM
Okay, who here is surprised by the thought that AdamEdward's had a bad experience with cops? Take a bad attitude with a cop, and you'll get the same attitude back. Treat them with respect as fellow human beings, and you'll get the same treatment back.

Do you respect it when a cop pulls out in traffic throws his light on just to get through the jam up and then carry on at normal speed?

Well, the batmeister has some sense, at least. There are many reasons to want to come up to a scene silently, and just because they aren't racing at breakneck speed to get there doesn't mean that they have time to wait in traffic. I've never known a cop to put on his lights to get through traffic when there wasn't someplace he needed to be.

I think with sirens flashing they should be able to do what they feel is necesary but until then, their cars can run over someone just as easy as mine or yours.

Their cars can run over someone with lights and sirens going, too, so what's your point? And I don't know of too many civilians who have had the same level of driver training that cops have.

I don't think they should be given any sort of leeway to commit crimes.

We're not talking crimes, we're talking about traffic violations. And I'm quite happy to have them speed, run lights, what-have-you, when on their way to emergency situations. Especially when I'm the one that called them!

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 21 (view)
 
What have those pesky Tories done now?
Posted: 6/8/2007 9:37:52 PM
Well, it seems that AdamEdward's mouth has finally got his profile deleted. If he's an example of his people, I think I'll stick with Harper, thanks (and that's saying a lot).

As a conservative, I have been sickened by what the Tories have done. (Please can we go back to a Liberal government? they were far more conservative than these bunch of idiots!) How many times are they going to do exactly the opposite of what they say?

Yes, it was an error in judgement - again, one of many. And no, it's not morally fair to expect an elected official to go against the wishes of his/her constituents. I think Casey got a lot of political points out of the whole business for sticking up for his constituents; the Tories just lost a little more ground...

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
why do people avoid people with disabilities??
Posted: 6/8/2007 9:27:22 PM
>Sure is rich with irony that 43 people have viewed this particular posting but no-one has responded.


Well, I looked at your profile; if you hadn't started this thread, there certainly isn't anything that would make me think 'disabled'. (maybe that's just because I'm not fazed by handicaps?) But, so you have a bad back and knees, so what? On the other hand, when you immediately ask if you've scared the reader off, *you* really make it sound like a big deal. And, by your profile, you're expecting women to write you? You're not going to have much success on here that way.

You'll find a lot of people on here are shallow in one way or another. Heck, a sorta wise man once pointed out that EVERYBODY is shallow to a certain degree. I'm betting a lot of women on here will ignore you for all sorts of reasons that have nothing to do with your 'disability'. Go read some of the threads about it - it's a common complaint.

And on that cheery note, happy fishing! LOL

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Call Centers
Posted: 6/8/2007 9:18:17 PM
I don't know about in-bound, but I tried out-bound once. Not telemarketing - telephone research. Never, ever, ever again. I think I made it through 2 shifts and I just couldn't bring myself to go back.

The sad thing was, of the 7 of us that started at the same time, 5 of us had at least 2 university degrees. Tells you how much an education is worth nowadays.
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 121 (view)
 
Should marijuanna be legal if your over 19
Posted: 5/29/2007 11:52:02 AM

And you know I'm an experienced user...How??? I don't believe we have ever met so don't go making assumptions about people you haven't met.

I'm sorry, but you hardly have grounds to get indignant over that. You post that you smoke up, your profile states that you are a 'social cannabis smoker': the logical conclusion is that you are an experienced user.

http://www.cannabisculture.com/news/driving

I think it's pretty clear that there is scientific evidence that can be used to support both sides. One of the things I noticed in the studies cited by your link, the evidence to show that cannabis was not a factor was the result of blood tests - which are ONLY done if there is a reason to suspect impairment. Alcohol impairment is much more obvious than that from marijuana - which can last long after the smell is gone. Therefore, the statistics are biased from the start. Much more convincing are comparisons of victims of fatal accidents, as they are ALL tested. Your link includes one of them, and that one states that 6.7% of fatal accidents involved marijuana.

