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casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 51 (view)

Is this a date or a job interview? Posted: 11/15/2009 8:35:40 AM
Thats funny........I ask alot of questions.......but I'm just nosie........You've got to get to know them somehow....What better way than to ask questions?.... I'm gonna bring a memo pad on my next date...lol

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Should I Report This Guy? Posted: 11/15/2009 8:17:25 AM
Ok......Whats a LIBTARD? And this is supposed to be a DATING SIGHT not a (Lets talk or in your case Argue Politics) Sight. Guess I'm kinda on the dumb side. I dont give a ratsass about politics. I'm just trying to make it through the day without killing someone or myself...

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

Wanted : A Chemistry drug ! Posted: 11/8/2009 7:51:50 AM
I agree with Peggy, I dont want to waste time on emails and chatting on here too long. Just to find out when you finally meet in person, there's nothing there. Thats why I'm ready to meet them after one or two conversations on the phone. And they usually get scared and I dont talk to them anymore...lol

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 190 (view)

WHAT'S THE WORST DATE YOU HAD ON POF Posted: 11/8/2009 7:41:39 AM
Idoc, leave him alone.....And you're starting to sound very superficial. Fatties and crazies.....Geez....there are alot of overweight folks in the world...We need love too...lol And believe me, we get it..

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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What do you think of this? Posted: 10/17/2009 7:48:35 AM
Well you could cut him off on the phone just like the does to you. But I'd definately show up at his place unannounced but that's because I'm an *hole. You know he sounds like an *hole too...lol

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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The Stand-By Posted: 10/17/2009 7:42:30 AM
Hey! alot of us are looking for a relationship. I've been on this sight for a long, long time and let me tell ya...You are wasting your time on here. Most of the men are looking for Barbie dolls even though they arent Ken. And a good number are married on here just ****ing off. I did find a sight where I've gotten alot more responses than this one. Tagged.com. I dont know why its different. It's free just like this one but I've actually talked and met people in person on there. I gave up on this sight about a year ago. Now I just go to the forums to read...lol

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 24 (view)

Better off being single Posted: 10/17/2009 7:37:21 AM
I'd say a big fat "YES" to that. People don't tolerate much of anything anymore. And why should they? Although I don't like how they give up at the very first sign of a problem. So it's a good thing and a bad thing.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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She brought a friend to our date.. Posted: 10/17/2009 7:34:52 AM
I think you did the right thing leaving and you shouldn't even look back. She brought the friend because she doesn't really like you and she wanted someone else there to keep it short and sweet. Don't even waste your time with her and go out with the other girls you were talking about.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

A question for people in their 30's. Posted: 10/17/2009 7:29:05 AM
Dude...are you a virgin?... You sound antisocial. Or maybe you have a phobia about public places. Maybe you're just nuts. I'm just kidding. I understand how you feel. I feel kinda awkward too meeting strange people in a public place and trying to get to know them and see if I might like them or not from that one meeting. I do it anyway. Sometimes we hit it off...Sometimes we dont. It's just the chance you take. Good luck.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Texting endlessly Posted: 10/17/2009 7:19:44 AM
Beth I totally agree with you. I like texting just like a few little short messages like ( Have a good day) Or ( Call me later) But not total converstions. I have met a few guys who would rather text than talk. It got on my nerves. And it made me think he was with another woman and didnt want to get caught.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Whats wrong with him? Posted: 10/4/2009 7:53:00 AM
Games, games, games....He's got a girlfriend or wife and he just contacts you when things are rocky there. Dont even waste your time. Delete his number and dont answer his texts. He's just killing time and wasting yours.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

Money, money, mooonney...MOOOONNNNEY Posted: 10/4/2009 7:47:41 AM
Well I was the bread winner when I was married and my ex was Mr Mom but it wasnt because I wanted to be or because we made a decision to do it. He quit his job without worrying about how we'd pay the bills or how we'd have food. I had to get a second job to pay everything. I worked some days from 8am to 10 pm. I'd get home and my daughter would say..MOM can you help me with my homework? Because my ex wouldnt do it. I hated it and he loved it. He asked me one time if we could just keep living like this and he'd raise the kids. I told him if he didnt atleast try to find another job I was going to divorce him. So he finds one but then he wouldnt give me any money for the bills. He was putting his money in the bank and I was still paying everything....So thats when I kicked him out and filed for divorce...Enough was enough. So thats my story.... And to answer your Question...NO I wont do that again...sorry.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 71 (view)

Are ya ever just really relieved.....? Posted: 10/4/2009 7:36:01 AM
I like that word...Sociophobia...lol....I hate the first date/meeting too. Usually because when I meet them they usually dont look like their picture. 9 outta 10 they dont. I want to just not even sit down and talk to them. The last guy I met a couple of weeks ago told me his picture was a few months old. He had brown short hair and glasses. When I met him, he had gray hair and was almost bald on top. The first thing I said when I met him was...You dont look like your picture.... He said he got a hair cut.... Yeah??? Did they add some gray to your hair too?....and shave off the top bald??..

