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 Author Thread: Lord of the dance
 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 3695 (view)
 
Lord of the dance
Posted: 4/1/2008 5:29:07 PM
I danced in the morning when the world was young
I danced in the moon and the stars and the sun
I came down from heaven and I danced on the earth
At Bethlehem I had my birth

Dance, dance, wherever you may be
I am the lord of the dance, said he
And I lead you all, wherever you may be
And I lead you all in the dance, said he

I danced for the scribes and the Pharisees
They wouldn't dance, they wouldn't follow me
I danced for the fishermen James and John
They came with me so the dance went on

Dance, dance, wherever you may be
I am the lord of the dance, said he
And I lead you all, wherever you may be
And I lead you all in the dance, said he

I danced on the Sabbath and I cured the lame
The holy people said it was a shame
They ripped, they stripped, they hung me high
Left me there on the cross to die

Dance, dance, wherever you may be
I am the lord of the dance, said he
And I lead you all, wherever you may be
And I lead you all in the dance, said he

I danced on a Friday when the world turned black
It's hard to dance with the devil on your back
They buried my body, they thought I was gone
But I am the dance, and the dance goes on

Dance, dance, wherever you may be
I am the lord of the dance, said he
And I lead you all, wherever you may be
And I lead you all in the dance, said he

They cut me down and I leapt up high
I am the life that will never, never die
I'll live in you if you'll live in me
I am the Lord of the dance, said he

Dance, dance, wherever you may be
I am the lord of the dance, said he
And I lead you all, wherever you may be
And I lead you all in the dance, said he

Classic Celtic Tune
Background: The lyrics for this version were adapted from a song called "Simple Gifts" by Sydney Carter in 1963. The music is a 19th century Shaker tune.
 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 39 (view)
 
Phone Calls
Posted: 4/1/2008 4:38:34 PM
Depends on the person, but most people think that checking up on someone everyday seems clingy or controlling. It also depends on your distance from each other, if you can simply drive to their house then stopping by would be the best choice. If they lived further away then calling is probably the easier choice. Personally, I am a busy guy I work a lot of hours, and when I have someone special I like to know they have a life apart from me. I like to trust someone to the point where you contact them on a reasonable basis, and there is no problem with daily emails saying they are on your mind. It is healthier for most relationships to not stay in contast contact like a couple of highschool lovebirds who can't just get enough.

I think it is reasonable, and acceptable to do whichever feels comfortable as long as you both agree. I know personally I like my free space, I like trusting someone enough that I don't have to know where they are, and what they do everyday. I also love the feeling of safety in knowing that she feels the same way. Although apart we are also close enough in our feelings in that sending a simple text message or email shows a simple I care about you too. My opinon only speaks for me, you do what feels right for you, but also know that too much contact can also smother a good thing.

As to the mature woman, younger guy thing....I think younger guys find that more mature women are open about their sexuality, they aren't uptight about just hanging out, they aren't so interested in having babies, nor getting married since they have already done all that. In my experience, younger women are out to save the world, to fight the good fight, change the planet. Mature women know the score, they aren' about inventing the wheel, there is less pressure to be a provider, and more focus on being.

Well that is my 2 cents
 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 110 (view)
 
Men who arrive for the 1st date with a rose.....do women like it?
Posted: 7/17/2007 5:40:44 PM
While women are drawn to guys to make them feel emotion, flowers aren't the magic bullet. Why? Cause being this clever may make some women think you are buying them off. Actually any guy can bring flowers to a date, how you will set your self off as being different isn't in what you give out, or how romantic you may seem. Being thoughtful is a bit of arrogance which any charmer, or player can say to get to the supposed first base. Women do not want to feel as though they are being manipulated by gifts, no matter the intention. You are far better off to be yourself, involve the woman in your presence...be receptive, and cute...listen more than you speak, and appeal to her rich sense of emotion to connect both of you together. If the chemistry is right, then the stars will align, and all that other romantic stuff can happen, once you intrigue her with your attention, and charm.

