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 Author Thread: Men Who Smile -VS- Men Who Don't Smile
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Men Who Smile -VS- Men Who Don't Smile
Posted: 11/19/2009 1:44:51 AM
I smile and laugh quite a bit, however...none of the pics on my profile are of me smiling, simply because the thought of grinning into camera as I take a picture just doesn't work for me.

Turns out wrong, perhaps it's because it's not a "natural" smile.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 1 (view)
 
So....what if dating is just not for you?
Posted: 8/29/2009 10:21:51 AM
Interested in what others would have to say about this, curious really.

I don't just mean internet dating, I can easily see how that might not work out for some people...especially if you consider some of the threads you see here as an example.

I mean dating altogether. Is there a point in which you could just throw your hands in the air and say to hell with it? What would be the hardest thing for you to deal with if you came to this conclusion?

Using myself as an example, I've mentioned previously that I'm not really looking to date. My interest in it has faded off somewhere, plus I have way too much in my life that I need to work on to really even consider it. Friends are welcome though. I didn't just wake up one day and decide this either...at least I don't believe I did I think it's more like eventually I noticed that it just wasn't that big of a deal to me anymore.

I can't say it really bothers me that I feel this way either, well...maybe the thought of trying to get started again whenever/if I do.

The hard part for me would be the occasional feelings of loneliness. Rumor has it that most people have a desire to have a partner in life, which seems pretty true to me.

For those of you that would NEVER give it up, even for a period of time...what drives you to keep going?
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Why are some men afraid to express their feelings?
Posted: 8/7/2009 7:56:10 PM
Honestly, it seems like when you talk about your feelings with a woman, they view you differently.....not in a good way.

I don't really have a problem with showing how I feel (I think) but sometimes I don't unless asked, etc.

THIS guy however...it seems a bit more complicated than that. Could be anything from not knowing how to "say" how he feels to what I mentioned, or maybe he isn't sure how he feels.

Ask and see.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 12 (view)
 
I get too nervous to go on dates so I always cancel
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:47:30 PM
I seemed(still do perhaps)to have a problem with calling dates...dates. I don't know why, but the whole idea makes me nervous and very uncomfortable.

So I just consider it the same as hanging out now. Though I still get nervous.

I'll admit it while out with the person, and chances are they are nervous too so it's not so bad.

I would also suggest not going into the things thinking about future possibilities so far off, don't worry about the idea that you are wasting your time, etc...just enjoy yourself, or try to anyway.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 16 (view)
 
Reaching certain places in life.
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:20:29 PM
These posts have been very insightful, thanks all for sharing your views with me.

Much appreciated.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 24 (view)
 
On letting go fast -blowing the potential?
Posted: 8/6/2009 11:15:03 PM

Also, many of us read books about relational issues. "He's Just Not That Into You" is a good example. Basically, if a man doesn't run after you with both guns blazing he's not into you. That's why women cut ties quickly when their attraction to a man doesn't seem to be mutual.


You know, I think books like this are part of the problem. These books, and the same little stories you read in magazines, you know...how to tell if whoever likes you, etc.

Most of the time, if not all...people expect every man or every woman to fit in whatever is read.

Me, even if I am very interested in a woman...I will hesitate. I generally try to think things through and let my feelings come second these days, therefore I will NOT be chasing down women with guns blazing under no circumstance. I take my time, etc mostly because in the past, most of my relationships have moved way too fast.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 28 (view)
 
What's the first computer game that you really enjoyed playing?
Posted: 8/6/2009 8:17:57 PM
First PC game....Unreal Tournament...and I hate FPS mostly.

I'm not much of a PC gamer at all really. Outside of emulation and a few games here and there over the years...(Sims, Oblivion, Fallout 3, City of Heroes) I stick with my consoles.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 15 (view)
 
What going on with this guy?
Posted: 8/6/2009 8:07:50 PM

Well I have quite a different viewpoint of this whole thing than the other replies. If you two were just beginning to sleep together, and there had been no talk of an exclusive relationship yet, how can he expect you to NOT still have a life of your own? Did he think he met you in a vacuum?

He sounds jealous and controlling to me, making statements and demands way too early in the deal.

I say be glad to be rid of him. He's a player, or thinks he is.


I really don't see how you can figure he is a player (or thinks he is) from this at all.
If two people are sleeping together, personally I'd hope that to be exclusive.

