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kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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The term Takes Care of Herself...... Posted: 11/3/2009 3:00:51 PM
my interpretation of 'takes care of herself' is that she has to be mindful of her physical appearance, in and out. don't mean she gotta be a model, super fit, skinny, or athletic. just means that she makes an effort to be and stay healthy. a little meat on a woman's bones ain't a bad thing. but TOO much meat, well, yeah, that's a bad thing but only if they're not trying to obtain/maintain a healthy lifestyle. you can lump skin condition, drugs, cigs, alcohol, red bull, caffeine, and other stuff into the 'takes care of herself' mix too. it ain't always about the size. sometimes it's the stuff you don't see. i mention skin cuz if a chick has bad skin due to her not being mindful of the damage the sun can cause, and it's to the point of being irreversible and it's clearly visible and unsightful, then it wouldn't go beyond friendship in my book.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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need some advice Posted: 10/22/2009 6:13:31 PM
that is my dating preference to not have a man that smokes ,.. because I do not smoke so therefor I do not want to be with someone who does .. and that's exactly the point that i've been trying to make this whole time! if you think that way, it's safe to say that MANY other women do too! thus OP's problems with dating success on this site!

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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need some advice Posted: 10/22/2009 2:42:34 PM
creamy, y u so worried about offending people? who cares? you got an opinion, share it. and the fact that it's an opinion means that someone somewhere won't agree with it and will get offended by it. that's how humans work. you kinda hit the nail on the head. kinda. why would anyone choose someone that doesn't fit their standard? i can see if there's potential down the line and you choose someone based on that and they don't CURRENTLY fit your standard. but you think that they could at some point, so you choose them. that's perfectly fine. but let's not live in fantasyland. you know just as well as me that there's a huge difference between smoking and drinking. and when you apply it to dating, the differences are even bigger. all habits, no matter if they're good or bad or whatever they may be, will affect your social status and success. period. i read comic books. think i don't get teased for it? and guess how much i care? not at all. but i accept that people (women) make decisions based on things like that. that's reality. then you've got the monster that is cigarette smoking and this is online dating. unless someone is lying on their pro, it would clearly state whether someone smokes or not. and decisions are made based on that and that alone. just like drinking, just like kids, just like body type. using your methodology, every human being on earth judges yet you're saying we shouldn't. so you want all humans to not judge even though it's within our conditioning to do so? no, we shouldn't judge but if given clear reasons to, which those reasons are very clear here, then we can. but i'm just stating facts, not judging. and as i've stated before, women will have far more success than men on this site. you're no exception, creamy. your mail settings say 'must not smoke.' so clearly you wouldn't date a smoker. isn't that a contradiction when applied to this topic?

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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need some advice Posted: 10/22/2009 5:55:33 AM
creamykisses, the man is asking for honesty and that's all i know how to give. i'm not the sugarcoating type. i don't fluff anything. and no, i don't judge. the reality of the situation is that it wouldn't matter who he was, what he had, or what he looked like. on a site like this, cigarette smokers are near the bottom of the pile of desirability. below that would be those that admit to doing drugs. above both of those would be single parents with babies or young kids. hovering around that would be significantly overweight people. you can then throw minorities in the mix too. there's other levels on that totem pole but those are just SOME examples. i'm not saying any of those people won't find what they're looking for or find some level of success on this site. success is deemed by emails recieved, outside communication, a date/meet, and hopefully something long lasting resulting in the ultimate success of friendship/exclusive relationship. OP is saying he isn't having much luck here. why overlook the obvious? there could be a whole variety of reasons why chicks might not be receptive to him on here other than improving his pics and written words in his profile, his location, etc. but let's get real here. the cigarettes play a HUGE part. i don't smoke. never have, never will. i don't associate with smokers. none of my friends smoke. when i see a profile that says a chick smokes, whether it be occasionally or often, i don't even bother looking at anything else in most cases cuz i know there won't be any kind of match there on any level. they may indeed be cool people, but their habit isn't something i choose to have around me mainly for health reasons. i will scan to see if there's mention of her trying to quit and i have seen those profiles where the person stated that and later on where it says they smoke, it now says 'no.' and i commend them for it by sending a congratulatory email. and yes, they do appreciate praise coming from a complete stranger. helps them stay off the cigs! but reality is reality. in OP's case, it's not being judgmental, it's just keeping it real. big difference.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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need some advice Posted: 10/21/2009 5:38:22 PM
my original style of writing was experimentation just to see how people react to things that they consider different, that they don't agree with, and that they can't control. needless to say, human beings are VERY intolerant. lotsa fakes out there! i knew that before but i have new knowledge that just confirms my beliefs. the keyword you mention is 'most.' doesn't apply in every situation. sometimes people do have to change for others but in those cases, it's because of something habitual. let's say a man has a damn good woman but she won't tolerate the alcohol anymore. he knows a woman like that ain't ever gonna come around again. so what's he do? he stops drinking. or at least he tries. but wouldn't it be within his best interests, for her and more importantly FOR HIMSELF that he quit drinking? then there's cigs. OP says he ain't having much luck and wonders why. other than him being a man on a dating site, the cigs are easilly another culprit to his dating woes. you even admit there's more nonsmokers than smokers. how do you think your dating life would be if you kicked the habit or never had it to begin with? by the numbers and stats, you'd be much more successful. OP probably would too, maybe. yet, you both still smoke. i understand it's a hard habit to break, but you're both on dating sites for a reason. this would be one of those instances where 'most' wouldn't apply imo.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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need some advice Posted: 10/21/2009 3:32:59 PM
well, well. long time, no see justnancy. i ain't saying smokers can't get dates and don't get emails. i AM saying that you and OP's selection will be rather limited compared to a nonsmoker. plus, OP is a man and his chances for success on this site compared to a woman is even further limited. men on this site don't and wont get the attention that a woman will and that's indisputable. but he does have to keep in mind the type and amount of women that will accept a smoker. they either have to smoke themselves or be tolerant of it which is rare.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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divorce verses affair...isnt it about time we accepted affairs.. Posted: 10/21/2009 8:00:20 AM
well, i read a lot of the posts and here's my opinion. it's been said that the sex in an affair ain't the prob and i agree. it's the dishonesty that's the real prob. but the sex is secondary primarily based on the possibility of introducing std's into the relationship and/or getting preg/getting the other woman preg. the real root of all of these probs is why do people wanna get married in the first place? what are the true benefits of it? none, really. c0habitation works just fine if not better. took a while to form this opinion, but if people wanna get married and follow traditional vows, then they need to stick to them. that means NO DIVORCE unless someone dies! is a marriage certificate and vows not a legally binding contract between 2 people? not only that, but doesn't the traditional concept put women in a subservient role to men (honor and obey, taking of their last name)? yet they want equality, right? you get married, you CANNOT get divorced based on traditional rules unless the spouse dies. point blank, period. therefore, change up your vows to avoid that particular problem. put a divorce clause in there like a prenup. i got no prob with that. you get divorced and you have traditional vows and hubby and wife are still alive, then is that much diff than an affair? didn't you just lie by saying you wouldn't divorce till 'death do you part?' so whichever side initiated it (if not both), doesn't that make you a liar? and you're worried about if an affair affects the kids. what are you teaching them by not sticking to your word? especially since it's a signed and written word? i think such a scenario would reduce the divorce rate to practically nil. there'd be a lot of unhappy people but hey, they created their own misery. at the same time, the marriage rate would decrease too. no more quickee bullshit just to get divorced weeks or months later. the sanctity of marriage would be preserved. kids? they'd be fine. i got radical views on that issue that i won't share here. polygamy? nothing wrong with that at all as long as all parties are open and honest about it and got no probs with it going into the relationship. open marriage? no prob with that either. depending on the strength of the relationship and gumption of the spouses, such a clause would prevent all these so-called affairs. clearly there's so many affairs that occur that it makes marriage look silly. but you ain't gotta be married to cheat. i think it speaks of the human condition. you gotta understand how humans operate. cheating is a fact of life. not everyone does it or will do it. but when it happens, oh boy is it a ****! most married people i know ain't happy, spouses cheat but never tell each other about it. they keep it on the hush. cheating ain't goin nowhere. it might be a necessary evil actually. i don't agree with it but statistically, relationships just might need that spice to keep them alive. even if you know you chose the right person, they could still cheat. some are sneaky and smart about it and don't get caught. others are stupid. i don't condone it but it happens. that's reality. we don't want it to occur, but it does. so what do we do as it relates to marriage, kids, love, etc? put a clause on it! either let 'em cheat or take 'em to the cleaners if they do.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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need some advice Posted: 10/20/2009 5:37:07 AM
it's pretty simple really. you smoke cigarettes. that's gonna put you below anyone else automatically. so you can either quit and increase your chances or keep smoking but realize your position on the dating totem pole and the type of woman you'll attract because of your habit.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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Japanese Music Posted: 10/14/2009 6:01:20 AM
^^inuyasha wasn't cancelled. it was just delayed so that the manga series could end. and now that it's over, the anime has restarted. it's called 'inuyasha: the final act."

