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teggs

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Has your Adult ADD ruined/sabotaged relationships? Posted: 11/13/2009 4:01:55 AM
I have been in a LTR that has OCD in it. This sounds very similar to me. [1] Recognizing the problem is the first thing, OK- done. [2] Making forward moves like diet, excercise, maybe Yoga? and stuff is important in the long term. [3] In the short term- you need Pro help to get you to do [2]. If this needs meds-try it, as well as the low salt. Best wishes to you OP !

teggs

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independent women fall the hardest Posted: 11/13/2009 3:39:17 AM
To forumologist- remember that tha 5 fingered handshake is free, safe and will never leave you! ;) & men only usually seriously compete over women- not feeling good for it's own sake -but we're learning.[Sport excepted] On the comment about independent, high maintenance or desperate- why not all three. They seem to feed on each other- but only the indie bit is recognized by the [un]happy owner. OP- you are in acedemia and write well and openly and suggest fairness is not on the agenda therein. Try being male these days. There's a book out called The Woman Racket- I must get it. Independence ...lol

teggs

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DO YOU DREAM ABOUT YOUR EX? Posted: 9/11/2009 3:08:14 PM
Flowerforce is right. All dream characters are representing a part of our inner self according to Jung. In the sense that the other person from the past in the dream can never respond in kind- it IS a dead end. Trying to cut out daytime memories can be counterproductive- maybe dreaming is a safe way of grieving in the deeper part of ourselves that is always lost. If we don't maintain some vulnerabilty- don't we risk becoming too 'hard boiled'?

teggs

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Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash? Posted: 9/11/2009 2:57:46 PM
What do those figures refer to? Men might well undervalue themselves to gauge motives! I agree there's nothing wrong in wanting a man to have self respect and be self sustaining- that is hopefully self evident to a woman in the real workaday world. What is the' great unknown' and much, much harder to quantify- is what the 'gentle sex' might bring to a relationship [in non-financial terms]- and what final cost if a failure. Not so easy to judge!

teggs

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DO YOU DREAM ABOUT YOUR EX? Posted: 9/10/2009 4:30:27 PM
For me it's not true about time stopping dreams. As I get older, from having no dreams for years about past serious LTRs where children were born to it- I find dreams now quite persistent -and I'm not depressed and have accepted the past as much as possible. There's no doubt in my mind that the dreams are fundamentally quite healthy- if an unwelcome intrusion.

teggs

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Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash? Posted: 9/10/2009 4:08:37 PM
It amazes me still that some really nice women work for the funds to keep a man entertained. plenty of 'New Saps' around! I've never had the slightest help from a woman in all my many years on the planet. I don't mind paying but have found getting women to do their bit quite hard. They often are last to put hands in pockets and will even offer a cheque- which has been embarrassing. I just like to offer the chance for eekqwalitee...but it rarely happens. In the future ,according to think tank flyers, anyone co-habiting for longer than a dog watch will have to share house and pension for life- so the Gov't are 'not so very slowing' grinding us into permament singletons -even though most people are happy in a stable & loving relationship of equal status. Sorry Ladies ! Feminism does Suck! If you notice , the use of pre-nupts has crept in recently in the press, as if they are OK legally now, [Not] - but I bet it will only work one way. Law of nature. B/S Not ! Dating, Hols away, Living apart together...anything but the paint stripper job!

teggs

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Instant Messenger Has Been Discontinued By The 3rd party Vendor Posted: 9/10/2009 3:42:00 PM
No reason why people can't email their Hotmail etc and get on MSN Messenger whilst on here still! Not quite so private- but in common use all over, for years. The added bonus is nobody is going to bother putting you in their list if they aren't much bothered to chat for long- and IM here could be a waster on occasion. Be honest! Skype's another freeby worthy of consideration.

teggs

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Being friends... does it really work? Posted: 9/10/2009 12:56:24 PM
There's a lot of dodging round the issue of friendship and sex here. To me, Friendship and a Sexual relationship are different cases. People can have sexual tension between them and not always like each other a lot. Friends are like family you don't HAVE to be with and is often a much healthier relationship than one that has included sexual elements in the past or unresolved ones in the present. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I still think having an intimate relationship is something rather different than to have friends who will 'oblige' on occasions! Drinking and promiscuity have altered many facets of society for the worse -and some values are still worth hanging on to. It's usually assumed that a man will always be 'up for it', if Not- a failure in some way. Lets be honest, women control sexual approaches and always will- anything other will soon get illegal. I suppose the one case that works is one that starts as friendship with shared interests etc and turns into a long term love affair like that couple that sailed round the world recently. Sweet!

