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kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

Msg: 212 (view)

Why do guys love porn so much??? Posted: 11/22/2009 4:46:16 PM
I admit that I like porn and masturbation even when I have an active and fulfilling sex life. Some of it is fantasy. I can watch things in porn that I will probably never experience in real life. It's a fantasy world and some things are probably best left to fantasy so it all works.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Women who don't shave Posted: 11/22/2009 4:43:10 PM
I always love the ones who claim shaved looks like little girls. I can garuntee there is nothing on me that looks like a child in any way, shape, or form. I prefer the way it feels to me. I also happen to be a woman who gets very wet without anything more than mental stimulation on occasion and hair takes time to dry.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Accepting a man that's unemployed Posted: 11/22/2009 6:48:53 AM
I'd like to amend the question, hopefully without thread-jacking. For the women, would you date a guy who was working full time at McDonald's, or some similar minimum wage job? If not, what is the minimum yearly income that would make a guy worthwhile to date? I'm curious, because some companies ask for salary requirements when you apply - so what should I ask for? :) This calls for more questions to the guy in this position. Are you happy? Are you able to meet your needs? Personally I am a driven person. Someone who is not looking to improve themselves and is content working for minimum wage his whole life is unlikely to make a long term partner for me. I have my bachelors degree and am working on my masters degree. I work hard and want to move up in my company. I am unlikely to deal well with someone that doesn't have that drive. I don't understand it.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Accepting a man that's unemployed Posted: 11/19/2009 2:17:21 PM
but even if u dont have anything and show some sorta ambition-and actually try to get work--a gd female will stand by ur side I think the thing is, it's one thing not to have money in your pocket. It's another not to have any ambition. My ex did not make a lot of money. Problem was, he spent like he did. Since I made most of the money, I got really tired of coming home to find he spent the money I gave him to pay the light or phone bill spent and those utilities not paid. So, while I don't have a problem with men who don't make money, I do have a problem when they can't take care of their business and want to live off me. And I have a problem living off a man. So not my style. I will stick by a good man if he is really trying but if he is content to mooch he is gone.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

Msg: 129 (view)

Accepting a man that's unemployed Posted: 11/18/2009 5:26:39 PM
I have dated unemployed men who were going through a rough patch. I went through a year of unemployment even though I am a professional with a degree and a normally great profession. Just was caught up in the housing market collapse as my job revolved around designing and permitting residential subdivisions. It was a rough patch but under no circumtances was it a great idea to mope around the house by myself. Having someone to hang out with, even if it was just an evening at the beach, was a good thing indeed. There is a difference from being unemployed and being a loser though. I don't date losers. These include wanna be rappers living at home with mom and dad and assorted other big scheme types without a real plan to get there.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

Msg: 98 (view)

do u find the older u get, when u are not in love, sex isnt as great? Posted: 11/18/2009 5:21:45 PM
No, I don't find that. The older I get the more I enjoy sex regardless of how emotionally involved I am or am not. I don't understand the concept of feeling degraded by an evening of mutual pleasure. I can understand some people are not satisfied well that way and need the emotional attachment to ejoy sex but the idea of anything between consensual adults making one of them feel degraded is strange to me.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Fingers and Tounges Posted: 11/18/2009 5:18:38 PM
I tend to prefer other things to fingers and tongue but some men have changed my mind about that because they have been extremly talented. I don't like to kiss in general but there have been a few that just make me melt with kisses. I have to say though, I have not found many things that I have not enjoyed at least a little.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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What do you think about cougars? Posted: 11/18/2009 5:15:39 PM
I have never tried to be like a man. I enjoy being a woman. However, I am the woman I am meant to be, not what someone else wants me to be. Some of that may end up being considerd traditional male behavior but all of it is me rather than any role anyone wants me to play. Now, as far as the cougar thing, I saw one the other day. Must have been over 60 hanging out at a club that was mostly 30 somethings. Lots of botox. Whatever works for her. More bothered by the botox than the age but then, I always think that looks weird. Your face is meant to move. I get hit on by young men on a regular basis. No need to chase them. When I laugh and say I am too old for tem they regularly quote "age is nothing but a number" which makes me laugh. 22 years is not enough time to get the seasoning that really shows you what life is made of.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Female Tool of the Trade Posted: 11/18/2009 3:37:40 PM
Toys will never replace a man. Another man might however.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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What do you think about cougars? Posted: 11/16/2009 4:44:14 PM
^^^^ Spoken by someone who obviously has no love for real muscle cars. Knock older women all you want but a real muscle car is forever.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/13/2009 3:49:31 PM
Other guys may go for bigger women since they think a bigger woman has less of a chance of getting another boyfriend or sex partner. I can tell you first, it's not a problem getting a boyfriend or sex partner and, second, most men who date big women understand that. The people that date me absolutely know that I am a hot commodity.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Very long hair on a woman is very femine and sexy, but few women have long hair Posted: 11/12/2009 6:09:27 PM
Also, ussually if looking at the lady with short hair from behind, she may not initially appear to be a lady sometimes, until you see her face. Now offcourse the body figure can also give it away. I was about to say that I could shave my head and nobody is mistaking me for a man from any side. Honestly I don't find very many men attractive with long hair but I think that's a remaining ewe from my ex. All of us have some type of prejudice. I have seen very hot women with both long and short hair. I think attitude and a certain bearing attract me more to women than body shape or hair. The same is true for men. It's attitude that catches my attention most times.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Very long hair on a woman is very femine and sexy, but few women have long hair Posted: 11/11/2009 4:34:59 PM
I went to get a style the other day and told her I was trying to grow it out. Even showed her a picture of the style I wanted which was a longer style. She tried to get me to do a bob or to cut it all off. Ummmm...... no thanks. Still, some stylists seem to think short is the only way to go. It's annoying. I have had both but right now I feel like having long hair and some people seem to think that's strange.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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feeling slutty, good? Posted: 11/9/2009 2:25:55 PM
Ticklelicks, I just hung out with someone the other day with the Madonna/whore complex. Not fot me thank you. I won't be either Madonna or whore for those types. Instead I will be nothing and more right on. I think alot of that attitude is about ownership and control. It's uncomfortable for some men when a woman owns her sexuality and has sex on her own terms rather than waiting for the ok from some man. It takes some a chunk of power away from them and puts it firmly in our laps and some don't like that at all.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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feeling slutty, good? Posted: 11/8/2009 7:15:08 AM
No worries. Trust me. I am digusted by people with double standards so it's all good.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