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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How does one define what is recent pictures? Posted: 10/10/2009 5:16:03 PM
recent has many definitions. really boils down to how graceful people age. my profile has a mixture of pics ranging from a few weeks ago to close to 4 or 5 years ago but my appearance hasn't changed one single bit in a good 10 years. i've packed on a little more muscle, sure, but a pic of me from several years ago would look practically the same as a pic of me now. the way i see it, if a chick or guy don't present themselves in person as they do on their profile, then they're liars. meaning if a person has great body pics but is flabby in person or face looks young then when you meet, they got wrinkles galore. that's just outright lying. i know for a fact that's a tactic many people use in online dating to get attention but i think it's bullshit. i'll respect you more for being honest. nor would i judge based on appearance. if the convo is good and you're no spring chicken, who cares? might not be any romance but there could be a good friend there. now, if someone just outright doesn't want to send you a pic and you think you're cool with them enough to ask them for one and they refuse and make excuses yet they're technologically capable of sending you a pic, provided you're capable of sending one too (fair is fair), then there's some shady biz going on there. when people you're just getting to know start playing games, time to put the monopoly board away and cash out.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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Do you guys read all/most posts in a thread before deciding to post a reply? Posted: 10/10/2009 5:02:43 PM
i mainly post to topics of interest. i'll read the majority of them for knowledge's sake and add to them if i have an opinion. i prefer to generate discussion but i know that won't always happen. depends on the depth of the topic.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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would really like help on this question Posted: 10/10/2009 4:57:19 PM
palm, this issue has been beaten to death and pof won't budge on it for whatever reason. just do a search for that term 'must not have contacted users looking for intimate encounters' and a whole plethora of threads, many of them closed by pof for some reason, will appear. so many complaints about it over the years but they do nothing about it. yet they get rid of many good features that practically no one complains about. the only way to get a clean slate is to create a totall new profile and start from scratch.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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Not allowed to contact/message other users Posted: 10/10/2009 4:53:06 PM
scroll all the way to the bottom of the profile's page and check their mail settings restrictions. if you don't meet one or more of those criteria, you can't message them and you'll get that message. also, they could've blocked you for whatever reason. soon as i open a profile that may seem interesting, i just scroll straight to the bottom to see if i can message them or not, if i was inclined to make first contact. if i know i can't, on to the next profile. no sense in wasting time on someone who doesn't want to know you at all.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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messaging Posted: 10/10/2009 4:44:49 PM
this thread should help, johnny: <a href="http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3133546.aspx">http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts3133546.aspx</a> all the answers aren't there though as the pof mail system does have nagging, persistent issues that have never been cleared up yet have been mentioned multiple times in the forums. sent messages not appearing happens to a lot of us.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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Buffalo Bills fan here Posted: 10/4/2009 6:07:45 PM
was at the game 2day. was a total disaster. never seen them or any other team play that bad or sloppily. they DEFINITELY need to make some roster changes.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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Buffalo Bills fan here Posted: 9/28/2009 7:54:29 PM
not gonna front like i follow the bills on a weekly basis. it's been several years since i've seen a game. but i'm gonna make an effort this year to get back into it. actually going to the miami game on 10/4 for my very 1st live nfl game but certainly not rooting for the fins. win or lose, i'll be a bills fan no matter what, regardless of how long it's been since i've seen them play. someone made me aware of these vids. 1st is of ellis lankster's lack of interview skills: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3_WxcNirNDM 2nd is a remix of that vid. classically funny! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rFQTaXY6eP8