Where exactly do you see these outrageous demands you figure this guy made?

Anyway, maybe you should just tell him like it is. Don't beat around the bush, don't be sarcastic, just tell him what you said to us...being specific...


Im afraid that i have given him the wrong impression as i was all for seeing him and possibly only him
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Reaching certain places in life.
Posted: 8/6/2009 7:53:51 PM

you're not specifically seeking someone to fulfill the intimate desires, but it would be convenient and nice as long as it wasn't weird or changed the relationship and there were no ulterior motives associated with that gratification...all without the strings, commitment, or responsibility that you associate with a traditional relationship. And all more on your terms rather than having to "settle" or "compromise" because it's a relationship of equals on equal terms that you both want the same thing.

That about cover it? It's usually shortened as a FWB.


FWB....friend's with sexual favors......not what I am wanting. In my opinion sex doesn't mix with friendship, at least not the kinda friendship I'm looking for. If it came to that, it would no longer just be "friends" as it's clearly more.

I'm old fashioned that way....sex = relationship...not friendship.


In terms of the general topic, how does this differ from:

http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts12861528.aspx

?
Which is an active thread on the Over45 forum


You are right, it is similar in a way...though slightly backwards... also I am not over 45 which is why I did not post there. A feeling that I would be intruding somewhere I should not be perhaps.

Since it seems my thread will be deleted for my obvious trolling I will thank you guys that offered your views on the subject.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Reaching certain places in life.
Posted: 8/6/2009 7:04:29 PM
Haven't posted...or even been here in a while really. Also I'm not sure if this is in the right place so....

..eh, anyway. I recently (past year or so) have felt that I am at some weird point in life where I don't exactly desire a relationship. However I am not sure if that is true...lol. Let me try to explain a bit.

I'm a bit out of touch with dating and anything similar. I've spent a great deal of time on my own, in every sense of the word. I've gotten pretty used to it actually, but I would still like a friend or two. Movies, hang out, a game or two (by that I mean videogames, lol), you know...fun stuff.

The women I meet/have met are looking for more than that, and I can't really do more at the moment...I simply don't feel that way it seems. I mostly just want to take things step by step, while everyone seems ready to jump in right away.

Now I am not saying that I have no desire for intimacy, those feelings are there...just not all that strong.

Hmmm....I don't think I've done a good job at explaining anything. To be honest it's kinda confusing for me.

I *think* that I would like to use friendship as a means to re-discover what it's like to be close to someone until I feel comfortable enough to try a more intimate relationship.

THERE....I'm pretty sure that's what I am trying to say, lol.

I don't feel that I NEED to be with someone or anything, but I do feel as though I am missing something, as we all know it's not much fun going to a movie on your own.

Anyone else feel anything remotely similar? Any advice perhaps? Or does this still not make sense?
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 157 (view)
 
Why isn't there a Gamer thread!? BRING ON THE VIDEOGAMES!
Posted: 7/12/2009 10:32:38 PM
Hey hey...anyone on the Rockband boat?

That game is terribly addictive, and I've spent a sad amount of cash on it (downloaded songs).

I don't play as much as I used to (games in general) but it's an interest of mine that will never completely fade.

If you have a PS3, you can catch me on Rockband2, Midnight Club LA, Warhawk, Saints Row 2, Burnout Paradise, Guitar Hero Metallica, and sometimes GTA 4, Unreal Tournament 3, or Soul Calibur 4.

My network name is RavageX. Just say where ya found me and I'll add you when I can.
 ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 54 (view)
 
Race: The Power of An Illusion
Posted: 5/27/2007 12:00:44 AM
I'll never understand the point of taking the time to separate ppl into groups. For whatever physical/mental/etc differences people THINK there are....what difference does it ultimately make?

None, everybody lives the same way...your born, you live and you die. The life you live has little to do with skin color unless you want to make it a factor.

That's what I believe.

But there's always going to be stereotypes, generalizations, etc with all races regardless. Just depends on what you as an individual, want to believe. If you want to treat everyone the same, or differently.... that's all that really matters....
 ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 14 (view)
 
Sci-Fi fans: are we nerds?, or, the definition of good taste?
Posted: 5/26/2007 11:49:31 PM
I like sci-fi because it's from the imagination. There is a difference in enjoying it, and taking it too far....let me see if I can explain what I mean..

