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trs1958

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Watermelon wine.....EWWWWW Posted: 8/15/2007 9:49:52 PM
The question I have, is how did you not realize you had a rotten watermelon laying around, for probably weeks. And the answer is...it was given to me (two days before) by a friend who grows them. He had brought several and gave them to us at work. I warned everyone at work tonight to be careful when they go to cut theirs.

trs1958

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Watermelon wine.....EWWWWW Posted: 8/14/2007 9:15:55 AM
I was sitting at the computer last night and heard a spewing sound. Sounded like a broken water pipe to me. I went into the dining room where it seemed to be coming from. It sounded like it was coming from right inside the dining room wall....BUT...there are no water pipes in that wall...I built my house myself, even the wiring and plumbing...so I was a little confused at how I could be hearing this spewing noise coming from inside this wall. WELL...then I noticed the big watermelon that had been given to me sitting in the floor there in the dining room. It was obviously rotten and was fermenting. I saw a crack in the end of the watermelon and heard the spewing coming from the crack! That's when I noticed all the fermented watermelon juice that had spewed all over my tile floor in the dining room. Smelled like rotten wine . Needless to say...I had quite a mess to clean up! But the funny thing is, I heard this thing spewing from the other room!

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

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What's better than smoking? Posted: 7/25/2007 12:34:04 PM
I am the guy heARTeacher is referring to about the Chantix. And I will say...it DOES work. No withdrawal symptoms, no nervousness from quitting, no urgent feelings that I just HAVE to have a cigarette...it's just not there. You don't need drugs like Zyban or Wellbutren to help you through the cravings and withdrawals...because you don't have them. I'm glad to hear that the Zyban has helped some people but I'm surprised that some doctors would prescribe Zyban over Chantix for quitting smoking...especially since Zyban only helps cope with the symptoms while Chantix eliminates them all together. Like I said though, if Zyban has helped you quit that's great! But if a person is thinking about quitting smoking I would at least check out the Chantix. You can read up on it at Chantix dot com.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

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What would you do if the man you were dating was both ways? Posted: 7/24/2007 12:04:40 PM
I just looked at your profile OP. Don't let anyone try to tell you that you are ugly or undesirable. That's just a loser's way of beating you down. But I would agree with the previous post...I would remove the pics of the kids. Gook luck to ya and keep a good attitude about yourself.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

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smokers dating non smokers!!!! Posted: 7/24/2007 11:02:36 AM
I'm the one who first mentioned the Chantix in this thread. And let me tell you, the stuff really works. I paid $99 plus tax for 56 pills which is 4 weeks at two per day. I spent more than that on cigarettes. There has only been a couple of nights when I remotely thought about wanting a cigarette and it really wasn't even a craving, just a thought...and no, I didn't give in. I no longer wake up in the mornings with a stuffy nose...which I did every morning when I was smoking. Could hardly breathe when I woke up from my nose being stopped up. I don't feel the urge to have a cigarette when I wake up or even after I eat. Like I said, the withdrawal symptoms are just not there with the Chantix. Someone else mentioned taking Zyban. But the thing is, none of these other drugs work the way Chantix does. Chantix blocks the sensory part of the brain that gets the pleasure from the nicotine. Not only do I not feel the urge to smoke...when I did light one up after about a week of being on the Chantix a cigarette tasted like hot cardboard and you get nothing out of the nicotine...which is how it works in the first place. I don't believe in the other stuff such as the nicotine substitutes...the patch, gum, etc....although it has helped some to quit. But the fact is...you are still ingesting nicotine, just in a different form. If you really want to quit get yourself a prescription for the Chantix.

trs1958

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''See where things go'',exactly what does that mean?..... Posted: 7/21/2007 11:10:55 AM
The two biggest mistakes people make in these situations are: Having sex in hopes of getting a relationship...and... Having a relationship in hopes of getting sex. If you want a relationship and not just sex...then don't have sex before you know there IS a relationship...it's quite simple actually. If you have sex and then expecting it to turn into a relationship it will usually backfire on you and you have no one to blame but yourself. JMO

