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angelically_evil

Joined: 11/18/2006

Msg: 61 (view)

My best friend is a girl. Posted: 11/4/2008 5:54:11 PM
P.S... So am I not considered a geezer if my opinion agrees with yours? wink 32yr old geezer...haha!

angelically_evil

Joined: 11/18/2006

Msg: 60 (view)

My best friend is a girl. Posted: 11/4/2008 5:44:31 PM
I think its all about boundaries and consideration of all parties involved.. I have quite a few close friends with whom I have shared a bed with at one time or another..completely platonically.. and I dont see anything wrong with the situation the OP puts forth. My recent boyfriend also has many close relationships with males and females and they too see nothing wrong with crashing in the same bed. In fact, one night as I was leaving he had a friend arrive from out of town who crashed at his place for the night. I was perfectly fine with the notion that she was going to crash in the bed with him as his place is not very big. shrugs I trust him when he says nothing will happen..as nothing would happen with any of my friends that I would have stay at my place. (I give trust until I am given a reason not to) Its a place to sleep. If the person has been in their lives for awhile, then really..if they truly wanted to be together they would have had all the chance to start something... and if they are going to cheat it will happen regardless of sleeping arrangements... That said, its also a situation of boundaries..and if the new person in your life is really uncomfortable with it, then you need to decide whether or not you are willing to establish these new boundaries within your friendships so that he/she will feel more secure..and if you are not willing, then you need to find someone who feels the same way about sleeping arrangements as you do. No need to judge each other's perspectives on it..the OP was only asking for what others do in their lives. Doesnt mean hes a jerk, or thoughtless or a cheater..he just views it differently. OP: it all comes down to whether the new girl is worth changing where you/your guests sleep. In the larger picture of relationship difficulties, this really is a small battle isnt it?..your friends should understand that not all people will feel the way you both do and that sleeping on the couch for the sake of your relationship happiness..really is a small concession when you find someone you really like.

angelically_evil

Joined: 11/18/2006

Msg: 296 (view)

Sarcasm red flag or not? Posted: 11/4/2008 1:55:51 PM
Isnt it great how forum topics such as this, really bring all of us closer together??...

angelically_evil

Joined: 11/18/2006

Msg: 131 (view)

Beautiful People Only can apply...WTF.... Posted: 11/4/2008 1:12:02 PM
To understand that I chose to use language that would not be directly offensive when using criticism to make my point, while meanwhile, not really requiring a response at all (just stating my opinion)...enough so that you could name it for what it is, rhetoric, shows that it made perfect sense to you.. And I agree with your opinion as well, humility is an attractive characteristic...and beauty is a multifaceted as well as subjective concept.

angelically_evil

Joined: 11/18/2006

Msg: 129 (view)

Beautiful People Only can apply...WTF.... Posted: 11/4/2008 11:27:59 AM
I am actually quite amused by the response that BP gets from people.. Like the comment that people who have joined the site are so desperate to affirm their beauty that they need to pay to be on there. haha. I myself have never paid anything to be a member on BP, and was never asked to pay anything. .?? shrugs But in all honesty, had I been asked to pay I wouldnt have because, in my opinion, the site really doesnt offer anything that I couldnt find here on pof (as ive said in a previous post, there are just as attractive people on both..in fact I met my boyfriend here on POF, not BP) I did not join BP because I have low self-esteem and needed to have my looks validated..haha..I find that comment really funny actually. I dont think that I am a super model by any means, but I also have enough self-esteem to know that I am beautiful (inside and out) without a site having to tell me so. If you look at the logic behind that statement, you can see why I laugh...people post their pictures because they think that they possibly have what it takes to be on there, not because they dont and hope that their fears will be disproven. Am I wrong? Its like those people who couldnt carry a note in their back pocket who go on Idol. We listen to them and think "OMG who has lied to you?!!"..and yet, they believe they have what it takes. They dont go on the show because they think they are crappy and want the judges to disprove that low self opinion. Anyway.. I have to agree with Rita in her post above that it is quite interesting how JB says she doesnt agree with the site and its principles..if that were true, and the concept really didnt sit well, then why not just click somewhere else..instead of signing up for not only one but TWO of the country's sites..lol. Funny! Thats like someone expressing that we all shouldnt own cars because of the huge carbon footprint it creates..so they proclaim to not own a car and b*tch about the thoughtlessness of those who do while they ride the bus to work every day...yet, when they need to go on vacation..they rent an SUV to haul their boat. When the ego boost fits..then drive it? Come now. Be honest, because your actions are speaking differently from your words. I joined the site out of curiousity myself as well..and although the idea of judging other's looks didnt sit well with me, I chose to join anyway as I thought, why not expand my dating selection pool. I just chose not to be a part of the rating system after I was accepted. I am however, not going to join and then bash the system I chose to partake in. It also made makes me laugh how people automatically come up with some comment associating beauty to lack of intelligence or depth in an individual. Do people honestly, truly believe that?? Really? Come on..you are telling me that everyone you know who is deemed 'beautiful' by others is unintelligent? Or they are shallow and mean? Or by reverse..that all the people who you know who arent considered attractive by others (even when you find them appealing yourself) is Phd material? Or the nicest people you have ever met? Phhhtt. In my humble opinion, part of being intelligent is being aware of the words we choose to use..and considering all the facts before throwing out negative judgement upon others. People who throw out such cliche, silly, stereotypical put-downs without actually considering what they are saying, perpetuate negative feelings just as much as anyone who chooses to be a part of a dating site that is based on looks. Like I said..just my humble opinion.. Cheers All!

angelically_evil

Joined: 11/18/2006

Msg: 97 (view)

