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LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 104 (view)

Co - Worker Caught BF Wrestling With her Mom. Should she be worried about more? Posted: 10/1/2008 10:22:38 AM
I think the GF has every right to be upset. Had she walked in a bit later, would it just have been "wrestling" that she would have caught them doing? Her "Mom" and I use that term lightly, has no conscience and her actions were reprehensible. She's immature and selfish and wasn't thinking of her daughter...only herself. Parents are supposed to set good examples for thie children. All too often, it's the opposite. Whether their actions were innocent or suspect (I'd more likely think this), they were in poor judgment on both parts. I highly doubt this girl will ever trust her "boyfriend" and I wouldn't trust the Mother either. So, how is she going to have a happy and healthy relationship with a guy she can't trust? It's highly unlikely she is. And, she's probably going to have trust issues regarding her Mom as well. My advice to her would be to "cut her losses"....dump the boyfriend and it's too bad she can't get a new Mom as well.

lovesyoungermen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 430 (view)

When a woman is so beautiful you can't approach her. Posted: 8/30/2008 1:44:53 PM
Not to sound conceited, but, it's happened to me ALOT. Guys shouldn't be intimidated by looks, education/smarts, income/success level or anything else. Neither should women! I know, that I am not! I've been around some celebrities and that didn't intimidate me either. As some others have said, I'll talk to or approach anyone and everyone! You never know what you may be missing out on if you don't take a chance! Besides, you may regret it if you don't. I think that alot of men tend to worry too much about rejection; however, you never know, you might be EXACTLY what that person is seeking although you can't fathom it yourself. I LOVE a man that has the confidence to approach me and/or take initiatives with me.

lovesyoungermen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 517 (view)

Why are most men looking for Friends with Benefits? Posted: 8/28/2008 2:16:17 PM
Men aren't the only ones necessarily looking for "friends with benefits" and certainly there are men out there looking for long-term, committed relationships. Personally, I am moreso looking for the former than the latter at this point. But, that can change at any given time. I'd say that most men do want sex right away or soon into a "relationship" and there are women that do as well. It just depends on the two people involved...and it's never the same with me. I do agree that it's usually best to "get to know" someone before you become intimate with them...usually makes for better sex relationship all around. I say, do what feels best/right to you and don't compromise. Good luck to you!

lovesyoungermen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 76 (view)

He is younger than me and has issues with it. Posted: 6/12/2008 8:29:42 AM
It sounds like he has more issues than just the age difference. I'd say "cut your losses" and move on. He sounds extremely immature for 34...perhaps he does need to be dating someone younger! Best of luck to you!

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 106 (view)

Do you forewarn the next Victim ? Posted: 1/1/2008 2:40:01 PM
First off, let me say how sorry I am that you had to go through that. What a horrible situation to be in...especially when there are deep feelings involved. I'm sure the rational part of you is now relieved that you are out of that situation. I was in a relationship with someone in 2005 that I had known and previously dated about 10 years before. I KNEW he was a cheat and a liar (pathological) previously and I was hoping that he changed. Well, he hadn't. To make a long story short, he drained me emotionally...luckily, NOT financially and he was also "playing" a few other women on the side that I knew about as well. While he was still lying to me on some level, I knew that he was pursuing another woman (not the only one) that he had met online...he even told me WHO she was. That wasn't very smart on his part. He's a sick and manipulative person and I struggled for some time with the decision of whether I should tell her what she was about to get herself into. I knew that most likely she wasn't going to believe me and just think that I was "bitter and jealous." Part of me was and I didn't want that to be the main motivation for contacting her. I thought about this over several weeks. Finally, I decided to use that as a means of breaking up with him and severing ties with him. For whatever reason I just couldn't seem to do it before even though I KNEW our relationship was "toxic" and I was very unhappy. I knew he was going to be very angry with me for me trying to "sabotage" his budding relationship with this woman. I basically woke up one morning and just did it. I immediately changed my phone number so he couldn't contact me either. I emailed her and basically detailed EVERYTHING he had done over the last 10 years. She appeared genuinely thankful at first, but because she was "falling for him," that led her to forward the emails to him and decide to pursue her relationship with him. Of course, he was livid with me but he was also thrilled to annouce that she didn't care about what he had done in the "past." Supposedly, she fell "in love" with him during the first week or two. Anyway, they did break up with a few weeks and eventually for good within a few months. I had severed all ties with him at that that point. I had to do that to keep MY sanity...or what was left of it. Luckily, he lived out-of-state, so it made it easier to do. Shortly after their breakup, I received an email from her and she told me that "I was right and she should have listened to me." Like I told her, I really didn't think she would believe me and it was a lesson that she had to learn on her own. Your ex sounds like his has some psychological issues...most likely he's a sociopath and using that to "charm" women for his own benefit. I'm fully convinced that my ex was as well. However, I had the foresight to get out. It's hard to do when you love someone and you thought or hoped that they had changed. I had previously dated this guy almost 10 years ago and I should have known better....but, that's mute at this point. You should do whatever you feel in your heart is right...don't act out of hurt, jealously, or vindictiveness. Do it out of genuine concern for the other woman involved. Either way, the odds that she will listen to you and/or believe you are probably slim-to-none. Love IS blind after all...I am convinced that it is deaf and dumb as well...LOL I don't envy the situation that you are in. However, be thankful that this guy is out of your life...I HOPE he is. You should focus on YOU and being a happier and healthier person. Don't use your hurt/pain/lonliness, etc. as a springboard for rushing into another relationship that will most likely fail as well. Take care and have a blessed 2008! Keep us posted. LYM

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

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Daughter fallin' in love with my boyfriend Posted: 11/30/2007 11:47:40 AM
Guess, I don't know any of the parties involve here, however he sounds JUST LIKE my ex-boyfriend. He's 36, though. Are you sure that your boyfriend is not just hanging out with you because of your daughter? My ex did that...dated a woman so he could be around her cute, teenaged daughters and was just waiting for them to become legal age so perhaps he could have a "go at them." There are some men that age that "fancy" younger girls like that. My ex would have had sex with them at that time had he thought he could have gotten away with it. Sadly, this woman was "in love" with him and believed that he was really into her. Over the years, she's "wised up" and realized what was going on. I'm not saying that this is what is going on...it's just a thought. Maybe your daugther does have a "crush" on him because he's cute, cool, and pays her alot of attention that perhap she is craving on some level. However, her comments and state of "undress" around him are disrespectful to you AND him (not to mention her) and you need to have a talk with her about it. Good luck to you! LYM

