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Mr Bain

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Is being nervous on a 1st date really a turn off? Posted: 11/10/2009 8:50:57 PM
Anytime you're excessively nervous and needy, you will scare the other person off. I've learned that lesson concretly as this decade draws to a close.

Mr Bain

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The girl I was seeing, wont talk to me after the party at her house, any advice? Posted: 10/8/2009 3:41:47 PM
Cut the ropes, personal feelings be damned.

Mr Bain

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3 days no cigarettes is driving me NUTS! Posted: 10/8/2009 3:40:02 PM
It's going to go on for a while. For months after I quit, I was agitated and grouchy. After about six months, it goes away.

Mr Bain

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Adults living at home with Mom and Dad Posted: 9/16/2009 11:29:05 AM
Its absolutely fair game for women to not like this. I've done my time. And I am never going back.

Mr Bain

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Quotable workplace Posted: 9/13/2009 9:51:41 PM
We were watching this presentation at my company, and one of the hottest female employees was speaking to the entire group. It was a fairly informal meeting. Unfortunately for her, this girl does not know how present something professionally. When she was talking about another enterprise in our field, she referred to it as "a company that sucks my as$." One of my older colleagues immediately leaned over to me and said quietly, "That's one lucky company." I couldn't control my laughter, so I briefly interrupted her presentation. Awkward moment, but very light-hearted. How about you? Any moments of unexpected levity where you work?

Mr Bain

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Best worst pick-up lines Posted: 9/13/2009 9:46:10 PM
I think the first thing you say is over-rated in it's importance. You might as well just go up there and fart. It won't make any difference.

Mr Bain

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Dating while unemployed Posted: 9/13/2009 8:43:54 PM
Maybe you could tell the ladies you just out of the pokey. Then they will understand your employment problems.

Mr Bain

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why do men always have to look at other women!! Posted: 9/13/2009 2:25:42 PM
Why are women so naively swept off their feet by men from other countries? Why do women like men who drive a certain car that they actually don't own? I don't ask these questions, because I cannot judge you for your taste.

Mr Bain

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How soon can you spot a red flag Posted: 9/13/2009 1:54:28 PM
You can spot a red flag in people's body language. The vibes people give off. It's something I have down like no other.

Mr Bain

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My boyfriend feels he hasnt slept with enough women. Posted: 9/11/2009 7:05:30 PM
We guys have our own way of prepping for the final committment. And with that, I'll say good night.

Mr Bain

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Toilet seat up or down- Relationship downfall? Posted: 9/10/2009 12:51:50 PM
This is all you need to see to recognize the colossal joke we are as human beings.

Mr Bain

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When are you officially moving on? Posted: 9/7/2009 5:12:49 PM
Ehh, I'll find someone new. I didn't mean to sound like angry or defensive earlier in this thread. I forgot that the most important report card is the one you give yourself.

Mr Bain

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When are you officially moving on? Posted: 9/7/2009 3:16:34 PM
Go back, you know you want to, it was in your own words though masked. delete your profile, and give it the effort you should have from the beginning. I appreciate your vote of confidence. But I have to give this up. Next time, with the next person, I'm going to get it right. That is a sacred promise.

Mr Bain

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When are you officially moving on? Posted: 9/7/2009 2:50:46 PM
To venture just a little criticism, except for maybe the first response, I think none of you know what you're talking about. Now I'm not disappointed. I'm just not swayed. As far as the distinction between moving on and being "over" somebody, that is meaningless semantical squirming.

Mr Bain

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When are you officially moving on? Posted: 9/7/2009 2:06:11 PM
When you've determined that your chances with someone are finished? Or when you intermittently start wanting to be interested in someone new? When you are flat out sick of thinking of that person even in a state of longing? Or do the feelings for the person have to be completely extinguished. Because I've been thinking all these things lately, and even though I still think about her irregularly throughout the day. I've determined that I don't want to this to affect me anymore and try to get out as much as I can. Or am I not moving on yet?