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

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smokers dating non smokers!!!! Posted: 7/11/2007 2:14:27 PM
Quicksilver: Chantix is a fairly new pill (been out a couple of years now I think). It affects the sensory part of the brain that gets pleasure out of nicotine. You keep smoking as normal for at least a week after you start taking it and let the drug build up gradually in your system before you actually quit. I've never been too keen on the drug companies and their multi billion dollar profits...but I have to hand it to Pfizer...this stuff really works. It cost me $99 for a month's supply here at my local pharmacy. You do have to want to quit or I'm sure even the Chantix won't work. But without having the withdrawal symptoms it looks like it's gonna be a breeze to do. I even went as far as putting a handful of pretzel sticks in a cigarette pack and carry that to work with me...for the habit part of reaching for one. Now I pull out a pretzel stick instead of a cigarette. Edited to correct spelling. and to add: You can read up on it at Chantix dot com

trs1958

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Wealth vs debt. Posted: 7/11/2007 11:51:10 AM
I think the bottom line is...if a person's debt is greater than their wealth (assets) they are living above their means. Of course as stated earlier there are unforeseen circumstances such as medical emergencies. I personally would not want to get seriously involved with someone who has a huge debt just because they want to try to "keep up with the Jones'".

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

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Caught him... now what? Posted: 7/11/2007 11:28:32 AM
If you put someone in your favorites, you can see the date last online. Also, user name search also shows "online today" I do believe. Ahhhh...thank you. This is true...but they can also see that you have added them to your favorites list. You could always have her come over to your house, let her make herself a profile on here and send him a note. Depending on how he responded to the note would tell her where she stands. If he thought the profile was just someone who was a potential date and acted upon it...she could then confront him in person and say "hey, I'm so and so on POF and I'm the one that sent you the note".

trs1958

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smokers dating non smokers!!!! Posted: 7/11/2007 11:00:15 AM
It's true that you can't quit smoking for someone else...you have to want to quit for yourself. But for those who are thinking about quiting, you might want to see your Dr. and get a prescription for Chantix. I've been on it for a week and a half now and it's the only thing I've ever tried that actually works. I'm having no withdrawal symptoms at all...only the habit part of reaching for one which isn't that big of a deal. As for the OP...smoking is a deal breaker for a lot of people. And you really can't blame a non smoker for not wanting to be around someone who smokes. I have smoked for about 30 years and know how it stinks up your house, car, clothes, body and everything else it come into contact with. I am so looking forward to ridding myself of them for good.

trs1958

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Caught him... now what? Posted: 7/10/2007 9:37:08 PM
It's true though, he could be coming on here for the forums right?[\quote] In a sense it could be true....BUT...if he's already told her that he hasn't had internet in weeks...then it sounds like he's being a little too "fishy". Not sure why this is "quoting" everything. Supposed to only be quoting the first line.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

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Does not want children - what's it mean to you? Posted: 6/27/2007 1:03:14 PM
Msg. 24: I also feel that people that have more than 3 kids should be taxed at DOUBLE the rate! After all, they use up more natural resources & are causing FAR more harm to the environment than I ever will! But what seems to happen is...they keep popping out more kids so they can get more welfare...and the government seems to be fine with that. I never had kids of my own...by choice. Although I did help raise two step daughters for 10 years several years ago and did a pretty good job. But now at 48, I wouldn't want to get involved with someone who has kids at home...but would welcome any that are grown and on their own. I agree too that most people see the "Does not want children" option as meaning...doesn't want to give birth to any more kids. I suppose if you see someone who you are interested in...and have any questions about it...then it might be worth while to just send them a message and ask.

trs1958

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Relationship of couples that are fans of rival sports teams.. Posted: 6/14/2007 10:33:20 AM
I would think it would be about as important as meeting someone with green eyes and preferring someone with blue eyes. But then again, I'm not a sports fan.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

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New Kind of Relationship Posted: 6/9/2007 11:38:44 PM
Though, I think the reasoning for it may differ depending on the ages and life circumstances of the couples. I agree with this, especially with older people. I think one of the primary reasons too would be the fact that if both people own a home, in order to live together one or the other has to give up their home...whether it be selling it or renting it out. Then if something goes wrong with the relationship they're stuck having to find a place to live.

