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lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

Msg: 130 (view)

Arrears... Yes Or No Posted: 2/8/2007 12:23:18 AM
Even if the amount of arrears hits 5K or higher, the NCP should be forced to pay... Even if the CP is living comfortably without CS, it is the CP's responsibility to get those arrears from the NCP in order to give the money to their CHILD.. The CP does NOT have the right to say, "it's ok, you don't have to pay".. Very few people seem to think for the children's sake in these cases... I have heard of cases where the CHILD goes after the NCP for back pay, and wins! thousands of dollars of arrears because the NCP was irresponsible.... THINK OF THE KIDS!!

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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Not telling the guy Posted: 1/24/2007 10:43:28 PM
Do what you feel is right for your child... Not every situation is alike... Go with your gut!!

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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Change In The Rules Posted: 1/16/2007 12:12:45 AM
Spider, I must say, I kind of like your idea as far as allowing the men to have a "pass" on things that they are not ready for, even if there were no social programs... I think that if you do not believe that you would be capable of having a child, then you shouldn't be having sex.... Not all women are against "abortion" because they can not handle the "thought" of the abortion in itself... So many people are going on about how the children are not considered in all of these "custody battles" and how it's all about the parents seeking revenge against one another.... I think that it is ridiculous that people do such things, not considering how the child feels... But when the woman gets pregnant, should there really be no consideration on the part of the unborn child?.... Sure, maybe the man and woman are not ready to have a child, but for the child's sake, why not give them a chance... I repeat... ADOPTION!!!

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

Change In The Rules Posted: 1/15/2007 11:52:18 PM
I do not think that the rate of abortions would change.... And I do not think that opinions about abortion would change either... I do not agree with abortions but I do not have anything against those who have terminated pregnancies... If someone can't afford it and truely believes that both the child, and themselves, would be better off not being together, then, adoption is available.. but hey, just my opinion...

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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I caught a women I've been sleeping with inserting my used condom inside her Posted: 1/12/2007 1:24:07 PM
Well... wow.... I've never heard of such a thing.. I guess people will do anything to get what they want.... Anyways.. I feel reeeeallly bad for you man.. And unlike what one person mentioned in an earlier post, sperm do live for quite some time outside of the body.... For up to 6 hours outside of the body from the books I've read... Good luck!

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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child support question when child is over 18 Posted: 1/7/2007 4:04:49 PM
Heart and gold, If I were you, I would continue the fight for your daughters rights.. She has the right to that money and I am sure it would help her now as much as it would have back then... You should fight for it, and give all of it to your daughter... A friend of my mothers was taken to court because he hadn't paid any child support from day one... He was taken to court by his daughter who never lived with him.. She won and he had to pay her every dime.. It didn't ruin their relationship.. And she deserved every penny.. The child has the right to that money!

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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is there anyway the exs girlfriend can have a say in what happens with my child Posted: 1/7/2007 4:00:15 PM
As far as I am concerned... If she did not help conceive this child, she has no say.. whether they are married, common law, or bed buddies.. tell her to go to hell and from now on, refuse to speak to her in regards to anything to do with your child unless it is an emergency

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

Msg: 35 (view)

Advice please on my daughter and her new bf Posted: 12/27/2006 11:34:17 PM
Hi Loyallady, One question, How old is your daughters "boyfriend"?

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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What's your ideal size... Posted: 12/27/2006 2:13:09 PM
Well, I have one daughter and would love to have 3 more kids... I'd like to have a son or two.. Ideally, 2 boys and 2 girls, I guess we'll see... I would love to adopt at least one child... My younger brother was adopted and I know just how beneficial adoption can be for the whole family!!

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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Pregnancy = Betrayal....?? Posted: 12/21/2006 7:46:19 PM
cj, Thanks for your thoughts...I especially like your last line "Perhaps that summer in Europe just doesn’t seem as appealing as taking her kid to the beach to build sand castles. " Well said

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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Pregnancy = Betrayal....?? Posted: 12/21/2006 6:02:43 PM
My daughter's father is in the picture and see's our daughter at least a few times a week... As I have said... He does love her...

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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How many times have we agreed to meet the person in the Photo, and find out different. Posted: 12/21/2006 5:41:43 PM
Not sure if this has been mentioned.. But if you have been talking to them for months and months, is it not possible that they may have gained a few pounds since you first started talking...?

