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simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

Ahhh Posted: 10/6/2009 6:18:50 AM
Poster #5 is extraordinarily bitter, check out the profile...

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Yes, Men CAN be Sexually Assaulted by Women! Posted: 10/6/2009 6:12:57 AM
I think some people need to take biology lessons before commenting on the workings of the human body, you can only learn so much from deductive observation.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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my opinion on where ladies go wrong when flirting in the workplace Posted: 10/5/2009 1:46:18 PM
That could be seen as regular advice anywhere, not just workplaces, and its a bad idea to date where you work unless you are on separate shifts.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Why are men so damn confusing? Posted: 10/3/2009 10:18:02 AM
I take it you are attracted to this guy. He's simply keeping you from doing stupid stuff when your too drunk to make rational judgment's.... You say you are straight with people when rejecting them, can you be straight with him about liking him? Try and get him on a date where your not drinking and show him your interested in him whether your sober or not because he can't read your mind and he might be too shy to initiate things.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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she tells me to get her number from her friend? Posted: 9/30/2009 4:27:08 AM
Too lazy to type 11 numbers that she probably knows but not enough to not be typing words to you on msn. Its a blatant cop out, she got nervous when you asked and doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying no so she said something random to throw you off and confuse you in the hopes you will not ask again.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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They don't have to meet you to act like wackjobs Posted: 9/30/2009 2:23:29 AM
Sounds like he thought you were ditching him and using a generic dramatic scenario as an excuse not to talk to him until he loses interest. I once had a woman tell me her grandmother fell down the stairs and was in intensive care so she would not be able to talk to me and will contact me when she got herself together, it was pretty much all lies of course as she never did get in touch despite my messages asking her how she's coping and giving her the benefit of the doubt. The point i am making is that a lot of women make excuses up to and including outrageous claims, car crashes, family deaths and disasters just to throw a guy off and protect his feelings, this guy probably has had a woman pull some weird stunt to throw him off and had a fit about it, hence all the messages trying to get a response from you and find out whats going on. I am not siding with him, he sounds a little over the top but i hope my post gave insight as to why he might have acted like he did.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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I look like a young gay man what can i do? Posted: 9/29/2009 7:52:30 AM
Troll detected...

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Being blocked? Posted: 9/29/2009 7:34:01 AM
You'll be complaining when they do, because its easy for women to find that offline so the ones online tend to be a bit nuts..

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Great responses but women never contact me first, why not? Posted: 9/29/2009 7:31:38 AM
break your profile up into paragraphs, its easier on the eyes for a start, and get a profile review that way >>>>

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Being blocked? Posted: 9/29/2009 4:28:50 AM
For whatever reasons, people don't want the person they block to know but there are signs. They will disappear from your favorite lists They won't appear in search results Emails and correspondence to and from will vanish. Oh and you can send a random email to the handle if you remember it and it will tell you if that person has blocked you. One more thing is to try logging out then performing a search in the same area, if she appears when you are logged out and not when you are logged in them you have most certainly been blocked. P.S I am not a stalker, i am just very technically minded so given a problem like this i figure out how the site works and how to circumvent things like this.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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why is he staring Posted: 9/27/2009 12:32:48 AM
Shock and awe Well maybe just the awe, the people here are quick to jump on the creepy/serial killer explanation, he most likely simply shy and he finds you very attractive, men tend to look at the things they find attractive but if they are too shy to initiate conversation then looking is all they can do, he is simply admiring the view and its easy to get locked into doing that. I assume he has peaked your interest for one reason or another so initiate conversation, say something friendly to him, let him know your not going to be as silent as he is and he might open up. I am surprised you don't have a clue about this or have never noticed it with other males as it probably happens a lot.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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A delicate situation.....should I make the first move ?? Posted: 9/19/2009 10:37:01 PM
Do nothing and nothing will happen.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Why it is asking if she have been tested considered an offense?? Posted: 9/18/2009 1:30:54 AM
There is a time and place for asking about std tests, during or after a first date is probably a bad time...if most of the women you say that to turn purple or curse does it not occur to you its a bad idea? Why is it offensive? Would probably need a decent qualification in psychology to get at that answer properly, i would say its because as a race we are still unable to treat sex asnormal and have to make it a private thing to each individual, i'm not suggesting everyone be uninhibited and honest about it but i don't think std's should be a taboo subject, seems its not going to be casual conversation anytime soon though.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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is she into me Posted: 9/18/2009 1:21:27 AM
Well the op has closed account, seemed like it was pretty obvious the trust had gone, who would go on a vacation without the boyfriend, and feel uncomfortable about sharing pics taken there? People who trust each other share everything willingly, if there is nothing to hide why hide it?