trs1958

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Does one's financial debt influence your choice in a potential mate? Posted: 6/8/2007 11:35:22 AM
Msg: 19 Debt "enslaves" people, and that means mortgages too, IMO. They limit a person's freedom in life choices, IMO. What you own winds up owning you!!! That holds even more for what you owe!! Nick, I agree with you to a certain extent, but...it depends on the mortgage in question. If a person has a house that's worth $150K and owes $160K on it then yes I think they have problems. A mortgage can either be a liability or an asset. As I stated earlier, my mortgage is the only debt that I have...everything else that I have is paid for. I just had my house appraised less than a year ago and it's worth three times what my mortgage is. I built my house myself from the ground up six years ago which saved me a lot of money. So not all mortgages "enslaves" people other than the fact that you can't just up and move away as easily as you can if you're renting an apartment. But you are correct that a lot of people get so far in debt that what they own ends up owning them. Although you do have more freedom if you rent, you are also paying for someone else's assets and in the long run and you have nothing to show for in the future. I would much rather make a house payment than pay rent.

trs1958

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Does one's financial debt influence your choice in a potential mate? Posted: 6/7/2007 9:18:21 PM
There was another thread just a day or two ago about this subject. One person stated that $10K is the norm for credit card debt. As I stated in that thread, anyone who has a $10K credit card debt...unless it was because of some medical emergency or something similar...is either rich or they are living way above their means. It takes very little common sense to know that when you buy something with plastic...someone has to pay for it. Obviously there are a lot of people without much common sense. I never have a running balance on my credit card. If I see something that I want or need I buy it...but pay off the balance as soon as my statement comes in. But I also have enough common sense to know whether or not I can afford something. Other than every day living expenses (utility bills) I have one debt which is my mortgage. So as the answer to the question...I would have to say yes, someone's debt would probably have an influence on my choice for a potential partner. I don't require or need someone with a lot of money...but I do require them to have common sense.

trs1958

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Would you get a divorce if ... Posted: 6/3/2007 2:11:40 PM
10,000 is about the average balance most people carry on credit anyway... not the end of the world. Are you serious? Is this true? I would think that anyone who has a running balance of $10K on a credit card is either pretty wealthy or living WAY above their means. I'm not rich by any means, but if I see something that I want or need I will buy it (using common sense of course). If I use a card, I pay off the balance when the statement comes in. I never have a running balance on a credit card. There is a big difference between being stingy or tight with your money and not having the common sense to know what your financial limits are. Too many people see a credit card as "free" money without having a second thought of the fact that someone has to pay it off. If you keep bailing her out of these credit cards she'll end up ruining you financially. JMO

trs1958

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Likeable Personalities Posted: 5/30/2007 12:55:53 PM
Next time someone asks you to do something - tell them - I would love to do it for you- but everytime I do something for you I dont even get a thank you- why is that? I agree with curly. And I think it would only take once. And it would be a win-win situation for you. Either they would realize how they've been treating you and do something about it... or they would be insulted and get mad, and not ask you anymore thus not wasting any more of your productive time on unappreciative people.

trs1958

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Height/Size Contridiction? Posted: 5/28/2007 2:10:48 PM
Msg. 35: I list tall as a preference but it is by no means a requirement. Although it is nice to see someone state this, the problem with listing tall as a preference will definitely knock you out of a lot of contacts. Even if you make the initial contact, if a guy is not tall he will most likely figure that you are not really going to be THAT interested in him. I would think that...unless your preference IS requirement...it's better to just leave them open and not list them as a preference. If you do list something as a preference at least also state that it ISN'T a requirement if it isn't. I'm 5' 7" 135 lbs. and I'm comfortable with my size. But I also state in my profile that I'm looking for someone my size or smaller simply because that is what I'm looking for. If a woman is taller than me I don't have much of a problem with that, which doesn't matter anyway because they usually DO have a problem with it. O.T. ...I too understand completely what you are saying and it happens all the time. It reminds me of a profile I saw just a few days ago of a woman who had "seperated" listed as her situation yet had "must not be married" listed as a criteria to be able to contact her. It's true that a lot of people want others to accept their preferences yet the other person is being shallow for having preferences of their own.

