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 Author Thread: Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 316 (view)
 
Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 2/18/2008 9:13:12 AM
Nice theory Sublime1833, but in practise nothing comes of it.

Watching the nightly news, it appears to me what women in Texas really want are convicted sex offenders... seems like there's always a story of another woman that got assaulted or murdered by her sex offender boyfriend! LMAO!

I also find it totally amazing that OJ Simpson has a girlfriend who he's been dating since his original trial in LA for killing his ex-wife and her boyfriend... how in the world does a man who's been charged with killing his ex-wife (even though he manged to get out of the charges) have a girlfriend??? And she's HOT no less!

Well anyhows I gave up today and wiped my pics and other info from my profile. I'm not blaming the website for things, it's nicely designed and the theory is sound... but reality is there's nobody here for me and never will be unless I can get convicted of a felony I guess. It's an insane world I swear.

Regards and best wishes peeps. The site admins can delete my profile whenever they like, as I can't find a "Delete My Profile" button anywere. Oh well....

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 292 (view)
 
Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 2/9/2008 12:15:41 PM
Well, in all the time I've had a POF profile nobody from Texas has messaged me, and nobody I've messaged has ever replied. Ergo, I have to conclude you Texas gals must have a problem of some sort.

I rarely even bother logging into POF anymore. From my point of view, it's as near to pointless as can be. (sigh)

I don't find reading and posting to forums at all entertaining or fun. I find going out to see movies, boating, dining, bowling, just about ANY real life activity to be entertaining and fun! It just kinda suxs doing those things as a single male.

I dunno... I suspect I'm just gonna wipe my profile and abandon POF after today. There's just no point in it. The theory is sound, but the reality of how people use the system absolutely suxs.

ps. I've had the "bad" dates before too, back from the days when the Ya-Hell Personals system was free. Met a few gals there back then, and they were aweful!

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 99 (view)
 
Why would men think that they would raise or rear the kids of a single Mother?
Posted: 2/9/2008 11:46:31 AM
To be politically incorrect, herein lies the problem ladies.... the *single* men that have had children and are open to dating single mom's, very likely have the same issues that the father of YOUR children had (controlling, abusive, womanizing, drugs or drinking, etc.)!

The men that have children that don't have those issues, are most likely still with the mother of their children (ie. they're married).

Then there's alot of single men that are just looking for MILF's (yes you know this acronym)... they're not likely interested in anything more than gettin in your pants and then finding another MILF to F. Great huh?

And that leaves single guys like myself... single never married no children, and totally NOT interested in an insta-family. YOU had 9 months to prepare for and get used to the idea of having kids. Perhaps I'd like the same opportunity?

A single guy like me is likely looking for a woman to compliment my life, not complicate it. Single mom's are, by your very nature, extremely complicated. You made a choice, and I sincerely hope you love your kids... but I don't have to! They aren't mine!

It's a sad state of affairs that you have to get a license from the state in order to drive a vehicle, but you can have kids at your whim. (I gotta give credit to Judge Judy for that 1!) LMAO!

Finally, 1 woman on here made the comment to me (and about me) on another forum sometime last fall... that I wasn't relationship material since I'm in my 30's and have never been married. Talk about Ignorant! Maybe if there weren't so many single mom's I wouldn't have this problem of being stuck a single male in my 30's?

Hello, here's your sign!

- Michael :Fish:
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 98 (view)
 
Why would men think that they would raise or rear the kids of a single Mother?
Posted: 2/9/2008 9:52:58 AM
I have a thought! Why don't women simply QUIT having kids with Mr. Wrong!!! Ya'll are screwing over some Mr. Right in the future... LOL !

It'sa sad commentary about our society when you see so many women having kids with Mr. Wrongs. You ARE a package deal when you have kids, and not that many single men are going to appreciate the idea of an "insta-family". That'sa fact jack!

I notice that my comment last year asking whether single mother's would have dated a man with kids BEFORE they themselves had kids went pretty much ignored. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black! :frustrated:

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 289 (view)
 
Why do most women not reply or give it a try?
Posted: 2/9/2008 9:24:23 AM
Well in general I find that the women of Texas aren't very outgoing or friendly... generally speaking ANYWHERE you meet 'em. On POF they're even worse apparently! LOL!

