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ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Anyone else here not planning to have kids? Posted: 10/14/2009 8:47:28 PM
i don't want to 'breed' either, mostly because i'm just not into kids. And i don't want to pay for them, feed them, take them on vacations, watch the teletubbies! Or listen to their backtalk, change diapers etc! now don't get me wrong here, i don't mind if someone has a kid, i just don't want any of my own

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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How Do Women Feel About Men and Their Safety? Posted: 10/2/2009 11:09:15 PM
i thought it was a good question.. ok, here is my point of view... i would like a guy to stick up for me, but not start fights. And i would appreciate if he took my point of view into consideration. just me i guess

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Should I refrain from complimening a woman's appearance in a first message? Posted: 9/25/2009 7:24:16 PM
from someone who doesn't get many compliments, don't ever stop, it's nice to hear compliments.

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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male virgins viewed as weak? Posted: 9/22/2009 5:08:41 PM
i was overlooked for a long time by guys during gradeschool and high school, but most women, at least me, would like a guy who knows what to do, come the occasion. i don't see it as a weakness, in fact you see it as someone who admires the sanctity of marriage and waiting for the right person. Don't worry what other people think, only care about what is important to YOU

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Does my handicap affect how they think of me? Posted: 9/22/2009 5:00:55 PM
i know all about it. let the conversation happen naturally. let her like you first then tell her about your disability. trust me, people see my prosthetics and sometimes just pass me by. people judge first by your photos so let her be entriced by your personality, then she can't resist but to get to know you better! and anyone who can't accept you for what you have to offer, then they aren't worth the time. happy fishing

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Does my handicap affect how they think of me? Posted: 9/22/2009 4:55:45 PM
i know all about it. let the conversation happen naturally. let her like you first then tell her about your disability. trust me, people see my prosthetics and sometimes just pass me by. people judge first by your photos so let her be entriced by your personality, then she can't resist but to get to know you better! happy fishing

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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How to respond to a profile with no information about a person? Posted: 9/15/2009 8:50:02 AM
not everyone is good with their words. if you are interested start the questioning. as where the person was born, what kind of music do they like. basically if you like their picture, or vice versa, ask questions that respond to YOUR desires. maybe they just aren't good with words, and at the very least accept the compliment!

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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What does it mean when a women says she occasionally smokes? Posted: 9/14/2009 6:21:45 PM
i quit over 2 years ago, but if i have a drink, i like a smoke... so no it doesn't apply only to people who like one while drinking

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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taking her to pub/restaurant Posted: 9/10/2009 6:35:32 PM
i say ask HER. See if there is anywhere she would like to go. and tell her you don't want to be around a bunch of drunks... somewhere nice that is not too expensive and where you can both talk and get to know each other. that's my answer

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Do women want to have kids after 33-35ish? Posted: 9/6/2009 8:37:11 PM
i never wanted children since i was like 10 years old.. i don't have the energy to properly raise a child, so i just spoil my nieces .., it works

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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A question about style of dress.... Posted: 8/22/2009 7:01:19 PM
i like all sorts of clothes, and if a guy has a funny shirt i think it says a lot about his personality... especially his sense of humour. i like a guy who is playful, funny, and can be playful and who can just have fun with life!!!

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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When should I tell someone about a handicap? Posted: 6/29/2008 7:16:12 PM
Hey, i'm trying to figure out the same thing... mine isn't visible though, but unfortunately i have yet to find the right formula for breaking it to someone that i have some health issues. It really depends on the person, they are either accepting and truely "open minded" like they say on their profile, or they are ignorant and scared of the unknown and will run like a coward at the first sign of a flaw. You are beautiful and i'm sure you are beautiful inside. People with disabilities learn to appreciate the little things more i find. But to answer your question, since your handicap is visible, i would make it known fairly early, maybe not post a picture of you in your wheelchair, but before you meet the person face to face.

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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his ankle Posted: 3/22/2008 4:28:16 PM
i like some jewelry on a man, but even the simplest of pieces can look wrong on some guys. If it is the only thing you can focus on, like some huge bling bling.. then it's not cool... if it accentuates him, then great.

