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randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

Msg: 79 (view)

The drug thing. Posted: 12/19/2004 12:32:02 PM
Pot stays in the system for 7 days. Just ask anyone who smokes and needed a urine test. There are also a few natural herbs one can digest to speed the process. I have some pot for well over 20 years. I am not sterile nor show any ill effects. I do not believe I am a marvel of medical science.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Canada doesn't want Posted: 12/17/2004 6:31:23 PM
$130 billion dollars, you say. Is that US dollars? The rate has dropped, but still favourable. For a missle defense system? Now I am thinking... what countries did you say? $130 billion dollars? Why are they so pissed at us anyway? Then I get to thinking that $130 billion dollars could go along way to some good will with these countries. If we put our money and mental energy making the world a better place, nobody will be sitting there wanting to bomb the crap out of us. Yes, I am a bleeding heart liberal, socialist, whatever label you want to use. To me I am just human with my thoughts towards the other humans. If we wanted to, we could help each other. Fore some reason we don't want. Not yet. Maybe my 11 year old son's kids. Maybe, if we don't piss someone off enough to bomb the crap out of us. So, to answer the question of this string: I say no. And if it is on our soil, and it doesn't work, we're just going to get the crap bombed out of us anyways Likely the day before it announced that it really works.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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To Tell or Not to Tell Posted: 12/17/2004 5:13:38 PM
I saw the heading, had an answer, then started reading and lost track of the question. My universal answer is, admit your error. My personal answer is it would never happen. An affair is the same as walking out the door, never to return. The issues, apparently, are far deeper than I could find reparable whether I am the offender or she is.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

Msg: 80 (view)

Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 12/17/2004 1:27:45 PM
How about: Yes, but only when allowed to be. Yes, plain and simply, but it depends on your definition. Yes, but you may not find he has ALL you require. Yes, but the only one left is off the market because he is waiting to see if he can connect with the woman who now currently occupies the relationship part of his thoughts. grin A comment to whoever said we get worse with age. I have to disagree. I for one have learned a lot and think I have become better. As well, my youthful bad habits have passed leaving more room to study/ponder/question what I feel a meaningful long-term relationship is all about. I have become, through being single and not minding on the most part, to grow more comfortable with myself. My needs have become simpler, perhaps, my expectations have lightened up and my understanding has allowed me to become much more accepting. What was the question? Oh yeah. My answer is yes.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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single and forty.... Posted: 12/17/2004 9:11:32 AM
I totally disagree. I think it is easier to find true love when you are over 40's. "Kids" in their thirties may well still be trying to sort themselves out. In your 40's you have generally been there and done that, learned from your experiences and are more open to love. Well, maybe it isn't easier because the avenues are not so plentiful and more and more of us are spoken for. But, the love that is found in your 40's is stronger, in my opinion. Get out there, be yourself and eventually all will be well.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

Msg: 95 (view)

Re: Bush isn't to bright. Posted: 12/16/2004 5:54:05 PM
Furthermore: Whatch the movie Wag The Dog. Sadly, it is more believable than anything a politician has to say.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

Msg: 94 (view)

Re: Bush isn't to bright. Posted: 12/16/2004 5:43:46 PM
Sorry, I cannot help myself..... I was reading a forum the other day about being petty. Pointing out and making character judgements because one makes a typing/spelling/grammar error is PETTY and only serves to make you appear less intelligent than I am sure you are. I am willing to bet that you either used a spell checker or reread your post over and over again. That line about starting this thread being below an administrator? What the hell is that. Are we not free to say what we wish? As for Bush? Like any politician, the art of politics is lying and cheating to attain your own goals. Show me a politician who does not lie and I will show you someone who does not get votes. He (and all others) lied their way in and lie to stay there and will write their history to serve themselves the best. If politics was not a party thing (Democrats vs. Republicans, Concervatives vs Liberals) perhaps we could find better figure heads. After 911 I flew an American flag (I am Canadian living in Canada) as a sign of support. I was all for going after Bin Laden (oops...where is he?). When fed the stuff about weapons of mass destruction I was all for going to Iraq and watched the show on CNN. When I saw Fehrenheit 911 I lost all respect for Moore (if I had any, not sure). As the war continues in Iraq and the stories come out I lose more faith every day. Not just in Bush and the "majority" of the USA way of thinking, but in mankind in general. I say yes, Bush is stupid. I say all politicians are stupid. The shame is we seem to need them. What was my point? Oh yeah, publicly correcting someone's spelling and making a character generalization base on it is petty and makes you look as stupid as Bush.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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stem cell research Posted: 12/16/2004 5:02:06 PM
Anything to help cure the ills of the world, I say. Beats the heck out of spending a gazillion dollars on bombs and other weapons of destruction.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Guys do you think Marriage is worth it? Posted: 12/16/2004 4:12:37 PM
I still believe in marriage. But then again, I aslo believe when you stand in front of your God and say "Forever and Ever". You should d*mn well mean it. I don't ebven need marriage as it is known. A nod and a wink will do as long as the life promise is never broken. Some women marry men for security. Some men marry women until the first wrinkle. They are shallow. That shouldn't reflect on the rest of us.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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I think I'm done. Posted: 12/16/2004 4:09:17 PM
Many times I have become fed up with the whole "game." and just took myself off the market. After my son was conceived (my job was done, I guess) and I was told to leave ("get out now or I will hit my head on the door and tell the police you did it") I stayed single for about five years. Then I dated a couple women and went back to being single again. I am still single, but opening up a bit more. There is this one woman.......but that is a different thread.......