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Can ugly women get studmuffins/?? Posted: 10/3/2009 5:59:49 PM
Shallow.....Shallow.....Shallow....OH did I say Shallow....I like men with a nice little ass. But I've also been known to like men that are kinda big ,football player kinda stocky.....I thought that I only liked brunettes but the only man I ever really loved was a blue eyed blonde. There's just gotta be a connection. And it doesn't have to be perfection connection.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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People scared to get married and have children Posted: 10/3/2009 5:49:18 PM
My grandmother, according to my mother was angry, bitter, mean,abusive, pervertive, a liar and other things I can't even remember. My mother was not abusive but very distant. I didn't feel close to her at all. Me and my daughter are very close. I've told her for as long as I can remember that she can tell me anything. She and my son have taken this seriously and they do tell me everything. Sometimes things I don't want to hear. It's funny....Sometimes I think to myself, (Please I don't want to hear anymore) . I think it's the memory of what we've been through and we don't want our children to go through it. My daughter is very high strung like her dad but I'm very laid back. Some times I want to strangle her but I have the most patience with her than anyone else in the world because she is my child. I only hope her husband has patience too.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Dating 101...What do women want to hear? Posted: 9/18/2009 2:12:01 PM
You're 41 and don't know how to approach a woman? Are you sure you're not 15? What's worked for you in the past? Just be yourself. Ask her whatever you want to ask her. She's 31 and you're 41.. she's still more mature I bet...

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Meeting her other suitors? - wtf Posted: 9/18/2009 2:06:50 PM
You aren't the sharpest tool in the shed huh? I wouldn't have sat there and ate take out with the two of them. Thats just stupid. What were you thinking? Maybe you were thinking threesome since you didn't leave when you saw him there. Dumb as a bag of rocks.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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A little scared, I think I have contacted a weirdo Posted: 9/18/2009 2:01:28 PM
Hey since she doesn't have a car I really wouldn't worry about it. Whats she gonna do? Stalk you with a bike? And she didnt know who POF was.....someone else may have set this up for her. Who knows, who cares...move on.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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The infamous disappearing guy act Posted: 9/9/2009 10:33:40 AM
Landra..ur mean I like that. You do make a point. But the Op does too. Most of the men I've had dates with on this sight and on others didnt mean much to me either. But it was only because I never got a chance to really get to know them or them , me....They'd do the old couple of dates and we like each other ok and we chat and talk on the phone. And then it just starts fading out. Less phone calls , less dates and then its over before it ever started.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Do women want to have kids after 33-35ish? Posted: 9/9/2009 10:11:36 AM
ummm...I'm just the opposite of initfortheride. I have 2 , they are teenagers and I couldn't imagine starting over and having to deal with , no sleep, diapers, bottles, daycare, screaming kids at the store, the mall, restaraunts, driving, etc.......I'm tired...

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 192 (view)

How has your experience been with POF? Thumbs Up or Down? Posted: 9/9/2009 10:03:49 AM
UHHH, check how long I've been here. Ofcourse I've changed my profile where nobody bothers me. Actually nobody bothered me much before. I'm pretty scary looking and I'm mean too. But I have fun reading the funny forums. Especially the Worst Dates forums, those are hilarious.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Struggling with a conversation about children / abortion... Posted: 9/9/2009 9:58:30 AM
You dont know for sure what he'd actually do if you were in that situation. So you cant really say he wouldnt bale no matter what. I do understand your feelings about it though. So now you're thinking deep down that OH LORD..if I get pregnant he wont stand by me so I better not. But if you take your BC the way you're supposed to then your chances are pretty slim of getting knocked up.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

Having problems with my ex's new thing. Posted: 9/9/2009 9:54:33 AM
Well if this is a true story then it sounds like she's very insecure in her relationship with the ex. Maybe he still talks about you and compares her to you. Something like that happened to me once , although I didnt have a clue it was going on. I met up with an ex I hadnt seen in 2 years. We were talking about our present lives and he mentioned that a girl he dated right after me was very jelious of me and would say mean things about me. He'd tell her to shut up. After he told me this I was like( But she didnt even know who I was) But it was because he would compare her to me and she'd get mad about that....Maybe that's what is wrong with that Hooters girl.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 33 (view)

Guilt from the past Posted: 9/7/2009 8:08:36 AM
I dont like talking about my past. Mainly because I dont remember most of the late 80's and early 90's.. Now if they ask me about it I'll answer honestly. But to just start talking about it , I'm not big on that.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