 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Closure
Posted: 4/19/2007 11:34:05 AM
I know it is better to walk away, leave her go, get her out of your head. She is the one who told me she loved me, and then hasn't talked to me for weeks. She is the one who made love to me, and then acted like it meant nothing. She is the one who told me she didn't see a future in us. She is the one who still wears the necklace I gave her for Valentines Day. You know it would be easy to just play games back at her, treat her like nothing too, but some part of me wants closure, not vindictive closure, just that final nail in the coffin so you don't get the emails from her asking you how to fix computer problems. You want her to leave you alone, instead of whenever is convenient to her to let you be a friend.

My question is, why am I compelled to write an email back to her like one of the many she did to me, telling me I am pretty sure you are not the one for me? I thought writting the email might be enough, but it just sits there in my outbox like a christmas present never opened. Somehow this doesn't feel like enough, is it because I need to let it go in my head, before I let it all go, or does the letter actually symbolize something?

Any thoughts?
 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 197 (view)
 
when girls say they need space
Posted: 4/19/2007 11:16:29 AM
I personally have had this happen to me several times, my favorite being...she loves you, then only to say a time later that she loved you but isn't in love with you. If you don't know the difference, you shouldn't tell someone in the first place. But that is neither here nor there, and I getting dumped in an email is about her character, respect, and integrity.

The best advice is leave her go, date other girls, and let her know about it. Usually the way to get her back is to make her miss you, and know you are with others. The need space means you are being too needy and too clingy. Read the below except what a friend of mine told me that made me open my eyes.

Okay listen up...

I am going to reveal to you the number
#1 mistake men make when it comes to attracting
and dating beautiful women.

What do you think is the reason why most guys
out there just can't get a date, a number or
a kiss from a woman?

It's because they treat every single woman
like a princess and put them on a pedestal
... whereas they should really treat them
like their little bratty sister. This is
what gets women attracted and fall in love with you.

If you act like a clingy, needy nice-guy then
no wonder women tell you that they just want
to be friends with you.

When you see an attractive woman, what do you
do to get her attention? Do you go up to her and
pay her a compliment? Do you ask her if she wants
a drink? Do you tell her how beautiful she is?
Do you introduce yourself and ask what her name is?

Man, why do you make me bang my head on my
keyboard? You won't get a woman to give you
her phone number like that! Now look, most
guys think that to successfully attract a
woman, you need to be nice to them, drive
a sports car, have a load of cash in your
wallet and work out every week just to look
a bit like Arnold.

You couldn't be more wrong. It's all bullshit!

In fact, you may have just made the biggest
mistake in your life when it comes to women
and dating. Every guy on this planet has been
brainwashed into the belief that women will
want to be with you if you are nice to them,
treat them like a princess and pay for drinks
and dinner.

You couldn't be further from the truth. But it's
not your fault. Blame TV, Hollywood and magazines.
You have been conditioned to believe that this is
what makes women get attracted to you.

Now listen, me and many of my friends who
are true ladies-men aren't rich, good looking
or handsome. We're just regular guys like you.

But we can get so many phone numbers from women
one single day you wouldn't even believe me if
I told you.

So what's our secret? How do we do it?

It's because we tease women, we accuse them
of hitting on us, bust their balls and are
cheeky when we talk to them. We are the
complete opposite of what a clingy nice-guy
does. We don't offer them drinks, we don't
pay compliments and we certainly don't invite
them to a romantic candle light dinner.

And guess what?

They LOVE us for that. Women get attracted and
want to be with men that are different from all
the other guys they have dated in the past...and
we give them precisely that.

So if you want to be able to do the same and
literally get women to fight for YOUR attention,
start treating them like your bratty little sister
and say "HEY! Will you stop staring at my ass all
the time? I'm not a sex-object you know?"

Once you truly GET IT what makes women
attracted to men, you can write your own
ticket in the dating world.