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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fringe(the tv show) Posted: 9/28/2009 7:41:52 PM
if you need to catch up on the first season, there's always bittorrent. i'm kinda busy these days so i have the 1st 2 eps sitting on my dvr. will get to them soon along with the third ep. will make for good viewing watching them all back to back to get caught up. never saw x-files so i can't make any comparisons to that. fringe stands alone in the current tv landscape. nothing else like it on tv and that originality is good.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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So unreliable but what can i do? Posted: 9/17/2009 7:38:35 AM
i think we all have probs with unreliable people in our lives. and yes, we even consider those people our friends. i myself have a few that are like that. they don't shit on me all the time but i know enough about their behavior to know when to include them in anything and when not to. 10 years is a long time to be vested in the relationship. in that amount of time, you should know that she's gonna shit on you at certain times. her reliability shouldn't be in question cuz you already know that word doesn't mean shit to her. she's not the problem. you are. you, her, and other people know she's unreliable. for you to think she's gonna change overnight makes you the fool. clearly you haven't said a word to her about it over the years. i guess now is as good a time as any to expres how you feel. at the same time, if she's a true friend, you should be able to say what you want, when you want. so you need to evaluate your definition of a friend and what you expect in a friendship cuz right now, it clearly ain't much and that speaks about your own self worth and life experience. then you need to figure out this person's value to you. what do they contribute to your life. if the negatives outweigh the positives, then it doesn't take a genius to figure out what needs to be done.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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any indy pro-wrestling fans out there? Posted: 9/15/2009 7:43:13 AM
been a fan my whole life. don't watch any american wrestling on tv although i have plenty of access. don't even download the torrents either. for what's available, none of it is worth watching but i do keep up to date on the industry via news sites. only wrestling i actively watch now is aaa lucha libre on galavision. been watching it for over 10 years now. it's not perfect but better product than what's on US tv. other feds i'd like to give a shot just aren't available to watch online or tv. i attend indy shows regularly here in florida when i have time. prob is that the product here is stale so not much of it is worth paying for. last indy show i went to was a few months back. vintage wrestling is the indy feds name.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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Impatient in meeting Posted: 9/4/2009 8:45:52 AM
i don't believe in pressuring someone to meet. if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. it shouldn't be a complicated process. if there's even a shred of drama involved and you haven't even met yet, then it probably ain't gonna be worth it over the long haul. i said PROBABLY, not DEFINITELY. i've never pressured a woman to meet. i am accomodating and try to find out what their schedule is and try to gel it with mine to find out when we'd both have free time. from there, either me or her makes suggestions on a meet. if after x amount of times one party or the other can't set something up and set it in stone, then we call it quits. it won't work. it's better to find these things out upfront. situations do change though, so if you deem the person is worth it, then try to make it work. but keep in mind a relationship is 50/50. you shouldn't be doing all the work. i actually have been pressured to meet. OP says men rush to meet but that's a two-way street. happens to us men too. I've found that a lot of women are impatient and want things instantly and rush to meet. there's a myriad of reasons men and women do this. they all have their reasons, i suppose. most common excuse i hear in the forum is that people dont wanna waste their time. being that this is online dating, it's kinda expected that there's gonna be some email exchange before things progress. I don't rush to meet. I let things happen naturally. that don't mean i take things super slow. just means that i know when anything is rushed, the end result is usually negative. everything takes time to develop. BUT if the interest and time is there and nothing is stopping either party from meeting, even 1 hour after a first contact email, then i say go for it. that's happened to me too. just take things as they come but be smart about it.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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Anime Fans Posted: 8/28/2009 6:58:45 PM
adult swim is like 100 eps behind but they have a good chunk of eps dubbed and theyre showing them back to back so theyre catching up pretty quick. i got into bleach from the televised dubs. fully aware of the dattebayo subs and have even watched some when i miss a tv ep. but i cant sit down to watch 100 eps just to get caught up like that. luckily the dub isnt bad. i am up to date on fullmetal alchemist brotherhood and dragon ball kai though. but bleach is really good. liked it from the outset. several weeks ago there was lots of filler eps but i suspect that was done to give the manga time to get more books out. but now theyre back on track and the eps are really good again. its the only tv anime i watch now along with moribito which just started back up.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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He/she is smart... Posted: 8/21/2009 11:39:49 AM
i don't even use the term common sense. never have. cuz if it was so common, why do the vast majority of people seem to not have or apply it? i just say "use your brain" rather than "use common sense." we all got a brain but that so-called sense is non-existent in too many people. there are actually 3 types of smarts: book, street, and life. no one talks much about the life smarts or is even aware that the term exists. but to OP, the situations and people you're talking about are definitely related to life smarts. you can be as educated as you wanna be, you can get your hustle on as well as the next cat, but when it comes to using both of those in tandem and applying all that knowledge to managing your own life, some people just fail miserably. they don't have life smarts. this is something that's developed over time. it's directly related to personal experience. basically, you gotta learn from your mistakes. if you keep ****ing up over and over again, and you reach a certain age where you SHOULD have most of your life lessons tucked away under your belt, then those life smarts just haven't kicked in for you yet. emphasis on yet. cuz some people truly never learn. also, you gotta take into consideration the mental and social level of the people making the comments that someone else is smart. if the person saying it is an idiot, who are they to gauge intelligence or smarts? and who's to say what they're referring to when they say someone else is smart? me, i've got all 3 smarts under my belt. if i say someone is smart, that means they've got all 3 tucked away too. to me, the term smart is all-inclusive of all 3 levels of smarts. but if i say someone is intelligent, that's more topical than all-inclusive if that makes sense. that would mean to me they have very specific knowledge on a subject and i'd be absolutely convinced that they know what they're talking about. as far as people reading newspapers or whatever to front like they have an intellectual side, those people ain't hard to spot. most people know a bullshitter when they're talking to one. that is, if they're smart...

