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Pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 5 (view)

Just some feedback, please Posted: 6/20/2011 8:15:22 PM
No need to list what kind of woman you're looking for, that will take care of itself in who you respond to/email. Your profile is a little on the long side and makes you sound as though you have a very short attention span. A woman reading may be thinking... am I smart enough for this guy? can he commit to anything? would he expect me to travel with him several times a year? etc, etc Never forget the perspective of the people reading your profile

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 24 (view)

triumphing despite the odds...would the means affect you having a relationship? Posted: 5/9/2009 7:51:51 AM
Or...would it make you respect one less, for having done anything to manage to surpass the odds that were thrown at them? Would you start a relationship with them? This depends so much on situational ethics... If I met someone who sold off his integrity for money, I'd think less of him. IF, on the other hand, he pushed his own ethics aside ...putting himself second for the betterment of his children, I'd think MORE highly of him.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

Being financially stable Posted: 5/7/2009 6:21:52 PM
Pandy's first rule of relationships? Pull your own weight. It's not such a bad thing if someone moves back in with the parents for a little while to regroup or to meet some goal that they need help with, but if it looks like a permanent thing and they don't have a game plan, chances are that they're not an independant person, and probably won't be a good long term relationship bet.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 261 (view)

Somali Pirates Posted: 4/26/2009 6:24:46 AM
so if some fishermen turned bandit, I say all the power to them Let's try not to live in fairy tales , folks. This statement romanticizes brutality and lawlessness. That these acts will stop when national conditions improve is a pretty thought, but reveals ignorance of human nature. These pirates are seen as heroes of a sort in their villages, the same way that pimps and thugs are romanticized in some neighborhoods here. They won't stop stealing and brutalizing people because the fish come back. If you take a dog's alpo for a week, he might go after the neighbor's chickens. After that, he'll keep hunting chickens no matter how much alpo is available. It is the nature of dogs, it is the nature of people. The only way to stop these men is to catch them, the only way to prevent new pirates from taking their places is to institute consequences that make it an unpalatable idea.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 17 (view)

Picture removed Posted: 3/6/2009 8:45:11 PM
PS. She's not a friend, she's actually my estranged runaway ex hmmph ...strange ...err..."estranged" exes can still be friends can't they? The two aren't mutually exclusive. Now THAT is a profile photo Thank you. What a blast from the past that thread is :D

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 6 (view)

Picture removed Posted: 3/5/2009 5:14:46 PM
you wanna tell her about the time my whole PROFILE got deleted over the gun pic I had up, Trap, or shall I? oh, yeah... that was WHILE I was a moderator.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 19 (view)

How To LOVE a Woman Posted: 2/25/2009 2:20:03 PM
Yeah, Brawnydog, you just proved to the world why you are here looking for love. You wouldn't know love if it ran over you with a shopping cart. You'd be too busy trying to look up her skirt. some people wouldn't recognize humor if it crawled up their pantsleg. Women adore Brawnydog...myself included. Follow him, emulate him, learn. The phrase shouldn't be "how to love A woman" it should be "how to love YOUR woman"... one woman's "romance" is another woman's "stalker tendencies". Many of the things that would melt a typical woman would have me rolling my eyes. The things I consider romantic (having him start my car for me on a cold winter morning, keeping my favorite brand of soda in his fridge, etc.) some women might not even notice. Don't presume that if something worked on one woman, it'll work on another

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 1935 (view)

welcome to no pressure Posted: 2/22/2009 5:27:05 PM
The crazy redhead's name escapes me, but she was from St. Pete. Don't go shoppin' there again, please. Johnny must be in charge. Her name was Nance . You were happier about the housework than the BJs. She's gone cause she was clingy. I'm not even gonna try to rhyme. Think of this as new wave free verse :D

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 122 (view)

religion in a relationship...deal breaker? Posted: 12/2/2008 3:07:21 PM
Perhaps his issue was less about whether or not you are religious and more about whether or not you conform to his wishes?

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 144 (view)

All Night Lovemaking! Posted: 11/28/2008 2:42:37 PM
I'm not sure... I haven't found my limit yet

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

what is really going on? Posted: 11/28/2008 1:01:16 PM
It doesn't really matter , does it? You shouldn't second guess yourself. The bottom line is... if he wanted to be with you, he would BE with you. He's not, so he doesn't. Move on.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 26 (view)

New Feature: A Paid Gift and Personalized Message! Posted: 11/27/2008 2:45:31 PM
It's been a feature on hot or not for a while now. I don't get it, but I don't get the grousing either. If you don't like it... don't use it. Simple enough, right?

