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articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

Msg: 33 (view)

I think my SO's child may be autistic Posted: 9/15/2008 8:53:05 PM
I have to say is your very impresive lady, to maybe asum the person your daying son may be Autistic. My hats off to you, and wish their was more ladys like you. Not sure where you live but here in Idaho, their is a early discovery unit put on by the county health distric, nick name was AC/DC, i found out my son was Autistic at the age around 2 yrs old, mostly verbal, was the sign. He is now 13 yrs old, and non verbal, and on the sever side of Autisum. Their is alot of B.S> on how to raise a ASD child, well raise them the same way as a N.T. child, And a person has to be more structured with them than a N.T. child also, short comands, back up those comands, and love. And wish you the best of luck, it is just beginning, fights with the school system, SSI, medicaid, it's always a battle, and were's oneself out. I proud of you. Kidd:

articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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His Daughter Was in Charge Posted: 9/9/2008 12:24:06 AM
I am raising 3 girls, and yes my oldest girl checks out the ladys i have the priviage to date,not many.lol But this gal i met on here took all of our hearts, i never seen how happy the children where, i had a smile all the time also, all 3 of the girls loved her, my son was in graditude to her. Well lets see how she told me, "their whern't fireworks" in her eyes, I sayed at 40, Whats firworks, if two, had the same intrest, and enjoyed each other, and didn't fight, thats a relactionship, but call me stupid i guess. My oldest girl did excecpt this gal, looked up to her. The moral of the story i am trying to say, if a person is not fake, and truly likes the family structure, then it will belnd, and the children will except the other person, if not, then their will be a bit of conqurserty. All good luck. Kidd

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Single Dads with kids! Why are women scared? Posted: 3/28/2008 5:33:02 AM
I agree with dugary, The question always is aked by the gals, then you tell them, and the ages, the never write back. Some do, but then it fades out. Good luck all It's hard to raise kids by any single person, the kids like the sense of a "mom" "dad" figure in the home, that is loving, not fighting.

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

Msg: 71 (view)

Autism and SB 3 - Stops reporting Mercury in Vaccines Posted: 3/27/2008 8:51:56 PM
AS a father to a sever ASD son, who is 13 now, non verbal, nor potty trained, cannot find a teacher that will work with him, he was the only child of my 5 who got shots before the age of 2 yrs old. I feel if we go back and use what mother nature gave the moms. children are going to be fine for the first couple of yrs , then get their shots. I WOULD NOT give any child shoots, before the age of 2. The USA is just starting to requnize that Autisum is a BIG growing problem, with real no theorpy, like Canada, and England has. I feel sueing is not going to bring back our children to " normal" we have to accept and move on. But it would be nice to find the problem, for other familys and children. I also agree it could be something in our water/food systems. greed with money to get food biger and faster for profit, and inporting from other country's with no standards, all can be a tribute to Autisuim. good luck to all the parents with children with Autisuim, Gods speed and pacients. Kidd

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

Msg: 43 (view)

Too busy to date then why try Posted: 2/7/2008 9:30:08 PM
I totaly agree, too busy,but yet they put a profile up and chat with you but caint seem to find time to meet or call. How we say it out in the west " Shit or get off the pot" I am a single Dad, running my own company, if a gal chatted with me for awhile, and i felt it was time to meet, i am their. i am an adult, i put my foot in the water to try it out, and if not the cemastry, then be friends. Sorry if i affended you past abused people, but , it is time to wake up, and their are good people out their to meet. so bring the tolit paper, and do it

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Question about Autism and relationships. Posted: 8/13/2007 5:04:58 AM
My son has Autisum{sever} and i know this is not what your question is about, but for me to date, it is impossoble to date , people dont understand, but thats ok