trs1958

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What am I suppose to do Now? Posted: 5/27/2007 4:02:16 AM
Educations usually cost money whether it be a university or the school of hard knocks. Hate to see you get burned like that but it happens. Some people WILL take advantage of you no matter how sincere they seem.

trs1958

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2nd marriages & $$$$$ Posted: 5/22/2007 9:31:33 PM
lily: ...make wise decisions and money shouldn't be an issue. That's what we're talking about here, making wise decisions BEFORE getting stuck with a large debt that isn't his. I think its insulting to even think of anything other than combing everything from the start and moving forward happily together. I don't know how old you are...but you obviously either do not have any assets of your own, or you have never been taken to the cleaners financially. People who are posting here are talking from experience. Read all the posts. Everyone who gets married (with the right intentions) expects it to last for ever...but there are no guarantees. It has nothing to do with mistrust...it's called protecting your life savings and assets.

trs1958

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2nd marriages & $$$$$ Posted: 5/22/2007 8:07:59 PM
If she decided to leave a few years down the road, you'd better believe that she'll find a lawyer who'll be more than happy to disagree. The statement I made was in the literal sense as far as her not investing HER money. But in a legal sense there's no doubt that a lawyer could very easily twist it around. I would be very careful with a situation like this. And iago is right, you could even get stuck with spousal and child support. If you kept a VERY good paper trail of everything that transpired, it might help you some...but if it were me, I would NOT get a second mortgage and pay off her credit cards. That needs to be her responsibility. Actually, if it were me, I doubt that I would consider marrying her until she paid the debt, or at least a large portion of it.

trs1958

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2nd marriages & $$$$$ Posted: 5/22/2007 9:21:12 AM
Also I have brought up a living trust to her(if I die,she can stay in the paid off home with taxes paid,untill she dies or remarries, after that it goes to my 2 daughters)and she is not liking that idea either..... Steve, obviously you care for this woman or you would not even be considering marrying her. But, if she's not liking the idea of a living trust considering YOUR house and property then she is definitely after you for monetary reasons. Just think about it...even if she does pay the mortgage payment herself...all she is doing is paying HER OWN debt that she already has now (her credit card debt). It's not like she is actually investing into your home and property with her money. She wouldn't be investing HER money until the $25K of her original debt was paid off. But I'm sure you already realize this...you sound like a guy with a good head on your shoulders. Just don't let love blind you of your common sense...it is sometimes easy to do. Good luck buddy.

trs1958

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2nd marriages & $$$$$ Posted: 5/21/2007 10:33:00 PM
I think Margo is 100% correct in this. No one "plans" on splitting up but it DOES happen. I would have absolutely no problem signing a pre-nup or co-hab agreement. In fact I would probably insist on it. I own my home, built it myself from the ground up. Did the construction, wiring, plumbing...just about everything except pour the concrete which obviously I couldn't do by myself. So my house is worth considerably more than what I actually have invested in it. If I were to meet a woman whom I considered a potential mate and she felt the same and she had as much assets or more than I do, I would think that she would feel the same way about an agreement. In this day and age people DO need to protect their investments. And as it has been said before...it is much more sensible to agree to and protect yourself while you're in love than to wait and try to protect yourself during a bitter divorce. If any of us marry again we want to think it is going to be forever...but isn't that what you thought the last time?