I believe I've had my profile on POF for almost a year and a half now, and haven't met a soul... you'd think dinner and a movie, or just dinner somewhere, would be an easy sell. But oh no! Not here! Grrrr!

I'm just about ready to delete my profile on here... there's really no point to it anymore. (sigh)

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Really cool people in Livingston TX
Posted: 1/8/2008 10:45:08 AM
LOL! Our Houston experiences are diametrically opposite I guess. I've found people in the city limits of Houston to be more stuck-up than anything else... I guess your mileage varies by your gender or something. Oh well.... best wishes!

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Really cool people in Livingston TX
Posted: 12/29/2007 5:25:30 PM
The lake is really nice there... unfortunately it's the wrong time of year for waterskiing and such.

Still I hope to move up there some day in the near future... get away from Houston. Yuk!

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 30 (view)
 
Women and boats
Posted: 12/5/2007 5:53:28 PM
I've had my jetboat since I was in college... I love to kneeboard behind it (sideways, backwards, 360 spin, jump the wake, etc.). It's also a great skiboat as well as fun to just cruise around the lake in... and if you're brave enough, it can do 180 degree turns and slide backwards across the lake... hehehe!

Unforuntately though it has only ever attracted the attention of guys dangit.

While towing it to the lake one day, a car came by me in the next lane then slowed way down and got a little behind the boat trailer, rolled down their passenger window and started taking pictures of my Sidewinder of Wisconsin jetboat. I almost flipped out! Too weird!

But I digress.... where exactly are these women that like men with boats so much and do they waterski by chance?

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Please help me bang my head on the wall more!!
Posted: 12/5/2007 6:39:09 AM
As has been said repeatedly, the problems you refer to are basically pretty simple to fix and he probably just isn't aware of them.


he has nose hairs that I can't believe even his kids haven't mentioned to him


Question: How old are his kids and if they're in their late teens or older why don't you take his oldest aside and mention these things to him/her and see if they can get their dad to make a few changes? Also heck you can go shopping with him and buy him new clothes if you like... the hygenie stuff though is a bit of a sensitive topic and I think it's something better dealt with thru his kids if they're old enough.

A minor adjustment here or there and Poof you have your Prince! I fail to see the problem with that now.

Regards and best wishes.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Opinions please
Posted: 11/29/2007 8:24:04 AM
To paraphrase Ray Stevens, this guy should just go out every 3 or 4 years find a woman he hates and buy her a house! :LOL:

It'd be easier on his heart if nothing else.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 86 (view)
 
not cumming during BJ?
Posted: 11/28/2007 9:00:59 AM
Question.... does it really matter if he cums or not from the bj? Seriously, if you are enjoying giving him a bj I can pretty much guarantee he's not exactly bored with it.

Ask most any man what the worst bj he's ever received was like, and he'll most likely answer "Wonderful!"

However if you really really want him to cum while in your mouth you should make a point of letting him know this before you get started. IMHO, it's easier for a guy to relax and "let go" if he knows you want him to do that.

"There's a sucker born every minute, but swallowers are harder to find!"

One of the biggest turnoffs IMHO is when a woman giving a bj doesn't swallow, but wants to spit it out instead. There's all sorts of negative conotations to that! If taste is a problem ladies, then you need to adjust HIS diet. More pineapple and citrix fruits, less junk food... makes a difference I've read over and over again by women who swear by it.

Regards and Happy Holidays!

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 314 (view)
 
Surrounded by over weight women in Houston
Posted: 11/26/2007 7:46:57 AM

If Barbie were a real woman she'd have to walk on all FOURS due to her proportions!


Bullsh**! Grow up!


Did you know Marilyn Monroe wore a size 14?
She also did not have good hygiene . . . Can you believe that?


I've read that the sizing charts were a bit different back then for women's clothing. I can't swear it's true, but I've read (and it wasn't on an internet forum posting!) that a size 14 in her day was roughly equivelant to a size 8 by today's sizes.

The hygiene thing is pure hear-say. Prove it or retract it.

Note: Playboy's Jenny McCarthy was turned down by several modeling agencies before she walked into the Playboy offices... the agencies all said she was too fat and could never be a model! Then within a year she becomes Playboy's Playmate of the Year... who knew?


