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bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 59 (view)

I love you but I'm not in love with you........... Posted: 12/22/2008 9:09:26 AM
What is there to compromise? Love cannot be compromised - it is either there in full glory and with all what makes your heart flutter, your mouth watering, your knees happily go weaker and soul connection buzzing ... or nothing at all. Whoa buzz..... I couldn't disagree more! There are so many levels to love. With and through time, these levels are constantly changing. If we don't allow for this, we also shut ourselves off to possible growth! Just because someone's not getting weak kneed every time they see their lover, doesn't mean they're not madly in love with them. If that's how you measure your love, good luck.... because I can't imagine that staying constant in anyone's life.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Friend advice ---- Posted: 12/21/2008 3:08:06 PM
Yah, um, so what was the reason you came here whining about her? Oh right.................... You wanted someone to tell you that you were right in calling her a slut. You wanted validation for being a pr*ck. No need to continue. You got someone to say you're a good guy. For gawds sake.... Your buddy is just as sick as the biotch he's dealing with. If he attacked you for attacking her, who's the winner there? You both were wrong. Grow up and move on. This kind of attention seeking thread makes Sundays without the Bears just a bit more painful.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Friend advice ---- Posted: 12/21/2008 2:32:08 PM
Ah OP, welcome to the world of ENABLERS. Your buddy, the one who's allowing his SO to abuse him, has made a choice to stick with this sicko, no matter what. Your friendship isn't going to change his behavior, no more than you calling her a slut is going to wake her up. First thing you gotta realize is that you're not going to make your buddy do anything. The more you say nasty shit about his lady, the worse you look. She's got some major problems, and he's buying into it, because of his own issues. Your choices are to either stay his friend but not allow yourself to get sucked into or be a part of this crap, or cut all ties with him until he figures it out. He's got issues dood.... he's allowing himself to be treated like shit by someone that claims to love him. Yer not gonna change that. That's his job. What you can do is tell him you're concerned and then back off. Standing by and putting yourself in a place where you're a part of the shit makes you just as nuts.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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I love you but I'm not in love with you........... Posted: 12/21/2008 11:46:27 AM
Either you love someone or you don't. I don't think there is any inbetween. Oh dear..... yes, there are many in betweens. There are many levels of love. One can love someone and not be anywhere near IN love with them. And that's alright, if they're honest and aware. I've left men because I was either not in love or no longer in love with them, but loved them still. So it's not always about the booty call. It can be about a lost feeling or the lack of something you are looking for. No judgments. It just is what it is. Ya can't make the heart feel any more than it does, but don't discount what it IS feeling.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Saying that you love her Posted: 12/21/2008 11:30:57 AM
I've said the words when I thought I meant them. Now, looking back, I'm not sure they were as genuine as they felt in the moment. There's a depth that I think some disconnect from when stating it for the first time. Sure, maybe you lust, like a ton, don't wanna do without for now... but at times that can be misconstrued as love. DEEP love takes time for me to feel. I have made the mistake of saying it when I felt shallow love or even 5' 9" love..... because I was swept away by my emotions. Emotions that had very little to do with the complexity of being in love........ I would hope that next time I'll know from my soul that it's the kind of love that I'd rather not live without, but know I could. And I hope I have the courage to say it....

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Arguments - How should you deal with them? Posted: 12/21/2008 11:02:18 AM
There's arguing and there's fighting. Big diff in my book. Arguing means debating and coming to a resolution. Fighting means name calling and not listening and beating a dead horse. Some of my smarty pants Forumite friends have already said most of what I would.... Except the most important bit of info... that helps TREMENDOUSLY if you're embroiled in a no win situation: Give up your need to be "right". It's a tough thing to do for some. I know.... just get me talking politics and then get the fook out of my way... because I come out swinging!! lol And I'm always right. I'll show ya in eight years. Possibly only four. *snort