teggs

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I need my IM's Posted: 4/23/2009 2:05:07 PM
It would be good to see the our site owner put the position more clearly on IM ceasing. All in all -it does seem a strange decision to make of a successful function on a good site- with millions of users- the ad revenue must surely be worth the hassle of setting up an in house replacement to IM. In the last resort if it is a licence issue due to paying guests then so be it- at least people have the choice to buy in. Finger trouble with being leapt on till you disable IM - Well, indeedy- That's hardly heavy work, girls! In the final analysis -it's the punters who made this site work for the enterprising owner !

teggs

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Should we be able to report known liars on the site? Posted: 4/23/2009 5:31:04 AM
I hate to be Un-PC and say that this is one of the few areas left that the Gov't can't leglislate against being abused by players. We have become so used to rules about everything making it safe that our natural caution has been depleted. Rest assured - I do deplore liars and players as much as anyone- but in a way, I'm glad in matters of the heart we still have some freedom and discretion. I am dead straight and had a fair rough time being so, but Karma is the end decider- so just don't assist in your own destruction and stay wary,if pleasant. Time will tell you soon enough , if you give it room!

teggs

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Instant Messenger Has Been Discontinued By 3rd party Vendor Posted: 4/23/2009 4:07:01 AM
IM was OK and will be a loss to the site IMO. What's wrong with disinterested users disabling it in mail prefs or having it set so- as default? Surely, Adobe Flash has other ways of being used on the site unless it will need payment by POF ? Even then- with a payment option it would be self funding!

teggs

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who thinks socks with sandels is ugly and wrong? Posted: 3/10/2008 5:43:06 AM
Why don't all you fashion victims (mostly women) try the thing out. Post back here.... Why the hell should an item of dress be SO proscribed ?? I really don't get why you barefeets don't get it ! No one is saying YOU are committing any crime..it's just choice. Isn't that the modern mantra? Grrrr

teggs

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Too many people accusing people of playing games Posted: 3/9/2008 5:39:51 AM
I suspect that the internet dating scene is tricky because we know so much about the other person without any 'face to face' filter being available. That is like other blind date scenarios, true- but on here someone can pop up (no pun intended) in your front room etc with no warning and with unknown credentials too. As we are trying to make contact together then it is initial manners to give someone a chance. I often call up just to comment on a profile or forum quote..no other ulterior motives. However, if these contacts don't play right- then it seems too difficult for contactees say how or why. No mechanism in place..no real rules to follow. Thus women feel accosted too readily and men get rejected out of hand - it's the nature of the beast. All a bit twitchy ! I don't know about the mens' behaviour - but there does seem to be a lot of negative projection in our direction. I don't think that many men are serious players..maybe some sound like it for protection -for fear of showing feelings, which we DO actually have ladies !! Also..the few that do play the field probably make up for 20 others who don't. You have to meet up first to tell either way..and that aint easy with the distances more often involved ! Yes, I'm dismissive of marriage these days..but would love to find a soulmate and don't need more than one. I'm sure I don't play games..but occasionally wonder if others are ! Previous poster' SxyLdy'..just saw your post...Looks like poor manners 2 me- on his part..you did more than enough first time round. Be wary on this one.

teggs

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Do you still think about your ex? Posted: 3/8/2008 3:00:20 AM
ShellS ... makes a successful go of the next car accident You have a black sense of humour suitable for this modern age