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 748 (view)

When it comes to the opposite sex, what is your weakness? Posted: 11/19/2007 6:22:12 AM
Brianleek, I find that hard to believe that is the ONLY weakness where the opposite sex is concerned....but, I'll have to take your word for it. I tried emailing you...I guess you have your settings as such where I can't! Oh well...LOL At any rate, you have beautiful eyes...that's one of my weaknesses (especially green/blue)...along with great smiles/teeth/lips, intelligence, confidence, and a wicked sense of humor! Of course, being kind and respectful of others is important as well. Also, if a guy has a great relationship with his Mom/family it says alot about his character and how he'll treat me and other women as well.

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 199 (view)

what is a cougar exactly? Posted: 11/3/2007 3:43:55 PM
Applette, I agree with your definition whole-heartedly! I always "set my prey free" when I am done with him for both his and other ladies' enjoyment...grin

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 346 (view)

Do women like the taste of a mans semen? Posted: 11/3/2007 3:35:42 PM
Generally, I love it! However, it does vary from guy to guy and also depends on what sort of diet he's on...ie. lots of coffee/caffeine tends to cause bitterness. There are numerous articles online about which foods promote certain "flavors" of semen. I won't get into all of that here because I am sure it's been mentioned. There are been a few times that it's tasted really bitter to me, but I NEVER spit or let on to the guy that he is anything less than delicious! Guys find that incredibly sexy! For one, I would find that to be rude and "in poor taste"....pun intended...LOL Besides that, I think that would offend or hurt his feelings if I did so. It's not going to kill you...just swallow it down quickly and then get a drink of something to clear your throat as soon as you can. If you just can't deal with it, "discreetly" spit into a Kleenex, etc. without your partner's knowledge.

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 323 (view)

Whats the Best Accent you've hear that you love... and why Posted: 11/3/2007 3:23:57 PM
British (moreso the upper class English), Scottish (think "Highlander"), Canadian, and Austrailian! As long as the person has a nice speaking voice and they speak PROPER English without "slaying the language," almost any accent can be very sexy! I'm from the South, but I'm not too keen on men with "Southern" accents (I think that comes from the "good ole boy mentality"), but I must say that some women have really nice ones...ie. Ashley Judd. Although, I do find the occasional "Texas drawl" pretty "hot!"

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

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tried to 'warn' a gal about announcing name of her gym Posted: 11/3/2007 12:50:47 PM
I think that the OP had honorable intentions. He was trying to warn the woman of potential repurcussions of posting personal info. like that. I did the same thing on another website when I saw that a teenaged girl had posted her schedule...where she would be and at what time. It would make it extremely easy for a potential "stalker" to find her. I happened to know her Mom and I told her about it. Why this woman on POF reacted the way she did is beyond me. Perhaps she realized her error in judgment and just didn't like the fact that you "called her on it." Then again, she may be trying to get some "free advertising" for a specific gym and I would imagine that's a TOS violation. I once posted what shift I work on a forum...of course, not WHERE I work and I had forgotten about it. Some time later, I got a message from a website member that stated, "You should be getting off work soon...want to get together...blah...blah." At first, I thought that this person was a friend of someone who knew me and they were "playing a joke on me." My second instinct was that it was someone trying to "scare" me by letting me know that he KNEW my work schedule. It really upset me. Then I started thinking that perhaps he knew WHERE I was working as well. So, after a few emails...some in which I offended him, he explained that he had gotten the information from my forum post. I was very apologetic, but it did cause me to think that perhaps I shouldn't have posted that information on a public site so it was available so readily to so many people. I don't, however, have a problem telling people what shift I work once I start corresponding with them. However, I rarely tell them exactly WHERE I am working.

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 183 (view)

Why do young men think older women are interested in them? Posted: 9/8/2007 2:01:13 PM
I'm 44 as well and I happen to LOVE younger men...hence my member name...and not everyone likes the same things. That's what makes life interesting. In my case, I am not pursuing anything serious at the moment, so none of the things you mentioned have been an issue for me. Also, I don't have to worry about them "looking like my son" because I don't have any kids! LovesYoungerMen

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 534 (view)

Long hair on older women Posted: 9/8/2007 1:19:43 PM
Men and Women: Do the majority of women over 40 still look good with long(er) hair? How long or how short? At what age should/would women "give up the locks" to remain attractive and "in style"? Ladies, if you keep your hair long, is it because YOU want to or because the guys all fantasize about the long locks? OP, I wouldn't say that the "majority" of older women look good with long hair. Just as I think that a woman's hair looks better a bit lighter as you age as well. Longer hair (and darker) can actually make you LOOK OLDER than you are. I happen to be one that does look good with long hair. Of course, I don't look anywhere near my age and that probably has something to do with it. At the point it no longer flatters me, I will cut it. I've had varying lengths of hair throughout my life, and have found that I look more attractive with medium to longer length hair. I love the short pixie cuts on some women...ie. Halle Berry, but they just don't flatter me. I've had short hair before. It all depends on the individual. Some older women look horrendous with long hair, but you couldn't convince them of that fact if you hit them with a "2x4!" I've known women like that. I also can't stand it when someone has really thin hair or needs to cut several inches off of it to make it look "healthy." If you are going to have long hair, you need to keep it trimmed, conditioned, and well-groomed...and that goes whether you are a woman OR a man. As far as what age someone should give up longer hair, that depends upon the individual. Some older women are quite attractive with longer locks while some look like hell. I always think that long hair will be "in style"...it's just not always the most flattering style for some of those that choose it. I keep my hair long because I like it. I rarely do things because some MAN wants me to do it. I make my own decisions. I personally like the way it looks and feels and it also makes me feel very "sexy." Plus, it's always fun when a guy grabs ahold of it...wink I've found that the majority of men like it as well. I've gotten compliments on my longer hair all my life as it's been a "constant" for a vast majority of it!

