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phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

Msg: 118 (view)

Guys do you think Marriage is worth it? Posted: 6/28/2005 5:43:29 PM
Bucsgirl, Your reply to germanicus was so good that I just had to read your profile. Really you are one clever, witty, intelligent young lady. You have got to be fun to be around. Germanicus is best understood from the perspective of one who might have read most of tiellhard's writings. He is absolutely right but is really in agreement with you just the same. To the topic: Marriage is definitely worth it in every respect (assuming there is respect). I've done it twice and have no regrets and neither do my ex wives. Relationships can and do frequently grow into successful and happy marriages. Those that whimper and whine about that which was disappointing, need to just get over it. Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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What happened to the sex drive of men over the age of 25???? Posted: 6/28/2005 4:59:25 PM
Jolie, I havent posted in a long time. But your question sure got me to wondering if you were putting us on or something. I know the supposed peak is about 19 for men on average. For me that peak was about 7 times per day. I never noticed a drop off although it definetly has dropped off. Its longer and much more intimate and caring and all in all much better than when quantity seemed to be the measure of the man. I guess I didn't notice the drop off because I was enjoying the increased quality too much to notice. I never remember not needing it 2 or three times a day until most recently (I'm 63). For the past couple years, I find Once or twice a week with the same one (assuming monogamy) is fullfilling and satisfying. I cant imagine only "giving" it a couple times a month to a loved one. You gotta be kidding. But then, maybe I'll be talking differently in another 10 to 15 years. Its gotta die sometime before I do, .. or...does it really? Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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MEN's ISSUES Posted: 1/2/2005 9:01:49 PM
Good for you Squeak. Great attitude.

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Sucky Christmas????? Posted: 1/2/2005 8:50:01 PM
Sucky xmas my butt! Most wonderful and appreciated one I ever had. Lost thousands$$$$$. But gained life. I drove 9 hours one way to Iowa just to deliver 2 electric motor cycles to my 2 grandsons. They were overwhelmed with delight. The weather cycle required I only spend a couple days. On the return trip I rolled my van. (one and a half times). As that van run amuck on its own accross 4 lanes and down about 75 feet and did the tumbling act, many many thoughts race through the super emotionally charged brain. When it finally did settle on its top. and as I hang upside down, I took a quick inventory of my body, I noted my hands opened and closed just fine, all limbs were present and accounted for, I saw no blood anywhere. Quickly I thought of possible fire and immediately undid the seat belt (and fell down to the roof) and climbed out the now gone window. A guy who had stopped to help was walking down the ditch and I was practically dancing around with delight equal to what I earlier saw in my grandkids. I said WOW! This is great! WOW! (I couldn't quit saying WOW!) To the question "Are you OK", I answer WOW! you bet. WOW! Isn't this remarkable". "Are you not hurt in any way" no, isn't that unbelievable. WOW! I lost my vehicle but so what. That can be replaced. My one time shot in this vale of joy cannot be replaced. What would be the unimaginable grief and sorrow to my children, grand children and all those who know and love me if this accident turned out differently, which by all rights it should have. I feel terribly about that young lady on POF who is mentioned on another thread and is in a coma from a auto accident. My heart goes out to her and particularly to all those that know and love her. So my experience occured late on xmas nite. I'll remember it forever and with deep appreciation. No Virginia, there is no santa but every xmas will always be a happy rememberance for me. Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Does anyone else feel like I do? Posted: 1/2/2005 8:08:21 PM
Hi georgie' Stifle that occassional throw in the towel mood. If you were not here my interest would be diminished. I like the things you say and the way you say it. Many gain from your forum participation, including myself. Like you new picture. Very nice, less glamour but more you. Phil PS: Your parameters are fine. Just wish I met them. Someone will and he'll have good healthy viagra free erections LOL (Like Me)