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Roomate Left Today Posted: 12/21/2008 10:46:03 AM
Well OP, you sure are the little fixer upper, aren't you? taking a woman in after only four dates.... falling in love in less than 3 months.... dealing with her grandchild as well.... *sigh And now she's off to take charge of her own life, and you're left with no one to help out. So what do you do? You take all your cheery Christmas decorations down and set up a nice little pity party for yourself. Instead of pouring yourself another cup, why not look at her with the love you claim to feel and feel PRIDE because she's off to TAKE CARE OF HERSELF....save for you still paying for her car insurance..... But at least she's made the move to be independent! That's obviously exactly what she needed to do and I'm thinking she'd want you to do the same. Put those decorations back up and pour yourself a cup of good cheer darlin'. You did what you thought was good and kind but now it's time for her to do what she needs. Support her by supporting your own mental well being. Keep the holiday cheer going out of knowledge that you got someone back on their feet and gave them the opportunity to FIND THEIR OWN STRENGTH. Kudos. But know when it's time to allow someone to find their own strength. Know when you're enabling and when you're helping. Big diff. Say a prayer for her and know she's capable. And understand she's probably saying one for you for the kindness you showed her in a dark hour.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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spending the holidays single.. Posted: 12/20/2008 6:51:48 PM
If you allow importance to be put so heavily on to a day, a date, a moment in time, then you run the risk of being disappointed. December 25th and December 31st are days in time. They're 24 hours, 1/2 of which most people are asleep in bed or sleep walking while awake. If you put a label on it, one with certain anguish, then of course you're going to feel sadness, anger, loneliness, whatever.... And who's fault is that? New Years Eve is a night to look towards a new year with a new attitude and a refreshed sense of self and the year ahead of you. Going into it feeling left out, alone and sorry for yourself is just pathetic. Yah, pathetic. Because you have the choice to feel that or to be excited about being alive, moderately healthy and having the opportunity to do something better/different/awesome this coming year! You're not pathetic, your THINKING is. Big diff...... So if you're feeling apprehensive about spending the New Year alone, then change your thinking! Make it OK to be by yourself. Make it alright to not kiss someone at midnight. Give yourself permission to NOT spend $150 on a chicken dinner that the night before would have only cost you $30. Be happy or at least peaceful with knowing that there is a plan, and if you get out of your own way, it might have an opportunity to become reality. It's a date on a calender. Nothing more, nothing less, unless you make it so. So make it what you want it to be. That's in your power. Happy New Year all my fishie friends!!

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Christmas/Holiday gifts Posted: 12/20/2008 8:14:06 AM
I am thank ful this year. It has been a year of learning how I am, how strong I am, and not having to walk on egg shells. It's not been easy legally, financially, or health wise. But, we are warm and have a bed to sleep in without fear. I haven't anything to give, but this .... my wish this year would be to make a difference in the life of just one woman who is need of a friend, advice, or a shoulder. I have a lot to share .... it's just not materialistic. Me thinks you're giving the best gift one could possibly receive this year and any year, SB. Rock on with your Christmas Spirited Self, missy.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Open ended breakup? Are you or are you not? Posted: 12/20/2008 7:19:33 AM
Lemme get this straight.... You were coffee pals for a year, then went on a date, after which you went BACK to the coffee routine, and then when he was supposed to show up at your place, TWICE he balked and the last time sent a text a 1/2 hour past the arrival time saying he couldn't make it, "Talk to you later..." And so........... ??? Has he talked to you later or was that the last you've heard from him? Have you tried to contact him? Seems to me to be much ado about nothing. He's a coffee addict. You're his enabler. lol Seriously... just ask him. If he can't handle more than just the basic, shallow, non-intimate friendship that you have, then you need to decide whether or not it's OK with you. If you want more and aren't happy with the way he's treating you, and girrrrrl, I wouldn't be, then move on. Cut all ties and tell him you deserve better, even from "just friends". Or not. We get what accept. Remember that darlin'.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Over 45 and happy to stay single for the rest of your life? Posted: 12/19/2008 1:37:53 PM
Will you be happy to stay single for the rest of your life? Since I have no idea what will be past today, this moment, all I can do is find happiness NOW. If my path is one of being alone, then it's up to me to deal with that best I can. And taking responsibility for BEING alone is the first action. There are times, OP, when I prefer being alone, not answering to anyone and not having to deal with anyone's drama, but those moments are just as easily weighed by ones wanting to share and lean as well. My preference right now is to be single. I don't foresee it staying that way forever, but who knows what tomorrow will bring or take away..... so I just deal with today. I do "my work" and trust my Higher Power has things in control. Once I start fookin' with things, that's when things usually end up messy. So today I'm single, by choice. Tomorrow may bring a new day and with it Prince Kinda Charming. I'm hoping I'm here to meet him... and haven't taken the day off.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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older guys with younger children Posted: 12/19/2008 12:19:06 PM
Being a 46 year old woman with no "crumb snatchers", I'd rather be involved with a man that has none as well. I'm not a mom, never was and don't want to be in the future. But would I turn a fantastic man away because he has children? No, because my choices to date haven't been fairy tale romance novels..... and maybe my Higher Power has other things in mind for me. Truth is, I'd rather be the only important person in my SO's life, but that's my selfish side speaking out. Would I open my mind to something I know nothing about? Sure. Thing is, if we've been sticking by our guns and wanting "what we want", come hell or high water and the results have been 'less than', then it's time to re-write the script. Openness is key. You may not think you want it, but in the end, it might be the best gift you ever gave yourself.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Drug or Alcohol stuff - how long ago is ok? Posted: 12/19/2008 9:26:23 AM
One recent prospect has had repeat DUI (DWI, OWI, whatever your state calls it) violations in the past couple years, so I'd say he has an ongoing alcohol problem, and I'd prefer not to go there. Then don't. "in the past couple years" spells trouble. His. If you get involved with him, the trouble becomes yours. Another one, though, had cocaine possession 15 or 20 years ago, as well as check forgery about the same time (no doubt related to the cocaine). But he's been clean (legally anyway) since. You'll have to make your mind up with regard to what you're willing to deal with. A person's past is just that. THE PAST. For some, it's an opportunity to learn our lessons and move forward with greater knowledge and wisdom. For others, it's just a stepping stone to destruction. If he's clean and hasn't touched drugs since, doesn't have an addiction of any other sort, then I don't personally see the problem. I can't help thinking of Robert Downey Jr. and his drug recidivism. A great actor, but a great heart-breaker if you chose to get involved with him. Opinions? Yah, since you don't know the actor in question, nor anything true about his personal life and relationships other than what you read in the media, I'd say leave the judgments to your Higher Power and deal with your own choices. Since you clearly don't want to deal with anyone else's addiction baggage, then find out right from the start whether or not they have a record. If you need further info, go out with them, see how they handle themselves after a few. But remember that checking for a record will only tell you something IF THEY'VE BEEN CAUGHT. The drugs will be harder to detect if you don't know what to look for, but then again, gambling, cheating and compulsive lying are tough to see right away as well. Sometimes you just have to trust your instincts and jump in.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Male Ego? Posted: 12/16/2008 5:11:01 PM
Just because he is presenting "evidence" that someone else can't, at that moment, refute, doesn't mean that the person loses and should change their opinion. It means exactly that, until new evidence is found. It's insanity to think otherwise. The insane do exactly that everyday and let their opinions reign. What utter nonsense to think that one's opinion is the truth merely because it is one's opinion. Can you just PUKE from the EGO attached to that last statement? For gawds sake.... you just don't get it. No one said it was TRUTH, but it's not fact or acceptable until you refute or prove it. sigh EGOS? Do some still have it and does it have anything to do with the past.... Yah, some do. But there are still others that are just driven by their own thought pattern that tells them they're right, at all costs. See it? Yah, we're all seeing it..... and it ain't pretty.... but as you're seeing, some just don't get it.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Male Ego? Posted: 12/16/2008 9:58:08 AM
His 'CONDESCENDING' attitude is becoming more and more apparent. Not sure if this has anything to do with the OP, since you were asking whether or not the attitude of old was still prevalent, but there are "CONDESCENDING" tones coming from both sexes nowadays. I use one myself on occasion..... *snort If you're bothered by him, don't hang around him anymore. I don't think his 'deal' is that because he's a man, he's right. I think he's just an ass. Back to the OT, which asked if there are still old world ideals abounding, making men feel superior.... I don't see that much anymore. I guess being "only46", it's just not acceptable thinking or behavior... and therefore not adopted by many. Sure are some asses though. lol