Much lower than alcohol? You bet. But the rate of marijuana use is also much lower than alcohol, and that needs to be taken into account when assessing how 'dangerous' a substance is. As mentioned earlier, 6% of the population over 12 years old smokes pot. Not all of them drive. Therefore, pot users are statistically over-represented in fatal accidents.

sv
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Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Bikes cruiser or rice rocket which has more sex appeal
Posted: 5/29/2007 11:06:36 AM

,i had a feeling my post would get you going a little thats why i did it.

You deliberately made it look like you were incapable of understanding what was written just to 'get me going'? [shrugs] To each their own. It takes much more than that to 'get me going'. The statement is pretty straightforward in its context. It has nothing to do with my attitude towards any bikes; it was referring to the attitudes of some Harley riders. Again, go back and l00k at the context - the citation that prefaced my comment - it's pretty obvious what was meant.

I have the feeling, though, that you will persist in your misunderstanding. [shrugs again] So be it.

sv
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Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Bikes cruiser or rice rocket which has more sex appeal
Posted: 5/28/2007 9:49:44 PM

You just proved that harley owners arnt the only ones with attitudes against other bikes.

Um... you might want to try re-reading my post. I said nothing about 'other bikes'. I don't have any sort of attitude towards any sort of bikes. (Unlike those who "even have a shirt that says "get a real bike you fuc**n ****"that [they] wear to most bike shows".) I've owned a variety of makes and styles, and don't really care what somebody rides. You might want to work on your reading comprehension if you think I'm the one with an attitude towards 'other bikes'.

sv
 semper_vera
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 112 (view)
 
Should marijuanna be legal if your over 19
Posted: 5/28/2007 9:33:03 PM


If you're worried about a criminal record, don't break the law. 'Nuff said

I think this is a good example of a simple minded comment.Did you ever jay-walk or speed up the highway on a hot sunny day.

Yep. Lots of speeding. LOL And you know what? Of all the times I've been ticketed, I NEVER ONCE b!tched about it. Not even when I was on the verge of losing my licence (I did a lot of speeding as a teenager). Why? Because I knew that was the risk I took by speeding. And when I WAS on the verge of losing my licence, guess what - I STOPPED SPEEDING. Why? Because of the consequences - I couldn't afford to lose my licence.

It's all a matter of choice. You know activity 'x' has consequence 'y'; if you engage in activity 'x', that's your CHOICE. You know the law. Nobody is forcing you to break it - that's a decision that is entirely up to you.

Simple minded? Nope, just simple common sense. If you don't want a speeding ticket, don't speed. If you don't want a criminal record, don't engage in activity defined as criminal. IT'S JUST THAT SIMPLE!

sv
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Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Bikes cruiser or rice rocket which has more sex appeal
Posted: 5/27/2007 9:08:59 PM

Hate the bad attittude towards non-Harley riders that many owners have and won't contribute to the delusion. Overpriced ego machines.

'Delusion' - that's a good word. As in, under the delusion that having a Harley makes you a 'biker'.

I rode my Yamaha to Sturgis - and passed a lot of shiny Harleys being trailered down. Say what you want about 'jap scrap', I RIDE MINE! (35,000kms + that summer alone).

sv
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Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 108 (view)
 
Should marijuanna be legal if your over 19
Posted: 5/27/2007 3:19:48 PM
^^^^that link doesn't give me anything.

And your point is??? You haven't said what is wrong with a fine.

The criminal record is not automatic. People get absolute and conditional discharges all the time. And there's always pardons.

I think a fine is pretty minor for breaking the law.

If you're worried about a criminal record, don't break the law. 'Nuff said.

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Should marijuanna be legal if your over 19
Posted: 5/25/2007 12:37:42 PM

When creating law and enforcement ,,isn't their objective to make the punishment fit the crime....

The primary objective is to create and maintain order. One might argue that the best way to do that is for the punishment to fit the crime. Others argue that the best way is for the punishment to fit the offender. Judges are given discretion so that they can balance both, within limits set out by legislation.

Now as your sitting in those shoes think of your own history with pot heads...Ask yourself if the current laws are fair..Do they fit the crime?