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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Pregnancy = Betrayal....?? Posted: 12/21/2006 5:29:41 PM
Spider, Of COURSE I am not running around encouraging my friends to go off and get pregnant... That would be silly.. You are right, I do not have the chance to gain an education on "my" terms... But that does not, in any way, mean that I will not gain the education I was planning on getting anyways.. I got right back on course when my daughter was 3 months old.. I am attending college via online courses... As I have said before, I have goals, I am simply going at a slower pace due to my priorities... May I repeat, this was an unplanned situation.. But that does not mean that I am not capable of giving my daughter all that she needs and more... OF COURSE I would have liked to wait until I was married, with career and house in place.... Things went off course a bit...

lollipop86

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Pregnancy = Betrayal....?? Posted: 12/21/2006 4:45:39 PM
Around, My daugther is 15 months old.. I had her 3 months before my 20th bday.. I will be 21 next month... Spider, Sometimes things happen that may force you into a more "adult" situation(as you like to put it)... I've been on my own since I was 18... ANYways... I think that what you have said would be more fitting for those young party animal mothers who stop breastfeeding(or never do at all) just so they can party and smoke and what not.. I on the other hand.. am TOTALLY committed to my daughter(regardless of my amount of "life experience")... I never once drank or smoked throughout my pregnancy(and still haven't) and I had found out within 2 weeks of my pregnancy that I was pregnant.... I am very responsible unlike many(not all) young women my age.. As you said "Again the late teens and early 20's are all about discovering yourself... ".. Well, I would like to think that I will be discovering and changing my view/thoughts on things throughout my life... I don't want to sit down at 25 and say, well, Thats it for me! This is the way I am and forever will be!.... My child is doing very well, is very healthy and right on target for mental development at her age... She gets a lot of love from myself, her father, and our families... When did you have your child, Spider?

lollipop86

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Pregnancy = Betrayal....?? Posted: 12/21/2006 3:27:14 PM
Thanks for your input once again... As far as your comments on the fact that it was my mistake to decide to have a baby at my age.... Do you honestly believe there are no exceptions?... Just wondering...

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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Pregnancy = Betrayal....?? Posted: 12/21/2006 3:13:28 PM
He was 26... I was JUST 18(when we first started "seeing" each other).. We had mutual friends ranging from 22 - 26 when we met.... To each his own I guess... I may have been young, but hey, if someone feels that they are more than able to be a good parent, then they should give their child a chance at living rather than killing out of convenience.....Decision of the heart? Maybe so, but well worth it! I agree, I am sure I have plenty of growing up to do... But, I love my child and I have a great support network with my family being so involved.. As far as him being a loser...Maybe so... It's just funny how most people don't view a 39 year as being a loser if they get together with a 31 year old... strange... I went for the "older" guy because I didn't want to deal with the guys my age... Thinking that the older guy would be more mature... Guess I was naive in making such a decision as to be with a guy his age...

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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Pregnancy = Betrayal....?? Posted: 12/21/2006 2:44:35 PM
Well Spider, I just read your profile as well.. And guess what?... He is the same age as you...(which is one of the reasons why I really like hearing your thoughts on this) I would have to say that I am not like the average 20 year old.. I've never been into partying and carrying on.. There are a lot of young mothers out there that give most people a bad impression of us young moms... I am very close with my family... My ex is not very close with his family and has a lot of resentment issues with regards to both of his parents... Both of us were raised in split households from age 5 and up... Both of our fathers remarried, and our mothers did not... Although, his mother has dated and mine has not.... We are both middle children... I am living on my own, in the same town as my family....

lollipop86

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Pregnancy = Betrayal....?? Posted: 12/21/2006 2:27:50 PM
Yes, I was making a decision as a "parent"... I was one... As soon as I found out there was a baby growing inside of me, I was a parent.. How could "partner's", in a situation such as mine, possibly come to a comprimise?.... When someone gets pregnant, whether they are with the other person or not, the baby is the third person that comes into the picture... There are more than two people involved.. It is now more than a partnership...At least, that is how I feel... I would not say that I was upset because he didn't support me 100%... Just upset that he was trying to say that it was my fault that WE got me pregnant.... I guess that all it really comes down to is proper communication..... If I had made my points clear before we ever had sex even once, things may have turned out differently.... If I had come out and said, I will NEVER have an abortion EVER, maybe we would have broke up then and there, or maybe he would have reacted differently when the time came.....I guess that's my bad.. Thanks for your input Spider.... I really enjoy reading your viewpoints as I have in many threads now..

