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1388SmartBlonde

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What Would Compell You To Marry After Age 45? Posted: 3/26/2013 12:08:13 AM
What would compel me to marry again? A proposal from a multi-millionaire who attends church, is faithful and could still raise the flag 3-4 times/day. Love and a good personality would be nice, too, but not necessary if he will forego a pre-nup....lol!

1388SmartBlonde

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In the Jungle the Mighty Jungle Posted: 3/25/2013 11:40:49 PM
The reason a Brazilian puts a person at greater risk of an STD is because of broken skin and skin irritation following a waxing. Anytime there is a breech in the skin, there is a greater risk of infection...STD's are often blood or fluid borne pathogens. OP, swing in the jungle, trim the bushes, mow the lawn or pave the parking lot...matters not as long as you are happy with your choice and practice safe sex.

1388SmartBlonde

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To choose relationship or companionship Posted: 3/25/2013 11:31:17 PM
I am near your age and am unwilling to "collect dust" or settle for a FWB/FB relationship. I want the whole enchilada...love, (HAWT) sex, commitment and companionship. He may not come in as pretty a package as men did in my 20's, but who the heck cares if it means the next 20-30 years of my life are spent with someone worthy and worthwhile? The biggest delusion of many here on the over 45 forum is that you only need someone to have sex with in order to be happy. There is an old joke, "The sex was AWESOME, but what are we going to do with the other 23 hours and 59 minutes?" Don't settle...there is more to life more than an occasional orgasm.

1388SmartBlonde

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45 and feel so out of my depth about dating Posted: 3/14/2013 10:19:51 PM
Online dating may not be right for you. Volunteering or taking a class might be a way to get to know someone before asking them out.

1388SmartBlonde

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Job Downsizing Posted: 3/14/2013 10:14:49 PM
I got tired of training my pimple-faced bosses who had master's degrees but absolutely zero experience or common sense so I stepped back, earned a degree and a real estate license. I partnered with a great broker and even though I work 24/7, I work for myself.

1388SmartBlonde

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Gave me the creeps Posted: 3/14/2013 10:07:34 PM
Plagiarizing a profile is unethical and possiblity illegal. Ask him to remove it before you report him.

1388SmartBlonde

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Does it matter if he lies about his age Posted: 3/14/2013 10:02:24 PM
OP, call it a day. Lying is a poor way to start a relationship but an excellent way to end one.

1388SmartBlonde

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Does it matter if he lies about his age Posted: 3/14/2013 10:02:09 PM
OP, call it a day. Lying is a poor way to start a relationship but an excellent way to end one.

1388smartblonde

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Fear of getting naked? Posted: 3/5/2013 6:32:21 PM
The man is in the same room with a naked woman and sex is imminent...he is not going to care how you look. Turn off the lights if getting naked in front of him bothers you.

1388smartblonde

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He says I have potential to be beautiful. Posted: 3/5/2013 6:26:57 PM
Sounds like you are just looking to do a little gold digging...good golly, woman, have a little self respect! A strong, independent, confident woman is beautiful...a mouse looking to the cat to provide the cheese is just asking for trouble. Take yourself to the spa and Vicky's Secret...and update your eyeglasses or get contacts...but don't look to a man to mirror your self-esteem. That is a control tactic and recipe for disaster.

1388smartblonde

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Meet Me Posted: 3/5/2013 6:18:57 PM
They are probably masterbating to your profile photos. I ignore the meet me messages and if they favorite me without asking or making contact, I delete them from my favorites. Cuts back on the lookey-Lous and weirdos.

1388smartblonde

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Married Posted: 3/5/2013 6:15:14 PM
Before you meet, get the guy's full name and phone number then GOOGLE him....also check the local court records and sex offender registry for restraining orders and outstanding warrants (saved my butt more than once)

1388SmartBlonde

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Men who have no childern after 50 Posted: 3/5/2013 6:07:18 PM
I look more at how long their relationship was than whether or not they have children. Under 10 years at our age is a red flag to me. If a man has lost a child, I would want to know what he means by that...having one die of illness or accident is entirely different than one who died of abuse or neglect or was taken away by the courts.