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

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I found more than I was looking for Posted: 9/7/2007 9:48:34 PM
Rose...don't be so cynical. It does happen. My parents met and married after only knowing each other for two weeks and they were very happily married for almost 46 years when my Mom passed away. I'm not saying that's the "norm," but it certainly is possible. All the best to the OP!

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 280 (view)

Whats with women that invite their dogs into the bedroom to sleep? Posted: 9/4/2007 2:00:42 PM
I have a Jack Russell. She sleeps on her bed at the foot of my bed...but, not IN the bed with me. And, she is free to "come and go" Only in special cirumstances...ie. I'm going to be leaving her for several days or it's really cold...do I allow her to. I certainly wouldn't allow her in the bed if I had a "gentleman" staying as an overnight guest. It's funny, I actually met a guy on this site that had 4-5 dogs...a few of them large breeds that he said actually all slept IN THE BED with him. I had to question what he did when he had females guests over. I'm sorry, that's just a really HARD LIMIT for me. I just couldn't do it!

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

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I work odd hours...does that make me less dateable? Posted: 9/4/2007 10:37:23 AM
I've worked nights (7p-7a) for many years. It's never encumbered me from being able to date or have a social life. It's actually been advantageous because I only work four days per week unless I want to work more. Also, the fact that you are going to have three-day weekends will be of great advantage to you. Suppose you meet someone that you need to travel to in order to visit...you'll have that extra day to do so or to go off on an "extended weekend trip" anywhere. You realize that most "normal" people work Monday through Friday day shifts. But, the fact that you are working while they are sleeping and vice versa shouldn't prove to be an issue either. Granted, there are going to be times when whomever you are dating will want to do something during the week and you won't be able to because of your work schedule. Like others have mentioned, if you find someone that you like spending time with, you'll FIND the time to be together. On a whole, I think that you will find this new schedule to be to your liking. Good luck to you!

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 154 (view)

Men love naked women Posted: 9/3/2007 2:16:19 PM
I think that in SOME instances, even having a pulse is negotiable...LOL And I'll agree...most men just appreciate the female form. However, once we are naked, that's a pretty strong indicator that they are going to "get lucky." In most of these cases, their hormones take over and they stop thinking rationally with their brains and start thinking with their "other head" instead.

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 85 (view)

Why are older women scared about dating younger men? Posted: 8/25/2007 2:40:16 PM
I'm not "scared" of dating younger men. In fact, I almost exclusively date ONLY younger men...and most of them significantly younger. Perhaps that is the part of me that doesn't want to "grow up." I have done so since I got divorced at 30. However, I am not really looking for a serious relationship at this point. I am just enjoying having fun and younger guys are definitely lots of fun! Also, most guys as young as you aren't looking to "settle down." At such point that I decide I am, I personally don't see myself getting serious with anyone who is more than 10 years younger. There are always exceptions, though. And, I have learned to "never say never!"

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

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Changing my dating views..... Posted: 8/20/2007 5:24:59 PM
HoneyCo99....wait till you are MY age and dating someone YOUR age...the "Mrs. Robinson" label will definitely apply. In my case, it's "played out." However, I do what makes me happy...not what others think is appropriate or acceptable to them. I'm glad to see that you are doing the same. Keep us posted on how things go and good luck to you!

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

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Changing my dating views..... Posted: 8/19/2007 12:29:17 PM
I'm alot older than you, but of course my views on alot of things have changed over the years. I have certainly learned to "never say never!" You're 24 and he's only 18. I don't think that the 6 year age difference would be that significant if you were older. I date guys that are that much younger and more. However, at this point, that's VERY young for a guy as he hasn't had an opportunity to really mature emotionally and figure out what he wants in life. Besides that, his experience with women is most likely very limited as well. I don't think there is necessarily a problem dating outside of your race. Of course, his family may view that differently. But, it's really between the two parties involved. Personally, I don't generally do it for various reasons...including cultural/religious differences, which can be significant. I'm also not generally attracted to men that aren't Caucasian either, but there have been exceptions. I don't see any problems with you two hanging out if you enjoy one another's company. If nothing else, you might develop a great new friendship and that can provide a basis for any other sort of relationship that may develop. Good luck to you!

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

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Having Sex With Someone From Your Past Posted: 8/18/2007 10:05:17 PM
I don't find it strange at all. I actually reconnected with one my exes last year online. I had orginally met him in 1997. We dated for about a year and a half. I always had these "unresolved feelings" for him after we broke up and had wondered all this time, "What if?" Well, I got an opportunity to find out, "what if," and I am glad that I was able to bring closure to something that had taken up nearly 10 years of my life. Things didn't work out and that is for the best. He hadn't changed after all these years and the same issues (cheating and lying) were still a part of the relationship. I'm glad I was able to find that out and I am now able to move forward and live a happy and productive life. Hopefully, when the time is right, I will meet that "special someone" and have a healthy and fulfilling relationship with them. Until then, I am enjoying meeting people and making new friends along with way.

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 125 (view)

Will men go down while u r menstruating, will u let him? Posted: 8/17/2007 10:20:07 AM
I don't consider that part of myself "disgusting"....however, I will state this...there ARE a couple of "body fluids" that I am not particularly fond of and would NOT kiss someone if they had come into contact with them. ..that's a whole OTHER thread! wink I certainly don't ask someone or encourage them to do it if they don't want to and I do let a partner know if it is that "time-of-the-month." However, I have been in situations where I starting bleeding unknowingly and when it was discovered, it did not repel my partner or cause him to stop what he was doing. He rather enjoyed the experience as did I.

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 30 (view)

cinnamon bun and pumpkin pie perfume? Posted: 8/13/2007 7:09:57 PM
I read the same. I believe that pumpkin and vanilla are supposedly the most "attractive" and "arousing" scent to men according to studies that have been done...hard to believe, I know. I have seen perfumes with vanilla and cinnamon in them. You could certainly try some of the body products or shampoo containing these scents and see how it works out for you. I, personally, have used pumpkin candles in the Fall/Winter expressly for that purpose after reading a similar article. ....just to "set the mood." You could always bake them a pumpkin pie with cinnamon in it and see if that makes a difference as well!