You like star wars, its a good story from someone's imagination who was able to share his vision with the world.

Going too far, is obsessing(and by that I mean dressing up, talking in made up language, anything like that)over someone else's ideas that came from their mind, instead of coming up with a vision of your own.

It's not just limited to sci-fi though.

That's just my opinion anyway.
 ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 2 (view)
 
Question for the GUYS. Have we evolved as we matured?
Posted: 5/26/2007 11:38:45 PM
To be honest, my views haven't changed at all. Never really looked for anyone based off of qualities of someone I looked up to, it's been the qualities I think anyone/everyone should have.

Maybe when I was younger....in my teens I would let basic attraction(looks) cloud my overall perception of a person, but it didn't take me long to realize how wrong that was.

Not real sure if I had many things influencing what I found attractive, it just kind of happened that way.
 ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 478 (view)
 
If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 5/22/2007 10:52:11 PM
Tired of it.

I meet someone and it goes something like this.

I'm interested, they aren't....end of story.
They are interested, I'm not.....end of story.

I'm interested, they are interested....I find out things I don't like and/or won't deal with..usually drugs, cheating or something to that effect.....end of story.

I'm interested, they are interested.....They later decide I am not what they are looking for, usually it seems to be that they painted up some weird ideas of how I would be, and were wrong....end of story.

I'm interested, they are interested....planets in a distant universe align and undetectable gamma rays from Dimension Z bombard the planet, causing strange happenings and things don't work out....end of story.

So I have had enough dating, figured it's a good idea to stop before I get completely jaded.
 ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 45 (view)
 
A reply
Posted: 5/22/2007 10:40:33 PM
I am kind of ashamed to say, but I have not felt any attraction to anyone lately. Lately is the past YEAR or so.

That's not entirely correct though. I guess it's different types of attraction. Physical....none at all. I think because I try to look past the physical. So....a woman can look absolutely beautiful from head to toe, and I don't give it so much a second thought till I get to know her.

That is where attraction starts to form with me. However most the women I have met don't seem to be so patient, lol.
 ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 65 (view)
 
Are you seeking the impossible?
Posted: 5/22/2007 10:31:49 PM
I sure hope what I am looking for is not impossible....to be honest though, it kind of seems that way.

Simply, I am looking for a companion with good character. That's pretty much it. Can't get any more simplier than that.

But, I have met everything BUT that. Weird isn't it?

Then again, what is simple for some, is very complex for others.
 ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 76 (view)
 
wife has a long term boyfriend? still sane? please reply!
Posted: 4/29/2007 3:58:52 PM
You are definately a stronger man than me, there is no way I would stand for this type of relationship...marriage...etc.

I don't believe in sharing my partner, and I sure hope they wouldn't want to share me....I just can't wrap my head around such a thing, and I don't think I would want to try.

You don't sound too fond of the whole thing....does she feel the same way if you were to find someone else to go have fun with?

I think you should just tell her how all this makes you feel and see what her response is, hopefully she would at least be considerate of your feelings.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Gentlemen - Is Mike Tyson right about YOU?
Posted: 4/18/2007 3:55:30 PM
I feel bad enough from sex without any decent emotional attraction.....

If I got paid for it, that's even worse I think.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Do you feel that church is a requirement?
Posted: 4/11/2007 5:32:07 PM
Meaning, do you feel that you HAVE to go to church?

I am somewhat religious, but I don't go to church. Awful lot of judging going on there, and I never really feel comfortable......that and I don't like being in crowds, lol.

Yet I still get judged from this too....

I personally feel that it is ok not to go......anyone agree? Disagree? Why?
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Appropriate questions following a first date with a bi-polar gal
Posted: 4/11/2007 5:15:40 PM

Well, I'm bi-polar and have been medicine free for over 5 years. Understanding it and being able to deal with the mood swings is the best way to handle it. Not to be drugged up 24/7.


I agree with this.

I can't really add anything, there has been some good advice here already....but I can say this...


hey dude i have a bit of advice for ya,RUN FOR THE HILLS.my ex has bi-polar,and could the Excorist thing in 3 seconds(spin that freakin head around) .have fun bro


Disregard this person.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 6 (view)
 
Would you tell anyone if you were rich??
Posted: 4/11/2007 5:01:48 PM
No I wouldn't. It shouldn't matter if I were rich or not.