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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Drugs now legalized in Mexico. Posted: 8/21/2009 11:18:40 AM
interesting. they're not going full out legalization. rather specific amount decriminalization. its a start. people that wanna use drugs are gonna use it regardless. trying to prosecute them is futile cuz all it does is clog up the courts, use police manpower unnecessarily, cost taxpayers more dollars in the process, and use up resources that could be applied elsewhere. i like how they seek to help rather than hurt for those people that are addicts versus casual users. but like i said, it's a start. doesn't solve the problem of decreasing demand. actually it increases it now that i look at it clearer. i think it should be a matter of making it easier to get which would substanticallyl decrease the violence and corruption. taking out the dealer aspect is where the problem lies. if people could just get what they want without having to be shady about it, they wouldn't have to worry about the dealer on the corner or the suppliers. tax it and get paid. legalize it too. all of it. turn dope dealing into a legit biz. not much diff than how some people view abortion clinics. at same time, some countries are very lax with rules on drugs and don't have the crime or corruption that places like mexico and the US have with this useless war on drugs. clearly those that want, use, and sell drugs are winning.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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Why are there so many attractive women on POF? Posted: 8/7/2009 5:46:21 PM
most guys outgoing enough to say hi are usually players first off, you know what you look like so don't front. second, if you have that attitude at your age, you're already jaded kinda early don't u think? you can't say hi back? you think every guy wants to get in your pants, which a lot do but not all of us, then you gotta look at what you're presenting to the guy. most college age kids are one-track minded so that's just something you're gonna have to put up with for a few more years. not saying there ain't an exception in the mix, but you know. i ain't gotta spell it out. don't blame us cuz how we operate is painfully obvious. how you react and adjust is what determines your relationship success. and vice versa too.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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Why are there so many attractive women on POF? Posted: 8/6/2009 5:46:48 AM
you ain't figured that out by now, red buttons? lol. one would figure that they WOULD read the comments and attempt to learn how men think, whether they're joking or being serious. the opinions matter. you'd think that they WOULD take some of it to heart and use that info to make better choices in men. and vice versa. but some people can't learn, never learn, don't wanna learn. they like themselves the way they are and figure the other person needs to conform to them, or they want instant perfection, rather than both parties learning a little word called compromise. personal change goes a long way too. and one WOULD think when a person hits a certain age that they'd have learned a little something by then but clearly that ain't the case. don't know if it's just online dating or people in general. ain't figured that one out yet. but the individual is usually the source of their own problems, not everyone else. that's one thing i HAVE learned in my life.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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New Feature: Date Night ! Posted: 8/5/2009 7:16:47 AM
i applaud your gumption. i'm not judging or looking down on anyone. what i see is nothing more than observations. and based on my internet dating experience, i've developed a sense of how things work. and my eye is pretty keen if i do say so myself. i certainly don't know everything, nor will i ever. some things happen to me here that are just completely unexplainable. that's why i'm glad the forums exist so that i can generate discussion to possibly get answers and advice to improve my success and gain knowledge. you're doing the right thing by moving on if you don't meet with success. that's what i do also but i also analyze the situation for understanding. i understand that some things just don't have the right answer and in those cases, you just gotta shake your head and shrug it off. there's more to it than someone not being interested. people are on here for various reasons. not interested is the top reason but there are others. and if they're not interested, and a pattern develops, you gotta wonder why no one is biting or the wrong people are. that's why i say tweaks are in order for some people. That should be their choice. Your statement makes it appear like things should be done your way, the only right way. the only things on earth that should be done my way are the things i and i alone do. everyone else can and should do things their way cuz it's their life. but i do learn from my mistakes, from my experiences, and from others. if someone else's way is better, believe me, i'll certainly try it. it never, ever hurts to try something new at least once if it makes sense and no one and nothing will be hurt in the process. within that 75 mile radius, are there a good selection of AVAILABLE women? meaning you can contact them? and would you be willing to go beyond that radius to increase your dating odds?

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

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New Feature: Date Night ! Posted: 8/4/2009 11:46:20 PM
Anyways, what's so terrible about a woman who is (in your terms) a "serial dater"? All I see that meaning is she likes to go out and have a good time, and is not ready to settle down. and herein lies the problem. THEY ARE looking to settle down. chicks i know are pretty vehement about it too. chicks profiles i see are either long term or dating, not friends or hang out. people don't date for no reason. they date to find a suitable mate for sex or long term. i don't have a prob with chicks that are always on the dating scene. i DO have a prob when their actions contradict their words. i explained the flip side of date night. maybe they aren't finding dates and that's fine. but as you said, the feature has been here a few months. let's say you lived where i live and you saw the same chicks signed up all the time since day one. and let's say you also signed up sometimes. let's say you were a match. let's say there's no contact restrictions. let's say you send an email to those you thought were a match with but they never reply. or let's say you didn't send any email but they never contacted you. so they want a date with someone that they should have a good time with (it's just a date after all) and both parties are available. but both of you are still sitting at home on a friday night. not saying this has happened to me. i only signed up once and got no results. that was good enough for me. and of the multitude of chicks on the list, i could only contact maybe 4. i have no email restrictions so any of them could contact me, but it didn't happen. so the mail settings do play a part. and yes, some females do make first contact. actually, a lot do but not in this case. nothing wrong with signing up week after week. just realize how some (not all) people will view it (depending on the metro area). but what i'm saying is if a person who signed up ain't getting the right results, they need to change who they choose to date, change what people see in their profile, and/or change their mail settings. obviously your mileage will vary cuz of where you are. but think if you were back in detroit (when that local economy was good) and you really did see all these available females. you're signed up on one side, they're signed up on another. profiles match up. no email restrictions. yet both of you are always on the list all the time and you yourself ain't gettin' no dates. what would that say or look like to you? i'm curious.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 60 (view)