teggs

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Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married? Posted: 3/8/2008 2:03:41 AM
Yep Gorko..the rules of the game have definitely changed a lot!! As I see it..no man can risk marriage unless he has nothing to lose - and they are not the type that a sensible woman would go for! The new scheme is LAT , or 'living apart together'. Great idea.Men are not as stupid as some may have thought. Sorry ladies, if it isn't enough- but it's all that's going to be on the table till 'a long while'. Twelth of Never?? Blame bonkers feminists- pushing laws, and dopy guys like me who got ripped off ,under the 'old' rules. Never happen again though !! I see in the UK that the 'marriage-lite' co-habit laws they were trying to dump on us guys are being quietly shelved.. Good!... On the grounds of cost ?? HaHa-pull the other one! When did the cost of anything bother this dodgy Nu -Labor crowd!! ID cards anyone? More-like they need a few Anglo-Saxons around to fight any external wars..but don't hold your breath about the demographic mix to come. Check the figures for the future. On a positive note..it's good to see many women wake up to reality and still show they have a need for us guys ! Nature is indeed persistent. Weird sense of humour though...

teggs

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Fat Ass America Posted: 3/7/2008 3:44:06 PM
Gives the rest of us some hope then ;)

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who thinks socks with sandels is ugly and wrong? Posted: 3/7/2008 2:11:18 PM
Come on peeps..Just DO it..you know it makes sense !

teggs

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Fat Ass America Posted: 3/6/2008 1:43:06 PM
Diceman..Whaaaaa... You have been through some stuff like many on here..You're an outdoors man who runs some. I used to do that too. Respect! Surely you can come up with a more lucid comment?

teggs

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Any men over 35 seriously looking to get married? Posted: 3/6/2008 2:53:37 AM
I may banish him to the spare room if he's that bad So we all know who's in control of the bedroom then !! never mind the LOL.. Maybe you could be banished to the kitchen too ..lol -too Any guy thinking of marriage these days needs a head transplant.. Shame the good women pay for the stupid/selfish ones though !

teggs

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Fat Ass America Posted: 3/6/2008 2:16:57 AM
Well said Glen. I'm also a hypocrite, being overweight due partly to workstyle -but still see the over consumption thing being physically and morally wrong. I don't consume much- just seem to stack it too well ! Maybe the real big lardies are saving up for global crunch time? I suggest that over-consumption feminizes men too, and makes them care less for people propping them up, .. see comments on here!!

teggs

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Do you still think about your ex? Posted: 3/6/2008 1:52:06 AM
I was married 25 years with 5 kids...and gave it everything. \|Blew up a few times and nearly got stabbed too..but my ex knows she made a mistake expecting Mr Perfect (but won't say it in words-Denial). I dream of the family often and wake up with her close words in my ears.. I don't love her anymore...too painful, but I loved the world we had- in my hopes and plans for the kids..now they are scattered and single too. So, mixed feelings sure- but the pain will never go. Legal Aid was loansharking the family away for many women hitting the mid forties 'mental black spot' -known to precede the menopause by 5 years. I learnt that later- but it would not have made much difference- as my suggestions for medical intervention were rejected out of hand. No doubt a few people have the ability to walk away and never look back..but many can't manage that comfortable stance, much as we'd like to!

teggs

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30% of women have sex on first dates? Posted: 3/5/2008 1:40:47 PM
I think there is a US /UK split on this issue. I don't think 30% 'do it' on the first date here in the UK ..but age must also be a factor. Maybe teens would more easily hit this figure? Being honest, stable hormones and experience would make the more mature dater less likely to expect- or even offer easy favours. That would generally include people here on POF. So really though it's an interesting topic -it would need a thorough survey on the issue to pin it down ..oops wrong words there :) This would need to include age,orientation and what practises constitute 'sex'. Kinsey..where are you now??

teggs

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30% of women have sex on first dates? Posted: 3/4/2008 9:14:03 PM
What I'm alluding to in my take here is that sexual behaviour is looser now as a reaction to political controls being evermore apparrent in our lives. People react to this in basic ways like more 'free love' (see 70's/Bomb). Maybe there's a new armageddon element in the subconcious with all the Global Warming frights going on. In this the behaviour between men and women is a cohesive force at the common level and thus is a form of escape- as it ever was. Strong social controls in the past kept this down..but history shows us many instances of social instabilities coupled with license to behave freely breaking out. 'Where to find a good slut when you need one'...and 'All men are **stards' are from the same hymn sheet !! Both parties would probably like it better ..but we're only human...amd sometimes a bit- er ... more 'animated'?