Models in magazines are AIR-BRUSHED
- NOT Perfect!!


Air-brushing doesn't remove lard from the rear-end, jowels around the neck, nor excess flab around the tummy! Geez! The air-brushing to to smooth out the texture of the skin on model's photos posted in magazines, not to make them look fit. Most people who model for a living workout daily for hours, and you won't catch them going thru a McDonald's drive-thru.


20 years ago, models weighed 8% less than the average woman.
Today, they weigh 23% less . . . .


Lemme think here.... oh yes! The that could be because the average woman in America weighs MORE than they did 20 years ago!!! Hello? You make it sound like the model's have gotten lighter or something with that statement...


A psychological study in 1995 found that just 3 minutes looking at a fashion magazine caused 70% of women to feel DEPRESSED, GUILTY and SHAMEFUL !


So why is it then that every single one of those women's magazines I see at the checkout isle of Target and Walmart have stunningly gorgeous bikini model's on the cover? Men aren't the ones buying those mags (we subscribe, to Playboy... hehehe!), they're for women's consumption. I also notice almost every one of those same mags has something on the cover about how to lose weight and look great... this is what sells to women apparently, bikini models and promises of learning how to lose weight (and something about 20 moves in bed every woman should know... but I digress).

Now I don't know if the Houston area population of single women are any heavier than the population of single women in any other part of the country... from what I keep hearing on the news, Americans in general have a real health problem going on with obesity. I will say however that the fitter you are, the more opportunities you'll have to meet members of the opposite sex and the more confidence you'll have when you meet the opposite sex... and you're likely to live longer with fewer health problems! Is there a downside to this? If so I fail to see it.

Quit buying clothes to make you look thinner; be thinner! Look great naked!

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 62 (view)
 
What do you think of your results when you do a 'Search' . . ??
Posted: 11/25/2007 6:09:21 PM
Wayyy too many single mom's in my area. A friend from Yahoo originally recommended POF to me over a year ago... said she was meeting plenty of very nice single guys in Ohio from here. Of course, my friend is a woman, so her results differ greatly from mine! Grrrr!

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 53 (view)
 
What do the inexperanced do?
Posted: 11/24/2007 8:38:23 AM
My 1 "relationship" (if it even could be called that) was wayyy too short, trust me. Slightly less than 2 months, then she stood me up for dinner and wouldn't return my phone calls... never talked to me again, left me totally hanging with no closure or idea what the hell went wrong.

Ergo, it was alot less than I'd hoped for. I really liked that gal dangit. (sigh)


I'm sure as hell not settling for someone with 3 kids from 2 different men who's just looking for a fill in wallet or father.


I think you have the right of it there, and I totally agree! There's a reason it's called "baggage"... it drags you down. I tried going out with a single mom once (3 kids from 3 different men; 1 guy was a convicted drug dealer no less!) and it was impossible! Her kids were just God aweful, the oldest diagnosed with ADD, the youngest crying ALL the time, and her idea of a fun evening was sitting in her apartment watching the kids fight and cry and carry on... she thought their tantrums were entertaining somehow, Cwap! She was a nice gal, but there was no way I could deal with that kinda baggage so things never even got to the "dating" level.


I refuse to join a gym now. Sure getting in shape could attract women


I didn't realize you were in bad shape? However I feel it's hypocritical to ask for more than you have to give... ergo unless you like dating overweight women, then you might wanna rethink that getting in shape thingy. I believe getting in and staying in good shape is good for the mind, body and soul.. why wouldn't you wanna get in shape? If that attracts more women I see that as a side-benefit not a goal!


before I hit 40 and at that point I will shoot down anything that approaches then.


That sounds like a plan... NOT! Don't cut off your nose to spite your face.

Regards.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 39 (view)
 
How to deal with an unreliable woman?
Posted: 11/23/2007 4:00:17 PM
I say you should make other plans with your family/friends as desired... and stick to them! If she calls up and gives you 24 hours notice and you're already committed to doing something else with friends, that's her loss.. you already HAVE plans. But if you're actually still free with nothing to do then go out with her and enjoy the time together. No need to cut off your nose to spite your face after all.