If anyone does have such a "problem"....I would be more than eager to take this burden off their hands......
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 47 (view)
 
Move Over! This Is My Side Of The Bed!
Posted: 4/11/2007 3:33:56 PM
There is no left or right side to my bed....imagine that.

Now, I sleep facing either left or right, or straight up...or straight down.

When I shared a bed(not my current bed)with someone, I almost always woke up with it looking as if I were trying to crawl out of the bed.....
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 76 (view)
 
bi-polar finace disaster
Posted: 4/10/2007 11:36:32 PM

Please do RUN if you meet someone with bi-polar or borderline personality disorder. RUN as fast as you can & don't look back! Sure they need love like everyone else, but let it be from a family member and not a love interest.


What lovely advice.....so they should be denied any sort future with anyone?


I am truly sorry if I offended anyone here with bi-polar or borderline personality disorder. To those who commented about me yall are completely right in saying I shouldn't stereotype and shun people with these conditions. What I meant to say and what I should of said is that you should RUN if you date someone who has these conditions and don't get treatment or refuse to acknowledge their condition. To anyone who has any of these two conditions, IF you are aware of your condition and you're getting treatment for it I stand up and applaud you.


Changed your mind did you? Sorry to single you out, there are a lot of posts in this thread that are pretty disturbing, to me that first comment stuck out the most.

Bipolar is generally different for everyone who has it. I am bipolar and I've dated someone else who was. We were NOTHING alike as far as that goes....she had other problems too along with it though.

Most of what I hear(from this site)...all these "crazy" stories, are from people who were with someone who had other problems too...not just bipolar disorder.

But, a majority of people here(offline too)don't seem to consider that. They in fact do what you suggest....run. Probably because of a story they heard, or something to that effect. That sure does make a positive future for us that do have the disorder under control doesn't it?

Personally, I've gotten pretty tired of that....it's one of the reasons I don't really date anymore. It's a let down to see that not much has changed with the way other people view the ones with the disorder.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 88 (view)
 
Anyone else feel like giving up on Ross because of being unsuccessful?
Posted: 4/5/2007 11:05:45 PM
I feel a lot like you do, except that it's not from being unsucessful....it's more because it feels like there is not someone for me out there.

People I talk to, or hang out with....it's nice...but it's never more than that. Sometimes for my part...sometimes theirs.

It's just never....right.

I can't say I have given up.....more like I just don't care anymore.

Why search when you know deep down what you want is not going to happen?
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 31 (view)
 
Vampire Poll
Posted: 4/2/2007 7:20:00 PM
You know, it's not really the lifestyle it's all cracked up to be if you think about it.

Especially if you live in a small town.

Very lonely actually.

Of course, that's the pessimist(sp) in me talking.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 9 (view)
 
Where to Kiss: Most Romantic Spots in your Town
Posted: 3/27/2007 4:53:09 AM
Around here? Most romantic places for most ppl are the backcountry oil field roads......

Nothing in this town really says, "Romantic".

My favorite place to go(not here lately because its been over-crowded)has been a lake....not for romantic purposes(since I'm single)....just to relax quietly.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 6 (view)
 
What is this video game?
Posted: 3/26/2007 7:13:00 PM
Yeah....probably hard to find offline....emulators and roms are the best way to go as far as playing stuff like that now...
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 28 (view)
 
Ever been having sex with someone and they just turn violent
Posted: 3/26/2007 4:45:18 PM
I had(key word being had) a friend....apparently kicking guy's in the privates was a turn on for her....not sure quite how that works.

Doing so and then expecting sex is a little weird, don't ya think?

(note: I was not a victim of this)

Personally I like rough stuff, wrestling around....that sorta thing.

Actual hitting and such...no way.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 3 (view)
 
What is this video game?
Posted: 3/26/2007 3:13:14 AM
That game frustrated me to no end....
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 3 (view)
 
When someone says to you
Posted: 3/25/2007 10:22:44 PM
I hear that too. I THINK it's supposed to be a compliment, but sometimes I don't know....
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 26 (view)
 
Ever had the feeling you are being lied to? were you right?
Posted: 3/25/2007 9:58:14 PM
My gut feeling hasn't been wrong yet.

There have been times that I wish it had been, and there had been times I ignored it simply because I didn't want to believe it.

