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 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Pet substitution...
Posted: 2/17/2009 4:15:14 PM
I really don't think this is gender specific. I have 2 dogs in which are not a substitute for anything. I have them because I love them. One of them was my mothers dog and I got him after she passed away last year. I believe that people get pets for one main reason, they want a pet. Plain and simple.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Moving down south
Posted: 2/3/2009 10:23:50 PM
I know most of the people down south still hold doors open for women, use words like yes sir, have a good day. The main thing that happens down here is that when a Funeral procession is under way, cars on both lanes pull over until all the cars have passed. This is a form of respect for those that has passed away. The funny thing that happens here is if there is even a slight chance of snow, people will rush to the store and empty the shelves as though they are going to be snowed in for a month. During hurricane season and one is projected to hit land where you live or at least close to it, they rush to the store and empty out all the beer coolers.. lol
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Moving down south
Posted: 2/2/2009 2:48:51 AM
Vancer
The heat is terrible here. I mean it's ok until about July when the humidity kicks in. It gets so hot during the time between July through mid Sept. It about takes your breath away. I have to take between 2 and 3 showers a day here. You get clean, dry off, step outside and start sweating again within 5 minutes. Don't even menation deodorant,,,, put it on and waiting a few minutes it rolls off like water....... dirty sock water. lol
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Moving down south
Posted: 2/2/2009 2:04:16 AM
ripley65

We actually do have 4 seasons here..... Almost summer, summer,just past summer, and Christmas. lol
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Moving down south
Posted: 2/2/2009 1:51:37 AM
Me either my2cntsin.
I don't care where someone comes from as long as they show me the same respect I show them. The friends I have from the north, I do call them Yankee as they call me a Freneck but it's all in good fun. I love picking with my friends but would never do or say anything to anyone that I thought would offend anyone of them. I know that there is both bad and good with people from different regions. I just would like to know why the few are so sterotypical of others and not give them a chance because of the differing accents.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Jokes that crack you up but others don't find 'that' funny
Posted: 2/2/2009 1:01:19 AM
I know I'll get some crap from this one but it's still funny in a sick kind of way.

What do Gay people call hemmorids?





Speed Bumps
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Jokes that crack you up but others don't find 'that' funny
Posted: 2/2/2009 12:56:14 AM
Why to they put brail on the key pads on a drive up ATM machine?

No joke just a funny thought.

Just like when you see a deer crossing sign on the road, is there a People Crossing sign in the woods for the deers?
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Moving down south
Posted: 2/2/2009 12:49:41 AM
This is definitely not a complaint!!! Being a southerner all my life, I have a few friends from up north and we all joke about where each other is from. There are a few from the North that take the Jerry Springer point as that people from the south are basically inbred morons without any type of formal education. My question to those few is that if we are so deplorable, why are so many migrating to the south if we are so bad in thier eyes? I know that some southerners represent those attributes so well (only few) but why would anyone want to move to a region that they feel the locals are beneath them?
Just one mans question, which I feel that I am fairly intelligent.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Freind zone regrets
Posted: 1/24/2009 8:41:38 PM
After browzing the threads tonight, I became curious. Has anyone ever had someone in the "Freind Zone" who at the time didn't feel it for the friend, but eventually regretted not taking the chance? I have once and just wondered if anyone else has.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Just wondering
Posted: 1/17/2009 8:25:44 PM
Very good point Metalvixxan. Like I said though, she could have not told me and I wouldn't be the wiser. I've never met this man and don't know what he looks like. She could and should have kept that to herself.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Just wondering
Posted: 1/17/2009 8:10:29 PM
Good point but if she were going for jealousy, it didn't work because I didn't say anything about it other than asking if she though he saw her.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Just wondering
Posted: 1/17/2009 8:05:05 PM
So I go to the store with my friend who waits outside while I'm in there. I come out and she tells me that something just happened that might make me mad. I asked her what it was and she told me that she just saw the guy she has dated since Thanksgiving come in the parking lot and hoped he didn't see her because earlier he had asked her out and she told him she didn't feel like going. Thing is, she knows I have feelings for her so why would she even tell me about this when I wouldn't have had a clue? I mean she could have kept that to herself.
Any thoughts about this?
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Anyone ever asked their partner a life-like 'scenario' that could happen in a relationship?
Posted: 1/10/2009 5:56:37 PM
arizonabeth

Very interesting answer, great point of view.!!!!
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Anyone ever asked their partner a life-like 'scenario' that could happen in a relationship?
Posted: 1/10/2009 5:46:33 PM
Asking her not knowing that she was in a relationship with me... I would take it as a compliment.