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Broken hearts and wounded people Posted: 12/21/2004 8:47:08 PM
A great thread georgie. Should we wait till healed of all issues before giving it another go around?. No! No waiting room! When all issues are really gone it'll be because of the efficiency of the good old worm farm. Slim chance you'll find your 'soul mate' in the soil. First, however, must be past grief (grieving) stage immediately following a heart rending loss. And your issues must not be concealed. If you're not honest (and at an opportune time), then shame on you and welcome to your next bout of grief. Georgie, you have dealt with many ups and downs and gained much wisdom in short years. In your specific case, I would say when you function well enough to pose the question, then you have gained enough from both the horrid and the not so horrid and are ready to move on. There are always going to be residuals of the past that can be construed as issues. Who knows, but, that the next focus of your heart may carry loving remedies of great benefit to the residual issues. With warmth and much regard I hope you have a really MERRY CHRISTMAS. Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Christmas Greetings Posted: 12/21/2004 7:52:04 PM
If this holiday season didnt exist, I'd make a motion to invent it. It's soooooo meaningful to see such complete sincerety and feeling that complete strangers are able to express to cyberspace counterparts. A season of LOVE. You are all very human and very beautiful. May the joy you want for others return to you a hundredfold. Love, Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Are you old-fashioned too? Posted: 12/20/2004 11:55:42 AM
Hey pink, I'm 2 generations older than you. You seem to really have a good attitude. If you were my daughter I'd applaud you. I can easily adapt to the "old fashioned" ones. My drive has diminished enough that I no longer worry about spontaneous erections anymore. LOL Oh boy, to have that teenagers problem again. Personally, (and this is going to iritate a lot of guys) I've always passed negative judgement on any guy who professed waiting for the girl for months on end. I dont believe him. I think he's lying and just being a phony to someone, mostly to himself. I think celebacy is nice for those that want it but it doesn't work for those that prefer sex. This can be verified by your local priest. If, after several dates, my (LOL 'true'love LOL) still clings to her fears of being hurt because of sex, then obviously her sexual life is going to continue to hurt. I,m gone. She is not honest about her own needs or lack thereof. She's not honest to me. Ladies, if you really believe that that Mr. Saint is out there and he's looking for the one that eaisly holds back the natural course of things, there is a bridge in brooklyn you might want to invest in. Pink has the most rational, honest attitude I've read in this thread. Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Death Penalty Posted: 12/19/2004 4:03:21 PM
I really wonder.....If the death penalty is such a deterrent how would one explain Scott's behavior to Laci's parents?

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Death Penalty Posted: 12/18/2004 3:34:15 PM
Phil's 2cents When we become perfect of any error possible, then and only then, should we put others to death. Now is that oxymoronic or what. If we were perfect,. killing of any type would not exist. What if, just what if, if Scott Peterson were in truth actually only a victum of circumstantial evidence. And what if this came to light after we killed him. Extremely unlikely....but......what if..... Scott, in my opinion deserves to be killed a minimum of 2 times. Advances in medicine in some future utopia (?? some utopia eh??) may very well make it so we could resusitate him and bring him back for a second killing. Now for appropiate effect we need to delay the second killing so he has ample thinking time about his impending death. He may go out of his mind if we keep doing this. Then we'll have to provide services to bring him back to sanity so we could kill him again. ( Aint civilization great bye,bye,Scott.) If you want Scott to suffer most give him a irreversible, no hope whatsoever, life sentence. When it is without any hope, his life becomes barren except for any self redemption he may give himself. In death row he is too caught up in his own lies to himself as a survival instinct as he pursues the HOPE that lies in appeals. His suffering in death row is much less. The other prisioners in a life sentence will get him anyway. He'll always be watching his back. But in death row he is too well protected. Remember, you heard it here first. The judge will NOT sentence him to death. Phil's done

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Free Will.......Really? Posted: 12/18/2004 2:51:36 PM
I am dyslexic dog and so are you. Time does not exist. There is only the NOW. don't think about it just be. Be here now. Herein lies all eternity. Free will is of no consequence whatsoever. Be here now. BEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE HHHHHHHEEEEEEEEEEEEERE NOOOOOOOOOOOOW

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Mens Underwear Posted: 12/18/2004 12:19:13 PM
Cubic, Luv ya darlin, you are just too cute and clever. Phil

phillucky

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Mens Underwear Posted: 12/17/2004 9:48:38 PM
Yeah Cubic: I really did. But it wasn't one pair. Now I can be honest and say I truly have a six pack(or is it 'sex pac'. Burgandy, mauve, teal, light blue, paisley and another color I dont want to tell about and can never wear LOL (what if I were in an accident). Hated boxers after 3 years of Marine Corps issue. Its a PPPP issue (pouting penis peeking problem) Plus they are too hard to fold perfectly for the weekly junk on the bunk inspections. Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Mens Underwear Posted: 12/16/2004 1:36:18 PM
Phil's 2cents I've been giggled at for my lifetime of tighty whities. Even gotten suprise gifts that I disliked. Lately I picked up a pkg of tighty colors. But after this thread I'm going to stash a couple of pairs of the silk boxers. I'd love it and really get a laugh if some sweet thang were into pilfering my panties. LOL Phil's done