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Male Ego? Posted: 12/16/2008 8:51:01 AM
I suspected that the purpose of this thread was for more male bashing. And so it is... You girls really need to get a life. This crap gets old. sigh...another one painting with a very very broad brush! Will it ever end? Not as long as some continue to feed the monster. For gawds sake, no one is bashing a gender.... the point is being asked and opinions are forthcoming. If ya don't like the thread, maybe ya shouldn't have come back.... pffft

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Male Ego? Posted: 12/16/2008 8:47:33 AM
Does the attitude "remain"? That would imply it was there in the first place. Yah, sure, there are men that hold the belief that they're omnipotent. There are narcissistic tendencies in a lot of old world/old school men. How much we put up with it determines how prevalent it is in your life. This guy sounds like a real competitive fella. "I'm right at all costs" even if it means making you or anyone else, including himself, look like an ass. I don't like to think it's a gender issue, but certainly there are some that were brought up to believe they are the superior to women, but I'm not party to that much these days. Sure I have the occasional European gent that feels that way, but most Americans I come across are pretty fair in their thinking. Ego? Maybe not, maybe so, but I'd like to think it was more ingrained, not something they've chosen.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Momma's boy Posted: 12/13/2008 7:07:52 PM
I think that's why I am so "whoa is me" right now. Because yesterday I thought he'd come back to me. Today I think I am finally accepting the fact that it's over. And it's probably why you're hanging on to his things and wanting answers that you're not getting.... As a recovering addict, you know how hard it is to let go. You understand the bitterness of wanting something you cannot have, and realizing that it's killing you, though you crave it.... And you also know the saying "Are you done now, or would you like some more"..... meaning, have you had enough pain, or would you like him to come back into your life and dole you out another dose? Another day goes by, he doesn't come back, and what have you done for yourself? If you spend it agonizing, waiting and wanting what you can't have with him, you lose precious time that could be used healing, detaching and letting go. Remember why he's gone. Get rid of his things and start moving forward. And when you get melancholy and start to dwell on what could have been, remind yourself that NO, it could NOT have been. Find yourself again.... and then listen to your instincts as they scream bloody murder in your head next time.... Hugs, bullie~