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 310 (view)

Is It Cheating If Its Only Online???? Posted: 11/27/2008 2:43:57 PM
Every couple has their own standard as to what is cheating. Ideally, you should have discussed this before you became exclusive. Anything that crosses the line that you drew together is cheating.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 28 (view)

Dating coworkers = no no, but this case? Posted: 11/27/2008 2:40:39 PM
Ah, but being forbidden makes the fruit that much sweeter... and it can be oh-so-exciting to sneak around, right? I don't want to date him, after all, just have a really hot extended fling. assuming that the person in question is interested, anyway!

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 1751 (view)

welcome to writin' for the Indian Princess 102 Posted: 11/27/2008 1:08:28 PM
It's OK, I never remember your birthday, either. It's just another of those gifts we give each other... removing the obligation from each other to have to send gifts

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 75 (view)

Why does anyone have to lower their standards because of age? Posted: 11/23/2008 4:27:16 PM
It also has the advantage of leaving the supercilious who are more than half way to hagdom to revel in their aloneness. I'd say it'd be a real trick to pick up "hotties" if you're a dead ringer for Ed McMahon and not loaded with cash... or the phallic enhancements that some men call sportscars ::shrug:: some of us have options to choose from, some have to take what can be purchased.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 36 (view)

Why does anyone have to lower their standards because of age? Posted: 11/20/2008 6:55:35 PM
I live like I always have, no concessions here for age. Wait....scratch that I live better now , cause I'm in much better shape financially and I finally have all my shyt together emotionally and otherwise. My forties just ROCK. Settle, be damned

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 126 (view)

Dating vs WAITING FOR THE RIGHT PARTNER Posted: 11/10/2008 2:47:07 PM
Is it wrong to go on a few dates, then if you can't see growing old w/ that person, end it as to not waste eachother's time? nothing at all wrong with that... though it seems only fair that the person you're seeing is aware of what you're looking for.... so they don't waste their time, either.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

why do men fear strong women? Posted: 11/10/2008 2:36:58 PM
I'm probably one of the strongest women I know... and I haven't had this problem since I was an idiot twentysomething who didn't know how to look for a man with self esteem of his own. I don't want to hurt your feelings... I don't know you. But I will say that I have a couple of female friends who tend to blame failed dates/relationships on men not being able to take strong women. With one, I think it's really her atrocious table manners (slurping and eating with her mouth open) that does the trick.... and with the other, it's the fact that she has a demon child that she allows to control her life.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 8 (view)

how do i make him feel comfortable? Posted: 11/8/2008 5:58:54 PM
I've been in a similar situation. There was a guy I SERIOUSLY found attractive, and he talked a good game about returning my interest, but he kept to email and never used my phone number once.... never issued an invitation to meet and politely declined invitations I issued. I backed off and decided to put him out of my head. I figure... if he's not as interested in me as I am in him, it's not going to be good for me in the long run, anyway. If he's just not that into you, it might be time to step away. If he makes a move, great... and if he doesn't, you have your answer about where he's coming from.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 47 (view)

POF singles event in Columbia Posted: 11/8/2008 5:53:30 PM
get it rolling and I'll be there

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 247 (view)

C'Mere, I'll do ya'. Posted: 11/4/2008 7:22:00 PM
I'll try to get all of you who are in line within the next couple of days. Right now, I'm kicked back and smiling, watching the electoral map turn blue. I hope you all voted!

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 242 (view)

ouranus Posted: 11/4/2008 1:50:18 AM
most people are more familiar with the alternative spelling "uranus"... still not a good idea... you're sound like science geek. Uranus was emasculated by his son Kronus, you knew this, right? just sayin'.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 238 (view)

reply to filter with email Posted: 11/3/2008 4:39:52 PM
XS, There is no ACTUAL filter... but statistics say that you are probably not going to be getting very many women contacting you. If they do, you read their profiles and decide if they are right for you. As you scan profiles, you decide which are and aren't right for you... THAT's what I mean by using your email to filter out potentials. My profile? Not really relevant as I'm not dating. I'm here for the forums and the friendships and I don't really care if anyone contacts or not. You, presumably, do.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 222 (view)

LiaLooksAgain Posted: 11/2/2008 8:26:22 PM
Thanks for the honesty...ouch about the butt though... it's not that you have an unattractive butt just that NO butt should be displayed quite that way on a dating site

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 220 (view)

trirunner Posted: 11/2/2008 7:38:10 PM
I can't lie because seperated is my status right now, if it said divorced how would it look? thanks, value the input I wasn't suggesting that you lie... more that I was informing you that there isn't much you can do to get any more interest as long as you're not divorced. Changes to your profile won't help. Frankly? women don't want to get involved with men who have unfinished business. YOu are wasting yoru time here until you divorce.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 219 (view)

wyzeman Posted: 11/2/2008 7:36:04 PM
Merci. As soon as I get done disposing of my latest victim, don't forget to bleach the ax (so, I watch CSI! it'll pay off when I pull off the perfect murder someday) I'll take some smiling pictures, and I will pay someone to create a personality for me, hopefully one bubbly, fun, and maybe they'll make sure I know how to swing dance or something. don't go too overboard... I'm not sure we can handle you all bubbly :P Seriously though, thank you. You're the first person to confirm my fear that I look like a handsome Charles Manson. how cool is it that I have people thanking me for insulting their profiles? You are very welcome... hope it helps!