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Re: Is Thin Still In?? Posted: 12/16/2004 1:04:18 PM
Phil's 2cents: Yes, thin is still in. But not for much longer. I think the voluptuous is more attractive but not necessarily more healthy. Moreover Obesity is a major health problem. Boy, Mr. rectifier is confused and obviously inexperienced about his "punjaby(s)" , (appologi es to all the good hindu people out there). If you take 2 identical "punjaby(s)" and add additional meat (flesh, adipose) to one and not the other, tell me which one is going to be more comfortable fitting? Would some nurse out there please explain to Mr rectifier about transitional epithelial tissue and elastin. And how about lips, would you rather kiss skinny or plump?? Don't answer, that's rhetorical. P.S. I like tall women, also. My self I like the flesh. Mysty recently added a second photo to her profile. Take two guesses. Which is more approachable and which is more elegant. Which gives you an impulse to Hug? Sorry Mysty. This really is a compliment to you. Both are beautiful. Phil's done.

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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What Turns You Off?? Posted: 12/15/2004 10:35:08 PM
If I was the origional apeman, and Mrs. ape smoked, there would be no human race today. Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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What happened the year your were born? Posted: 12/13/2004 11:56:58 PM
Don't feel bad rainsought. The year you were born, I was a Marine infantryman on a Landing Ship Transport floating around Cuba, waiting for the signal to invade. WHEEEEEEEEEW! Life span: 7 seconds if you got to the land. I cherish every day of life. Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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What happened the year your were born? Posted: 12/13/2004 11:46:22 PM
Ticket : Your info about 1st computer is incorrect. In, 1959 I worked at Phila.Nat.Bank. They had a hugh computer. I wanted to learn programming there. It was done by repositioning electric wire pins into large array of sockets which in turn directed the machine to punch holes in cards representing alpha/numeric information about a given customer's activity. You could take thousands of cards to a sorter to glean out only those that shared a commonality. Like all who did a deposit tody, or maybe zip codes (of course they didnt use zip codes back then. The first computer was built for us gov war department in 1945 by sperry rand of blue bell Pa. It took up a large city block 15 stories high with an equal sized building used only for aircondititoning to keep all the millions of vacuum tubes cool. It dont equal a cheap caculator today. Exactly one month of the day I was born, Japan bombed Pearl Harbor. So one could guess what a hectic year that must have been.

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Change from Do Not Rate My Pic to Rate My Pic Posted: 12/13/2004 10:50:28 PM
Hi misty, Phil at the rescue. At the top of screen where you click for 'Forums' , just left of 'Forums' is a 'Rate People Box. Left click here. New window will include a blue print 'Rate Me' which is right under the 'Rate People' box you had clicked on prior window. If you right click on the blue 'Rate Me' you'll get a new window for uploading. Now I know how to do it too. LOL I'll be first to rate you. Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Just a quick question to everyone! Posted: 12/13/2004 12:11:35 PM
Phil's 2cents: Kel1506, I read your profile. There are lots of young guys that would like to just communicate with one so delightful. You'll be getting emails. Keep posting, it brings out a lot about yourself. Guarantee: If someone really understood and knew you completely, they would very much like you/love you. Be who you are and let others be able to read it in your posts. Alaeddin: If you get a 'read/delete' it means ONLY...... that you got a 'read/delete' Now if you get a 'read/delete/feel bad about it' then thats different. But I don't think they have a check box for that yet. I bet we could get a few laughs by making a list of alternate 'read/delete' messages. IE: 'read/delete/up yous', 'read/delete/gotohllMF' How about 'read/delete/you don't have enough money and you look ugly. bet you're stupid and have a lot of deep seated psychopathic perversions, you a*hle geek mudderF' LOL Peace2U: What a lovely lady you are. Celle belle: I cant email you anyway. You want 27-40ish. Good Luck busy lady you dont need a profile. I wouldn't either if I used your picture. You might attract the very shallow one. Easy2: You are very correct. Leon bm: Its culture, man. Or, more precisely, the lack thereof. Women have to be cautious in this world of ours. They get used, abused, mistreated and attacked in more ways and more often than you realize. Male species is not always a 'real nice culture'. We must prove we can be while maintaining the pursuit.