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Momma's boy Posted: 12/13/2008 6:16:15 PM
Those poor kids. And poor me. Now I gotta go thru this breakup, broken hearted, and don't know how to even begin to heal. OP, when you got out of bed today... showered and put your clothes on, did you also put an extra layer of victimization on as well? Lemme tell ya... that "victim" does NOT make a good fashion choice. CHOICE. KEY WORD. You make the choice, as you did when you choose to date this guy, to feel whatever you want. Wanna feel shitty, keep wearing that victim cloak. *even though.... it really doesn't suit ya.... You made your own choices, based on what you knew. Right or wrong, good or bad, you made 'em. Now you have the choice to either move on, feel your grief, learn your lesson and make better choices next time.... OR sit here and wallow in self pity and feeling like you've been wronged in some way. In what way were you wronged? Did this guy promise to denounce his momma and love you more? Did you come to an arrangement with this "soul mate" that he would be all you expected and wanted him to be? hmmm..... You know about taking responsibility for your life. You had an addiction and are doing what you have to, to surrender to letting go. You can do that with this man as well. Honor your pain. Then let it go. That's your power. That's your choice.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Momma's boy Posted: 12/13/2008 4:26:45 PM
"Devastated"............... 'kay.............. reduced to chaos, helplessness, disorder.... By who's hands? If you give him that much control, then sure, you can be devastated, but then you allow all your power to be taken away. Instead, feel your sorrow, your grief, your pain... honor it for what it is, nothing more, and then GET THE HELL OVER HIM. See, he was and is his mother's boy. He never fully allowed you into his heart, because his momma was taking that place. If you indeed had the perfect relationship, she never would have come between you. So don't feel as though you lost out to her. You were never in the running darlin'. She was and is his number one. You didn't have a fighting chance because he never allowed you into the race. "the race"..... see how crazy that sounds when you're talking about his mother?!? What sucks is that you're feeling real pain. You loved a man that wasn't able to love you in the way you wanted. Read that again...... "in the way you wanted".... Once you give up your expectations of others, then the risk of being disappointed shrinks exponentially. He wasn't ready to give you the kind of love you wanted from him. Whether or not he is wrong for allowing his mother to have the kind of hold she has on him, he still wasn't ready to give you what you wanted. Your "job" now, after you have healed some, is to figure out why and how you attract this kind of man. Because in the end, we have to take responsibility for our choices. You chose a man who was unable to love you completely because of his ties with his mother. Why? What was the reason you chose and fell for a man, knowing this.... What's your part darlin'......

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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New Feature: Men/Women Who Think You are Super Hot Posted: 12/13/2008 3:42:49 PM
Ah ha!!! I think I've figured out why this feature won't work so good for regular forum users. Is it because it scans our profiles for key words and then matches us with people based on these words? PROBLEM with forum users is our last 5 posts appear on our profiles so instead of picking up on our key words on our profiles only, it would also pick up on all words INCLUDING our last 5 posts. Am I right Markus? Miss A.... You may be correct..... and I think that any Testimonials will skew things as well. I only say this because my posts are usually sarcastic and direct, whereas my testimonials are loving words from friends I adore... and the men on my HOT LIST are guys that are all sappy, and syrup and waxing poetic. Puke.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 137 (view)

He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot? Posted: 12/13/2008 2:57:35 PM
"Hot" is how a girl makes me feel about her when I'm feeling the chemistry with her. It's about not one thing but a bunch of intangibles that make my heart thump thump thump when she gets too close. Yup, and YUP YCG1.... it's that indescribable something...... I've found honesty about all things in dating and relationships is important. Unfortunately, in too many cases people are delusional, not just about others but themselves. Mo, ya hit it on the head... again. Most are quite delusional, and usually skewed the wrong way.... It's like that cartoon that most of us have seen.... with the overweight, flabby, fat guy looking in the mirror and seeing a body builder-type guy..... And the thin, toned woman looking in the mirror and seeing an overweight, flabby fat gal. Eh. Yer only as hot as you think you are... and as the love of your life thinks you are too. Right now, the love of my life is my cat Pablo, and he thinks I'm just purrrrrfect. mraow~