A fine for a casual user? I think that's fair. What's wrong with a fine?

Don't they currently make criminals out of those who otherwise would never have a criminal record..?..

That's a meaningless argument - any law does that. You could say the same for the man whose only flaw is that he assaulted his wife, or the upstanding citizen that happens to like sex with children, or the person who doesn't lock up their firearm, or decides to celebrate their team's big win by streaking down mainstreet, or is drunk in a public place...

Aren't some people just lazy by nature..does it surprise you, that they like pot?

Are you equating pot smoking with laziness? Just curious.

I do not feel that the choice to smoke should be one that can potentially effect my quality of life..or where I am able to travel..

But it DOES. If you believe the law is inherently wrong, then fight it; however, if you choose to break the law, knowing full well what the potential consequences are, you have no one but yourself to blame if that choice comes back to haunt you.

not a criminal..and I find it disrespectful to be thought as one..

Hmmm, yes. Well, if you disrespect the laws, they'll disrespect you back.

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Should marijuanna be legal if your over 19
Posted: 5/24/2007 8:28:58 AM

Then there are medical reasons to smoke pot

Just to repeat, 'cause I get really tired of this one - that's a really weak excuse when Cannnabidiol and Cannabinol are available.

the problems that arise from pot smoking certainly outweigh people who drink

Is that really what you want to argue? That pot causes more problems than alcohol? Or are you just stoned and not thinking straight?

It seems to me that 'there are worse things out there' is a pretty weak argument to legalize something. Shouldn't that decision be based solely on that thing alone? Pot won't replace alcohol, so what difference does it make if it's not as harmful as alcohol? By making that argument, you are essentially saying, 'yes, this is harmful but that's okay because it's less harmful than something else'. Arguing based on the harm it will do isn't going to convince a lot of people. If you want to change people's minds, you need to argue for the benefits of something, not its drawbacks.

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How do you feel about?
Posted: 5/23/2007 8:02:17 PM
Don't go out with somebody if you're going to be embarrassed when introducing him. If you find something annoying about him *now*, it's not going to get any better - annoying things just get more annoying the longer you're with somebody. If he's such a lovely person, he deserves to be with somebody that's not embarrassed being with him.

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women want a robot
Posted: 5/23/2007 7:47:19 PM

the idea that someone can think they know me based simply on my profile and pic is rediculous.

You're right. But I don't have to really KNOW a guy to know that he doesn't interest me. There are a lot of things in a profile that let me know if he is NOT going to be the one. That's part of the point of the profiles.

If he says he never wants kids, I'm not interested - I want that to at least be a possibility.
If he lists his religion as Muslim or Hindu or New Age - re: above - religious differences may not seem like a big deal to some until it comes down to what faith the child would be raised in; sooner or later it's going to create conflict, so I'm not interested.
If he does drugs, I'm not interested. Give me a break, OP - I don't care if he was a dope head as a teenager - I don't expect anyone to be pure, God knows I'm not - but I don't want that in my life NOW.
If he not only can't spell, but apparently doesn't know how to use spell-check - either he's too lazy to care and I'm not interested, or chances are that we won't mesh intellectually - and I'm not interested.
If I'm looking for a relationship that will, sooner or later, get physical, and I find him physically unattractive, why would I get involved with him? I finally managed to quit smoking. I can't stand the smell of it, I can't stand how dirty it makes things - why would I want to date a smoker? I have 3 dogs. Why would I get involved with a cat person? I'm 36, why would I want to date an 18 year old? If I'm looking for a serious relationship, I want somebody who is looking for the same thing - why would I be interested in somebody who is looking for one-night stands?

uptight is horrible(im not just talking about sex)remember folks we are here for a good time not a long one....

It's not being uptight. My idea of a good time is being with somebody that I mesh with, not wasting my time with somebody who doesn't interest me.

And with all of my 'restrictions', somehow I found a good man. Oh, wait, maybe it was BECAUSE of all my restrictions that I found a man that *I* think is good.