lollipop86

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Teething question....bottom or top? Posted: 12/21/2006 1:29:05 PM
From what I have read, it is more common for the bottom two to come in first.... Thats just an average though... Every babe is different

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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Pregnancy = Betrayal....?? Posted: 12/21/2006 1:26:53 PM
Spider, Yes, I understand what you are saying... And yes, I agree, a very poor analogy as buying a car, or not, really can not compare to keeping a child, or killing it... He never brought up the option of adoption as he knew that I would be a more than capable mother(and he would make a good father) and again, I could never give up my own offspring unless there were some MAJOR problems with myself/my life style etc... BUT I am very responsible and am very proud of my abilities as a mother.... I am sure that he see's now that the right decision was made... Yes, I enforced it and would not give in to his wishes.. But he loves his daughter.. She loves him... He has told me on numerous occasions that he really had "nothing" before our daughter came along... I know that I took control of a major life-altering decision that directly affected/affects both of us.... But I think I made the right decision for all parties involved...And I'm pretty sure he agrees..... I find it kind of funny that just because people are not trying to make a baby, they do not consider what may happen, and what they want to do, until BAM they are faced with a pregnancy.... I am sure not ALL people are like this... But I have always considered the fact that if I have sex, there is always a CHANCE that I will become pregnant... Whether I want to or not.... Any more thoughts?

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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Pregnancy = Betrayal....?? Posted: 12/21/2006 12:58:11 PM
Spider, We had talked about wanting to have children one day... Though we did not talk about "us" having children, just that we wanted them to one day be in our lives... Of course it is extremely stressful when an unexpected/unplanned pregnancy is forced into your life.. I had other goals, which I am following through with, just on a slower pace... I agree that no, men do not have that Maternal Instinct that women have.. BUT I think that men have the drive to spread their seed, so to speak... Yes, he lost control of his life... So did I .... He had said that if I were to have an abortion, it would be "hard" on him as well... But his priorities were far different than mine, and killing our child could not possibly have made things better(again, nothing against those who have)... But, to each his own..

lollipop86

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Pregnancy = Betrayal....?? Posted: 12/21/2006 12:30:40 PM
Disney Exactly.. I just do NOT understand how/why he could possibly have felt betrayed... I'm just hoping someone on here will be able to give me some insight... Bring me to a better understanding..

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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Pregnancy = Betrayal....?? Posted: 12/21/2006 12:02:59 PM
Ok...Here is how the situation played out.. My questions are to follow... Boy meets girl... They hit it off right from the start... Although they live in different towns(40 minute drive between), they go back and forth spending lots of time together and really enjoying each other's company.... Relationship grows(for a little over a year) and oops, Girl gets pregnant...Condom broke.. Completely unexpected/not planned.. Boy freaks out and spends 2 weeks trying to convince Girl to have an abortion.. Girl couldn't possibly imagine doing such a thing(not that Girl is against those who have done it, she just couldn't take the emotional/psychological trauma)... Girl feels she is more than capable of being an excellent, responsible mother and turns down Boy's wishes....Boy tells Girl that he would need her to be there for him , if an abortion were to happen... Boy then decides that abortion would be too hard on Girl and drops it... Boy feels betrayed.. That's right, betrayed by the fact that Girl is pregnant... Relationship deteriorates through pregnancy until Girl finally leaves Boy on due date of child's birth(although baby came one week late, thankfully!) as Boy is now screwing around with Boy's landlords wife.... So, my questions are: To the women: Have you ever been resented for getting pregnant? To the men: Have you ever had the feeling of Betrayal because your girlfriend got pregnant? If so, why? I have spoke to an ex-coworker of mine who said that when she got pregnant, her man freaked out and broke things off with her...10 years later, he told her that he wanted to be entirely honest with her and said that he had felt betrayed by the pregnancy...

lollipop86

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for the ladies- (dep-povera) WARNINGS!!!! Posted: 12/21/2006 12:21:54 AM
Although I have never been on the "shot"(or the pill), I have had friends who have done both for extended periods of time.. What I do not understand is how someone could get pregnant while on the shot and not know about it until they are 4 or 5 months pregnant.. EVERY time my friend went in to get a shot they would do a pregnancy test before administering it... So, like I said, I just don't get it.. ANYways... I personally am not up for taking drugs that will affect my hormones....I just do not see how it could be good for you... Thats what condoms are for

lollipop86

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pregnancy questions (from gulp**) Posted: 12/20/2006 11:29:20 AM
As for worrying about your baby having abnormalities... I would try to think positively and not bother with the "down syndrome" testing.. What will be will be.. and I think that the best thing to do is to relax and take care of yourself.. extra stress from worrying about such things is probably not the best thing to do.. but thats just my opinion.. good luck!