New Feature: Date Night ! Posted: 8/4/2009 10:31:08 PM
the reality is that some of these women on here ARE serial daters. i've known some and still know some as friends. and yes, they go on multiple dates in a week but are still single. blame themselves, blame the guy, whatever it is, something somewhere ain't adding up. the "not willing to settle" and "i attract losers" excuse gets lame after a while. they're not breaking the rules at all but this goes back to the serial dating thing. are they getting dates and it's not working out and they come right back here to start the process all over again with the same results week after week after week? or are they not getting dates and continuously signing up in the hopes that they will week after week after week? at some point, you gotta put the brakes on and figure something out that works and/or explore different avenues. i know i do. i don't think signing up quick increases anyone's chances of getting a date. you're gonna be on the list no matter what. part of the problem is the restrictions they have in place in their mail settings. people are gonna focus on those that they can contact rather than those that they can't. if i was inclined to send a first contact email, that's how i'd play it. so if they're not meeting with success, some profile, picture, and mail settings tweaks should be in order to make them stand out from the crowd. that's what i do and it works without using the date night feature. and not being too picky helps too. i know we all have our personal preferences but at some point you gotta start getting realistic if your current situation ain't changing in your favor. the date night feature can have a negative impact. if you're always on that list, you're either successfully getting dates yet constantly not meeting the right people which is a red flag. or you're not getting any attention and by signing up frequently kinda makes a person look desperate and lonely. that also could make other people question why they're always on the list to the point where they think something's wrong with that person. those are just my observations and i live in a large metro area. new people on the list, i can see. occasionally on the list, that's fine too. every single week since the start of the feature? i speak for myself, that's a red flag to me. i understand your circumstances are different cuz of your area and populace so a lot of my opinion won't apply to people in your boat. but where i'm at, this is what i see and how i see it.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 136 (view)

Why are there so many attractive women on POF? Posted: 8/4/2009 4:57:21 PM
The pool of men who are datable is not as big as the pool of datable women in lots of places, but not all. your post sounds incredibly cynical and even a little jaded. so you're saying women don't have their own set of problems that contribute to them not finding a suitable mate? and what's your definition of dateable? your own definition that you think applies to everyone, not just yourself.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 132 (view)

Why are there so many attractive women on POF? Posted: 8/3/2009 6:04:07 PM
I have a question for the men. If I send you an email and get no response, later I see that you were online today or yesterday, and the email shows unread, ....why?? I can understand that you might not want to continue a back and forth but you're back on the site, I guess to find someone. Aren't you even curious what's in the email? The only emails that I don't open are from known sheisters. If it's from someone else I at least open it even if I don't want to correspond with that person. Just curious!!??? when i used to send first contact emails, that happened to me a few times. i can't explain it. i'd see them online all the time, days and even weeks go by with the email unread. so i've learned to just delete the sent email after a while if i get no response. and i move on to greener pastures. it ain't just women, it happens to men too. i'd also love to hear any other theories on that behavior.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 127 (view)

Why are there so many attractive women on POF? Posted: 8/3/2009 3:45:12 AM
Few people today would think an unattractive woman should settle for the first man who would have her even if she doesn't love him, so why should a more attractive person be expected to? What's the difference? the difference, as has already been stated, is that hot girls get more attention, more selection, and therefore, more dates. some people keep on chiming in with excuse after excuse, usually relating to themselves, about why they're still single. same ol' song and dance: don't wanna settle, busy schedule, guys won't approach me. it's all bullshit. busy schedule? then lighten the load and make yourself available. cuz if you think a guy's gonna keep you and you're never around, then you're crazy. and you wonder why they keep disappearing. guys won't approach you? then what's stopping you from approaching them? if they're intimidated, then they're insecure and you probably don't wanna deal with them anyway. some red flags are obvious. don't wanna settle? well who does? this one is also obvious. keep attracting losers? then don't hang out where losers are. they say you're no better than the company you keep and i believe that. and instead of dating left and right and not learning jack shit, start being a little more stringent. learn what you like and don't like, learn compromise and start getting real with yourself. if you keep getting crap, one would think that you'd get tired of the smell after awhile. no one is good enough for you? no one is on your level? it's great to be accomplished but you gotta look past some things and start looking at the stuff that matters. just cuz a guy don't make as much as you don't mean he's piss poor and don't know how to save. just cuz he drives a hooptie don't mean he's wasting money away on that car note. just cuz he don't dress all high society and shit don't mean he ain't "cultured." i could go on and on about the nitpicky shit i hear about. if material shit is what you got to complain about then it ain't the guy that's the problem (in some cases). it's just the law of numbers. hot girls can pick and choose who they date. but when you go on, let's say, 2 dates a week for 3 months (i've known women who go on 3 dates a week or more so this ain't impossible) and you still haven't found a good guy strictly based on the numbers, then something just ain't right somewhere. if you're still on a site like this, that marital status section never changing and years have passed, in combination with other sites and real world dating, and "on paper" you're considered a catch YET YOU'RE STILL SINGLE, then something just ain't right somewhere! average and below average folk ain't gonna get the attention a hot chick or even a hot guy does. that's the difference. some people on here profess getting dozens and even hundreds of email over a week's span. some say they can't possibly sort through it all or read them all. regardless of that, that's dozens and even hundreds of potential suitors. and you're telling me you can't find a decent guy/girl out of DOZENS AND HUNDREDS? like i been saying, something just ain't right somewhere...

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 160 (view)

Lets Talk Politics - Do you believe in the Death Penality? Posted: 8/2/2009 5:45:33 PM
When you apply "no merit" to an opinion, it simply means that you disagree... although it's a condescending way of expressing your disagreement. no merit means exactly that: no merit. would you ask for fishing advice from someone you know has never gone fishing before? if they gave you advice, and you knew they had no clue what the hell they were talking about, would it still hold weight? you'd have to ACCEPT it cuz that's what they're giving you. You even have to RESPECT it cuz they tried, even if they make no sense. their opinion and advice has no merit in this situation. you neither agree nor disagree. you just take it for what it is and filter out what you feel is worthy and discard what's not.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 158 (view)