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Msg: 57 (view)
 
Rules for Sex (for a man)
Posted: 5/23/2007 7:19:55 PM
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See when I read this I did not laugh therefore to me it wasn't a joke as jokes are generally funny.

Well, there are jokes that I don't find funny. Just because I don't laugh doesn't mean they aren't jokes.

Also if it was a joke there wouldn't be so much truth in it, right.

get familiar with this phrase: "It's funny 'cause it's true." The funniest jokes are those that DO have truth to them, that DO relate to the real world.

Cum on we all no it wasn't strictly a joke. Also I am going to let you ladies in on a little secret. Sure this was supposed to be a joke but well I am not buying it but I have also ran into this in many different thread

Let me repeat: it's funny 'cause it's true - that doesn't make it any less a joke. And yeah, there isn't a woman out there that can't relate to at least SOME of those points - so sure you'll hear them repeated in other threads. And, quite frankly, I don't believe that any man can claim he's NEVER done any of the no-nos on the list. Some men are just secure enough to still be able to laugh at them.

That's not a big deal. Men aren't perfect, women aren't perfect, and the important thing is that you pay attention to your partner's cues and figure out the best way to give them pleasure. FYI - a lot of men don't really do that, either (and I'm sure the same could be said for women).

It's humour. It's funny 'cause it's true. Since it was a MAN who pointed this thread out to me, I'm quite sure that men can find the humour in these 'rules', too.

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Msg: 24 (view)
 
Breast Implants - Confidence booster or Unnatural?
Posted: 5/23/2007 7:05:32 PM

I know of some women that have had a mastectomy and were in a position to afford plastic surgery afterwards. I would think scarring would be a major concern.

Implants after a mastectomy is a COMPLETELY different thing. That's not changing something about yourself, it's replacing what was lost - just like getting a glass eye, or having plastic surgery if you lose part of your nose or ear or something.

Doesn't matter how big or small your breasts are, they are a part of you and a part of your sexuality. A complete mastectomy that removes one or both entirely has a major psychological effect on some women - they feel like they have LOST a part of themselves AND a part of their sexuality.

I've known a number of women that had implants after a mastectomy and their implants are the same size as their breasts used to be. They aren't looking to change themselves to gain confidence or self-esteem, they are looking to regain themselves.

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Msg: 43 (view)
 
When is it considered appropriate to ask....
Posted: 5/23/2007 6:43:11 PM

particularly aimed at women with no photos posted

well, that would be me.

I generally ask to see one at about the 3rd email.

That sounds totally reasonable.

I don't want to put myself on display. As I found somebody here, it's kinda irrelevant at this point, but my reasoning was that I wanted somebody to be interested in ME, whose attention was caught by what I wrote, not what I looked like. I always sent a photo when asked. Say what you want about 'it isn't the looks that matter', what it comes down to is that if you're looking for a relationship that will get physical at some future point, there actually has to be some physical attraction.

If somebody, especially without a photo on his profile, sent me an initial e-mail that wasn't much more than, "hi, do you have a photo?", I wouldn't be interested in sending one. Outside of that, I can't imagine why, once you start 'talking', you wouldn't share one.

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how much time should be spent on a relationship
Posted: 5/23/2007 6:15:20 PM
gee, mr.b, you're such a romantic.

I spoke with a member who's job takes them out of the area 50% of the month so ok your home maybe 15 days out of the month, out of those 15 days lets say you have 11 work days of which your working atleast 8-10 hour days plus your sleep for let say 8 hours so theres 16 - 18 hours taken up per day with personal time and time with friends and family i figure this member had maybe, MAYBE 4 - 6 hours in a month to put towards a relationship.

I figure if that 'member' found the right person, she would find more than 4-6 hours a month to spend with him.

First, if she's home half the time, she's home half the weekends - plenty of time there. And there's evenings, or lunch dates... And when she's gone, there's e-mail and phone calls - this day in age you don't have to be face to face to be getting to know each other.

It's amazing how much time you can find if there is somebody that truly interests you.

