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flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

Msg: 28 (view)

Older men Posted: 5/4/2005 10:54:42 PM
I am very attracted to older men; too bad they aren't attracted to me. Sometimes I do think the ones that go for the "real young ones (+20 diff)" are not being proper; they are just feeding a carnal desire.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Who wears the pants in your relationship Posted: 5/4/2005 10:30:30 PM
I (the woman) would be wearing the pants if we were: eating making dinner getting ready for an event decorating house doing foreplay tipping well buying furniture training pets making sense of our relationship trying to make the bathroom smell nice for guests in a position where I would be imitating Adiana Lima while wearing a corset and stillettos (duh) He (the man) would be wearing the pants if we were: fixing the car fixing the computer fixing whatever was broken in the house renovating the garage enjoying mad passionate sex opening a jar/wine bottle visiting his mother doing taxes driving thorugh a seedy neighborhood yelling at the kids lost and trying to survive in the wilderness for a week in a scenario where he would be watching/playing the latest sports game/video game (duh)

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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What is love?,,, Posted: 5/4/2005 9:49:39 PM
I am totally with llamatamer. Ultimately, love is about giving, not receiving. Love is about giving one's true self (and not the needy, insecure, and manipulative tendencies masquerading as love) to another person without expecting anything in return other than that being witness to that person's happiness. Love is about dealing with the "unenjoyable" parts of a relationship: forgiveness, patience, looking-past-the-obvious, swallowing ones' pride, and compromising. Love is also about having fun and living life together: telling jokes, playing games, taking on adventures, always makign sure the love of your life is having as much fun as you are. Love is about knowing the other person well enough to understand their fears and weaknesses to calm and soften them even before they should appear. No one likes to be judged; but love does not judge, it understands. No one likes to be criticized; but love does not criticize, it compensates. No one likes to be alone; but love does not leave, it waits. If this seems difficult for the average person, well, it's supposed to be. Love isn't free. If love was that easy to come by, everyone would be wallowing in it. Selfishness and fear are opposites to love, and even a trace of either will keep love away.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Shallow people Posted: 3/30/2005 5:28:42 PM
Hosstuff...you are too funny.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Are you Afraid to grow old? Posted: 3/25/2005 7:33:52 PM
What gives me comfort is that aging is one of the few things that happens to EVERYONE. So while it is natural to feel wistful and a little disappointed at certain times, it's sort of silly to get all worked up about it. It's a part of life. You can always die young...then you won't grow old. What I'll never do is lie about my age. This is tacky.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Gum Chewers Posted: 3/25/2005 7:22:53 PM
See, this is why I chew gum only when I'm alone in my apartment with the phone unhooked and the lights turned off. ;) No, I agree that loud chewing gum in public is very annoying. Just this week I was taking a Latin midterm and this kid who is usually pretty repelling (he sat next to me on the first day and he had some unpleasant BO) was chewing and SMACKING his gum all throughout the exam. I wanted to strangle him right there and shove that wad down his throat. It's appalling just how oblivious some people can be of their negative effect on others.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Can a woman ware too much makeup? Posted: 3/25/2005 7:13:50 PM
I love make up and how it looks on me. I am pretty light with the stuff though: brow pencil, eyeliner or shadow depending on the mood, dab of powder on my nose to cut the shine, and lip stain (this is different from lipstick, as it is more pigment than goop). I don't wear foundation unless I'm going to a wedding, a party, a club, or where pictures will be taken, as it is a bi*ch to wash off not suitable for everyday wear. If this sounds excessive, than fine. I'm a woman and a bit of vanity can be a good thing. If women stopped wearing make up all together you'd hear way more complaints from the men, believe me. I have one pet peeve, though. Actually two: 1. Plucking eyebrows to nothing and then drawing them back on. Stick with the natural line, otherwise it looks silly. 2. Clumpy mascara. It's so distracting when a woman has lashes like dead twigs and bats them when talking. I don't wear mascara. No offense to anyone who does, but I think it's unsanitary. Same reason I don't wear roll-on or "wand" lip gloss.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Orgasm Posted: 3/25/2005 6:43:37 PM
Actually Bunny, I would say there is at least one more than the four kinds of orgasms you've mentioned: the brain (yeah, the actual one). I 've actually had several orgasms in my life simply from an erotic dream. Real, big ones that penetrate to the core...I always remember the dream and I always wake up as I come. I began having them as an adult, so it can't be fluctuating hormones or puberty. It's weird, but hey I'd be stupid to complain, right? Needless to say I have a habit of thinking sexy thoughts when I go to bed. Anyone else, especially women, ever have this experience?

