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Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Why do some men think we'll believe anything? Posted: 8/9/2009 7:00:39 PM
Did you ever hear the story of the well frog and the ocean frog? To make a long story short, the ocean frog was trying to describe where he lived and the well frog just couldn't grasp the idea of anything bigger that his tiny, round well. People who are like that tend to think you are as dumb, gullible, needy, etc as they are. They don't see outside their frame of reference.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Styles of Beauty Posted: 8/9/2009 9:04:36 AM
I thank most of you for your varied comments. There are one or two who are unecessarily in a rage about everything, but I guess that's their problem. I think it is fun to have positive posting. I always loved the novel "Jane Eyre". She was considered plain, but she had such calm centeredness and spiritual strength and she was loved for that. I am not sure why Red Buttons needs to be so hostile. He doesn't know me. I don't turn my wit towards people I am with; mostly the government and Bush. The news media, the police, the way public policy is handled. Jees, someone's got to say something. Do you really want them to rape the land and make a desert of this planet? Our great grandchildren gotta live here. People tend to be hostile towards intellectul expression when they don't have confidence in their own.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

Msg: 73 (view)

Styles of Beauty Posted: 8/9/2009 9:04:12 AM
I thank most of you for your varied comments. There are one or two who are unecessarily in a rage about everything, but I guess that's their problem. I think it is fun to have positive posting. I always loved the novel "Jane Eyre". She was considered plain, but she had such calm centeredness and spiritual strength and she was loved for that. I am not sure why Red Buttons needs to be so hostile. He doesn't know me. I don't turn my wit towards people I am with; mostly the government and Bush. The news media, the police, the way public policy is handled. Jees, someone's got to say something. Do you really want them to rape the land and make a desert of this planet? Our great grandchildren gotta live here. People tend to be hostile towards intellectul expression when they don't have confidence in their own.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Styles of Beauty Posted: 8/7/2009 11:35:43 AM
Some people are making comments about Americans. It is sort of out of style to make negative comments about people from third world countries or blacks in America, but I really think we should be conscious of making comments about anyone, Americans too. No population as a whole is worthless.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Styles of Beauty Posted: 8/7/2009 8:56:08 AM
Outmind. I am sorry your girlfriend is having a hard time. Some people think it's funny to just be cavelier. I don't know you or your situation. I hope things are better for you and her. America is based on Puritanism mixed with commercialism and it does make for a certain national character.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Styles of Beauty Posted: 8/7/2009 8:24:45 AM
I would appreaciate it if posters woud be sincere. All this about being ugly and mean defeats the purpose. I do appreciate the comment that we are too negative on these blogs, because we are.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Styles of Beauty Posted: 8/7/2009 7:58:49 AM
Only a few of us are Helen of Troy gorgeous. A movie star or magazine model type. Every woman has beauty, grace and positive attributes. For fun, why don't you tell me yours. I never was classically beautiful. I am a "Little House on the Prairie" type. As the mother says in Thornton Wilder's "Our Town", good enough for all ordinary purposes. My style and flair lie in being extremely well educated and having a very witty, ironic mouth on me and a biting sense of humor. Tell me how you are beautiful. Inner qualities do shine through our skin. Guys can participate too.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Ever heard of the Gold Analogy? Posted: 8/7/2009 7:44:04 AM
Thank you so much. I am just burnt out on all these complaints about drama. Looks like they're the ones indulging in drama. How is your relationship supposed to grow if everyone has to shut up and pretend to be a clone? Forming a bond can be very rocky. Sounds like one of those sci fi movies. Besides, wouldn't you like a woman with a little flair and style? It is a form of drama. You didn't have that skill in the crib. We don't think of this, but we really are a nation of Salem Colony Puritans still. Any new psychological or spiritual information meant to be taken with a grain of salt and used rationaly, we get up on a soapbox on any corner and are going to save the world with our pigheadedness. It's meant as a guideline, not the Ten Commandments. By the way, you are amazingly beautiful, and the man who doesn't turn his head twice is full of drama!!

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Did you keep your wedding photos? Posted: 8/3/2009 9:00:00 AM
Of course. I wear the ring on my right hand too. May never have another marriage. I had a boyfriend who expected me to sell the ring to support his worthless ass. No deal. Maybe I'll take it off if someone else marries me. I still love my ex husband, but no one who hasn't been close to a schizophrenic knows that sad, lonely, alinenated world that has no ability to give back. I couldn't be 19 and live with that a lifetime.