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 59 (view)

WHY are you guys so QUIET when you have sex? Moan for me! Posted: 8/13/2007 6:53:36 PM
I had this happen to me for the first time not long ago. I had sex with a guy and I don't think he made ANY noise whatsoever. At least not during the intercourse part. It was "disturbing," to me...but, that's just how he has always been apparently. I use that as a gauge for whether the person is enjoying himself or getting pleasure from what I am doing for one. On the other hand, he couldn't handle me making all the noise I did because he wasn't used that either. Let's just say...I am pretty damn vocal! I mean, he liked it...all too much from his "hasty finish" the first time...LOL He said that he wasn't used to women that made noise period. I asked him what sort of women he had been having sex with...wink At any rate, I think that moans and the like as well as "dirty talk" enhance the sexual experience and I certainly enjoy them!

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 120 (view)

Will men go down while u r menstruating, will u let him? Posted: 8/13/2007 6:44:42 PM
I personally don't have a problem with it and I haven't really run across any guys that have either...having sex or "going down." I've also "given head" to a guy after we have had sex during that time. So, it doesn't bother me that way either. However, I will say that generally when my flow is the "heaviest," I don't do either. My cramps are usually worse during that time as well. I have also had instances where I "started my period" during sex and the guy either didn't notice or mention it or he didn't care. And, I have found as I have gotten older and I am no longer on birth control pills, the flow is much heavier at times. I know this is "subjective" to each individual person. While some people find it totally disgusting, others find it "highly erotic." So, to each his own!

LovesYoungerMen

Joined: 11/11/2006

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Dessert Called Posted: 8/13/2007 12:26:16 PM
No, my version didn't have pistachio pudding in it that I recall. However, that sounds "yummy" all the same! If I find the recipe...I'll post it. It was written on a slip of paper than I have had since the 1980s...LOL It's probably in one of my old cook books that is possibly in storage or one of my envelopes with collections of recipes from over the years. Thanks!

LovesYoungerMen

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Dessert Called Posted: 8/13/2007 12:24:39 PM
Thanks...that sounds pretty close to it, may not exactly the same. Sin...Sex in A Pan...it's all good! LOL

LovesYoungerMen

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Can I See if My Emails Have Been Read if Someone Has Me Blocked? Posted: 8/13/2007 12:22:09 PM
Thanks for all your help! I just wonder why someone would KEEP unread emails and not just delete them?! I don't utilize the IM feature....: ) [Closed Thread]

LovesYoungerMen

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Can I See if My Emails Have Been Read if Someone Has Me Blocked? Posted: 8/12/2007 2:10:20 PM
Thank you for responding. Well, all my emails are still showing up as "sent" to him...both the read and unread ones and I still have all the emails from him. There are still several to him showing up as "unread" but not "unread deleted." So, I guess I am not blocked. Anyway, I have tried to email people before that blocked me and I know about the message you receive if you are blocked. I just don't want to try to email him in order to find out. Oh, I meant to ask...if they are ONLINE at the same time I am and they have me blocked, would I be able to see them showing up as online at the top of my screen where you can IM people? Thanks again!

LovesYoungerMen

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Can I See if My Emails Have Been Read if Someone Has Me Blocked? Posted: 8/12/2007 11:51:14 AM
Hi all! I apologize if this is a redundant question. However, I do not have the time to go through 248 pages of threads to look and see. If a user I was previously corresponding with now has me blocked ( I am not sure they do), would I be able to still tell if my previous emails were being read or unread and deleted? Also, would I still be able to view their profile if I search for them by their user name if they have me blocked or would they not show up in a search? I have not tried to email them to find out if I am blocked and I don't want to to bother them if they do not want any further correspondence with me. I am suspecting that I may be blocked as I have not seen them online for a few days, but when I do a search, it shows they have been online every day. Thanks for any help in advance!

LovesYoungerMen

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What do you put in your Cold Potato Salad? Posted: 8/12/2007 10:34:46 AM
A few tablespoons of grease added to the Mayo? LOL...Forum Girl, you must have grown up in the South! grin

LovesYoungerMen

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Dessert Called Posted: 8/12/2007 10:16:20 AM
Some years back, I had a recipe for a refrigerated dessert named "Sin." It's chocolate, of course and absolutely delicious. I haven't been able to find the recipe and can't recall all the ingredients...I seem to remember chocolate pudding (perhaps), Cool-Whip, and pecans. I also think it had some sort of crust on the bottom. If anyone has this recipe, I would greatly appreciate you posting it here. Thanks in advance!

LovesYoungerMen

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Msg: 38 (view)

Girl Scout Cookies Posted: 4/13/2007 4:57:07 PM
Oh my...and you thought "that" was harsh? batting eyelashes innocently Anyway, I am bidding on a lot of cookies on eBay...wish me luck! Although I will make my own homemade variety, nothing beats the original and helping the Girl Scouts in the process.

LovesYoungerMen

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Msg: 34 (view)

Girl Scout Cookies Posted: 4/12/2007 1:46:11 PM
Ok, Mr. MAN...I didn't mean any disrespect by that. I just knew that one recipe was posted by a female and one by a male. I didn't remember your name and I didn't know how old you are because I didn't look at your profile. I just wanted to know what recipe was used, that's all. Hopefully, that was an attempt at "humor" on your part and not immaturity. If you need your self-confidence "boosted," you need to look within and not to others! And, I would suggest not "hijacking" this thread...try starting your own thread on self-confidence if it's that important to you. This is a RECIPES forum. I still didn't find out which Thin Mint recipe was used; however, there have been a couple of very good reviews on the one made from Ritz crackers. I believe I will try that one.

