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fawn122148

Joined: 11/21/2006

Msg: 44 (view)

Is my gut right but I am to stupid to see it Posted: 6/2/2007 12:46:30 PM
If he is telling other women that he is still trying to figure your relationship out, that should tell you something. Help him figure it out. Tell him to hit the road. One woman will never be enough for him. I know what it is like to care about someone who is only half way committed to a relationship. The other half is for someone else. You need to find someone who is into you and you only. Good luck

fawn122148

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I am confused what is the diffrence between a best friend and a boyfriend Posted: 5/28/2007 6:30:10 PM
Sounds to me like your relationship is that of " friends with benefits".

fawn122148

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Msg: 80 (view)

Would you get involved in a violent domestic row ? Posted: 5/24/2007 8:34:07 AM
The only way anyone should get involved is by calling law inforcement. Even they will tell you that ,domestic violence is one of the most dangerous situations to get involved in. As someone had posted, " when he interviened, the lady turned on him" this is common in domestic violence situations. I have a scanner and last night there was a 911 call. Squad called for 2 victims. Don't know full details but, one had been hit with a car, the other hit in the head with a hammer, lifeflight called. Anytime squads are called to domestics, law inforcement is called . EMS personell is not allowed to enter the primeses until the law arrives. This should tell you something. Call 911.

fawn122148

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How do you get over the pain of cheating? Posted: 5/4/2007 4:40:59 AM
It takes time but, i think i would be more angry than hurt. I would be thanking my lucky stars that my children are not being exposed to this life style. And you should focus on your children. They are what is really important here. I am sure you cannot understand her behavior so, what do you think your children are thinking? They have to wonder if you are going to leave too. They may even think they may be the reason she left. Children think all kinds of things when this happens. You need to assure them , you are there for them and always will be. Like i said, focus on the children. Good luck

fawn122148

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Msg: 53 (view)

Is a man ever worth heartache? Posted: 5/4/2007 4:33:38 AM
Why on earth would you regret it after he dumped you twice for other women ? Maybe you have a low self esteem of yourself or do not know what your self worth is. In your picture , you appear to be a beautiful woman. From what you have said, it seems this guy is looking for a certain girl and when he does not find her, he comes back to you. There are to many good men in this world to be mistreated by one.

fawn122148

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why do minds and hearts fight with each other Posted: 5/4/2007 4:28:25 AM
You get into trouble when you let your heart rule your head. Just take your time and time will tell you what you need to know. Good luck

fawn122148

Joined: 11/21/2006

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Do I / Dont I??????? Posted: 5/4/2007 4:25:46 AM
Look very deep before you leap. This is not right. I do not know either one of you but, i smell something and you must really be thinking about doing this to be on here asking what you should do? I would tell hin i need more time to think about this. If he does not want to give you that time then you know where you really stand with him. I dated a guy for three months and he moved in with me. That did not work mainly because he did not have the nads to stand up to his ex-wife and if he had cared for me as he said he did, he would have told her to move on. I would really think this over. Good luck

fawn122148

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My girlfriend has a friend Posted: 5/4/2007 4:10:07 AM
With her knowing how you feel about her " freind " why would she tell you he likes her more than just as a friend? No pun intended but, something smells fishy here. If she has real feeling for you, she should be working on that relationship. Ask her how she would feel if you had a female friend and act like she is not in the room and talk on the phone to this woman? You have already told her how you feel so,why don't you wish her and her " friend well " and, let her off the hook and go fishing again. I could not imagine doing that to someone i cared about. I know there are people who have friends of the opposite sex as friends but, you usually do not have this reaction from your mate or that gut feeling.

fawn122148

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Guy I met online keeps asking for money Posted: 4/29/2007 9:38:32 AM
Dah! if the school sent him over there, the school will bring him back Don't give that sucker the time of day anymore.

fawn122148

Joined: 11/21/2006

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Beware: eHarmony sucks... Posted: 4/29/2007 9:32:28 AM
E-Harmony is supposed to screen their members to find just the right person for you. They hooked my daughter up with an ex felon down on sexual offenses. She contacted them, told them the DR&C website here in Ohio to check for themselves, sure enough, there he was. They only met and never went any further. She was refunded her money, he was booted off. She is a Corrections Officer for the State Of Ohio, I am a retired officer. We both check out our dates and it may not be a bad idea if others did too. Men and women.