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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STOP this insanity..... Posted: 12/16/2004 4:06:05 PM
The bashing goes both way? It goes all ways. If one does not think or behave as one would like then they get bashed. This has been going on since the dawn of man, I am sure. Religions are really good at setting this example. So are political affiliations. Heck, if you like Ford and I like Chevy one of us is, apparently, dead wrong!!!

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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another stupid ebay auction ! Posted: 12/16/2004 3:59:12 PM
I am not sure when the virginity was sold, but no longer. Now you cannot sell living things or body parts. And since the craze of selling soiled panties (no, really) all articles of clothing must be washed before shipped. I got into a bit of trouble for selling a shirt (worn once) that was signed by the eBay CEO. I mean really, if I washed it, would the signature still be there? And without the signature, I doubt much there would be a bidding war on a golf shirt with my company logo on it. The whole purpose of the sale was to get my logo up in front of the what? 57 million eBay users, but at the time Megs signature was worth a bunch. If you are interested in eBay and want to talk about it, feel free to write to me. I am off the dating market, but I am still open to chatting with folks. (Admin: this is in no way a look at me statement. S)

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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another stupid ebay auction ! Posted: 12/16/2004 3:52:23 PM
I make my living selling on eBay. I do not sell things I just make up, but I have sure read about a lot of them. If there are buyers, there will be sellers. I make a good buck selling the odd and unusual. At estate sales when others are looking in the china cabinet I am searching the basement, garage attic and rafters looking for the old and unusual. If you want a little spending money, family business or whatever, ebay is a good place to do it. You are sitting at the computer anyways, right? S

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Canada legalizes same sex marriage. Posted: 12/16/2004 3:29:46 PM
What rights are gays being deprived of? In the past they were deprived of living their lives freely and with a lot of people they still are. Whole countries, apparently. But, with this issue, they are being deprived of the option to get married.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Free Ride.... Posted: 12/16/2004 3:16:36 PM
Attachedm; I agree whole heartedly with the titles/labels thing. If it were not for that we would be a much happier world. In Ireland Catholics hate Protestants and vise-vera. In the states Republicans hate Democrats. Give someone a title good or bad and it gives another cause to hate. I say socialist because it sounds so much better than bleeding heart liberal. S I want a bigger piece of the pie too. So I expended my business and make more. I remember once when I was working for Canada Post. It was what, '88 when they went on strike. It was all about money, of course. While out for drinks I with a large group I said I would be more than happy to give up a dollar an hour so others could be hired. One higher up supervisor said: "Canada Post is not in the job making business." From then on I have been in the job making business. Even if it just to hire someone for a bit of clean-up or something. If I can, I will. We should ALL be in the job making business!!!!

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Canada misunderstands the US common people. Posted: 12/16/2004 3:08:53 PM
I have nothing against working hard and making good coin. Nor do have have anything against giving that to help others. It is the narrowminded that think all poor people are lazy. We are all equal! Well....maybe not you. Unfortunately there are some that think they are so much better than others. If you are ever in an accident and need help getting by, I hope another you is around to kick you in the gut and call you lazy.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Thick as a brick Posted: 12/16/2004 2:40:42 PM
Hear, hear! Another club member steps up. Tie me up and take me home, then maybe I'll get the picture. Hell, even back in the old days of dance clubs I wouldn't ask a girl to dance because I didn't want to intrude on her space. I can flirt with the bset of them, but that is what I am doing, just flirting. I am really, really bad at coming on. So what did I do all these years. If I saw a woman I was interested in I would just say, I am interested in you. If one said that to me, I was in, but they had to give me the nod and wink first or all they had was a friend. LOL So it goes. I still like me, still don't do telepathy and life will go on.............