Msg: 144 (view)

What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/7/2009 8:40:24 PM
For me the line between obsession and health is when you never indulge in anything bad for you and when you spend more time in the gym than you do in intellectual pursuits or with your family but then, I value knowledge and a person who enjoys little indulgences over a six pack ab look. That does not mean you should indulge constantly or that you should never go to the gym so you have more time to read or study. What it means is that there should be balance and when people focus too much just on maintaining their physical appearence, it becomes obsession.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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feeling slutty, good? Posted: 11/7/2009 3:22:43 PM
Other way around makes her "everybody's slut" .... Actually, anybody thinking she is everybody's slut is likely leaving out the "everyone but mine" part of that statement. The men who call women sluts are often the ones that are unable to land her and try to lash out because of it.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

Msg: 138 (view)

What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/7/2009 1:24:53 PM
^^^^^ I could say the same thing about those that are obsessed with health food and the gym

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

Msg: 136 (view)

What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/7/2009 8:53:28 AM
I was out last night on a date and one of the things he mentioned was the way I carry myself. In his words, "You stand straight up". I guess that's unusual and tends to command attention. I am sexy and I know I am sexy. I carry myself with pride. It's not just pride of body but I know the type of person I am and enjoy being that person so I think that shows in the way I carry myself and that is sexy.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

Msg: 393 (view)

When a woman is squirting...exactly what is squirting out and from where? Posted: 11/6/2009 3:51:04 PM
It seems pretty obvious to me which lovers have the skill to bring out a squirting orgasm in their lovers and which ones will never have it happen because they are not talented enough to have it happen.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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condoms...for real Posted: 11/4/2009 2:18:39 PM
Jay, I have done that and it worked well until we were messing around after the first round and he tried to slip in without. I couldn't believe it. If I made him wear one the first time why wouldn't I a second time? I pushed him off, got dressed and told him to leave my house and never return.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Does semen make your tongue numb? Posted: 11/3/2009 3:49:32 PM
I know that I can experience a tingly sensation with a regular pot smoker. It's not numb exactly but a little like numbness.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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What is it with men & sexually liberated women Posted: 11/3/2009 3:47:21 PM
I've noticed this as well. A lot of men want to date their wild woman but then settle down with someone with sexual hangups and are unhappy. I find it strange myself.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/3/2009 3:44:04 PM
Mary, I am wondering if you aren't getting the answers you are looking for because there are not any answers. What makes anything attractive to someone? Why do I think dredlocks are incredibly sexy? No idea but it does it for me. I don't think we can always identify why something is sexy to us. Certain things just flat out work for us.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Teased for liking bbw's Posted: 11/3/2009 3:52:38 AM
they are getting big because they don't want the obese fat men to be alone. [\quote] Insteresting statement since I have only dated 2 big men in my entire life. Most of them tend to be slim to athletic. It's my experience that larger men tend to go after smaller women.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/2/2009 2:09:15 PM
i think its a fetish because it is out of the norm. That does not make any sense to me because norms tend to be cultural. What is sexual in one society is not in another and what is a turnoff in one society is not in another. Since we live in a global society, this line is becoming even more blurred. Division, you may be a fitness professional and not like fat women but that is far from true for many fitness professionals. I have dated personal trainers, body builders, athletes, and others. Sexual preference does not appear to be related to profession.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Is woman's sexuality more selfish than men's? Posted: 11/1/2009 5:35:57 PM
Can we find even one woman who gave more than she took in a healthy relationship? Probably not because in a healthy relationship, most people give and get in equal measure. If the giving is one sided towards either direction then there is not a healthy relationship in general.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 11/1/2009 2:42:44 PM
^^^^^^ That goes back to an earlier question I asked. What is a fetish? A couple people here have referred to liking big women as a fetish. Is liking skinny women a fetish? Big breasts? Bis butts? Large nipples? Small nipples? Long hair? Short hair? Tall/short men/women? Thick thighs? Thing thighs? Do fetishes change as societal norms change? Did the Renaissance painters have a fetish? What makes liking big women a fetish as opposed to all those other things?