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Should marijuanna be legal if your over 19
Posted: 5/23/2007 12:39:13 PM

i was wondering where this scientific evidence would be available.But would question the results only because alot of users keep it to thereselves.I based my fact on the reasoning that i sell hydroponic gear to seniors,young adults,middle age people,all races,Like the thred states it was decriminalized for a short period of time.

well - since you asked - you could check the academic journal databases, or you could google it and look for official studies.

Approximately 6% of people over the age of 12 are users. Even allowing for under-reporting, it's still a minority. I have no doubt, however, that they can be found in all demographics.

I think the 'medical use' excuse is just that - an excuse. Yes, it does wonders, but you don't need to smoke pot to get the benefit of THC (the active medical ingredient - which the OP probably knows but I mention in case others don't).

I'll agree that it might not be as harmful as tobacco or alcohol, but that doesn't mean that it's completely SAFE. There ARE negative effects from its use, especially long-term, regular use. However, I'll still agree that this is not a reason for it to remain illegal. Never mind other substances such as nicotine, alcohol, caffiene, etc., there are all sorts of really harmful things in our food that nobody blinks an eye at.

sv

ps. I don't think how many 'favorites' lists you are on revolves around your attitude towards drugs. Nor do I think that how many favorites lists you're on is any indication of your dating success. Otherwise, why are the people on 100+ lists still single?
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Msg: 38 (view)
 
should your pretend
Posted: 5/23/2007 10:54:01 AM
What you stated was: "I don't show enough interest in the guys life. She thinks that I should ask him more questions and appear more attentive to the things that interest him."

Not showing interest in his life? THAT'S a problem. That indicates that you're not really interested in HIM, or that you're just too self-absorbed to care about his life or his interests.

However, to answer the question you posed: No, you shouldn't pretend - that's just another form of dishonesty, and dishonesty is fatal to a relationship.

But it would help if you were open to new things. I've never been a big fan of fine art, my eyes might glaze over if somebody started comparing the art of Monet and Manet, but if my partner loved art and wanted to go check out an exhibit? No problem. I'll go check it out. You never know, I might see something that interests me. And I might even learn something. AND I'd be spending time with him. But more importantly, I'd be sharing in something that's important to HIM. Isn't that what this whole insanity is supposed to be about - finding somebody to SHARE your life with??

He loves to fish and you're just not interested? Well, how about trying it out? You never know, you just might find that a relaxing day in his company might be more enjoyable than you figured. After which you decide you would rather spend the day doing something else? No problem - you don't really want to be with a clone of yourself and individual interests are healthy. But the next time he goes fishing, wouldn't you be interested in where he went, if he caught anything, if he enjoyed himself, etc? (or maybe if he's inviting you over for dinner - fish, of course).

If you're interested in him, you should be interested in his day, even if he's doing things that don't interest you.

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Should marijuanna be legal if your over 19
Posted: 5/23/2007 9:32:37 AM

i think youd flip if you really new how much of the community grow it let alone smoke it.The days of potheads being a minority are long gone.That is not my opinion that is fact based on my line of work.And once again im not trying to start a debate im simply defending the pot smokin community.

Think about that: "fact based on my line of work."

Well, yeah, if you're in the hydroponics business, of COURSE the majority are going to be pot smokers. That is just within your community, it doesn't generalize to the population at large.

There's a reason scientific evidence is considered more reliable than anecdotal evidence. Please direct me to the study which you think has established that the majority of the population smokes pot.

"im simply defending the pot smokin community" Why would you be defensive about pot smokers being in the minority? Being in the minority is not always a bad think. People with IQs over 130 are in the minority - they don't get defensive about it. People making over $150k/year are in the minority - they don't get defensive about it. So why try to pretend you are the majority?

I'm pretty ambivalent about legalization/decriminalization. I wouldn't support it (I have no motivation to do so). I don't particularly care if you want to smoke up, just don't do it around me, or expect me to approve. And you know, people I've associated with who did smoke pot were pretty good about respecting that.

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Msg: 43 (view)
 
Rules for Sex (for a man)
Posted: 5/23/2007 9:10:30 AM
OMG, some men really are sensitive. Geez, how could you NOT get that this is supposed to be HUMOUR?! Besides which, it IS funny.