Would you leave a relationship because you wanted marriage and your SO didn't? Posted: 9/6/2009 8:28:06 AM
I stopped seeing someone because he didnt have children and wanted them. I have 2 that are teenagers now and have no desire to start over again with diapers and bottles and no sleep etc..... So he goes and gets somebody else pregnant and wants to keep seeing me! WHAT? Anyways thats over and now he has child support for twins. Maybe I should've posted this story as a forum

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Boyfriend and girlfriend, and she gets up and leaves right after the sex is over! Posted: 9/6/2009 8:12:37 AM
This is something a woman would ask about a man. And yes I've done it. I had things to do and people to do, I mean places to go and people to do... WELL you know what I mean. Life is fast and alot of us are in a hurry sometimes. It doesnt mean we dont care or we're using the men. Or maybe it does but not always.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Is It Ever Ok or Is It Just Plain Rude Posted: 9/6/2009 8:05:05 AM
I agree with most of the other posters that it would be ok if the person lied about the way they look or their age or height whatever. I've never done that although I felt like it. But it was a very quick meet.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Any bbw hypocrites? Posted: 9/6/2009 7:56:26 AM
ilovehistory, wanna get married? On the comment about exercise actually causing weight gain, I can believe that. I made a new year resolution to walk atleast 5 days a week for 40 minutes. I've stuck to it , when I recently went to the doctor he said I'd lost a whole 1 POUND! But he said walking was the best exercise and keep at it. So I have but I'm not checking the scale. I'll just get depressed.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 500 (view)

Any bbw hypocrites? Posted: 9/6/2009 7:44:49 AM
Senko I'm in Ga....but your profile sais you're in Texas?.... I like the bigger men. I feel safer with them. They can protect me from the monsters under the bed. I wouldn't feel right with a guy that was smaller than me.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 23 (view)

The Game and its effectiveness Posted: 9/5/2009 4:18:23 PM
I dont understand why men think they need to trick women to date them or sleep with them or whatever. We are adults here, if I just want sex I'll let ya know, if I want a boyfriend I'll let ya know. Either way you dont have to lie and trick and be suave and menipulate. Just do it, or dont do it. The older I get the more I do just want a friend with benefits because when he leaves in the morning I dont have to do his laundry, clean up his crap or make his lunch.....

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 31 (view)

people in small towns...how do you find dates? Posted: 9/5/2009 3:50:50 PM
I live in a small town too in the mountains. There are men here but they are married, too old or too young... so I understand what your going through. But it seems to me the older I get the harder it is to find a man thats single, close to my age, and not a fruit cake.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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neediness vs aloofness Posted: 9/5/2009 10:32:22 AM
what does aloof mean? aloof, aloof, aloof is on fire.....aloof of bread, excuse me my shoe is aloof, Aloof my house right now, OH MY ALOOF, aloof it up, I feel sick, I'm going to aloof, you're glowing with aloofness.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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mind blowing Posted: 9/5/2009 10:21:18 AM
I have heard of some women dating when they were pregnant...I wouldn't and dont understand why a woman would. But I also knew a guy who dated a pregnant woman but he knew her before she got that way. He ended up marrying her and adopting the baby. Different strokes for different folks.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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People who have changed Posted: 9/5/2009 10:17:23 AM
Ok I dont think the twiggy is attractive at all. No ass no boobs, no nothing. And no I wouldnt want to be that small either. There's gotta be something to hold on too ya know?...Just like with men...I like big men not skinny ones. Something to hold on and so I'll feel safe. How's a 130 pound man gonna fight for my honor...lol

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Kissing Birds and then your date? Posted: 9/5/2009 10:12:54 AM
Well I'd definately suggest they go brush their teeth before I'd kiss them...And even then I dont know....I have a friend that likes to kiss her dog in the mouth and it grosses me out. She sais , dogs have the cleanest mouths and I say yeah but they lick their butt...

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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What to do,What to do? Posted: 8/30/2009 7:38:14 AM
Well if you really wanted to know the truth you could drive over there one day when he's not at home and knock on the door and see who answers. When I first started reading your post I thought he has a gay lover or something and then I read at the end that your ex husband had gay lovers...OH MY I hope for your sake that's not the case but people are crazy ya know?