Meface

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Is it fair to be friends with your ex? Posted: 8/3/2009 8:49:35 AM
That's complete BS. I've been friends for years with lots of exes. You get more real friendship out of them when you're not in a primary relationship. Doubt is in your primary's mind. I go out sometimes with my last ex, while his girlfriend has business engagements. We're just on the honor system. He goes out with other women too. We don't have sex, don't really even want to. I've always had exes in my life who called, wrote, borrowed $50. Take me out to pay the $50 back. Even went to the hospital to help one through a liver transplant. Had to encounter his present girlfriend. She had a fight with him and cleared off. I fetched the mother from the airport and saw he got a caregiver. You can get a lot of friendship and genuine caring out of exes that isn't forthcoming when they are the main one, because you aren't giving them any space to be anything but that Walt Disney prince. The best living I ever did was with exes. One lent me the $500 to get out of my drunken mother's house, get a student loan and get a life. Exes are the best. I swear by exes. Well, not all. A few need to just stay lost.

Meface

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STOP WHINING! Posted: 8/2/2009 7:01:32 PM
All I know is that you'll never get a second chance with me if you're gonna sit and whine about the economy, the price of the drink, how dating stinks, and just about every other bummer you can think of. I'm not going to put out all my energy trying to channel you into constructive and pleasant conversation. Whatever happened to manners? Why would anyone think a new acquiantance wants to be treated to your laundry list of gripes with life? Read Emily Post.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Would you date someone who is dying? Posted: 8/2/2009 9:40:29 AM
I have. He's still alive, but not with me. Miricles oif medicine.

Meface

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What do you think about people who have psychics' readings? Posted: 8/2/2009 8:10:11 AM
I used to work on a big psychic line. I left because most are quacks. There are true psychics, but they are rarer than these operations on TV advertise. It is unethical to tell anyone your mate is cheating or doesn't love you. What I used to do is counsel those who seemed to be having trouble to get counseling, and that cheating can lead to AIDS. No helping profession is supposed to try to control anyone's life or decisions. The worst was clients who are sick wanting to know when they're going to die. An ethical practitioner does not tell all he knows, but encourages the client to focus on positive outcomes.

Meface

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if u don't love me why not leave me why stay and hurt me Posted: 8/2/2009 7:51:27 AM
I am a codependent and child of alcoholics. I am addicted to relationships like that. I go to Al Anon meetings, but there are Adult Child of Alcoholics meetings, Codependents Anonymous, Sex addicts Anonymous meetings. You can look up locations on the internet, or call directory assistance. You wouldn't believe it, it helps so much. They share their stories, and you realize you're not alone. They don't just rag, they offer insiration and little thoughts that help YOU change the way you interact and who you get involved with. They provide hugs and people to talk things out with.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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What is DRAMA ?? Posted: 8/1/2009 8:52:44 AM
Drama is Andrew Lloyd Webber meets Puccini. Didn't you ever feel you'd like to have a day like the scene in the Phantom of the Opera where they sing their hearts out about the beauty of song? Didn't you ever feel you'd rather have a girlfriend who moved like Betty Davis instead of a sack of potatoes? What is a drama free life? Sitting in Barstow Ca, watching flies on the wall and tractor trailors going by? We know we don't want to be shouted down today, but why must all drama be bad? I had a boyfriend who had the most irreverant wit toward mostly everything. Man, he was so damn funny, I'd literally roll in convulsions on the floor. Jesus., a lot of you act like Disney is too thick for your blood. Doesn't anyone wish they had a date who could enter a room like Julia Roberts? That's drama, if you take drama as anythoing that is acquired. Pass the salt please is drama. You didn't say it when you were 6 months old, your mother taught it to you and you bloody hated it. Anything you weren't born with is drama, so are we going to googoo in a crib til we're 99?

Meface

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Why women want guys to come to THEM Posted: 7/31/2009 8:26:44 PM
Stay at home. I for one will never miss you. Did I ask you for one damn thing? No one wants anything that isn't freely given, so don't worry about it. You'll never be troubled to have to live life either. Watch old Billy Jack reruns.

Meface

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Is Intelligence A Curse In Relationships? Posted: 7/31/2009 9:15:06 AM
This is just a bunch of streotypes. Intelligent people of all types are certainly more interesting. There are congenial intelligent people and bores who are full of themselves. Obviously, the bores won't do as well. Manipulation and controlling is more for stupid types who can appear clever. Some are urealistic and some are not, but if my only option is a pool hall moron who only wants to watch the roller derby, I can alwas talk to the cat. She always agrees with me as long as din din is on time.

Meface

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Does this drive all men nuts? Posted: 7/31/2009 7:38:42 AM
Almost all the men I ever had were like that. It was a sign of machismo, intellect, having graduated from therapy, meditation or the New Age. In all fairness, I sought it out because it was hip, it was a sign of not being a boring bourgios , then I couldn't hack it and left. If we look at ourselves, we are complex and sometimes crazy creatures ourselves, we women. If we got the reply we wanted, we'd either not believe it, be embarressed or figure we didn't deserve it anyway. We all say we want things, yet when we get them, there's just another problem. We need to stop the whole problem cycle.