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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pregnancy questions (from gulp**) Posted: 12/20/2006 11:25:05 AM
Oh you lucky women out there, not gaining a heck of a lot of weight!...My doctor told me that most women who gain a "lot" of weight during pregnancy are those who are prone to retaining water(the weight itself is not actually fat).... I gained 48 pounds at the peek of my pregnancy.. BUT in my first trimester, I actually LOST 3 pounds... and 3 days after birth I was 28 pounds LIGHTER than the day before I gave birth.... That shows you just how much water I was holding all over my body(believe me, those first few days after birth were VERY SWEATY!!!haha).. My face/legs/arms/hands/ankles/feet EVERYTHING was SOO swollen from water retention... I guess it can be hard for some women to accurately calculate just how much "fat" they gained during their pregnancy.. I am now 2 pounds away from my pre-pregnancy weight...My daughter is 14 months..

lollipop86

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Disciplining in store Posted: 12/18/2006 10:34:17 PM
Oh my, so many thoughts.. can't make words..... this thread has gone where it shouldn't thanks to you!

lollipop86

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baby HATES new car seat!?? Posted: 12/18/2006 10:06:34 PM
Not sure about the rules for where all of you live, but here in British Columbia, Canada, It's rear facing car seat until at least 1 year old and must be over 20 pounds..

lollipop86

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Okay Men Listen up - Baldness Question Posted: 12/18/2006 11:13:24 AM
Ok, no I am not a man but I've been reading through the posts and came across someone who mentioned something to the effect of "women think you are less of a man if you are balding".. This is pretty silly... I am a woman and have no problem with men with thinning hair or those who are completely bald... I've done a little bit of research and have read that men who bald young(late 20's, early 30's) have very high levels of testosterone.. I think that if anything, it's something to be proud of....but hey, thats just my opinion

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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Not again!! We used protection!! Posted: 12/17/2006 8:09:40 PM
Well, I've quickly skimmed through most of the posts and would just like to say Congrats and that I think you will do what you feel is right for you... Now, for opinions sake...I would never go through with an abortion(not that I am against people who do, I just couldn't imagine the psychological trauma that involves, I really don't see how a baby is less of a baby at 1 week gestation than at 40 weeks).. So, if I were in your shoes, I would go through with the pregnancy and have another beautiful child, giving a sibling for your little guy... I have read that it is as stressful/traumatic to have a loved one die, as it is to have a child... I know this from experience as well... As long as you feel good about yourself and your family(with or without "daddy"), everything will be fine..better than fine, I'm sure it'll be great!... Forget about everyone's "bashing" comments, they mean nothing to you and do not affect your situation at all whatsoever...Hope everything works out for you!

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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~ Do You Remember Your First Kiss? ~ Posted: 12/14/2006 10:29:48 AM
On a camping trip with my family and a friends family... my brothers and his brothers chased us into an outhouse and wouldn't let us out unless we kissed.. but hey, i was 5 at the time so it doesn't count... My first kiss was with a guy who I had been really good friends with for about 2 years, I was 15 at the time and we had been hangin out watchin a movie at my house and he kissed me out of nowhere, was NOT expected or WANTED lol.. I told him not to tell anyone.. but of course he did...

lollipop86

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Women who don'ttouch themselves? Reason for not doing it? Posted: 12/13/2006 5:40:03 PM
Why touch yourself when a toy can do all the work???

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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What else can I use? Posted: 12/13/2006 4:51:37 PM
Sudocreme works excellent... but as you are saying that her bowel movements are very runny, I am thinking allergy for sure... go through everything she eats... You could even try the elimination diet... bring her diet down to water, pears, chicken, and rice... NOTHING else, no juices, no dairy.. Have you mentioned her runny pooping to the doctor?