Lets Talk Politics - Do you believe in the Death Penality? Posted: 8/2/2009 5:36:21 PM
What exactly does it mean if someone else's opinion is "invalid" to you? That certainly doesn't line up with respect. allow me to explain. an invalid opinion is one that has no merit. like when i was unemployed, a friend of mine kept telling me to go to job fairs and kept on hyping the opportunities that are there, how i'd increase my odds of getting a job, that he respects those that take the time to attend rather than sitting at home on their ass doing nothing or collecting an easy paycheck from the government and shit like that. problem is, he's never once in his damn life ever been to a job fair. in addition, he's been employed throughout this whole economic crisis and therefore has no clue about employment trends cuz he admits he doesn't stay on top of those things. yet he's trying to give me advice. all he knew of job fairs was what he saw in newspaper and internet ads and local tv news reports. he had no real world, hands-on, personal experience with them. but i do, although in the past. being unemployed, for me, meant having no choice but to stay up on trends and networking. i'm gainfully employed again through my own efforts, never attending a job fair since my previous experience with them and personal knowledge, and negative things i've heard from others. so even though his opinion is completely and totally invalid, i have no choice but to respect and accept it cuz that's his opinion. what you call taking it at face value. i can try to change someone's mind but it's up to the individual to decide what's fact from fiction. and he still promotes and believes in job fairs.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 155 (view)

Lets Talk Politics - Do you believe in the Death Penality? Posted: 8/2/2009 4:24:16 PM
Either that or they simply express themselves differently then you do. Making such assumptions in a casual conversation just as this seems to be a bit bullying, IMO. Try taking others' thoughts and opinions at face value instead of suggesting inferiority (or worse, that their opinions aren't valid simply because they are not expressed as you would prefer.) i respect everyone's opinion and i never take anything at face value unless i have to. i never think anyone or their opinions are inferior to my own either. some things you have to accept as they are. i think we can agree on that. in this case, i have to accept the opinions of people who can't express themselves fully. i don't agree with it or the god complex; and those particular opinions are invalid to me cuz they're not expressive of the individual but rather the god that they created in their own mind. but i do accept them.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 153 (view)

Lets Talk Politics - Do you believe in the Death Penality? Posted: 8/2/2009 4:07:48 PM
It is more common than not for individuals to base their opinions on their overall belief system, and faith is often a part of that. God is relevant because it's an opinion, not because of the topic of the opinion. faith is one thing but god is a seperate entity altogether. so for someone to throw god into the mix generally means that they don't have their own valid opinions. god forms their opinions, not themselves, when they have to include that. and that generally makes their opinions invalid cuz it's not their own if that makes sense. like this discussion is about the death penalty. it's clear when someone's rhetoric is lacking that they play the god card due to their lack of debating skills. all the god references mean nothing because it's irrelevant to the topic at hand. SAguy is simply refuting those invalid arguments and I'm with him on that.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 55 (view)

Is it really that hard to have a good time... Posted: 8/2/2009 8:19:36 AM
Like the woman who posted about the wood fixation guy, I once learned more than I ever wanted to know about bovine in vitro fertilization. at least you learned something new so it wasn't a complete waste of time, was it? you never know when getting a cow pregnant will come in handy...

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 113 (view)

Why are there so many attractive women on POF? Posted: 8/1/2009 10:48:55 PM
Nobody knows their personal business and why the hell does it matter? What is beautiful to one if not beautiful to another. Beauty in the eye of the beholdier. you're right. no one but them knows why they're single. but it matters cuz OP asked a question and we're all entitled to our opinions. and we all know physical beauty when we see it and there's one standard that exists in EVERY beholder, not just one. if you retained your smarts but had perfect 10 looks, no kids, and lived in a major metro area, just ask yourself, would you still be single?

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

unsure.. Posted: 8/1/2009 7:26:07 PM
i mean i dont have sex but i mean really that cant be it. well i hope not....so lost and confused... these people in here are coddling you, vivi. trying to be your parent. **** that. i'm gonna tell you exactly how it is. your last sentence is the reason why you always get cheated on. men your age ain't looking for committment. they're looking to bust a nut. and if it ain't with you, then it's gonna be with someone else. simple as that. i also peeped your profile. you're into the rock scene which is cool. but you know just as well as i do the types of men that are into that culture. and by you not putting out, you know what's gonna happen already so why kid yourself? you're still a jit. you got a lot of learning to do about yourself and about men. i ain't telling you to sleep around or even put out when you do meet a good guy. stick to your morals. but don't be surprised when another guy into the culture that you're into shits on you again. there may be an exceptional guy in there somewhere but, as your dating history has already shown, you're gonna be hard pressed to find him or for him to find you. you're getting jaded way too early. get real with yourself and what you're looking for and make better choices in men. if you gotta look outside of your scene, then do that cuz obviously what you're doing now ain't workin' out for you.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 111 (view)

Why are there so many attractive women on POF? Posted: 8/1/2009 7:07:17 PM
I say this member should be the leader of us all!! LOL kow does stand for King Of the World. I'll lead bravely and boldly! Taking a known person like Jennifer Anniston and looking into her too often publicized life doesn't it seem if this beauty equation were true she'd have long ago been happily involved with someone? Is she merely dating around or can she not see a fool for what he is long before she gets involved and possibly hurt in the process? My guess is she's NOT happy with those fools she's been known to date and dump her, often it being discovered they were cheating on her! Now ain't THAT ironic? you can add jessica simpson, paris hilton, and jennifer love hewit to that list too. and all of the kardashian sisters who are newly single...AGAIN! kendra won't be far off either. that's just a prediction. all of them are 10's on anyone's list. but all of them, like j. lo in the past, keep making bad choices in men (except paris who's just a whore) and it's all pretty well publicized too. it just proves that looks ain't everything. gotta be something going on upstairs too if you wanna get kept rather than used up and passed around. and not anything psycho going on upstairs either. i mean stable and smarts. i ain't saying that the pof hotties or other hot girls are crackpots but there's gotta be something wrong with THEM, not the guy, if they're always single for so long after so many dates and if guys don't want them, or they continually go through men like a blackjack dealer through a deck of cards.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 58 (view)