trs1958

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2nd marriages & $$$$$ Posted: 5/21/2007 1:35:51 PM
Fingerscrossed2: But here's the problem,she also wants me to take a second mortgage out,so she can pay off over 25,000.00 of credit card debt.And says she will pay that mortgage.... Personally, I'd be leary of someone who has $25K in credit card debt. The reason I say that is because unless it is stemmed from some unfortunate medical reason or something similar...that would make me think the person was living way above their means. And if you take out a second mortgage on your home to pay this debt off then you are using YOUR house as collateral, which means that IF it isn't paid they can take YOUR house. You better think long and hard on that one. JMO

trs1958

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Started great....and than finished suddenly Posted: 5/20/2007 2:19:15 AM
acttwo: For whatever reason she's stringing you along...if you let it happen now, it'll go on forever. I hate to say, but I completely agree with this. I would bet that she has someone else on a string, maybe more than one. Once you started "cooling off" from her she started trying to reel you back in by texting and calling you. I've been there once before myself and know exactly how you feel. It's hard to let go when they call you up and say the right things but I'm afraid this is going to be fruitless for you. There are lots of women (and men for that matter) who cannot commit to just one person. They always have to keep a few on the string for comfort and security but are always looking just in case something better comes along. On the other hand there are others who are not like that. You deserve better, find yourself one of the good ones and let her keep playing her little games.

trs1958

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Are you judgemental about a person because of their looks ? Posted: 5/19/2007 4:01:33 PM
Paul was not with Jesus "quite a bit"! Re-read Acts and think of the timeline. Paul doesn't even come into the picture until after he starts persecuting Christians for teaching that Jesus had risen from the dead. Not "weill rise", but "has risen". That means Paul's activities are AFTER Jesus death and resurrection. You are absolutely correct and I apologize for speaking before thinking...which is usually something I try not to do. But I still believe that Paul wouldn't have spoke about it in his teachings if men had long hair during that time. And as I stated, I do not judge men with long hair either. I have lots of friends with long hair and are great guys. The point of whether a guy with long hair can be a Christian or not wasn't even the issue that freebird (nor I) was making. Only the fact that most all of the images (including movies) that man has depicted as Jesus shows a man with long hair...which I personally believe would be inaccurate. Paul only stated that it was a shame, he did not say that it would keep a person from Heaven. It's also true too that there is no reference as to what is considered long as someone else stated. It's just yet another interpretation that each individual has to make for themselves.

trs1958

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Are you judgemental about a person because of their looks ? Posted: 5/18/2007 9:09:19 PM
1) There is no evidence that Jesus hair length was seen or reported to Paul so you have no idea what Paul did or didn't know about Jesus' hair length. What??? Paul was one of Jesus' apostles and was with him quite a bit, so yes he would know exactly how Jesus looked.

trs1958

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why guys ask for your pic? Posted: 5/18/2007 12:41:35 PM
If guys are asking you for more pics...you might want to consider just posting some new pics on your profile. Don't just assume that when a guy asks for more pics he is asking for nude shots...that is NOT the case. If a guy wants nude shots I would think he would ask for nude shots. I haven't looked at your profile or photos, but from what others have said it sounds like it's kind of hard to distinguish what you look like. That in itself should be enough reason to post some better photos of yourself.

trs1958

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What would you do Posted: 5/18/2007 12:45:47 AM
^^^ I totally agree with holdfast. You were playing games with this guy even though you may not have really meant to. A little harmless fun that has now caused some harm. And the only thing you can do is come clean with him and be honest. If you try to hide it by going the new profile route you're just covering up one lie with another. Sooner or later that lie will catch up with you too...and will do even more damage than this one has, that is if you're lucky enough that he can get past the first one. I knew of a very similar instance that happened several years ago. A woman had been chatting with this younger guy (half her age) and had sent him a pic of her DAUGHTER. She too thought it was just some harmless fun until she started developing feelings for this guy. They had been talking for several months and both had pretty strong feelings for each other. She ended up having to tell him the truth and it really hit him hard. OP...I know you feel terrible about this and probably feel as though you are in a real pickle here but the fact is...you are. And I don't say this in a mean way at all...but this type of thing is exactly why so many people are disheartened with the whole online dating thing. I do wish you the best of luck with your situation...and I too hope you have learned a valuable lesson.