LovesYoungerMen

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Girl Scout Cookies Posted: 4/11/2007 9:10:45 PM
Which "Thin Mint" recipe did you use? The one with the Ritz crackers or the other one that the guy posted? And, yes...that Thin Mint Cheesecake sounds "to die for"....literally....LOL And for anyone interested, if you are like me and don't know anyone selling Girl Scout cookies at the moment, eBay has them! I "googled" them as I figured that I could order them online from the Girl Scouts and have them shipped to me. However, I did not find that option.

LovesYoungerMen

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Msg: 112 (view)

Other uses for your coffee-maker Posted: 4/11/2007 8:49:27 PM
Well, this is a bit "off-topic." However, since someone mentioned cooking fish and washing underwear in the dishwasher, I thought that I would throw this is. It's great to wash baseball caps and washable hats...even straw ones, I imagine. For one, they hold their shape. For best results, put them on the top rack. If we were talking about a stove top coffee maker, there are literally tons of uses for it...cooking and otherwise. However, an automatic drip coffee maker might take a bit more ingenuity and creativity like I have seen here. I definitely like the idea of cooking in the coffee maker. That's especially handy for college students and those living in efficiency apartments and the like. If someone could actually design something like that, they would probably make a fortune! Be sure and patent your idea right away, GEH before someone steals it!

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After a 1st date how do you feel when your date asks???? Posted: 3/13/2007 11:59:29 AM
I had something similar happen. I met a guy at once for dinner. I had met him online, but not through a personal's site. Actually, I NEVER considered him being anything more than a friend. There was absolutely NO physical attraction. Besides that, there were some major cultural differences. However, I knew he had expectations prior to meeting me. So, I had barely gotten home and in my house when I got a call from him on his cell as he was driving home. The first thing out of his mouth...I mean, not even a "Hello," was..."So, what are the chances of you doing me/having sex with me?" or something like that. Well, first off...I was taken aback. I TOLD him he had "put me on the spot" and I didn't appreciate it. Somehow, I squirmed my way out of that situation without having to be too rude/hurtful to him at that point. However, he knew that I wasn't interested in anything futher than friendship. He wound up "clearing his schedule" the next day to work on my laptop...still in hopes that something would happen between us. Nothing ever happened. I tried to be his friend, but that didn't work out. I also had to give him a "laundry list" of WHY he wasn't my type. Eventually, I just had to tell him that I didn't even want to have any sort of contact with any at all. It's not a good situation to be in. I don't like having to reject someone or hurt someone's feelings nor do I like it being done to me. However, I would rather someone be honest "up front" and I was. But, if someone asks those sort of questions...they best be prepared for the answer they may get. As far as using a cell phone on a date, I think it's extremely rude. No one should have a phone on and if they do, they should have the ringer turned off. Unless someone is expecting some sort of "emergency" call...a family member is ill or their job REQUIRES them to be on call...ie. MD or moritician, it's just plain rude. I went on a date with a guy whose friends were calling to check up on the status of our date and what I looked like in person, etc. and I told him he needed to "turn that damn phone off because it was rude" in no uncertain terms. Needless to say, I did not see him again. Good luck to you! LYM

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Msg: 55 (view)

How 'bout a POF HOUSTON party?! Posted: 3/10/2007 2:08:17 PM
A Houston gathering would be great! A central location would accomodate more people. I would prefer a "pub type atmosphere" or something similar ...no C&W bars please! We need some place where more people of varying ages/tastes would feel comfortable. We also need to consider the "noise level"...ie. loud music, so that talking will be a viable option. For, getting to know one another IS the purpose of the gathering!

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Msg: 294 (view)

Surrounded by over weight women in Houston Posted: 3/5/2007 7:57:11 AM
Duganman....I didn't mean to offend anyone who is "vertically challenged." None of us are "perfect," and we do have our "preferences." Mine just happens to be for taller men...oh, and YOUNGER ones...LOL However ,that's not a "given." I don't find shorter men gross/disgusting, bitter, or anything of the sort such as the OP has suggested "overweight" women are. I would be making a generalization to say such. There are some very attractive, happy, and well-adjusted people of all shapes and sizes in this world and the opposite is true as well! That's one of the things that makes life interesting! Edldubu...thanks for understanding my post in the first place! Fat, sassy and happy! LYM

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Msg: 287 (view)

Surrounded by over weight women in Houston Posted: 3/3/2007 12:24:42 PM
I'm overweight and IN Houston...far from gross OR bitter. I'm wondering where all the TALL, good-looking men are...they certainly didn't start this thread....wink I, for one, don't have ANY problems attracting men that some might consider to be "out of my league," although I don't really consider anyone as such. I am perfectly comfortable in my own skin. People who usually criticize others for what they think that they "lack" are generally those that have self-esteem issues themselves. And that being said, "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder."

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Msg: 298 (view)

ANNA NICOLE SMITH DEAD Posted: 2/15/2007 7:11:14 AM
"Yeah another oddity. Just some dumb rich chick (who is rich because of her parents) who has videos of her on the net being a whore and every one is facsinated with it. Its bizzare how bimbos with low IQs garner so much media attention." That's an interesting statement. How do you know what IQ these particular women possess/posessed? While Anna may have come off as a "dumb blonde," perhaps that was part of her persona. I guess we will never know. I certainly agree that she was naive to some extent and made poor choices in friends/partners. It's been said that Marilyn Monroe had a genius IQ although she was quite adept at playing the part of a "dumb blonde." I don't see ANYTHING dumb about Paris Hilton....she certainly knows how to "market" herself and I would say that is far from being stupid. I'm not saying that I agree with her methods or lifestyle. However, how many of us could survive under that microscope called "fame?" Also, let's get it straight...J. Howard Marshall chased after Anna for four years trying to get her to marry him. She finally gave in. She could have married him right off the bat if she wanted to get her hands on all his money. I do hope that part of his estate will be awarded to her estate and will go to her baby, who I pray will be left in capable and loving hands. It's no doubt that her life will be followed for years to come. Sorry to disappoint you, but the media has already stated that they will continue to follow her progress as she grows up. She's the innocent victim in all of this. I also don't agree with people calling her a "whore." She didn't have that many boyfriends or partners...probably less than ALOT of us have had. I know that before she lost the weight and dated Larry Birkhead, she admitted to not having sex in a couple of years or even being on a date. I don't think that constitutes "being a whore" in any way, shape, or form. Posing nude in a magazine or two doesn't make one a whore either. She was a beautiful woman and she used her "assets"...why shouldn't she have? It's quite an accomplishment to become Playmate of the Year and to date, she is the "largest" woman ever to do so...ie. tallest/heaviest. What a sad ending to a tragic life...I, for one, will miss her...or the "Anna" I "knew" from the media. Gosh, and this is totally off-subject...but, what about "Sugar Pie?" I have heard no mention of her and that dog was her "child" before the baby was born. I wonder who is caring for her. She was so attached to Anna, I hope she doesn't grieve herself to death as some pets do when their owners pass away. Also, I heard that Hugh Hefner had purchased a plot next to Marilyn Monroe some time back so that Anna could be buried next to her "idol." I don't know if this is true or not. However ,I would like to see her "laid to rest" next to her son. I hope they release her body for burial son. They have collected enough DNA evidence from what I have heard.