I hate to say it...but this works, and your choice is simple....move on for you, and her, and if she still wants you she will come back, otherwise you are better off.
 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 41 (view)
 
I need your help ..
Posted: 4/18/2007 3:03:34 PM
The best advice sometimes isn't what you want to hear, and is sometimes counter intuitive. My advice is talk to other women, and let this woman subtly know about it but not in a mean way of course. And two things will happen, you will enjoy yourself so much that you will not agonize about her rejection, or worry about this loss. Secondly, if she knows you are meeting others, and you give her space she may come back to you, but the key is not to dwell on what you could have done but rather keep on doing, and in that you will let this issue work itself out on it's own.

Best of luck to you

 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 20 (view)
 
Desperately need computer help.
Posted: 4/18/2007 2:45:17 PM
I don't know if anyone has solved your dilenma yet or not, but depending on how you have your router connected may be the simple fix. We use several linksys routers at work, and despite what others have said they have been very very dependable.

First, do not connect the ethernet cord from your cable or dsl box into the wan or internet port on the wireless router. Instead connect both connectors into any one of the 4 ports on the back(labelled 1,2,3,4).

Restart both machines, and you should be good to go...

Hope this helps,

Doug

 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 1 (view)
 
Wayne & Start County Singles new local singles group meeting
Posted: 4/18/2007 2:35:34 PM
Christian Adult Singles Together or CAST for short will be having a kick off meeting, Saturday April 28th 7 PM at Bliss Cafe in Dalton, Ohio. We invite all local singles to learn about our NEW local group, have a cup of coffee, and learn about our planned events for summer. Please bring a friend, and we will be looking forward to meeting you.

Bliss Cafe is located in Dalton, Ohio see the directions below, or google the address for directions.
We hope to see you there.


Bliss Cafe
36 West Main Street
Dalton, Ohio 44618
(330)828-2526

Directions from Massilon or Canton(Stark County):
Take hwy 30 west towards Wooster/ Mansfield,
At the 1st light(intersection of hwy 30 & rt 94) take a right going north past the gas stations.
At the very next light take a left, Bliss Cafe will be on your right.
Parking is on the street, or at the town lot to the left.

Directions from Wooster or Millersburg(Wayne County):
Take hwy 30 east towards Canton,
At the 2nd light(intersection of hwy 30 & rt 94) take a left going north past the gas stations.
At the very next light take a left, Bliss Cafe will be on your right.
Parking is on the street, or at the town lot to the left.
 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 185 (view)
 
I wonder if...
Posted: 4/10/2007 5:12:23 PM
This profile is either a fake or a joke, which really doesn't justify a dignified answer in any shape or form. Sheesh, what the kids do for fun now days....lol



 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 277 (view)
 
Why do women equate sex with committment...
Posted: 4/10/2007 4:54:24 PM
The last two women I dated, told me they loved me after the intimacy began. Not only was I to find out this "supposed" love did not mean a little more than I like you, but a true relationship was the farthest from their minds. Both women were divorced, and one was a doctor. I am sorry, but this isn't a gender issue because there is more going on here than something so simple.

To many of us intimacy signifies something special which includes a commited relationship, just as one of the other posters commented that the older you get, you understand this better. I cannot speak for everyone however, and while it is too difficult to be a mind reader in every sitsuation, the bias towards singling out men in this instance is not only unfair by stereotypical at best.
 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 255 (view)
 
Why do women equate sex with committment...
Posted: 4/8/2007 7:57:53 PM
This is definitely not an only a men verses women thing....

Because the last few times I thought I was in a relationship with a woman, I was only to find out I wasn't because these women apparently felt that sex wasn't just more than I am attracted to you lets do it sort of thing. I am sorry but if you want just a sexual kind relationship fine, but after a certain age most of us have found through experience that we need something deeper to complete us. Verses just the empty sort of physical relationship that is only about sexual gratification.

Sex to me signifies an emotional connection, that ties you both together in a very intense way that satisfies you emotionally, and physically. While starting the connection for a deeper type of relationship.

Getting to this stage is sometimes followed by those 3 lil words, and or being exclusive solely because you need to feel as though this connection means something, and you want the safety of knowing your partner isn't out sleeping around.