Now, I always take that feeling in regard. I don't jump the gun or anything like that....but I become a bit more careful and aware of things that don't seem right.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 11 (view)
 
After one Night of Talking
Posted: 3/25/2007 12:12:03 PM
Not all guys do this, I for one, would not spend 5 hours on the phone at one time.

Face to face, yeah. Phone....2 hours tops...and that's if I really like you. Alot.

(mentions again that he REALLY hates the phone)

As far as why he said what he did....I don't know. I can't recall ever doing that myself.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 6 (view)
 
What are we worth
Posted: 3/25/2007 12:05:08 PM
This just seems weird to me.

My personal habits, I don't make a big deal out of VD(Valentine's day folks....). It's just another day.

I am with the above poster, how were you treated on other holidays? What did you get HIM?

My folks always told me, it's not the price of the gift...its the thought behind it.
Anything special written on the card perhaps?
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 42 (view)
 
Why are there so many crazy women in this world?
Posted: 3/25/2007 6:55:56 AM

I just couldn't not say something after all this belittling of the fair sex. It is true, women are crazy because men make them that way. And, women are not still in high school. I think (at least the men I meet) men still want to be in high school - same clothes, cars, haircut, songs, friends, behavior) and resist change. Women change with the times - update themselves and their points of view. 20 years ago I wasn't sure how I felt about politics - had raising kids on my mind mostly - but now I am very interested in politics. I also have changed parties - which I think is an intelligent move - not to just think like your parents or husband and learn to have a mind of your own.

One woman said yes, we are crazy but you need us for our vaginas. Well, in this day and age - there are so many options. We, on the other hand, don't need men the way our mothers and grandmothers did. We have careers and make enough money to support ourselves so if we choose to allow a man into our life, it is because we want the MAN, not because we NEED HIM! That should be comforting to men, but because they haven't grown past their high school mentality, still think they are the "head of the house" and want woman to be submissive, subserviant and bow to them because they are the breadwinners. Sorry, you lost that title MEN. I know it is hard, but you have to update your ideals.


A tad one-sided don't you think?

For starters, some women are crazy....some men are crazy. Simple as that, no need to add things like, "Men made women like this" or vise versa, it's ridiculous.

Overall, you sound REALLY bitter towards men in general, me personally....I like the idea that women are more capable of supporting themselves these days, people in general should all have that opportunity regardless of sex, race, whatever...... and then we have a view like yours...you do nothing but trash and talk down about men in what appears to be an attempt to raise women onto some sort of imaginary throne.

What do you gain besides some sort of egotisical power trip?
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 7 (view)
 
When It Just Isn't Real
Posted: 3/25/2007 2:31:45 AM
Your list isn't too long is it?

People aren't perfect....not even close.

Lists are something you make for shopping, plans and the like....not for people.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 19 (view)
 
Grooming
Posted: 3/25/2007 1:50:25 AM
For me its a comfort thing. I am most comfortable in jeans and a tshirt, so that's usually what I wear. Simple as that. Never cared if it's fashionable or not.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 64 (view)
 
Virgos
Posted: 3/24/2007 5:29:42 AM
I am a cusp....

Virgo/Libra....I guess that makes me extra-special huh?

I don't go by signs though.....I am attracted to whoever I am attracted to, etc etc etc.....
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 101 (view)
 
Where would you rather have sex in a public place or in the bedroom
Posted: 3/23/2007 2:17:42 PM
At this point, I don't care where whatsoever......having several of those days where....well, I am sure you all know.

I think I will hide out from the forums for a while till I return to normal(well, as normal as I get).
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 17 (view)
 
PSP-Paint Shop Pro-Anyone here use this program?
Posted: 3/23/2007 10:48:17 AM
I have PSP 7 and Photoshop 6.

I use PSP more, only because I can halfway remember how to use it. Photoshop it seems I have forgotten everything. Only really use it to cg my drawings.

Not too good at that either to be honest.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Are a lot of guys on here players and/or just looking for sex?
Posted: 3/22/2007 6:50:08 PM
A few dates I have been on I have been right out asked if I was a player....

This is kinda insulting if it wasn't the first time we had been out. I personally don't think I give off any reason for someone to think something like that. I think maybe it has something to do with the type of people I attract(still can't figure out what I am doing wrong with that).
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 5 (view)
 
What would the child you once were think of the adult you have become?
Posted: 3/22/2007 6:31:37 PM
I think I actually don't want to give this question any thought....