That having been said, there are exceptions to every rule, and I feel obliged to point some of them out:

3. NOT SHAVING. You often forget you have a porcupine strapped to your chin which you rake repeatedly across your partner's face and thighs.
of course, after a certain point, the stubble stops feeling like a porcupine and is actually soft, sexy, and rather erotic during oral sex

5. BITING HER NIPPLES. ... (this may vary)
that's right. this varies. it varies between women and it varies according to the day. actually, scrap this rule all together. Replace it with: If she screams, yells, swears, and/or hits you, you've clamped down too hard.

10. ATTACKING THE CLITORIS. Direct pressure is very unpleasant, so gently rotate your fingers along side of the clitoris.
what's this 'rotate' crap? Go for the clit. If she doesn't like it, she'll let you know (see above)

11. STOPPING FOR A BREAK. ...If you can tell she's not there, keep going at all costs, numb jaw or not.
if your jaw is numb and she's still not there, you might want to reconsider your technique!

18. GOING TOO FAST.
19. GOING TOO HARD.
forget these rules. Remember that there is a time and a place for everything. Sometimes hard and fast is good. REALLY good!

25. NOT WARNING HER BEFORE YOU CLIMAX.
I don't announce my orgasms, I don't see why men should have to

26. moving AROUND DURING FELLATIO. You just lie there. And don't grab her head
gee, that sounds exciting - NOT. Sex is interactive. If you're just going to lie there, unmoving, the whole time, it'll be about as much fun as performing fellatio on a dildo (which, btw, I don't think would be fun at all)

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Msg: 20 (view)
 
Should marijuanna be legal if your over 19
Posted: 5/21/2007 1:08:29 PM
^^^^ Well, if you want to get technical about it, if they are indeed affected by such medication then they fit the definition of 'impaired' (the law states "impaired by alcohol or a drug") and thus ARE the targets of groups like PAID - which use the term 'impaired' rather than 'drunk' in acknowledgement that the problem goes beyond alcohol consumption.

Hey, you asked.

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Should marijuanna be legal if your over 19
Posted: 5/21/2007 11:12:03 AM

I also think its an insult for organization's like MADD who consider being "stoned" to be in the same category as "drunk/intoxicated". Not even close and just old, outdated ways of thinking.

Oh puh-lease. Say what you want about marijuana, you can't deny that it affects your mental state. That's WHY you're smoking it, for crying out loud.

To get behind the wheel in such a state is irresponsible, plain and simple.

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Msg: 9 (view)
 
Breast Implants - Confidence booster or Unnatural?
Posted: 5/17/2007 9:43:43 PM
I think you already have high self-esteem

um, yeah... Would it be better if I said that when I leave the house looking like crap, it doesn't lower my self-esteem? lol I would say that looking good helps my self-confidence in some situations, but I'm not sure that confidence would be there (in a genuine sense, not just faking it) if I didn't have the self-esteem to begin with. ;-)

Does confidence come from feeling good about the way you look before self-esteem makes you feel good about the way you look? Or do you need that self esteem before you can feel good about the way you look and have that help you carry yourself with genuine confidence? I'm not sure, myself... I learned to fake confidence until I overcame my lack of confidence, and self-esteem and being comfortable with my body sorta followed that at the same time and I can't really separate them.

And I do know women who know they're attractive but have no real self-esteem (in terms of feelings of self-worth). Are they the rare exception?

But you're right: once you gain confidence in any area, over time it will build your self-esteem, and if feeling good about the way you look makes you feel confident, then...

Of course, the important question would have to be: if feeling good about the way you look relies on something artificial, on having to change yourself, can that help your self-esteem when it's not really 'you'?

And as my brain goes 'round and 'round on this, it occurs to me that I shouldn't post when I'm really tired. LOL

It would be interesting if a person could poll those who had low self-esteem before breast augmentation and find out what difference it made.

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Msg: 103 (view)
 
Spousal Support
Posted: 5/17/2007 7:22:00 PM

most stop work because they don't have to work

I call bullsh!t, though am willing to concede the point if you actually have a statistical reference to back it up.