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Canada misunderstands the US common people. Posted: 12/16/2004 2:31:19 PM
We, as Canadians, would likely say oops, sorry, made a mistake. Not hide behind whatever we could find to cover our error. If anyone believes everything their governments hands them, they are dead wrong from the start. Third Worlds? In both Canada and the USA, just look at your poor and homeless. They live in a third, even fourth world. What have YOU done lately to make life better for them? Bring us your tired, poor and hungry (not sure how it goes) so you can what. Beat them down, belittle them. I guess whatever makes the middle and upper classes feel more middle and upper, eh? What about your sick with no insurance? We are no better to our poor, but at least (for now) we still have decent health care for all. I am a socialist and humanist. I believe we are ALL equal and deserve to have a roof, food, medical and dental care and the ability to live our lives in peace. And yeah, Watchman, even if you happen to be gay. From that other thread, the right you are denying them most is the right to be free. Land of the free my **S! Only free if they think like thee.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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How about an over 40 forum Posted: 12/16/2004 8:10:11 AM
You think 30 is a high number. Try 48. At 48 I am not going to be getting (or wanting) dates with a 30 year old "kid". L With an over 40 Forum and even over 50 Forum, there would be a place for us to express our view where the younger people can seek some wisdom or stay away. When a string has 20 pages, it takes me way past my bedtime to read them all and by that time my brain is so messed I cannot put together a decent response. L Really, what does it take. One more line in the list of Forums? A few minutes of a programmers time? NO, it is not impotrant, I'll spout off wherever I get my chance. It's just a thought is all.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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My views on a current topic in this forum Posted: 12/15/2004 10:46:34 PM
"When a relationship is new, it is uncertain and that is what makes it sexy and exciting. You have to want the same things as the person you are with or it will never work." I disagree. Things are transient. Wants change. The partners have to want/desire each other with the same intensity. With that, things mean nothing. As I said in another thread, you gotta' have the spark, you gotta' feel a bit gooey inside every time you see your partner, even after ten years. Without that, you are just playing around. Go with what your heart dictates, not your brain. One can think oneself to a life of loneliness. Easier said than done, I know, but I'll not settle for less.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Legalize it: Prostitution! Why or why not? Posted: 12/15/2004 8:37:34 PM
Legalize prostitution, gambling and pot. They are always going to be around anyways. To legalize would be to licence which would also be to tax. If these three things were taxed there would be enough money so our incomes would not be taxed. Of course, this is not true. Goverments would just find more things to waste the money on.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 12/15/2004 8:25:32 PM
I am a man. I am a good person. I am not afraid of women, rejection or failure. In short, yes! And....I know some other guys who are good too because they are the only ones I would choose as friends. I depsise a-holes, both male and female.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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What Turns You Off?? Posted: 12/15/2004 8:20:54 PM
Jerks Jerkettes Aggression Pettiness Rascists Sexists Narrow mindedness Closed mindedness Liars Cheats Cons Promise breakers Snobs High handedness Spitters Swearing Litterers Criminals Rudeness Extravagant Tattoos Multiple Body Piercing Visible pieces other than ears Duplicity Poor manners Overt Stupidity Body odour The list could go on and on but I think you get the gist.......