New Feature: Date Night ! Posted: 8/1/2009 6:53:52 PM
i don't see more women or less women signing up for date night on my end. what i do see is the same women week after week on that list. so they're either serial daters or no one's biting their fishing hook and they're continuing to give it a shot. also, new members are on the list too. but the repeat offenders take up a lot of the space and take it up pretty quick. it's saturday night and i've chosen to stay in but from the time the list cleared on friday to now, a lot of the same women are already back on that list. i doubt it's automated. they have to initiate it themselves. which leaves me to wonder why they're so quick to sign back up? we're talking hours after the list clears, not days. i'm inclined to send an inquiry to one or some of them find that answer.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

don't know what to do Posted: 8/1/2009 7:48:30 AM
if you think he's worth it, and neither of you are pushing to meeting, distance ain't an issue, and you're the one who really wants to meet meaning you have stronger feelings towards him than he does towards you, then you should communicate to him that you wanna meet. he said he ain't ready but time goes by and minds change. don't nudge him too hard to the point where you'll potentially lose him altogether. push for a simple meet. don't gotta be nothing fancy, no money has to be involved. nothing more than a meeting between friends to kick it and get to know each other a little better. schedules permitting of course. if both of you are willing to put in the effort, you can meet and see if things are worth pursuing. let him know you wanna meet, first off. and if he's stand-offish about it or makes excuses, then you'll know you can put him in the friend category and move on. you're already dating others, he probably is too, so it ain't like you're attached to him. but for your own sanity, since you're comparing other guys to this ghostly figure, i think you need to know what he's all about. then you can close that mental door you still have open that you won't let anyone into. but like i said, don't nudge too hard or you may be the one really losing out. some women are just incredibly impatient and rush for a meet or a date or whatever. like they're desperate. some people call it a waste of time to "drag things out" only because they already have other options they wanna explore anyway. so those women who are biting way more than they can chew will always have a plate full of food that never gets eaten. don't listen to them. they create their own problems. thus just one of several reasons why they're still single. give him a fair chance to fully impress rather than write him off before you've even got a chance to know who he really is and then moving on to the next relationship,which usually fails. you even admit you've dated others (plural) since knowing him but you're still single, ain't you? slow it down, self-evaluate, make better choices. let things take their natural course but don't keep taking no for an answer if you're not getting valid reasons to not meet. you'll know if he's serious or not. just keep the first meeting low-key, which too many people tend to not do, and you shouldn't have any problems getting him in front of your face instead of in front of your cell phone screen.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 109 (view)

Why are there so many attractive women on POF? Posted: 7/31/2009 10:29:51 PM
There may be so many attractive women on here because alot of people (me included) have this perception that if we see an attractive woman on the streets, at the store, at the mall or wherever, that she must be in a relationship. Because our perception is "a woman that attractive MUST have a boyfriend/husband". here's my take on the issue. some guys know from experience that when saying hello to SOME women, especially the top tier ones, that they don't even get a hello in return. the chick(s) just keep on moving or ignore you. and what do most guys say in response? "damn, you can't speak?" guys know exactly what i'm talking about. for all the people here talking about beauty is in the eye of the beholder and shit like that, yes, it's true. i do agree with that. but we all know there is a standard of beauty that exists in this world and when we see it, i don't give a damn what your preference is, we know it. hot girls in real life are just as approachable as any girl. problem is that some bad apples give them a bad name. the stuck-up, shallow ones that base everything on looks. that dress skimpy yet are surprised and sometimes appalled at the attention they get. on the flip side, you got the ones that crave it. on this site, you got both. the ones that are playing games to get an ego stroke and the ones that are legitimately looking for a mate and expanding their dating horizons. from my own observations on this site, i see top tier women who are still on this site for years and i have to question why? these women have access to any man, anywhere, anytime. that's indisputable. i don't ask average looking cats why they're single. i don't ask those with kids. or overwieght people. in all their cases, it's obvious. the only ones i question are the hot girls, age unimportant, with no kids. the ones that don't smoke. are (hopefully) light or non-drinkers. don't do drugs. ain't overly religious. in other words, that ain't got hang-ups preventing them from dating successfully. there truly is no valid reason why they could still be single for so long (excluding geographical location). if there's a good selection of men in their area, how is it possible that literally years have gone by and they're still single? let's assume their looks intimidate others in the real world. don't mean shit in online dating cuz they're the ones getting all the email. dozens or even hundreds. so of that many men (a lot of whom ain't just lookin' to get laid), you're telling me NOT ONE of them has fit the bill over that period of time? i know damn well if i was top tier that i'd be out there dating and after x amount of dates, someone would HAVE to be keepable. i'd make time to get out there. a busy schedule is absolutely no excuse! you're on a dating site but you aren't dating? you get emails from eligible men but find reasons not to date? yes, hot chicks can be picky. no doubt about it. why? because they can be. but when EVERYONE don't meet your standards, are your standards unrealistic? or is something wrong with you? who's the real problem here: you or the guy? in that case, it boils down to picking better men. i'll still question why hot girls on dating sites are still single for such a long amount of time when they're the ones getting all the attention, all the selection, and if they wanted to, all the dates. some of the reasons i've heard in this thread are legit but a lot of them are just bullshit excuses. i can see about a few months going by, but years? status never changing from single to not single/not dating, married, or even divorced. just perpetually single and serially dating. so just who are these women going out with on dates, if anyone, if they're really looking for long-term rather than a free meal, a lay, and some bills paid?

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 49 (view)

Is it really that hard to have a good time... Posted: 7/29/2009 9:08:08 PM
only once in my dating life has a woman ever been right up front with me about why things didn't work out and that was years ago. at the time, i thought it was a real **** move. but now, in retrospect, i can appreciate that kind of honesty. no hard feelings. lessons learned. you're right, womaninprogress, it does all depend on the person. on the giving and receiving end. some people can't handle rejection so some people aren't so forward with it cuz they don't know if the reaction will be negative or not. so they don't risk it. instead, we have situations like OP where there's little to no communication or things are cut off and end just like that with one or both sides having no clue what the hell happened. as far as why someone would continue a date with someone that they know ain't gonna work over the long term and that they don't plan on maintaining a friendship with. i don't know. haven't gathered enough info from others or had enough of those types of experiences to form an opinion just yet. me personally, i've only had one date in my life that ended early and that was less than a week ago. other than that, my dates were finished all the way through with everyone else i've gone out with and there was communication after. so i don't know in his case if it's wrong or mixed messages. but if that's how he sees it, there's gotta be a reason.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 47 (view)

Is it really that hard to have a good time... Posted: 7/29/2009 12:22:03 PM
ok notatowniegirl, i gotcha. seems that guy was one track minded and self-absorbed so you did the right thing. at least he was talking about wood and wood products and not propane and propane accessories. that was a bad joke wasn't it? hey, i tried...