1388SmartBlonde

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Broken People Posted: 3/5/2013 5:45:14 PM
Ahh, the unsolicited naked photos...pfft, why are men so stupid about of their junk?...my response to that is always "looks like a penis only smaller." If he won't stop, block him. According to some state statutues, he's a sex offender and can be charged with civil harrassment and indecent exposure if the photos were unsolicited. Take screen shots of your emails from him as evidence and offer to call the police in his area.

1388smartblonde

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Stupid question that may relate 2 many. Posted: 2/22/2013 10:15:00 AM
I would like to find someone my own age up to +/- 7 years so I don't think your -/+ 10 is out of line at all but keep in mind you are riding the cusp between baby-making and menopause with that age group. A 39 year old woman might have young children or want them while an older womanwill probably be empty nested and have more freedom because the kids are gone and pregnancy/childbearing is no longer an issue. Go for the one that suits you best and good luck.

1388SmartBlonde

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Early retirement?? Posted: 2/22/2013 9:13:40 AM
Cover for being disabled? Why all the prejudge? I work for a Non Profit dealing with the Disabled. How does a disability make them less of a person. Tell that to the Vet who lost a limb defending your Freedom. Many "disabled" people can and do support themselves even though they are no longer able to work full time. Perhaps they received a settlement. My last boyfriend had a prosthetic leg and a good job. Dating a person with a permanent disability was not that big a deal. Where I think the big deal comes into play for the OP is when someone who is long-term unemployed, on welfare or SS disability as their only source of income fraudulently portrays themselves as "self-employed" or "retired" in order to seem more financially stable/dateable. It is a sneaky lie of sorts, Webster Dictionary definition and political commentary aside, and THAT, more than the disability or income source itself, is a reason to pass that person by.

1388SmartBlonde

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Honesty Posted: 2/22/2013 8:57:57 AM
^^^I personally think Sheldon is a hottie. Science geeks are uber-sexy!! Seriously, though, NO ONE is ever 100% honest 100% of the time. If you are looking for literate, intelligent, decent guys, OP, put that in your profile. You are on a free dating site that attacts a lot of losers so be prepared that you will still get hit on only because your photos are attractive. The best way to eleminate the undesireables, I am told, is to use the BLOCK feature liberally. You will probably date a lot of guys at first who are not that great (so don't feel pressured to bed-hop), then narrow it down to the 2-3 guys who seem sincere and decent. Chances are one will become a stand out. And as one respondent noted...beware of the lie of omission...it is not always what they tell you that is the lie; it is what they won't/don't tell you. Research the sex offender registry, your county court records (arrest records/restraining orders/divorce decree info) and google them...might save you a ton of angst.

1388SmartBlonde

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Early retirement?? Posted: 2/10/2013 9:17:53 PM
Early retirement packages are fairly common around here as are military retired. And there are those like me who had generous parents that left a nice legacy to their children when they passed. Although not "retired", I did have enough of an inheritance to take a year off from work to go back to school to earn my degree and get my real estate license so I could have a better paying career in my empty nested years. Long-time unemployed, disability or living on welfare do not meet the standard for "retired" IMHO, but I have run into it also. I agree with the others who say look at how the guy (or gal) lives to see how "retired" he/she is. Also, they are now on a "fixed" income so that will also factor into their lifestyle choices so do not expect that their lifestle will change much over the next 30 0r so years of life expectancy, and will probably decline as retirement savings fail to keep pace with inflation,

1388smartblonde

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Sweet old man or stalker? Posted: 2/4/2013 3:18:53 PM
Peppermint, I have had a real life stalker from another site. He is now in a mental hospital. There is a difference between real life stalkers and blogstalkers... but neither take no for an answer and you never know when the latter might become the former. I eventually blocked the one who would not leave me alone. As to the response that I have no age limits, it's true. but that change was recent. Because I was only participating in forums at that time, I opened it up for forumites to contact me. When the post was originally put out there, my age restrictions were 42-52.