randyyeo

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spellchecker for threads and posts! Posted: 12/15/2004 1:06:50 PM
I just installed this spell checker. It works well in my IE, but Firefox doesn't recognize it. So it goes, I don't care what browser I work in. I own a website that serves eBay sellers (photo hosting and a listing template). I looked and looked for a good spell checker to offer but could not find one. This might be the ticket. Once again Watchman, thank you very much for sharing.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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My views on a current topic in this forum Posted: 12/15/2004 12:50:23 PM
[I am only single because I haven't met the man yet that will make me melt every time.] I like that! That is what love is. When you heart slips a beat when your partner walks in the room....even 20 years later. I've been there. Still am. The tough part is finding another who feels the same. I have had girlfriends who "loved me", but not on that level and something always got in the way. With the melt aspect thrown in the mix, NOTHING can get in the way. Everything can be worked out because with that, any problems are small. The common cheating, lying pretending, expectations crap doesn't come into play. I am one of the "nice guys" who finish last. I am staying that way. I will in no way allow any for of deception into a possible relationship. So be it. That is me. I'll meet "the one" one day or stay alone forever. I like me. I am comfortable with me. One day perhaps, I will meet a woman who thinks the same way. I cannot "settle" for just going through the motions. Without that melting spark, without the skip beating heart, without that feeling gooey inside everytime I see her, there is really no point to me. Toying with emotions for physical gratification just isn't important. I hate sex, but sure love making love. S

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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spellchecker for threads and posts! Posted: 12/15/2004 12:03:09 PM
Watchman: Thanks for the URL, I'll check it out. Could be handy.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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How about an over 40 forum Posted: 12/15/2004 12:01:27 PM
There is a string based on over 40 and was thinking why isn't there a category? I am sure this has been asked befor, but after looking through 6 pagse of suggerstions I didn't see it, so here it is again.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Do you believe that there are some Good Men left ? Posted: 12/15/2004 10:44:34 AM
Yes!

randyyeo

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ARE VIRGINS MORE ATTRACTIVE Posted: 12/15/2004 10:17:24 AM
No way. Not me. Never in my life. I just could not take on the responsibilty of being the first. That is how it has always been. Thinking now that I am much older, if I met a virgin my age I would be thinking there are some issues much more serious than I could handle.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Why do men cheat? Posted: 12/15/2004 10:14:04 AM
I am a man and I do not cheat. I have been with women who cheat. I do not think all women cheat, just those ones and maybe some more I never met. I am getting so fed up with these gender generalizations. If they cheat, that is as good as a lie. Cheating and/or lying is not a sign of love. If it isn't love, you are just going through the motions. If you are just going through the motions, don't be surprised when your partner does too. If one loves and the other doesn't then you have choices to make. Me, I walk. If it is not a 100% equal relationship it is a game that toys with human emotion. That is a game everyone involved loses and one I just will not play.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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The drug thing. Posted: 12/14/2004 8:41:07 PM
I rock? Wicked cool! It isn't every day a 48 year old guy hears that! LOL Thanks Sassy. VBS

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Single Parents....especially the fathers Posted: 12/14/2004 6:21:44 PM
I hope what you say is true with me when I am out with my lad. If so, thanks for noticing. A quick thought, not based on study but just pulled out of my brain somewhere. Perhaps single dads are more attentive because they at one time were held under the threat of maybe never seeing their children. Or maybe in the case of a man whose wife has passed away, the pain of loss strengthened the bond. Thinking outloud. Randy

randyyeo

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WHATS THE DUMBEST THING YOU WERE DARED TO DO AND ACTUALLY DID Posted: 12/14/2004 12:17:13 PM
Years ago mind you, while on a first (and last date) with a large group of friends we went to a bar that was having an amatuer strip contest. All the guys were being dared to get up and dance. I was the only one who did. It wasn't so dumb, though. I won every week and got gigs doing stagette parties. It turned out to be what mostly paid for me to go to college. Dumb? I once drank an ounce of tabasco. Part of the rules were I wasn't allowed to have a drink for at least 1/2 hour. Yikes!!!!