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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What do you look for in a friend? Posted: 3/23/2005 12:49:07 PM
1. Sharing of some common interests. 2. Accepting (or at least tolerating) of my eccentricies, quirks, and somewhat snarky nature. 3. Self-confidence: I'm not going to be the swaddle blanket for an insecure adult with needs of validation. 4. Independence: I am not a person that calls every friend every other day. I like to have my own life, and allow my friends to have the same. 5. Manners 6. No jealousy...having a jealous friend is worse than having an enemy.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Is it a chore? Posted: 3/23/2005 12:19:01 PM
^Well said, John! I would choose C, but the word "chore" has a very negative connotation. Like saying working on the relationship is a hassle. I prefer to call it an "endeavor." It puts a positive spin on something people should be doing, but not necesarily want to be doing.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Men’s Pet Peeves Part-2, “<>” Posted: 3/21/2005 7:16:21 PM
Isn't this a duplicate?

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Can married men/women just be friends with opposite sex? Posted: 3/21/2005 7:10:28 PM
I'll be friends with a man, but he has to befriend my husband too...or else he is out. I don't believe in having exclusive friends of the opposite gender when you are married.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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How to talk to someone who has no interests/hobbies? Posted: 3/20/2005 2:18:44 PM
If you are interested in them and want them to like you, then talk about everyone's favorite topic...themselves.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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people you most admire. Posted: 3/20/2005 12:49:41 PM
^Frank Zappa...a very witty and interesting character. Albert Einstein: most people think he was a genius, and while that is certaintly true, the people closest to him said that he worked harder than anyone. 99% perspiration, I say. Marie Curie: A very under-appreciated scientist. She gave her life (literally) for humankind's understanding of the natural world. Arnold Schwartzeneggar: A model republican. If only more would could follow his example. Martha Stewart: she created an empire out of dust, conducted shrewd business, made a mistake, repented, paid for it with her time, learned from it, and got back to business. Cleopatra: I admire her strength and charisma, if not necessarily her judgment. Colin Powell: Who doesn't like this guy? Abraham Lincoln: His greatness resounds throughout history...he was a man truly beyond his time.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN Posted: 3/20/2005 11:35:21 AM
I have heard of people falling on love through stranger means...(cop ticketing a woman who was speeding, teacher-students, mail-order brides...etc), so I wouldn't doubt that I could happen. Now, whether that love remains after the two meet, is another matter.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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What is a loser anyways? Posted: 3/20/2005 11:29:23 AM
RD, Well, one out of 15 isn't terrible. Besides if I condemned you, I would be committing #13.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Do nonmuscular skinny guys have a chance? Posted: 3/20/2005 11:19:10 AM
I'm sorry, but I need the muscle. I'm pretty lean, so I need one of us to have some cushion, or else bones would knock together and that is so unsexy, not to mention uncomfortable. While I am much more fond of cuddling with a heavier man, I must admit that thin guys can be very attractive. Especially, the sleek artistic or geeky types. I would prabably want to spend the night with a Vin Diesel, but gaze upon a Jude Law.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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SHORT MAN SYNDROME??? Posted: 3/20/2005 11:13:04 AM
Actually, the short-man syndrome, or Napoleonic Complex, can be a good thing. I have known several short-statured men who work hard to cultivate a sense of humor, achieve financial success, perfect a craft, master martial arts, etc. When a man realizes that hieght cannot be changed, but many other things can be, and works toward those things, he can rise above (no pun intended) men of towering stature who has little else to show but for their height.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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What is a loser anyways? Posted: 3/20/2005 11:07:32 AM
Losers: 1. Blame others for faults that are their own 2. Try to get something for nothing. 3. Complain about how unfair life is instead of working to improve it. 4. Think they are superior to others on a simple of basis of race, religion, gender, sexual orientation...etc 5. Abuse those that are perceived as weaker than they. 6. Have no charisma. 7. Cannot stand for beliefs alone, must be shielded by others like them. Has a mob-mentality. 8. Have no ambition, whether the goal is money, status, power, or love. 9. Have no compassion for others. 10. Guilt-trip others: This is a biggie. Losers use the goodness and the willingness to do right within others as lever of manipulation. 11. Have little self-control. Losers often say, "I can't help it..." 12. Enjoy the generosity of others while remaining stingy with theirs. 13. Do not forgive, yet expect others to be perfect. 14. Confuse the concepts of suffering for greater good with the pain of self-pity. 15. Believe that life is ruled by fate and destiny...not by their own actions.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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non-latex condoms....any good? Posted: 3/20/2005 10:37:49 AM
I am mildly allergic to latex...what I can't stand at all is the smell of it. I like polyurethane. I think it's more flexible, it just feels better to me.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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favorate....after sex activity Posted: 3/20/2005 10:25:43 AM
Shower, eat, gaming session. In that order.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Most embarrassing moment? Posted: 3/19/2005 3:20:52 PM
On one of my busier days as a waitress, I addressed a table of what I thought were two men, 'Hello, gentlemen.' As soon as I said that, one 'man' turns to me and turned out to be a very short-haired woman! I got really flustered and took their drink orders with my cheeks burning. When I brought their drinks, I offered them a sincere apology and explained that I was in a hurry and didn't quite pay attention as I should have. They accepted my apology, but I could tell the woman was very upset. I felt really terrible.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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What do you focus on ? Posted: 3/19/2005 3:05:20 PM
I read the paper everyday, focusing on anything involving the miltary, world politics, and sometimes movie reviews. I don't follow fashion trends. Most new trends are hideous and clashes with my taste. As Oscar Wilde put it: 'Fashion is a form of ugliness so intolerable that we have to alter it every six months.' The internet is as essential to my existance as air. I have overseas video conferences, keep blogs, socialize in forums, shop for practically everything except milk and eggs, do reseaarch, and manage my finances. I haven't watched TV in over two years, but I spend several hours online everyday.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Had money down on Zep tickets & Bonham dies ! Posted: 3/19/2005 2:41:45 PM
Yes, I'm really sorry for your loss... ;p