1388smartblonde

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Hard to believe this behavior in men over 50.. Posted: 2/4/2013 3:06:20 PM
OP, most men are just little boys in big britches. They will try to push the limit and if rejected, will take no responsibility for their bad behavior. Don't take it personally; say NEXT! and move on. You have to do what feels right and safe for you, period.

1388smartblonde

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The Catfish Posted: 2/4/2013 2:57:20 PM
I only date close to home and insist on a face to face after only a couple of emails. It is the best way to shut down fakers, marrieds, and those who are not serious. It is a "dating" site, not an "email" site.

1388smartblonde

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Adjusting to the Technology intrusion and the expectation of good manners? Posted: 2/4/2013 2:51:32 PM
I am in real estate so my phone is my business. However, it is rude to let a business meeting or date be interrupted by a phone call. Unless I am waiting for an urgent call on an offer, I set it to silent and let voice mail grab it. If it has to be on, I let the man know why it has to be on and excuse myself from the table and go to the bathroom or outside to take the call if it comes during the date. So far, no complaints from clients or dates.

1388smartblonde

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Younger VS. Older Posted: 1/22/2013 4:23:54 PM
I almost never use the phone to set up a date. If the guy emails me and his profile/photo are decent then I suggest a face to face meet right away (isn't that the goal after all?) and bypass the whole phone tag/texting nonsense. If after we meet, there is an attraction, then we exchange phone numbers. My current beau did not even get my phone number until after we had gone out 3-4 times and it was another 3 months before he knew where I lived. Eliminating the phone actually makes it easier to meet.

1388smartblonde

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Medical history Posted: 1/22/2013 4:16:12 PM
TraveliciousGuy wrote: I am now a gynecologist. Women can show me anything they like ROTFLMHO!!!

1388smartblonde

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Should I Be Suspicious? Posted: 1/22/2013 4:07:55 PM
DANGER WILL ROBINSON.... My ex-fiance was also very caught up in his work and his workout...notice I said he was my ex. My guess is this guy is probably self-absorbed and only looking to date because he is missing sex. Meet him but don't expect much.

1388smartblonde

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gracious response to a 'no' on the second date invitation Posted: 1/22/2013 3:59:33 PM
How about, "So tonight is out, but what night this week would work for you? I'd really enjoy seeing you again." If she says "first Tuesday after hell freezes over", then you will know she did not have as good a time as you did. If she says, "How about tomorrow night?" then you have a date. (and I am with DragonBits...calling last minute is not respectful of her time. A gal needs at least a one day heads up.)

1388smartblonde

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Question for Ladies 50+ Posted: 1/22/2013 3:47:36 PM
You women live in a bubble. Literate conducts an interview before she will date, and many of you still have these ridiculous demands and expectations. No wonder so many of you can't find or keep a good relationship going. So many of you are clueless about how you appear to us, aren't you. Many of you will never be in a relationship again because of it. The same could be said for a lot of the over 45 men here on POF, Timeforall. They don't trim their toenails or nose hair, smell like a hamper, have a beer gut and Santa beard but expect a woman to be busty and fit. They don't have savings/a house/decent job, can't carry on a conversation, expect sex without commitment and want to live in front of the TV. Is it really any wonder we women have to keep a list of minimum expectations? Pfft...the goomer gate swings both ways, so don't let it smack you in the hiney when you (who has no public photo) walks through it.

1388SmartBlonde

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Ladies over 45 - go without sex? Posted: 1/22/2013 3:14:32 PM
Bullfrog, what was the domestic issue? Did you cheat? Do you have HIV or other incurable STD? She is obviously A) never going to forgive you for the indiscretion and wants to punish you or B) she is so afraid of catching whatever you may have that she would consider sex with you rape. Get a divorce. The trust is dead and so is your marriage.