Nobody said you ever had to plan your life around her unknown schedule. And just because you're in a relationship with her doesn't mean you have to break your own plans just because she decided to let you know she wants to go out with you at the last minute.... as we say down on the farm here, tough titty!

She's only controlling your life if you let her. Frankly though, she doesn't sound like relationship material IMHO. You might want to keep your eyes open for a woman that's a bit more.... reliable.

Regards and best wishes.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 5 (view)
 
starting and keeping on-line communication: HOW TO
Posted: 11/23/2007 10:50:21 AM

if someone reads "you're cute" what could they write back?


How about writing back with: "Thanks! How are you?"

Seems easy enough and I'd think that would be enough to get the ball rolling. As a guy, I personally hate having to write a customized book length message to somebody who just deletes it without even opening it (which happens more than 90% of the time on here I've noticed). I've no interest in investing myself in talking with somebody who is very likely not going to even read what I wrote... I want to know I'm writing somebody that will at least RESPOND back 1st.

Make sense? Or am I totally off base here? Walk a mile in my shoes... then if you like them, you have a mile head start on me and I'm barefoot!

I also believe in K.I.S.S.

Keep It Simple, Stupid.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 51 (view)
 
What do the inexperanced do?
Posted: 11/22/2007 1:53:08 PM
NeoDanger,

Dang! This is spooky... I was at about the exact same spot you're at, when I was 27. Only major difference between you and I is that I like jetboats, not motorcycles. But to each their own. Spooky!

As per somebody's post on Page 1 about it taking at least 12 breakups before finding a really good woman... well, I'm 1 down with 11 more breakups to go then I suppose. Looks like I'll be around 80 or so by the time I get those 11 more breakups done with at this rate. Grrrrrr!

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
What is happening?
Posted: 11/22/2007 1:07:43 PM
I like the "3 strikes and you're out!" rule. If I understand correctly, not once did she call in advance to inform you that she couldn't make it did she? You always got an explanation the DAY AFTER she didn't show. I don't think that's at all cool.

You can have about as much fun alone as you can alone and waiting for somebody that never shows up.

Regards and best wishes.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Replies get me nowhere!
Posted: 11/22/2007 1:01:02 PM
Olliebear,


I get a first message from a girl. Just indroducing herself and asking me to look at her profile and message her back if I like what I see.


Was there any references in her (or their) profile(s) to other websites? ANY other websites! Or any hotlinks in the profile that you could have clicked on to see "other" pics of these women?


Then she reads and deletes the message and closes her account!

This has happened 3 times with 3 different girls !


See this sounds like spam-bot activity to me, and the accounts are getting closed down by the POF admin. Typically porn websites will try to attract men to visit their sites (and buy memberships) by posting fake profiles on personals/dating websites and using those profiles to contact men, "introducing" themselves as a single woman and asking that you checkout her profile... which contains a link to the spamming website.

Also, other personals/dating websites that charge membership fees tend to play this same game of making up fake profiles on free sites such as POF for the same reasons.

IMHO, it sounds like you were the victim of spam-bot profiles, which POF promptly terminated. There were never 3 different girls, just 3 fake profiles. After all, what're the odds that 3 different girls would do the exact same thing and have their accounts closed?

Regards and best wishes.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Having trouble getting replies from Women
Posted: 11/22/2007 11:25:30 AM
A week? Good grief! I've been on POF over a year now.... welcome to the club dude!

I think it's a pretty well established fact at this point that most of the women online don't much like men... just do a quick search thru the forums on your thread's keywords. Similar threads along the same lines appear multiple times in almost every POF forum.

For my part, I've made the suggestion (in the site suggestions forum) that a reply % number be added to every profile, showing what the percentage of messages a person actually replies to is. So if somebody just deletes every message they receive their reply% goes down to 0% and somebody looking at that person's profile knows it's not worth sending a message to that person. Perhaps this would encourage people to actually read their bloody messages and reply for a change, or else they'll stop receiving messages altogether.

Regards and best wishes.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 53 (view)
 
Not kissing on the first date.....why is that a problem with some men.
Posted: 11/22/2007 11:17:57 AM
Well I sure learned my lesson... never ever shake a woman's hand on the 1st date/meeting/whatever you call it! She'll accuse you of being gay.