fawn122148

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women friends and warnings... Posted: 4/29/2007 9:13:01 AM
Some people may name names on a thread. Like my daughter who, met a sexual preditor that acually lied about his name on another dating site. She checked him out after she got his real name and sure enought, there he was on the DR&C webpage. This guy lied about his name, job, you name it. He had a felony for sexual battery also, other sexual charges against. This is a NEED TO KNOW THING! I met a guy that ended up being bi-sexual. He also lied on his profile. Would i name him( you bet ) he is local and this is also, no rumor but a proven fact. I think only if it can be proven, should they be exposed for who and what they are. We cannot have people out here simply naming names because they are pssd off at someone, but prove, post it. There needs to be a safety net somewhere. Maybe these dating sites needs to take a step further in screening who is on their site. The guy my daughter met was on E-Harmony who, is supposed to be one of the better sites in screening potential dating partners, what a laugh! She contacted them and told which DR&C website to go to here in Ohio and, they saw for themselves and he was booted off of the site her money was refunded and she no longer is on E-Harmony. Can't say as i blame her.

fawn122148

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Call this Venting, I really don't need any responces Posted: 4/29/2007 8:46:35 AM
I have to say, not many men would do what you have done for a child that is not their own. For his sake and yours, you need to get past her. I don't even want to think about what could have happened to that child had you not been there. I am sure it would not have been good. Please, Please, dump her and try to find yourself a good woman and a good mommy for that boy. They are far and few between, but they are there. Good luck to the both of you.

fawn122148

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Msg: 61 (view)

Most girls lie on this site! Posted: 4/27/2007 8:54:20 PM
I have met men who would not know what an honest, loving, caring woman was even if she sat in his face.

fawn122148

Joined: 11/21/2006

Msg: 63 (view)

I have a honest qustion and you cant laugh k Posted: 4/27/2007 8:41:35 PM
Stick to your wishes and beliefs. You are one in a million. Don't let anyone make you feel bad. There is not reason why you should.

fawn122148

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Msg: 60 (view)

To Sue or not to Sue Posted: 4/27/2007 8:39:09 PM
While you chose to have unprotected sex, you were not given the choice as the whether you wanted to have sex with someone with Herpes. He most cetainly should have told you of his condition. If i sued for anything , it would be for him to pay for half of your medication for life. You were not given the full picture so, maybe you need to show it to him. How many others will he do this to? There is that trust issue again.

fawn122148

Joined: 11/21/2006

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Sexual comments and questions too early... Posted: 4/27/2007 8:18:15 PM
I think sometimes, men and sometimes even women, often touch this subject early because their intentions are to hit it and skip. I feel if they are interested in a serious relationship, they would allow the time to get to know each other. I think by allowing this time, would give each other a chance to show their true colors.This type of person makes me feel like they are very sexually active with multiple partners and could subject someone to STD's . I was very upset when , i met someone for lunch. First meeting. We left our seperate ways at that point. He later called and left a message that he would like to see me again. Lucky me, i had looked on another site and found him on their as bi-sexual and wanting sex with men , women and couples. He was wearing only a G- String. I am straight and i felt offended that he would even contact me. I felt he should have been honest about his sexual preference and let me decide if i wanted to be a part of that type of sexual activity( which, i would not ).There are several men on various dating sites. On the POF and Y. Personals, they come off as being a one woman man wholesome, honest........ You might want to check out the Adult Friend Finder and you will see several of these men on that site with their profile very different then the one they have posted elsewhere. I feel that a person should respect anothers purpose for being on this or any dating site. Example, if you are interested in a long term relationship. If they are not, then i really think they are playing games when they contact you knowing, that is not what they are interested in. After awhile, you tend not to trust others and then they wonder what is wrong with you. I have honestly thought about getting off of the online dating scene. I do not check the sites as often as i used to as, i have found it a waste of time.