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot? Posted: 12/13/2008 7:25:32 AM
Hell yeah, I rock my package regardless. Yah, thanks, coffee spew all over my keyboard............ WARN a girl next time, would ya? "rock my package..." A.S.is.... I'm thinking Glen Close for you honey... but you're way off with the Pitt/Jolie mix... I'm thinkin' more Bruce and Demi, back in the day....... snort OK, ON TOPIC: Illinois government needs a shake up, shake down, new hair cuts and a few lessons in potty mouth etiquette. What, that's not on topic? Shit. 'Kay......... ILLINOIS POLITICS ARE NOT HOT. But they ARE a HOT TOPIC. Does that count? And yah, I'm from Illinois, so I can say shit. snort That's HOT.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Momma's boy Posted: 12/12/2008 6:47:48 PM
judi, bulldogs.... not pits, but love all bully breeds.... Now.......... "empty". Only so because you have yet to fill it again with YOURSELF. He was never there sweetie... he was always with his momma. He may have been there physically and emotionally only "so far", but it is now up to you to fill up those spaces again with you. Do this with self love, forgiveness and peace. It will happen... slowly.... if you allow it. You deserve so much, and you know this.... I can tell that you know you're a special human.... so don't allow someone that wasn't the right guy for you ruin that thinking. Heal. Take yer time. Love self. And forgive. Forgive yourself for choosing the wrong guy. There was nothing "wrong" with him... he's just not the man for you. And I know how much it hurts. So many posting here do. And we also know that in time your power will return three fold and you'll know better. You'll know that you should listen to that power next time. Never underestimate your intuition. It's the most precious gift you have inside you..... EDIT: LOSER?!?! For what reason? For loving someone that wasn't what you wanted him to be? Had you not realized he's just a momma's boy, the wrong guy for you and kept at it, hoping he'd change... and not wanted something more, something better for yourself.... THEN you could berate yourself. But not now, not as you're trying to heal and learn from this experience. So cut it out with the loser shit or I'll sick my bullies on ya. lol And I'm with SSS2..... throw his shit away.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Momma's boy Posted: 12/12/2008 6:35:02 PM
Hon, you've answered all your own questions and know the answers. He's who he is, and nothing you're gonna say or do is gonna change anything. You knew this going in and comin' out.... so if yer gonna be angry, smack yerself on the back of your own head and move on. Here's the thing: You saw the signs, you ignored them, defiantly went against your own better judgment and now want things to be different. I'm sorry. Sorry for what you're feeling now, because so many of us have been there. We thought our love would be the thing to turn their lives around, make them see the error of their thinking. And then we realize that we can't control anyone. We can love them, give them all we have, but it doesn't change the basics. They are who they are and if we don't like it or want it, then we have the freedom to move on. They don't have to do squat. Who are we to ask them to change??? Momma's boy or not... he is who he is. Love him or leave him. And go easy on yourself while yer at it. You're not the first nor the last to think things would be different.... 'if only'....

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot? Posted: 12/12/2008 3:04:36 PM
My parents tried to make me hot when i was a kid....my bathtub toys were a toaster and a hairdryer. At least your mom got close enough to tie the pork chops on. MY ma used to sit me in a corner and feed me with a slingshot. See those marks on my face ? That's where she missed. America's Next Top Comedian And WHO's had their fingers in the muffin tin?? It's all I have in me not to touch this comment with a ten foot _________ !!! I think the question is not so much "Do you know you're hot", but rather does anyone ELSE know you're hot?!?! I know who's hot, in my bullie mind.... and they're usually not the guys I'd normally go after. Why is that? Too many toasting, er toasters, er cookies with that SPAYSHUL ingredient? Eh....

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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The Pet Name Syndrome Posted: 12/12/2008 2:34:21 PM
Freakin' Geminis.................. very easy for me i call everyone f*** face QUOTE OF THE DAY I use pet names for my guy.... and if he gets called his real name, it only means I'm driving the thought further home. And seein' how the LAST one was a Gemini, ya'll can relate. Sweetie, honey, baby, lambs lettuce..... all good until someone pisses me off. Then it's not the name yer momma and daddy gave ya that you'll be hearin'.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot? Posted: 12/12/2008 11:32:52 AM
Now where's my toaster? Like she needs another freakin' toaster...... prolly burned the last one up 'cuz she's just TOO DAMNED HOT!! Nothing to see here people.......... no more toasters!!! Move along..... OT: Hotness is a matter of opinion, and I personally have never thought any of my male companions (for lack of a better term... or just cuz I like the sound of that...) were HOT. Handsome, maybe. Sexy, sometimes. But always freakin' yummy to ME. ME. See, it doesn't matter if Joe Schmoe thinks I'm hot, unless of course he's on my payroll, (um, ILLINOIS... people...), it only matters if Joe's my lovah. If he's not, then who cares if I'm hot. *Don't say it Mr. P or Mo.... I already know..... but you'd never know it I'm so hot! Yes. Yes you are!!!