I guess there's something in between the shaking of hand and kissing... is a parting hug ok? I'm not even sure anymore.

However anybody that wants to make a big issue out of something on the 1st meetup probably should be tossed back into the pond... not a keeper.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
when your partner is always looking at other woman
Posted: 11/21/2007 10:38:46 AM
We guys are hard-wired to like looking at the female form (unless we're gay at least!)... as long as he's not ignoring you to look at other women, relax! Heck have fun with it even, since he likes the swimsuites so much start asking him what he thinks about different suites the women have on.

Now if he ever starts disrespecting you, to look at other women... then you have a problem. For example, rubber-necking at a restaurant during dinner with you, or passing up sex (assuming you're putting the moves on him) because he'd rather watch the swimsuite show... that would be bad.

Try putting the moves on him next time he's watching that show... start slow, but be persistent. If he protests too much then I'd say you have reason to be concerned, but if his attention is immediately all on you then 1) be happy and 2) be ready for a quickie!

Regards and best wishes!

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 17 (view)
 
Why do (in my case) men just disappear?
Posted: 11/19/2007 9:29:22 AM
Uhmmm.... women do this too, you know OP.

A woman I dated for some 2 months back in 2003 suprised me by standing me up for a dinner date... never heard from her again.

I called her twice over the next 48 hours, left 1 message asking if everything was ok, then just dropped it. As a man, I'm not sure if I was supposed to go beat down her door and confess my undyling love to her or what.... but that seems a little stalkish to me so 2 phone calls and 1 message was my limit.

Oh I did have to leave one more message about a month later... she still had some stuff of mine and was evidentally not planning to return it. I pointed that out on her voicemail, and my stuff magically appeared at the front of my driveway overnight. Very weird chicky. (sigh)

Sadly I really was falling for her before that dinner date.

I heard she got married a year or so ago... kinda made me depressed, wondering what some other guy had done right that I'd done wrong. I'd say the lack of closure hurts in cases like these, never having any clue why the other person disappeared.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 83 (view)
 
Would you have a relationship with a registered sex offender?
Posted: 11/18/2007 11:37:58 AM

The way that most states register sex offenders is out of date and needs work.


Good point! Also there is the case where a guy and a gal are both drinking, get wasted, have sex, and the next morning she has 2nd thoughts about what she did that night and cries RAPE!

In the state of Texas a guy can be charged with rape simply for having sex with a woman that is drunk... while under the influence, the law says a woman cannot give consent to have sex. Even though they're BOTH drunk and nobody was forced! The guy is the one that gets charged with a crime. It's insane!

While it's rare that this happens, it has happened and otherwise good, law-abiding men have gone to jail and lost everything they owned.

Minors who lie about their age to get cigarettes, alcohol, entry into a club, gambling, or sex with an adult SHOULD be severely punished! Instead they're given a slap on the wrist and the establishement that they lied to get's heavily fined, or the adult they had sex with gets thrown in jail (and has to register as a sex offender for the rest of their life!).

Currently there is a case in Florida where 2 girls lied about their ages so they could be in a "Girls Gone Wild" video, and the producer has been jailed for it! Regardless of what you might think of those videos, the 2 girls lied about their ages and yet as far as I have heard they haven't been punished at all... that's just plain wrong and ass backwards IMHO.

If convicted, the producer will likely spend years in prison and then be forced to register as a sex offender for life.

On a personal note, why aren't car thieves required to register as such for life? I'd like to be able to go online and lookup a database of all convicted car thieves living in my neighborhood! I like my vehicles!

How about convicted murders? Why don't they have to register for life? Strange as it may seem it's not that unusual for convicted murders to get paroled... they don't all get life sentences! Yet the public cannot find a list of all convicted murders living in your neighborhood. Why does 1 type of crime require registration for life, yet other crimes (some even more serious in nature) don't?

We live in a broken system.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4U
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 25 (view)
 
Crackers in Bed... Would you give them the Boot?
Posted: 11/18/2007 11:14:15 AM
Sounds like you were dating a messy eater...

"Oh you can eat crackers in my bed, anytime Baby! You can kick off all the covers in the middle of the night... you can sleep with the windows open wide, do anything as long as you're by my side oh you can eat crackers in my bed, anytime!"