fawn122148

Joined: 11/21/2006

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Advice needed on new relationship Posted: 4/25/2007 8:21:58 AM
I have heard it said, if it is meant to be, you will know it. It will be that person that you hate to see leave when the night is over and, you can't hardly wait for their return. If you have any of these feelings, you may have caught yourself a keeper. Good luck

fawn122148

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The W-I-D-E gray line. Posted: 4/21/2007 2:41:27 AM
Men do the same thing. I have 2 ex boyfriends who thought the had got the key to the First National Bank. One had wanted to go to a movie. I could not drive as i had just had my hand operated on. I asked him" when are you going to pick me up"? To make a long story short, we did not go to the movie. The other one would want to take me out to dinner and just as luck would have it, he forgot his credit card ( right ) and it was always, you pay for it, i will pay you back. That never happened. So , i got so i would just leave my purse at home. We were eating out less and less. I do not mind picking up the tab once in awhile but, when it becomes expected of me, i feel like i am just being used.

fawn122148

Joined: 11/21/2006

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Baggage. Good or bad? Posted: 4/21/2007 2:13:40 AM
I agree with Twilight. You have to move on from the past otherwise there can be no future. I do not consider children "baggage" i consider an ex-wife in your life everyday of the week "BAGGAGE ". The problem with my last relationship, my boyfriend and his ex could not get along. She was controlling and had to have her nose in everything. They argued all of the time, she took advantage of every situation she could, full of drama so, the next time you see the word "baggage" it is someone just being up front and honest and at least ask, what kind of baggage are you talking about instead of just assuming you know. When i start a relationship, i tell them up front, this is the first day of our life. I do not mind anyone wanting to talk about a past experience it sometimes helps you to understand why they may or may not be doing something you do not understand but, it should not be a part of daily life.

fawn122148

Joined: 11/21/2006

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My new guy 35 years old does everything for me is this normal Posted: 4/16/2007 5:13:29 PM
I do not know why they like older women but, i sure would like to find one. If you get tired of him, send him my way. You are lucky and hope it works out for you. Maybe you have been hurt to the point you do not think anything good came come from a relationship for you. He could be out with someone else but, chooses to be with you. Relax. Best wishes to the both of you P.S. My sister married a man much younget than her. At first it was for security purposes. Then she feel in love with him. They are heading for their 21st wedding anniversary. So, rock on!

fawn122148

Joined: 11/21/2006

Msg: 29 (view)

disappointing others Posted: 4/16/2007 5:02:44 PM
Don't worry about what your so called friends think and if the guys that are giving static over your relationship, they had a chance to speak up and did not do so. Therefore young lady, enjoy what you have and best wishes.

fawn122148

Joined: 11/21/2006

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Relationships are hard enough without us making it harder by being stupid.. Posted: 4/16/2007 4:53:31 PM
I know there are a lot of people out there that cheat on their partner.I think, they think they are so smart they will never get caught but, they do and then they fear they are going to lose that person. Just because a person cheat on another does not mean they do not love them. Now, i am not saying this is in all cases. Some just don't care, but there are those that would rather take a beating then to go home knowing their spouse or significant other knows about the affair. As for staying after you find out. My husband cheated one me.Trust me, he would have rather taken the beating and was afraid from that day on that i was going to leave him. I stayed and just over 2 years ago he passed away. In doing so, he left me in a position that i could retire early. Neadless to say, while i forgave, i never forgot and i do not regret staying. This is however, the exception, not the rule. I had given him everything i could give in our marriage and when i found out, which i found out on my own, i was just numb. Maybe if i had been younger i would have left but, i just did not want to start over and figured the next man would do the same so i stayed and he knew, i never trusted him after that and i think that hurt him pretty badly, as it should have.

fawn122148

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Msg: 29 (view)

What Do You Bring To The Table In A Relationship? Posted: 4/16/2007 4:36:29 PM
I agree with all that you would bring to the table. That would make a relationship interesting and exciting but, i think there must be honesty. You can out everything you have, mentally, materialistic what ever to the table and if the one you are putting it on there for is not honest with you, you have just wasted your time.