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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The infamous disappearing woman, or is it just something about me?? Posted: 8/30/2009 7:32:17 AM
I know that if I'd gotten all those texts and emails and cards over one date it would have creeped me out. One email, one text, one card and leave it alone after that. I went and met this guy once at a restaurant for drinks and that was it. After that he'd send me a text everyday saying {I've let you know how I feel now the ball is in your court} After about 5 messages like that I finally text'd him back and said something like { Yes the ball is in my court leave me alone now}....If he hadn't sent all those text's I probably would've went out with him again but he creeped me out after that.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Super Awesome Date Idea Dilemma--suggestions? Posted: 8/30/2009 7:20:09 AM
Just plan something, go pick her up and let her find out what you've planned as it is happening. That way she won't have a chance to say ..NO Thanks I don't want to do that. You seem like a nice guy and she should be happy to do whatever with you as long as you are together. If I'm with someone I really like, we could just be walking around window shopping and I'd enjoy myself.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Dating a pregnant woman? Posted: 8/30/2009 7:02:30 AM
With all the birth control methods out there and free clinics there's really no reason for women to still be getting pregnant by ACCIDENT. When I wanted my kids I had them. When I didn't want anymore I made sure I'm not having anymore. Why's that so hard to do? Hell they'll tie your tubes for free.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Why do women who show cleavage get upset when a guy stares at their breasts? Posted: 8/30/2009 6:58:31 AM
I myself don't like shirts that are tight around my neck so most of the ones I buy are scoop necked or V necked. Therefore sometimes my cleavage may show. It doesn't mean I'm trying to show it and it doesn't mean I want men to look at it. I know sometimes they can't help it but I'd hope they'd move their eyes after a second or two.....

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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The Night that Didn't End so Well. Posted: 8/30/2009 6:55:27 AM
Dude! She obviously doesn't like you like you do. She probably just used you for a night out because she didn't have anything better to do. Find someone else and stop wasting your time.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 68 (view)

What someone does that really turns you on? Posted: 8/30/2009 6:41:22 AM
Ya know ....I work with a bunch of guys and I love to watch them clean... When my friend that works beside me starts sweeping I just stop what I'm doing and watch him. He asked why I'm watching and I just say (I love to watch men do housework). It's funny

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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WHAT'S THE WORST DATE YOU HAD ON POF Posted: 8/29/2009 4:54:02 PM
Blues whats wrong with Rollerderbie? I love to rollerskate but no racing. I'm too old for that. If I could find a place that had 50's night I'd be in heavin I took my son one night skating and we dressed like the 50's and it was awesome. The only problem was when I requested oldie songs they'd play "Girls just wanna have fun" I was like...yeah 80's is old but I wanna hear OLD oldies....lol...

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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What do I do? Posted: 8/29/2009 11:54:59 AM
So maybe he thinks he's talking to someone else like he got your number and someone elses number confused?... Either that or he's just plain nuts. I'd move and change my number, profile name and everything else.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Older men for the younger women Posted: 8/8/2009 12:52:24 PM
abelian, you lived with a kid.... To answer the forum, I have been dating a man 20 years older. We enjoy each others company and he's a very good person. That being said however, we dont have much in comman. He's kinda boring when it comes to going out to different places. He doesnt want to leave our area where we live. His idea of adventure is leaving our town and going to the next town for dinner. LOL... My kids are teenagers and his are grown. I like to go to concerts and he likes to go see the Highschool football games. OH! And he will drive 10 miles out of the way to avoid any kind of traffic. Which I notice alot of older people do that. So even though I like him as a person I dont really see anything coming out of it besides friendship. One other thing I forgot to mention is that I cant even imagine having sex with him. The thought of that freaks me out.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

Msg: 86 (view)

Aggressive Dates - Women Please Comment Posted: 7/26/2009 7:26:27 AM
Sooooooo, are you going out with him again? Maybe he just had a brain fart. Or you had on some really great smelling perfume. Or he was sleep walking and doesn't remember any of it and is totally innocent.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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Would you date someone still living with their Ex? Posted: 7/26/2009 7:12:28 AM
Well actually I did do that. He was divorced, his ex lived with him and her new husband and their kids. He payed all the bills When I said something about it he said he was doing it for his son so he'd have a home. Ok so let your son live there and kick the rest of them out. Then he came up with some other reason he couldn't do that and told me to mind my own business. So I told him to go fuk hisself and have fun supporting his ex and her new family. Man what a mess that was.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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OK is this a Saturday-nite funk or wtf? Posted: 7/26/2009 7:05:03 AM
Hey I got one- I got an email on a Saturday afternoon. It had a pic of 3 guys together. It said something like ( We are looking for a girl to hook up with the three of us tonight, are you interested?) I sent them back and email ( Do I have slut on my profile?)

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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She says she wants to keep things casually now. Posted: 7/26/2009 6:47:10 AM
Wazhiz is so right. I couldn't have put it any better. Either that or she was drunk the night she slept with you and doesn't remember it? Or what one of the other posters said about you not being so good in bed.

casperella

Joined: 10/30/2006

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After the first date what then? Posted: 7/26/2009 6:41:21 AM
Yep, sounds like he's just yanking your chain. Move on. I'm sure there'll be others to do the same you just have to weed them out. This is the internet life. I hope that you dont have to go through too many before you meet a nice, honest one.

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