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 71 (view)
 
Why would men think that they would raise or rear the kids of a single Mother?
Posted: 11/17/2007 8:28:59 AM
I have to agree with what rockfaninblack said on page 1. As a man without children, I'm very uncomfortable being around other people's kids.

But let me ask you this ladies... before you yourself had children, how would you have felt about dating a single dad w/custody of his kids? Now be honest!

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Read this and......
Posted: 11/16/2007 7:22:43 AM
Well, I can see the psychology behind the idea...

1) you should be more relaxed knowing you have options
2) unlike serially dating 1 person after another till you find the right one, you're moving along at a faster pace going thru 4 frogs at a time till you kiss the one that turns into a Prince

On the other hand though, it could be tough finding time to go out and spend time with that many people in a given week, and keeping track of who is who and what you've been talking about with whome could prove challenging.... you could easily end up telling the same funny story to the same person twice on 2 different dates, which could be kinda awkward.

Lastly, how the heck does 1 find 4 people to date at one time? Maybe women can do it (since there seems to be a huge difference in the number of women to men on POF), but I've found it pretty much impossible to find even 1 person on here to go out with! :frustrated:

Sounds like nice work, if you can get it.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 130 (view)
 
How to dumb myself down?
Posted: 11/15/2007 9:41:06 PM
Well I'm happy to hear that you think you found the answer to your problem.

I don't know that I can explain what I'm referring to exactly, however here is an example:


"Quoting myself with other outcomes so that the exact meaning is represented."

Makes no sense whatsoever. That sentence just doesn't say anything. I could be mistaken, but I don't even think it's English... the words are from the English language, but the way you're putting them together doesn't make a complete sentence in the English language. This is not good.

Mind you, I didn't exactly excel in high school or college English classes... I think they passed me just to get rid of me actually.

Uhmmm.... this just occurred to me! Is English a 2nd language to you by any chance? I suddenly realized that alot of your grammar reminds me of other languages that have been (too literrally) translated into English... no offense intended mind you! Otherwise you really need to quit smokin that shit dude!

Just kidding!

Err, you aren't, are you?


"I find it burdensome to communicate larger words in groups of smaller words to be with someone."

So does this mean that you are using smaller words to communicate to me now as well? Or do you simply think that using smaller words will help you with the ladies in the future? You almost sound like Dr. McCoy from the original Star Trek series, in an episode where he used an alien "brain booster" to temporarily make himself smart enough to re-wire Spock's brain... I'm pretty sure that booster was fictional mind you!

It's not the size of the words you use, but how you use the words that makes for good communication. I have a 4 year degree in computer science and mathmatics, believe me I can talk complicated if I need to! I tend to save that stuff though, for when I'm communicating with someone in my field of work or with my same degree.

There is something wrong here though; I can't quite put my finger on it. If you continue typing/talking with people in this country in this way, I just don't think you're going to find your situation with the ladies improving. Simply using smaller words isn't going to solve the problem. "Dumbing down" as you put it, just isn't the solution.

As much as it pains me to say this , I recommend going and talking to an English professor at your local junior college... maybe sign up for a night course. It might make a world of difference, in your future communications with the fairer sex. I can also guarantee that you'll meet the fairer sex in such a course!

Best wishes!

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 128 (view)
 
How to dumb myself down?
Posted: 11/15/2007 7:32:12 PM
PastPresentFuture,

Uhmmm, do you actually talk (in person) like you type? Cause if you do, I think therein may lie the heart of your problem. You don't seem to communicate well.

Intelligence is not something you proclaim you have, it's something you show you have... actions speak louder than words.

And as others have noted, it also strikes me that your spelling and grammar are way way off. You ARE being judged by how you communicate in type.

Finally, when talking with someone it's very VERY important to seek common ground... find some topic that you both enjoy talking about, then give and take (talk some about it, listen some about it, ask questions about it... then find something else in common to talk about and repeat). If the other person seems bored or gives you blank looks, it's time to seek out a different subject. Whatever you do, don't talk TO somebody, talk WITH them. Ask questions... where did you go to school? What did you do this summer? What kind of books do you read? Etc. etc. etc.