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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why are most people on Posted: 12/13/2004 9:27:24 AM
There are as many adjendas as there are people. Except when one may have 2, 3, 4 or more adjendas. Phil

phillucky

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Re: Bush isn't to bright. Posted: 12/12/2004 9:37:12 PM
Sumz ob youse guys isn't not two smartt to. Yours Truly, GWB

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Anyone lost a Great Relationship due to dif Religious Beliefs ? Posted: 12/12/2004 8:42:30 PM
I have spiritual beliefs, NOT religious. I'm very much anti religion. If, reading through profiles, I see a dyslexic dog more than once, I'm gone. Bingo, outta here. No mas. Finito! Happily, it could never happen that I would lose a relationship because of religion. I could never get one going to start with. Thank dog! However, that said, a cold hard scientific only humanist/atheist is hard to swallow too. I am always looking for and attracted to the spiritual people.

phillucky

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FREINDS Posted: 12/12/2004 8:13:00 PM
Friend!!? Just from a one sided view, everyone on the POF who has about the same moral fiber as I,(no golden showers) has good gifts to bring, shares well but not pedanticlyand of high integrity and self esteem. Oh yeah gotta like sex too. So just about every one I've interacted with qualifies. Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Making your sex life better for your partner.... Posted: 12/12/2004 8:01:39 PM
no offense please. Just kidding. You just opened youself up too wide. I'm sure I'll give you plenty of chances .

phillucky

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Making your sex life better for your partner.... Posted: 12/12/2004 7:59:41 PM
STUPID

phillucky

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Does the pussy ever get bigger Posted: 12/11/2004 9:17:22 PM
Many moons ago I cuddled up to this sweet young thang, squeezed her and suggested..."Boy would I like to have a little p*ussy" She quickly identified with what she thought was a plight for me and said, "Yeah, me too, .....mine's as big as a house". Phil

phillucky

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Does the pussy ever get bigger Posted: 12/11/2004 9:06:41 PM
Many moons ago I cuddled up to this sweet young thang, squeezed her and suggested..."Boy would I like to have a little " She quickly identified with what she thought was a plight for me and said, "Yeah, me too, .....mine's as big as a house". Phil

phillucky

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I like Older Women because........ Posted: 12/11/2004 8:53:01 PM
Rose, You are quick, clever, witty, snappy and oh sooo funny. And wonderful eye candy. Phil

phillucky

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A Few Extra Pounds Posted: 12/11/2004 6:21:16 PM
I love slimfast. They are really good tasting to me. I even got to the point of drinking them when I was off diet. Even dunked donuts in slim fast. How could you ever have just one or two?

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Tips, Do’s and Don’ts for Internet dating: Posted: 12/11/2004 5:41:49 PM
OOPs it dot net not dot com