teggs

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30% of women have sex on first dates? Posted: 3/4/2008 6:56:21 AM
Sorry, Deuce, if I was a bit too pithy in my comment. I agree with you about having personal closeness before any sexual stuff...but I'm pitching it for those who fall the other way -in my appraisal. You really enhance my contention that these issues are surprisingly camoflaged when the social aspects are included. The most 'badge hungry' legislators are often those 'banging away' the hardest !! PC ideas don't translate easily into the personal domain! IMO

teggs

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30% of women have sex on first dates? Posted: 3/4/2008 3:30:28 AM
Men and women are different physically, mentally and sexually. All this 'equality' B/S -out of PC 'browny point' scoring is trash philosophy. Men and women do it together for different reasons- at different times and with vastly different results. Surprised ? I don't think men need empowerment ( whatever that means) in order to relate to women. I think women need to get real as to what has been socially engineered in their 'holy' name for a few decades -and live the rather 'iffy' result. Now men are no longer building much new..no wonder they are becoming,equally, consumers- of the over indulged. This does suit mens' natures somewhat..whereas women have lost their mistique in the process. Many , not all, I would add! The priveledge of hindsight ....

teggs

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Dating a man when soon-to-be-ex (2-15-08) wants to attempt reconcilation .... Posted: 2/15/2008 3:55:09 PM
Yep, Nordic You have it about right there. Trust is the basis of all good relationships and he's been straight with you OP - and you must now be straight with yourself. I've dated seperated women and they always seem to be 'Ms Inbetween'..and it doesn't help a new potential mate- to be like that !! So don't run..but hold back- till the mists clears ;-) and keep dating.

teggs

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He Says Lose 30 lbs and He Will Give you an Engagement Ring.....Would Ya???? Posted: 2/1/2008 2:06:41 PM
Quote:"lose the weight and live-lose religion and be free" by Choff in 2006..seems like good advice. MW75 seems of like mind! The OP was by a third party and hence we don't know what their true agendas are. Maybe he wants her to be fitter and live longer and wants the reassurance that he can rely on the spark staying on...after all at this age it's not easy to find love- and he is looking ahead at least. Kick ass responses on here are all very well...but assume selfish demands from the man only..he is entitled to his peace of mind if he goes 'committed' like all you ladies frequently want so much. Maybe an update is overdue on the situation by now??

teggs

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Why is so hard for women to commit these days? Posted: 1/6/2008 10:21:06 AM
Yes, I needed a man to be part of my team Hell, I missed this one from earlier. This post was heartfelt and I sympathise with her,,,But- No self respecting guy of my generation would want to be part of a womans' team. Likewise we didn't call women/girls/females- 'guys' either! Soooo popular (common) now. No wonder it's all screwed up.

teggs

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Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash? Posted: 1/5/2008 3:59:18 AM
Yikes- the length of this thread shows there must be a grain of truth lurking somewhere

teggs

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Can't vew pictures now Posted: 12/26/2007 4:18:29 PM
My mail checker- Poppeeper keeps a connection open to akamai and plentyof pics for unknown reasons. I have blocked them and wait to see a new site appear after using PP. Looks a bit spy like..and sends about 7KB when successful. Any ideas??

teggs

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Are you old enough to be my dad? Posted: 12/23/2007 11:30:29 AM
Men are genetically disposed to chase young tail. 18 years old is ideal for safe childbearing and 40 is getting too old. Facts ! Now to the social element...Feminism has screwed m/f relations very badly...so much so that men won't risk getting de-b*lled for 20 years on a bad pitch, should they get 'lucky' too easily. Because of the new 'working ethic ' females (esp. of non- religous leanings) can easily get tempory relief from sexual frustration (Laddette culture)- like males always had to. Drink fuels this illusion. Flirting leads to many approaches, but also false rape charges Check : Female alcohol consumption and assoc. disease figures. Conclusion: Young women are often looking in the wrong places for a good relationship. When men try to explain all this obvious stuff- they get taken to task for 'knowing it all'. Believe me..you gotta 'know' that thing -if a man. Some women have posted an awareness of this..but the average ' gentlewomen' as of yore...will not want to tangle with the modern 'liberated' older woman -so will be under-represented here. Insoluble comms gap! - Probably for decades. Men can have children late in life and love their partners even more for it- given any encouragement. It don't take much. Older men are a good bet - if fit and of suitable personality. Finally younger men play 'low resources' pitch so they don't get targeted. They are not really attractive long term to most women but that is the deal. Suits many males but not many women. Brave New World folks !!