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Kids w/ special needs, many kids, multiples, etc Posted: 6/18/2007 2:58:39 AM
[I won't say it's harder to date due to my Son's Autism. But I will say it's different. One of the problems I encounter is the abrupt change to any plans I make can happen at any time. Without warning. And as a resuly I've had a few women tell me it's to much. That they like me. Think I'm a great guy, but dealing with my Son is a little over the top for them. I appreciate the honesty, and then quickly show them the door.] I also have a sever Autistic son, i find it hard to date if not imposible, First i caint find a baby sitter so i can go on a date, who would watch him, then i also have 4 other children, so for me it's a double wammy. Specialmom: boy i have been their, i feel with you, I guess thats why i am sitting here at the computer, To be a parent to a special need child, is tireing, demanding, unforgiving, stressfull, and dealing with the stupid system, and as a single parent, we just liked to be held and loved and hear, It's OK. , Best luck to all: just one foot in front of the other I know it gets old, but your doing a great Job Kidd

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Finding the time to date. Posted: 6/15/2007 9:21:09 PM
Boy i know this one I called 25 people last night to baby site for me tonight, well onething or another, and as you can see, i am sitting in front of the computer at a single site, while the kids watch T.V. IT SUCKS.. I do agree if she has children also, make a bbq, and games, that would be great also, but Theirs that, the first meeting between the two adults, and as every one knows, we dont want the kids to be put in any danger, so now every body is gun shy, and for a good reason, so now whats the soluction? please let me know. i am lost in this. I did meet a nice lady on hear, and this seems to be the big"?" and i dont blame her one bit, a person would not be a good parent to run off with someone with out knowing some things. Good luck Buddy, in the same boat Kidd

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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im a full time single mommy Posted: 6/7/2007 1:19:37 PM
Theirs lots of guys out their.. But if they have children at home , then the gals dont want them.. We have all our ducks in a row?, and dont do drugs, or party all night, a house, or what? Their are good guys out their danielle6600, not sure what you want Kidd

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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dad needs sitter for summer, any advice Posted: 6/6/2007 10:45:43 PM
Thanks fllulu: i lived in Grangville for a couple of yrs, not much better her north.lol I got the word out to the local churches, wait and see, i guess. Thanks Jerry

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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dad needs sitter for summer, any advice Posted: 6/6/2007 4:42:30 PM
Thanks JQ, i ddid put an add in the paper, did call the high school, and "it's a big no no here" beats me. My parents are in Alaska, so i just plugging away. Thanks Jerry

Articcatkidd

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father's day (without a father) Posted: 6/5/2007 10:49:41 PM
I just wanted to say is good luck As a single dad, i worked out a meeting for the kids Mom on mothers day, and that was the last we heard from her, I dont know what to say, as a Dad, and you gals as moms, SORRY, i wish i had the anwser. keep up the good work i admire all you single parents. Kidd

Articcatkidd

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Single dads still attractive? Posted: 6/5/2007 10:41:25 PM
Wow alot of different apionions.. But i am also fighting the fact, that cauz me being a single dad and fair looking i still caint find a date, i know we spend alot of time 4-wheeling and snowmobiling, but good griff, their has to be a gal who like to come along, and also take us to do what she likes. I not too good at the girl stuff, and like to have help doing it you know shopping and stuff.. i did apreciate all the gals who posted about "like dating guys with kids, cauz they are a bit different thinking, It's hard to play Mom and Dad, and it's hard to be a Dad without your children also. Kidd

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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dad needs sitter for summer, any advice Posted: 6/5/2007 10:30:33 PM
Well we live in North Idaho, on 10 acers out a bit from any town, i tried every thing i can think of for a sitter, we are on a small budget and would be willing to help a gal get on their feet. any advice? Thanks Kidd

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Would you do this? Posted: 6/5/2007 10:21:10 PM
Thanks for the advice, we have a Sherrife dept. and will check . Did run an add, oh boy ... talk about some real winners.Not.lol Soanes: I do that and thanks for your time and everybodys time. Trust me i have asked the church and every thing, . Soanes we do have 4-wheelers and lots of land, the older teens would have fun, and a couple of cows to ride.hehehe Thanks again Kidd