The bottom line is communication, and expectations with each other. I only hope that my next real relationship is based on these sort of realistic expections where sex signifies the start of a relationship, and it is about respect, care, and trust.
 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 106 (view)
 
pulling
Posted: 2/13/2007 12:36:35 AM
This seems like a biased, and sexist question which suggests men are emotionless zombies who treat sex as a release rather than a emotional connection. While I am sure there are many who feel either way, I have found as many women who are just as casual about sex as men. Trying to equate ejaculation during penetration or without into something deeper or not depends not just on the person, but the place, time, and sitsuation.

If history has proven us anything we can most likely prove that we humans are creatures of habit, and that we like to emulate sitsuations based on powerful experiences we've had or seen. Given that many people like to disassociate any connection with sex, emotions, or pleasure suggests that where one "cums", as a place really doesn't have anything to do with a particular reason.

A few suggestions here may be: examples in porn, fetishes, experiences with others, etc.

Experience is subjective as they say, and while I have personally known just as many ladies who like the feeling of hot cum on them, as those who prefer it in them. Of course your mileage may differ, but never forget the most important thing. If you need to ask why to validate unresolved questions, I believe the answer you will find will never meet your expectations until you first understand that why is never as important as doing, living, and enjoying. I have found that the answer to why the grass is green is alot less satisfying than just enjoying the grass, and all that i gives you.

 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 66 (view)
 
Christmas Sucks!
Posted: 12/25/2006 8:58:04 AM
I had a brother die in a car accident on christmas eve over 10 years ago, while time numbs the pain having tragedy so close to a holiday is soo difficult. My sister had her 21st bday burying her brother, and now this christmas my other sister, has learned that a baby she was to adopt, and born on christmas eve has now serious brain trama, and probally never will be a normal child. All I can tell you, is live each day like it was your last, know time is precious, and life is a gift. See the joy in others, especially children, and let their joy fill your saddness when you are feeling low. The holidays are about family, and while saddness feels lonely, don't be afraid. Your friends, and family love and care for you, and through them you will live. Let the time that you shared with your special ones be the legacy to share with others, and it is ok to stare blankly, just know there are many who care, and share such pain with you.

hugs
 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 72 (view)
 
can too much porn and masterbation ruin your sex drive?
Posted: 12/5/2006 12:54:44 AM
Think occam's razor, which essentially states usually the simplest explaination is usually the correct one. Your stress is probally the culprit but keep these ideas in mind.

As all my buddies can attest, as we age our tastes change, what once stimulated you may not be the same. You have to remember too that sex is as much mental as physical. Testosterone levels in men decrease with age, some of my guy friends have noticed that their frequency or need has changed over the years.

Personally, strippers never could just entice me by themselves for two reasons. One, I am not much of an exhibitionist which tends to curb my arousal in a public venue. Two, with maturity I have greater control over my body, may not choose to just pop a woody when the wind blows cause now I know the difference verses being a scant 15 years old.

Lastly, while porn fulfills a need now, when you find your one, the chemical reactions caused by the emotion, and physical aspects of a deep emotional bond will far surpass what you know now as just a release. I am sure you will find your path, just don't worry so much about the details. The rest will come in time.

 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 176 (view)
 
Why do women ask this question?
Posted: 12/4/2006 3:40:40 PM
I have learned from experience, the answer is always" that you never kiss and tell".

As others have said, the number isn't important just as long as you both are healthy, clean, and or been tested recently.

I see it only as a trust issue, and that is all anyone needs to know. We all have skeletons in our closets, and everyone has been young, stupid, or wild at one point or another. The past is the past, regrets or not none of that matters, today, tomorrow, or in the future.

Preferably, hold me, kiss me, and love me for me, and that is all anyone can ask.

 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 178 (view)
 
Phonesex, Yes? No? Why Not?
Posted: 12/3/2006 5:55:30 AM
Bump, for the phone sex thread..most of the profiles are gone but the ideas are the same.