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Tips, Do’s and Don’ts for Internet dating: Posted: 12/11/2004 5:33:16 PM
Georgie, You really have a condipendium of lists. Most (nearly all) are very good. All are very interesting. The one above contains too many things for me. How could someone function with worrying about everything so much. I dont worry about any of those things. Some I'd even like the interesting challange. But then I,m a fearless 6'3" ex marine still very fast (for when I need to run) and capable (if I dont want to run). Who'd want to get at me anyway? Some nut?..i KNOW i'M NOT INVULNERABLE, but it feels good to be free. Not withstanding, I'm glad you wrote it. But certainly for the more (or less) delicate gender. Phil BTW Some on at the top of this page is trying to make contact w/u. I've tried on another post. My email is phillucky@iquest.com Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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A Few Extra Pounds Posted: 12/11/2004 12:19:11 AM
Boy this rag could drag on forever. I might as well jump in and give my 2 (cant find the cents symbol) worth. Fat girls and sweaty hands. Shallow is definitely the term used by many who make judgements about such. Mystical types too good and too fast. He sometimes gets his fingers outpacing his brain and better sense. And boy if a lady bruises him a little, look out. M did not pass judgement on anyone because of being fat. He merely took offense at being lied to or tricked or led on. Remember, to take offense is just as uncharitable as it is to give offense. As much as one might try, being perfectly honest is totally impossible. High integrity is much more charitable and achievable. I think Mystical was being honest from his own perspective. He is missing something and I mean missing out on a lot. BUTT, how much worse would it be if he pretended otherwise for societal sake and made his own life more miserable and dated big beautiful women. To thine own self be true. Thats what he is doing. And the BBWs gain by it. Now, my experiences with the fattys. I love ya to pieces. Not always though. I could relay a couple of experiences of 40+ years ago when I had partaken of the pleasantly plump. One time a 250 pounder (a fun bar pal) wanted sex, and I in the 1960's was very undiscriminating. Hell yeah, getting off was gettin off at least at that age. Well, to make a fat story thin, we couldn't do it. Simply too much thigh and abdominal adipose tissue for their to be a physical contact between my penis and her vagina. , So I kept an attitude (did you pick up on that undiscriminating comment) and stayed away from the obese at least for mating purposes. This attitude kept me from enjoying really a lot of very wonderful ladies over the years. I didn't know this of course until 40 years later I got involved with another obesity. (BTW, I am obese by definition). I really liked her and wanted to continue the greatest sex I ever had. And it didn't happen till I trully got past my own hang ups. In the self soul searching I had to come to terms with my interpretations of what or how society might be thinking of me being with a fat girl. Wheeeeeeew!!!!! Thats shallow but true. When I got past that, I had growth in a lot more areas too. The relationship shifted to an almost a sex only one though. And there is much more than that. The insecurities imposed and attidues developed in our society because of weight take a terrible toll on too many. The thing I'm thinking about is in the devastating damage done to sensitive people by unthinking people or those to quick with the tongue or too fast the typing before the brain shifts in gear. I could show you, physiologic proof that if the body matabolism was 100% efficient and you didn't use the enery, that 1 bottle of Pepsi injested can be converted to 10 pounds of glycoprotiens. For myself, I very much would love a fat or skinny person as log as they shared commonality, had integrity and were charitable about faults (both her's and mine) Bless you mystical, you accidentally made a lot of people think. Sorry bout the bruises tho. Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Spending Xmas alone near Sudbury or North Bay? Posted: 12/10/2004 6:37:00 PM
Hi Georgie, If you email me with your email address I would like to email you. Maybe even get a scrabble game going over the internet. You seem very, very nice. I hope you really do have a wonderful christmas. I,m pretty sure you will, you are very resourceful and capable. Oh, you meant the email of this site?? Oh dumb me. I'm not sure about getting a photo to you till I figure our how to do it. But then I'm not so much into getting a relationship going anyway with someone I am very unlikely to ever meet. I just like you. You are really nice. I live in Muncie, Indiana. I'll be doing christmas in Iowa with my kids and grandkids. Its always a great joy. So I have a have a nine hour drive each way. I do it about 4 times a year. So it's really not too bad, I'm used to it. My email is phillucky@iquest.net Kindest regards, Phil The above was an email I tried sending you through POF but to no avail. I hope your decision to not accept out of Canada messages is a reflection of localness you would like rather than a dislike for Americans. What with the "Bush" thing and everything, I can say I wouldn't blame you. Now everyone has my email but I dont sweat it. Remember the lyrics of 'Billy McGee'. I'm a lot freer than the spam freaks.

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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When you know it's right? Posted: 12/9/2004 3:18:26 PM
Georgie, You are great even when you're bummed out. You said earlier in this thread that he didnt show his emotions. But you describe body language that very clearly shows where he is at, not with you. If I be allowed the indulgence of judgement based on photos and written words, you deserve much better. If he knows where you are coming from and still cant respond appropiately, then you are open for much heartbreak. Phil

phillucky

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What are you prepared to give and do? Posted: 12/9/2004 2:38:08 PM
Wow! Georgie, you play chess too. I thought I was impressed till you said that. Now I'm floored. That definitely would figure in my dream list. But I'd always win anywayLOL. You seem very intelligent so I'll give that you may take a few games of scrabble on my unlucky days. My real dream would include an aficianado(a) of chess that trilled with the pursuit of improvement. Now you know my real love...darnit

phillucky

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What are you prepared to give and do? Posted: 12/9/2004 2:22:54 PM
If its the woman of my 'dreams' she'd have everything I could possibly give. But the woman of my dreams is already, by definition, the perfect mate in every way. Impossible, but perfect just the same. The stepford wife that wasnt a robot? LOL. I dont think I would find any reasonable facimile in dating. I'm more of the idea that she would share my view that we both acknowledge the enormous benefit open to both in that 50/50 relationship (150/30 or 20/200 is in truth how it works out and is only sustained by LOVE, real sincere deep LOVE)