teggs

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Must have job, car, house...are they after my cash? Posted: 12/21/2007 4:56:26 PM
Many women have got too demanding and will never get what they want as men have finally wised up. If men live at home with parents it removes their vulnerabilty to being taken for a ride. The future is this folks: LAT - Living apart together. No marriage, cohabiting or pre-nups haggles. The future is here now. The past cannot bear repeating and children of divorcees know what it feels like- without trying it too. Rider: Unless you are a traditional 'church type'.. and stay married. There's not many on pof like that,I'll wager. Sorry to be blunt. There's loads of nice people around..but the 'system' is jiggered. Blame feminism ladies.

teggs

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Does money matter? Posted: 10/29/2007 5:09:58 AM
Hot money and Hot women..maybe they just deserve each other. There's more to life than money and sex -IMO- getting money destroys the soul of men and giving sex for money does the same for women. Both mutually doomed then? :) But, hey -It does keep the planet ticking at one level - but can cause a lot of social distortions,especially with alcohol thrown in . The old system,pre feminism was better for all its' historical faults and children did much better, at least. (I see the UK bottom of the pile recently for child happiness in developed world) No great surrise singledom is on the increase. It's a shame some women get unfairly tarred with the same brush..but for me I look for the obvious signs early on..and why shouldn't men be wary ? -many have paid a high emotional and financial price for getting it wrong!

teggs

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Does money matter? Posted: 9/8/2007 3:58:18 AM
Money doesn't buy happiness... just makes misery more bearable. Women often suffer from money(penis?) envy/need- whilst men suffer from pu**y envy (getting 'it' -or the pass card 'privelege' function) !! Both attitudes are poor indicators for long term happiness- in or out of a relationship. Why?? -because both are mutual excluding' trust inhibitors' - and causing much division these days- between the genders. Put simply...men don't like gold diggers and women don't like neediness. Unfortunately modern society seems to generate plenty of both types.

teggs

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who thinks socks with sandels is ugly and wrong? Posted: 7/5/2006 8:25:44 AM
CB2...NEVER wear sandals for fun/comfort? (note correct spelling)..why on earth not? Have u got shares in DrSch*l's foot powder or similar...sooo STRICT...ouch....lovely....

teggs

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who thinks socks with sandels is ugly and wrong? Posted: 6/17/2006 10:40:02 PM
And Moonsister- nice to see you back fighting your corner...esp. as you picked up my Global warming hint !!

teggs

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Men Have A Harder Time To Bounce Back Posted: 6/17/2006 10:29:46 PM
Hey Ally..how can you call a guy a cancer because he cares?? This is harsh- and lacks basic respect, too

teggs

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Meeting In Person--Things I've Learned Posted: 6/17/2006 10:11:27 PM
Jester..your post jumped in front of mine..but I would like to say re: your comment -that knocking peoples' judgement (who are trying to show practical friendship) is going to make the problem of a 'non- caring' world much worse, surely?? You don't need to get like these wasters to survive !!

teggs

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Meeting In Person--Things I've Learned Posted: 6/17/2006 10:04:01 PM
**** Jeeze- GBreez- that sukz bigtime...what a bummer !! On the OP- and Grubecis' previous funny comment-I read recently that we need to 'sniff' to connect and without the scent thing, no connections can be made easily. This would explain the paucity of meet ups amongst loads of lucid caring people on here. We appear to live in a very isolating and un-natural world for all the 'electronic comms' going on. Maybe it wil be better in UK when we get scratch and sniff ID cards..WoW..can't wait !!

teggs

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Am I crazy? Or is he? Excited geek, or obsessive weirdo? Posted: 6/15/2006 11:09:09 PM
Forensics is right on here. People who don't listen to you in return for your time/care are essentially too selfish or screwed up to manage better. Without outside professional help they won't change- and if you stick around you will get burnt. It's sad that the world needs more caring people -but they are the very ones who get whacked by whackos !! I think the web makes a dangerous place for the unwary -but at least keeps human contacts going in an increasingly impersonal and mechanistic world !! keep on trucking etc...

