Assuming that most of us have encountered a few really great lovers before... do you think it would be men who remember them the most, or women who remember them the most...

Is this true? Are there really vaginas that are loose?

I used to date a girl who never took her shirt off!
I was ok with that because she was a really nice person, and i didnt want to be pushy!
How common is that ?

Would you have sex with no tits " activity" ?

He has one ball, and I have a lazy ovary! In what twisted world does that create a baby? It's like the Special Olympics of conception.
~ Miranda, Sex In The City

My question here is: How would you approach it?

I do find it interesting that both genders in this thread have something in common … when it comes to talking about divorce and child custody it’s all about financial support and a whole lot less about emotional support. I think money is what drives a wedge between divorced parents and leaves some children without 2 parents working together to provide for their needs … both financially and emotionally.

is there a medical term for this?

I'd find someone with the kind of unyielding judgmental dogmatism expressed in some of the replies here more intrinsically offputting than someone who'd been involved in another person's extramarital activities.

So lets say you are dating someone and find out that their in last relationship they were the mistress or man-toy(??) of someone who was married. Would this be a deal breaker for you or would you continue seeing said person?

Seems to me you're about to marry a very insecure control freak. I'm surprised it hasn't shown up till now, or maybe it's always been there and you overlooked it.

It's not so much about the amount of money as it is the idea of having to pay at all. The status quo is in women's favor, which is why so many can be comfortable with the tired "whoever asks should pay" idea.

There is a serious lack of women that will ask. Just look at how long that thread is that's called "is it true that the woman should not pursue the man." There is so much diatribe about being "old fashioned" or "shy." I call bullsh!t on both accounts. There are plenty of men who are shy, but they don't get the benefit of the doubt, and women who claim to be old fashioned are only old fashioned in the ways that suit them.

I was seeing this guy for about 4 months but it was long distance. We really liked eachother and everything was going great, he came to visit me, met my family, friends, etc. However, somewhere down the road I became a bit depressed and started depending on him for my happiness (i.e. through clinginess and insecurity). I know this is a turnoff for a man. And basically I pushed this guy out of my life because I was scared and insecure at the time.

OP your[sic] 23....and you've been with a girl a year and a half and considering marriage?
You're already experiencing slight sexual incompatibility...this could be a trainwreck. What's the rush? Take your time, build some more find out if she is the right one...because obviously you're reaching a certain level of frustration this early on into a relationship that isn't a good sign.

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Because each and every one of the people who do this sort of thing really and truly believe that THEY will never get caught. Getting caught is for other people.

BDJ, many (I'd even go as far as to say most) women need to be turned on mentally in order to be turned on physically. One of the differences between men and women.

As such, for a woman, yeah, love and trust do generally make for better sex. This doesn't mean that that's ALL that is required but it helps.

Bidets- would you use them?

Alpha's lead organizations, foster teamwork, lead with vision and yes at times are meaner than snakes. They also recognize the abilities and shortcomings of others, utilize the one and eliminate the latter, by encouragement or by culling them out.

It's a shame there aren't statistics on broken engagements. Or can we count broken engagements/LTRs as divorces?

I tried from 3 diff computers on diff networks to make sure it was not a cookies issue , but, still nothing.

Does any of this sound like its worth it? Shes by far the most attractive woman I've dated in a while. But its a lot to put up with and to work on. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

and PS to these guys that claim to be Alpha men
that think women don't need to spend money
to look good for them....I'd bet you'd be singing a different tune if
your 9 or 9.5 or even 10 showed up without her usual hairdo, manicure,
make up or outfits.... you'd be wondering where the heck your girlfriend
went. People like to look good. And people like to be seen with people
that look good. Who the heck do you think you're kidding?

I keep hearing about statistics that 2nd marriages have an even bigger failure rate than 1st marriages. Why is this?

When a long-term relationship ends, why do some women make it clear that "they still love and care for you" when you both realize that you will not be involved in each others lives?

He said he would marry her because he wouldn't be able to find anyone who loves him more than she does.
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I think he does love her a lot but he's not really in love with her, otherwise he would have married her by now.

He really wants to have children and a family, yet he is still sleeping around with other women and still single.