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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How Do You Rate The Importance of Sex In A Relationship Posted: 12/9/2004 1:34:01 PM
most are happy as long as the sex continues and doesn't dwindle. Would you be happy if the sex dwindled? It is certainly not everything, but there are enough things to thwart life giving loving without us actively thinking it might be better if it 'dwindled'.

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Is it bad when you email everyone within 50 miles whos active and dont get 1 email.... Posted: 12/9/2004 1:06:09 PM
I liked your handle. I guessed maybe you were into tai chi and liked spas. Bj are you initials? It made me look at your profile. Very nice. I dont know what the raiders are but if thats a real important part of his life then be who you are. There are many nice ladies that are into sports too. Raiders are sports er ah ?futboll? I'd be more into that forrestry nomenclature project but I would expect many turn downs. so what?

phillucky

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Is it bad when you email everyone within 50 miles whos active and dont get 1 email.... Posted: 12/9/2004 12:43:03 PM
ISMITH has really got it right. I'd just add...Remember there are many on here with completely different ajendas than the purposes you are here for.

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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age gap Posted: 12/9/2004 12:34:21 PM
Hey funkinrock, that is not much of an age gap. Go for it. Stay off the booze at all costs. That life of the party view is only seen by a drunken perspective. Good Luck.

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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age gap Posted: 12/9/2004 12:19:12 PM
I disagree with Otis, too. I'm 63 and on this free service. I come on because I was/am open for happy, loving, good times. I'm suprised how much I actually am posting instead of really using the search button. ??Maybe getting ego kicks this way??? Anyhooo, I can fantasize all I want to about younger women. When I say younger women in this fantacy I'm day dreaming 18 to 25 or 30. I do get a laugh when some young lady is talking about how much more mature the older man is, wiser, more conserate, settled, etc,etc and then she referrs to someone maybe yet in 20s or early 30s. You know when we get done with sex and are about our lives, communication is very nice. What would I talk to you about. How you still dislike someone who stole your cheerleading position and later got your boyfriend?? WOW. I might show interest and concern but really I'm gagging and puking inside. It would be a constant effort to be a receptive life mate simply because we would be too much out of sync. Don't think I wouldn't love you and your body. My realism would kick in and I would simply be in the loving father role eventually. Not a mutually sharing life. I dont think someone in their 40s is too young for someone in their 60s but they must have compatable interests and I don't mean in geriatric studies. It makes me laugh. My daughter (26) says "dirt,dad, You're older than dirt." or "How did you manage to get saddles on those dinosaurs" My experience is that the 50 somethings are much much better. Society has made them worry about weight even when, they dont know that they are really much more voluptuous. They are much better at sharing lifes histories and joys. "Where were you when Kennedy got shot?" Do you remember the "day the music died?" Wasn't it great when the "effete snob" Agnew got his upcommings. What year wer you in when the Kent State students were murdered by our national guard? Hey, my point is that there is a life of experiences that need sharing simply because they constitute who you are. Lots of sex can be lots of fun and dont be fooled girls, that "older" man can be much more fun but dont bet your life on it. That is the trade off. Now, if only I could get paid for this stuff.

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

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Telling her you lover her when making love Posted: 12/9/2004 11:16:10 AM
Its the greatest. 10 to 16...no change. 16 to 28....no change. Wow feminin I'd love to be around to see your reactions when one day you'll be saying 28 to 63...no change

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

Msg: 23 (view)

Telling her you lover her when making love Posted: 12/9/2004 11:03:17 AM
He 'Feminin', it does so count in bed. And everywhere else too.

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

Msg: 61 (view)

Is 14 to young to be a MOMMY Posted: 12/9/2004 10:58:58 AM
If you are 14 when giving birth, you were 13 something when getting pregnant. Reherse if you will, what advise would you give your son in a very short nine years if he acted or expressed as if birth control is not important.? Think about it. You are asking the wrong question. It doesn't matter what occured 4 or 5 years ago. Your focus now should be how can I be the best to this blessing I have. Personally, I think you are doing a remarkable great job.