Regards and best wishes.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 10 (view)
 
Why so so many men list must not be looking for chat/email
Posted: 11/15/2007 5:29:07 PM
Life's too short to spend it chatting and e-mailing online. It's like having a virtual relationship... boring!

I too have my settings set for "must not be looking for chat/email" and for just that reason. In fact I think that's one of the only options I checked in that section!

Regards and best wishes.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 15 (view)
 
Rejected?
Posted: 11/15/2007 5:25:18 PM
I don't think it matters why... he's obviously lost all interest, or else he'd have called when he said he would and certainly he wouldn't have removed himself from your favorites. I think that's a pretty big hint hun.

Regards and best wishes.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Is something wrong with me??? advice needed
Posted: 11/15/2007 9:09:53 AM

kinda half heartedly debating trying the long distance thing since we broke up.


Ok so you 2 broke up... what's with the reluctance to cut the cord? There's nothing wrong with you, you're just afraid to get your feet wet in the pond again. 3 years sounds like an eternity to me, to be dating somebody... so I can hardly fault you for being aprehensive about meeting new people and letting them into your life.

But hey, you just gotta push yourself to get out there and give some new guys the benefit of the doubt. Ok not the druggies though.... don't compromise on your "showstoppers"!


regressing because i cant seem to find someone who drives me crazy in a good way.


Of course nobody new can drive you crazy in a good way yet, you haven't dating them long enough for them to do that! I think you're looking for those feelings you had at the height of the relationship with your ex... can you say "instant gratification"? Those feelings don't happen overnight (ok, well with some people maybe they do but that's a different thread lol!).

Relax and go with the flow. Give up the ex... you don't call 'em an "ex" for no reason after all.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 6 (view)
 
How can they move on and find someone so quickly. Am I doing something wrong ?
Posted: 11/15/2007 8:57:39 AM
It totally suxs when an ex finds somebody to replace you with, before you've found anybody to replace them.

I wouldn't worry too much about the guy that's getting married after only 6 months of dating... he'll probably end up getting divorced almost as quickly. People make stupid decisions more often than not. After all, just look at the overall divorce rate in this country? It's insane!

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 35 (view)
 
Good Grief Ladies!!!
Posted: 11/15/2007 8:53:50 AM
Most of ya'll sound awefully paranoid I swear.

- Michael (I'm sure I'll get stalkers knocking at my door for signing my 1st name to ALL my posts! )
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 21 (view)
 
Very polite and friends messages with still no reply... why?
Posted: 11/14/2007 6:17:37 PM
I don't really think it matters much what you say in a message, or in your profile..... Sapphire77 has the right of it.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 13 (view)
 
why?????????????
Posted: 11/14/2007 5:37:51 PM
Sapphire77 has the right of it.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 61 (view)
 
Can a Single Women Want A Man Who Fears God and not be Judge because she does?
Posted: 11/14/2007 5:18:52 PM
I judge thee a bible thumper.

Disturbing, very disturbing.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 49 (view)
 
Men and sports
Posted: 11/14/2007 5:13:54 PM
Well I don't *have* a girl... if I had a girl though I'd definitely choose spending time with her over pretty much anything else I can think of offhand.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 114 (view)
 
what happened to that thing called ROMANCE?
Posted: 11/14/2007 10:52:16 AM
Romance is dead my friend. I think women killed it.

My idea of romance remains dinner by candelight, a cold windy rainy night with a fire in the fireplace, putting "Titanic" in the player and cuddling on the sofa.

Not too many women seem to share my ideas though. It suxs.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 21 (view)
 
What size is your bed?
Posted: 11/14/2007 10:47:12 AM

Do you keep a king size with the hopes there will be someone sharing it? /quote]

I have a king sized waterbed on double-pedastal drawer unit... while it'd be nice to have some company to wake up to in the mornings, I have this bed because I just LIKE the bed! I fell in love with the waterbed way back in 1987 when I got my 1st one and I'll never go back to a spring mattress ever!

Best thing in the world about a waterbed is the heater under the mattress... in the winter, I turn the heat up a little bit and the bed is always nice and warm while in the summertime I turn the heat down and the bed gets a little cooler. It's like, a climate controlled sleep system!