1388SmartBlonde

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Men don't smell like men anymore Posted: 1/22/2013 2:57:13 PM
As my mom used to say, a little dab will do you when it comes to perfume and hair products. I prefer soapy, clean smells to perfumy ones both and nothing heavy or overpowering. And no to Old Spice...the smell is okay, but my father wore that...it would be creepy kissing a man that smelled like good ol' Dad. I have gone on first meets where the men were seemingly intelligent but they smelled bad...not of cologne or soap...but old man smell (body odor, bad breath, unwashed hair, clothes that smell like a hamper) basted in cologne. Do men really not know that they stink?

1388SmartBlonde

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Forever 29 Posted: 1/22/2013 2:38:51 PM
I could not wait to turn 30. My goals were to have my children, a career and a house of my own by age 30. My boys were born at 27 & 29, I had a great career, and we were in escrow on our house when I turned 30. Best year ever. Turning 40 was fun and 50, which should have been the tough one because it came after the divorce, wasn't. My goals were to have both boys on their own, to have my degree earned, a great career and a home of my own, and savings in the bank. All my 50 year goals are met. Life has not gone downhill one iota...it has been a wonderful adventure at every age.

1388SmartBlonde

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I just lost my best friend......... Posted: 1/19/2013 10:03:23 PM
My deepest sympathies to you, dear, in your time of grieving and loss. I lost my best friend, Tena, nearly seven years ago to a burst blood vessel in her brain and I lost my both of my parents in 2009. (they were all heavy smokers) As we age, the ones we love will slowly leave us to begin a new adventure over that eternal horizon. I hope to be reunited with my loved ones one day as you will be with your friend and I encourage you to seek out a grief counseling group in your area where you will meet others dealing with the aftermath of a loss.

1388SmartBlonde

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What qualities are women looking for in a man over 45? Posted: 1/19/2013 9:41:47 PM
^^^he doesn't need a truckload, just the one winning lottery ticket. A studmuffin without a muffin top would be good though...snarky grins =0D

1388SmartBlonde

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Ladies over 45 - go without sex? Posted: 1/19/2013 9:31:56 PM
Message 32: "I was also married to a gay man.... must be more common than you think!" It is...when I was going through my ex's coming out, I learned that more than a million U.S. married male/female couples have a mate who is "in the closet" or on "the down low". In my ex's case, it was a strict upbringing and a desire for family and social acceptance. Thirty years ago, that meant getting married to a person of the opposite sex and making babies. We had a good marriage in most aspects but though not celibate until the last 4 years, there was always a lack of sex and intimacy. And the other posters here who said that the lack of a healthy sex life wore down their self-esteem, well, it is true. When I look back at pictures of me during the marriage and photos of me now, I do not even recognize myself and neither does anyone else. I would never go back to a relationship where sex was not involved.

1388SmartBlonde

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What qualities are women looking for in a man over 45? Posted: 1/19/2013 9:21:26 AM
The man I am dating is no one's idea of good looking. He is short, overweight, gray, balding and has a prothetic left leg. But he is also funny, kind, patient, giving, romantic, generous with his affection, faithful, likes church, has friends and interests out side of work, loves to travel, can carry on an intelligent conversation, loves his adult children and mine, understands what service to others is about, has a steady job, treats me with respect, and is a marriage minded man who liked being a good husband. Looks fade, the rest doesn't. I will take character over looks anyday.

1388SmartBlonde

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Ladies over 45 - go without sex? Posted: 1/19/2013 9:08:57 AM
No genital contact ever?? Nope, no way, never. If I wanted that, I would marry a gay man...oopsy, I did...lol! ED can be worked around, celibacy cannot. Been there and divorced that.