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 216 (view)

ranks76 Posted: 11/2/2008 7:33:11 PM
I like most of your profile... your text is good and describes you well... your pictures demonstrate some of your interests and are clear and well exposed. The two things I'd change? your tag line and the "quotes" portion. They make you sound like you've attended "effective auto salesmanship 101" and took entirely too much to heart

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 215 (view)

suitablematch Posted: 11/2/2008 7:29:33 PM
Lose the picture and get new ones fast. This one makes it look as though you have no chin at all. I'd also reword the bit about crosswords.... the way it's worded makes you sound like a key character in an Agatha Christie novel. The rest of your text is pretty good as is

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 214 (view)

funguy431 Posted: 11/2/2008 7:26:41 PM
I like the additional information... very good. I'd also suggest that you format it a little better. As is, it's in choppy little sentences that seem disjointed.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 213 (view)

Arinna Posted: 11/2/2008 7:25:20 PM
refer to my last post... it covers your profile as well re: dogs and skimpy personal information. You are pretty in your main photo, but your smile looks really stiff and forced. I'd consider putting up one of your last two, and /or getting some fresh ones .

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 212 (view)

simply steven Posted: 11/2/2008 7:22:24 PM
your pictures are either underexposed or underexposed... the only clear one has you making a weird face. Get new pics. Text? It's garbled and reads like a giant run on sentence. The content is pretty good, but the form is horrible. Rework it to make it an easier read.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 211 (view)

shels40 Posted: 11/2/2008 7:19:09 PM
1) lose the dog pic. It's cool that you have a dog... lots of people are pet freaks... but maybe put "playing with my labrador retreiver" as a interest keyword , or something of that nature. Guys see dog and cat pics and immediately wonder if they're gonna someday wake up in your bed with dog ass in their face. It's just best to leave pet pictures out of the equation altogether. Your last pic is great, you are a really pretty woman. I think you need more pics that show that. The one with the silly face is OK... but I wouldn't make it your main. Text? Not nearly enough about you. Give us some interests/ personality traits that make you interesting and real and not like a thousand other women here.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 210 (view)

jonas albrecht Posted: 11/2/2008 7:14:05 PM
I'm sure you're not as unhinged as your profile makes you sound. It's cool to have a little bit of an edge, but you missed the mark and headed into serious weirdness. Tone it way down and add more pictures (hopefully without cartoons, stuffed animals or any kind of toy)

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 209 (view)

devil163 Posted: 11/2/2008 7:11:24 PM
not bad ... but it needs some spice, after you get more pictures up, list some interests or personality quirks that set you apart. You sound very nice, but very bland.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 208 (view)

lialooksagain Posted: 11/2/2008 7:06:05 PM
Dayum, and they tell me I sound like a ballbuster. Sweetie, you sound like you're gonna be that chick who finds fault with everything a man does. This totally belies the description of yourself as sweet. Get that list off your profile NOW before any other men see it. Ease up. You might be looking for a man in theory, but you've got barbed wire up all over your profile that says "leave me alone". Guys like to feel needed every now and again... so show your soft side. and I agree with Brawny on your butt pic... not a good angle for a dating site profile. Your bone structure is great and you have a wonderful smile... get more flattering pictures up, I have a feeling you are way better looking than your photos indicate.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

Do I come off as an urbane, arrogant prick? Posted: 11/1/2008 8:03:59 PM
arrogant? yes, prick? yes, urbane? not so much. I'd throw self-aggrandizing into the mix... but that's just me.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 193 (view)

C'Mere, I'll do ya'. Posted: 11/1/2008 7:53:15 PM
' <div class="quote">The sports thing, oddly enough, a lot of guys that view and msg me are very interested in sports, so I wanted that up there so they'll know we wouldn't click. I didn't mean for the part of being a BBW to sound negative, but I've also noticed you tell people not to sound apologetic about themselves. Which I am not. Thanks for the rating, pandy, I'll see if I can tweak that last bit some more! I miscommunicated, I didn't mean to include the BBW part in that message... it was kinda centered between the bit about the sports fan and the bit about the one night stand.... and why I excluded it with an "except for..."