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 10/31/2009 5:42:13 PM
wild heart, it's not easy to be on either end of the extreme. My best friend in school was naturally rail thin her whole life. I was naturally thick my whole life. Mush us together and we might make a normal person. It was not easy for either of us but, in the end, there are people who are attracted to rail thin and there are people attracted to big. So, just live, enjoy, and accept that there will be someone that you just flat out do it for even when you don't understand why.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Sex Frequency compatability question Posted: 10/31/2009 1:55:57 PM
I agree that comparing yourself to an ex is just silly. I have never compared my sexual experience with one person to that of another experience. If I found myself doing that, it would be time to get out. Second, the frequency of sex depends on lots of things. I would love to have sex daily, a couple times a day but time, distance, and responsabilities don't always allow for it. Sex is only part of a relationship, not the entire focus.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Good While Dating, But not for Marriage or LTR Posted: 10/30/2009 3:07:19 PM
Honestly this type of thinking is what's wrong with relationships to me. If you are settling down with someone, it should be with someone who you had an amazing time dating. The idea that you date one type of person and marry another is why so many people love dating and hate being married.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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What is sexy about FAT??? Posted: 10/30/2009 3:04:33 PM
Mary, I can tell you what I get told. Some men love the softness. They love the curves. They love a big butt and thick thighs and big breasts. They love the way the thickness and the softness feels in their arms. To them, it's femininity at it's best. I can see it. I have found thing women attractive in one way and big women attractive in another. I also love contrast. The men that are attracted to me tend to be very athletic, fit, body builder/fighter types. I really think it's the contrast that draws them. The hard and the soft just fit so well together. I know that it's nothing new. The Rubenesque masters painted women like me hundreds of years ago.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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The Cervix andThe REAL Deal about Big Penises. Have Your Say and settle it for all time! Posted: 10/29/2009 1:40:55 PM
Ladies.. work your kegels.. then even a pencildick will feel huge Sorry but no amount of kegels in the world are going to make up for a member no bigger around than a aingle finger. Yes, I have run into a man like that.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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The Cervix andThe REAL Deal about Big Penises. Have Your Say and settle it for all time! Posted: 10/29/2009 10:28:25 AM
I have been with one person that has to be very, very careful not to break a woman during sex. He is very long and very thick and it takes some effort to make things work. I have also met a man who was 9" but very thin. That was an odd sensation. Girth varies greatly from man to man. My doctor tells me I am built long and narrow so bumping of the cervix is not an issue with an average guy to even a little above average. Then there is bumping and there is banging. Bumping can be ok. Feeling like he is trying to ram through your cervix is not so good. This is not a major issue with me because of the way I am built but there have been a couple times. Size is not the be all and end all though. There is so much more to it than just size. I have been with big guys that are only ok in bed and average guys that I still have fantasies about. It's about the total experience, not just the****

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Do women really like anal? Posted: 10/27/2009 5:02:44 PM
If done correctly it can be an amazingly pleasurable experience. Do your research, listen to your partner and let her set the pace, use high quality lube, and use a condom. Never go anal to vaginal without changing out condoms because it can cause her infection. Education and communication and, yes, it can be amazing even with a man with an average to above average member.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

Msg: 65 (view)