1388smartblonde

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Question for Ladies 50+ Posted: 1/19/2013 8:42:36 AM
What do women over 50 expect? It depends on the woman. We are individuals, there is no "one size fits all." For me, it is about the romance, courting, respect, faithfulness and kindness. In the six years since filing for divorce, the two men I have had serious relationships with longer than 2 years with were men who could carry on a conversation about topics other than cars or sports, they were well groomed, polite, laughed often, had a lot of interests/friends other than work. and they went to church on Sunday. Both would sing to me in the car or show up with flowers for no particular reason. They remembered holidays/birthdays/special occasions, and they knew how to court and woo my affections before attempting to jump my bones...in fact they waited for me make the first move. Both were marriage minded and proposed, although I came to find out the reason the first was good at romance was because he charmed women out of their money. Not wanting to support a golddigger here, so that engagement ended. The second man also proposed but then had some serious personal setbacks with health/financial issues that needed to be resolved before entering into an engagement We took a six month break while he took care of business, but are now back together and it is going well. If it continues, we will probably be married.

1388SmartBlonde

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Ladies over 45 - go without sex? Posted: 1/19/2013 8:09:06 AM
Intimacy/affection is far more important to me than sex, so if this person were wonderful in every way but that one thing, then yes I could. Right after the divorce, I dated 2 men with ED who could not raise the flag with/without medication. It was no big issue and we worked around it . What did not work for me though was the obesity, chain smoking and heavy drinking that led to their ED. They were killing themselves with poor health habits and I knew it would not be long before other organs failed, not just their penis...in fact, one had a severe heart attack and stroke while we were dating.

1388SmartBlonde

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Phone calls and honesty Posted: 1/19/2013 7:51:54 AM
Only after the gentleman and I set up a date and time to meet do I ask for his number and last name. And if I need to call him before we meet, I use *67 before his number so that I show up as a private caller. I learned early on never to give out my number/last name/address to a man on POF until we have had a few dates ...keeps the stalkers and weirdos from showing up on the doorstep or getting booty calls at 2 am. OP, maybe they are using your number to find out more about you. With just your phone number they can google county court records on you to make sure you don't have restraining orders/criminal record, or they are facebooking/LinkdIn'ing you to see where you work/if you work. You would be surprised how many people there are on POF who lie about their relationship/employment status.

1388SmartBlonde

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Im 47 She is 56 Posted: 1/16/2013 10:45:33 PM
Nine years is not that much at our age. Women live longer than men statistically, so dating someone 5-9 years older means you will be together longer (statistically speaking). I dated someone 9 years younger once but all of our friends thought we were of similar ages so it was no big deal to either of us. When she says "I am too old", grab her, kiss her and say"well, let me make you feel younger." If she laughs, you are home free.

1388SmartBlonde

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Younger VS. Older Posted: 1/16/2013 10:37:20 PM
Email and text are replacing the phone...it is quick and convenient for a busy world. It is also safer... FOR YOU. You are on a worldwide website looking, a phone number gives a burgler or rapist all the info they need to find out where you live and more. BE SAFE, OP! Do not give any man your phone number until after you meet and you are sure it is safe to do so. If you need to call him to confirm, dial *67 then his number so that you will come up on his caller ID as a private caller. Also, drive separately and meet in public places. DO NOT have him come to your home to pick you up, drop you off or spend the night. Let someone know where you are going, and if you can get a full name beforehand, google your local sex offender registry. Neither dating nor the world is anything like what it was 30-40 years ago.

1388SmartBlonde

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Middle Age and The Common Cold/Flu Posted: 1/14/2013 9:40:37 PM
Same here, OP. Get the flu shot and the pneumonia shot and load up on natural antibiotics like garlic and cinnamon. A strong onion cut in half and kept on the night stand will clear your sinuses and absorb germs when you cough or sneeze. Avoid over the counter meds that treat your symptoms...they can actually make you worse. Ride it out in misery with Kleenex and Vicks but do see your doctor if you are not starting to feel better within 5-7 days. Chicken soup and whiskey-laced hot tea with honey and lemon do work at loosening phlegm and quieting a cough.