Mr Bain

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MEN THAT LOVE OTHER MEN WHILE THEY ARE MARRIED Posted: 9/4/2009 4:47:30 PM
That was my grandfather. He was in the closet his whole life.

Mr Bain

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Never understood "beauty sleep"/ Posted: 7/28/2009 4:10:22 PM
When I wake after 9-10 hours of sleep, my face looks drained, exhausted. But when I'm sleep-deprived, I look hot. I mean, my eyes are just smoldering. Anyone else feel the same way? Do you look nice when you're not getting much sleep?

Mr Bain

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The women difference between the West Coast & East Coast Posted: 7/26/2009 11:00:40 AM
Not to nit-pick, not to be a stickler, but Pittsburgh is not your typical part of the East Coast. It's not near the eastern seaboard. It's more of a midwestern city, albeit on the very fringe. It's a blue collar town with not much of a technology base. But I agree with the general gist of this notion. East Coast women are not low-maintenance. They are often materialistic to the core. Now in women in the midwest? Not only are they better-looking, they're nicer.

Mr Bain

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Why women want guys to come to THEM Posted: 7/24/2009 3:49:10 PM
It's a nuanced desire. On the hand, they want you to make the first move, but when it comes to love, they want to work to earn it. They will have mixed feelings about a guy who is too timid to make the first move, and they will HATE any guy who falls for them without letting them earn it.

Mr Bain

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Moving on Posted: 7/24/2009 3:47:03 PM
Just try to keep your head clear and getting through this will toughen you up. P.S.- you might want to vote not to delete this thread. I can only back you up once.

Mr Bain

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what do you feel is the most UNATTRACTIVE piercing commonly done today? Posted: 7/20/2009 2:36:20 AM
Most frustrating piercing? Navel piercings. If you're a woman, why would you obscure the sexiest part of your body? That doesn't make sense to me.

Mr Bain

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True Love: I love you because...I love you despite of...or Posted: 7/16/2009 2:49:10 PM
You developed a perception and you fell for it. You didn't find things out. To use an analogy, it's like driving through a large city only once, and deciding it's a place you love without ever spending any significant amount of time there and getting to know the ins and outs. That is an infatuation with your impression of something or someone and nothing more. And, I submit that it's not love.

Mr Bain

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True Love: I love you because...I love you despite of...or Posted: 7/16/2009 2:22:00 PM
baseballboy. That quote again, huh? As I've said before, your definition is too narrow. You fell before you got to know someone by your own admission in an earlier thread. That's not love. That's a proximity infatuation.

Mr Bain

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How to impress a girl. Posted: 7/1/2009 4:46:34 PM
Just be yourself. It's the best way to be a real man. It's a lesson my parents did not teach me very well, and I certainly didn't learn it at school, because the teachers and students alike lashed out at everything with a penis. But I am serious. You become needy and worried about impressing anyone, you will lose before the game even starts. I long for ten years ago, when my mind was completely fresh and I didn't know and didn't care what women thought of me.

Mr Bain

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Why am I always the friend? Posted: 6/28/2009 12:46:31 AM
Go order the book, "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover It's a book that will really change your outlook, not just with women but with life in general.

Mr Bain

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Love vs Obsession? Posted: 6/24/2009 11:35:07 PM
Hmmmm... weird response coming from a woman. Usually, we're the ones who are accused of committment-phobia. I'm not sure you've done anything wrong.

Mr Bain

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Is trust dead? Posted: 6/24/2009 11:32:49 PM
I'll back you up on this subject. It's happened many times to me. Women will sometimes regard a man's kindness as a debt paid for a boyfriend who did them wrong- not a compliment. P.S.- you're not alone.

Mr Bain

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Love vs Obsession? Posted: 6/24/2009 11:23:42 PM
After a certain level of committment, I don't think you should have to apologize for your feelings or feel guilty about them. I knew a man whose wife was not interested in sex and foreplay. I told him point blank that if that were the case, the problem was not with him.