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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Newborns and formula problems? Posted: 12/11/2006 12:37:10 PM
I think that there are a lot of doctors/nurses using their own opinions regarding what to give and what not to give without basing their opinions on medical research. Although I am not a doctor myself, I do have a baby who is very healthy and has never had any problems with constipation/allergies etc ... I have, however, read a LOT of books and done a lot of my own research regarding babies digestion. My daughter is now 14 months and I have been breastfeeding her since birth with no formula added to her diet. I started giving my baby water around the 4th or 5th month and started introducing grains at 9 months. This did not affect her negatively in any way and I have never heard of having any issues with water until I read this thread. My doctor/public health nurse says that giving water is perfectly fine, but like I have said, to each his own. As far as formula goes, I would definately change to something else. I have heard a lot of good things about Nestle's Good Start formula. As far as Soy goes, soy is something that a LOT of people are allergic to so I would not recommend it. It should be treated like peanuts, strawberries, seafood, and dairy when it comes to considering it for your young baby. Cows milk contains more protein than human milk which makes it hard on the babies developing digestive system. I have heard good things about goats milk as an alternative though. Although I have no personal experience with using formula's, I do have friends who use formula and have happy, healthy babies. From what I have read, although formula fed babies are usually chubbier than breastfed babies, this does not mean they are healthier. I am all for breastfeeding or formula feeding, do what is right for you and if things aren't working out, change what you can. I would also suggest visiting a Naturopathic doctor, someone who specializes in allergies. Yes, they can be pricey but I'm SURE it would be beneficial for you and your baby. I hope everything works out for you!

lollipop86

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Teething....HELP! Posted: 12/8/2006 10:36:38 AM
I used "Camilia" by Boiron. A homeopathic method for teething pain... Works wonders with my daughter who cut her first 2 teeth at 5 months and has been teething since she was about 2 months old... It goes up and down.. She is now 14 months with 9 teeth and is currently working on her eye teeth... Anyways, Camilia combined with a homeopathic alternative to baby oragel, It's just called Teething Gel.... Otherwise, yes, the cold cloth and freeze teether toys are good....

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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I'm happy for him. Aren't I? (deadbeat Dad moves on) Posted: 12/4/2006 8:53:36 PM
Wow, sounds like you've past the worst of it all... Do you ever speak to his new girlfriend?

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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How old is too old.. Posted: 12/4/2006 5:55:58 PM
badcop Just one course... We read the "Psychology and the Challenges of Life" Eighth Edition by Spencer A. Rathus and Jeffrey S. Nevid. It went into detail about the Psychodynamic Theorists(starting with Freud) who believed that women who sought to compete with men in the business world were assumed to be suffering from unconscious penis envy. Psychoanalytic theory taught that little girls feel inferior to boys when they learn that boys have a penis and they do not. So, I think that his teachings are garbage. I thought our society had moved past such gibberish. Maybe not...

lollipop86

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6 year old babysitter....? Posted: 12/3/2006 10:12:37 PM
InteractiveJohn, Ya, I didn't think it would have done any good... But seriously, how can people do this?? It's as though these parents are setting up their kids for trouble....Does not make sense to me...

lollipop86

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6 year old babysitter....? Posted: 12/3/2006 10:10:00 PM
I saw the parents when I first got on the boat... I didn't go into the child area for about half an hour after being on the boat... And I sat there for a little under an HOUR before one of the ferry crew members came in.. I then told them what the parents looked like and they went to find them... Even if they had gone for food or something, they left these kids by themselves... Do you think it is acceptable to qualify a 6 year old as a babysitter?

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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6 year old babysitter....? Posted: 12/3/2006 9:50:42 PM
This disturbed me and thought I'd share with all of you.....I was on the ferry boat going from Vancouver to Nanaimo here in BC, Canada when this happened... On the ferry they have a nice little play area, a room for kids with little boats to climb on and a slide.. In the room there are about 2 dozen seats.... Now, when I had first come up to the passenger deck I had noticed this young couple with their 3 children.. One was 6, one (I'm guessing) 18 month old, and a 2 or 3 month old baby... The ferry had been running for about half an hour when my daughter and I went into the child play area... There were about 10 other sets of parents in there with their children playing at the time.. Then I noticed the little 18 month old with her 6 year old brother playing... Their parents were no where to be seen... At first I thought, well, there must be someone here that knows them and is keeping an eye on them... So, I simply sat and watched them and my daughter playing together... When the 18 month old took a keen interest in my 13 month old, I sat down beside them and the 6 year old came over chatting up a storm... I asked him who was watching him and his sister and he said, "Me, of course!"... I got up a little surprised and fairly angry, I wasn't sure what I should... Go out in search of the parents? Stay and watch these kids whom I do not even know? Find a ferry person and report it?.... I ended up staying and watching them until one of the ferry people came in and I described the parents to them.. So, my question is.. What would you have done??? I was VERY tempted to give the parents a piece of my mind....