1388SmartBlonde

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Why Bother? Posted: 1/14/2013 9:30:43 PM
^^^Agreed....marriage is work and it is worth fighting for but I think the last statistic you quoted is misleading. I think it is possible that the wife files for the divorce more often than the men because even thouhg the marriage is over, the man refuses to make the separation legal. In my case, the ex came out as gay in 2002 then hemmed and hawed about divorcing for 4 years. I finally had enough of being celibate and being used as camoflage, so I filed in 2007. He fought finalization of the divorce funtil 2009 even though we had not lived together for 5 years as a couple...and he had a boyfriend! He wanted our sons and family to thinkI was the one who wanted the divorce...why, I do not know. I have heard similar things from my single gal friends....but that is another thread for a different forum.

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How you see yourself in 10 years from know? Posted: 1/13/2013 8:40:57 PM
I see myself as firmly established in my new career (I went back to school after the divorce and am working in real estate) and married to a good Christian man who is similiarly faithful, successful, and with a similiar love of adventure and travel. And they are out there, ladies, I promise. My last alimony payment from the ex (he owes me money he could not pay at the time of the divorce)will be on April 16, 2016 so I think it would be fitting if my wedding day would also be 4/16/16 to close the karmic circle of a bad ending with a great beginning.

1388SmartBlonde

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How old is too old for me? Im not a cub looking for a Cougar.. Posted: 1/13/2013 8:27:47 PM
+/- 9 years is a good rule of thumb...keeps you in the same decade at least. Go too young, they still have small children/want babies...go to old and it is Senior Menu night at Denny's. I once dated a man 9 years younger and no one thought we looked "mismatched" age wise, My ex-fiance was 5 years younger and my last beau was 5 years older...same thing....so as long as you and she are okay with it, go for it.

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Dating in our 50's Posted: 1/13/2013 8:18:25 PM
^^^^Tough talk coming from a man with no photo on his profile...pfffft.

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Why Bother? Posted: 1/13/2013 8:12:04 PM
People who cheat are the ones who neglect their own lawn because they spend all their energy looking for better grass. Their lawn dries up and dies off from neglect because to them, the grass is always a little greener in the next pasture. Those that are loyal and faithful know that the secret to a lush lawn is to water and fertilize their own grass. A well-tended lawn is the envy of all who see it. Maybe the OP should look for a good gardener.

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angry profiles..would you date them? Posted: 1/13/2013 6:05:13 PM
It's baffling how woman after woman can tell men what they want and we never listen. Most of us guys are trying to dissect the mysteries of the women's inner being when it all more or less comes down to being a decent nice guy, being respectiful , listening to what she says (hint!) and making her feel special. Saying women want the guy with the big wallet, the guy who isn't nice, etc. is neither listening to women or being respectful. Very true, Sciencetrekker. None of the men that have gotten past the first date with me (if they make it to the first date) have been flush with cash nor were any of them particularly handsome. What they did have was a positive attitude, a sense of humor, the ability to communicate, nice manners and a respectful demeanor. Nice guys do finish first. As for asking a guy what he does for a living, what he drives, where he lives...that's just conversation starter stuff...it does not mean a woman wants to pick a man's pocket.

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Why Bother? Posted: 1/10/2013 8:06:27 PM
Don't bother...If you think that all men are cheaters, they will be. Humans tend to live up to the expectations set for them. Go back to school, find a career you love, volunteer, make new friends...you will meet someone more compatible if you do it off line. And if you don't, you will have an education, a career you love, worthwhile work and friends. There is no downside to giving up.

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No 20 year olds? Posted: 1/10/2013 7:40:40 PM
Some people waive the age restriction so they can receive emails from younger forumites but are not interested in dating any of them so they put that in their profile I, for one, am one of those would rather teach an old dog new tricks than to try to train puppies and I use the age restrictions in my profile but still get hit on by younger (AND older) men who lie about their age in order to circumvent the age filters.

1388SmartBlonde

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When a Woman Doesn't Return Calls But Continues Texting Posted: 1/10/2013 7:23:49 PM
Text her/call her back and ask if you can set up an in-person meeting so you can see if you hit it off human to human. If she agrees to meet, she is interested...if hems and haws, thank her for her time and move on. It is possible she is a) not really interested or b) not really available.

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