Beautiful People Only can apply...WTF.... Posted: 8/26/2008 6:33:54 PM
Yeah..unfortunately I have heard a lot trash talk from people not on this site, those who were on it and left and from people still on here now who arent happy with the people they have met...about both sexes. Girls are all easy, desperate or crazy...guys are desperate losers only looking to get laid or both are game-players only looking for attention/ego-boost Well I have met people that completely disprove that theory. I think its all about looking for quality and not quantity and taking the time to pass a few messages and getting at least a small feel for what the person may be like.. I still talk to almost all of the people that I have met from this site regularly (ones Ive met in person that is), roped a few onto my dodgeball team and regularly chat with a couple that I will probably meet soon...same goes for BP. Cant take the whole online thing too seriously..and no matter what site you go to you are going to find both your share of those that shine and those you leave behind... I agree that many people from this site stand a good chance of getting in for sure...Its not like the BP site is only for models and actors and such..its for 'everyday' people too.. As for the photo comment...wouldnt you say that most people post what they think are their 'best' photos on here as well?..Many of the people who have made it through since Ive been on there use just regular pics from daily life, ..many taken in front of bathroom mirrors and out and about...same as you find on here...not gussied up, professionally taken, photoshopped ones.

angelically_evil

Joined: 11/18/2006

Msg: 95 (view)

Beautiful People Only can apply...WTF.... Posted: 8/26/2008 2:03:47 PM
Hello all.. Well you have what you wished for...I am a member of beautiful people as well as POF. Been so for a month and a half now. My reason for joining was curiousity as to whether or not I would get in and for the fact that to me, it is just another networking site to meet new people. Its not much different from hot or not or hot enough or lava life really... I am not shallow, I am not uneducated, I am not self-absorbed or elitist and neither are many of the people I have met on the site or in person from there. Really, it isnt much different from this site in the matter of "attractive" vs "unattractive" people. Beauty is subjective and yes, when you scroll through pics on this site or that you are going to come across people who either appeal to you or dont. For the girl who said that she saw (I cant rememeber her exact words) 'ugly?' people on there..well to some they were attractive so they got in...there have been many that I thought attractive who didnt shrugs ... Really, how is it different from people ignoring messages on here, not even being polite enough to give a response to those on POF who have taken the time to message them?? Im sure many of you have done this....In this case it just a matter of voting as being the way of rejection instead non-reply. I thought about what people might think of me for joining that site but its no different in that fact that POF has a reputation for 'crazy, desperate, slutty, losers'..well I dont think that I am either of the websites stereotypes and all that matters in the end is what I think of myself right?... I went in fully aware that I may be rejected and I took that on myself before deciding to join..its sort of a matter of, if it doesnt sit right with you then click your mouse to somewhere else.. So I read the thread and I will answer some your basic questions.. People are voted in by the opposite sex over a matter of 3 days. The voting process is fair as everyone votes on what they feel 'beauty' is to them. You see a person's photo and their full profile, should they choose to write something, and you choose between "yes certainly, hmm ok, not really, not at all." I have come across some members who say yes to everyone and others who choose not to vote at all once they are in. After the 3 days, the votes are averaged and if you pass the 50% in favour then you are in.. The forum topics are similiar to those on here..there are general subjects, the sexually minded topics, world event threads, business connection/networking threads, jokes etc...and like here, you will find people that are well spoken, thoughtful with their words and generally have a lot to contribute to conversation and debate and you will find others who are complete jackasses and annoyances.. The people on the cover of the webpage are not professional models in all instances..from what I understand there was a message sent out for those who wanted their pics to be displayed..some may be models by profession, others are not. Anyway, I just wanted to put my opinion out there and let you know before some deem everyone 'self-absorbed, stupid, shallow etc...", that I have met some of the nicest, smartest, kindest, beautiful (inside and out) people from there AND here..I have defended the stereotypes from both this site and that to people who dont use these sites because I think that to generalize un-redeeming qualities onto ALL based on their inclusion of a site that doesnt sit well with YOUR own belief system or isnt founded in your own personal experience and only goes by heresay..well, its just an ugly thing to do.

angelically_evil

Joined: 11/18/2006

Msg: 38 (view)

Online Dating Etiquette -- It would be rude to ask face to face Posted: 5/20/2008 10:20:58 PM
All I know is that if I asked a woman how much she weighs or how old she was, my grandmother would rise from the dead and bop me on the head with a shoe. Haha..too funny! Made me reminisce about the days when I would be whapped with a pink fuzzy slipper for behaving inappropriately.

*simplified~confusion*

Joined: 11/18/2006

Msg: 22 (view)

funny women... Posted: 12/16/2006 8:31:05 PM
If you read this thread outloud to yourself...by about the hundredth time you say the word funny...it becomes...amusing.

*simplified~confusion*

Joined: 11/18/2006

Msg: 25 (view)

hair smelling Posted: 12/16/2006 8:19:07 PM
One of the previous posts I think says it best... People sniffer at things, well, because there are things out there to smell...not saying your hair smells bad at all...but I knew a guy who told me he would smell his dental floss (after use), because it was there...even invited me to give it try...Id say check out if hes making that funny cat expression to tell you if maybe you need a change in products...(just to be sure) I also once knew this guy who wasnt very appealing to me at all in a physical sense... after hanging out with him for a month or two, I realized that I rather spend an afternoon scrubbing the floor by my cats litterbox (poor aiming son of a *&^), then endure another moment of this guys personality...but MAN did his hair products smell good...so I would sniffer at him when he was around me, but I definately wasnt falling.... dont read that much into a little snifferin..if he pees on your leg in the shower, well then, NOW you know its love... ;)

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