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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Women don't even read my messages??? Posted: 12/12/2008 9:19:43 AM
Your story is one of a million here.......... Unread/Deleted. Men and women get them all the time. Maybe they're not interested in your "look", or maybe they checked your profile out and figured there wasn't enough there to bother with. NOT saying your profile is sucko... but if it ain't workin' for ya, change it up a bit. You're an attractive guy, so you have that goin' for you, but maybe the words or attitude are not talkin' to the ladies. Try using some humor and see if that doesn't make a difference. All the best, bullie~

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

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He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot? Posted: 12/12/2008 9:08:44 AM
bullielover with a b and an ie - put the pot down now! (hey! the coffee pot, I meant the coffee pot) Actually, it was the cookie that caught on fire, then I opened the door and part of the cookie fell through the slats onto a tray that I was luckily able to take out because I was trying to get the fire to go out and it wouldn't! So I had to get the tray out and douse it! And, I like things crispy, so I still got to eat the cookie! um, would someone please pass the cookies.... suddenly I have this incredible urge to MUNCH. Not sure why that is though...... hmmmm................ toke OT: Ya'll are HOT, even those that are mistakenly slamming me for probably slamming them in another thread. Yah, that's my "hot style"!!

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 90 (view)

He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot? Posted: 12/11/2008 6:46:08 PM
What I love about online and particularly the forums is people think we're hot - because of our minds! THIS is what I keep tellin' all the guys that give me shit about my list of faves.... because it's not about leg shots or tit shots or bed shots.... I have none of those. I'm going with the line candid used..... the faves are on my page because of my bootielicious BRAIN. Yup. That's my story and I'm takin' my cozy, my toaster, my 12 cup coffee maker, oops, gotta give Margo one toaster... she's owed... and I'm walkin' outta here before "Biggie" gives me the boot. Hah! HOT!!! *sizzle....................... as she touches her cozy and burns her wittle finger.... damnit.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 69 (view)

He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot? Posted: 12/11/2008 2:22:09 PM
Me thinks A.S. has finally lost it....just kiddin' ya Sugar. Naw, she just lost her cozy. *snort..... Stuck it somewhere to keep her warm and forgot to remove it. j/k............ she knows I think she's hot. And Mo, and Dharma and Margo and Mr. P.... and the rest of ya..... Even the Fruit of the Loom man..... cause anyone that tells the world his underpants are talkin' to him, is HAWTER THAN HELL in my opie. DANG IT A.S.is........... yer post came in right b-4 mine... and I ain't changin' mine!! 'cept..... maybe it was the SUGAR she misplaced.... 'sweet thang'!!!

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 9 (view)

Women don't even read my messages??? Posted: 12/11/2008 12:53:21 PM
OP, your profile is a bit "full of self". Most women will be the ones to tell you if you're any good at this or that... so no need for you to puff yourself up so much. You start off immediately saying you're not gonna tell us much... and then boast a bit. oy..... Tell us the stuff that we might find intriguing... things we will want to hear more about! Makes me wonder too, what you're writing to the ladies. If your profile is any example, I'm afraid that you may be coming off a tad c0cky. Effort darlin'. It's the name of the game and we wimminz LOVE effort. It shows us right off the bat that you think we're worth it, almost sight unseen. Lemme see what yer sending the ladies..... come back and give us a dabble of your writings... bullie~

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 50 (view)

He Thinks She's Hot.. She Thinks He's Hot - Do you Know You're Hot? Posted: 12/10/2008 12:06:34 PM
OP, remind me to send you a hot potato for starting this thread...... which has more importance for some than others..... (Hey, when you've been locked out of another "hot" thread, ya gotta take drastic action!) 'Kay....... First, I wanna let ya'll know that I did indeed take my temperature, and YES, I'm hot. but everyone is at least a little warm in at least one of those areas. And NO, I did NOT take my temp "down there"..... I already KNOW what areas are hot. And on a serious note, even though that was not where our illustrious OP was taking us, there are degrees of hotness.... like that? "degrees"?!?! Oh, I slay me..... Some are hot, but not much to look at..... think Hollywood here folks.... Some are hot, but only to you... re: Bucsgirl's post.... Some are hot, but not until noon... SOOOO not naming anyone here.... Some are hot, but only to their dog or kitty... and you know who you are.... Some are hot, but not to you.... For gawd's sake, would someone tell Markus that already?!?! Point is, hot is really the stuff that pin up calenders are made of. Anything else falls into reality and the other categories that are made fun of on a daily basis here in the Forum world. Shall we: Cute Beautiful Sexy Pretty whatever............... I'll just be sitting over here, counting my toes until someone sends me a gift for posting.....