lollipop86

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Justice for the good Fathers!!! Posted: 12/3/2006 9:18:43 PM
"Women know they have all the rights....they drive us to leave." Sounds pretty bitter to me.... I guess all women are the same then eh? hmm.. strange When you say, "even the people at the top know its not right", who are you referring to?

lollipop86

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How old is too old.. Posted: 12/3/2006 8:18:58 PM
DJ Smak, According to the Psychology course I took, it is the case...

lollipop86

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How old is too old.. Posted: 12/1/2006 4:21:21 PM
Why SHOULD a child see their parent naked?

lollipop86

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GULP ** here it goes..... Posted: 12/1/2006 1:08:20 PM
I think that "mind over matter" can go a long way.. think positively as often as possible, try not to think negatively in regards to your pregnancy/baby .. and the less stress you allow yourself to get wrapped up in, the better!.. I'm sure you'll do fine and I hope the best for your baby!... When my Mother was pregnant with my brother, she was 8 and a half months pregnant and they told her that her baby was breach!.. She was very upset about this but stopped the negative thinking and just started telling herself that the baby would turn over, she did some exercises to help in the turning over and even though the doctors told her it was hopeless, he turned! Just a few DAYS before he was born! The power of positive thinking!

lollipop86

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How old is too old.. Posted: 12/1/2006 12:23:57 PM
badcop, In direct reference to SIGMUND FREUD, he taught that everyone revolves around penis's.. that girls/women are jealous of men because they have a penis and women do not..so, I was NOT saying that EVERYONE is obsessed with the PENIS, just that FREUD believed everyone is... In my opinion, Freud was full of sh!t, but hey, thats just what I think... I have answered the question in a previous post.. I do feel that it is inappropriate and pointless to be showering with your 7 year old daughter, if you want to be in the water with them, go SWIMMING!!... and assuming that there was nothing "fishy" going on, still, what kind of stories do you want your child to be telling their friends at school? Stories about their daddy's bits and pieces?...Just seems strange to me..

lollipop86

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ok this is about mommy! Posted: 12/1/2006 12:17:11 PM
I would suggest not even considering your ex's opinion /thoughts on your moving situation at all!!! He sounds like a deadbeat and is no longer apart of your life...do all you can do to get sole custody and go where ever you feel is the healthiest place for you and your child.... It sounds like the environment you are in is not emotionally healthy for you or your daughter.. Hope everything works out for you and your baby!

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

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How old is too old.. Posted: 12/1/2006 11:48:07 AM
badcop, As far as Sigmund Freud is concerned.... EVERYONE is obsessed with the PENIS!!.. That guy was an idiot in his time.. And to preach about his BS is ridiculous!! but hey, I guess you are entitled to your own opinion....

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

Msg: 20 (view)

GULP ** here it goes..... Posted: 12/1/2006 11:41:32 AM
hey Trickers, In regards to your thoughts on getting the amniocentisis test done... I would be VERY cautious about it.. From what I have researched, it is VERY risky, and ups the chances of miscarriage dramatically...That is what I have read and I would never have it done.. but if you feel that its totally necessary, then do what you feel you need to do.... My older brother has Aspergers Syndrome, which can "run in the family".. Aspergers is a form of Autism as you probably know... I didn't feel that having any testing done to my baby before hand would help me or the baby out at all.. It won't make a difference knowing before hand... I figured if she does have anything, then so be it! I hope all goes well for you! Good luck!

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

Msg: 47 (view)

Why porn? Posted: 11/30/2006 2:29:21 PM
There's nothing wrong with a little porn...

lollipop86

Joined: 11/6/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

Arm Hair on a Woman Posted: 11/30/2006 2:16:57 PM
A friend of mine gets her arms waxed and is EXTREMELY self conscious about it!.. I don't understand it.. I mean, yes she is a brunette, she has dark skin all of the time.. and gets very tanned in the summer.... I've never noticed anything odd about her arm hair.. I am a red head, therefore, my arm hair is blonde and barely noticeable.... I think, if it makes you feel better, get em waxed/bleached.. but SHAVE?? oh god no.. thats just silly!!

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