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Msg: 256 (view)

ANNA NICOLE SMITH DEAD Posted: 2/12/2007 7:18:05 PM
Wow AAARRG...that type of attitude/posting is distressing! It's quite inhuman and disturbing to have NO compassion for a fellow human being and I, for one, wouldn't want any dealings with such a person. It's surprising that you even HAVE a "mate."

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Msg: 255 (view)

ANNA NICOLE SMITH DEAD Posted: 2/12/2007 7:10:41 PM
I never heard anything about her hitting her head when she fell. The coroner made no mention of this and had she had some sort of intracranial (brain) hemorrhage, that would have shown up at her autopsy. She had been sick with a "flu-like" syndrome in the days before she died and was obviously taking medications. She was also supposedly in the bathtub when she slipped. Both of those factors obviously contributed to her falling. All I heard of was a bruise on her leg, I believe. Also, if she overdosed, it wasn't on pills. Maybe she took something in a liquid form or was injected with something. Also, had she fallen asleep on her back and aspirated, those contents of her vomitus would have shown up in her lungs during the autopsy.

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Msg: 41 (view)

Native Texan ~ Anna Nicole Smith Posted: 2/10/2007 2:00:13 PM
Actually, the police chief that held the press conference said that ONLY prescription drugs were found in her room and NO illegal drugs. The autopsy did not show any whole pills in her stomach. If she had taken a bunch, there should have been some left there. However, it will probably take weeks for the toxicology reports to come back. Who knows...maybe she was injected with something? It also possible that previous drug use led to heart failure, but they should have been able to see that on the autopsy. Also, if she aspirated on her own vomit, as was speculated as well, that would have shown up on her autopsy. I, for one, will be interested to see what the cause of death turns out to be. No signs of trauma were noted either, other than a small bruise from a fall she had sustained this past week. She'd been quite sick with what's been called the "flu" earlier this week, perhaps it was something viral and maybe that contributed to her death as well. For one, I think this beautiful and tragic woman basically died of a "broken heart." It's apparent from recent interviews that she was still distraught from her son's death. She said that she felt that he was "scared and alone" and calling from her from the grave. Perhaps she decided to go be with him. Then again, maybe this is all some sort of tragic coincidence. You have to realize that the paternity suit and various lawsuits, ie. TrimSpa and the Marshall case would have been a tremendous source of stress in her life as well. Who knows how any one of us could have coped with all of that. Also, could we deal with the constant scrutiny and criticism? A close friend of hers has been quoted as saying she had recently said that she "didn't know how much more she could take." There are alot of similarities here to the life/ death of Marilyn Monroe. They both wanted to find unconditional love...I think that maybe only Anna's children were able to give her that. It appeared that alot of people in her life were only there to "ride on her coattails" and use her in some way for their own gain. She'll get the fame she always wanted....however, unfortunately it took her dying to do so. It's odd how alot of people have become MORE famous in death than in life. The innocent victim in all of this is her beautiful infant daughter, Dannilynn. For her sake, I hope they determine the paternity and she is raised in a loving and stable home, if possible. I guess it has also recently come to light that her "wedding" to long-time friend/lawyer Howard K. Stern was "staged" for the media. However, it is rumored that they were going to be married Feb. 23 and plans were being made for that. So, that means he will not have any claim to the money from the Marshall estate. I hope, for that child's sake, that she will inherit Anna's part and that none of it goes to that family of hers from whom she was estranged. I guess we shall all have to wait and see. I think that the media will be following this story for a very long time. I send my thoughts and prayers out to those who truly loved Anna. I think that she was a very misunderstood person. We have mostly seen how the media has portrayed her and perhaps not gotten an entirely accurate picture. It's so easy to judge people that are in the "spotlight." She is with her beloved son now and I hope that she has the peace in death that she could not obtain in life. R. I. P. Vickie Lynn Hogan aka Anna Nicole Smith.

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Msg: 7 (view)

Hey Houston!!!! how bout a bootscootin pof party ?? Posted: 2/6/2007 10:20:58 PM
That's a good idea. It would be fun to meet some fellow POFers. However, I am not particularly a fan of country and western bars and/or music. Most likely, alot of the younger crowd is not going to be either. If we could find a place that has a variety of music, I think it would be better. Also, it's not so easy to try to converse over loud music or necessarily in the best interest to try to "get to know someone" when there is alcohol involved. I am not from Houston originally...so, what other options/locations might we have?

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Msg: 73 (view)

Has money, but you wouldn't know it. Posted: 1/21/2007 7:58:54 PM
Everyone has problems that money can't take care of. Money can make your life easier in alot of ways; but, you also have to consider how having this sort of wealth is going to possibly change your life for the worse. You'll be surprised at how many people will all of a sudden wanto befriend you or possibly current friends/family will be looking for "hand outs" or loans and that it NEVER a good idea. They may distance themselves from you or cut off contact if you refuse to help them. Are you absolutely sure he is telling you the truth about all of this? Have you done your research to find out that he is who he says he is? How old is this person and how old are you? I find it interesting that he is living so "modestly" to tell you the truth. If it were me, I would have to see some sort of documentation that what he says is true. You have alot to think about and if things to consider to progress with him, possibly a pre-nuptial agreement is going to be something he may want if marriage is in your future. How do you feel about that? What I find more interesting is if you have been dating this guy for six months, why did you join this site about 3 weeks ago? Were you looking for advice via the fora? Apparently, you have some questions and concerns. I would definitely seek the advice of your OWN lawyer if marriage is in your future. You have to look out for your own needs as I am sure he is looking out for his. Good luck to you!