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Best language classes to meet girls Posted: 9/18/2009 1:16:21 AM
It will be a conflict of interests, if you try and get educated and find a woman at the same time it will go pear shaped and you will waste your money, then there's the fact you might be seen as that guy who joined the class just to find a woman, it will make the classes pretty tense and unfavorable for you and the women there.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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what is going on?? Posted: 9/18/2009 1:13:12 AM
So how much longer do you want to dance for the puppet master? Cut his bonds loose and don't look back, and for the love of batman stay away from anyone that tries to string you along.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Ever Heard This One? Posted: 9/18/2009 1:08:49 AM
Ask the girl out who says that, and when they say no tell them that's the reason. On a more serious note, i wish women would stop thinking most good men go around picking girlfriends out of baskets at a whim just because he's so lovely or some blah blah.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Women who try to come back after shutting you out Posted: 9/18/2009 12:58:55 AM
The situations people get in...good god... That was a headache to read and even worse to imagine, stop opening the crazy bin and pulling out weirdo's

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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What Makes Guys PHYSICALLY Attractive? Posted: 9/16/2009 11:36:18 PM
I know its ask a girl and all but i have to take a wild stab and say masculine features, muscular arms, legs, shoulders, an attractive face, whatever that is varies from one woman to another i think and signs of good health.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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What exactly is inviting someone over for a spell? Posted: 9/16/2009 11:32:44 PM
What the???????? Are you serious???? Again what the "&&%£"£????? A spell? i have no idea, where do you find these people...what the crap?????

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Should guys still make 1st contact? Posted: 9/16/2009 11:27:17 PM
Are you serious?? If you wont message guys who you might like by the profiles then its a no brainer, of course your hurting your chances... Btw a profile browse and no mail means no interest, ignore those, message the guys you like, don't expect everyone to come to you...

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Attention all Shy/Quiet Guys - Question: Do you resist calling... Posted: 9/16/2009 10:42:02 PM
They are striving not to appear to needy or eager?, soem girls dissapear if you call a lot or text a lot. Have you tried calling them instead?

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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A question for builder's, someone with knowledge of flats. Posted: 9/15/2009 9:58:05 PM
I'm just being a bit paranoid, i will rephrase, if its all legitimate construction will the floor hold and sound proofing be decent?

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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A question for builder's, someone with knowledge of flats. Posted: 9/15/2009 9:18:56 PM
I live in a flat, the main room is above the garage, i have a treadmill in the garage and i want to move it up to the main living room which is quite big, (the garage has no power, estate agent will not pay to have the electricity hooked up again nor does he know why it isn't) I want to know two things Will the floor support the weight of the treadmill, i know there are appliances of similar weight, like the oven in there, but with a human being running on the thing i do not want it weakening the floorboards, that might sound naive but i just want to be sure. Whats the soundproofing like in average flats, since there is no one living below me i doubt it will be a noise problem and i rarely hear the people above so i hope it will not be. Can anyone shed some light on this? thanks in advance

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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send a pic of your ex deceased wife ?? Posted: 9/15/2009 8:48:56 PM
I hope this is not a real situation, opinions???? How do some people miss red flags like this, hell this isnt a red flag, its a freaking billboard on the side of a tower block that says danger...

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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to date or not to date...a virgin? Posted: 9/14/2009 10:27:41 PM
"respectful, kind, considerate, affectionate, happy, great looking, down-to-earth, and just has a great head on his shoulders" That's probably why he is still a virgin, not religious beliefs or conditioning. I read your original post twice, when did he say he wants to wait until marriage to have sex? As a fellow virgin i can testify that with the right woman i would be willing to learn and try what she wants me to, within my own comfort zones of course, if that's not enough i don't know what is, he will not find many women at his age (i presume he is past his early 20's) that are virgins AND compatible with him, i think you should give this the benefit of the doubt and try talking to him about it openly, without a negative outlook.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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A little scared, I think I have contacted a weirdo Posted: 9/14/2009 4:30:52 PM
She is a weirdo because she did not catch on to an acronym?

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Advice required for 1st Date!!! Posted: 9/14/2009 11:36:38 AM
You seem to be going in with the assumption the date will fail and what should you do about it, worrying about the worst case scenario will kill any potential this has, i can't offer any suggestions for breaking it off though. I will add that he probably does not have any deep feelings for you if its just a first date to see if you two connect, so stop worrying about hurting him in any way so early on..