If she tells him that she's taken and he persist.... That's amother story in which the end of that story wouldn't be a pretty one.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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How can you tell you are over someone?
Posted: 1/10/2009 5:43:18 PM
When I ask myself..... What in the world did I see in them in the first place?
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Emotional fog of break-up and divorce
Posted: 1/8/2009 7:39:49 PM
I can only speak for myself but after my breakup and divorce, it took me a year before I even considered dating again. The reason was that I still had hurt feelings and knew that it wouldn't be fair to me or the person I could have dated knowing that my mind and heart wasn't into the other person.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Our walls are thick and high.
Posted: 1/8/2009 6:46:37 PM
I just posted this on another thread....


Whenever you put these "walls" up because someone has lied, cheated, or whatever they have done to you, you give them power over you. They may not know that they have this power but whenever you don't give the next person you may be interested in a chance due to what happened in your past, you are letting the ex control your decisions. You might tend to judge the next person by the way they might say or do something that reminds you of the person that hurt you. They could be the same as your ex or it may be a coincidence. In the end you are still giving the person that hurt you power over you. Take that power away from them and give the next person a honest chance, just keep your eyes open and trust them until they give you a reason not to.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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walls how do u bring them down?>?
Posted: 1/8/2009 6:27:10 PM
Whenever you put these "walls" up because someone has lied, cheated, or whatever they have done to you, you give them power over you. They may not know that they have this power but whenever you don't give the next person you may be interested in a chance due to what happened in your past, you are letting the ex control your decisions. You might tend to judge the next person by the way they might say or do something that reminds you of the person that hurt you. They could be the same as your ex or it may be a coincidence. In the end you are still giving the person that hurt you power over you. Take that power away from them and give the next person a honest chance, just keep your eyes open and trust them until they give you a reason not to.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Speak up or shut up
Posted: 1/7/2009 11:49:29 AM
LOL That's me right there. I just told them to be very careful with their feelings and was told that nothing will happen as far as hurt feelings. I'm thinking I'll be able to use the "told ya" clause but I know I won't tell them that either because they are going to be feeling bad enough already. No need to pour salt over the wound, just knowing I was right will be enough for me.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Why is He acting this way?
Posted: 1/5/2009 9:12:14 PM
Sounds like he's trying to make you jealous. He's 19 in a 34 year old body
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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So let me get this right?
Posted: 1/5/2009 9:03:30 PM
I can't speak for anyone else but me. If I tell a woman that I just want to be friends then I mean just friends. I mean it does happen from time to time that people of the opposite sex can be friends without any other motive being involved.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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why do men never want to meet up?
Posted: 1/5/2009 8:54:05 PM
Just my thought and it's just a thought. Maybe he put up a front to you, after all this is a dating site on the internet where some people are not exactly who they make themselves up to be. He could have used another picture on his profile or said things about himself that are not true and knowing that when or if he were to ever meet you in person that you would see him for who he really is.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Would like to Keep it Professional and Friends ONLY
Posted: 1/5/2009 7:30:52 PM
Put the shoe on the other foot. How would you feel if you found out that your good friend has a crush or possibly acted on it with her co-worker which happens to be your boyfriend....... friendship over
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Need help with a relationship ??
Posted: 1/5/2009 6:57:00 PM
Forget my last post there, I didn't know you were swingers until I read down. Why should she care if you did or didn't have sex with your ex unless she's pissed because she wasn't invited to join.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Need help with a relationship ??
Posted: 1/5/2009 6:49:20 PM
I'm no expert here but if it were me, I would have called the ex and told her as well as either mail the gifts or dropped them off somewhere she could have picked them up. I think that men and women alike will put their best foot foward when it comes to a new relationship and that's what it sounds like the new gf did. Sounds like she wanted you to know that she didn't have a problem with your ex when in fact she did. Competetion is competition and your ex is just that. NOBODY wants to or will compete with a ex, especially if you have been physical with each other after the breakup. This is not gender specific, I think that both sexes feel the same about the competition aspect.
But that's just me
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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20 years and gone
Posted: 1/5/2009 3:53:55 PM