He would probably ask one simple question..."What happened?"
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 5 (view)
 
Girls a little rough around the edges a turn-on
Posted: 3/22/2007 6:08:19 PM
I don't mind sometimes, but there is an "overboard" factor.
It sure isn't a turn on though.

Reminds me of a time, I was at a friend's place, and his gf brought a friend of hers over. Seemed like a decent girl till she opened her mouth. Every other word was profanity...literally. A simple sentence like, "I went shopping yesterday." would be extended to a paragraph and all that was added, were the cuss words.

Very, very annoying actually.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 59 (view)
 
why do guys on here always call u babe and never ur own name!!!
Posted: 3/22/2007 4:37:56 PM
Geez, I figure this thread would even out pretty well....instead I see comments such as...


what a shallow minded snotty nosed set of americans you are looking down your nose at the rest of the world... you know you've got a reputation for that ???


and


I, however, am a lot older and, knowing ALL Americans, I can confirm that tony123q's points were, in fact, true!


I think it's a real shame that people generalize with something....like the US, or any place at all. That's pretty shallow in itself don't you think? ALL americans are like this? You should know better.

I don't recall ever meeting you, so you couldn't possibly know me...so you should probably review those facts of yours.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 13 (view)
 
Did i just set back the women's movement?
Posted: 3/22/2007 5:20:54 AM
Now I am REALLY confused.....

I don't mean to laugh, but come on.....in your profile you sound very sure of yourself, what you want, etc.

Here in this post, it is like a different person. The guy must have found you attractive, otherwise I am sure there wouldn't have even been a date or anything.

I honestly am not sure how to even comment on this, other than...and I am going to explain this the best I can.....the guy has no idea(I'm assuming)of what you looked like before(not saying it was bad, because I doubt that)therefore he couldn't really say the things you seemed to have wanted him to say(which would be heavy compliments on your new look, the effort, etc..etc...etc....).

You shouldn't need to hear compliments, this is something you did for yourself....something you should be proud of....you don't need someone else's praises.

So yeah, as often as you hear women talk about how shallow a guy is, how he only goes by looks and all that....I think you took a step backwards by showing that this, in fact....is what you wanted.

Whatever you do, don't come back here with a thread about how some new guy is only interested in your big boobs or sex.....I don't want to hear it.

(I think this thread struck a nerve....)
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 17 (view)
 
What do u do when the 1st conversation by phone is kind one-sided
Posted: 3/22/2007 1:24:55 AM
I hate the phone. Well not the phone itself, but I hate(REALLY hate)talking on the damned things. Face to face is much better.

If dates were based on how the first phone call goes.....then I might as well retire.

Oh wait.....you mean some actually are???

(looks into moving to florida)
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 2 (view)
 
why do guys on here always call u babe and never ur own name!!!
Posted: 3/22/2007 1:18:02 AM
So I guess names like sugar dumpling and snuggle bunny are out.....damnit.


You should really say some guys....I personally have never been big on pet names....have only done that in one relationship, and that was something she wanted.

As far as messaging people on here with such names......never. (not that I have anything against anyone..just not somethin I do)
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 12 (view)
 
how would you handle this
Posted: 3/22/2007 1:10:11 AM

It doesn't, but he already handed it over and she has nothing, so realistically it's gone anyway.


True....and by the way it sounds, it's unlikely she will pay able to pay it back.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 9 (view)
 
how would you handle this
Posted: 3/22/2007 12:56:56 AM
I look at this in a bit of a different light than rune3.

I agree with everything.....except for the money part. I don't know about most people, but 10 grand just doesn't fall out of the sky. I'm not being materialistic....just realistic. I can relate to how you feel somewhat, but man it needs to stop. This woman sounds like she will take you for everything, and that you are ready to let her do so.

The feelings are there on your part, but look at her actions....nothing says "I love you" better than putting you out on your ass when she has found a new means of getting money.

I think you know what you should do....If anything...try seeing what happens when you stop being so free with your money towards her.
 Ravager
Joined: 2/1/2004
Msg: 27 (view)
 
If you saw your partner at someone eles house, would you knock?
Posted: 3/21/2007 7:50:39 PM
Hmmm....the rational part of me would simply wait till I saw her again, see what she has to say(regardless things would be over and done of course).

But there's that lil' part of me that would want to go all Bruce Lee on the door and whoever was in there.....
 
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