trs1958

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Are you judgemental about a person because of their looks ? Posted: 5/17/2007 11:55:55 PM
I do recall one poster stating that Paul would not have been critical of long hair if Christ had long hair, but that certainly was not an attack. He was just backing his claim that Christ probably did not have long hair. That's all. That was me Jeff, and you are correct, it certainly was not an attack against anyone. Was just merely a comment in reference to the picture thing, nothing more. And I do agree with freebird about the hypocrisy thing. I'm not sure why any Christian family would have a picture like that if they gave the subject any thought at all (scripturally speaking). Actually, I think that a very large percentage of them don't even realize the significance of it. I never really thought about it myself until it was pointed out to me just a couple of years ago, and my dad was a minister all of his adult life so I grew up with it. Most all church going people are clean cut people (at least from what I've seen all my life), yet a lot of them have these pictures (graven images) of Jesus hanging in their house. I have nothing against guys with long hair, one of my bosses has hair way down past his shoulders and he's a great guy and a dear friend. But it does seem a little strange that they...people who try to follow the teachings of their Bible...don't give that verse a second thought. I know this isn't the religious forum and I am by no means trying to turn it into one. And I think the subject is a good point in the discussion of being judgmental because of looks. We are all somewhat judgmental about someone's looks whether we mean to be or not. Of course there's a big difference between seeing someone and THINKING "oh my gosh ewwwww"...and seeing someone and yelling "dang you're ugly!" I would never be mean or disrespectful to anyone because of their looks but I wouldn't date someone who I didn't find attractive. And in a sense that's judging.

trs1958

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pretty or beautiful Posted: 5/17/2007 3:48:00 AM
My actual take on this is...and this is from a guy who doesn't much care for the "artificial" looking women...if I meet a woman who really cute, then she is beautiful in my eyes. Take a cute little gal in sweats and a ponytail sitting there watching a good movie...and a gal in a short skirt and 3" high heels parading herself down broadway...the gal with the ponytail IS the beautiful one in my book.

trs1958

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The curve of a penis Posted: 5/16/2007 10:44:33 PM
This thread has got to have some of the most idiotic and humorous responses I have ever read...especially this: The foreskin helps give direction to the penis and severing it causes four main things: ... It has a bend in it because...well, lets just say...if you're right handed it curves to the left, and if you're left handed it curves to the right. Now, if you're ambidextrous and use both hands equally it will probably be straight. Then again, it also has something to do with how you "tuck it in" when you get dressed. Left handed guys will generally (after peeing) tuck it in more to the right, because they use their left hand to do it...and vice versa for right handed people. If you think I'm wrong, check it out for yourself. And for the gals that want to check it out for themselves, next time you see one that is curved...notice which way it is curved, to his left or to his right, and see if he's left or right handed. I'll bet that 99.9999 % of the time you will find that I am correct in this. edited to add: if its a really bad curve its a condition called peyrones disease (pay-row-nee) This is also true. I knew a guy (an ex family member) who had this. From what I heard, it not only had a significant curve but also shrank up to nearly nothing. So it's a very serious condition.

trs1958

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Two Questions About Cheating: 1) Why? & 2) Always a Cheater? Posted: 5/16/2007 2:44:39 AM
Very good analogy Danno. And although people aren't stupid in the sense of the equation you mentioned...people ARE stupid for cheating period. JMO

trs1958

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Are you judgemental about a person because of their looks ? Posted: 5/16/2007 2:20:24 AM
i know we cant judge a book by its cover, but, i admit i would be put off by tattooes,body peircings dirty scraggy hair I agree, I feel the same way about a woman.

trs1958

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Are you judgemental about a person because of their looks ? Posted: 5/16/2007 2:08:15 AM
As others have said, it's all about personal preferences. If a person is not physically attractive to you I would think it would be hard if not impossible to have a strong intimate and loving relationship with them...other than friends. I know this is a little off topic but...as far as this quote: What always gets me is when a " Church goer " shuns a man with long hair and a goatee or beard but on their wall is a picture of Jesus who by physical appearance would fit perfectly into the 60's and 70's. As far at the Church goer is concerned...if they actually knew anything about the Bible they would know that those so called pictures of Jesus is such a mockery...and I'll tell you why. I'm not a Bible thumper or anything but I am a believing Christian...and this is what Paul said in I Corinthians 11:14... Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him? Now...do you think that if Jesus had long hair Paul would be saying this in his teachings? I think not. edited to add: As a matter of fact, I was discussing the topic of men and long hair with a woman several years ago (she liked long hair on men) and she said..."well Jesus had long hair, just look at his pictures...". I told her to read the above verse and explain to me what she thought it meant. She had no comment after that.