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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What hints do you give away as women that you are interested in a guy? Posted: 9/14/2009 11:31:16 AM
It does not matter, women are awesome actors and liars, they often go to extreme lengths to mask intentions, presumably to avoid having to directly reject someone or directly show interest.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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how long do i chat without him asking for a phone number? Posted: 9/12/2009 11:00:49 PM
He will consider himself lucky since most women balk at the idea of swapping any information like phone numbers, msn addresses etc in the first few days, ask him for his number.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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What is wrong with some of you guys, I just dont get it... Posted: 9/11/2009 1:00:32 PM
He changed his mind about you, the text messages are just a feeble excuse so he doesn't have to be honest.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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My Boyfriend... Posted: 9/11/2009 12:55:57 PM
The bug has it right i think, openly commenting about a boyfriend is a warning barrier to men asking them out. Whats awkward about saying thanks but no thanks?

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Tried of this excuse Some People Have No Guts Posted: 9/11/2009 12:46:19 PM
Your probably one of the few people that actually get excuses sent their way, i always find women disappear without a trace.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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How are connections really formed? Posted: 9/11/2009 9:35:48 AM
"You won't have to ask. You'll just know" Women spoiled this when they started telling lies and putting on a show to protect a mans feelings.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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How to reject a man that won't hurt him? Posted: 9/10/2009 1:22:07 PM
Sigh, do not lie to protect a mans feelings as it only confuses, hurts more and leaves men thinking most women are liars, excuses, lies and all the weird random things women do to make a guy lose interest discredit any real interruptions and lead to the assumption that a delayed date or meetup is a lost cause...

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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advice from a friend, what do you ladies think, haha Posted: 9/10/2009 1:14:01 PM
Are you going into that field to learn it or for the young women? Never mind, it will be hell at your age, the teenage males will give you hell because your older than them, no other reason, there will be girls attracted to you because your older than most of the other males, it will be utter chaos. That advice looks like it was written by one of those people who try to act black or whatever. Do a night class, full of mostly adults and much less hassle from immature adolescents, i have tried going to day college at 23 and it was hell, i went to the night classes instead, much better.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Please Help! I'm lost Posted: 9/10/2009 1:05:51 PM
Find out why, all those friends cannot be a bad judge of character.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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80% admit to supplying false details on their profiles Posted: 9/10/2009 11:19:35 AM
Lies permeate every aspect of life, from job interviews to doctor's appointments, politics, news broadcasts, if most people lie on the cv's they make why would they not lie on a dating site, the better profiles make the tastiest bait here and the ones that are full of lies are usually the best looking ones.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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The Night that Didn't End so Well. Posted: 9/9/2009 5:54:55 PM
Well that was a strange series of events, texting her ex while you were playing a game of pool can be overlooked if she got the messages first, but up and leaving on a 30 minute walk to get a personal belonging in the middle of the night, that's some crazy desperate move to throw you off, i think if you had not gone with her she would have stayed over at the ex's house.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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How to tell if my boss likes me Posted: 9/8/2009 8:27:53 AM
The title of this thread makes me cringe, the situation has drama written all over it, he may like you, he may not, just don't go there, ever..lol

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Stonewalled, what's going on ? Posted: 9/8/2009 8:20:56 AM
Then for the next several days I couldn't reach her at all. She does not pick up my phone calls, she doesn't read my message on POF, she does not reply to MSN and once logged off right after I said hi. There was not a single word of communication. That is something that has happened to me last week, hell that's exactly whats happened to me last week, minus the date. All contact from her side ceases and you never hear from her again, she's obviously lost interest for whatever reason or found someone she likes more, move on. Some people here are call you out on stalking her, i guess they have never had a real stalker, trying to get in touch with someone or trying to figure out why they will not talk to you is not even approaching stalking. Hanging around outside her house, calling her at work, following her home from work, turning up when you know she is in and alone because you are watching her house, thats probably more in line with stalking, i once had a crazy woman from this site send me close to 60 emails (i did not count), and you people think a few phone calls and messages equal stalking

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Whats up with all these Virgins Posted: 8/31/2009 12:35:11 PM
Once you get rejected so many times and don't have any good experiences with the opposite sex, you stop caring about sex, i can verify that as a personal experience, even though I'm a male i expect the same holds true for the flipside.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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I'm not looking for sex, I'm looking for a serious, long-term, committed relationship, seriously, wo Posted: 8/31/2009 12:28:11 PM
Stop whining, I'm 25 coming up to 26 and i haven't had any physical contact or friendship with women yet, they just don't take to me very well. In your mind you seem to already be set on the idea approaching women never works and you want one to pursue you and show she likes you, i can understand that because i have felt the same but its a self destructive path.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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are guys scared off by confident women who make the first move? Posted: 8/31/2009 12:13:46 PM
Some are i guess, i probably would be taken aback and would need to let whats happening settle in for a few seconds.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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How far would you go to put someone off you ladies? Posted: 8/30/2009 11:21:37 AM
No it will stop anyone from seeing your profile, and the thread is on the profile, it will still appear there though after you unhide. You gave her the opportunity to think about it and since she doesn't know what she wants, she opted to keep you on the line. FFS why do i always get the crazies, i do not pull on a line that's cast so i can be one of many choices and kept on hold until the woman decides who she wants. (she contacted me first)