How often do condoms really break? Posted: 10/22/2009 4:22:01 PM
Russian Roulete: 1 in 6 chance of it going off (about 16%) Condom Breaking: 0.41% chance of breakage Russian Roulette: Almost certain to result in serious damage when it does go off Condom Breaking: slight chance of serious damage All of life is about playing the odds.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Do women get pleasure out of teasing guys? Posted: 10/22/2009 2:07:10 PM
I call it the My Coochie Is Made of Platinum and I Want to Know How Many Men Feel the Same Way Syndrome. Mine is not made of platinum but I had it plated. I figure it's the new in thing.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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condoms...for real Posted: 10/21/2009 3:44:52 PM
As a woman, I accept that it's my responsability to insist that a man wear a condom. I find it very odd that some men wouldn't do it anyway in order to protect themselves, but I am darn well going to insist on it for my safety and because I don't want an unwanted pregnancy. I actually had one guy try to sneak in without one after round one while we were cuddling. I had made him wear one the first time and he still tried. I got up and kicked him out and never spoke to him again. Oh, and as far as not having insurance that covers prevenative care, try your local planned parenthood or county health clinic. They do STD testings, birth control and even give out condoms on a sliding payment scale.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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How do girls feel when the guy can't finish? Posted: 10/21/2009 3:40:21 PM
I've dated a couple people like this and they have both told me up front that this is the way they are and that makes it ok. It's better to be upfront or, at least, if it does happen, let them know then that it happens from time to time.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Teased for liking bbw's Posted: 10/19/2009 4:35:15 PM
^^^^ It's not what you are attracted to or not attracted to that makse you ignorant. It's your need to shout it to the world that makes you appear lame.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Fear of Date Rape..... Posted: 10/19/2009 1:51:46 PM
The reason so many women fear this is because so many women have had it happen to them. The 1 in 4 number actually seems pretty low compared to what I have heard just in my circle of friends. Rape is more common than most people seem to realise. Just look at the posts here for the reasons why. Some men belittle the experience (it's not so bad), some, both men and women take the blame the victim tactic (don't talk sexually unless you are prepared for sex) and some seem to think it doesn't happen that frequently. Wrong, wrong, and wrong again.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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How can i help him cum??? Posted: 10/17/2009 1:36:15 PM
There are men out there who rarely ejaculate. It's not common but it does happen. If it seems medical, he should go see a doctor. If it's emotional, he can see a shrink. I will tell you that it's important to stop focusing on it. It can creat a situation in which an additional mental block comes up.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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talking dirty and sexting Posted: 10/16/2009 5:02:19 PM
Happens to me frequently. A first message that is completly sexual "hey, want to f?" I often have a desire to respond and ask if that EVER works for them but I figure that would just encourage them. I am all for talk turning to sex somewhere along the line. Not a problem but, come on, a first message?

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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woman i met here hasn't O'ed in 1.5 yrs. Posted: 10/14/2009 4:28:18 PM
For me, the less sex you have the less you want. When you start going without, your body just doesn't want it after awhile and it takes something new or a concious effort to kick yuor desire back in. In the other hand, the more good sex I get the more I want.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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divorce verses affair...isnt it about time we accepted affairs.. Posted: 10/12/2009 6:49:24 AM
You have to have some integrity in life. If you are cheating, you have no integrity. Now, if you have an open relationship, that is a different story as long as everyone is open and honest about it. If you are lying and sneaking around, then your spouse has every reason to divorce you and, no, it's not better for the kids to be raised in an environment where people are lying and deceiving.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Why wont they swallow? Posted: 10/11/2009 11:19:14 AM
Wasabi, actually that's not what we are talking about in this thread. We are talking about female ejaculate, not urine. The urine conversation is off topic and irrelevant to the thread. Royal, if someone is telling you that you are too wet, then they are too small.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Paying for Sex-Can cost you your job?! Posted: 10/10/2009 11:56:20 AM
I know people who have been fired for smoking a joint and getting caught. That's a pretty benign act itself. It's illegal though even if I don't agree with the law so if you are going to indulge in your habits, regardless if it's sex or weed or anything else illegal, you have to accept there could be consequences and it could effect your job.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Why wont they swallow? Posted: 10/10/2009 11:52:47 AM
^^^^^ Sex is not exactly a sanitary activity, at least not if you are doing it right. Anyone who is concerned that the natural juices are not sanitary probably doesn't provide a lot of oral pleasure to their mate and that's just unfortunate.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Why wont they swallow? Posted: 10/10/2009 8:44:48 AM
Luckliy I have neve had an experience with a man who was upset by my squirting. In general they consider it an ace in their male card deck. And, yeah, some swallow and some don't. Doesn't bother me either way. Anyone who might think it is urine apparently has no sense of smell and no ability to differenciate textures.

kthyg

Joined: 11/24/2006

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Who Does All The Work In Bed? Posted: 10/8/2009 4:20:43 PM
I can't say I have ever done work in bed. I've had a lot of fun and I am hardly passive but work? Not a bit of it. Still have managed sore muscles, sweat and to be exhausted but it's all been good, dirty fun.

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