Mr Bain

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Deal Breaker? Posted: 6/24/2009 12:00:03 AM
A women who won't let me touch her belly. My fetish really is that strong.

Mr Bain

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How has your experience been with POF? Thumbs Up or Down? Posted: 6/23/2009 12:02:43 PM
This is always where I go when I have a female-related question. However, on my end, David DeAngelo is now giving POF some healthy competition- even if he is an idiot.

Mr Bain

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GF kissed another guy... what do i do? Posted: 6/23/2009 12:00:02 PM
Cut the ropes, my friend. You kidding me?

Mr Bain

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Guys don't want to be just friends, but girls do, why is that? Posted: 6/21/2009 12:46:41 AM
A woman will be happy to be friends with a guy who could be her man, but if she senses that he's absolutely lovesick and head over heels for her, I think she'll be more reluctant and just cut him loose. And this is actually a rare instance in which women will genuinely take both theirs and the guy's best interests into account when making a decision. She will not waste his time, and nor will she endanger her own peace of mind by having a friend who is too crazy for her to want anything less than the highest. Everybody gets the best deal. That truly is the exception.

Mr Bain

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Common characteristic among mothers Posted: 6/21/2009 12:14:10 AM
One of the things that I think mothers always believe is that their sons cannot maintain themselves on their own even after they've reached adulthood. My mom always lamented the fact that I do not keep an orderly apartment, no matter where in the country I'm living. She said I needed a wife and as soon as possible. Most mothers think this, but I've done an admirable job.

Mr Bain

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what is love to you ? Posted: 6/20/2009 3:38:42 PM
Love is essentially giving up everything. If you fall in love too often, there is something wrong going on. I've only fallen in love three times.

Mr Bain

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How can I get my ex back? Posted: 6/18/2009 7:43:57 PM
Dude, with women there is no equity. No avoidance of harsh results. If you make a mistake, the hammer can come down. We're talking about the female gender here, not the American court system. You don't even have to screw up to get the book thrown at you. With the female gender, it's more like kangaroo court. Just these two cents from a recent law school grad- who now has to cope with his own heartache at the hands of a fellow classmate. But I do hope it works out for you. You'll always find someone else if it does not.

Mr Bain

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Specific question Posted: 6/18/2009 2:43:01 AM
Normally, in most situations I can rise to the occasion. When love is involved, it does not matter how far I am in my education. My better judgment goes out the window.

Mr Bain

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Specific question Posted: 6/18/2009 1:14:05 AM
Does not introducing yourself to the boyfriend of a girl whom you like and have asked out, put you in bad favor in her mind? Granted, I view it as respecting boundaries, but if I avoided having to meet this girl's boyfriend (in part because I really like here) and albeit it very quietly and very reservedly would that anger her? I will add that this was on a very auspicious occasion- at our law school graduation. We were both graduating and when I saw her with her boyfriend I averted my eyes. I'm not looking for an uplifting answer on this one.

Mr Bain

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How badly do you want to be in love? Posted: 6/15/2009 10:48:00 AM
To be in love is something I try to hold back on as much I can. It's one thing to be attacted to somebody- the number of those women would overpopulate a barren country. To fall in love and then finally to have your heart broken is a taller order. That's when you're giving up a lot more than a moment's attention. You're giving up everything in essence. To use a baseball analogy, I like to think of myself as an unhittable relief pitcher who has only given up a home run to three major league hitters, lifetime.

Mr Bain

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NBA Playoffs Posted: 6/5/2009 4:07:36 PM
Even if the Magic play well the rest of the Finals, they have a mountain to climb. The Lakers are playing with more force and determination. Kobe is angry that he didn't win it all last year.