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Msg: 10 (view)

Getting paid to pay for sex? WTF?? (pun intended!) Posted: 1/21/2007 6:09:40 PM
Absolutely; but, who's going to arrest them and charge them? Go figure! You have to love the people that make the laws/enforce the laws and then interpret them to meet their own needs. Of course, they are doing it for the "betterment of society." grin I personally don't see what all the fuss is about prostitution...but, that's an entirely different thread in itself! If the legal adult woman/man is consenting to sell their "goods/services" to another consenting legal individual, there shouldn't be an issue IMHO.

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Msg: 19 (view)

Should I bring him with me OR NOT? Trip Advice NEEDED! Posted: 1/21/2007 1:50:09 PM
Only you can make the ultimate decision. Most resorts and/or cruises make you book "double occupancy" whether a second person stays with you or not. However, you will have to pay extra airfare for him. I can tell you from MY experience. I went to Jamaica a few years ago ALONE, just for some R&R. I was totally bored by the third day and wished that I would have brought a friend along, even if I had paid their way. I'm not against traveling alone and perhaps going to Europe might be different. However, on a small island, your options may be limited to what you are able to do, even at the most luxurious and well-appointed resorts, such as the one that I was staying at. I did make the acquaintance of another single female while I was there, but she was staying at another resort down the street, and we did not spend 24/7 together. I also found that it was quite expensive to take a cab into town where most of the activity was since the resort was somewhat secluded. If you have the money and this trip means that much to you, I would bring someone with you, even him, if it is. However, like others have pointed out, you could risk winding up having a miserable time with him as well. I mean, what if you get there and find someone else you would rather spend your time with. You're taking that risk. It's a 50/50 bet, I guess. Best of luck to you in your decision! I hope that you have a wonderful time!

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Msg: 25 (view)