Articcatkidd

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Would you do this? Posted: 6/4/2007 10:11:24 PM
Kilama, Good idea, do you remember the sites names? "pm" me and let me know or post it. i total foulbard thinking about that idea. The kids are getting their chore list going , weed the garden, feed the cows, dog and cat, ya their going to stay busy . I know bad dad, nooooottt. Jerry

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Would you do this? Posted: 6/3/2007 2:14:10 PM
We dont have an collage neaar, and i had a gal lined up, but she backed out last week, she had some things come up. we do live a bit out in the woods, still only 20 minutes from a couple of towns. I do agree to screen people, thanks guys/gals i appreciate the help Jerry

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Introduce Yourself Here. Posted: 6/3/2007 5:26:22 AM
The Kidd signing in here Still single in Idaho, love the outdoors and flying. and sledding. have a good one Kidd

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Turning 30 Posted: 6/3/2007 5:18:58 AM
30's are a good time, a person knows what they want, they know how to love, and make love, no games, should be in a carree stably, and a person can always look back in their 20's and remember all the fun, stupid stuff they done. boy howdy like the other person, i dredding turning 40, i am not ready for it! Good luck Kidd

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Would you do this? Posted: 6/3/2007 5:10:08 AM
I am a single dad, in need of a Summer sitter for my kids, i know in my late 30's i have 4 young kids, 5, 7, 9, and 11 but i do. I was thinking of putting a add in the paper, for a summer time help.{ free room and board, $400. a month to watch my children} ? we have 10 acers, and lots of stuuf to do around here, i was thinking, if a gal has a child and needed to get back on her feet, or i am not sure, but is this a stupid idea? i need a sitter bad, school ends next thursday and i am so screwed.. any advise?

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Single Dads with multi children Posted: 1/5/2007 6:34:38 PM
GReat stuff and advice guys/gals: so many goo dthing that each of you said i lost track and the names who said it, but i wanted to say is, great stuff you posted, and for some of you Wow your doing a fantastic job. And your right, tuff raising the oppiset sex children, and talk is very good. Thanks again Jerry

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Single Dads with multi children Posted: 1/5/2007 6:34:09 PM
GReat stuff and advice guys/gals: so many goo dthing that each of you said i lost track and the names who said it, but i wanted to say is, great stuff you posted, and for some of you Wow your doing a fantastic job. And your right, tuff raising the oppiset sex children, and talk is very good. Thanks again Jerry

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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more single dads than ever Posted: 1/5/2007 6:12:41 PM
TO all Great Job, guy or gal, but i have watched my kids mom , pretty much just "dont care additude" it's sad, now the kids dont want to go to her house for her visatactions, so now i talk with them and explain it their moms time with them, then to find out she dont spend any of the time with them, so what do i do now when they dont want to go over to her place, force them?, then who's the bad person?

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Would you date a lady who had 6 children?? Posted: 1/5/2007 6:01:37 PM
I have 5 children at home, and it's hard on both sexes to find a date, i agree that it all depends on that person personality, and the children, i have had a girlfriend that moved in with her daughter, and 6 was fine no big deal, so "Yes" i would date a gal with 6 kids, Cheaper by the dozon

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt? Posted: 1/1/2007 3:30:15 AM
I dont see or have a problem dating or marring an old lady, The know what they want without the games.