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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How A Guy Dresses? Posted: 3/22/2008 4:20:18 PM
Depending on the restaurant I would hope the guy would dress accordingly, and the way he dresses to go out to dinner with me reflects his respect for me.. if he makes the effort to look good.. that's nice so.. casual.. jeans and a clean shirt Mid-road fancy.. dress shirt and pressed slacks fancy: dress shirt, dressy pants (in the summer chinos are pretty sexy), and even a tie 2) night club... jeans, nice shirt with a colar, or even rugby style shirt 3) cinema or lets go one further.. rented movie at home.. comfort, as long as the clothes are clean and not what he wore to work. I like a guy who pays attention to his fashion, but not obsessed with it.. a guy can be sexy if he's Metrosexual, or even just jeans a flannel shirt and workboots.. rrrrraooowwwwrrrr The turn off is when a guy looks sloppy and frumpy. My ex couldn't even dress up for a wedding..

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Just Curious Posted: 3/22/2008 11:30:38 AM
What alien dead weight did you date? It's the creative guy who attracts any girl i know... what turns me off and why i'm still looking is i can't seem to find that guy who can think outside the box... (other than the guy who wants to replicate a porn movie)... even then... get an idea of your own.

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Just Curious Posted: 3/22/2008 10:53:58 AM
I'm not really understanding the question, but I think you need to define creative. I think i'm creative with food, with radom acts of kindness, romance and spicing things up.. and i'm looking for someone who is equally as creative. My ex was extremely uncreative, bordering on boring. I had to give him the ideas on how to be romantic, and he was very VANILLA.. It turned out to be discouraging after a while.. wasn't that he didn't like my creative side.. he just didn't care if i was creative or ordinary.

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Confident But Ugly Men Posted: 3/22/2008 10:32:03 AM
No matter what a person says... maybe you don't have to be a model, but if you don't have some kind of physical attraction the relationship it will never get past the friendship stage. JMO And what's wrong with having more friends? That sounds really self-centred that if you don't meet the love of your life there is no room for someone you enjoy talking to? I never understood that on here. If you don't have room for more friends.. how can you have room in your life for a relationship?

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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How honest is too honest? Posted: 3/22/2008 10:12:32 AM
It's easy to say that if the girl can't handle the whole you.. she's not worth it, but it's different when you are the one being shunned for a condition you can't conrol. I have Kidney failure and the ignorance is defening on this site. Guys who want to talk with a real woman, then don't even read your message and delete you after reading your profile. I've tried both approaches, putting it on my profile and not disclosing it and watiting until the person gets to know me. Personally I think not disclosing it makes the rejection worse. The question should be, how to properly word it so people understand that you work your illness into your life, not your life around your illness. When my friends find out about my illness they are shocked to know because I don't show it. As for appologizing for making someone cry.. to me it only shows your sensitive side. I too don't like making someone cry from a compliment or a voice of reason. I don't like anyone hurting.. even if it is a happy tear, i just want to make a point... don't change.. accept who you are.

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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ex is back... friends? Posted: 3/15/2008 8:41:50 PM
Sorry, i agree with the answer above me.. I don't have her side of it, but simply from what you said, i'd say that she doesn't see you as good enough to go out with, but she likes how you treat her so she's having her cake and eating it too. she's holding onto you as her "security blanket". her fall-back on.. but hey.. like i said, i don't know her, so i cold be wrong.

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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How To Find Out About Sexual Preferences? Posted: 2/1/2008 3:10:51 PM
The point is that you ARE looking for sex... a long term relationship is all about compromise as well as compatibility. If you love someone, you make your differences work, and if you truely love someone you feel not only comfortable to discuss fantasies and needs, but also to explore them... Basically what you are saying is that you could care less who you end up with as long as they can satisfy YOU... relationships are about give and take and finding that perfect balance.... not just being with the one you can live with, but the person you can't live without. When you find someone, you will want to please that person, not EXPECT them to be able to keep up with you. I post this response as MY opinion, MY experience and MY thought for you to do what you will with them

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Why say make me laugh, entertain me, etc. Posted: 12/10/2007 5:32:50 PM
So, are you saying that the romance dies after you hook up? Are you saying that people are only entertaining and fun if they are in the beginning of a relationship? I continuously enjoy pleasing my man, but i do it because i want to, not because i have to. I'm happy if i can make him smile.. even if it's something small like a call in the middle of the day for no reason, or an elaborate dinner and movie, or something as simple as grabbing a beavertail on the canal...