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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is love just temporary? Posted: 12/14/2004 12:05:51 PM
Hmmm...I guess this isn't a very interesting topic or my last post was a show stopper. My vote is with the former. Still, I started talking so I will complete the thought. I said a couple posts ago that I had this woman's number but didn't want to just cold call her. well, after talking to a few friends I took the "go for it advice". So I went for it and called. We talked for quite a while on the phone about life in general. The conversation ended with her saying to call her tomorrow, which is today. After today's conversation in whicvh I told her exactly how I felt she suggested we meet tonight or tomorrow for some more face to face conversation. In the past she says, she was flattered by my words but very unsure of my sincerity. I think now, she is getting the picture. Regardless, she opened the door for further investigation. This, as you can well imagine, has brought a smile to my face and a bounce to my step. So what do I do now? I take myself off the market until I know what direction we are going. If we end up just being friends, I am all the richer and will continue my search for Ms. Right. If she begins to feel as strongly as I do...well....that smile and bounce will be mine forever.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Canada legalizes same sex marriage. Posted: 12/13/2004 11:10:36 PM
I say let folks do as they like. If The Chirch is so against it, peel them priests off the chiorboys first, then ye may cast your stones.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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IS IT POSSIBLE TO FALL IN "LOVE" ONLINE? Posted: 12/13/2004 11:07:34 PM
Only if you spoke the truth and whole truth and so did the person you are talking to. Cyberlies will only destroy you in a live meeting.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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is love just temporary? Posted: 12/13/2004 4:04:22 PM
I don't know. Love for family is a fragile thing and not so permanent. I guess it just depends on the people, as most interpersonal things do. All we can really say is how it is for us and those we know. I say true love is unconditional and forever. If it isn't, it isn't so true.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Tell me why...... Posted: 12/13/2004 2:00:47 PM
I see nothing scary about that at all. To me, being low maintenance is a fine quality. A thought, maybe some of the guys you are meeting prefer a weaker women. It would make them feel stronger and more in control. Maybe a less independent woman would be more prone to put up with more crap. Thinking outloud, Randy

randyyeo

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is love just temporary? Posted: 12/13/2004 11:32:52 AM
Tommygirl: Don't wig out, but not only are you beautiful, your words words ring so true to me I think to myself....hmmm....maybe she's the one.... But no, many miles and that dang border make even entertaining that thought out of the question. Here's my story for what it is worth. This is coming from a guy who believes he knows what love is. I became pretty much a drunk because I fell in love at first sight with a waitress at a local pub. She worked twice a week and I went in twice a week. I think I told her I would marry her in a heartbeat like on the second day or something. She did not run away or treat me like a creep. She was flattered but told me she had a boyfriend. I believe I asked her to marry me every time I saw her. She would always just laugh as it became our personal joke. But, I wasn't joking. We went out one time for drinks when she wasn't needed at work one night. It was an amazing evening that led to me contorting myself in a car for 6 hours in her underground carpark, like I was a teenager again. I am 48, by the way. We had both been drinking heavilly and that is my only regret because I remember so little. She called the next day saying she had never done anything like that before, she was still with her boyfriend and she hoped I would still visit in the bar but as far as us getting together again, no. Life went back to what it was until a couple weeks later at newyears in the bar. We got to dancing and the passion of our first night returned. It was beautiful. She was working, by the way. Then later I turned around and saw her all over a guy at the bar. I kneejerked and thought the worst. I was crushed and close to tears. She saw me looking and came over and asked if I wanted another drink. I was dumbfounded and lost for words. I managed to say somethinng like no, my coat will do. I didn't go back for a few months. When I did, she told me that was the old boyfriend in from out of town. Now, if she had told me that, that night I would have accepted it and left hurt but not damaged. If she called after a day or two, same thing. Well, yeah, even after a few months I accepted it, but became guarded. It is now over a year since then. I saw her a few times and whenever I do in my mind I say I would marry her in a heartbeat. I do not believe a day went by that I did not think of her. I have not kissed another woman since (a 21st century qualification: I am straight, so that means I have not kissed since). I do not wat to kiss another woman. She captured my heart and soul. n She no longer works anywhere I know to find her. I learned she is going through a difficult time right now. I wrote a long letter to her telling of how I love her. I say I love her so much that if I cannot be THE one, then let me be a friend. If I cannot love her as a lover would, I want to love her as a brother. But, I cannot get the message to her. I tracked down her address and phone number (she now lives in the same apartment complex, next building) but cannot cold call her. I may slip it under her dorr, but it is very heavy in content and I do not want tyo creep her out. I am not sure what I will do. Though I hung my shingle in this dating site, I do not know if I could follow through. I am kinda' glad nobody writes some days, some days I think all I need is a woman to spend some time with to help me get over this. Most times I think this is truly love as it should be. True love has no boundries. True love does not need to be returned. True love does not diminish with time. True love comes with no strings and no expectations. I am not looking for advice here, I am just trying to say what I think love is, or at least what it is for me. I know I could make her happy and maybe to do that I have to let go, but before I do that I MUST have the opportunity to share with her my feelings and to let her know that no matter what, she will ALWAYS have my friendship. It is kinda' a drag that we are no longer allowed to sit under a window and recite a poem or play the guitar. It is a shame others have spoiled what true love, and the expression of it once was. Why don't I just call her. I have not been given permission. I had to play up to where we rent videos downstairs to get her address and number. I have it, but do not feel I have the right to use it. True love also means total respect, and that includes privacy. I feel much better saying this in public. Thanks for reading this far and go ahead and comment, but like I said, I am not looking for advice. I know what I must do and that is just live with it and hope for the best. If I run into her again, I will say what I feel.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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forced options Posted: 12/13/2004 10:47:36 AM
For what it is worth. I agree with you.