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Men with kids,women without Posted: 12/31/2006 8:15:47 PM
Keljo: dont stop the topic, Yes it's a hot topic, but not hostle, and you do have a good question, and you heard from both sides, i just talking from my expeirnce, i would love the thought if a woman with no kids would come into our lives and make it whole as a family, i want nothing more . Crane: well i have a ASD disabilty son, and "no" i not ashamed of him or any of my great children, but { It's called Autisum sydrum} not for my son, but my whole family, and "yes" it's probably my fault, i do run and hide, i do go snowmobiling with all the kids, i have good friends that accept my son, but we { me single} take the kids to the movies, we go out for dinner once a month, I can go on and on about living with a child with Autium. But your right, i should just go for-it . Kidd

Articcatkidd

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Single Dads with multi children Posted: 12/31/2006 5:43:20 AM
Dragon, i also get the same response, "your kids are well behaved" we live in the country/woods, so we work alot on the property. Thanks for the advice all, it all is well taken Jerry

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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sex after a baby.... Posted: 12/30/2006 10:55:48 PM
ex enjoyed sex most after she had our daughter,,it just really woke up her woman parts I have to agree But not being with the father, and he dumps or wont take resposibilty, or he's a jerk, i can see your feelings, but just remember that when the right person comes along, then you wont want to leave them alone, snuggle watching movies, playing around while cooking dinner, . It will come back, when you find someone you love

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Men with kids,women without Posted: 12/30/2006 10:44:45 PM
Thanks Joe I totaly know what your talking about, my 7 yr old aways ask me when i going to get her a mom. boy that is a hard one to swallow. Have a good night Jer

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Single Dads with multi children Posted: 12/30/2006 10:33:31 PM
I know we/men are way different than Gals, and dealing with certain issues aspecialy daughter issues how do you/we deal with it? i raising 5 kids, 3 girls 5.7,9 yrs old, and it's becomeing difficult anwsering their questions, i mean i am "frank" which is not what they need, but the truth. just darn hard. My "ex" is a disneyland parent, so when the kids come home , chores, homework, ext.... I do take the kids snowmobiling Alot, and 4-wheeling, and fishing, and hunting, but it seems 4 days a month, they forget about it and i just a hardnose manner hard but. But if i dont teach them manners then who will? and respect for others and them self's? Thanx's for any imfo or advice

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Men with kids,women without Posted: 12/30/2006 10:19:46 PM
I am scared to tell women that i have kids, it seems that it's Ok that they do but if a guy is raising the children then they/women dont want to date them. i am haveing a hell of a time to find a date, but i have accepted that, and i live for the kids, but would love to share our life with a women, plus with raising 3 girls theirs a few issues i like to have help with but remember this is my opion, i hope their is more gals likeyou out their, but i would really have to talk about things if a gal and i would have another child, but for the right person, it's a option Jerry

Articcatkidd

Joined: 11/22/2006

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Autism Parents Posted: 12/29/2006 11:11:04 PM
Sorry i missed this thread last night. I am a single dad with 5 kids and my oldest is 11 yrs old and Autistic{sever} i spend 90% of my time fighting ssi, school, and other agancies. Since i work it's a real fight. To all the parents, aids, teachers: you got your hands full, and if your doing the best job you feel, my hat's off to you. and i mean that!! good luck all Jerry

Articcatkidd

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New Years Eve Posted: 12/28/2006 10:12:10 PM
I am taking the kids snowmobiling, and a bombfire, what are you doing? Kidd

Articcatkidd

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more single dads than ever Posted: 12/28/2006 9:45:04 PM
Well first i agree with "Tallguy" i having problems finding a girfriend being a single dad with kids. All i know is i am too tiered to argue with people, but my ex see's the kids 3 days a month, so i got 96% of time, and full time working and 10 acer mini ranch, and 4 in school, what a challange, and i also have a 5 yr old not in school yet. 5 kids i am raising, my oldest 11 yrs old, is Autistic disabiled, non verbal , so i spend all{what of} free time fighting the school system. So i can relate to all of you Dads. I spent some time thinking about this, i cook good meals, and clean, raise cows, but i do wish i had the nurchering as a good woman has. i am a problem solver, and my 3 daughters are such yaaakers.lol I dont use my parent hood to get gals, cauz they all run, when i mention i have the kids. Just like to find a nice active gal, who like me and the kids. The sadd'es thing is when the kids ask me when i going to find/get them a mother. That is hard to deal with. To all single parents, good job!!!!

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