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Do any WOMEN over 30 like house/techno/jungle/etc? Posted: 10/31/2007 1:41:47 PM
It depends on my mood. I like just about ANY kind of music. From Top 40's to Acid Rock, and yes, even house/techno/jungle/etc...

ticka

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Do any WOMEN over 30 like house/techno/jungle/etc? Posted: 10/31/2007 1:41:39 PM
It depends on my mood. I like just about ANY kind of music. From Top 40's to Acid Rock, and yes, even house/techno/jungle/etc...

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Lack of respect for chosen categories Posted: 10/31/2007 1:39:36 PM
Get used to it... it's a recurring trend.. i find most guys DO want to find Ms Right, but if they don't see you as Ms Right, you are seen as Ms Right Now... I even talked to a younger guy who wanted me to teach him to be a good lover and boyfriend so he'd be ready when the real thing came along. Unfortunately when it's free.. you are fishing in the shallow end of the Gene pool

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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When is the best time to disclose.... ? Posted: 10/1/2007 9:41:37 AM
realityhastoofewoptions... sometimes it doesn't even get to a date.. and the last one was after the first date...

ticka

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When is the best time to disclose.... ? Posted: 9/29/2007 7:28:10 PM
yah.. not really understanding what you just said.. but ok...

ticka

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When is the best time to disclose.... ? Posted: 9/29/2007 2:52:51 PM
^^^^^^^^^^ just to add... the worst part is that I would have been fine as friends.. and I actually miss him.. we got along well.. and had a lot in common

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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What does 'hang out' mean to you Posted: 9/29/2007 2:34:21 PM
LMFAO!!!!!! austral azn... i LOVE your response!

ticka

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When is the best time to disclose.... ? Posted: 9/29/2007 2:20:04 PM
Awww thanks Scoundrel... i have no problem showing my scrars... lol... that was actually why i brought up the situation to the guy in the first place.. i told him what they are from... oops.. lol

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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When is the best time to disclose.... ? Posted: 9/29/2007 10:29:12 AM
Thanks everyone.. unfortunately it STILL happens.. and did very recently.. at least i think that's why he cowardly stopped talking to me the next day after a great date.. he wont tell me, so i have to assume that is the reason because he thought i was beautiful, funny, and his words "awesome". In my observations, women (and i don't mean to sound like i'm generalizing here) tend to be more accepting then men. Maybe it is the maternal instinct to "take care" of others, but my experience in the months i've been on here, and the forums i read, is that women tend to overlook flaws more than guys. I don't want someone to "take care" of me.. but it seems that that is the first thing that pops into a guy's mind when he hears of an illness.... or maybe i'm just fishing in the shallow end of the gene pool!

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Would you sleep with him? Posted: 9/29/2007 10:01:46 AM
From one "formerly fat" girl to another i would like to offer my 2 cents: 1) If he didn't have interest in you when you were heavier.. it's not your mind he's interested in 2) if he wont commit to what you are basically already doing, then he's using you to stroke his ego. I've had it done many times... when a guy knows he has you but can't find anyone else, you are a form of flattery to him.. just something to do until something better comes along 3) I agree with the above posts, don't ever lose weight or change for someone else. You are who you are and respect comes from more than a few pounds or some outfit... what about the things you cannot change? You would tell a guy to go f*ck himself if he didn't like you because your eyes weren't a particular colour, so don't fret. Be proud of who you are, accept only constructive criticism and as much as it hurts sometimes.. accept nothing less than what you want/deserve. And if you figure that out.. let me know how you did it! When a guy wont commit to being your boyfriend, meaning he is loyal to YOU only, then he's NOT being loyal to you... he's hoochie shopping.. don't be his hoochie!!