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 34 (view)

A fight over Toast? How would you have responded? Posted: 12/8/2008 8:57:33 AM
OOH yeah... It was not the exciting french toast from IHOP. It was just 2 piece of french toast. YES it had powdered sugar on it. When the Server brought it I asked if he wanted one of the pieces! I'm a sharing girl.... Well OK... it seems it was only basic French toast, not the special kind with orange rind in the batter or cinnamon and brown sugar mixed into the maple sugar..... So I totally get it now and support you 100%. It was only basic French toast and he was a dolt. Had you known he was a drunken dolt with a huge personality flaw, then we'd have a conversation, but no.......... It was merely you being kind to a guy that never comes to your bar and misunderstood your text to him. So chalk it up and remember to head home alone after work.... or to the great brekky place that uses orange rinds in their batter. Alone.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 18 (view)

A fight over Toast? How would you have responded? Posted: 12/7/2008 6:32:08 PM
C'mon OP, you're smarter than all this. If things didn't feel right then, what makes you doubt anything you're thinking now? He was drunk. You made yourself clear, to a drunk. His behavior shouldn't have been a surprise to you, a bartender.... What would I have done differently? I wouldn't have gone out with a customer.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 11 (view)

Is this just asking for trouble? Posted: 12/7/2008 5:46:12 PM
Should I risk another heartbreak and losing one of my best friends to see if this could go somewhere or am I asking for trouble? There's a really great piece of advice I wanna pass on to you OP..... and it's that you cannot grab a hold of something else if you're hands are already full. Until your heart has healed, until you have given yourself enough time to FULLY LET GO, you won't be ABLE to grab a hold of Steve. Wait. Heal. Then grab on. But right now, it's about you, your heart. Time for you to work on the letting go and figuring out your part in the last relationship's failure, before walking into someone else's heart.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 480 (view)

People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/7/2008 5:19:40 PM
Having some is better than none at all I would think. Mine still tells me there isn't enough data yet. lol OK folks, everyone needs to bump grizz so he's inundated with FAVES... just to piss off a certain someone here that isn't aware that we're all whacked. lol Indian Princess? You're gorgeous. You don't need a HOTLIST. Rock ON with the work you've done on and for yourself. Sending sister KUDOS your way!!! The only reason I can come up with about getting all Middle Eastern/Indian men is because it's mentioned in your profile and in your name. I wouldn't give it a MOMENT'S thought. You won't need this feature, I'ma thinkin'..... And class, if Santa could shove a man under your tree and keep him alive and well til the morning on Christmas, I wou... er, HE would. And OneMoreTime? This has made my weekend more enjoyable, black hole and all... and me thinks you WILL get that piece of toast..... with a side of WHO LOVES YA HOTTIE on the side. *snort

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 475 (view)

People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/7/2008 5:10:35 PM
This is stupid. I think people on too many favs list has issues...issues..issues! Well of COURSE they do! They got 'em out the wazoo honey! LOL!!! And I DO love reading.... might need to put that on my profile page to see if it ups my HOT list any.......... Great idea YCG1..... See whatcha get for being such a prolific writer?!?!

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 470 (view)

People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/7/2008 5:04:09 PM
I'll take a coffee pot if there is any laying around somewhere. grizz..... for YOU, a BUNN.......... Automatic..... 28 cup..... stainless steel.....timed and everything!!!..... and you just have to do one thing for us all.... LEARN TO QUOTE ON THE FORUMS. Have ya been practicin'?? Didja see my helpful post to bring ya up to speed? Only cuz bullie loves ya, don'tcha know..... And................... THINKS YER HOT! stayin' OT peeps................. snort

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 466 (view)

People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/7/2008 4:53:29 PM
ALRIGHT ENOUGH OF THIS! Ya'll are makin' me blush, and bullie doesn't blush easily... Only when her reflection catches the window of the neighbors house as she's spying on them.. hrumph. Spoil sports. Whether you're #1, #364 (love ya Jim....) or #601 (you too classact....), there's enough HOT to go around. Just ask any of the noobs on this thread that have no idea who they're writing back to. LOL!! Oh what a sad state of affairs. Have I mentioned that most of these people are registered voters??? OT: yah, there is actually a thread going on here, but it seems to have derailed into a fave count... ahem..... There is no way any of us Forumites are gonna get any real calculated Hot List Count, as our posts are prolly throwing our profile page connected interests off. The rest of ya? Not sure what you're deal is.... but maybe add more interests, get more wordy on your profile, (not as wordy as YourCuteGuy though.... sheesh... ) and see if that changes things. class? You're getting a toaster anyway. Santa knows you've been a reeeeaaally good girl.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 464 (view)

People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/7/2008 4:49:13 PM
ALRIGHT ENOUGH OF THIS! Ya'll are makin' me blush, and bullie doesn't blush easily... Only when her reflection catches the window of the neighbors house as she's spying on them.. hrumph. Spoil sports. Whether you're #1, #364 (love ya Jim....) or #601 (you too classact....), there's enough HOT to go around. Just ask any of the noobs on this thread that have no idea who they're writing back to. LOL!! Oh what a sad state of affairs. Have I mentioned that most of these people are registered voters??? OT: yah, there is actually a thread going on here, but it seems to have derailed into a fave count... ahem..... There is no way any of us Forumites are gonna get any real calculated Hot List Count, as our posts are prolly throwing our profile page connected interests off. The rest of ya? Not sure what you're deal is.... but maybe add more interests, get more wordy on your profile, (not as wordy as slyce though.... sheesh... ) and see if that changes things. class? You're getting a toaster anyway. Santa knows you've been a reeeeaaally good girl.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 460 (view)

People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/7/2008 4:21:12 PM
slyce gets the toaster oven and I'm getting a passport to Texas, even though I live in the US, I still think for Texas you should have one.... snort Now, how about some of dat stew A.S.is....... bunny or not.... bullie is hungers. All this work being soooooo popular and still not dating and trying to figure out who thinks who is hot.... I've worked up quite the appetite! I'd rather not eat guilt stew.... so hold the bunbun for my potion por favor. (that little bit of Spanish was for you slyce.... bein' that yer so close to the border and all....)