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 41 (view)

Is it really that hard to have a good time... Posted: 7/28/2009 9:33:01 PM
I've been out on dates where I've left early, and been told off about it/found out he was talking behind my back. It only makes me more sure that I was better off away from him. i'm not quick to judge so i'll ask before i say anything...did you just ditch the guy and leave him hangin' with no notice? did you come up with an excuse to get out of the date early? or did you let him off easy and end the date early cuz you wasn't feelin' it? and was anything communicated to him as to why you bailed or why it wasn't workin' out? you ain't gotta give specifics but you're making it sound like the guy was ALL of the problem.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 94 (view)

Filtering out Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex. Posted: 7/28/2009 6:41:05 PM
^i did see your previous post and it disappeared so i thought YOU deleted it. i guess not. maybe someone else did somehow. who knows. i wasn't aware 'other relationship' could be considered as seeking sex or lumped together with 'intimate encounter.' if that's the case, shouldn't 'activity partner' also apply? activity can have multiple meanings just like the other two. pof probably ain't gonna change nothing no time soon cuz they need the money just like any other free site. they need the page loads, time spent on the site, clicks, etc and filtering won't help that. it'd help people like all of us tremendously by saving us time and giving us better search results. but it's a free site and we gotta take the bad with the good. personally, the filter hasn't really affected my success rate much cuz i very rarely send 1st contact emails anyway. even if the filter was removed and if i thought there might be a connection, i still probably wouldn't send anything cuz i've seen enough read/unread deleted emails and gotten enough non-replies. but that doesn't mean i wouldn't wanna see improvements to search capabilities and results and possibly give them a try. CLOSED - Mail Settings: Why was my IE Filter Discussion Thread Closed? - Enough with the never ending circular discussions that lead nowhere - If need be, write to Admin.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

How much $$$ is enough for you? Posted: 7/28/2009 3:00:22 PM
i stay up on financial markets. i try to keep a diverse portfolio. dividend paying stocks, interest bearing accounts, cash back credit cards, reward debit cards, and that list goes on and on. pretty much every penny i spend, i'm getting some kind of money back on it. and i'm definitely a saver, not a spender. i've been called cheap but the reality is that i'm frugal. i've came across one too many people that talk shit yet they're struggling and always complaining how broke they are. you know the type. i stay away from those peeps. my plan already is to be debt free by 40, so i only have 6 years to make that happen. the only major bills i have are my mortgage and student loans. once those are out of the way, any money i got coming in would be mostly all profit. a friend of mine is in life insurance and he put me up on game about deferred annuities (look into it if you're money conscious like me). without getting into too many details about it, if i had $200,000 right now, tax free, free and clear, i could pay off those two big bills, do some renovations, and then live comfortably for the rest of my life and never have to work ever again. that money would NEVER run out cuz i know how to stretch a dollar and how to make it grow. but i wouldn't horde all of it. i'd share the wealth where i deem it's worth sharing. i already give items and food to charity (but not money). but i feel i could make a bigger contribution and still live comfortably. i don't need to be mega-rich. i just want to live in a manner where i don't have to worry about money at all. i'm kinda like that now but i know how much of a cushion i'd need to put any money issues to rest for good.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

Is there any way Posted: 7/28/2009 2:42:30 PM
if your phone has bluetooth, use that to connect if you have a bluetooth dongle on your computer. that way you can just transfer wirelessly. otherwise, you need to buy a usb cable that fits your phone connector/charge port. micro usb is now the standard (minus the iphone) but if you have an older phone, you should still be able to find one easily. then connect to your computer and you should be good if you don't need any additonal software (like microsoft activesync) to make your computer see your phone files. or if you have a micro or mini sd card, you can simply remove it from your phone and put it into the appropriate card reader on your computer if you have one. or if your pics are stored on your phone instead of removable storage, you can leave them where they are and use the bluetooth or cable method. if not, move them to the storage card and use yours or someone else's card reader. or put the card in someone else's web enabled phone and (if they wanna use their data) have them email the pics to you. you got plenty of options.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 20 (view)

Is it really that hard to have a good time... Posted: 7/26/2009 11:49:58 AM
i recently met someone from here a few days ago for a "date." things were smooth at first, we were gonna go grab a bite to eat (seperate cars), but later on i got dissed by a phone call saying it wasn't gonna work out. i wasn't pissed or anything. i just accepted it for what it was. she was no longer interested for whatever reason. the key is trying to find that reason if she doesn't tell you. in my case, i concluded it was completely my fault that things didn't work out. i figured out what i did wrong and now that i'm aware of it, i'll make sure it doesn't happen again. all part of the dating experience. i'm not saying what happened with you is your fault. could rightfully be an issue with her. but clearly you fell out of favor with her. there is a reason but since neither of you are in contact with each other, you'll never know what it was. just consider it a learning experience if you can, figure out what was right and wrong, correct any mistakes if you need to, and learn how to read your partner. no after no after no is a huge red flag. something was getting to her. did you communicate with her or ask her what was the problem at that point? maybe it coulda been fixed.

kow626

Joined: 10/29/2006

Msg: 10 (view)

anyone ever see results using the no emails search? Posted: 7/21/2009 7:12:14 PM
i just noticed something about the results from the 'no emails' list. i was browsing around and decided to click that link. one flaw with it is that it doesn't say what city and state the user is from so you have to click their pro to find out. i did for a few and one thing they all had in common was that they either smoked cigarettes 'ocassionally' or 'often.' so i clicked on all the rest of them, whether they had a pic or not, and every single lady on the results list smoked cigarettes. yes, smoking cigs is an undesirable trait for most people. i dig that. you can include me in on that. but is this just a fluke that these results are what they are? are these women being singled out to be purposely included on that list? or do men simply not wanna deal with a chick that smokes? can anyone else confirm that all or the majority of women (or men) on your 'no emails' results list smoke?

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