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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things were just warming up and then he sent a POF rose...only not to me! Posted: 9/27/2007 10:23:14 AM
I see everyone's point.. but i think what most people are getting at is that you only have 2 roses to give.. so you choose wisely who you want to give a rose to. If i want to give a gift... i'll send a gift from the message area, but a "BE MINE" rose actually does send a message for some. The message is different for everyone, I look at the message section and wonder if this guy is just messaging anyone until someone bites, or has he found someone? Then I say F*** it and message anyway...

ticka

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Ending a Date Honestly Posted: 9/27/2007 9:21:50 AM
At least you got an e-mail.. I got ingored! Great date, and the next day he wouldn't talk to me on MSN.. ok.. i figured he was busy.. but no.. he just decided to not talk to me. When i sent him an e-mail asking him what i did wrong, he blocked me. He thought i was awesome, and said he was glad we got toether... anyone would have guessed a second date was guaranteed... guess I'm just a fool!

ticka

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Can you re-take the Personality test? Posted: 9/20/2007 2:55:53 PM
I don't want to retake the test because i don't like the results.. one of the factors you list on the compatibility page relates to whether or not you wish to get married.. etc.. those things CAN change over time so you wouldn't be matched properly on the compatibility page now would you?

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Changing a Test Result [Closed Thread] Posted: 9/20/2007 2:28:21 PM
I'm just wondering if there is any way to re-take a test.. some things have changed since I last took a test that would significantly change the results.. anyone? I've searched this site and can't find any answers in the forums.

ticka

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Don't want children? Why? Posted: 9/4/2007 5:59:22 PM
Quit simply.. i don't like kids.. i hate the drooling.. poop... vomit... crying.. OH DEAR LORD THE CRYING AND SCREAMING!!! The whining, the tantrums, the financial expense.. the loss of freedom. Quite simply i admire and respect women and men who want to dedicate their lives and endless sleepless nights to raise a product of their love, but it's not for me. I find more and more adults deserve a time out too for their lack of parenting skills. I have goals i wish to achieve while i am still young, but most of all.. when i am in a relationship, i want to experience the world with my partner, without restrictions or based on whether the kids will have something to do. JMO

ticka

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Shorter girls Posted: 9/3/2007 12:15:38 PM
I'm only 5'0"... you'd think just about any guy would be tall enough to count as taller for me... but I prefer a guy between 5'9" and 6'0"... I like to feel "petite"... don't get me wrong.. I don't rule out someone based on their height. OP.. you will find many women/men who feel uncomfortable with characteristics that others will define as shallow or insignificant.. we all have our preferences.. what we find attractive off the bat.. but it doesn't necessarily rule out going against the grain. Most guys I've dated don't match my "ideal" match... that's the beauty of it.. we admire someone for their qualities.. we love them for their differences... (i got that quote from Hellboy if you can believe it)

ticka

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Do men like women to initiate sex or do they prefer to? Posted: 5/26/2007 4:00:57 PM
This question is great!! But at the same time... guys... there are some of you who take the safe way out and wait until we initiate... Younger guys tend to think older women are going to "teach" them something miraculous... ok.. we who initiate.. also like someone else to take the reigns once in a while.. dazzle US...I've found most guys will initiate the sex.. but then expect us girls to take over and use the excuse "tell me what you want"... ok.. I want you to work WITH me, not FOR me...

ticka

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Manners Posted: 5/26/2007 3:40:34 PM
I was talking to a guy on MSN.. who said BRB.. and after about 1/2 hour (I didn't just wait.. I was doing other things), I finally said that I had to go and that I would talk to him later. I talked to him the next day and he said he eventually passed out. All he had to do was say he was tired, or even didn't want to talk anymore and it would have been fine, instead, it was a real turn off. Manners, or lack thereof... is one of the resons I'm still fishing... Common courtesy isn't so common these days. I believe the manners need to go both ways... it's all a part of appreciating the other person. No matter how you met, or for what reason, I appreciate that someone is taking their time for me, and I hope for the same. A little respect goes a long way....trust me!

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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some ideas for dates? Posted: 5/26/2007 3:13:42 PM
Because of some bad first dates off here I am a bit cautious, so keep that in mind when you are planning to meet someone new. Public places are good. A friend of mine asked me to join a first date at a bowling alley with him and some friends. I thought it was great because everyone relaxed and had fun, mingled and got to know each other. I usually meet someone for coffee, or for a walk in the market.