fawn122148

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Women just don't seem to get it! Or do they? Posted: 4/16/2007 3:39:39 PM
I am going to assume you are speaking for yourself here since there are some men who has responded to your thread and does not want to be considered a pig. I think you just need to get over yourself. I think the women you are speaking of are just hoping to find that one honest man out there ,and they are there but you are living proof that we have to kiss a lot of frogs to find him. First you say she dresses carefully to attract his attention. Did it occur to you that maybe she is confident and knows who she is and not afraid to show it? Maybe by dressing tastefully makes her feel good about herself and does not have as much to do with you as you might think. You say she wants to look into your eyes. The eyes are the mirror to the sole and the only thing you can do to keep her from seeing you for what you really are is to look down. You say she is honest and sincere and you put on an elaborate act, and if you play your cards right you will get what you are after. If you were an honest man, you would not have to put on any kind of act. I have to agree with Pretty Little Princess, men like you scare the crap out of me. The longest term relationship you most likely have ever had, has been with your left hand. Guys like you are subject to find themselves very much alone when the big party is over. And last but not least, i have dated much better looking men than you. So get a grip!

fawn122148

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Msg: 54 (view)

How do you overcome the pain of losing the one you care about so much? Posted: 3/20/2007 2:17:38 PM
Thank you so much Ridgehiker. Hearing from others experiences does help. And i am sorry you did not get to say good bye. Thanks Fawn

fawn122148

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Widows/widowers, how do you discuss Posted: 3/17/2007 10:32:17 AM
I lost my husband 2 years ago. He was a true pack rat and yes, we had plans. So, i say " we were planning..." For the longest time, i was referring to us as still being a couple. Like i would say we are going to, then correct myself, i am going to. Or, our house. When you think you are going to be married forever, and i did, it is a shock. There were times i thought i was going nuts until i talked to other widows and found out, they also done some of the same things i was doing. Don't feel bad because you are not sure how to address certain things. It is a difficult time and there will be a lot of changes and adjustments to get used to but, it will all become easier with time. Good luck to you.

fawn122148

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Flowers to guys on valentines day. What would u do? Posted: 3/17/2007 10:13:34 AM
Yes, when my husband was alive i sent him flowers. He loved flowers and knew how to care for them. He did not care what other people thought. He had been known to ask some of them, "what did you get for Valetines Day" needless to say , some smiles turned into frowns. LOL The fact that she is thinking of you has to say something about the way she feels about you. What she is doing is coming from the heart. You are a lucky man. Forget about what someone else thinks or says.

fawn122148

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How do you overcome the pain of losing the one you care about so much? Posted: 3/17/2007 9:57:45 AM
I have to agree with Angel1940. It is not easy and it does take time. I too, buried my husband 2 years ago. You talk about pain and lonliness?? If you are dating and separated or getting a divorce, you can try to reconcile. In death, that is not an option we are afforded. As Angel said, it is up to you as to what kind of day and life you are going to have. Make the best of everyday you have. Don't waste your life on what was, what could have been. The only thing you are promised in life, is the breath you are taking right now, and of course death so, don't waste your life. Move on.

fawn122148

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Msg: 30 (view)

The Code or Golden Rule...Do you adhere to it? Posted: 3/17/2007 8:56:56 AM
I know this one guy. His best friend passed away. He then shacked with his widow for a number of years. They split up. Then another best friend of his and girlfriend split and again, he took up with his friends ex. for a number of years. Makes me wonder if he was ever a true friend to either one of the guys. I would think that once (MAYBE ) but twice and who knows how many others. I could be wrong but, sounds like he could be a predator that preys upon vulnerable women. Maybe does not know how to approach someone on his own.

fawn122148

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what's with... Posted: 3/17/2007 8:29:05 AM
For someone to say you are over reacting, has never been in your shoes. I was dating this guy for 6 months. The whole time, his ex was never far from his mind. It was so bad, he had a cell phone and every few minutes he would check it. It was rediculous. I then noticed, when his ex was in our presence for a long period of time, he would not check the cell. He knew where she was and not going to be calling.He would take his son back to her after his weekend visit and sometimes be gone for an hour and it is only 10 minutes away???? One time i asked him if he was ready to eat? he said not right now, said he was going to take his son back home, which he had another hour of visitation.That was different. He was gone 1 hour 45 minutes. When he got back, i again asked him if he was ready to eat? He said no, he already ate. He sat and had dinner with his ex. Again????? We had planned a vacation to Myrtle Beach. Because of her, we ended up at Kings Island. She basically ran our relationship. I had, on many occasions mentioned my concerns about the relationship they had. I thought communication was the key. He would agree with me but, all she had to do was call and he was gone. Finally, when it came to an end, he admittted he had ties with her that he could not cut and did not want to cut and did not know why.I guess that ment he still loved her.There was very few days that they did not have phone communication with each other. They did not have that much to talk about but, she always made sure to call him. One example, she called to say she was taking another son's cell phone cord to him. They next day, she found the need to call and report that she had indeed taken to cord to their son.When we first started dating, she was calling 3-4 times a day.We would go out to dinner, the phone rings, have a cook out, the phone rings. It goes on and on. My advise, if you are having problems with this now, whether it be real or overreacting, it is not going to go away when you say "i do" Do not let your heart rule your head,take your time. Find out where he really stands with her. I realize when there are children involved, they will always have a bond but, when it goes above and beyond what is neccassary for the children, something else is in the air. Maybe he is not over her and at the same time, does not want to be alone. If he is not ready to commit to you 100 percent, then he is not ready. I hope this helps and wish you the best but, don't settle for half a man, half a marrige. 2 is company 3 is a crowd.