randyyeo

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Been thinking about this for a little bit...... Posted: 12/13/2004 9:43:14 AM
Well said, Elwood. I agree on the most part. Me, I am not protected by a "handle". I use my real name and real town and if one were inclined they could find me in the phone book. I do not feel the need to protect myself. I have never held back my thoughts or feelings because I was afraid of rejection or being hurt. My life is an open book (just go to the libray and read the one I wrote in '85 LOL, and I wear my heart on my sleeve. I have no secrets, but doa (as we all) have things in my past I would like to do over. I do not write here because of the anonymity. Like stated early, I write here because it is a forum where I get immediate responses, or at least close to it. In all honesty, maybe as I write a woman will read the words and become interested. If that happens, great. If not, it does not diminish my words. As I said before, I write here because I can. I like to write and put forth my views and that pretty much sums up where I am coming from.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

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Did You Know... Posted: 12/13/2004 8:50:03 AM
I saw this string and jumped in thinking I could list all kinds of things. I wrote and deleted, wrote and deleted. I realize I cannot say one thing because I cannot generalize a gender. The only thing that comes to mind and I do not know if this is just my problem or a gender problem, but..... We are not telepathic. Men need to have things spelled out. Personally I am afraid of hurting/offending, but hate (yes, a very strong word but appropriate) walking on eggshells. Oh yes and another peeve of mine: Just because I pay a compliment, it does not mean I want to sleep with a woman. You know, sometimes I would like the freedom to walk up to a perfect stranger and tell her she has a wonderful smile or I really like her choice in perfume with her thinking I am really asking her to take her clothes off. I'd rather be in a woman's heart than her pants, though both would be the ultimate.

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

Msg: 397 (view)

A Few Extra Pounds Posted: 12/12/2004 7:31:41 PM
For lack of anything better to do at the moment I will steer this forum back to the original thought. Throughout many of the posts I see that people who prefer slim mates are shallow. I guess then that I am shallow, though never thought of myself as such. You see, I not only prefer slim women, but have NEVER been physically attracted to anything but. Now, before you jump on me too hard let me say I have many friends, both male and female who carry a few extra pounds and yes, some who are waaay overweight. That is them and i accept them as they are. Why? Because they are my friends. When it comes to someone I may intimate with and spending the rest of my life with: I like thin. I am eternally thin. Always have been and always will be. Maybe that comes into play, maybe not. Maybe it is the image of way too much flesh pushed into spandex pants. I don't think that happens so much these days, but there was a time and the image sticks. The thing is, if I am not physically attracted...well, that says it all. There is not intimate relationship. So, for the case of a personal ad, I look for average or thin. That is not to say that once my heart is captured that won't change. I probably wouldn't notice a few pounds. I cannot conceive in my mind what 50lbs overweight would look like. I know if I can wear your jeans, you are not "too big". I wear a 32. When my son's mom was pregnent, I found her attractive. So I guess what I am saying here is that looks in general are important to me. Be it weight or whatever. I am also turned off by body piercing, tattoos and petouli oil to name a few things. If not physically attracted to a woman, how can intimacy take on the life it should? Am I shallow? Perhaps and if so I apologize if that offends you. Can I change? I doubt it. What one finds attractive is not a choice. It is a reaction. Randy

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

Msg: 6 (view)

Women: What do you look for in an email? Posted: 12/12/2004 12:21:13 PM
WS6TA; I am thinking, that maybe they see your profile and then read a forum post or two. How many women want do you suppose find statements like "...cold hearted Biotches they truly are..." attracting and endearing? not many is my guess and those who do, well, you get what you give. I would think it more acceptable to "blatantly trash someone's email" than to trash an entire gender. But hey, that's just my opinion. Maybe this whole thing is game and I am just messed up on the rules, but I do not think so. Good luck out there.... Randy

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

Msg: 5 (view)