I agree with you and am keeping myself out of it. I wouldn't say anything to my friend and don't bring anything up aboout it in our conversations. If anything is discussed about it, it's only because my friend brings it up. I am not one who gives my opinion unless it's asked.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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20 years and gone
Posted: 1/5/2009 3:47:07 PM
From what my friend told me, his soon to be ex cheated on him about 8 years ago and they worked it out. Then again about a year and a half ago that lasted for a year.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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20 years and gone
Posted: 1/4/2009 11:17:52 PM
not saying something's wrong with him as much as something was missing in the marriage. of course i wasn't there so i don't know the reasons. just me being me I don't understand someone giving up on 20 years of marriage withoug something being wrong, not just for the sake of sex.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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20 years and gone
Posted: 1/4/2009 10:13:05 PM
My good friend has started seeing a man that she knew for quite a while as well as his wife. In fact she knew the wife longer and was good friends with her until a year ago when the wife stopped talking to all her friends. My friend tells me that the wife cheated on her husband about 8 years ago and he took her back, and again starting about a year and a half ago she had a affair for a year. My friend said that she did this after she lost weight and had a boob job. She also told me that cheating is in the wife's nature. How can I tell her that if the cheating is in the ex's nature that she would have been doing that within the first year, that there was something really wrong in that marriage without making my friend think that I'm just there to sabatoge the new relationship with this man? I mean who would just walk away from thier husband and kids after 20 years of marriage if something wasn't wrong? Am I looking at this the wrong way? If so please someone help me look at it another way.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Speak up or shut up
Posted: 1/2/2009 11:21:56 PM
no they are not in physical danger.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Speak up or shut up
Posted: 1/2/2009 7:07:28 PM
When you see that a friend is about to make a mistake and get hurt in the process is it better to tell them knowing that it will tick them off and alienate you or say nothing and let them find out the hard way?
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Hurting over the Love of my best friend
Posted: 1/2/2009 7:03:59 PM
Thank you for the input. I have to say that she don't talk about him to meall the time because she does know how I feel about her. I even gave her a out by telling her that if knowing my feelings for her would bother her then if she wanted for us to back off and let our friendship cool off I would understand. What gets to me is that she told me that me and this guy are so much alike. From some of the things she has told me (after asking me if I would be ok hearing about it). She told me that she would never do anything to hurt me on purpose and told me that if her talking about him made me feel uncomfortable she wouldn't say anything. He is not like me at all because I hear some things that make me raise a eyebrow. I feel I can't tell her why I see the red flags because I don't want her to think that I'm trying to ruin things for her.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Hurting over the love of my best friend
Posted: 12/29/2008 10:12:14 PM
Thank you and thanks for your unput, that's one thing I have taken into consideration. I just hate to lose my best friend but not at the expense of being in pain all the time. As you know when a man tells a woman that he would never come between her and her friend that the friend would always be welcome to go hang out with them, what he really wants to say is your friend won't be a factor as long as I have anything to do with it.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Hurting over the love of my best friend
Posted: 12/29/2008 9:05:29 PM
After reading it, it's more of a statement. I guess I really need a womans perspective on the details of my epic story which as you can see is more involved than I posted.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Hurting over the love of my best friend
Posted: 12/29/2008 8:28:47 PM
I'm in love with my best friend of 2 years. We dated each other at first but it only lasted about a month because we really didn't know each other that well and lost touch for about 7 months then she contacted me again. We started talking and became great friends. We confided in each other and I fell in love with her. I didn't hide my feelings from her at all. She told me that she didn't want to chance ruining our friendship and I understood that and accepted it as well. We have been there for each other in times of need and spend about everyday together and talk on the phone everyday if only for 5 minutes at a time. We have been physical from time to time. While I was out of town during Thanksgiving she went out with her sister and ran into a old friend that she had met through his wife. The wife is not there anymore ( questionable) and he has asked my friend out and she has a few times but tells me that nothing physical has happened which I believe because of how protective she is with her heart. She wants me to meet this man but I told her that I can't do that because of how I feel for, her she thought it may be me being jealous but I told her that it's not that it's because of my feelings for her it would hurt and that I would feel very uncomfortable. She told me that she is sure that we would like each other because we are natured so much alike.