fawn122148

Joined: 11/21/2006

Msg: 40 (view)

agreeing Posted: 1/26/2007 1:32:21 PM
I have been reading the responses here and just remember this. Men/women will come and go in our lives. Our children will always be there. This guy who made that remark, does not know what reality is. The reality is, some will find themselves alone but, will they be happy? Or will they be alone and mad at themselves for being so insensitive toward others feeling and needs instead of being in here just for themselves? Who would want someone like that anyway? Someone will come along. Don't worry to much about it. It will come when you least expect it. Keep

fawn122148

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Why does my 11 year old daughter lie to me Posted: 1/18/2007 6:47:05 PM
The problem is, people in divorces for some reason want to involve the children. A caring parent would not put their child in the middle. Things are hard enough for them as they generally want their parents together. Give your daughter a break. She feels bad enough as it is, i am sure. Source: Been there.

fawn122148

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FINDING OUT QUICK HES A PSYCHO!!! Posted: 1/14/2007 1:05:06 PM
Here is a perfect reason for any woman to become" mean ". Men like that should not be on here looking for a woman. Makes me wonder why they are?

fawn122148

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Msg: 108 (view)

Should I trust her? Posted: 12/8/2006 6:47:17 PM
It is sad that you seem to care for this girl so much. I think you need to use your head instead of your heart on this one. If you think it might work out, don't make anymore commitments than you already have. If she is a loose women, time will tell.The law of averages says if you do something long enough, evenually, you will get caught. She already has once. And if you had not went to meet her ? How many other times has this happened and you not know it? I know what it is like to lose someone you love and how hard it is on you to try and trust them when they have broken their trust. And if alcohol was supposed to be a factor in this, maybe she should not be drinking at all. Worst things can happen Good luck

fawn122148

Joined: 11/21/2006

Msg: 367 (view)

I was raped and now I'm worthless...advice? Posted: 12/8/2006 6:28:19 PM
Dear girl. Are you feeling worthless or helpless? I just read this and my heart goes out to you. I just wonder if you are not feeling helpless instead of worthless. You know, someone took something from you. There is nothing you or the law can do to this man that will ever make you whole, feel safe and secure again and being able to truly trust someone.As bad as you might want something bad to happen to this person and it did, it will not turn back the clock. Get some help and try to sort out your true feelings and what they really are. You have to become a survivor here. People, men and women both become victims everyday and it is a sad world we live in. Just try to get to the root of what you are feeling and go from there. I assure you, you are not worthless. God bless you and look over you. Get your life back, don't let this experince take that away.

fawn122148

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Msg: 159 (view)

Would you date a convicted RAPIST?????? Posted: 12/1/2006 1:49:44 PM
I always though a sex offender, man or women should have a tattoo right in the middle of their forehead. I worked in the prison system and they are nothing but repeat offenders. Some have went as far as to rape new born babies. Why should they have a second chance when their victims had none? Unfortunatly, if they are never released it leads to over crowding which is already a hugh problem. I would think we could clean some of these prisons out by sending them over seas and let them fight for our country. They would be kept busy enough they would have no time to mess with our little ones or a helpless woman.

fawn122148

Joined: 11/21/2006

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Dating a guy paying child support/alimony? Posted: 12/1/2006 1:34:59 PM
I would have more repect for him then one that did not pay. I dated a man who paid child support, alimony and half the house payment that he no longer had an interest in. I found no problem with this as it was court ordered and i knew this going in.

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