Women: What do you look for in an email? Posted: 12/12/2004 12:15:01 PM
Wonderingspirit; Thanks for your insight. I am sure we would all find it nice when the other writes first. S Maybe this is just a guy thing stereotype, but when I see a profile that catches my fancy I imagine there are a gazillion other guys writing at the same time. I am with you on the meduim sized email. I like to write and say hi and let them know I am interested in talking to them. I do not go on about myself because I figure they'll be reading the profile and I always suggest batting a few emails back and forth to get a feel for each other. I guess what I do with my emails is open the door a bit to see if they want to take another step. Thanks again; Randy

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

Msg: 28 (view)

Been thinking about this for a little bit...... Posted: 12/12/2004 11:02:46 AM
Twisty: I work online so I am sitting here a good part of my day. My work on the most part does not take full concentration. So, I tend to play poker and read the forums. I guess the best answer is I post messages because I can. I am noticing that maybe some people write because it is the only place others will pay attention to them. LOL I cannot believe the negativity and even rudeness some project. I never thought a good opening was saying...."Hi, I 'm a big jerk." (or jerkette for that matter) LOL And as someone mentioned, you could get someone's interest this way too. You never know when something you say might reach someone else and then they look at your profile and then you email a bunch and then you meet and life goes on its merry way just we all hope it will. Randy

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

Msg: 38 (view)

Just a quick question to everyone! Posted: 12/12/2004 10:52:50 AM
Watchman: I qualify that statement. read/deleted when not answered. Not answering in itself is a sign of mindset, though I would never stake anything on that perception. Like the chechbox about drugs. If you say yes, some may think you are an addict when all you do is smoke pot now and again. When I started using ths site I thought "cool...I can do some chatting with single women and maybe meet a few". I am getting the impression (and not meaning you easy2) that it is more if it's not a perfect match folks just move on. I respond to all my mail even if I do not particularily want to meet that person. They took the time to write, so will I. maybe not right away, but I will. I speak when spoken to, you see. If, say, it is someone undesirable, I will take the time to say so and why. Of course this is easy for me here, I do not get all that many emails. LOL And Easy2, I still think you look marvelous. VBS

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

Msg: 35 (view)

Just a quick question to everyone! Posted: 12/12/2004 10:15:53 AM
When I posted that email I meant to say: Here it is, is there anything wrong with this? But, like you I am sometimes rushed. Never too rushed though, to make a point. Sorry you thought it inappropriate to post. I won't post it again. S Randy

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

Msg: 33 (view)

Just a quick question to everyone! Posted: 12/12/2004 9:04:54 AM
Easy2; Hey there. I am one of those guys you speak of and you are not the only one who does not respond. It sucks seeing "read deleted" in my message history. In my case, I was just saying hi and trying to pay a compliment. Hey, maybe you were feeling down that day and my note would cheer. How would I know? "Read deleted" to me reads more like "screw off". It is not a big deal, but hey, it has crossed my mind whenever I see it. Randy Here's the email: Hi there. Is this site based in Kitchener? It seems a lot of folks are from there. I am from London, but after seeing your listing I might move! LOL Sorry....not really, I am pretty much locked in here. I am sure you get all kinds of mail, but figured I'd squeeze this one in. I just wanted to say you look absolutely marvelous and if as easy going as your brief write-up states, you sound equally marvelous. If you would like to bat emails back and forth a bit, great. I do not get to Kitchener often, but could if inspired. If that does not interest you, then please just accept the compliment and reward me with an unseen smile. The best to you and yours, Randy

randyyeo

Joined: 12/3/2004

Msg: 1 (view)

Women: What do you look for in an email? Posted: 12/12/2004 8:37:10 AM
I am fairly new here....maybe three weeks now. I have sent out a few emails and received a few replies which was just great. A few of my emails were just saying hi and paying a compliment because either I did not quite fit the bill (usually age) or the geographical gap was too large, but something got my attention and I thought since I am sitting here I should say something. I never received as much as a thank you from these emails and that got me wondering....... How do the women here view the listings and handle the emails they receive. As well, do women tend to send out the first volley, or do they sit back and wait? I am sure the best answer to this is "it depends", but being a bit more specific may help me gleen a better understanding. Q: Do you write first? Q: Do you reply to all reasonable emails? Q: What do you look for in an email? Q: Is a long email better? Q: Is a brief "hello this is me" email better? And guys: If you are going to jump in here be nice, eh? I know most of you are, but yikes! that brush that paints us ALL is running around loose. L

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