Can you marry someone just because their love is the best on offer? what if you want children, does that make any difference in your decision making?

I personally think if you are not in love in marriage, you are bound to cheat somehow....

omfg if another person feels the need to name and define themselves i will puke...what would you consider me? nerd? hipster?straight? dork? why does everything need a limiting name and category?everyone needs to limit themselves and stick themselves in a box in order to feel part of the club or exclusive of another... this is one of my biggest pet peeves..pansexual is as ridiculous as bisexual,gay or straight definitions. if you are pansexual then you are bisexual plain and simple; now be happy and live your life well...

They got it their minds that they wanted that particular guy and behaved accordingly.

I remember reading an article a while back that said relationships where the woman was the first to initiate contact had a higher chance of developing into a long-term relationship, rather than when the man pursued the woman.

Is it inevitable that the passion, intimacy, hot sex fades over time? and if so, what's the solution

1. Is her premise faulty? Is she right or wrong that all the extra spice fades over time to a blah boring relationship?

2. Why or why not? In other words, if she's wrong, what is she doing wrong? What can you do to keep it alive? And if she's right, why does that happen?

3. And if she's right, what are you going to do about it? Keep relationships short term (i.e. under 10 years)? Or accept the inevitable?

Not sure,but the O.P could be referring to the Declaration of Independence which reads in part "That whenever any form of government becomes destructive to these ends,it is the right of the people to alter or abolish it,and to institute new government,laying its foundation on such principle and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their safety and happiness."
It then goes on to say " Prudence,indeed,will dictate that governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shown that mankind are more disposed to suffer,while evils are sufferable,than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed"

Bottom line,the Founders believed,and rightfully so, that the people have the right to replace a government gone bad,but be careful what you wish for....
It was their intention that the people control the gov't, not the other way around.Wonder what happened?

I bet the little lesbian is licking her chops over the delicious furor she's caused.

If she wanted to go with a girl, just do it, and then deal with the repercussions later (if there ARE any)

But by making a big deal out of it (really, who CARES what you wear? tux or dress, it's not the school's business), and ASKING, you are telling them to condone lesbianism, which obviously (to me, anyway) a conservative town in a conservative state is not going to do.

Just putting what she said out there:

"Men I'm dating want me to look hot. Having my hair done costs money. Having my nails done costs money. Makeup costs money, perfume costs money... and fashionable clothing costs money. If he wants me to fork out that kind of money to look good for his benefit, he can shout me a meal and some drinks."

"If you loved me, you'd __________" is just blackmail

It's a matter of respect and I think it's the insecure person who doesn't think he can do any better who puts up with that crap.

Now it is my opinion that men take it as their responsibility to pay because as a man, it is their role to provide for females.

Especially females they are interested in luring closer... Real men don't cry about buying a date dinner.

The only place I've ever heard men complain about paying a woman's way is on online dating sites.

If women stopped 'putting' out in the situation where it is only f**kbuddy...then... men would have to re-think. Women need to stop being a prostitute without the pay!

I dated a man who was never married/no kids for 12 years and it was wonderful!!!!

I hope this isn't redundant but I've spent an hour searching threads & wasn't able to find anything relevant.
Here's the situation: a close friend of mine met a guy that she clicks with well but he's a very small guy (short, tiny hands, ect.). She's concerned that his smallness may carry over to um, other areas as well. She's not the type to fool around much before marriage so a "test drive" is out of the question. So, is there any reliable way to determine his size without seeing, feeling or flat out asking?

She responded as most women do in this situation...returning my honest pouring of emotions with expletives and snippy remarks. She begged me to leave, and of course as soon as the door closed, the waterworks ensued.

As has been mentioned sex is the one thing most men really need. When you've been through the ringer so to speak with past GF's or wives freedom is a hard thing to give up. Many guys are independant[sic]. Know how to cook, clean, take care of themselves. GF's bring drama, doing things you don't really want to do, loss of freedom, etc. What better for an independant[sic] guy than get to have that situation. You get the one thing you really need from women, she goes home, you then get to do what you want.

Any fool can get married, and any fool can have children. Neither make one an exceptional person.