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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When say you miis someone then ignore them Posted: 8/30/2009 11:16:44 AM
Its not healthy at all to pursue this woman, i would say cut her off, she had her chance and blew it, then blew it again, maybe one day she will mature.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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How far would you go to put someone off you ladies? Posted: 8/30/2009 10:53:03 AM
First off, I'm an idiot, i have most likely been duped and stringed along by a woman who was blatantly dropping signs that she wanted to cut me loose but just couldn't say it in any logical, direct way. First off we mailed each other on here, it went pretty well, we moved to msn as its a free easy medium and does not suffer the 5-6 minute delay's between responses, chatted for hours and exchanged pictures, swapped phone numbers and more pictures (all decent mind, no dirty stuff) Was going great, and contact suddenly ceased, she was not online on msn, didn't return calls or text messages, so after a week i was thinking i have been dropped, i wrote a text saying i will be deleting her number, her handle for msn, and not bothering her anymore and that i am disappointed she wasn't more mature about letting me go. Well that got a response, apparently her nan had taken a fall and was in hospital, she's been by her side every day and not on the pc, or the phone (lies, she was active on the dating site, i frequently look at my favorites to see who's online to chat to.) Well i gave that the benefit of the doubt, i apologized for being an idiot, she apologized for leaving me completely in the dark and things got partially back to normal, i was sympathetic and supportive, understanding and she told me she would get in touch when she's got herself together. Well suffice to say its been a while now, and while it may sound callous i wish she would at least let me know she's still alive and well, or something, i really opened up to this woman, we talked about everything and shared everything about each other, seems i was played for a dupe the whole time or something, i don't know, none of it makes sense. Looking back, she did remark she was worried to tell me things that she thinks might put me off, she was a bigger girl, well bigger than average but not overweight, she was scared seemingly that would put me off, I'm not that shallow. She also wanted to confess that her ex came over while she was grieving to offer support, they slept together and she didn't use protection, asked me for advice saying she had never done that before, she was apparently worried that would put me off and warned me before telling me, i said go ahead and stayed open minded, told her what i would suggest. (morning after pill, checks for std's) Reflecting on those, they may have been things to throw me off without hurting my feelings, as so many women try to do, maybe her nan is alive and well, she's off the radar now and i've gotten rid of her number etc, just not told her about it, but seriously, wtf...why not just tell me she met someone, or she's not interested, tell the truth dammit. Why on earth would any woman go to such elaborate lengths and make up that stuff rather than just say a few simple words, it can't be that hard -_- She won't see this thread, my profile is hidden, and so, seemingly is hers, or deleted. I may well be wrong, driving myself a bit crazy trying to figure out wtf is going on and she may get try to get in touch but its looking doubtful, shame, i really liked her and was looking forward to meeting :(, now i must put it all behind me. If anyone wants to point out where i possibly went wrong, what i shouldn't have done, go ahead, i know roughly what was mistakes but whatever i did and said was not with anger or bad intentions, mostly longing for contact.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Why view a profile and imediately block? Posted: 8/30/2009 10:21:27 AM
You freaked her out by implying going camping together when she knows little about you, if this was a world where no-one had bad intentions that wouldn't go down so bad, but men rape and kill so women are initially extremely cautious of a guy wanting to take a women somewhere alone, especially camping in the middle of nowhere, she probably thinks you want to kill her and bury her in the woods.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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shes busy Posted: 8/29/2009 9:19:55 AM
"Said she had forgot she had to do something with her friend and was only available on Saturday morning. I had previously said I was busy on Saturday morning. So I said right do it on Saturday morning and change my plans. She said she was now also busy." That's an obvious cop out, she doesn't want to meet anymore and she doesn't want to tell you.

simon23

Joined: 11/18/2006

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Help me here - what to do after meeting a psycho? Posted: 8/23/2009 7:39:55 AM
A handful of text messages, some im's and emails do not equal stalking and i think the police have better things to do than see to a personal squabble between a lovelorn date and a guy who doesn't want to know. Simply ignore her and she will stop if you don't react to her attempts at contact, its like a flame, if you keep pouring fuel on it, it will never go out, leave it alone and it will die down.

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