teggs

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who thinks socks with sandels is ugly and wrong? Posted: 5/2/2006 7:08:32 PM
Look peeps who can't take the combo..It's not the socks that are wrong...more the gaps in the sandals

teggs

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Class action against Yahoo Personals and Match.com for fraud Posted: 11/22/2005 1:20:59 PM
I used to be on Match com and didn't notice anthing really dodgy - maybe they've changed. Yahoo are a fave mail site for scammers as they are free- without the MS restraint that Hotmail use for policy/spam. A lot of pay dating sites are free for women and this means the guys pay - and the truth of any profile/mail has to be suspect. A lot have strong links..even using the same script/engine and many similar profiles. Bookofmatches (free) is OK, very like POF,with a better UK base and very good forums. I think it's sad that there are so many sites using peoples isolation as a hook..but hey! - we know whats going on and time will make these sites pointless..all thanks to POF founder who will pull the rug from under these harvesters of human hope !!

teggs

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Why is it women need to state how they are when we know they are not ! Posted: 11/12/2005 3:00:03 AM
My suspicion about this is simply that as well as the media factor (thin =good ;etc) a big cause of female self- dissatisfaction is the way women are chased for SEX by us 'poor' males. I don't think women find that enough- as it is just ONE part of life. We men are singularly driven in that direction and once getting our way ( I should coco !) -we too are often less than thrilled with the result of our lust for physical 'one-ness'. The difference is that men have more to aspire to- in order to make ANY impact in the world- and therefore are not so vulnerable to single issue stuff .QED ! It's hard being a man...It's hard being a woman..Has Wimmins Lib really helped anyone??

teggs

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How many people in the U.k have met up on this site? Posted: 10/25/2005 7:30:45 AM
take them off when im in the forums Hi !! ... naughty Squaw..Can't write to u (aged out- unless faved !) Why not try 'Firstcap' ..from Snapfiles.com It's a good free utility that warns you when you get stuck in wrong keybd mode; not sure if it's any good against finding the wrong man on line though

teggs

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submissive woman, and how to explain it Posted: 10/24/2005 4:07:38 AM
Try an older man..he won't need any explaining..won't even know what a new man/boy is !!

teggs

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London Get Together 22 October 2005 Posted: 10/20/2005 3:48:53 AM
not a person over 50 going I agree Saucy..and I'm a longer way off !! age+ distance (PS 'Fave' me- and I might get mail thru..)

teggs

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pre-date appearence screening Posted: 10/15/2005 3:27:39 AM
I agree that a pic is pretty well a must. If the personality attraction is strong -then looks don't matter SO much- but TRUST us the most important thing between people. The moment the sand starts shifting under your feet - trust goes soon after ! In my experience too many 'ifs/buts' mean the person is just 'fishing' (surprised on here?) and wants to send an 'iffy' message to cover for this ! I don't read many men profiles- as it's enough to keep up with the gels lol..but I do sympathise when I see women write 'no time wasters' ...so it works both ways- I guess !! Maybe a convention of 'three mails +pic and then a date' OR 'finish the link' would work ?? BTW- MY pic here is 5 years old -but it's as I am now more or less :P ...

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Vegetarians -whats your favourite dish ? Posted: 10/8/2005 10:24:18 AM
Sam..maybe you're just feeling 'guiltier than thou' Most meat eaters don't need to work at alternatives- and in any case veggies are a minority and like to swop useful ideas.

teggs

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Men Have A Harder Time To Bounce Back Posted: 10/8/2005 10:04:59 AM
..... if the social emotional and economic bias is against this being a risk worth taking Sory GG..can't remember now The trouble was -quote came after comment ..but to clear any mistakes -I was saying men aren't up for much more bashing at the current rate of attrition..what's your view ??

teggs

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Alone forever ? if it's meant to happen it may just.. Posted: 10/8/2005 9:52:30 AM
Here in the UK the proportion of single households is rocketing year by year. I can't remember the actual figures but about 20%+ of households will be 'singletons' in a few years. Maybe modern life doesn't mean so much co-habiting -but our primal needs are still group like- so maybe it's the meditative life for even the mildly spiritual that beckons ?? Monastery anyone??

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