Worst thing is, it's a little difficult to roll out of in the morning. Grrrrr! Can't have your cake and eat it too I guess.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 24 (view)
 
How Hard Could It Be?
Posted: 11/14/2007 10:20:48 AM

people on here who post profiles then simply cant be bothered to talk.


That would be most of the female population on here me thinks.

You're not alone in this boat, I promise!

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Advise about your gender
Posted: 11/13/2007 6:20:21 PM
This sounds like a medical problem to me. He might need to discuss this with a doctor, honest. Or he might already have, actually.

Too much alcohol will impair a man's erection, but that was only 1 time and this is happening when no drinking is involved if I understand correctly. Also assuming you're using condoms they can also cause a male to lose his erection very easily (suggest YOU put it on him and guide him instead of having him do it).

If all else fails, ask him if there's anything you can do differently that would help. You might learn that he's on some kind of medication or something that's causing this difficulty. If you've been seeing him for awhile then I don't think he should get upset at your asking. An honest question deserves an honest answer in my book.

Regards and best wishes.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
How Hard Could It Be?
Posted: 11/13/2007 5:54:48 PM
It can be damn hard! You're doing alot better than I. Nough said.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
Advice appreciated....
Posted: 11/13/2007 5:48:26 PM
Whether she did or did not cheat on her ex-b/f, if you don't trust her then you should probably not become involved with her. Just the suspicion alone will end up ruining the relationship.

Don't date somebody if you don't trust them. No good will come of it.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 11 (view)
 
Need a man point of view
Posted: 11/13/2007 5:45:12 PM
I'm betting he found somebody he liked just as well as you, somebody that's LOCAL. He wants to keep in contact with you just in case she doesn't work out. This is just 1 of the pitfalls of a Long Distance Relationship, and why I wouldn't consider one.

Regards and hope this thread doesn't get deleted!

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 66 (view)
 
annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/13/2007 5:34:10 PM

"Why don't you try one of those online dating sites... I hear you can find some real hotties online..."


OMG I got told that one time too John! By a very professional (owned her own consulting company in Houston) lady that I was doing some programming work for. I like to collapsed on the spot I swear.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 65 (view)
 
annoying dating advice that you've heard
Posted: 11/13/2007 5:29:46 PM
The two that piss me off the most is: "You'll meet her when you're not looking" (yeah, been there done that got the T-shirt) and "You're looking in all the wrong places" (hey, give me an ADDRESS or GPS location then please!).

Ohhh that 2nd one just get's under my skin. If I knew the right places to look then I darned well wouldn't be looking in the wrong places now would I?

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 22 (view)
 
What's wrong with me?
Posted: 11/13/2007 5:21:54 PM

Singletexan4u - you are 37. Never married. This is already a red flag and one strike against you in the tough world of dating.


To prevent the untintentional hijacking of this person's topic, I decided to directly Message Bethlet in response instead.

Regards ya'll!

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 32 (view)
 
Sexual content and pics with their kids?????
Posted: 11/13/2007 1:36:58 PM
I just happened to be browsing thru MySpace earlier and came across a gal's profile... noticing her "Friends" list I saw a pic of a topless guy holding a naked baby (like at least 1 years old)... is it just me or is that really really tasteless? I swear that kid had nothing on not even a diaper!

Maybe the pic was supposed to make women go "Ahhhh!" or something I dunno but being that it's posted online I just felt kinda sick.

Regards.

- Michael
 Single_Texan_4u
Joined: 10/26/2006
Msg: 3 (view)
 
What's wrong with me?
Posted: 11/13/2007 11:52:34 AM
In my unfortunate experience, the Profile Review forum has some pretty ugly people on it. I mean, there's a huge difference between offering criticism and just being plain mean spirited..... I wouldn't recommend posting on that forum, and never went back afer I made that mistake myself.

As to the OP's question, the only thing wrong with you is that (like so many of us on here) you're a single male. Why this is a crime I have no idea! I've been on here over a year and my Inbox is a very quiet lonely place. There are MANY threads in almost every forum on POF where guys (for the most part) are complaining that we never get replies to messages we send out, nobody messages us, and why are we even still trying... I have no suggestions or ideas.

Regards and best wishes.

- Michael
 
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