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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What happens if your partner puts on a great deal of weight Posted: 3/19/2005 1:50:19 PM
For me, I would stick by my man. Some people just naturally gain weight as a result of genetics or even stress. If he put in an effort to lose weight or at least manage it, then I would be satisfied. But if he just let himself go and quit even trying, I may be supportive at first, but would soon find my patience wearing thin. Weight gain isn't a sign of weakness, but giving up is. Plus, obesity isn't about simple aesthetics; it's also about health.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Physical or Habits that are Turnoffs of the opposite sex Posted: 3/19/2005 1:37:25 PM
Oh, what annoys me? Poor driving habits. Talking on cellphone when it isn't necessary, not keeping eyes on the road, running through stop signs...etc. The reason that it annoys me is that it makes me nervous and I can't help but nag, in turn making ME very annoying. I don't want to be annoying.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Physical or Habits that are Turnoffs of the opposite sex Posted: 3/19/2005 1:33:04 PM
^ I agree. Metrosexuals... Scare straight men Frustrate gay men And annoy all women. They must be stopped.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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I'm attracted to his best friend Posted: 3/19/2005 1:24:03 PM
Also think about how you would feel if your loving boyfriend became infatuated with YOUR best friend.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Children: Undecided/Open Posted: 3/19/2005 1:19:22 PM
It means that I would have children only if all these conditions are met: My husband wants them. We are secure financially. We have and can maintain a balanced schedule. We can provide a safe and healthy environment. We are not fullfilled emotionally otherwise. I don't think I was put on this earth to simply procreate, but I think I can be a decent parent and having kids is not out of the question.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Is Age A Problem For You!! Posted: 3/19/2005 1:11:18 PM
I'm a 25 yr old woman. The youngest I would date would be 22. The eldest would be 45.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Why do women bash each other? Posted: 3/19/2005 1:04:58 PM
I agree that it does boil down to insecurity. More often that not, I've noticed that the friendliest women I've met are usually very good-looking. It's unexpected, but true, at least for me. When a woman has a problem with me, I usually just attribute their ****iness to jealousy or insecurity. This may sound arrogant or self-serving, but the pretty and smart women are usually the nicest ones, so it's hard to not make that judgment.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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What one thing do you find sexy. Not a physical feature but a gesture Posted: 3/18/2005 4:41:52 PM
When my man teaches me something. Like to shoot a rifle, to fix a computer, or even how to dance. Ability is such a sex trigger for me, and I love to learn different things. It's especially sexy when he can teach me in a polite gentlemanly way without being condescending.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Compatibility and other ramblings Posted: 3/12/2005 8:55:44 PM
Here's my simple take goes like this: You can ALWAYS change your mind, but you can NEVER go back to change the past. You shouldn't stay with someone that doesn't make you happy...but you shouldn't give up on someone without putting a great deal of effort in deciding whether he fits the former either. That said, why don't you try thinking about whether YOU are right for HIM? Think about whether you deserve him and his kindness and all the stuff (your mom likes him, good job, etc...) that you claim makes him wonderful. Trust me, just try it. How you answer those questions would be a good indication of whether you guys are right for each other. Why? Because, there will be many plenty of times in the future where he won't impress you, where he won't personify the qualities that you value in a man. Is the relationship good enough to withstand those difficulties? So, the first step in figuring out whether you two will work is to find out how you feel about him. The whole issue depnds on you.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Need some $.02 here... Posted: 3/8/2005 12:51:00 AM
I personally believe that people can change and change for the better. I know this bacause I've done it. I don't think I was ever a horrible girlfriend, but there were times long ago that I really disappointed myself and needed to grow up. I like to think that I have, at least to a certain extent. So perhaps others including ex's could have done the same. I think second tries can work, as long as both parties abandon fanciful notions that all the old problems would have magically disapeared. If both still care about eachother deeply, are willing to work and try to learn from the past and not use it to hurt eachother, then success can be had.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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which zodiac signs are good matches? Posted: 3/5/2005 4:04:17 PM
I can charm the pants of a gemini...I'm a challenge and gems dig that.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Getting caught Posted: 3/5/2005 3:39:03 PM
Um...why? Did this happen to you? o.O