the perfect get over someone Posted: 1/21/2007 12:00:05 PM
I'm sorry to hear about your loss and pain. Humans can be so cruel. It's hurtful enough that he broke up with you and then to tell you "he never loved you and never will." At least you know now and you can move forward. You will get better...however, there is no "magic pill" or certain amount of time in which that will happen. It's different for everyone. I broke up with someone in November. Someone that I have loved for many years. However, I came to the realization that we live two totally different lives and I could never truly be myself with him or be completely happy. That being said, there have been MANY threads on this particular subject. The following, is one that I cut and pasted from another POF member, Jarbarian. It offers some very sound advice. It has been helpful to me. I have found that for myself the best thing has been trying to stay busy and cutting off ALL contact with my ex. Each day is becoming easier and easier for me and I don't think about him constantly like I did before. I wish you the very best! The following is from a thread by POF Member Jarbarian: (Disclaimer: I'm not a relationship expert. I will say that I have read, studied, talked to countless "so called experts" and see first hand what works and what doesn't. There is no guarantee if you following my guideline you will win your ex back. Some people are able to move on from a failed relationship quite easily, others are not. These are my theories (and theories from others) and as such, will have variations depending upon the circumstances.) 1. LET GO: Yes, I said LET GO. No matter how much you love and care for your ex, as long as you stay attached to them and are hoping/praying for a second chance, you will not follow the rest of the guideline and heal completely unless you first truly let go. The reason for this is allow your heart to heal, to focus on self-reflection and improvement and to get your mind and body in a state of happiness. No second chance will work if you are still pining and miserable over losing your ex. 2. NO CONTACT: That means exactly what it says. For the first month or two, you must never contact your ex under any circumstances. If you do, you will have to start the process over again. That means no emails/text/drunk dialing, etc. Now, that doesn't mean if they contact you that you should never reply (chose wisely) but if you do, make sure to keep any replies short, sweet and to the point. Take your time before replying, even several days. It's good to sleep on an email before replying so you have a clear head and are not replying with a ton of emotion. Never discuss the relationship during your healing phase and above all, DO NOT STALK YOUR EX. Do not try and find information about them. Whatever is going on in their life, you can't handle the information right now. Stay away from their web pages, blogs, etc. Don't talk to mutual friends (trust me, they will share any negative comments) Ignorance is bliss. Don't focus on who they are with and what they are doing. It will only torture you. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and while they may be living it up with the new person in their life, chances are it's a rebound for them as well. It may take up to six months to a year for their new person's bad side to show through. In the meantime if you screw it up by clinging to them, bad mouthing them or otherwise stalking them, you will only serve to push them away even further. If you share a child with an ex, complete NC will be hard. Any conversations with your ex should focus on the child(ren) and remain, short, sweet and to the point. Absolutely no talk about the relationship. Remember that any conversations with your ex should be a pleasurable one. That is what they will remember. If you are constantly arguing with them or otherwise trying to cling to them and force them back to you, you will make it a painful experience and that is what they will associate with you. Happy/Fun/Pleasurable is good. Arguing/Clinging/Whining/Crying is very, very bad. 3. DO NOT BE FRIENDS: It is impossible to be friends with someone you are deeply in love with. It just won't work. All it will do is show your ex that you will accept second class treatment (in which any respect you had at that point from them will be lost). In addition it will delay your healing process. The longer you cling to hope, the longer it will take for you to truly let go and complete the healing process. I realize to some degree this is counter to your goal, winning them back, but is essential. Your ex doesn't want you all broken and shattered. Have you ever met someone on the rebound and dated them? If so, it probably didn't last long as you saw yourself feeling sorry for them. Their lack of confidence and self-respect is not attractive. Respect precedes love and you can not respect someone who doesn't respect themselves first. Also keep in mind you can not expect someone to love someone who doesn't love themself. And you can not make someone happy if you can not make yourself happy. Remember, all the good/healthy feelings you want your ex to feel about you will only come if you feel them about yourself first - and believe it. 4. FOCUS ON YOU: Allow for the normal grieving process, of course. How long it takes it completely dependent on you. The period of NO CONTACT will go a long way toward helping you focus on yourself and your healing. It doesn't matter what your ex is doing right now or who they are seeing. You need to let go of things you have no control over and unfortunately in your case, you are no longer dating so all you have left is you. 5. RE-ACQUAINT YOURSELF WITH FRIENDS: Pick up your phone book or email list and start making contact with friends you haven't hung out with lately. Get out of the house and go hang out with them. Right now you're feeling down and out and a little quality time with your friends will go a long way towards healing your spirit. Do talk about the relationship with them if you wish, but don't dwell on it. If they are friends with your ex, realize anything you say (good or bad) will get back to them. Focus more on what they did to get over and ex and listen to any positive advice they give you. Primarily though you want to invest the time with friends to get your mind OFF your ex and more on fun and bonding. Make new friends as well. 6. GET TO THE GYM: It's a proven fact that no drug works better at getting someone out of depression faster than endorphins. I do not believe the old adage "The best way to get over someone is to get UNDER someone else." If your head is not in the right place, some meaningless sex will only make you miss the ex even more. While you have the feeling of being lonely, sex isn't the answer. At least not right now. Companionship is what you are missing and in the interim, talk to you friends and work out. 7. DIVE INTO HOBBIES: Now that you have some free time on your hands, rather than sitting around at home feeling sorry for yourself, engage your mind. Do something you've always wanted to do as a hobby. Fly model airplanes, take up hiking or mountain climbing, start biking, take a college course in computers, play video games. Your mind can usually only focus on one thing at one time. Keeping your mind engaged on hobbies will take it off your ex. 8. PUT THE DRINK/DRUGS DOWN: Yes, it's ok to occasionally go out with friends and have a drink, but don't over-do it. Drinking heavily leads to depression which will not only delay your healing process, but quite possibly throw you into an un-recoverable downward spiral. Not only that but it will put you out of shape and you will lose any gains from working out. 9. REBUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE AND SELF-ESTEEM: It's normal to be dumped and have your self-esteem and confidence take a hit. Those who recover the fastest are those who have the strongest self of self-worth. Many relationships end in failure and not all of us were meant to be together. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you focus on your needs and rebuild your confidence and self-esteem, the sooner you will recover - and be stronger. 10. UNDERSTAND WHAT WENT WRONG: Instead of focusing on what your Ex did to cause the demise of the relationship, focus on learning a lesson and improving where you can. If you became clingy, then rebuild your confidence. Understand that you don't NEED someone in your life. You can and will live fine without them. You must never NEED someone, only want them. I can not emphasize personal improvement enough. Almost every aspect of our life in regards to success can be directly attributed to our confidence and self-esteem. At healthy levels, we will find much success in everything we do. When the levels are below healthy, we often find failure. Not because of the situation, but because of how we viewed ourselves. If you are a clingy guy, some essential reading: "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and any of "David DeAngelo's" stuff. Pay less attention to the pickup lines and focus on his insistence on confidence and self-esteem. He's dead right on everything he says in regards to confidence. Remember boys: No woman respects a man who constantly kisses her ass. The same can be said of women. If you kiss a mans ass, he will lose interest in you quickly. You must have mutual respect for each other and that can not be had with ass-kissing. 11. LEARN BOUNDARIES: Boundaries are essential for anyone with healthy confidence, self respect and self-esteem. Learn to make boundaries clear from the start of a relationship and have repercussions for crossing them. When you set a boundary, it is imperative for you to follow through on your actions. If you make it clear to someone you are dating that if they say they are going to meet you somewhere at a certain time and don't, make it clear it better not happen again. People whom you allow to cross your boundaries with no repercussions will lose respect for you and continue to cross them. Remember again, RESPECT PRECEDES LOVE. Without respect, there can not be love. Read "Love Must Be Tough" for more information on boundaries and why they are essential. Boundaries are not just for relationships. They are essential at home, at work and throughout your life. 12. NEVER TELL YOURSELF NO ONE WILL LOVE YOU: That's a self-defeatist attitude that not only will keep you down, but is just outright WRONG. There is someone out there that will love you in the way you want. You just have to find them. And you certainly won't find them if you are wallowing in self-doubt and pity. Pick yourself up by your bootstraps! You have plenty to live for and while no one likes to go through a bad breakup, it's almost an essential part of life. How else are you going to learn the lessons of love without going through the hard knocks? Trust me, as long as you learn something from the relationship and self-improvement you are almost guaranteed greater success the next time. You will have learned valuable lessons to guide your future relationships. And, if you have rebuilt your confidence and self-esteem you will naturally attract those with the same qualities. Remember (especially guys) that attraction while initially might be based on looks will never last without you have strong confidence and self-esteem. However, you can attract and keep a great woman in your life without having great looks, as long as you do have strong confidence and self-esteem. 13. ACCEPT THAT SOME THINGS JUST AREN'T MEANT TO BE: Keep in mind that you may follow this guideline to a "T" and in the end and still the may never come back. Some people are just not meant to be together. But don't get discouraged. Use this experience to guide all future relationships. How much do you love your ex? Do you love them enough to want them to be happy even if it's not with you? To me, that is the true test of love. Not only do you love them unconditionally, warts and all, but that you want them to be happy with or without you. There is someone out there for you, but until your confidence and self-esteem is at healthy levels, until your life is full of happiness and fun, until you realize that you have to be happy before you can make anyone else happy, you won't find them. People with all those positive attributes don't have to look for a mate, they usually find them ;)

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Msg: 3 (view)

Getting paid to pay for sex? WTF?? (pun intended!) Posted: 1/21/2007 8:26:29 AM
Something similar has been done before here in the US. I think that the majority of the time they arrest the prostitutes BEFORE actually going through with having sex with them. However, you've got to do your job and if it means "fulfilling the act," so be it. Makes you wonder what "evidence" they are gathering? Hmmmm....

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