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 1691 (view)

welcome to writin' for poseurs 101 Posted: 11/1/2008 6:15:09 PM
God knows I can't rhyme or hold poetic rhythm of any kind is it necessary when you're pulling stuff deep from your core? YOU fit a place that doesn't show, but is the most essential Sometimes what you say? not relevant as long as I hear you. you don't need a phone... just to feel is enough to connect. Canned ravioli ROCKS! :arf:

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 190 (view)

C'Mere, I'll do ya'. Posted: 11/1/2008 5:27:58 PM
It looks pretty good, with some positive changes made... I'm still concerned about the following: For my dislikes, I should mention I'm not a sports fan at all. If I can avoid them I will. Playing or watching. It just bores me to tears. I don't like people who talk to me online and then balk when they find out I'm a large woman. This is a part of who I am, and if you don't care for BBW, then you should be looking elsewhere. Also, never thought I'd need to address this, but if you're looking for a one-night stand, I'm not your gal! Let users know in your profile that you are a BBW if you wish, I understand that some guys don't note that from the drop down... but the rest is rather negative and should go.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 189 (view)

James 7657 Posted: 11/1/2008 5:24:26 PM
first of all, you never know who you'll offend with pet names like "baby" or "honey" so don't do that in email. Text? You really need to work on sentence structure and paragraphs, your profile is almost one big run on sentence that is painful to read. Content? Tone it down, romance is all well and good, but you sound like one of those "proposing on the third date" kinda guys. Keep the sentiment, lose some of the intensity.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 188 (view)

trirunner Posted: 11/1/2008 5:20:23 PM
nothing I can help you with... you aren't going to get much of a response here until you can list "divorced" on your profile.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 187 (view)

joulesaffection Posted: 11/1/2008 5:19:01 PM
get rid of the mirror picture with all the purses... it doesn't do you any justice. Get a nice, clear full body shot without all the extra gear. For some reason, as I read your profile, I get the feeling that you want to dissapear into the wall. You're somehow defiant and apologetic all at the same time.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 186 (view)

xsfx5 Posted: 11/1/2008 5:14:19 PM
it is way , way , way too long. Kill both columns in which you list what you are and are not looking for. They are pointless as they do not reach their intended audience, and you should be filtering with your email NOT your profile.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 185 (view)

bookbelle Posted: 11/1/2008 5:11:07 PM
I like your text and what you have to say about yourself, but it's too long to hold the average guy's attention. You can trim some of the fat by moving some likes up to the interests key words. Pictures? In both, your smile is a little like you've been caught in mid speech, tongue out and all that. Get some good pics up with a great smile, and I'm sure you'll get some attention.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 184 (view)

wesdog77 Posted: 11/1/2008 5:08:11 PM
you are married looking to cheat and the bit about friendships does nothing to disguise that. you won't get mail from women here, and they probably won't answer your emails, either.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 183 (view)

wyzeman Posted: 11/1/2008 5:07:03 PM
I'd be most appreciative if you'd sneak a peek at my profile and tell me what's wrong with, besides the fact it describes a maladjusted personality. yeah, I chose a dancing banana, I'm demented The glaring "wrong" with your profile is your pictures. `1) you look like a serial killer 2)you look like a serial killer stalker 3) you look like a serial killer at a rock concert. Get some pictures that show you relaxed and, for the love of all that's holy, SMILING! it describes a maladjusted personality that would actually be more interesting than what you have. What I know about you from this profile? 1) you're a dad 2)you're lonely 3)you look like a serial killer 4)you're pissy about certain types of women. these are not favorable first impressions. Lose the negativity. If one of these women shows up in your email, ignore her. Don't post "I don't want " lists in your profile. Write about yourself and what you have to offer a woman. I actually have no idea what to do on a first date. This needs to go, it sounds insecure and wishy washy, not what women are usually drawn to. \

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 182 (view)

Irish rose Posted: 11/1/2008 4:59:14 PM
I like your profile. I get a sense of what kind of woman you are in reading it. Get more pictures and more interests for keywords, and you're good to go, IMO.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 181 (view)

flawed to perfection Posted: 11/1/2008 4:56:19 PM
I really love the new screen name. Your text is way to long, but oddly... I think the woman you are looking for will appreciate the extra effort that you put in... and it seems to represent you well. What I'd change? ... get the shirtless picture replaced. Women aren't nearly as fond of them as men think they are. .. they usually make us roll our eyes.

pandy

Joined: 11/11/2006

Msg: 95 (view)

Why Is It ALWAYS wrong for women but ALWAYS OK for men? Posted: 11/1/2008 4:50:13 PM
women need to accept much of the blame for how sex is viewed by them and by men. Collectively , we have spent thousands of years making **** a marketable commodity, then we're upset because it's treated like one. The fix? Freakin' have sex when you want to. Don't worry about what people think of you, do what makes YOU happy. Forget what level of affection he's gonna give you for giving it up or NOT giving it up , and live in the moment FOR YOURSELF! The only reason any woman has for regretting fabulous sex is if she was looking at sex as a way to bargain for more... which, IMO, is wrong... and a waste of perfectly good sexuality. :)

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