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

Msg: 5 (view)

Why are men affraid of commitment????/ Posted: 12/9/2004 10:35:39 AM
Oh, I want to add, rings do get caught on things and can almost rip off a finger. I remember next day after 2nd wedding I had to move a pile of bricks. Without thinking I tackled the job assertively, got done quickly, to have my new wife point out the many scratches on the plain gold band. I got it repolished but later could see some danger if I forgot to take it off. Particularly if you actively use your hands alot in mechanical labor.

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

Msg: 3 (view)

Why are men affraid of commitment????/ Posted: 12/9/2004 10:27:00 AM
I don't know why men are afraid of committment. It might be bread in us back in cave man days when total freedom was required for hunting, teritorial, or making sure a species got populated. But now, back here in civilization, we need to deal with the new reality. Your bf sounds like he might be committed but dont want the societal interpretations. Is he a good partner in all the other ways. Has he ever gave you reason why you might suspect an interest in other mates? Does he contribute to upkeep, maintanence, and income responsibility that a committed person would. Is the deep intimacy there? Can you both really let guard down and open up all vulnerable areas with open trust? There is allways areas for growth. Try to enhance these things. If you are actually in a rewarding committed relationship, enjoy it, nurture it and help it grow. The outward 'societal' symbols may or may not come, so what. Just look at how many times the symbols are scorned in the divorce courts. Good luck, Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

Msg: 35 (view)

Men...Your Opinion Is Needed Here Posted: 12/7/2004 12:56:54 PM
"Sir, excuse me, .....(already his receptivity would be readable. His eyes and attention would spell out interest) "I caught your eye a moment ago.... (your pause gives him a chance to respond to your discomfort)..."and I.... well I was just think.....tell me if you would....well ....I was sitting over there and was thinking some nice thoughts about you.............(now a really pregnant pause). If he hasn't interjected something at this point then your continuation could go anywhere imaginable, like..."I dont want to be a complainer but did you find the coffee here a little bit more bitter today?...This is if you decided to forget it and if he is only dead-pan listening as if playing a suprise poker hand. If he had responded and you feel a mutual interest/couriosity, just motion to the empty chair and suggest with "is anyone joining you shortly?" Remember you are approqaching a complete stranger. His encounter is the same. What if he was a deaf mute? or a..etc,etc. But don't dissuade yourself only because of feeling silly, foolish, or uncomforable. If he is a truly good human being, he will immediately empathise and attempt to interject comforting words. Your discomfort is an asset in that it will wean out insensitive dudds, jerks, clowns, etc. that wouldn't be a good friend anyway. Use your discomfort to your good. Every stage performer in the world knows the benfit of butterflies in the stomach. Dont try to deminish yours. And don't be afraid of failure for it will help keep butterflies active. I am a very outgoing, gregqarious active optomist, but secretely, quietly, nervously, I go thru this every time I walk over to some table to ask one of the ladies for a dance. ....Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

Msg: 31 (view)

WOW......im so hurt! your lucky my friend Posted: 12/6/2004 2:59:03 PM
I'll sell or give you my name. You should feel lucky. A seemingly wonderful person came into you life and got you to know feelings and have feelings. You've grown a lot and dont't know it yet. I love lovegoddess's perceptions until they start showing paranoia. Possible your girlfriend is just very young and undecided, maybe confused. Regardless, move on. You gained a lot by loving someone deeply. Move on. More and more growth opportunities are around the corner. Be courageous and make the turn. Hurt, hurt,and hurt some more. It will happen. You've tasted love so now apply it. Love again. Phil

phillucky

Joined: 12/4/2004

Msg: 15 (view)

I need some advise! Posted: 12/6/2004 2:18:35 PM
If you believe in stereo types, Latinos are allways sweet and excellent when in pursuit. More importantly, you may very well have the man of your dreams. I think its sweet the worry you expess over parental influnence, but consider if you really want to be like them in this predjudice thing. Your life and what you innoculate into you children will be having its effects long after your parents are gone. Live your life, be who YOU are. Remember the whites are allways sweet and excellent when in pursuit.

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