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sex is it okay to have sex on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd date. Posted: 9/17/2006 1:41:06 AM
When I was younger, like between high school and college, and a few years beyond that , I DID have a judgemental notion of a slut . Like any girl who would go past kissing, and maybe petting, before like the 10th or so was lacking her morals. BUT as I have experienced life more now, and have lived thru many many more aspects of relationships, I have come to the opinion that EACH individual person has to be judged different. . . REALLY, I don't feel that there is even such a thing as a slut, there are only women with varying degrees of sexual need and drive and they also chose to satisfy themselves or not be fulfilled in their own indivual way. . .

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Msg: 178 (view)

sex is it okay to have sex on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd date. Posted: 9/17/2006 1:36:03 AM
I totally agree with every words here

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sex is it okay to have sex on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd date. Posted: 9/17/2006 1:35:16 AM
NO, BUT he is at LEAST that old because that is when his hormones and NATURAL drives and desires overtake him. I am not sayin that men walk around on the very edge of mating at all hours, BUT I know several women who have decided to stay single, or get dvorced and just never have a mate again, BUT I have yet to meet a man who does the same unless he has a friend with benefits thing that keeps him satisfied. I myself am now approaching a YEAR without any partnered sex, and at this point each and every minute of each and every day, I am either thinking and wishing for sex, havin it solo, OR being a grouchy, grumpy, moody ASS, over the frustration. AND, NO I do not think women have the same drive to " birth ". . . There are many many many examples in nature of animals where the male has the drive and the female just " lies there" . ( Ducks for example do not submit and HAVE to be basically raped by the drakes to even pro-create )

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Msg: 92 (view)

sex is it okay to have sex on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd date. Posted: 9/20/2005 2:07:34 PM
O.K. I owe you a partial apology. . .When I read further into your post, you appeared to have more in my view right than I thought. . .BUT it is still more of a comfort thing with the girl and a need thing with the man. It would take a pretty damn ugly or obnoxious girl to EVER get a refusal from me. . and if the guy were to stop things he is definately not that into you. . " Note for women " temper his doubts with the truth about your general promiscuity past behavior, then assure him repeatedly that it has nothing to do with the current desires to create something special and memorable, then jump all over him. . . . If he still harbors any ill will to your behavior, he's an idiot who doesn't dseserve you anyway.

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Msg: 91 (view)

sex is it okay to have sex on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd date. Posted: 9/20/2005 2:00:00 PM
I could only read the first few lines of this post before deciding that you did NOT represent any of the men I have known. . . There is a DEFINITE biological aspect to male drive that " most " women do not have and many do not even understand. . . Of course there are guys without it as there are women with it. . . All that I know is that I have tried several times with several women to say " No , or I have a headache, or not right time of whatever, and it has never worked. . They can ALWAYS overpower me with charms of a woman. . . . These women were being taught " what it feels like to be revved up and rejected, but never happend. . ." If I am ever able to stop a sex act , someone please take my pulse cause i need either an E.R. or an undertaker. . . Also there is a deep resentment in many of my male friends that their women get to chose when and if it happens and they, by definiton, never get that choice. . . Almost all have tried and failed to be able to deny their women even when they really wanted to. All of this talk about hypocracy is true to the extent that just cuz a woman is forward or sexual is no reason to think poorly of her. But the opposite view is TOTALY based in nature. . The male of the species has a drive he may NOT BE ABLEW to control.! ! !

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Msg: 90 (view)

sex is it okay to have sex on the 1st, 2nd or 3rd date. Posted: 9/20/2005 1:52:02 PM
As a card carrying horn dog, I would NOT nesseccarily think badly of her if the mood etc. were right. BUT keep in mind that he may always wonder, " how many other guys have had this type of first or second date. . ? ? ? Also I can testify that some hot and heavy kissing, petting and groping, on maybe the second or third date adds to the passion ans pent up desire for the fourth, and so on. . I have always had a rule that if NOTHING erotic happens BY THE 3rd 4th or 5th date, its not gonna, so I stop calling and cast my pole into another pond.

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18 Year Olds Posted: 9/20/2005 1:42:32 PM
I am 41 and have never drank ( 2 beers in 8th grade and was too gross ) I'd love to attend an eat and chat event here in Iowa, with social or no drinking too. . . Any 18 or 19 yr old girls who need a no drinking get togetherare welcome here ( ha ha )

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 9/20/2005 1:28:36 PM
I am a 25 yr old stuck in a 40 yr old's body. . I am extremely playful, laid back and easy going, BUT have made the extreme error of marrying the wrong match. . .After 15 yrs of struggle, we are about to plan the end. . . For now I LIVE WITH HER TO PROVIDE SHILDCARE AND HELP us keep the house until moved and sold someday. . . Many Many things interfere with moving forward, but for now am living in basement. . . I would have never guessed that you could be married and still be lonely, but here I sit. Would LOVE to meet a sensual playful, and fit woman, b/w like 19 & 38 yrs old . Should be someone who appreciates sweetness, passion and affection. I am an extremely touchy/cuddly physical person. . She has always ( since weeks after our weddng ) had to tell me to stop bugging her and being all " feely " Any help in getting a nice guy in touch with a loving, caring, yet patient woman would be huge to me.

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