trs1958

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Msg: 9 (view)

At what point do you actually meet? Posted: 5/16/2007 12:14:47 AM
note to guys with shirtless pictures. I want your abs to be a pleasant surprise, not an advertising feature. I've said it before and I'll say it again. The same goes for the women who purposely wear a low cut top and angle a camera at their cleavage. And believe me, you can tell which ones do it on purpose. People can tell how well (or not) you are built without trying to emphasize your "features". It's more of a turn-off than a turn-on. If a woman represents herself like that on a dating site then she is more than likely not the type of woman I'd be interested in getting to know. And as for the OP's question about people not looking the same as their photos...yes, it happens all the time. Happened twice with me, I did not even recognize the person when I met them for lunch. At least 50 lbs. heavier and 10 years older than their so called "recent" pics. One of them even stated that my pics did not do me justice and that I looked much better in person. I wanted to say..."I wish I could say the same for you"...but I preferred to be a gentleman and keep that comment to myself.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

When do you give it up? Posted: 5/11/2007 1:36:18 PM
I didn't say I dumped her for "cheating" on me, I said I dumped her. I accidentally read one of her emails, and she was bashing me saying that I was an *hole and yadda yadda, and telling this guy from upstate new york to come to long island to hang out with her and being all flirtatious and shit. So yeah, I dumped her. I think the term emotional cheating is complete BS though. Well wowsad...if you don't think that it's cheating then that is your prerogative, but I would say that most of the people on here thinks it is. And I was not insinuating...oh excuse me...**in insinuating anything. I was merely quoting what you said which did sound like you were contradicting yourself...and I think most people would have read it the same way. So go ahead and cuss away if it makes you feel better.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

Don't use that on me!! Posted: 5/11/2007 2:24:59 AM
Msg. 12 Not me. If I don't see it come out of the package it doesn't touch me! Or I just use my own. Maybe I'm wrong, but I would think that any toy like this should be cleaned before use even if it's right out of the box brand new. I highly doubt that those things are manufactured and packaged in a sterilized environment.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

Msg: 45 (view)

Penis Pride Posted: 5/11/2007 2:11:10 AM
But the thing is why does he ask afterwards, "So did I disappoint you?" Well HELLO yeah!!! When you're expecting one thing and then get half of it... Maybe he was planning on giving you the other half the next time.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

Msg: 434 (view)

Is oral sex cheating? Posted: 5/11/2007 2:00:51 AM
Some have brought up the subject of Clinton. The thing is...he stated on national TV that...he did NOT have sexual relations with that woman. I just wonder if he then lit THAT cigar and said...but I did not inhale!

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

Msg: 70 (view)

Reports of unethical or fraudulent experiences w/ True.com? Posted: 5/11/2007 1:37:17 AM
I too can not understand for the life of me why anyone would want to be on a paying site. I think there must be some kind of myth that all the "nice classy" people are on the pay sites and all of the losers are on the free sites, which we all know is not true. Right now I am on seven (I just counted them) FREE dating sites...yes totally free, including POF. I know that you see the same people on most all of them which is understandable, but these same people are on the pay sites too...although most of them are not paying members. So if you join a pay site without paying in essence all you're doing is "window shopping". I also had created a profile on True but never gave any CC info. And I too got the so called masses of "such and such has winked BACK at you". How pathetic do they think we are? Kudos to POF for offering such a site to it's members for free. And I hope that the Admin is making a good living off of advertising.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

Msg: 16 (view)

When do you give it up? Posted: 5/10/2007 11:52:25 PM
wowsad said: personally? i wouldn't date a girl who was talking to dudes online in a flirtatious manner, on a dating site especially. i don't care where i met her. i dumped a girl for doing just that. then later said: emotional cheeting? what bs is that? so looking at a chick is cheating? jerking off to porn is cheating? cheating is physical contact.....nothing less. otherwise you're just being jealous and retarded, and thats probably why your chick or dude is out talking to other people. But you still think that emotional cheating is bs? You kind of sound like you are contradicting yourself. I didn't see where Adam mentioned anything about looking at a women or jerking off to porn. Sounded like Adam just made some valid statements.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