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 458 (view)

People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/7/2008 4:14:43 PM
c'mon A.S.is and class..................... I'm ONE AWAY and guess who's gonna get a toaster oven THIS time?!?! Huh? Well? Could be youuuuuuuuuuu!! *didja hear my voice go waaaay up when I said that? hnnnn? And the whole point is to get as many faves as you can, because they EVERYONE thinks you're hot and NO ONE writes you and then, hey, that's not right. WAIT A MINUTE HERE~! And sandradee...... hon..... if YOU figure it out, you tell US, how's that.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 438 (view)

People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/7/2008 2:16:26 PM
I vote admin. adds a dump button to the "who thinks we're hot" list. Then it can autorefill with more people who think we are hot and we think they are not. That would add more excitement wouldn't it? Only if there's a visual so we can watch them fly down the hole into the next dimension again..... Now THAT would be worth the price of admission. OnceMore..... we ALL think yer hot woman. Hell, if'n I weren't straight....... lol *dyin' over here A.S.is....... now you save me summa dat stew, ya hear??

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 429 (view)

People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/7/2008 1:08:31 PM
now now A.S.is...... don't make me add you to MY favorites just to up yer own count. Ain't nuthin' but a number and I personally think you SHOULD stalk Mo. Nuthin' says love like a dead bunny..... *sigh As fer the rest of this thread, there's nothing to do about it... but stalk stalk stalk like the good fishies that you are. So get out there, write to everyone on your HOT LIST and don't take NO for an answer. After all, THEY THINK YOU'RE HOT!!

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 422 (view)

People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/7/2008 12:27:51 PM
First things first.... it's bullie, small b, with an ie, not a y. Don't go confusing me with those nasty chaps on the playground that used to smack the back of yer head with snowballs. Nope, not me. Next, none of us has any CLUE who any of you are responding to. We were transported here through an underground shuttle with blindfolds and ear muffs. EAR muffs Mo.... git yer mind outta the gutter.... So no, we have no idea who you think is hot. That's the EVIL PLAN! BWA HA HA HA HA!!! Hell, I don't even know who I think is hot anymore. This has me all discombobulated now!!

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 419 (view)

People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/7/2008 12:05:35 PM
Glad you think I'm hot. You showed up twice on my list, but I can't seem to get to your profile. Still I think you are hot too... Oh wow you showed up in People I think are hot too. This must be fate or destiny. Please don't hesitate to let me know how you feel too. OK you guys, enuf with the numbers.... I'm not at 600 but if I respond to this guy, who's prolly trying to respond to class or OneMoreTime or Charmed or Margo.... or Mo or YourCuteGuy...... I just might HIT that 600 mark. Should I, should I, should I, HUH????? Or do you think Mo might be jealous that I grabbed another fave away from him? *snort Jeez........... if I knew who the hell was ON my list, other than my Forum Friends, I wouldn't NEED this site, now would I??? lol

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 413 (view)

People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/7/2008 11:15:59 AM
Hey grizz...... there's a thread devoted entirely to showing how to use the quotie thingies... lol But in case you can't find it.... [quote]Here is what you want to quote[/quote] Just take out the asterisks..... * ............ and you will be quoting with success. Margo? Sorry about the toaster... it came back undeliverable. I think the fact that I stuffed it with all that cash that you asked for made it too heavy for the postal system to deliver. Maybe SANTA will try to re-send..... No matter, I think yer hot! Mo, will do. Just send your faves to me.... I'll take care of 'em all for ya. Dumb broads... lol *bullie puts another prayer to Santa Markus, to keep this charade going all through the New Year.... since after this, I'm not so sure my stocking won't be filled with coal. eek.

bullielover62

Joined: 12/2/2006

Msg: 405 (view)

People who think you are hot V2. Posted: 12/7/2008 10:56:55 AM
Jingle Bells Santa Smells... opp's.... FA LALALALA.. LA LA..LA... LA oooooo, charmed...... yah, Santa is NOT gonna like that........... tsk tsk...... redemption is called for. Send Mo a penguin, would ya? And that THWAP was just a love snowball Mo..... no worries. bullie loves ya all! But the question begs...... does she think you're HOT??!?!?! *snort

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