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Why might you say YES! Posted: 5/26/2007 3:06:41 PM
I find it has to do with the flow of the initial conversation... some guys were pleasant on the eyes but there were more pauses than words on MSN, others, I felt like I could talk to for hours.. that is if i could stop laughing from the funny comments. If a guy is too forward, it's a total turn-off. If he seems TOO eager to meet, then the red flags go up and he gets bumped way down the line in "wanting to meet right away" category. And if he gives me the impression that he's planning to get me in bed, or if he gives me the impression that he wouldn't meet me if he knew ahead of time nothing was going to happen... then it's a no go. If he gives me the impression he really just wants to meet, talk... maybe get a coffee, relax and just enjoy the evening, then I'll meet him... but still in a public place.

ticka

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OMG - You're photo!... its... its... Posted: 5/26/2007 2:49:08 PM
I'm game... give it all to me... in the process even tell me what "message" i'm sending... sometimes you just need to hear it from someone else.. especially someone who doesn't know you

ticka

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Would you go camping for a weekend? Posted: 4/1/2007 6:02:19 PM
Camping is fun for a weekend.. or a long weekend... i've done the outhouse, in a tent, cook over only an open fire thing.. and it's great.. although i do perfer campsites where they have the option of public bathrooms with showers, even if you have to wear your shoes in the shower. Outhouses freak me out at 3am, but nothing beats food cooked over an open fire... only other necessities are an air matress, and to camp AFTER the May 2-4 weekend... when the nights aren't so damp.

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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too romanitc ??? or just right ??? Posted: 2/25/2007 6:16:52 PM
I'd say the idea is very romantic.. and sweet.. even if it has been done before, hey.. they wouldn't be in business if they didn't get repeat business right? I do have to agree that after one month is a bit soon, because i see the horse drawn carriage as quite elaborate. By now she may have dropped some hints about the kinds of things that peek her interest. The hay ride is sweet, inexpensive, interactive and just as romantic without all the flair, but could be a nightmare for someone who is scared of horses, or hates the outdoors. Even if the guy gets an idea off a movie, it really is the thought that counts. Whether it's the guy romancing the girl, or the girl romancing the guy, the memory will come from personalizing it. I used to love just driving through the country on a Sunday afternoon.. it gave us time to be alone and talk, and take in some nice scenery.

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Asked three times for more photos Posted: 2/24/2007 8:32:58 PM
Anytime a guy asks for more pics of me.. he's usually looking for something other than my smile. I don't like to assume, but from my first read, that is the impression i got. I can understand someone being nervous, or wanting to make sure that the body shot matches the head shot, but there is a point when you have to move on and get to an actual conversation.. if the other person is hung up on minor details, I say try to initiate the conversation, if it doesn't work, move on.. it's not your personality he/she's interested in.

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Would YOU buy the cow? Posted: 2/21/2007 8:12:09 PM
I know this is ask a guy.. but i wish i had your problem.. unfortunately i've encountered conversations with guys who wanted some kind of guarantee of sex before even meeting me.. needless to say.. never met them... I believe that my profile is simple, and my MUSTS at the bottom are clear.. I've even talked to guys who have sweet profiles.. say they want to take it slow.. and then when you talk on IM or MSN they just want to ask you about sex... oh well.. i'll keep fishing...

ticka

Joined: 11/17/2006

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Do you respect guys who say no? Posted: 2/17/2007 2:53:56 PM
Correct me if i'm wrong, but that kind of behaviour was once known as "respect" and being a "gentleman"...

ticka

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Do the Axe commercial annoy you? Posted: 1/21/2007 3:18:13 PM
As a marketing and finance major... you just proved that their form of advertising works.. you remember the name, and the commercial... As for your question, i think they are funny, especially the one with Nick Lache counting how many times he gets hit on, and then the guy with the Axe spay has something like 10 times as many hits... For the most part, I don't like most colognes or aftershaves, they are too strong, and Axe is one of the worst for being overpowering. But that's just my opinion.

ticka

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ttyl? Bullsh*t lol Posted: 1/21/2007 3:00:28 PM
I believe it means that i'll talk to you again, but i think you should re-read your own thread.... "Ottawa Ontario's 18-22 range of girls" nuff said.... At that age they are still coming out of high school, and the head games they have been forced to play for 4 years. They probably don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but at the same time don't realize that misleading is just as hurtful. My opinion only

ticka

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what does this mean confused and dazaled Posted: 1/21/2007 2:56:39 PM
Maybe i'm reading it wrong.. but i totally don't understand what you are asking here

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