Meface

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For a Laugh- What movie would you base your life on as of now? Posted: 7/29/2009 6:46:16 AM
I don't know if everyone remembers Harold and Maude, from the 70s. Not the end, where Maude kills herself, but the rest is just a study in teaching joy and social divergence. I love it. Maude keeps machines that emit smells and takes licorice sticks to funerals.

Meface

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Still on the market? Posted: 7/29/2009 6:39:43 AM
Just don't be mean. Otherwise, say anything you really feel. It's none of their stinking business why you're still on the market. Because, while there are plenty of OK people everywhere, you're looking for a magic connection, and that can take just about forever.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Why dont people learn to meet their own needs Posted: 7/28/2009 10:37:00 AM
I think it's a pretty damaged and self obssessed person who doesn't get some joy out of giving. It's rare nowadays, but it gives joy to life. If your life is all about getting or never having to do anything for anyone, it's a lonely road. It comes from the psychotherapy generation. I 've had therapists who had me getting rid of everyone with needs, so I always ended up with no one. Now I give to my mother and my ex boyfriend, who are by no means perfect people and did not do everything I wanted for me. And I now have more fulfillment for giving and not asking everyone bend over backwards to run after me. Yes, it's 12 step. Oh well.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Harrassed males Posted: 7/28/2009 10:26:41 AM
Well, why don't they contact me? If they're nice to me I'm nice to them. We can't all be 23.

Meface

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The three things that a man wants in a mate... Posted: 7/28/2009 10:19:05 AM
How about brilliance, a scathing wit and low tolerance for incompetant leaders? Don't those count for anythig?

Meface

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How important is money? Posted: 7/28/2009 9:57:23 AM
It does tend to keep you from having to sleep in the subway.

Meface

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its kind of hairy out there Posted: 7/28/2009 9:51:10 AM
Isn't this thread a little on the shallow side? If the guy otherwise is sweet and doesn't look too much like Godzilla, what is the difference? With all this rudeness, talking about kinky acts before even meeting, looking to move in tomorrow because they're evicted, and 50 yr old virgins so devoid of social skills they never had anyone yet, you'd be lucky if hair was his only problem.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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why hapily ever after will never come for some women. Posted: 7/24/2009 7:37:06 AM
This is a two way street. You get so many ads from men carrying on about all the rotten girlfriends and dates they had, and they're never paying for another ice cream ever. Then you become that chump who's going to prove them wrong, but no matter what you do , it's not right, because they've decided we're all rotten **es anyway. That is called the rotten ** game and it's set up so you lose, so what's the point? You need to start out with a positive attitude, So many are mad if they had to sit with a fat woman, a boring woman, a greedy woman. You never had several job interviews before landing that job? You never had a job to pay the rent you didn't adore going to? You never had dinner with annoying relatives? It's life. Get a clue. We don't really want to hear how many of our number stink and how we'd better beg, borrow or steal a dollar if we want ice cream with you. It's a two way street. They showed up, they were polite, they weren't your cup of tea, it's just fair enough. Maybe we're tired of trying to prove we're different, when no one is going to win that game.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Manners Posted: 5/25/2009 6:34:39 PM
This is just what I'm talking about. Why is this necesary? If you had a lady you really cared about, would you like the whole worlk to talk to her this way?

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Manners Posted: 5/25/2009 6:22:18 PM
Certainly we cannot expect the courtliness and gentiltity of Jane Austen's England. But is it not safe to assume most ladies are lovely and delicate creatures and should not be treated to such questions before even meeting such as whether she trims her pubic hair, takes "it" in the bottom and other suchlike inquiries. Certainly, non of us are so naive as to assume serious dating will not at some point lead to intimacey, but does anyone anymore think it possible to be done with some style and some taste?

Meface

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is a woman's personality directly related to her appearance? Posted: 5/2/2009 7:13:36 PM
Well, even if I looked like Rosanne Barr, I'd think all that stuff was a basic drag. I like intelligent endeavors. Any university profs out there?

Meface

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You ever feel guilty because you MUST be attracted to a person? Posted: 4/12/2009 7:56:40 PM
Unless you're doing something illegal, don't feel guilty. Be simple. This is the way things work. It was all created to keep the race going. To trick us into creating new lives, which most of us would naturally avoid, if we knew how much trouble it was. It's just that it's a major high too. You don't want a totally shallow bimbo. IE "I can't shop anywhere but Bloomingdale's", "I can't wear anything but Prada". But on the other hand, you don't want someone who never makes the old hormones run. It doesn 't work. I've done it. You want to open all the windows. You can't breathe. Sexual love is not perfect. The movies and novels have made us think it is, but unless you're going to Nepal to sit in an ashram 19 hours a day, there isn't a much better high. It isn't perfect. It's just lots better than being an alcohol or drug addict.