Msg: 33 (view)

My girlfriend has a friend Posted: 5/4/2007 12:49:02 AM
Almost every one of you is saying this girl isn't to be trusted...WTF? Well I will put in another vote that she can not be trusted. Any gf that will go on a weekend getaway trip with another guy "friend" should no longer be considered your gf. Maybe I'm old fashioned and living in the dark ages but if I had a new gf and she chose to do this she dang sure wouldn't have a chance to do it again. You've been dating for six weeks? I would think that the new wouldn't have even wore off...yet she's off to play with new friends? Wouldn't go over well with me at all.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

Msg: 33 (view)

What Do You Guys Think Of This Situation? Posted: 5/4/2007 12:31:49 AM
She has a lot of male friends. Only a few females friends. All the people she goes out with are mostly guys. vakarazz, the reason I asked this question is because I had an ex just like this several years ago. Most all of her "friends" were male. She had very few female friends and all of those were pretty much fair weather friends simply because they knew what she was like and saw through her. I will tell you...you are in for another heartbreak and I am 100% positive about that. You have indicated that you will probably try to remain friends with her. However "cautious" you think you can be, it's going to happen again...probably as many times as you will allow it to happen. I hate to see you go through it again but no one can tell you not to. It's going to have to be something you learn the hard way. I speak from experience on this one, and no one could tell me either. I too had to learn the hard way.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

Msg: 20 (view)

What Do You Guys Think Of This Situation? Posted: 5/3/2007 12:01:05 AM
When she calls you in a month or two, all sad cause her last relationship failed... And she WILL call you again. Believe it when people tell you that she is just keeping you on a string...just in case this new one doesn't last (which it wont). The sad thing is she'll probably be like that all her life. It doesn't matter who she is with or how good the relationship is (at the moment) she'll ALWAYS have someone else on a string. Always thinking that something better will come along. I know that you will probably want to give it another chance when she does call you, and like I said she will, but I think a lot of us can tell you from experience...if you want to save yourself from more heartache don't do it. And honestly you don't need her as a friend. Believe us when we tell you, she is NOT your friend. She is the puppet master in charge of the strings. Good luck to you. Edited to add a question to the OP: Just curious, but does she have lots of female friends, or are most of her friends male? Or do you really know very many of her friends?

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

Msg: 3 (view)

Is it too much info or just boring? Posted: 5/2/2007 1:50:53 PM
Thanks, I trimmed it down.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

Msg: 1 (view)

Is it too much info or just boring? Posted: 5/1/2007 11:44:39 PM
Maybe I'm giving too much info? Is it boring stuff? I just tried to be honest and tell a little about me but I'm not sure it's coming across right. Would like some opinions. I'm thinking maybe that people might be a little concerned with my occupation. Being a musician sometimes has a bad rap, but I have made a living at it for over 30 years playing on a stage show, not in bars.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

Msg: 37 (view)

Ten things I learned about living with males. Posted: 5/1/2007 5:44:11 PM
Reminds me of a sign I once saw above a toilet at a friends house... I AIM TO PLEASE...YOU AIM TOO PLEASE.

trs1958

Joined: 10/28/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

HE flicked me in the head at the bar and he thinks that's okay! Posted: 4/30/2007 12:47:29 PM
Just remember I broke up with him because of behavior like this. I have to agree with Frau on this. If this was what caused your breakup, why would you want to continue taking this "abuse"? And yes, it is abuse because he is abusing your friendship. I would think that ONE second chance would be enough. If he didn't get the hint by then, I really don't understand why this guy would be so important to you to want to keep him as a friend. It almost sounds to me like you care more for him than just a friend. And I also agree with some of the other posts...you are a very attractive woman and would have no problem finding someone who would treat you like a WOMAN instead of some little girl in pigtails on the playground. This guy obviously needs to grow up, but the problem is that people are who they are...and this is HIM. You either decide to put up with it or not...simple as that.

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