She wanted to tell me some things about him but first told me that if it bothered me she wouldn't tell me anything because she wouldn't do anything to hurt me (in which she don't know I'm hurting now) I told her that it was ok because even though I have feelings for her, we are still best of friends. She told me that he said that he would never do anything to come between our friendship and that I would be welcome to go with them whenever they went out. I wanted to tell her that it's a man's way of making that impression knowing that he really wants or will want me out of the picture. He invited her out to dinner and to go back to his house a couple of weeks ago to watch a movie and told her that his roomate and his girlfriend would be there as well. When they got to his house nobody else was there and it kind of made her nervous. As they settled in, she sat on the couch and he pulled her over to him and started making moves on her so she went outside and called me to tell me she was on her way over. She told him that I needed her and had him bring her to my house. She finally called him a couple of days later and told him how he made her feel and he apologized and told her he had'nt dated in 25 years and didn't know what to do so she gave him another chance.

She wanted to talk to me recently and started to tell me about him and his wife who used to be her good friend until about a year ago until her friend stopped talking to all of her friends. His wife cheated on him about a few years ago and he took her back and again 1 1/2 years ago after she lost weight and got a breast enhancement. My friend tells me that she believes that the cheating is in this womans nature but I told her that 20 years of marriage and 2 kids that I believe that there is something more to it than that, that something was wrong with the marriage. I told her that if cheating was in her nature she would have been doing it all along in her marriage. She told me that she told him that he is going to have to tell his wife about her before she thinks of going further because they were good friends at one point.There is so many things my friend tells me that to me throws up red flags and but I don't say anything because I know that she would think that I'm just telling her these things to get her to leave him alone. There are so many details to this that I can mention on here. My friend tells me that he is natured so much like me but I see through some of the things she is telling me and told her to please be careful and told her that I won't be specific about any one thing just that it's mantuition. I told her that I don't know for sure but I think that at some point over the past year that I felt that we had a chance but I didn't act on my urges because she always reminded me of our being friends and she didn't make a comment on that statement in which she usually always does responds.
She told me to please be patient with her because she has never had a male friend as close to her as I am and will make mistakes but would never do anything intentionally to hurt me. I also told her that this is new to me, that I have never had my best friend being a female and loving her, while trying to deal with her being interested in another man.
I know that we are friends first and foremost and she knows my feelings for her. I am seeking opinions and advise. I'm usually the one that helps others with advise and have been told that I should go into counselling but I can't seem to help myself when it comes to matters of my heart.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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More important, friendship or relationship?
Posted: 12/29/2008 8:18:20 PM
Just curious. When a man and a woman have so much in common and are the best of friends, is the friendship more inprotant than the chance of dating each other. Is a great friendship more important than a relationship for a woman? As a man I feel that if there is such a great friendship with the chance of a relationship why not get the best of both worlds.
 limabeen
Joined: 12/2/2006
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Hurting over the Love of my best friend
Posted: 12/29/2008 7:24:40 PM
I'm in love with my best friend of 2 years. We dated each other at first but it only lasted about a month because we really didn't know each other that well and lost touch for about 7 months then she contacted me again. We started talking and became great friends. We confided in each other and I fell in love with her. I didn't hide my feelings from her at all. She told me that she didn't want to chance ruining our friendship and I understood that and accepted it as well. We have been there for each other in times of need and spend about everyday together and talk on the phone everyday if only for 5 minutes at a time. We have been physical from time to time. While I was out of town during Thanksgiving she went out with her sister and ran into a old friend that she had met through his wife. The wife is not there anymore ( questionable) and he has asked my friend out and she has a few times but tells me that nothing physical has happened which I believe because of how protective she is with her heart. She wants me to meet this man but I told her that I can't do that because of how I feel for, her she thought it may be me being jealous but I told her that it's not that it's because of my feelings for her it would hurt and that I would feel very uncomfortable. She told me that she is sure that we would like each other because we are natured so much alike.

She wanted to tell me some things about him but first told me that if it bothered me she wouldn't tell me anything because she wouldn't do anything to hurt me (in which she don't know I'm hurting now) I told her that it was ok because even though I have feelings for her, we are still best of friends. She told me that he said that he would never do anything to come between our friendship and that I would be welcome to go with them whenever they went out. I wanted to tell her that it's a man's way of making that impression knowing that he really wants or will want me out of the picture. He invited her out to dinner and to go back to his house a couple of weeks ago to watch a movie and told her that his roomate and his girlfriend would be there as well. When they got to his house nobody else was there and it kind of made her nervous. As they settled in, she sat on the couch and he pulled her over to him and started making moves on her so she went outside and called me to tell me she was on her way over. She told him that I needed her and had him bring her to my house. She finally called him a couple of days later and told him how he made her feel and he apologized and told her he had'nt dated in 25 years and didn't know what to do so she gave him another chance.

She wanted to talk to me recently and started to tell me about him and his wife who used to be her good friend until about a year ago until her friend stopped talking to all of her friends. His wife cheated on him about a few years ago and he took her back and again 1 1/2 years ago after she lost weight and got a breast enhancement. My friend tells me that she believes that the cheating is in this womans nature but I told her that 20 years of marriage and 2 kids that I believe that there is something more to it than that, that something was wrong with the marriage. I told her that if cheating was in her nature she would have been doing it all along in her marriage. She told me that she told him that he is going to have to tell his wife about her before she thinks of going further because they were good friends at one point.There is so many things my friend tells me that to me throws up red flags and but I don't say anything because I know that she would think that I'm just telling her these things to get her to leave him alone. There are so many details to this that I can mention on here. My friend tells me that he is natured so much like me but I see through some of the things she is telling me and told her to please be careful and told her that I won't be specific about any one thing just that it's mantuition. I told her that I don't know for sure but I think that at some point over the past year that I felt that we had a chance but I didn't act on my urges because she always reminded me of our being friends and she didn't make a comment on that statement in which she usually always does responds.
She told me to please be patient with her because she has never had a male friend as close to her as I am and will make mistakes but would never do anything intentionally to hurt me. I also told her that this is new to me, that I have never had my best friend being a female and loving her, while trying to deal with her being interested in another man.
I know that we are friends first and foremost and she knows my feelings for her. I am seeking opinions and advise. I'm usually the one that helps others with advise and have been told that I should go into counselling but I can't seem to help myself when it comes to matters of my heart.
 
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