Meface

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Does someone considering dating me have a right to know?? Posted: 4/12/2009 7:44:07 PM
You tell what you want to when you are comfortable. It isn't my experience very many are interested in actually hooking up no matter what you do or don't do. THis is just a sort of people pleasing. Trying to get them to understand. Those are few and far between, no matter what you try. It's probably a matter of God's grace and will or won't come no matter what you try.

Meface

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is it time to eliminate engagement rings? 2 thoughts.. Posted: 4/12/2009 7:35:48 PM
This is just a form of thought control. If you don't want to give an engagement ring, find someone who wiil be tolerant of that, but this is that trying to run the whole world type of a thing.

Meface

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Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?! Posted: 4/12/2009 7:32:14 PM
It just depends on how much recovery they have. 12 Step does work miricles, esp after several years.

Meface

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Breaking the secret man code shhhh! Posted: 4/12/2009 7:29:11 PM
This problem goes both ways. I have a dozen or more broken ralationships for this very reason. The guy is always so hardened and getting angrier and angrier for no apparent reason. Then I try to second guess, apologize, etc. Then they tell me I'm getting clingy and to be a drag. Then I cry a lot and feel aliented. Then they get even angrier. Then I finally leave, feeling I'm probably just a burdon. They won't be uncool and tell me they want me back, so that's the end of another one. I think men are going to just have to find a way of expressing softer feelings if they want to kep us.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Is money really that important ladies? Posted: 1/11/2009 6:11:36 PM
Because, after trying to half support 5 or 10 throughout your life, you're bloody tired, worn out, drained, tired of the abuse and just want to do it the easy way. Take care of yourself, or get lost.

Meface

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Ever been asked,Why aren't you married? Posted: 1/11/2009 6:09:00 PM
Sure. Your response; too many idiots like you around.

Meface

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Courtship: What Happened to it And What Are we Dating For? Posted: 1/11/2009 6:03:22 PM
It was replaced with entire vulgarity. But of course.

Meface

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Is being mature the same as being solemn? Posted: 1/3/2009 10:55:00 AM
I mean, I can be very, very silly, and desperately satirical. I've always thougt a lot of people look at maturitity as being a Puritanical bore who works all the time and never has fun. What do you think?

Meface

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He says this isn't abuse??? Posted: 1/3/2009 10:45:23 AM
If you feel abused, it's abuse. And WALK. Don't just sit there and take it.

Meface

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Logistics...when you're both homeowners...and have lives! Posted: 1/3/2009 10:43:50 AM
Ha ha ha, dream on.

Meface

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When does like turn into love? Posted: 1/3/2009 10:42:41 AM
When you feel it.

Meface

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Does Participation In The Forums Make Her More Appealing? Posted: 1/3/2009 10:41:50 AM
Not at all. Then you know what the bigmouth thinks and that she does think. Can't have that.

Meface

Joined: 11/15/2006

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Is the secret to making your man happy, showing him your happy? Posted: 1/3/2009 10:38:18 AM
You can't make anyone happy. They need to find that within themselves. If they can't, they sure can't relate to you. Don't get involved in BS.

Meface

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In Love With Being Loved Posted: 1/3/2009 10:30:59 AM
That just never happens. Or if it does, it lasts two weeks. Be in love with your life. I'm in love with music; rock & roll and the blues, right now. We put too many requirements on life, to have it just the way we want it. Ain't gonna happen. Get over it.

Meface

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The Great Pretender Posted: 12/1/2008 10:02:47 AM
Joan Beaz. Later, Janis Joplin Go figure.

Meface

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Christmas Parties? Posted: 12/1/2008 10:00:28 AM
It's holiday time. Aren't there any get togethers scheduled? It's a good time for it. In or near the L A area? Please let us know about it. Will be happy to sign up. Bet a lot of others will too.

Meface

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Movie quotes NOT to use on a first date. Posted: 11/30/2008 10:10:01 AM
"Love is never having to say you're sorry" Love Story (Peeeeuke!!!!)

Meface

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have you ever dated a biker and should you tell potential relationships about him Posted: 11/2/2008 7:22:00 PM
Oh, please. The best man I ever had was a biker. If they can't accept that, they don't care enough; screw them. I'll tell you, a biker will pay for his woman. It's a badge of honor. All the rest of these pikers bought 3 fancy meals , moved in and I never saw $1.00 from them again.

Meface

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can two people love each other and not be in love with each other Posted: 11/2/2008 7:18:09 PM
Absolutely. Of course.

Meface

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Would you have a relationship with a registered sex offender? Posted: 11/2/2008 7:15:03 PM
Might as well stick your finger in a light socket. Is it possible to get this rap and it wasn't true?

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