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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WHAT WAS THE WIERDEST THING YOU HAVE FOUND AND KEPT? Posted: 3/5/2005 3:38:03 PM
I found a tiny cannabis plant (like 3 inches tall). No I didn't smoke it...instead it lived for about a month in the pot (no pun intended) I provided for it. I miss the little guy.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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How to make someone jealous and actually get results!!!! Posted: 3/5/2005 12:14:58 AM
Remember that people often jealous, they just don't admit it. Make sure you have all your facts before you play with fire. And I also think that this affair is a bit juvenile.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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???( What would you wear on your first Anniversary Date )??? Posted: 3/5/2005 12:00:02 AM
First it would depend on what you two will be doing, but it is almost always better to overdress than to underdress.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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if you could have any talent, what would that talent be? Posted: 2/28/2005 6:35:35 PM
What a fun thread... I would love to be a mathematical genius. Math is the most powerful tool to ever exist.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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A 100 PERCENT CORRECT Posted: 2/28/2005 6:20:41 PM
^ I agree... My answer would be unconditional love. And patience.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Is there something wrong with a Picses? Posted: 2/28/2005 6:19:34 PM
Pisceans are labeled (not saying as true) as passive, whiny, dependent, and apt to feel sorry for themselves. If these don't apply to you, don't worry about it. If you blame girls' lack of interest in you on your sign, it reflects badly on you. If they really are repelled by your sign, then it reflects badly on them. Either way, I wouldn't give it too much concern.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Just because you've have a higher education Posted: 2/24/2005 2:31:27 PM
I'm in school because I like to learn. I'm only an undergrad, but I go to a pretty decent school (or so they say). If I thought I was better than anyone because of my edu-ma-cation, then many more people would be better than me, namely those with master's, phDs, MDs, etc...which just gets pointless. Even success doesn't make you "better" than anyone. The only thing that can makes you "better" than others is when you make yourself successful, and use that success to help out others. Sacrifice, that is.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Beauty is only skin deep... Posted: 2/23/2005 5:15:50 PM
Burnedman, there will come along a lady that will love you for you are, I promise. There are plenty of women out there who know what is truly important.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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good advice from a kid Posted: 2/23/2005 5:06:17 PM
There is no such thing as good advice, just good advice for some people. If forgetting works for you, that's great. Some people like to forget, some plot revenge, some lash out, and others, like me, tend to bury their pain in activities and booze. Everyone deals with pain differently; what works for you may not apply to others. That said, I think the way you deal with hurt is refreshing, as too many people dwell in theirs too much.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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WHAT IS THE ONE MOST ATTRACTIVE FEATURE OF A MAN OR A WOMAN AND WHY? Posted: 2/23/2005 4:57:40 PM
I love a man's hands. When I see a man holding a tool it makes me go crazy. (I did NOT just say that!) The feature I love about women is their hair. I can tell a lot about a woman by her hair.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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Re: Night all Posted: 2/23/2005 12:18:49 AM
Feck! It's late, I gotta sleep! This forum is too addictive.

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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The mean things we do Posted: 2/23/2005 12:14:40 AM
Thank you for making me look like a d*mn angel, Tera!

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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The mean things we do Posted: 2/23/2005 12:13:32 AM
River, that's not mean, that's almost cute. LOL

flareon

Joined: 11/28/2004

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The mean things we do Posted: 2/23/2005 12:09:07 AM
I slapped a girl who stabbed me in the back by "having a crush" on my then boyfriend, and then again by trying to get my NEXT boyfriend to dance and kiss her. First time I let it slide, the second time, I wasn't having it. I should have slapped her twice for being such a two-faced b**ch. I personally know better and admit hitting someone was very immature, but I was 16 and angry, especially because I thought she was a friend. I guess we both learned lessons.

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