Mr Bain

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The REDSOX!!! Posted: 6/5/2009 9:24:36 AM
Honestly, the Red Sox can have 2004... it does not make me feel any worse about being a Yankee fan. After 2004 and 2007, I think this team kind of regressed to the mean. They used to never quit against anyone. This year, it's more like nobody quits against them.

Mr Bain

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NBA Playoffs Posted: 6/5/2009 8:32:34 AM
It would have been really cool to see a Nuggets-Magic Finals matchup. Two great teams that have never won an NBA championship. Of course, the NBA is not about equality. So now we're stuck with freakin Kobe Bryant hogging the spotlight. Oh well.

Mr Bain

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Being Outdated Posted: 5/27/2009 11:17:23 AM
Do you go to a club and ask the DJ to play songs like "Red Rubber Ball" or "Denise" or "Remember Then"? If so, then you're not ashamed of your own tastes and have a healthy confidence in what you like. That's a good thing.

Mr Bain

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Are US Men Obsolete? Posted: 5/14/2009 8:41:14 PM
It's been a long time since I checked into this thread. I can see that it has really taken on a life of it's own, with some people taking things very personally. I get emotional about things too, but here's my objective advice. As I said before, I have never been hostile to the goals of feminism. But I think threads like these do feminist ideals a disservice by fostering this kind of resentment between people. We don't agree on everything. But that doesn't mean that we can't share our differing points of view in a detached and measured manner. I learned to really listen to points of view I hated back in college. It did not change what I believed, but I am a better person for it.

Mr Bain

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This Week In Baseball Posted: 5/10/2009 11:17:32 AM
I'm trying to take some time off from baseball. The season is so freaking long, and the only month to really get fired up about is October. You know you've watched too much baseball when you turn on "The Hills" and in the theme song, you expect to hear the lyrics "dirty water" as opposed to "dirty window". And no, I am not a Red Sox fan. Very much the opposite.

Mr Bain

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NBA Playoffs Posted: 5/10/2009 11:15:17 AM
I want to see the Cavaliers in the Finals. In the NBA, I'm with the little guys- except when they're facing the Lakers.

Mr Bain

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Difference in IQ - your experiences? Posted: 5/10/2009 9:28:19 AM
I honestly don't know my IQ, but because my girlfriend was a law school graduate and I had been accepted to law school around the time we started dating, I had an inkling that she and I were fairly close in intelligence. She seemed to know a lot about the arts. It wasn't intelligence that she lacked. She lacked self-confidence, which was odd coming from a woman with an extraordinary physique and measuring in at 5'11. She always made a point of criticizing other girls for how they dressed and how they looked. When things ended, I felt sad, but I was not worried about her ability to find a new guy. She was quite a head-turner.

Mr Bain

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would you marry for money? Posted: 5/9/2009 11:28:10 AM
Probably not... even with all my financial stress these days. There's just something about marrying into money.. it makes you feel weak.

Mr Bain

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Is porn involved in your relationship? Posted: 5/9/2009 11:25:33 AM
My very first girlfriend actually asked to watch a porn flick with me, when she noticed one of the few remaining porn videos in my apartment. It was an interesting experience... I never watched a porn flick with a woman before or since.

Mr Bain

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will he ever say I love you again? Posted: 5/4/2009 1:53:01 PM
Sometimes we men have an odd way of saying it. Simply blurting it out does not always give it the authority and power that it warrants. It's an important statment to make to a woman. You should not mess around in how you convey it. For example, I have my own plans on how to say good-bye to a female classmate with whom I'm about to graduate, and whom I have feelings for. She has a steady boyfriend. What I will tell her is that wherever she goes in life, and wherever she ends up, I only wish the utmost happiness for her forever. There is a chance she will know what I am really saying. Never be casual in how you want to convey what you mean.

Mr Bain

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Gender Superiority Complex? Posted: 5/4/2009 12:06:26 PM
I did say "alleged" superiority complex, meaning I don't take it to be factual off the bat.

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