Not only do women want their own career, nowadays the second income is needed for most families to have a decent standard of living, anyway.

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Msg: 12 (view)
 
We Need To Liven Things Up!
Posted: 5/17/2007 7:12:19 PM

But I bet you're good at the cleaning.

Not according to my ex. One of many lessons learned there: never marry somebody with obsessive-compulsive disorder - especially if his mother is also a neat-freak!

your mother would have trained you to be an excellent cook

She tried. Believe me, she tried.

I'm not exactly a domestic goddess (those who know me are LTAO at the image).

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Breast Implants - Confidence booster or Unnatural?
Posted: 5/17/2007 6:59:44 PM
I'd always thought of myself as 'small' - though I was amazed to find that I was actually dead on the North American average (or what it was without the incredible amount of obesity nowadays). I vaguely remember wishing they were bigger when I was a teenager, but never really considered implants.

In my opinion, self-esteem comes from within and you can't gain it with superficial changes. You might feel better about the way you look - after all, I feel better about the way I look when I do my hair, put on make-up, dress well, etc., but that doesn't affect my self-esteem any. I think there are very few cases where it would actually improve your sense of self-worth.

Never had any man complain. (guess they all had a least a little bit of sense!) And God help the man that suggests I insert foreign objects into my body so that I will be more attractive to him!

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We Need To Liven Things Up!
Posted: 5/17/2007 3:34:47 PM
^^^^The rate of change doesn't seem like to do anything but continue accelerating. At least until global warming leads to the destruction of our society as we know it. (yeah, let's start THAT debate here, too! lol)

Dimples, I couldn't agree with you more. There ought to be some minimum standard of knowledge in order to be able to vote. Leave the voting to people who actually bother to educate themselves about the issues instead of voting based on misleading soundbites - or worse.

Can we end it and go back to the good old days

Not if going back to 'the good old days' means that I'll be expected to cook and clean all day. Trust me, nobody wants to be dependent on MY cooking!

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Msg: 5 (view)
 
just off the wall question
Posted: 5/17/2007 3:17:43 PM
I'll second Da_Leafs: the most important thing is to have a professional helping you deal with your problems - which, in addition to your 'identities' is the inability to get past your ex (why would you keep phoning him if he just hangs up on you?).

Regarding whether or not I would date somebody with a mental disability/illness/disorder/whatever: it would depend on the disorder, the severity, and whether or not the person accepted professional treatment. It really is too general a question to give an absolute answer to.

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Msg: 12 (view)
 
First letter of your name
Posted: 5/17/2007 3:06:30 PM

You are individualistic, and you need freedom, space, and excitement.
You wait until you know someone well before committing yourself.
so far, so good

Often there is an age difference between you and your lover.
that's an understatement

The gay scene turns you on, even though you yourself may not be a participant
WTF???
NOT!!!

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Msg: 27 (view)
 
Girlfriend's relationship with my ex-spouse
Posted: 5/17/2007 10:52:46 AM

if there are kids involved, try the councelling, seriously she needs to suck it up for the sake of the children. If she can't then you cannot saccrifice the relationship with your children for her.

Certainly, whatever the issues are between current and ex, NOTHING should be allowed to interfere with the relationship with your kids. THEY come before everything else.

My ex's and my wife play well together, doesnt mean they really like each other, but at family reunions they will go shopping together and such...
The first year the 3 of them decided to go out for ice cream though, I almost had a heart attack. The most nerve wracking couple of hours I have ever lived through.



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Msg: 17 (view)
 
Why do you Call someone Fat???
Posted: 5/17/2007 9:25:17 AM


I am a large girl and i know that, frankly i don't care
Based off your original post I don't understand the relevancy of the question.

Really? You don't? You don't understand the difference between acknowledging you are heavy and being called fat? You can't understand why a person being deliberately hurtful might affect somebody? Are you that totally lacking in awareness? "cop2B"?! With that attitude, I hope not - cops have a bad enough reputation without insensitive pr!cks adding to it.

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