The whole idea is mental, why do women like romance novels? Why is getting into someone's mind sexy? Why is the mind the sexiest part of your anatomy? When you seduce you seduce the mind, phone doesn't have to be dirty, that is just preference or inexperience. Why limit yourself with ideas just because you haven't read otherwise? Sex is very much a mental state, whether others choose to limit their sensations to those on a physical level only is their choice. There are many emotional states, and or mental states which are just as powerful if you have an uninhibited mind.

Don't try to excuse it as juvenille, silly, or stupid simply because you don't understand it. Many things in life are treated as such not because they are, but because others don't see value in their worth. If erotica, or for that matter romance novels were so misunderstood, then there would not be a billon dollar industry built around them. Whether you keep an open mind about this subject or not, there is more to it than meets the eye.

 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 7 (view)
 
Sex with strangers on Vacation
Posted: 12/3/2006 4:05:18 AM
Did you exchange phone numbers, email addresses, or have contacted each other since? A connection of any type, even a one night stand can go somewhere, but only if both of you want it. The funny thing about an instant connection of that type is sometimes being compatible in the bedroom doesn't equate into compatibility in other areas. I think all of us can remember those relationships where the passion in the bedroom far exceeded other parts of the tryst. If you respect each other, and treat it with maturity, anything is possible just don't make a fantasy out of a happen stance when it all it was just that.

 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 36 (view)
 
how do you know when the flirting is genuine
Posted: 12/2/2006 11:33:56 AM
Flirting depends greatly on perception, and while I agree there are many variations they all begin with the basics. They are humor, compliments, and body language. In her book smart man hunting, by Liz Kelly here are the top 9 flirting questions.

1)What is your favorite icecream flavor, and why?
2)What is the most romantic place you have been on a date?
3)What would you do, if we got stuck in a snow storm in the mountains?
4)If you were going to take me out for a romantic evening, what would we do?
5)What is your favorite thing to do with a partner for fun?
6)If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go, and why?
7)How long have you played guitar?(a question about a talent)
8)Wow is that your cute dog?
9)When are we going to meet to find out whether we would ever want to kiss each other?
 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 82 (view)
 
The creepiest date ever!
Posted: 11/28/2006 3:43:51 PM
Beats my creepiest dates too

1)The woman who after a movie, says do you want to meet my family, and then proceeds to show me over 40 photos of her 10 cats.

2) The women who tells me to meet her at her house cause she can't drive, and ends up being bed ridden since she had a recent stroke, and just wanted someone with which to talk. Then asks me to lean over to adjust her bed, and grabs me, and tries to stuff her tongue into my mouth.

3) The woman I met online, who sends me a photo of herself via US mail which is over 10 years old, and 200lbs lighter, and when I drive 2 hours to meet her wonders why I can't find anything to say.

4) The woman I met, and later found out was an occult priestess, and sent me all kinds of weird love potions, and weird amulets containing pieces of her hair, and other body parts like teeth.

Those are the top 4, doesn't everyone have weird date experiences?
 ridddder
Joined: 11/14/2006
Msg: 146 (view)
 
Has anyone ever been dumped via email?
Posted: 11/28/2006 3:12:22 PM
I have a few standards in dating, and a big one is respect. If you don't respect the person enough to tell them in person, then you don't deserve to have a "real" relationship of any kind. Another little thing is called maturity, and many people do not have that either. In my age range 35-45, one would hope to find either quality, however all too often I find neither which just tells a sad story for everyone.

Since everyone has email nowdays they think they can bypass, respect, maturity, and honor which are just decent human traits which somehow don't mean anything to alot of women nowdays. The only thing worse than an email, is a text message saying, "I feel no spark for u, good luck"

Women are just as chickenshit, when it comes to doing the right thing. The old phrase act your age, not your shoe size comes to mind. When dealing with the game players who say they don't like games, but tend to play more games altogether.

Word of advice for the game playing women, never expect to find a good guy until you quit playing the games, and grow up. Go away, we men don't want you, don't need you, and frankly don't even care.
 
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